I'm sort of afraid about asking about this in real life out of fear of seeming like some sort of schizophrenic. So I thought I'd ask here.
Does anyone occasionally get the feeling they've already done what they've done before? Do you occasionally get dreams that give you a glimpse into the future, and when that moment comes you're like.. oh yeah. I remember dreaming about this.
I don't think I'm crazy. But I keep having dreams of events that happen in the future. Sometimes the next day, sometimes months ahead. I can't be the only one.
>>17004238
yes. when i go to new places, i often feel that i've dreamed about being there before. idk i guess it's just a coincidence though, doubt i can actually see the future lol.
You're not the only one, OP. Don't have any answers for you, though.
>mfw every decision in your life has already been predetermined and you're just a spectator
How do you know if a girl likes you or just sees you as a friend?
if you have to ask....
>>17004222
nice trips
but yea
:/
still not 100% true
Watch the eyes feet and watch for sexual tension or compliments betond jusy being friend
Like two girls
Like one more and she is better over all, but she has blonde hair and if I have a son I don't want him to get fucked over with piss hair
Blonde hair is recessive right? it is very unlikely to pass on right?
I was born dirty blonde that changed to black hair later on by age 8ish, will this hurt the chances even more? or will help some gene to make sure the hair turns black pass on?
What do /adv/? Or should I just go for the girl with black hair? or just fuck it and go with the Blonde girl and take the chances?
Git fugged.
>>17004161
I came on her for strangers to just tell me what to do because I suck at decisions
Tell me whut to do M8 and stop posting pics like a faggot.
>>17004167
Do you really think about what hair color your children will have when deciding on which girl to ask on a first date? But why?
Also if your hair is black your children are much more likely to have black or brown hair.
I've been friends with this girl for about three years. I suddenly find out she has had a boyfriend for eight months. I ask her about why she decided to go out with him. She says because he had the balls to ask her out. I panic and tell her I love her too, and I ask her who makes her happiest. She says she doesn't know. I've been sending her poems for a week now and once she responded by saying that she didn't plan to break up with her current boyfriend. I respond that the only thing I ever asked of her was to be with whoever makes her happiest. It's been three days I still send her a daily poem, but I haven't gotten a single response. Help.
>poems
What.
>>17004141
I'm a very good writer, ok, and she said that she liked them.
>>17004139
You're unsaveable
Hi /adv/, this is a first and I don't know how to feel about it, I can't even think straight.
Some hours ago I was minding my business riding the bus home after sports class. There was this nice-looking (pretty average, actually, not a goddess, but okay) girl across the bus (as in we were both on the back portion of the bus, I was on e.g. the right side and she on the left side), who I gazed over to slightly, but not too much, the usual.
...then the bus more or less empties in the back part. The grill literally goes over to the seat in front of mine, asks me for my number, also if I'm at least 18, if I lived nearby and if I live alone/with my parents. I gave her my number (she tested it so I got hers), though I don't have WhatsApp, but that shouldn't be an issue, I'm 20 and I also live with my parents, her stop was shortly after.
...what do I do? This never happened to me, the last time I had a "GF" if you can call it that at that age was at 9, I'm also no fap and unexperienced and generally wasn't expecting it at all. FUCK! How should I proceed? Could this weirdly be a scam? How should I get back to her? We didn't even fucking exchange names... help me, /adv/. I'm down to ground enough to do things right even if my mind is a mess right now, but your help'd be appreciated.
tl;dr
Grill in bus, complete stranger, literally went over to me and grabbed my number. I'm also hopelessly unexperienced. What do?
Haha we're hopeless OP. I think it's a scam; she knew she could freak out the random lose on the bus by just asking for your number. You'll never see her again, probably.
Calm down, senpai. Experienced male 32 here.
First off, there aren't really any rules to this, but there Are some things that work better than others, and some things that in most cases leads nowhere.
Second, and important: What do you want to do and why? Ask her out? Date her? Fuck her and then leave? Why? For other reasons than getting your v-card out of the way? If another girl, better looking asked you for your number one hour prior to your bus ride, would you give bus girl your number still?
>>17004116
Honestly tomorrow or so I just want to call her in the first place, maybe meet up with her and chit chat. Honestly I don't mind just fucking around, but I kinda am curious to know why she came to me. I do, however, not think that I'd have given bus girl my number if what you'd said happened. I'd say I already had plans with someone else. Though if we talked a bit more and she really seemed to want it, I'd probably give it to her anyway, telling her maybe we can do something later (still saying I had plans for the time being).
I will say probably one reason for this inner sperging is this happening as final exams are coming up for high school, also got this big presentation tomorrow. Maybe I'd not sperg that much otherwise.
As a man, how can I stop being a pathetic sack of shit?
