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Why do I keep thinking about him? 2016-05-12 17:21:21 Post No.17136727
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Why do I keep thinking about him?
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Backstory first, then tl;dr
Summer 2015 I got my first job at Kmart. It was very hard, I thought, even if I didn't know any better since I never had a job before. Looking back it did suck. I worked 6 days a week, for 5 hours a day, and my days off were arranged so that I'd get 2 days off every 2 weeks.
I have a long distance boyfriend who lives in another state. We have a time difference of either 2 or 3 hours, depending on if daylight savings time is active. Thus, my schedule meant I rarely got to see my lover. I was so lonely and sad.
Despite my efforts, I fell in love with a coworker because he was kind to me and seemed to care. In my depression and loneliness that was all I needed to get hooked, because I missed my boyfriend's love and attention. It was a really hard time for all of us.
Something happened with my coworker and after all this time, nearly a year later, I can't forget him. He let me touch his hair and sometimes we hugged. I found out that I love to be petted. I was ass over teakettle for this guy. But he knew better since he knew I was taken. He was really cautious.
One night my coworker took me bowling, and then we went night driving. The moon was full and big and it was romantic as fuck. Along the way we stopped to talk and we were a little playful with each other. We knew it was "bad" but neither of us wanted to leave each other. It was a really romantic time either way. He had a nice smile.
Why do I keep thinking about this guy? He didn't have a good personality. He was always a busy busy college boy. Why do I care so much? Why can't I let go? Is it because I had feelings for him? He was very fun to touch
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TLDR
>1 year ago, get first job
>never get to see my long distance boyfriend, really
>lonely and depressed, even more than usual
>fall for coworker hard
>had intense feels
>we hugged sometimes
>let me pet him
>why can't I stop thinking about this guy
>even after I cut him out of my life completely
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You're the reason long distance relationships can never work. You actively went out of your way to be a cheating whore
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OP, just break up with your boyfriend and find someone more local to you. Obviously this LDR thing isn't working out for you.
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How is hugging making someone a cheating whore.
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/adv/, is there a manual on how to function as a human being and take care of yourself?
i kinda missed a lot of memos when i was growing up
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Step 1: Try to do things that make you happy
Step 2: Try not to hurt other people in your pursuit of Step 1
If you want a more specific answer, you need to ask a more specific question.
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>>17136702
Different faiths offer ways to live and most reinforce being a good person overall. Explore spirituality and see which path might be right for you! GL!
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>>17136719
>if you want a more specific answer you need to ask more specific questions
mostly this.
>>17136702
im not sure what you are asking really, what aspect of life? all? lets start with the basics.
>get a job
>use your money to pay your rent first, as the rest can be paid when needed
>use leftover money to buy food. as a single person you should be able to eat well with 250 dollars a month. try not to spend more than this.
>use leftover money to pay your bills.
>anything left after that should be split between savings and fun.
shower once a day, brush your teeth twice a day, create a chore chart to make your apartment clean (it will take you less than a half hour a day of cleaning to maintain a small apartment)
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Smoke weed without smelling 2016-05-12 17:07:18 Post No.17136699
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Smoke weed without smelling
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How can I smoke weed without it smelling?
I'm crashing at my dad's place for the week but he's out for a couple days. I want to smoke but he knows the neighbours very well and they'd probably say something. I don't want to smoke in the house for obvious reasons.
There's a garage at the end of my garden that I will probably smoke in, but the neighbours still use their garden (shed converted into a bedroom).
So my plan is to smoke in the garage but obviously without making it really obvious. Tips?
I have access to a bunch of household items. I don't have access to a bong or a vape.
p.s. how do I fend off a smoker's cough (of course, apart from smoking less)
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Forego this bullshit smoking idea, go to the dollar store and get a saucepan and make yourself weed butter.
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There's no way to smoke weed without making a stink.
Just go somewhere else if you need to smoke that bad.
