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My left foot has been infested with some extreme, chronic form of Athlete's foot for 10 years. I'm a 22 y.o. male, pic related of my left foot. My right foot is has been perfect the whole 10 years; no yellow toenails or imperfections of the skin. My left foot has been covered in red bumps that are often itchy and provoke the feeling of heat.

I have tried many treatments over the years, none that have worked. Some include oral pills, painting some form of ointment on the nails, creams to rub into the skin, and sprays.

How/what should I do about this situation? It has been maybe 2-3 years since my last attempt at a doctor to fix this. I dislike it so much I realistically consider surgical removal of my foot. This situation prevents me from small everyday activities. I do not go barefoot with this foot publicly; no public beaches or swimming events with friends. Around the house, I refuse to have the foot touch my bed; I will always wear a sock.

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I seem to be lacking something that other men seem to have. I don't seem to have that masculine spark that keeps women interested? Or grabs their attention. My friends have described me as really forgettable. As in, they can never tell if I was at a party or not or whatever.

I am frustrated because I feel like my attempts at dating are suffering because I lack that certain spark.

I don't know how to obtain. I am a very by the book guy. I believe in formulas and processes and things like that. For example. 1+1 will always equal 2.

With dating... this doesn't seem to be so. I can say what my friend says to a girl and not get her number. He can say the same thing and get her number.

It's a very weird situation to me. I am use to "if you do this, in this order exactly, your outcome will be this! Always!" Always being the key word.

I like consistency. I hate variables because most of the time you will never know the unknowns. I don't mind unknown factors but I am appalled by the thought of never discovering what the unknown factors are.

Help.

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So I can't stop thinking about my ex that I broke up with week ago. It was a clean break up and it was long distant and I had trust issues with her.

She had a promiscuous background and when I was with her she would get ridiculous amount of text from other guys. I really don't know why I even got with her to begin with.

But anyways there was a time when I went to her house late at night randomly and when I was with her she got a text from a guy saying "Up to mess around ;)"
She told me that he text her two weeks ago and won't stop texting her. And got mad when I told her she probably cheated on me a night I wasn't there.
Another time we were together and a she got a phone call and she hung up right away. I told her to call that number back. And when she called it was a guy on the other end and said "jerk" like he knew who he was talking too. but of course she answer in a rude tone and said she doesn't know who the caller is.

I feel like a jackass for keeping this relationship alive so long and in the end she still won't admit she cheated on me. And there was times she would cry and tell me how much she loves me and how loyal she is to me. It really amazes me how someone could cry on cue if they cheated on me in the past.

whats your guys opinion on this? Do you think this person cheated and will never admit to it. And she was suppose to fly down here where i live but I broke up with her and told her ill reimburse her for the plance ticket. Which I'm having second thoughts of doing. I feel like I have enough proof she cheated on me.

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After some introspection, I realized how shallow I am. I keep buying stuff, hoping it will make me happy and always end up regretting it. Here are some examples

>I love cars
>buy 2011 manual Camaro SS
>have fun for a while and now filled with regret and didn't make me happier, just a whole lot poorer

>acquintance has insane cardio because he does cycling daily
>thought it would be a good idea by being greener, less expensive than a car, will help me get in better shape and meet people
>buy 3.5k CAD worth of bike and gear
>realize it's a whole lot more dangerous than I thought, I love like a fucking try hard douche, no friends to ride with, school and job far by bike

>I love guns and history
>buy a nice Tikka T3 bolt action
>realize that shooting .308 weekly is expensive
>sell it and buy SKS
>shoot loads of bullets but I end up regretting getting into this money sink hobby

I know, I give off some supreme gentleman vibes but I am not. I just try to be normal and have hobbies like everybody.

What can I do? What does it mean about me?

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I'm in a massive dilemma. I have two great job opportunities and I need to decide between them.

On the one hand is my current job: its research at a top university (and i mean literally top) in something related to my degree but slightly softer. Whilst the work is fairly dull, if i stikc at it I may get the opportunity to pursue a PhD in a discipline slightly softer than the one i actually studied (I studied Economics, but the PhD would be geography). Essentially the major core benefit would be having the name of the university + the words phd on my cv, because it provides a passport for many highly-skilled positions. Although you might think it a meme, many friends with PhDs have told me that this is unfortunately the case.

The job I have just been offered and I'm about to ditch my current job for: Government economist role, 2 years as a junior, then you become a mid-level economist in the government and get paid fairly handsomely for my age. There is also opportunities to undertake a second masters and then use that as a way to get into a PhD (albeit in all likelihood at a lesser university). Alternatively the opportunities of being poached by the private sector are also quite high and the pay is theoretically even more handsome.

Whilst the latter seems like a comfier route which gives me more choice and experience. My current trajectory seems like a catapult to success, because in almost all of my career trajectories I can only imagine a PhD from a top university would be helpful to reaching the more interesting opportunities and top careers.

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A new restaurant is opening in my town. They say they just need people with flexible hours who is willing to work weekends. I fit that bill. The problem is that they're looking for a waiter and that job has always seemed extremely difficult to me.

It seems so fast paced and insanely difficult to carry around a huge stack of plates without spilling any, and I'm not sure I could do it.

Am I overthinking this or being a pussy? They pay is good and it would be a good job, I just have no experience working in a restaurant and being a waiter. I'm not sure I could do it.

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I'm a woman, to start.

My buttcheeks, lower back, and underneath my thighs are more hairy than normal as I have a genetic hormonal imbalance. The guy I'm with, who is incredibly hairy himself, has expressed that body hair is ugly. I have a noticeable amount of hair. It's not terminal hair but it's still obviously there. Should I shave it for the first time? Should I set that standard for the relationship, or should I just be honest and not go so crazy with the shaving? I'm already shaving my stomach (I get a thin happy trail and stomach hair) and legs...

