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How to deal with Mom's bf's introverted kid 2017-08-07 08:27:53 Post No.18599059
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so my mom has had a boyfriend for about a year now, who has been family friend i was a child (he's fine, no issues there). Problem is, his kid, who I've also known for my entire life, is super socially isolated and just plain weird. He was a normal kid growing up but I think his parent's breakup (and maybe his mother's experience with schizophrenia) has affeted him negatively. He prefers to stay inside, doesn't respond to questions/participate in conversation, listens exclusively to classical music, is years behind in school (now "homeschooled") and as far as I know only plays video games in spare time. He is my sister's age, a few years younger than me, and I've moved out so I never see him when he is with my family.
My question is this: How do I get a socially disengaged person like that to open up and feel comfortable/social with me and my sister so we can help him be social and not feel creeped out?
I've tried playing video games with him, making conversation etc. and no dice. I am also worried he may try to fuck with my sis as she is popular and outgoing in high school and I don't want him creeping on her.
Help me help him?
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Why is it that relatively older women (40+) are much easier and generally more enjoyable to talk to than women around my age? (I'm 21). They also aren't boring as they have many stories to tell as opposed to my peers. Why is this?
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Do I stay or do I go? 2017-08-07 08:20:52 Post No.18599037
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The girl I was dating for six months broke it off with me about ten days ago. (She couldn't deal with our differences in political views.) When I asked her, she basically told me her main reason for "loving" me in the first place was because I did nice stuff for her, I was attractive, and I played guitar. After being briefly blindsided and really upset, over the course of a few hours I came to terms with the fact that her love was likely never genuine, and I was able to get over most of the negative feelings very quickly.
Three days after we broke up, I was on Tinder for shits and gigs. I didn't have any intention of pursuing any matches, and was really only using it for a confidence boost. Then I matched a very pretty girl, who I'll call Rachel. She messaged me first, and right away was very open to conversation. We chatted for an hour that night over text, then for another two over the phone the next night. We hit topics like philosophy, culture, politics, and ethics, and it all felt very genuine and open. We realized that we had a good deal in common; we're both health-conscious and academically minded, we both despise hookup culture, etc. Later that week (this past Thursday, exactly one week after my breakup) we went on our first date. We wound up sitting by the beach and talking for four hours about our past, more philosophy, and bunch of other topics, with lots of laughter throughout. We kissed several times before the date was over. We went out again the next night, and I let her stay at my place since she'd had a few drinks. The next morning we wound up talking for so long that by the time we were done, it was evening again. Instead of just one night, we accidentally spent this entire past weekend together talking and going on walks. By the end of the weekend we'd planned on going camping together next weekend.
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Rachel then mentioned that she and one of my best friends (we'll call him Gary) had previously matched on Tinder and used to talk a lot; they never had any intention of meeting, but they shared a lot of personal details and were basically like each others' confidantes for a while. She said she wanted to let me know about that before we take things any further. I wasn't terribly bothered by this, since they hadn't really dated and I was very infatuated with this girl. But I figured I'd talk to Gary about it.
Yesterday Gary and I were hanging out at my apartment. I mentioned to him that I hit it off really well with Rachel. I told him that I intended to see her for at least a little while and see where things go. He gave me a look that made my gut sink into my feet. First and foremost, he clarified that his interactions with Rachel happened just about a week ago. He told me that Rachel was "crazy" and that it really wouldn't be wise to date her. He wouldn't give out many details, since he wouldn't want to break her trust and confidentiality, but on a bit of probing, he revealed that she had cheated at least once on an ex-boyfriend. This was crushing, to say the least. On top of that, Gary revealed that the conversations he and Rachel first had when they started talking were a lot like the philosophical "deep talks" I had with her; they weren't as special or unique as I had thought. I also gleaned details that suggested that Rachel really wanted to go out with Gary. I then realized that Gary was in one of my Tinder pictures, leading me to suspect that maybe I was just being used to get to him.
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So now I'm sitting here today deciding what to do. On the one had, this beautiful girl whom I can talk to for hours seems very open to dating me. She seems really genuine when we're together, and she really cares about what I have to say. She remembers little details I mentioned days prior and brings them up again in conversation. And she was eager to spend an entire weekend with basically just me and no one else. On the other hand, my good friend told me she's a cheater, and I've got suspicions that she could just be using me to get back at him. My heart says try, but my head says cut it off right now. What do you guys think I should do?
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>>18599045
At first read, I'd say Gary could be jealous or not want you to succeed where possibly he failed? That's how your average human would react. Try to ruin it for you somehow
But you know Gary. If you says he's a good friend, ask yourself. Would he do something like that to you, or is he letting you know because he cares about you?
I would say either way, if you really like this girl, go for it. Keep everything in mind though, and expect nothing extraordinary.