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>>17136726
This
Or you can get dryer sheets/cinnamon
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Erection problems at 24 2016-05-12 17:06:30 Post No.17136695
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>tl;dr unable to keep hard on like I used to unless I'm fapping to porn.
lately I've been having trouble maintaining erections during sex or around women in sexual situations really.
Throughout the day I constantly have massive raging boners for no reason or if something sets me off but during sex or massage I might get a boner momentarily before it dies.
Had raw sex with new gf and did fine the first time though I didn't last long before Cumming inside of her. The next morning we did it again but I lost my erection during sex. Also, I could hardly feel anything(first time had barely any feel as well). Had to stop and encourage it to rise again before barely finishing her.
So all week I've been doing no fap to prepare for gf again.
Today I got a massage at massage parlor(no happy endings but I like it). Normally i have a raging boner when they flip me over because I hope one day they'll give me a hand job but today I only got hard once and stayed soft the whole time until the qt masseuse "accidentally" allowed my hand to rest against her phat ass for a few minutes. Even she seemed disappointed I wasn't at full mast the whole time. She even accidentally touched my dick a few times massaging my upper thigh which she's never done before.
How can I fix it? I think it's a mental problem.
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>>17136695
Simple rule to all losers out there: if you have/want an active sex life, don't fap, don't porn.
Your body is not designed to perform that often. It's unnatural.
If you're bored pick up some other hobbies instead of playing with your dick all the time like a three year old toddler.
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>>17136695
>How can I fix it?
And give the no fap some time. It may need up to three months for you to recover.
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>>17136774
So watching porn without fapping is just as bad?
Is touching myself but not actively jacking off also bad?
>>17136781
3 months? Not sure if I have that much time but Alright. I need to somehow recover for tomorrow when I visit my gfs house.
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So I've seen this music videoclip yesterday where there was these ducks at the toy shop and there were two special ducks who liked each other. One day, the one duck got taken away and the other one went on the search for him. He always snuck into plumber's case and he took him to different ducks each time but she still couldn't find pablo and the other ducks weren't like him at all.
He died in the end.
Does anyone know the link to the youtube video?
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pls help
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anyone?
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>>17136694
Thats sad
Are these signal that my Gf's mom wants to fuck me? Ever since I moved in, she has been wearing some really rights shorts that are always stuck between her cheeks, it's obvious that she doesn't wear any panties, and doesn't wear any bra either, usually when I'm around her, her nipples start to poke out, she constantly makes eye contact with me, and bends over in front of me, all the time, not so long ago, my gf went to meet up with her dad at a restaurant and I stayed home alone with her mom, I sat in the garage chilling, and soon her mom comes in the garage and asks if I'm afraid of coming inside, I said no, and she said she was just "kidding" I went in the house and now she started to ask me questions and walk around the house, then asked me to grab a few towels and to follow her upstairs, as I walked behind her up the stairs, her butt is so close to my face, the worst thing that could have happened is for her to pass a gas, but she didn't, lol. I gave her the towels and went back downstairs, then she called me and asked for me to bring her a candle and so I did, this time she was "fixing" her bed, hoping for me to offer help but I didn't (I regret this) she constantly gets close to me, to the point where I have no other option but to brush my crotch on her, but so far I haven't done it, she has even dared to bend when I walk behind her, just to pick up a piece of paper or something insignificant off the floor, what do I do guys??? I'm confused
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What do you WANT to do?
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>>17136745
I want to fuck, she's hot!