I went to the gym for a while but I'm convinced that just working out doesn't alone make you a man
How do I become a man with gigantic gonads and half an ounce of self respect?
>>17004095
Stop caring.
Learn to take an L, while not being emotional about it.
Work on making your posture better.
Get good at what you do, or begin something new and try and master it.
>>17004095
If you don't have a job: get one.
That will give you confidence and money.
>>17004129
>Stop caring
No but I do care. I care very much about the fact that I have been bullied my whole fucking life because I'm just not fucking strong enough.
>>17004132
Ironically I am NEET now, BUT I quit my last job (office job) precisely because it made me feel like a fucking useless beta faggot male.
A job where you are a code monkey destined to be the slave of "decision makers" for your entire working life does NOT give you confidence.
Sup /adv/
So im planning to break up with my current gf of 1.5 years.
We get along very well and there are no major issues with the relationship (cheating, fights etc) but after really thinking about the types of people we are i just dont see it as being sustainable. I am very much an introvert and enjoy my personal time, i also always put career ahead of everything in addition i don't want children or to get married. She is very much an empathetic and emotional person (deals with anxiety and depression), is family oriented and always sacrificing for the sake of others. I think the relationship has lasted this long because we only get to see each other maybe once or twice a week.
Shes an amazing person and we were friends long before we started the relationship. But i feel that it would be best for us to break up so she can find someone better suited to her wants and needs and il never be that person for her. It's not fair for me to keep her in a relationship which i know will not lead anywhere.
Currently im planning to do this face to face in a public place (bar/restaurant), be completely honest about the entire situation, i feel that i owe her that.
Any advice bros?
>>17004064
Why a public place?
Does she have a temper?
>>17004226
No not really. I honestly just thought it would be easier. My place would mean id have to ask her to leave after and she still lives with her parents.
>>17004237
Public places are only good for breakups if you are trying to protect yourself from your partner's temper. Or if your partner is malicious in some way.
Based on how you've described her, she's probably just going to start crying and want to crawl in a corner. That's just going to be embarrassing for the both of you in public.
Just tell her good-bye at her home. Her parents will probably hate you, but they're (probably) going to hate you once they find out you broke up with their daughter anyway.
My armpits sweat profusely. I bathe twice a day, I have tried all sorts of anti-perspirant deodorant.
Are there any different deodorants I should try? Anything else I should try?
Aluminum zirconium deos work pretty well. Sometimes it's psychological and a stress response
>>17004026
>Sometimes it's psychological and a stress response
agreed. it's mostly not a physical problem
I hear you can get botox in your armpits and it's supposed to stop people from sweating as much. Some guy on a TV show I watch mentioned he had it done because he used to sweat a fuckton.
Hey, i'm from the UK and wondering if getting a degree is really worth it.
I see alot of other IT jobs just asking for experience or industry qualifications.
So is it worth going to university?
>>17003966
That's such a stupid question. Try being even more vague next time, jackass
>>17003979
But the jobs i am referring to aren't exactly the best of pay
>>17003991
I literally don't give a shit about that part. It's simply a stupid question.
I don't know who the fuck you are. This isn't facebook. Your interests aren't listed everywhere you go.
Ever hear that university isn't for everybody? That implies it matters WHO YOU ARE.
So who the fuck are you?
argh, /adv/... i had to take antibiotics and also was on vacation, where i had to use a lot of public toilets. now i'm home again and have a vaginal infection. yes, i know that's gross, thank you.
problem is that my bf will come over later and that means i will have to tell him that we can't have sex because of my infection. i hate talking about stuff like that. how do i do it?
>avoidant masterrace
A yeast infection? Those are common with antibiotic use. Just tell him. If he's squeamish, so what. Men can also get yeast infections.
>>17003970
We can?
>>17003965
Just flat out tell him you can't have sex because you have a vaginal infection from sitting on nasty ass toilets.
Any rational person hearing that would just shrug it off. shit happens.
If he overreacts he's probably just a shitty person.
I had a best friend that had secretly been trying to steal my girlfriend for awhile, and got pissed at us when it didnt happen. She seemed happy with me which is why I was confused when one day she just cut ties with me and ran off. Find out later on she moved in with my friend and theyre a couple now.
Years passed. I got into shape. I got a new job and got new friends. I moved to a new city and began seeing other women. And yet I still feel pain and anger over it and haven't been the same since. I dont know how to get past it.
Out of nowhere I get contacted by an old female friend that basically admits that she teamed up with my ex-friend to ruin my relationship via emails and a bunch of lies. She did this because she thought with her out of the picture, she could be with me. She only told me out of spite because shes pissed we never became a couple and blames me for how she feels.
I dont know what to do with this information. Its something that ive felt awful about for years and wanted closure on.
