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well... whats your plan to get the electrician credentials? trade school? apprenticship?

You're not going to do fuck all if you're not an electrician first. I've worked in a few different trades; if you're not experienced in the industry and know your shit, no one is going to respect you and you're not going to be able to competently run your business.

>>18478380
How many years should I have under my belt?

>>18478024
>But she seems done
As you noted a woman can take a lot of shit for a long time but when she switches off its done for good.

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>>18478024
Have you tried being honest? "I have said and done things that I don't feel nor believe. I failed to you, and now I understand it. Please, allow me to fix it if you think that there is a chance".

Don't listen to me at all, I have no gf.

Btw, is she your 2B, and you are the 9S in need??

>>18478040
She says she loves me and that wont stop.
I let someone get between us. Never fucked her. None of it. I never saw this person in a romantic way. But my gf thinks I do. I told her I'm even willing to cut her out from my life. But my gf is convinced there is some link between us.
It's been 6 months since weve opened up about everything. I thought it was getting better. But I know it's hard to get rid of ducked up thoughts

OP what phone is it?

>>18478075
iPhone 6+

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Bump before work

>>18477998

in california you can find a place to live for 300 a month if you dont mind sharing a room with one or two people. decide whats worse. take out a student loan too

>>18478005
i'm in socal, as far as i've seen the only places you can rent for that price are studios and one bedroom apartments, which to me sounds really unlivable with 3 people.

>>18478026

>unlivable

Americans are people addicted to comfort. you are in a shitty situation and still think you are better than the options provided simply because you grew up with a cushy life.

spoiler alert: in the real world you are only worth what you can make.

so either start paying 300 to live with your parents, or start paying 300 to live with some strangers. pick the lesser of two evils and keep working.

socal as well bro.

>>18477993

>is there any reason for me to exist?

you already /are/ the answer.

>what do i do about this?

whatever you want. if you are happy as is, stick it out and keep going. contemplation does not equal dissatisfaction. but if you arent happy, make a change. perhaps move somewhere new and start over and explore the world around you.

the big problem is that your hobby doesn't lend well to meeting new people and trying new things. so you have to open your self up a bit.

>>18478001
What do normal people do to meet other people?

>>18478008

there is no 'baseline'. mostly because most people don't go out with the intent of meeting others. instead they meet them incidentally.

on the bus, at work, at school, just 'around' when running errands, at the bar, at meetups, at events.

>>18477967
Are you retarded or just a shit skin?
Either wave, leave the girl alone.

>>18477967
>online
This is your problem. Go meet her offline so you can have sex like in the old days. Or try to fap.

You are talking nonsence.

>inb4 we cant meet cause long distance
Forget about her and find girl you can actually fuck from your location.

>>18477967
I have perfect Aryan features.
Heil, bitchheessss.

In general, I hadn't really ever had a true relationship with an other human being. The only romantic partner I had left me for a fucking chick, not even another guy. Again, I didn't feel any sorrow, maybe some sporadic sadness, but mostly because no one was there "to fill that spot" (don't get the wrong impression for this, this is the best I can describe it).

Then again, trying to find others who share my views/interests, etc, seems like an impossible task. Everyone is just so shallow, with the most generic interests possible. No ambitions, no nothing, just going on with their lives (going nowhere), with no plans for the future whatsoever.
Maybe it's my social cycle, but then again, all I see is girls dressed in a whore's outfit, especially during summer, and guys acting like chavs· carrying fucking loud speakers and playing cringey shit-tier hip hop ear-bleeding "music" (complete trash tier underground hip-hop or whatever it's called), and shit like that in general.
And no, I don't go to such places on purpose, this, unfortunately, happens to the area I live, as well as in most of this 3rd world tier country (not to mention that the suburb I live in is considered as a pretty good area to live in).
Such behaviors, and, in general, the attitude of most people disguists me. No one is trying to make themselves a better person, they just follow what they think is "socialy acceptable", without trying to acquire anything meaningul, say education. Only a few are rational thinkers, and as for the norm, they just go with whatever they are told. I got even more dissapointed when a complete garbage tier reality show litelary took fucking off and got about 70% viewing, and it still is the talk of the town, but to a lesser extent recently, thank god.

Cont.

By no means I think myself of a ridiculously smart person, or anything, I just happen to be smarter than the pathetic competition in my social circle, even though my writting may suggest otherwise. I may act arrogantly sometimes, but in general I dislike showing off, or doing things for attention.

And all of this generalization leads to this: I'm not enjoying anything lately, or as much as I used to.
I've picked up some hobbies over the course of the past two years, namely photography (found my father's broken analog camera, fixed it and now I use it whenever possible, not a photographer by any means, I just enjoy it I guess).
I worked at a computer repair shop, owned by a friend of my father. Even though I worked full 8 hours and came back home exhausted it, I thoroughly enjoyed it, I hadn't felt like that in quite some time. For the first time in years, I felt like I was doing something meaningful, even if I was working for 300 euros. I always loved tinkering with computers, probably the thing I like the most doing.

Then again, I now have to go back to studying for the course of the following year, and hope that I'll perfom good enough to be admitted to the uni of my choice.
I've been friends with the guy that was with me that night, and it kinda seems like I can connect to him. He isn't anything special, but is seems that we share a similar world view, something that I most appreciate, haven't really met many people with whom we share the same views.