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>>17136681
Meanwhile in another thread
>I think my daughters bf has the hots for me
>keeps staring at my ass
>rubbing his junk on me
>I swear to god I can't even ask him for help around the house without him sniffing my ass
It's hot where we live so i usually dress light because it's my own home and this doesn't seem to be helping
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Hey /adv/ I need help
My girlfriend dumped me last friday after I got jealous of her talking to her ex boyfriend. She dumped me and said it was because she couldn't take me being jealous anymore and therefore I felt guilty all weekend. This confused me as she always got jealous too. And id deal with it. Anyways, she told me not to talk to her until Monday therefore making me feel lonlier and shittier about myself. But hopeful I could fix it. Then come Monday we talked face to face. And I find out she actually left me because for like a week now she felt something for someone else. That someone else happens to be her ex boyfriend that cheated on her and guilt tripped her into her first time. It hurt so fucking bad finding out because now I feel like I was just a rebound. I feel like our relationship didn't mean shit. She was the first girl I brought to meet my family and hang out at my house for extended amounts of time (almost every day). I know this guys gonna hurt her again and I'm pretty sure she might be coming back begging to take her back. And I think I might give her a chance if I find out she's changed. As I know people can change. I used to be horribly jealous. But now I've reflected it and changed. And I do appreciate the fact that she didn't cheat on me and decided to break up before she did anything like that. But now I see her with her new/ex bf everywhere and I don't know what the hell to do or how to deal with it. It hurts and I wanna break down. And punch something and I'm just really upset. Im not hungry and I keep getting anxiety and panic attacks. Part of the reason Im not horribly angry at her is the fact that she has BPD and she like can't control outbursts and gets mad. But I still feel like I was betrayed. I feel sad and hurt like hell :( how do I deal with this?
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>>17136650
Don't fuck crazy pussy
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>>17136650
Just the same as you believe that this guy will hurt her after cheating on her previously, you have to realise that you'd be doing the same by taking her back.
Use this time to get over her and don't bother taking her back. You want to be her rebound twice?
Take care of yourself, she's making poor decisions with her life- don't do the same with yours.
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Jesus Christ, just get over it. Stop all contact with her, immerse yourself into hobbies and work and you'll stop caring at some point.
Keeping in touch with her and eventually accepting her back will only lead to more pain for you. People can change, but they very rarely do so. VERY rarely.
Also have some dignity.
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Hey /adv/
I wanted to know if a councelor could really advise a client to stop communicating with a rape victim. It doesn't seem ethical to me.
I ask because a friend of mine was in a ldr with a guy from SMU Dallas. She lives in Austin about 4 hours away. She was raped and immediately told her boyfriend about what had happened. The guy stopped communication with her immediately even though she offered to give him criminal case number and the contact for the police officer who took the report. This happened during SMU's annual Rape Awareness month
Found out weeks later that the guy had been advised by a counselor to cut all ties to the victim.
This doesn't seem ethical for a couselor to ever suggest that a client ignore a rape victim.
thoughts?
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>Found out weeks later that the guy had been advised by a counselor
How did you even find that out and how can you be so sure?
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op here.
Mutual friend informed victim that the boyfriend had been advised by his counselor at SMU to not communicate with her.
Victim and I called the head of the SMU counseling department to verify. They stated that though they could not discuss the details of the boyfriend's counseling sessions they did verify that they felt it best for their student to not communicate with the victim
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Well this can go 2 ways:
1. The counsellor misunderstood that her boyfriend was involved in the rape somehow and has advised him not to speak to her for legal reasons
2. The boyfriend revealed in the counselling sessions that he had nothing nice to say about the whole situation and the counsellor thought it best to tell him to cut contact rather than have him go back and start shit with her - I mean, she was willing to give him her criminal case number? So he doesn't believe her? Not very nice of him, is it?
At any rate, what do you think would be changed by her boyfriend being in contact with her?
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I have alot of old hoodies and shorts that dont fit anymore. Is there a good place to dump these or should I trash them?
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>>17136598
Lose some weight.
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>>17136603
The stuff I have is to short because I had no idea how clothing was supposed to fit at the time. Working on the weight as well
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Bumping with more Shabani
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I have issues with hand flapping (used to do it as a child all the time, but now as an 18 yo adult I do it only when I'm alone listening to music. Or when I'm alone and excited.)
I also used to bang my head against the wall as an infant. In addition, I used to act like I was a cat (meowing a lot).
Is this a problem? I've never really seeked help from psychiatrists etc. with this because muh parents r like, "lol it'll go away when you get older"
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>>17136594
Sounds like you're stimming. Maybe you're mildly autistic?