>>17003952
Wow fuck those guys, that's awful. Sorry I don't have anything else to say other than that. Best of luck though.
>>17003952
>old female friend that basically admits that she teamed up with my ex-friend to ruin my relationship via emails and a bunch of lies.
That's why I'm always telling you gutless cucks to NEVER have female friends.
Ever.
>>17003952
They tried to sabotage your life for their own means. What's there to think about?? Real friends protect you and stick up for you. Drop the manipulative fucks and hold your girl a little closer.
I *had* to move to another country and she didn't want to move with me.
But anyway it was ok because we weren't in a relationship. We just had feelings for each other and she felt alone and lost so I suggested she joins me in my adventure.
She refused but decided to have sex with me just before my departure.
>2 years later...
She fucking move to basically my same place but with another dude who followed my same path.
I cannot believe it. I want to see it for myself.
We meet, I try to be helpful to the couple.
...but I end up alone with her. We make out. Things get spicy.
Basically she cheated on her bf, with whom she chose to move.
Yet, after the misdeed, she breaks down... decides she loves him and I'm alone again.
> 3 years later
1. I really don't understand who's the cuck in this story.
2. I still hear from her maybe once a year. Usually it's her who breaks silence, even if we agreed to stop talking to each other.
3. 100% I wanna write her now because I am in trouble with my health and frankly wanna brief her on how bad my life has been in the past 3 years. I'd really use the chat because we have this thing we deeply understand each other, sometimes by intuition.
4. But at the same time I'm not sure I wanna upset her current balance by intruding again in her life.
5. Aw yes, I'd still hump her had I a chance. This is always in the corner of my mind.
The answer is both. Both of you are the cucks. This girl is trash by every metric imaginable and you shouldn't put up with that behavior on principle. Fix your life instead of running back to her.
>>17004021
I second this.
>>17004021
>>17004053
What if I feel the evil urge to call her up just to make her think about me and maybe upset her current relationship (which is assumingly unbalanced as all of her relationships have been)?
What if I become the bad guy?
On the one hand, as I have written, I need her support (or I think I need her).
On the other hand, I wouldn't mind getting to know her life is shit or maybe see her crawling back to suck my dick. I admit after all she did to me, it would be.very empowering to see her crying for me once again.
But so far I have resisted on the assumption my desires towards her are unclear and possibly negative. And on the assumption she is synonymous with troubles no matter what.
So that's why I am writing here: because I am tempted but so far resisted very well.
>>17003942
>pic
She would 100% fit in that pic instead of the model. Not because of beauty. But because of her attitude.
Can somebody please tell me what is the most painful way to kill yourself? Should I hang myself or something else like overdose on pills and if so where do I get these pills I'm guessing you just can't buy them at stores without prescription.
The most painful? stab yourself slowly in the place where one of your lungs should be. You'll be screaming for hours until you die.
Inject yourself with a large amount of platypus venom. Non stop excruciating pain. You'll probably die of exhaustion due to lack of sleep.
You could skin yourself starting with your arms and legs
How does one one make themselves come across as LDR/ marriage material to the opposite sex?
>Be 23
>Used to be extremely overweight, so never really had attention from women until a year ago
>Generally only get attention from women that I know sleep around (live in a smallish town), was having a casual relationship with someone that I started to fall for, and when I told her that I wanted to be more than friends she said no, saying that we wouldnt be ready to have kids at the same time due to her being older than me
>Girls that genuinely seem to want a relationship never seem interested
How do I fix this? Its like this shit was easier when I was fat, didnt get many chances with girls but when I did at least I knew they'd be interested in more than sex.
*LTR, not LDR
>>17003898
>due to her being older than me
have you told her that you, infact Do want all that shabang? how old are you? is her concern reasonable or just an assumption?
>>17003908
She's 8 years older, I told her I wanted all of that but she made it clear it ain't happening. We don't speak anymore.
In February I went for my first psychiatrist visit. I've suffered from depression/anxiety/insomnia for almost a year now. He started me on Brintellix 20mg, saying it should help with my depression and anxiety. It hasn't touched my anxiety but it's helping my depression, he said he was thinking of putting me on buspirone or vistaril for anxiety. The problem is my ex gf tried those for her anxiety and gave me some. They didn't help either of us. I wanted to try a long acting benzo like klonopin. Is there a way to bring that up without sounding like I'm drug seeking? If so what do I say? I don't want to wait another month if he gives me vistaril since I know it doesn't work.
K L O N O P I N
Are you happy now that your taking anti depressants? I take citalopram and I'm not really depressed anymore but I'm not happy. I want to be happy.
I've taken Klonopin for a short while for anxiety although I had no Idea it was for anxiety. I was just taking pills because I was going crazy I felt and had no idea what they were doing. I didn't really feel any different on it I would say though.