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I usually don't post much but i feel i need some help

So last year I asked a girl on a date, I had been talking to her a while before that and she actually said yes and i was pretty stoked. After the date had ended she said that she enjoyed her time and hugged me. Being the awkward kid that I am I sorta half-hugged her back and then kinda said nothing.

Fast forward a few months, we have art class together, and we talk all the time, and she's an amazing person. I want to go out again but she always seems to leave the art room really quickly after the period ends, and I just assumed that meant that she didn't want to talk to me or give me the chance? I had no clue, so i hold off for a couple of months, and one day i just worked myself up to asking her out again, where she responds that she's already been seeing someone, and I just don't know how to respond. I think I said some supportive shit but i don't remember, I was pretty devastated.

We actually still end up talking a lot, i even told her recently that i'm still interested in her and she said that if she ever broke up with her boyfriend she would be cool going out with me.

Fast forward to now, I've been talking to her saying how the whole situation was my fault that I didn't act,

I want to tell her that I love her /adv/ but I don't know what to say, she already said that she loves him. But maybe if I tell her that I love her she will love me back? I'm just lost here guys I need some help.

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hey /adv/, I talked with a girl on Tinder and we almost set up a date, but she stopped messaging at the last second. I looked today and it turns out she messaged me the day after, her phone didn't give her the notification, and neither did mine. Would it be weird to add her on facebook and say "hey, just searched your first name and it was the first result. [explain phone didn't notify me] still want to grab a drink or something?"
Apologies in advance for autism

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I have one vyvanse pill that has been sitting unwrapped in my dresser since January.
Would it be safe to take?
Anyone have any experience with it?

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What is the right way to live, /adv/?

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>Just got to new uni, beginning of school year
>Second day I'm all moved in, returning students start arriving
>This 10/10 volleyball player sophmore chick lives 10 feet down the hall from me
>bump into her on the way back from my room, do a good job, hold my spaghetti in and introduce myself, she seems super enthusiastic
>leaves an open ended "well if you need friends you can always come hang out with us!"
>I'm too autistic to ask for her snapchat or number and just go to my room
>see her two more times in the following two days
>she always spots me first and gives a big "Hey!" as we pass one another
>I'm at the gym running on the raised track, don't see her
>she's down on the floor practicing, yells up to me
>I yell back, say that we should hang out

She's gorgeous, about 5 inches taller than me, and way out of my league. I've got enough self awareness to know that I'm in decent shape but pretty average looking. So the question I'm asking is what the fuck do I do and is it a bad idea to go after someone who lives right across from you?

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What questions should I ask when making internet friends? I want to get to know them better.

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>tfw people tell you :''you hear insults that doesn't exist'' ''stop being so paranoid anon''

>tfw everyone looks threatening to you even after rationalizing

>tfw walk in the road you always looks behind you in case someone wants to hurt you or something, checking the shadow of people if they walk behind u and always being ready to punch someone in case he wants to beat u or something and escape strategically

>tfw wants to kill whole people close to you because you think they are plotting against you, already threatened them to death (telling them how you would slowly kill them)

>tfw don't trust any psychiatrist psychologist whatever it is called and probably gonna kill myself in some months

>tfw send death threats insults people i get attached to (clinginess) because i get weird, more 'lucid' and realize that i have been sharing some informations with other people that could be used against me, not even talking about the like of personal address or name, but just about your syntax , tastes, thoughts etc (also stalking them all the time because i become obsessed with them)

>tfw always change mood/opinion about people, which get them to call me a 'psycho' (in addition to some paranoid thoughts)

>tfw frustrated, jealous and have 0 self esteem

>tfw people are 'incoherent', tell you that you are incoherent, rationalize try to think about it then some kind defensive mechanisms strikes in


never took any kind of drug in my life or got traumatized in my childhood btw. I don't i have any problems honestly, i seem 'normal' irl

but people keep telling me i have symptoms for schizophrenia/ppd/bpd but i don't think i actually have any of this and i might just be attention whoring because i'm bored of my life (that is what r9k is for)

What do i might have ?

