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>>17134000
just stay calm, and dont cry. try to poop before you shower and wash your foreskin and asshole out really well. keep clean before and just try to not spazz out before in the moments leading up to it. you can be bad in bed but be chill outside of the bedroom and you might be able to fuck her on the regular til you get good. attraction is more important outside of the bedroom than actual sex

>>17134000
>REALLY experienced
Lol, wrap that shit up you sad desperate fuck. Let the whore guide you, it's what you're paying her for after all.

>>17134042

Well, kinda what this anon said.

If she's got lots of XP, there isn't anything you're going to do on almost no XP that will convince her that you're still new. So relax and just stay eager to what she wants

Shameless self bump.

Fuck guess i am hopless then...
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which city? has your doctor prescribed anxiety medication for you? can you drive to a parking lot in or just outside of the city and then walk/take public transportation or a taxi?

Well, I've been in a similar position. I dropped out of uni two years ago, got an apprenticeship, left that as well. Unemployed for a year now. Living with my dad.

did the same thing as you, mediocre performance at uni, anxiety issues, whatever.

I did the same thing, just masturbating, video games etc, but you get bored. You're living on base instinct, little else, and you're probably afraid and miserable.

The things that improved my life were fostering self discipline and going to the gym. If you work out you feel like you achieved somethign and after a while your body looks better and you feel more confident. Don't cut out gaming entirely but greatly reduce it. Try to get involved in hobbies. And for god's sake, get outside and interact with people.

It's not over for you and you can recover from where you are but you're going to need to WORK for it. It's do or die really, you can live like this and not change a thing and be miserable or you can start LIVING.

Hang in there.

You lack discipline. Good news is this is a skill that every human can train and develop. The key, and the aspect you are missing, is to take small steps. When you say "I can't keep living like this", your subconscious balks at the concept. What could I possibly do to change? This is too much. Eventually things must change on their own. Rationalizations like these are automatic responses to stress in a mind that lacks the discipline to tackle such stress.

So, here's the first step you can take right this minute. You were motivated enough to make this thread, right? Take a piece of paper and a writing tool and physically write out what you are unhappy with. Merely thinking about it isn't enough, putting pen to paper activates your mind on multiple levels and will be nothing but beneficial. Once you have your ills written out, well, you've just made yourself a real, actual checklist of what you can start changing today. Authors have written extensively on the subject of self- discipline, if you need more don't be afraid to look for more on the subject. Wish you the best of luck, anon.

>>17133925
Thanks, I've never been to a gym, but I tried working working out. The sense of progress felt good, I'll admit.
Maybe I'll try it again, though I can just predict that I won't last long as I've been doing until now.

>>17133943
Yeah, I've written down list of the things I could do.
But the motivation to keep them going never lasts more than few days, and the attempt getting weaker and lazier everytime I try again.


Maybe I'll move back in with my mother. Someone actively watching my pathetic lifestyle might push myself to act.

>>17133755
It is easy.

Just ask her if she has a boyfriend. Girls are far more superior in social games, she will know what you meant by this and will act with little to no delay.

Just keep her company and maybe you will win her over in the long run.

>>17133953
how to get friendzoned 101

>>17133953
I know for a fact that she has no boyfriend, so I guess it could work.

I really don't want to risk the long run and end up being seen as a brother to her. I'd rather ask her out.

How do you know your friend DIDN'T rape her? "My friend would never do that!" is not an answer

>>17133743
There's nothing I can prove as I don't spend every single waking moment with him and obviously I was not present during their intercourse, but my experiences and continued interactions with him are enough to make him someone I'd trust my life with, and I trust him about this. Of course this is answer is worthless to you, but it's what I can offer.

>>17133794
So as far as you're aware, it's possible that he DID rape her. I'm not saying he did, but I'm saying that you have no justifiable reason to think that she's lying.

>>17133675
By dumping him.

>>17133675
>How do I convince him this is a bad idea?
You say you don't want to, and you leave it at that. This is all the reason a decent person needs.

by not making cuck bait threads with anime pictures on /adv/

seriously, why do you guys reply to this garbage?

>>17133663
It will be very painful and you will end up most likely with broken thing which you used as solid point and visible bruise around your neck.

> i'm desperate
You know you can call anti suicide line? Every country has some in your local language. Or maybe write us a wall of text so at least we have something to read?

I've been suicidal and right now I don't want to kill myself at all and i'm extremely glad I didn't go through with it.

Call the national suicide lifeline and have them talk you through this so you don't kill yourself. Whatever problems you have they can probably be worked through and you can reach a point where you're stable and fine again.

And also consider that you might go to hell for suicide. So you would commit suicide to escape this pain of this life just to enter a world of eternal pain. That makes no sense.

i've actually been wanting to cry but it's difficult i've been through so much i just want it to end. please help me with this, currently i only have a shoe lace noose.