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>>17136858
I apologize for coming off as such. My baby sibling does similar things when he is excited/happy/upset and I personally suspect he may be autistic--actually autistic, not whatever derogatory term it's come to mean on here--although my parents say otherwise.
OP could be autistic or maybe just quirky.
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>>17136866
I have adhd and it influences me to do the first action that comes to mind, whatever the fuck it is. I ignore it really well when I'm not in at home, and when I'm around anyone else, but when I'm alone, I just go with it.
It's not the same thing, I'm sure, but I say it to point out that it could be something else.. Maybe?
I also have an autistic little brother as well as two other little brothers who may or may not be as well.
I figure I post this here too in case there's additional advuce.
>Tfw trap bf just broke up with me an hour and a half ago
The same one thst I lost my virginity to and kiss virginity. First relationship. Everything
>>>/r9k/28512327
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>>17136553
What is your question?
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>>17136567
How do I get over this shit? More importantly how is it even possible to find someone like that again? I got real lucky this time. I just feel like horseshit
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Yeah, that really sucks op. It's not too uncommon though. Really, just stick in there and try to distract yourself. things will settle how they need to
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I'll go straight to the point:
Do women enjoy having "orbiters" because it increase their sexual pleasure with the guy that actually fucks them?
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it makes you feel desireable and wanted, which boosts confidence, which boosts assertivenes and libido, which makes for pretty great sex. so, actually, yes.
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>>17136541
fucking whores. elliot rodger did nothing wrong
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>>17136543
atta boy
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hi /adv/...
i seriously need help here. i try to make it simple.
im 20 years old now and in uni me and my gf are together since last year in high school that's 2 years we planned to go to the same uni together but that didn't work out soo we end up in 2 different unis and we are like 26 hours drive away from each other the thing is i dont know what im doing we rarely see each other and and im devoted to the relationship and she is too i can tell you countless stories how i acted like a pussy and turned girls down but recently like i said i dont know what im doing im very horny normal fap doesn't do the job anymore sometimes im thinking about getting engaged with to save it
soo i need help from you guys about how to make distant relationship work and how to control this wild lust? thank you
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>>17136536
Hi man. There is no correct answer here but in my opinion you should sacrifice your studies for her.
I'm telling you this because I'm older than you and I know for sure there's nothing more important than women. If you are succesful in your career but don't have sex and love, you are going to regret not going with her when you had the chance.
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>>17136536
Why not just break up? Apparently there are plenty of women available to you
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>>17136542
ahh that's really rock bottom i dont have any serious job that can take care of her or future surprises
thanks senpai
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Is this manipulation? 2016-05-12 15:33:45 Post No.17136525
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I had problems with my gf before, even went to a psychologist (that psychologist was a little bit weird), she told me that my gf was a manipulative person.
Lately I've been sick, like really bad diarrhea that doesn't allow me to go out of my house (that's what the medic told me). It's dangerous to go outside without a bathroom near in the condition I am right now.
Problem is, I can't go places with her too. And everytime this happens she starts messaging/saying "Oh, it would be so good if you were here because this is so great" while i'm in the bathroom dumping all my soul in liquid form.
It seems weird, and to be honest feels bad because I always explained to her "I'm really sorry but I can't go in the condition I am, hope you have a nice time". At least that kind of stuff of "it would be better if you were here" makes me feel worse because I really want to go outside the fucking batroom.
I invited her to an important event for next week, she refused because a friend of hers asked her a favor. And i'm cool with that, not like her, that gets angry when I say I can't for reasons that really don't allow me to go.
Am I overreacting or what? Maybe I'm feeling bad because right now I have this freaking diarrhea, I don't know, but I don't think it's fair.
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Idk. Maybe it depends on how many times you've stood her up. If she got angry the first few times then something.
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Son, first of all, eat some rice and drink water.
And yeah, she is manipulating you. She was guilt tripping you. Break up with her asap.
Sorry for your troubles.
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What a bitch she is supose to suport you get rid off her
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My grandma died last night at 4:50 am fuck :(
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>>17136493
Condolences OP.
hang in there
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>>17136493
Sorry to hear man
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What a shame.