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I started a new job as a developer a few weeks ago and I feel exhausted and burned out already even though it's been a calm start.

One single project with no stress and a good introduction and I'm surrounded by competent and funny colleagues.

Yet I'm a mess and feel like shit.
I can't remember anything. Names, what I just did or what someone just said. I can barely speak, my voice is hoarse and I have trouble forming coherent sentences. I can barely think.

At my old job I would be a go to guy who remembered every single detail about projects and systems and would juggle multiple projects while dealing with customers and leading development.

I don't know why this is happening and I don't know what to do. Suddenly I just.. broke.
I think part of the explanation is that my ego has been hurt. I used to be a rockstar. Now I'm surrounded by people who are a lot better than me. I'm not used to it and I feel like a loser and a fraud which leads to crippling anxiety about failing and getting fired. But if I keep thinking like this I will never be able to prove myself..

Any suggestions on how to recover?

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I forgot to pay my rent yesterday and now I have a late charge on my account which sucks. But, when I went to pay, I can only pay with a credit card. There's no option to pay through my bank like I normally do. I don't know why this is happening. Should I just wait and call my landlord tomorrow or should I pay my rent with the late fee + credit card fee?

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Hey /adv/. Good news: my life is going well at the moment. However, I don't want to screw it up.

I'm back from summer and back to studies, and whilst I've been very lucky with the work involved so far, often getting away with procrastination and last minute changes, this year will be a step up. The issue is that I've made a lot of new friends and found a lot of new stuff to do during the summer, so I will easily find ways to be distracted this year when it is crucial that I'm not.

Essentially:
>How do I create a good work ethic?
>How do I stop procrastinating?
>How do I stay motivated?
>How do I find time for everything I want to do?
>How do I stay disciplined whilst I'm out and not do stupid drugs?

Any help on any of the above points is appreciated. Thanks, /adv/.

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Should I go to college to become a therapist and psychologist? Therapist requires a master degree Psychologist requires a doctorate. Not many places offer a PsyD degree and every place offers a masters in psychology. Psychologists are also way less common than therapists and are in less mental hospitals. So what do? I thought I'd rather be a psychologist because I'd just assess people instead of get into deep shit and Im not that emotive or interpersonal but it seems like I would be working at mcdicks if I tried to get a job as a psychologist

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Hello /adv/isors, I'm ESL so I'm sorry for any grammar mistakes. Stay a while and read my pathetic story, please.
I've been in psychiatric care for about 7 years now, take about 5 different pills for depression and OCD, and have had therapy with multiple psychologists over the span of my entire life (parents divorced when I was like 3 yo and mom decided it was the best course of action). Even with all of this support I can't stop feeling like nothing will ever get better. My social anxiety goes through the roof in stressful times so I can barely go to college anymore and I can't hold a job for more than a few months. I'm 30 yo and still live with my mom (bless her soul for accepting a failure like me), have no degree yet and not much work experience. I think about suicide often and even when I'm not stressed, I can't feel happy at all, just self loathing, apathy and always waiting for yet another storm. I've been through so many therapists I can't even trust them anymore. I first started thinking about suicide when I was 10 yo and it's always been in the back of my head as a perfectly reasonable plan B, but I know I would end up hurting my family by doing it so I refrain myself from thinking too much about it.
Is there anything I can do to motivate myself to get out of this mess o am I fucked for life?

tl;dr: Even with pills and therapy I think about suicide regularly, what do?

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My car won't start and I don't really know any mechanics. Is it normal to get a car towed to a local closed mechanic and call in the morning explaining?

Also: not battery and just had a starter done. Am I fucked?

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I have an important test at 9 am tomorrow. I plan to wake up at 5am. How do I best use those 4 hours to maximize my knowledge before the exam? Which combination of rehearsing, napping, self-testing, etc.?

I have already studied for it and condensed the coursework into a 160 pages long summary. This isn't about last minute desperation. I just want to max my knowledge during the test.

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My Job Orientation is in an hour. Any tips? Wish me luck.