Normally girls can't shut up after sex with a guy they like. Don't get attached.

>>17133657
I'm always so shy about texting a guy after I've screwed him... There's a guy I met over the weekend who I really wanna get with again and I'm gonna have to psyche myself up for this. Also I'm crazy stupid busy.

>>17133634

Probably, this:
If she wanted to date you, she'd have texted you.

Therefore, either
> she does not want to see you again
Or
> she would be down to fuck more

The only way to find out is text her.

You work your ass off at school and get a nice job that pay well.

you a ho!

srsly don't
if you want to break up and maybe he can find a decent girl

>>17133621

>I wanna get that $$$ by talking to old guys

You mean "fucking old guys." Don't pretend this is something other than it is

>>17133593
well you should improve yourself to benifit yourself
there will always be someone who is better looking.
as a guy there will always be someone with a bigger house or a nicer car or a hotter gf.
the trick is making the most of what you have. besides accomplishment yields satisfaction.

a lot of attractive women have only that going for them, when they lose their looks they have nothing

an average funny and interesting girl will have more than them any day of the week

kids in highschool want hotties and what not but what can you do with a person like that? look at her and have sex but man that gets boring fast
get some hobbies, interests, learn something

also being attractive to some beats being attractive to none

>i eat a shit ton
eat less
>i don't work out
work out
>care of skin
I don't know what would be involved in that, but I'm assuming you don't shower or something?

Like, jesus christ land whale it's not that tough, you spelled out the exact steps you need to take for yourself to be better.

>>17133555
Anon, what do you enjoy yourself?
Anon, why are you pursuing PhD when masters are more than enough to get solid job?
Anon, why do you want to be ripped? Isn't being fir considered enough?
Anon, why are you paying for such service as RDS instructors?

RDS?
are those like pick up artist?
is that actually a job?

>>17133555
It's not what you are but who you are.

What do you do that improves on who you are as person on the inside?

What you're doing sounds like somebody who has a fast, shiny expensive car but no keys.

How was it?

>>17133536
What is your favourite "easy meal" to cook?

What are your plans for Labor Day?

>>17133477
easy, you meet and date other people that are terminally ill. lots of lonely girls with cancer est.

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>>17133488
>Mfw I'm internally screaming because I never considered this

>>17133477

I actually know a female in this situation. She has some kind of congenital heart defect and likely won't make it to 40. She has had like three "boyfriends" within the last year and recently just got on tinder due to extreme loneliness.

She is an attractive girl, people just lose interest after learning all the things that she can't do. Basically anything that involves exertion above a brisk walk is a no-go, she has issues with having sex as well.

In short, my advice is tinder. Yeah, it is gross but you may end up meeting someone amazing and improve each others lives despite you only having ~10 years left.

>>17133467
talking to inanimate objects is fine.
anthropomorphizing (giving them names and implied personalities) is not really and is actually a sign of Aspergers.

i talk to my car when driving.
i like my car.
i don't see my car as a friend or alive.

my car has no feelings.

pretending that it does might be a problem.
or harmless if you are self aware. depends on a lot of things

thx for an answer but i dont think i have aspergers. my non-verbal skills are pretty solid i think and ye i am at university but i wouldnt judge me as a genius

This is normal, lots of people do it. I found myself doing this in the few months that I lived alone.

there are some questions you have to ask yourself

>how good is your relationship with your parents?
>are they financially stable or do you know of any depts they might have?
>can you really aford it? it could mess up family budget if you drop in like a bomb and need instant money

i hope you can answer your question

>>17133502
well for anyone else that wants to respond to this thread:
>how good is your relationship with your parents?
pretty solid right now, I think they would agree to pay for it if I actually asked (I have hinted it would help me out)
>are they financially stable or do you know of any depts they might have?
million dollar house they recently bought with a loan I assume
>can you really aford it? it could mess up family budget if you drop in like a bomb and need instant money
My parents can afford it easily, my stepfather makes well over 100k and my mom less, not sure exactly. they don't ever kick up dust over expenses like this, already put two kids through college

I know I can't just expect strangers on the internet to give me the 'right' answer but maybe just a different perspective can help make this decision. It's in some ways less about their money (I don't really care much about my own, it's not worth anything to me since I don't spend it on anything I don't need like food, etc.) as them still supporting me when I'm supposed to be independent.
Haha, I don't really know why I'm going on like this, it's not really making things any clearer even for me who has all the information

i was in a similar situation. good relations to parents, they also just built a house but had the money and i wanted to finally get independent

i simply did it. felt good. but i was also finished with my bachelor degree and can now 50/50 work and study at my masters.