Cont.

I'm not really concerned about losing my virginity, but more about the fact that I can't really find a girl, who is humble, and dresses accordingly, and at least moderately looking and moderately intelligent. I may be looking in the wrong places, but then again, my social cicle is pretty much confined to my only close friend I suppose, and I am not really looking into expanding it, I find it utterly meaningless.
And so, I suppose I'll never get a chance to show someone how much I want to give, or feel like someones wants me to come to somewhere, or cheer someone by my sole presence. Someone to really value me, to love me, other than my parents. The person who raised me (my parents couldn't look after me most of the time when I was young, because they were working long hours) almost had a stroke the other day, and I didn't feel anything, not even fear that I might not see her again.
I mostly cope with things by myself. My mother told me that my father believes that he has lost contact/his year with me (I can't translate it any better, but what he basically said he didn't say it in a bad way, nevertheless, made me feel like a dissapointment).

To the ones that made it so far, thank you for reading this edgy as shit post of mine.
All I can think after writing this, is this: What's wrong with me? I mean, I am the one who can't develop healty relationships, not the others.
Am I cold at heart? Will I be ever able to experience the things that normies speak of?

Please help.

>>18477924
How old are you?

>>18477924
>ex pops back into my head
You basically described everybody with ex who they really loved them at some point. It will never go away fully. What all people do is to ignore the thoughts about exes and simply try to love their current partner more.

All you have to do is to realize that (probably) not everybody is an asshole like your ex and simply give some qtie boy a chance. That or die alone.

>>18477924
>Am I going to keep doing this?
Be an adult and answer your own question. This sort of problem isn't one you can get around by learning some new information, your problem and the solution to it are already as simple as they can possibly be. Make a decision and act in concert with it. The simplicity doesn't make dealing with the problem any easier, of course. If you want to get over this you'll need to figure out how to read people better and then ask someone out. You'll be anxious, but it'll recede in time if you're working at it. It may take quite a while, or it may not. It depends on you.

>>18477910
It probably has nothing to do with feelings of threat on either side. You might have given the impression of being nervous or high-strung.

As long as you said something like "Nice to meet you. Sorry, but I'm late to something and have to run" you were fine.

>>18477932
>high-strung.
This probably. Nice to meet you has become a reflex for me. I don't see why I would be blamed for lost business by being high-strung, though. The guy also has an of-age daughter so maybe he was afraid I would put benis-in-vagina?

>>18477910
>went on to say in this house we do it my way or no way

Fucking what? Do you work for her or live there? Because if you live there that's just some retarded shit to say. Unless you say something bigoted or generally fucked up it doesn't matter at all what sort of energy you put out. It sounds like she has a bloated, disgusting ego, but then again it also sounds like I'm missing context. You need to expound.

>>18477881
As long as you set the ground rules. And are totally aware of how you want this situation to play out. Then ya go for it.

>>18477881
>break up went very well
I have a feelings you two didnt love each other or simply break up out of boredom. If you will keep talking to her, you will eventually fuck and make it up together again.

>get new gf, try badoo

>>18477954
>you will eventually fuck
We almost certainly won't. We broke up because we didn't sleep together anymore for a long time, due to her mental blockades.
Otherwise we went along really great, it just wasn't a relationship, rather a friendship.

>>18477861
I understand your complaint but she's just a piece of ass. If you are catching feels get the fuck away from her. She's painting her face up because it is attracting men, not you, but other men.

Insult makeup similar to hers about other women.
> oh he doesnt like it not just on me
Do it lightly though so she doesnt make the direct connection to her

>>18477878
Good point i guess. She has always worn makeup though, it didnt start after we met. It just happened to be coincidence the time we met she wasnt wearing any.

Thats basically where im at though. I want to still fuck around with her but i just cant do it if she looks retarded. Shit really sucks, i cant even explain how pretty she is naturally - its just mind boggling to me that she chooses to ruin her face with this expensive bullshit when all its doing is making her look ugly.

>>18477814
Send her over to me and keep watching your weaboo shit

>>18477823
pls shes now asleep

T O U C H H E R A N D S E N D P I C S

jk
If she's sleeping just don't bother her with yer weeb crap.

I to loved this thread when we had it two days ago

really, anon, it depends on the person. i didn't lose my virginity until i was like... 20? yeah, it musta been 20. it depends on who you have sex with, too.

me, personally, i hate sex. don't like it. people make fun of me to this day for it. but who cares. sex isn't a reason to kill yourself. there's more to life than just getting your dick rode all fuckin night. there's more exiting things.

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>>18477834
>more to life
Ride disapproves

>>18477750
How long did you go out?
How long ago did you break up?

>letter
>2 pages

Ya blew it kiddo

>>18477766
We broke up a year ago

>>18477729
Sure

Unless the escape room is your sex dungeon and there's no way to escape

>>18477736
no i mean like one of those fun little puzzle rooms that are getting pretty popular. I've been to one with friends and had a lot of fun im just wondering if it would be weird in a date setting. Trying to plan first date things

>>18477729
It can be a great idea, depending on the girl. Don't do it with someone you asked out on Tinder or something, though. Go have a drink first to make sure you're comfortable being trapped with that person for a few hours (and vice versa).