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>>18531062

People in Europe don't care about other people's business. That said, it's universally known among Europeans that folks who do act out that way in public are either drunk/drugged, exhibitionists or desperate to prove they're not virgins anymore. kek

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>>18531101

>That said, it's universally known among Europeans that folks who do act out that way in public are either drunk/drugged, exhibitionists or desperate to prove they're not virgins anymore

They didn't seem drunk or drugged. They just seemed super into each other. But, it just was really inappropriate because they were literally in the middle of line.. or, when I was walking through the park by the Eiffel Tower. There was a girl laying on top of her boyfriend in the field just glued to his face.. there was a LOT of this all over..

Really makes you think as a kissless 20 year old, how comes I am missing out on so much of the good stuff JUST by my free will, it is hilarious but it is true

It's cliche to say this but I believe everybody has something to offer, some natural aptitude in life. You may not be destined for "greatness" in the sense of fame or fortune, but don't give up on finding something that makes you special

>>18530972
I don't care about fame or fortune. What kept me going was the belief that if I found an interesting enough subject that I could dedicate myself to, I could become world-class at it.
But given that my interest is in STEM and that I'm not gifted, I'll never become one of the best.

>>18530947
A good college friend of mine was a math major. He told me one day that all the truly great mathematicians in history had done their groundbreaking work by the time they were 18. "How do you suppose it feels to know for certain that you're second-rate?"

I asked him what he was going to do about it. "I'm going to be one of the best second-rate mathematicians around."

He went on to become a professor of math at a good university, teaching hundreds of others very well.

The point is that you don't have to be a top-tier world-beating champion at what you do to be able to do good work that you can be proud of in any field.

>>18530888
Keep applying for jobs. Call them and actually go to the business you requested a job at. Demand an interview. If the jobs don't come to you. You gotta get your dick wet, suck in your taint. And fuck shit up bro. Or you'll fall into neet hood.

>>18530888
this is some tough shit, happened to me too: make sure you try and keep getting out there, yeah, you'll have to cut back on expenses but try and keep fit and meeting friends. make it known to your network you're looking for work etc.
get back to the dole office and try to sort that shit out. Zero hour contracts (which I'm guessing it was) are a bitch to deal with, but suck it up and fight your corner for the dole if you can advice from the Citizens advice office or whatever the equivalent is. Work through a book like What Color is Your Parachute, should be online or in your local library or s/h bookshop.

And don't underestimate the power of the proverbial "firm handshake", sometimes online applications just don't cut it.

>>18530895
Thanks yo. I'll start hopping around town in person, I hope they appreciate it because it's 105F lately

People have a wandering eye sometimes, it's pretty horrible of you to shit on your bf like that but ignorance is bliss, should've denied it

He feels rejected and scorned, you're not gonna fix this issue unless your bf is ready to, which by all intents and purposes seems unlikely

>>18530880
Why the fuck did you get a crush for someone while being in a committed relationship? Do you just crush on people in your immediate vicinity? If I were him I'd be pissed to. Get your shit together.

Then on top of that, he threatened to tell his family about it so they can see me in a different light. I don't want to leave him, I want to resolve it.

It really is fine, it's all in your head. Keep in mind that you can share these emotions to her, but in the end, it's about you and she can't help you unless she's a psych major. You need to help yourself here.

You sound like you are clingy, overemotional and have dependancy issues. I can relate to that shit, but I am slowly getting over this, since throughout my life I have had a knack for doing awkward shit and getting burned for it, and by now, I have just stopped caring about failure and adopted a more fuck-all attitude. Doesn't mean I have become antisocial, just that I am not overcomplicating things for me so much anymore.

I would unironically recommend you to watch some movies to get your mind off yourself and start viewing your issues as something that can be separate compartments in your mind. Here's a great list of movies you can maybe relate to (I don't mean the topics, but the atmosphere of these movies).

>Requiem for a Dream (2000)
>Heaven Knows What (2014)
>Donnie Darko (2001)
>The Spectacular Now (2013)
>Un homme qui dort (1974)

Last one is up on youtube with english subs, the rest are available on piratebay, but you can also use netflix if you have an account to view those.

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>>18530798
you speak an unbelievable amount of truth here for me, man.

i was once horribly clingy and codependent. at the beginning of our relationship, we addressed this and basically acknowledged that despite our traces of super dependence, that we'd phase ourselves in the long run to become independent - two wholes rather than one half making up a whole.

i am extremely overemotional, and i just... i don't know. i look around at others' relationships, as well as the ones my friends are in. i never ask because i'd hate to be intrusive, but whenever i hear the concerns others exhibit in their relationships, it's never to a degree of overthinking or like some advanced introspection into themselves. it's always face-value things like "she's been distant" or "he didn't reply for a few minutes", which i understand, and are very basic and practical concerns.

anyways... i don't intend to start another diary haha. i can't tell you how much i appreciate your reply. i really needed that first line... i know she can't help me, or anyone else that isn't a total fucking professional, for that matter. i can only help myself.

i don't even watch movies and this makes me want to renew my netflix account - i won't take it for granted. i'll probably start with the 2000 one, there's something about the 00's that i just vibe with on another level.