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Got a date with a goth girl on Friday and it's going to rain.

The thing is she loves the rain and so do I, but she wanted to take a walk through a cemetery. Might be raining too hard for that, any ideas for good places to take a goth girl who hates normie culture?

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How to deal with being a shit person when drunk? Especially now with all the guilt from last night, The fucking guilt and regret is hunting me.
Last night I got out of hand and became very bothersome to some people.
The weird thing is that when I'm sober, I'm really calm and chill, but I became agressive and intrusive. I don't remember many things, but people told me I did a lot of stupid stuff.
I'll stop drinking when going out, tho.

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I have an interview at Wal-Mart tomorrow.

Send help

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On Saturday I've agreed to meet up with a girl, we haven't decided what to do yet but I'll probably go to the park if it's nice. I think she wants the d but not 100% sure. We met at work. Her rented, empty airbnb is nearby.

What I want to know is how do I escalate from ambiguously hanging out at the park, to banging at her place

Also, is it worth explicitly saying I only want a one night stand, or is that autismal? I think she knows..

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>Girlfriend of two years has always been dishonest and manipulative
>I stayed for so long because I really did love her and she would beg me back dozens of times telling me she will change only to keep being dishonest
>Find out huge thing she kept behind my back
>I have a mental breakdown
>She breaks up with me
>Try hanging myself
>Find out yesterday that she got with the guy she told me was gay and shouldn't worry about
>I'm a complete mess that gave up so much of myself and my future for those two years

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Okay /adv/ this is going to sound batshit retarded, but please bare with me.

I'm in between semesters at college & have had no luck getting a job, but luckily I landed a gig cleaning a cottage to make a little scratch.

The issue is that I have no idea how to clean.

Like, what do o start with? I know the floors have to be cleaned. Should I do the floors in sperate rooms separately, or do them all at once?

The only furniture is a few cupboards and bookshelves and stuff since it was a recent purchase and they're just preparing it to be lived in.

There's a bunch of stuff in one of the rooms that I'm pretty sure needs to stay--like a pile of stuff (a light, vacuum, a blanket & some other shit) so when I clean that room should I move all that shit out, clean it then move it back in? Or would that track a bunch of dust/dirt from the other room that hasn't been cleaned yet?

Any help is really appreciated despite how retarded this thread is.

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The other day I was reminiscing with friends about our experiences back in high school and I was reminded by a suppressed memory.

In my high school days I was considered a nerd. I was okay with it because I believed my work ethic would benefit me in life (which it mostly did). As is typical for the nerd, I was suspect to the usual bullying. The beatings stopped after middle school but the "psychological" bullying sorta changed me drastically as a person.

Essentially whenever I'd raise my hand and get an answer wrong the whole class would let out a sigh of disappointment. I was aware it was a joke and it didn't bother me at first. However over time it escalated and extended to any interaction. I started to sense some malicious intent at the rude/snarky comments. At the time it killed my self confidence and I stopped talking trying to even participate in class.

This treatment lasted for 2 years and it changed my mindset when it came to interacting with people. I put my social life on halt (to a degree even to this day) and just focussed on whatever tasks I wanted to improve; be it school, sports or some other projects.

I graduated top of my year and continue to do well in that regard. This insane insecurity of mine drove my work rate through the roof. I remember not eating or leaving my room for days just being consumed by my studies like a madman.

I'm in grad school and my colleagues didn't attend the same school; they were shocked/weirded out by this story. I'm aware this mindset isn't healthy and I want to become a well-adjusted adult. Also to add, I didn't become a complete social retard. I still can interact just fine and even fake the small talk and whatnot, but I don't like talking to people anymore.

TLDR; I enjoy the struggle of working too much, how do I become a normie and enjoy social interactions (parties, dates, etc.)?

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Bf has tangled himself in coworker drama. What should I do

>bf worked with some chad for couple of years
>chad knocked up some girl at work
>they stayed together and live together
>knocked up girl finds better job
>while she prego, and after she had the baby, chad is fucking new girl at work
>she's as dumb as they come
>chad convinces side chick she's the only one
>she gets knocked up by chad, he convinces her to abort
>side chick buys chad a car, gives him hundreds to thousands of dollars on the reg


Here's where my bf has entangled himself
>bf likes to get caught up in all the drama because he thinks it's funny
>side chick girl constantly DM's bf on insta
>mainly complaining about chad, suspect of him still being with the baby mama
>she DMs bf multiple times a week to complain how chad never posts about her online, how chad treats her like shit, etc.
>she likes, comments, etc. on anything bf posts
>bf tells me about her regularly, usually he's completely talking shit, saying she's an idiot and etc.

Bf is basically tangled in the web. Chad doesn't even work with him anymore. Side chick doesn't even work there anymore. He doesn't even talk to chad, only side chick. It annoys me how he's become some dumbass girl's "tissue box" but also frequently talks shit about her to me.

Honestly, I did become suspicious of them. And my curiosity got the best of me. I snooped. Found nothing other than her spilling her dumb emotions through DM's and all my bf does is respond "ok" and "that sucks" and "idk" to all her ranting.

I've hinted to bf that he should get out now before there is too much involvement. I know their 'friendship' doesn't even leave the DM. He never sees her. Just loves to get the scoop on all the pettiness.

I've been so tempted just to add her on insta and tell her she's the other woman. Just so it will all stop. Even want to throw in a "my bf just laughs at you with me" just because I'm annoyed. But that's my pettiness speaking. What should I do?