Maybe everything about her is right? Maybe not? Maybe either way, you have a genuine connection, and it could work out? Only one way to find out my friend
Good luck, stay smart and be careful
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Small Business stress 2017-08-07 08:18:16 Post No.18599026
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I have a small lawn care business. Its me and my Friend. He's helping me so that i can run it and make a living. He says im the owner.
However the trailer we bought is in his name. He keeps all the money we make in his savings account for our business. And we have been in debt according to him for months now. We just got a huge check...and i have no access to the money and i get none of it. Am i just being used? Like we known each other for like 8 years but when can we start chipping off some money for our own personal use? And progress is slow we are stuck working one fay a week..
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Trailer under his name, bank account under his name, he controls all money... And u think u owned the business? Stupid is a stupid do as
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Break up advice (oh boy) 2017-08-07 08:11:08 Post No.18599010
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Me and my ex were going out for 4 months and I got angry one day and said "Let's brake up" she took it to heart and said we are over.
I explained I was angry at the time and didn't mean to say it. She has seemed to move on but I am finding it hard to do so, I just know other men are with her and she doesn't want anything to do with me.
How do I move on?
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I mean I don't really know what kind of advice to give here. I guess just focus a little more on that feeling you had when you had that urge to break up.
But really, you can't just drop bombs like that, only because you're throwing a fit. What was the situation that made you so angry?
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>>18599019
She wanted to see me later but I already had plans and she got frustrated with me (This was a normal thing) and I just got to the last straw.
To be honest it wasn't a healthy relationship because we argued about most things nearly everyday so I guess it was a compatibility problem.
The biggest reason I am feeling so low is because it's all my fault it ended and I have not felt this way after a breakup before.
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>>18599046
Aah, I see. The way you worded it in OP seemed a little weird.
I guess the breakup really caught you off guard in a way, but you're gonna be fine. Keep nurturing that feeling of being so frustrated, maybe it helps. You know, there is not much lost if it's been 4 months.
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Stupid anon complaining 2017-08-07 07:47:14 Post No.18598956
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I am a little frustrated because i don't have a girlfriend. Yesterday I went to a pool with some friends who live a few miles away from me. It was me, another friend whose girlfriend is in italy for studies and two couples. Later on, since the pool got very very crowded with kids, we all decided to leave and have a bbq in the area. Some time has passed by now, one couple is in a hammock making out like nobody's business, the other couple on a blanket on the ground, same thing. My friend didn't seem to mind at all, whereas I didn't know what to do, so i was just sitting idly, drinking and waiting for someone to decide we gotta leave. J don't know why, but i start feeling awkward as hell whenever i'm around couples, especially when they start kissing.
After yesterday's experience, i see people kissing or traveling as couples on tv or online and i get a little pissed/jealous/sad because it got to this point.
I haven't had a girlfriend in about 3 years, i'm even doubting that i'll catch the next one before i finish college in 3 years.
But, this isn't just a random ramble, i know exactly what's wrong most of the time: i spend most of my waking hours inside, same for when i'm at my dorm, and when i'm out in public, most of the time i just don't talk, or just occasionally say something and that's it.
I don't understand why is it that, all my guy friends seem to have girls be interested in them, but never to me, it seems.
>by the way, after me and my friends left the pool, some kid drowned.
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>by the way, after me and my friends left the pool, some kid drowned.
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sounds like low self esteem
spend time working on personal projects so you have more things to be proud of
then, when you feel like you have some kind of value to offer to a woman besides affection, try dating again
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/adv/, help me, I dunno what happened.
I feel like my life kinda took a turn in another direction. This year wasn't very kind to me. My dad died earlier this year and in combination with stress and anxiety, I had to stay 3 months off from work. 1 of which I slept 2 hours per day, not because I couldn't fall asleep, but I couldn't stay asleep. I eventually got meds and everything got better, but not long after that I had bad anxiety, which let me stay awake for the whole night. That's where i took another 2 months off of work. Everything got better, I even switched positions in my workplace, something more stressfree. I met people, even a girl which I'm seeing right now. But I just don't feel like I was before. Those last years, when I got home, I watched youtube, played vidya and was chill with it, even happy. But nowadays I can't stay calm. It's not that I'm nervous, more so that I don't want to play any video games anymore, they just bore the fuck out of me. I may play some Diablo 3 here and there, but get bored really quickly. All I really want to do is meet people. Especially woman. It's been a long time since I had a gf, or a relationship where I was emotionally attached too. I don't know if that Is because my dad died, but I just feel lonely all the fucking time. I don't want to go talk about this with my friends. I recently started playing the guitar, working out, just to do something, trying to shut my mind off.
This is all kind of new to me. I'm 26 and never had this urge to do shit all the time.
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You think you have it hard?
