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Originally posted this on /r9k/ but got promptly told to move here.

and what exactly is your question? would there be any if she was white?

>>18423315
Well considering she would be the first muslim and black girl I'll date, I was wondering what are things to look out for.

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>>18423235
You are expecting too much from love.

It's normal to feel less exited about something after awhile. It's normal to have bad days sometimes.

you are incapable of thought

>>18423235
>tfw too smart for love.
It's natural in that it's how people work. You want something, and you feel a drive to obtain that, you work hard for it. But when you do actually get it, it loses its value and you don't want it anymore. This is similar, although you might be getting to the last point too fast.

>>18423229
Give it another go .. not like you're getting hitched, just another date

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>>18423229

I dont get it? You tried to subtlely reject her or what? Seems like you're the autistic one.

You obviously have some knee problem that got worse by the stress. I have knee problems too (don't recall the name) and one time I hurt it pretty bad jumping to grab some Mardi Gras beads, but it got better after a few days.

Get your shit diagnosed, if it hurts it's wrong. At least you'll find out dos and don'ts about it

>>18423182
What do I do I can't afford to go to the doctor's about it.
Like, things I could try before going to the doctor's?

Assuming it's nothing crazy your body should be able to heal itself given time. rest, put your feet up and ice it if it's hot painful or swollen. Try not to do anything to make it worse. If you can't afford to see a doctor look for a free clinic in your area. Like the other anon said it sounds like you have some sort of pre existing condition considering that you're young, not overweight, and can't walk more than a mile without your knees hurting.

>>18423138
baked beans are easy
casseroles are easy, something like a green bean casserole.

https://www.campbells.com/kitchen/recipes/classic-green-bean-casserole/

>>18423138
Drinks, cookies from wal mart

Some potato salad from like Albertans. Anything prepped from the food section at any grocery store really. Maybe some chips and dip?

>>18423110
Get a hobby you enjoy

Understand we've it's crossed all of our minds at some point, we're only just fragile humans stuck on this big beautiful blue marble for some reason.

Try meditation

>>18423108
Go be there for your friend, or you're not really a friend. This happens to dying people all the time, and it's sad how lonely they are in their final weeks or days
>b-but I just don't know how to help

That's not the point. You're not there to make them feel better. The point is to be there for them so they aren't alone. Dying is scarier than being in the same room as a dying person.

Greatest regret I have is when I thought "I couldn't handle" being in the same room as my friend on her death bed. There is nothing I regret more than my cowardice then. I do my best to make up for it by visiting anyone I know any time they're ever in the hospital, even when they're dying, but it will never clear away my shame.

>>18423157

If I'm not a real friend, so be it. But I still want to help in some way.

It's just that way is not by being sad about, or watching someone be sad about death.

I know this is fucked up, but the only reason I'm alive is a narrowly failed suicide attempt. Right now, my life is better than it's ever been, but I still know that death is not the worst thing out there: pain is. And the guy is beating himself up, and won't stop, and I can't blame him, but I don't want to get caught up in it either.

Point is, I'm not willing to be there getting brought down, but I'm also not going to just push it off like it doesn't matter.

>>18423108
OP, from the bottom of my heart: Talk with us about anything you want, but dont let your friend alone.
Do you want my throwaway skype/discord for personal chats?

>>18423095
I've been where you are, and let me start saying that you need to set priorities in your life

What is your main goal now?
Seems to me that university is your primary objective here. Study more, dedicate your time to it. Do good on your tests. I know it isn't easy at first to switch from 8 hours of straight porn-youtube-4chan to study and books, so you'll do it gradually.
The human mind is like a laptop. If you charge it all the time, one day the battery won't work anymore. Your brain is the battery. If you simply put information on and on 24/7 from 4chan, reddit, youtube and don't exercise it, you'll go dumb. Been there, done that.
So you are going to start by changing your habits. Tomorrow, instead of browsing 4chan all day, dedicate 1 hour to your studies. It can be at any time of the day, but it'll have to be 1 hour. It's the fist goal you need to reach.
And then, after tomorrow, you'll do the same again. Once you develop the habit of studying for an hour, make it 2 hours and so on. Train your brain.