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OP here, kinda writing to no one in particular, but as sort of writing into the abyss so that maybe someone empathizes with it, and if not, maybe as just as sort of truly concentrating what i feel.

this overthinking... feels like an uphill battle, where i can't see the top, and each inch i move upwards is met by a hurricane of negative thought and doubt trying to knock me off.

every time i start to re-familiarize myself with the thought of not having an anxiety or worry about myself with her, i find about 5-6 "reasons" to stay worried (self-doubt, mostly). i feel like i'm starting to see a light, but it keeps getting overshadowed by these moronic, baseless fears.

but i think something's starting to work. even in saying that, i am trying to doubt myself, but i can only pray it's true..

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>>18530649
It's not "my body, my decisions", it's "I am a woman AND I AM STRONG, FUCK HUMAN RIGHTS, TOO MUCH MAN, WE NEED GIRL RIGHTS!!!!! REEEEEEEEEE"
Meanwhile they don't see all their privileges that men don't get.

what is this, MGTOW b8?

Thank God you didn't get a vasectomy, you will eventually grow up and be happy you are able to have children

That girl is very attractive.

>>18530654
Rather very fucking fit to have your babies right now.

get one who apperciates you
the older they get the more they will like that

>>18530425
>whore plays into your girlfriend experience dreams because she sees an easy longterm investment coming her way

Don't kid yourself. Of course she laughed about your autistic humour. She would have licked your ash clean if she would get paid enough.

Sort yourself out, anon.

>>18530425

Free food? How the fuck could we know what a random hooker is thinking?

Well, surely she might harbour sinister intentions. Is she from your country? Or only semi-legally or even illegally living there? Does she have a pimp, or run business herself?

If she's just a regular chick making money on sidelines, I'll say why not.
Anything else -- be wary.

>>18530301
Depends on the person. Can't help you more than that.

That said, take this as a lesson learned. Nothing wrong with getting a buzz to lower your guard, but don't get shit-hammered. Stay in control.

>>18530314
God, I feel like the most unattractive man out there right now.
Like she wasn't wet at all
Is sex always so exhausting?

>>18530301
Don't worry about this. Ask her to spend time with you again. Maybe get less drunk.

>>18530066
Start doing shit. When you sit around, doing nothing, that's when your mind wanders. When you're actively working on a task, your mind is focused on the task.

>>18530069
When I try to do shit and feel dignified with myself in the present, this niggling voice at the back of my head tell me "No anon, you know you are THIS PERSON and this person wouldn't do what you're doing, therefore you won't change."

>>18530096
Then go and prove that voice wrong. You don't have to accept what the little voice is telling you. You know that, right?

>>18530026
probably. at the very least she probably has low expectations for your relationship and is keeping them in her phone as "back ups" could be worse though.

Tell her to delete them if she wants this relationship to go any further. If she doesn't, break it off, if she does then the problem is solved. Don't be a betafag

>>18530049

i told her once to delete them. she said i am trying to control her and she will delete them later but it never happened.

>>18529703

wait, did you say she was incapable of getting ptsd?

or specifically that there is no experience in competitive horse riding that could induce PTSD?

If your feelings for her disappeared after the fight fuck that bitch. Sometimes seeing how bitchy they get when arguing about something insignificant is more than enough to ruin the relationship. Cheat on her. Fuck her best friend. That bitch is trash. 100% muff cabbage

>>18529723
It's somewhat more complex than that, but I'll give the story.

Basically she described a set of symptoms that did not fit the criteria for PTSD, and a series of events that themselves did not fit the diagnostic criteria for PTSD. Girl had issues related to being fat and having a horse she couldn't break of a bad habit.

I suggested that what she was experiencing, while troubling, was likely not PTSD. I further agreed with her mother that gradual reexposure to horses might help address her aversion to horses. Considering she blows $500/month on keeping her horses, but hasn't ridden in ages, I was trying to help.

Anyway she didn't want the help. Fine. she felt hurt, fine. I apologized. What made me break up with her was being berated for eight hours over the course of the day and the next morning. Not just about how I handled it, but about how I was woefully inadequate as a boyfriend. How I was worthless and useless, which she said as she shoveled my homemade chili down her throat.

I didn't need that. So I packed up my shit and left.

>>18529646
tried it 2 times
came to conclusion
>what the fuck am I doing
>this is like my favourite thing in the world
both times

you might feel different, so go ahead and try

>>18529659
How long were you smoking for before you took your breaks? How long were your breaks? What did you experience when you were sober in regards to overall mood, life goals/plans, relationships, etc.?

>>18529646
Why daily? Don't you have a job/ education you need to attend to?

Go to his house and start shitting everywhere.

Why not just say you want to date him?

He would probably rather you just do that then play all these games.

>>18529404
Put his hand between your legs.

get bf

>>18529084
Not interested in men tho

>>18529072
Bump

Nothing?