I was bullied at school so now I hate everyone.
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I am 29 and I can really relate about what you are telling us.
In your words I see the loneliness coming from the grief of your father's death, and the consequential angst of freedom, but in a positive way. You care less about shit like Diablo 3, and you care about getting involved with women. You see, I think you are in the middle of your two selves: you are still a boy, and yet a young man. You still could be playing vidya and videogames even if your family died, but instead you are eventually reacting pushing forward and searching for connection and meaning. My advice is: ride this urge to do shit all the time, try new things (avoid drugs) and find what really suits you because for me it worked like this: nothing can fill the loss of my grandmother, apart the sense of significance of my life. And I take this significance from the things I do and I love. And from my SOs. Think like you have a bigger and faster engine, and we discovered this because in your situation the engine of majority of people would be broke, instead yours is on. Push down the handbrake. Sorry for your father :(
So for years I've been drinking ~6l / 1.6 gallons of water/sugarfree soda over one day
I need to piss all the time, piss is mostly very clear, no deep yellow or anything.
70kg/158 lbs, 1.80m/5'9
Im thirsty if I don't do it, should I go see a doctor?
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See a doc, although you might be totally fine.
Stop drinking synthetic chemicals. Drink tea, or water with a splash of mixer or with lemons/oranges/cucumbers floating in it.
I have anxiety, stress disorder, and calcium deposits that block my little throat saliva glands. (What an offputting sentence.) That's probably why I drink mad water.
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See a Doctor, drinking too much is a sign of diabetes unless you are doing manual labour in a hot environment than drinking that much is fine.
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as this guy says, smells of die-a-bee-thus
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I need to avoid tearing my skin off 2017-08-07 07:23:31 Post No.18598897
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I need to avoid tearing my skin off
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I hate phoneposting,but i need help.
Today i bought a diving suit. It's really great,but when I came out of the water and removed the suit from my body,my dad made me notice that some of the skin behind my knees was red. While swimming i felt somewhat like there were tiny pebbles behind my knees,nothing painful,but it was weird. My theory is that i didn't "spread" the suit around my legs well enough,but do you know of similar things happening and do you have some advice on how to keep it from happening again?
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Sounds like chafing and sand in the suit use google
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Were you wearing the suit dry for long?
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The place where i was is a rocky place,so there's no sand,and i went into the water as soon as i got the suit on. Tomorrow i'll try again and see what happens.
So, I honestly dont know the legal position of this, so all of this is hypothetical and it would never happen.
But hypothetically, if i we're to bring medical marijuana from california, to a state such as Illinois, where medical cannabis is also legal, how could i do it, and how much legal trouble could i be in for doing it?
Hypothetically it would be 2 shipments annually, with around 2-4 ounces and varities of hash and wax. It would be driven over through interstate 80.
How would anyone do it, whos done it before?
Anyone pre-law/who are a lawyer or who have history of trafficking could tell me?
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Not pre law or anything but if you get caught in any state that it's not legal you'll get busted for drug trafficking, the severity depends on each jurisdiction's statutes for how much weed you are moving.
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>ignored by literally everybody this summer
>texts go unreplied
>messages go unreturned
>people on facebook will randomly stop in the middle of the conversation, and not get back to you until weeks later (seriously)
>tfw hitting thirties and losing people
So how effective is a bullet to the brain? I've read that if you muck it up, it's a harshly agonising death.
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Key is to hit the thalamus or the Pons. Aim straight at your temple. Don't hit the eye. Also, shotgun pretty much guarantees success.
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hit the roof of your mouth straight on
alternatively breed more interest in your life
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>almost 30
>can't deal with being alone
lmao
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sandwitch orver good relationship? 2017-08-07 07:05:08 Post No.18598850
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sandwitch orver good relationship?
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I live in a 2 rooms flat with my sister, I'm in my room, she is in hers with her boyfriend and they are arguing... I dont want to interfere, but I want to go to kitchen and make myself sandwitch..
Should I go and interupt them or wait?
Icant go without being seen, and they will start arguing about that they make it hard for me...
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eww they do kissing sound...
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tell them to take their bullshit high school crap drama to their own bedroom or something, fuck people who dont respect others space who have nothing to do with it.
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juss do it u pussi
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I miss my ex so much
It's been 8 months since we broke up and I'm still not over her, constantly fapping over her memory etc even with a new gf
I think she was the best thing I had and I fucked it up completely being crazy, I just want to be dead
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I can't believe it's fucking happening. In 3 weeks it'll be confirmed if my family and I are able to immigrate.
I've lived in South Africa for my whole 20 year shite life. I know it'll be better to leave this god forsaken place, but I'm fucking scared and don't know what to expect (if we do get accepted) any of you guys immigrated ? How was it leaving the place you called home, friends, work etc
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