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>>18423962
You just went too deep and gagged, there's nothing more to it other than don't go so deep next time

>>18423972
To add, it's seriously nothing serious. If you feel like it you could apologise and also make a playful remark about him being big

>>18423976
Just that simple? Lol

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>>18423950
>i don't know what to do.
Do to what? To not get them divorce? You don't have to do anything.

>>18423950
Parents are shitty and failing human beings. I went through my parents divorce at 25, I was out of the house. Yet your parents, if they're boomers or gen x, will probably turn into petulant children in adult bodies. It makes it hard.

My advice would be to do your best not to become your moms psychologist. If you have an aunt or uncle on your mom's side, call them. Or one of your moms friends.
My own mother was a wreck and would come to me to cry out, and start using me as an emotional buffer. It was psychologically really uneasy. Try to get as little involved as you can.

>>18423960
Oh and the whole "parents friends or relatives", I mean get them to provide the emotional support to your parents. It's not your job.

hey *name*, i really like this, i would like if we become a couple, love *yourname*

not that difficult

>>18423953
Yeah, I don't see that happening with him. He told me he doesn't do relationships. Plus, he likes to do mixed signal shit where he acts like my boyfriend, but then goes cold.

>>18423940
That dude is a coward. He wants to enjoy the good sides of a relationship without taking the responsibility that comes with it.

>>18423939
Do you have some sort of diagnosed mental illness? I for example have one and do not feel the need to have friends or interact with anyone at all in person. I'm the only one I know is like this however.

>>18423945
no, i dont. what mental illness do you suffer from?

>>18423949
Schizo Affective disorder. It's sort of like Schizophrenia and depression rolled into one disorder.

Some advice would be appreciated

>I broke up with my girlfriend
>We're on a 2 weeks break

Looks like you already made up your mind dog

>>18423919
1- everyone has a certain amount of bagage what matters is how they deal with it
2- no relationship is ever perfect

One of the most difficult things in relationships is knowing when to fight and when to let go.
It seems as though for a cool, low expectations this was all okay. You are shifting gears now, it's normal to wonder how that would work out.

Concerning her, none of what you say sounds terrible. Of course it would be better if she got her issues looked at with a shrink and that can be something you talk about. You can transmit psychological mess to your kids, its best to avoid that.
She doesn't seem to be particularly high in conflict skills. How did you deal with conflicts before and did you manage well? That seems fair to evaluate and look at.

>>18423912
Cont.

That was a huge mistake and led to a big argument, and surely enough the ex texts me again.

All of those times I want to just delete the message but my now fiance wanted me to dig deeper to see what the hell was going on.

Then yesterday it happens again, we don't really argue, but I made the mistake of comparing again. And my ex actually calls my phone. I should've changed my number years ago...

Now my fiance is following the logic of it must be me messaging my ex every time we argue because the timing is always the worst. The only time we argue however is about little insecurities my fiance has had about my last relationship.

And now, I fear that trust cannot be saved. If I lose that I lose everything and the logic is sound, but I'm innocent. How the hell do I even save our marriage?..
Please.

>>18423917
Why did you compare them the second time? The only thing you can really do is talk to your fiance. But, if she keeps having these insecurities, then perhaps the problem lies with her. Either way, you need to sit down and talk with her. Maybe even seek couples counseling.

>>18423917
>>18423912
you aint innocent, if you wana get rid of someone you can, you wanted to have your cake and eat it, turns out its a cake made of shit you made, now eat it

>>18423895
Have you tried turning in off and on again?

Honestly if you'd really like to pull a chick.. I would get my hands on some xanax (drug that relieves all anxiety and leaves you feeling sort of drunk) take it, then go to your date. You feel like a new you when it comes to flirting and pulling her in.. you'll be funnier, quirkier, confident, and possibly more attractive because you will feel so relaxed. I suggest getting a cab for the ride there and back though. (If you don't end up leaving with date;)

>>18423895
Here's what you do though. You put up a fake profile picture and practice online. It's really simple and you can even simulate a date by reading what you wrote out loud.

They dig the stash dude. Grow one

>>18423847
Depends on the woman. Every woman is different. I like to be pushed against the wall, groped, teased, have him tell me how I'm his fucktoy and he will do whatever he wants with me, get spanked, being commanded etc. I love it when my boyfriend just completely asserts his dominance over me.
While other women want romance, massages, subtle flirting and hints etc.

>>18424006
>other women
>romance
Nah.

All girls want to be treated like ladies in public and like whores in bedroom.

Claim you're a trans-racial otherkin and that they're oppressing you. It might actually work.

>>18423805
Follow this reasoning: The Walt Disney company makes films that millions of people will never go see because they're too "family" but the Disney company just writes those people off because there are millions of others who will come to the movies.

Your "art" is designed to appeal to appeal to one segment of the population and not to another. You have to be prepared to lose that other segment or modify your art (Disney owns a separate studio that makes R films)

If they get in your way, you probably depict women in an """offensive""" way to them. (Don't get this as if I agree with them please)

I actually saw this happen with a girl complaining about a pin-up banner in a game where a girl was bending with her butt showing, and this argument came to mind:

Whichever way you are depicting women, there is probably a bunch of women that dig it (in the case above, there are girls who dress up as pin-ups). Just say that your art is representing those women, and that by opressing you they are opressing those women depiction in media, which is a misogynistic thing to do. They deserve as much representation as any other women. Also say that they're totally free to criticize your art, but the same freedom they have for it, you have to actually make it, and that tolerance is respecting someone you disagree with.