Exercise. At least twice a week. Your body functions better, your mind works better, everything gets better when you exercise. Go to a gym or start swimming, these 2 are the best ones for you. If you don't like them, go for a competitive sport. You'll make friends and have a new healthy hobby instead of virtual thrash.


Read.
Seriously, read more. I study civil engineer and the lack of books in my course has diminished my vocabulary a lot. A well read man is an interesting man and a sharp one. Do you want to introduce yourself like "huh hey guys i'm anon" or like a real man?
Also, i'm telling you to read, not watch graphic avengers. The lowest you can go is reading the lord of the rings, which is a great piece of work, but still fantasy content. Read the art of war - sun tzu, understand the bible, read history books and try to understand the world you live in.

Follow these steps and you'll be a new man

No porn. Just stop watching it, jerk off if you have to but don't make it a thing. And get on wellbutrin or something if you want because you are depressed and there is no reason not to treat it.

>>18423095
occupy your time anon

the only reason you spend your time on the internet's shitholes is because you do nothing
Join a book club, start playing chess, learn a new language, study on your uni's library. Go out, talk to people. Fill your life with good content for you

You ain't addicted to these, you simply don't know anything but it. If you try NoFap at home doing nothing it'll only cause harm for you. Start playing tennis, meet new people, understand the nfl and talk to some guys about it, when you think about it you'll realise it's been a week since you last watched porn and there you go, you are one step closer to changing your life

it's easy, you can do it

change to 6'0

>>18423086
put up a cool picture of you on the piano

mention you're very good with your fingers

get rid of that awful slav squat pic

Change your first pic to something else, first impressions are everything and that one is not so flattering. Also put something more in your bio, girls love something funny. Especially if it's about food.

>>18423061

>>18423061
AA meetings.
>ib4 shifting goalposts

>>18423074
that's the worst place because most of them are still drinking just not during meetings, although sometimes they'll bring in flasks or cups or bottles filled with alcohol.

>>18423055
I was gonna say something but then I realise I have no idea what to do either

>>18423078
Yeah, I just can't think of anything. It's a little worrying to be honest.

I play guitar, get real drunk, and jack off til I fall asleep. Every year.

>>18423037
replace his medicin with some tictacs or w/e

>>18423037
Why the fuck does it matter? Grow up you fucking child.

>>18423069
I would do that

Had to break up text. :'(

(Cont.) We both pretty much laughed at said idea and went on to work to be with eachother as often as possible and seeing eachother as much as financially possible.
Fast forward to the now. She'll be back and living with me again as highly approved by her mother. I've been thinking a lot about that time we had talked marriage briefly and have found myself fantasizing more then often us being married and such. This has been my longest and deepest relationship and we both want to be together and grow old together. Marriage would only seem natural, but not everyone is like that, and we share pretty damn similar ideals on such matters. I want to ask her to marry, I want to pop the question but I don't know if I should. To both be binded to her in another form of contract and to better my chances of being with her. What do?

TL;DR: Should I ask to my qt Swiss waifu to marry me cuz I love her as well as it being an e-z one way ticket to Swiss citizenship.

>>18423030
Yes. Life moves staggeringly fast, don't spend it paralyzed by indecision.

Have many health Swiss children and do your part for our dying civilization. Good luck buddy, hope you find happiness.

>>18423030
I think you have already decided

>>18423021

From other things besides the beer you drank, probably.

>>18423084

perhaps..

I was just thinking it was the beer. Could the hops or alcohol be irritating my intestinal lining because I haven't had any in probably 6 months?

>>18423021
I'm no gastrologist, but it could have upset the gut flora in your stomach. Since you've been so clean for these months, your gut is probably more sensitive and you feel disturbances more. Happens to people living healthy all the time.

Laying down may have jostled things and made you aware of what was going on.

I'm no doctor though, so I can't be certain of it

>>18422983
Only way to know for sure is to escalate. Start with telling jokes and lightly touching her, if she's cool grab her by the waist and point at something and talk about it, if she's cool try to cop a feel of her ass, if she's cool proceed to kissing and sex.

Also never ask her if she wants X just do it and watch her reaction

>>18422996
And make sure you have something to drink

You don't have to get drunk but it gives her an excuse for escalation (oh i was drinking so it's ok we fucked)

>>18423005
Thanks for all the tips. Would you suggest bringing something to drink, or should I rely on her having some?