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if he doesn't want to stop doing these things then he will not stop doing them. nagging him is just going to make him resent you, and you'll be exhausted from trying and getting nowhere. something external needs to happen to get him to stop these habits; if his health scare wasn't enough, then your options are either to wait until he's ready to adjust his lifestyle or to just leave him.

as a partner you can be ready to facilitate any changes he wants to make, but you're not his mom. you can't order him to do things he doesn't want to do, and there is no real way to "convince" him.

>>18615128
"Listening" is a killer move I pull out on my dates. never fails.

>>18615141
I feel like she's gonna be hella shy at first. Idk what I can do for her to speak up lol

>>18615128
don't overinvest in this one girl. Remember there are hundreds of girls out there for you, and statistically, this one is very unlikely to be the ultimate one. This puts you in a good mindset that women are attracted to. You stop being needy and desperate.

I'd recommend playing it cool at ice cream. Make her laugh if you can. If you're old enough, set up the next date at a quiet bar for the next date, and you can get few drinks in her which will make getting the lay easier. The quicker you have sex with her, the better. Every day that you build up without sex pushes you further into the friendzone.

>>18615101
Is it gay if I find 90s Rip Taylor hot?

>>18615111
>Rip Taylor
Are you a boy or a girl?

>>18615101
She was incredibly hot back then. Perfect timing for my puberty too. Watching her in Empire Records is how i learned to masturbate.

>>18615100
You're overthinking it.

Don't you trust me.

That was a long time ago.

>>18615127
spot on

>>18615100
We're just friends.

We've known each other for a long time.

>>18615093
Offline.

What the fuck kind of question is this? Seriously, what kind of answer are you looking for here?

>>18615093
In the real world.

The hardest is cold approaching, but yields the quickest and best results. The easiest route is social-circle Game, where you work on a girl you are already friends with, but the downside is it's the slowest and limits the girls you have as potential girlfriends.

>>18615161
>cold approaching

not OP, but where do you do this in your mid 20s? bars are pretty bad for that and im drawing a blank on other suitable places

Anyone had this happen before?

>>18615061
You have absolutely no property rights here and no basis whatever for asking him to lay off.

>>18615061

If you are that butthurt stay home and far away from them until you are over it. You'll only act like a loon and alienate both of them (along with your friend group) against you.

You don't.

>>18615059
dont live?

>>18615025
>but this gets in the way.

"This" is you. It's your own repetitive thought patterns, it's your own lack of other meaningful sources of self esteem, it's your own choice of companionship/friends/entertainment.

This feeling is not an alien being sitting on your head. The things you do everyday foster it. Start changing those things. Identify when and how that feeling jumps to the front and begin to change those aspects of your life.

>>18615025
>How do I learn to not place so much value in woman (ie their approval) and stop putting 'having a girlfriend' so high on my priority list?
Your brain stimulates you when you think about women, or see them. Your brain tricks you into wanting a woman. And you suffer withdrawal symptoms by not having one.
Women are living opiates.

>>18615025

The simplest answer is start hanging out with guys. And find a male mentor/role model that you can confide in. If you don't have any guy friends look for support groups. If you can't think of a mentor type figure try a relative, church figure, counselor etc.

>>18614979
Therapist don't get paid for outcomes they get paid for their time. More shit they can dig up the more time you schedule and schedule and schedule.

Psychologists can't prescribe medications.

>>18614990
It is TREMENDOUSLY more profitable to have more people coming through the door and more prescriptions being handed out then having one person in for longer.

>>18614978
>OP is self destructive
>Does coke and blacks out dangerously.
>Wants to quit smoking because cancer in 20 years future.

>>18614982

I need to quit because I had multiple collapsed lungs which resulted in surgery like two years. I quit after the surgery. Recently restarted smoking after a break up.

I like to party

>>18614998
Now... do something about your oral anxiety and the ritualistic aspects of the habit. Anxiety is the real root of the addiction and nicotine can be managed with gum or other contraceptions if anxiety can be managed

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although i am drunk again ineed heelop

>>18614959
Don't worry anon it started like that in my case. It escalated after working a while as a bartender. I then started binge drinking nearly everday. At the same time I had the habit to smoke pot when I was really drunk. I recommend stp drinking now, while it's still easy to do. You shouldn't be worried about your physical health, you should be more worried about your mental health. Took me years of my life to recover from my stupidity.

>>18615131
thank you yeah ia m not good from mental health and worried about that too thanks for input

bump?

>>18614927

The same way you get any other girlfriend. By talking to her, flirting, and if she interested, you two can start going out.

>>18614929
But where can I find an Emo trap nymphomaniac?

>>18614947

Goth dance clubs, feminists organizations, and that kind of crap seems like the most obvious places. But really, anywhere. They are people, too. They do shit with their lives. They take classes and have hobbies.

Just saying, though. If you make up you mind about a lot of characteristics for the partner you want, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. Real life is about dating people you know, not creating a perfect bride in your head and then searching for her.

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>2nd year nursing student

Facial numbness, dizziness, and fatigue are one of many symptoms of MS.

Have you gotten any injuries? Any event where you may have landed on your head or spine?

I'd get checked by a doctor.

>>18614906
Nope, just had a rough last 8 months with a whiny abusive cunt of an uncle who only talked to anyone when he wanted to insult or belittle them. And I've been to 3 different doctors who all told me it was nothing

>>18614918
Do you live in a country where healthcare is free or heavily subsidized? Or, do you have insurance that covers all your expenses?

If I were you, I'd go and get a check up, and politely demand you get some kind of spinal/brain MRI.