>>18423800
Talk to her dad and pray that he'll let you date. It will require you to be very well off. Do you have a car and a good career?

There is something wrong with you. Go seek psychiatric help.

>>18424021
It just seems unfair this barrier, why can muslim men take our women but their women can't get KAFIR'D

>>18423791
>baby
Take your suspicion and throw it into bin. It isnt worth it. You now have baby and that is what matters. If you fear she might leave / cheat you, just talk about it to her and do things for her so she has no reason to hurt you. Easy.

Relationship is about mutual trust and respect. And proper communication. If you think she can lie very well, talk about it to her too. Tell her you trust her and you wish she wont ever have reason to lie to her. Use cuddles and hugs a lot in your relationships. Keep asking her on dates eve ln years into marriage.

Also learn what paragraphs are.

Good luck with your baby.
>do paternity test

>>18423791
Well, in my experiences gut feelings rarely turn out to be wrong, at least when it comes to people and relationships. I'd just straight up ask her if she's done anything with any one.

Before that I would go get a casual dna test done to make sure that baby is yours.

This goes for any one, get a dna test done to make sure your baby is yours.

Best case 1 in 10 men raise a baby they think is theres(women fucking cheat and lie) worst case 1 in 3 men take care of babies that they think are theres, but aren't.

There have been multiple statistics taken for this and that is the range of data that is out there.

>>18423824
So you think a paternity test is necessary no matter how much love and trust you have for the mother? Because I believe so. No matter how much I love someone I never lose the awareness that they have the ability to completely fuck my life up at any time. All I can do is be paranoid and take wild guesses until something comes out of the dark. (If there is anything to come out, that is). I believe all women are capable of disloyalty and deception under the right circumstances. I love that child to death but I do regret having him with her so quickly because we only had a few months to truly get to know each other before that test came back positive 9 1/2 months ago. I will do the paternity test. Do you know if mother of the child legally has to be notified before hand? Because I'd prefer her never to find out I took a DNA test if it comes back good. I have joked with her about taking a DNA test once or twice before because the baby has a blueish tiny to his eyes that I never had but I said it only in a jokingly manner so it was never taken serious by her.

>>18423782
You just do. You have the rest of your life to live and it literally doesn't matter.
Teenage love is overrated anyway.

You're 18, seriously life is just starting. You haven't missed anything. People may tell you that but they're probably doing things they shouldn't be. Fucking around is serious business because it can lead to children and who suffers for that, the children do.

>>18423782
Just relax and realize that the image you have of what teenage years look like is probably wrong.

>>18423718
Sounds like you were positively reinforcing the bad behavior until it's now become a an ingrained bad habit. It's the way you taught yourself to process, and so now it's what you do instinctively.

Changing this shit will be difficult as fuck, and unless you have an insane force of will, you will probably need to see someone (therapy)to try to get them to Take some one on one personal time to figure out how to work past it.

>>18423744
I have a relationship therapist so I will probably bring this up next time. Things got so bad that my bf locked me in the bathroom so I could cry it out.

I'm just really embarrassed to admit that I act this way. The feelings I feel are very intense and real but I realize that I do not have to act so extreme after I calm down.

I have been diagnosed with "panic disorder" but this seems more extreme to me than a panic attack because I sob and scream like I am being brutally murdered.

No offense, but remember that women are emotional, so you're already at a disadvantage.

But this is tough to tackle...maybe instead of crying about what grinds your gears, you take a minute to regain composure and assess the issue at hand and try to solve it...

If you cannot solve it, try to use a line of thinking that if it is out of your control, then don't worry of it.

...okay they won't baby you through this shit.

You will need to religiously read through the syllabus so you know when shit is due and what to have read/studied beforehand.

Tests and exams will be the main bulk of most grades, so always do homework, show up to lecture, to get easy points and just prepare for tests and exams.


Don't bring shit you're willing to have stolen. If so, learn how to hide shit and not tell anyone (still wondering how I'd sneak my Xbox one with me...I don't like it when others touch my shit)

For some reason they don't let you cook your own food
>Goya master race
....still bull


In case of mass shooting/stabbing/truck of peace...security ain't that great and you can't conceal carry to a school...learn how to hide or run I guess
just focus on your studies

Don't listen to what your parents think, because you'll be enduring it not them and get as much researsch/info from friends or peers or just people with experience, also understand what you can gain from going to college, like what your degree will give you and if the school will benefit you with what you're pursuing.

You kinda have to put a lot of effort socially if you want that money to spent worthwhile and not become just coming out with the paper and nothing.
Uuh just be careful.
University is so scary due to the fact that you can fuck yourself over so easily over some simple thing. Like diffusing a bomb or something.

-meme degree here
>art degree although tuitions low but still...fuck man

nobody will kill you if you do something wrong
ask if you dont know, talk to ppl, teachers are ppl too

there is no reason to be afraid

in HS you were a kid, everyone had authority over you, you had alot of responsibilities and little freedom

now this is changed
very few ppl can tell you what to do, you are learning what you wanted and (thats your responsibility basicly) and you have ALL the freedom you wanted

maybe a bit too much for a young adult, watch yourself and youll be fine

No idea

Plot twist would be a hernia and hurt a lot more.

But really, ask a doctor about this shit

>>18423670
Stomach, intestine or bladder infections make my balls ache

They're going to take your balls