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>>17137135
Depends on the schools you're applying to. Go check their admission standards and see if you're above, below or right in the average.

>>17137135
You need a bare minimum of 1600, 4.5 gpa, and 10 extracurricular activities(sports don't count) to get into any good schools

>>17137135
So are you telling us you got 1240/2400 and not /1600, which is what they changed it to. If so, that's a garbage score, and you need to retake it.

>>17137107
No. You already told them when you would have your decision. Employers will give, at most, 48 hours to accept a job offer. But because you already committed to when you would have an answer, you have until the end of today. You fucked up.

Either way, you wouldn't have made the time limit for the current offer by waiting to hear back from the other.

Call the second job, tell them you have received an offer from a company and have to get back to them today. Explain that you really want to work for them (the 2nd company) and ask if there is any way to expidite the decision process. They will likely say no, they need time to decide all of their options. Then you have your answer and you need to take the first offer. NEVER wait for the second when you have a deadline on the first option.

>>17137121
Thanks anon. So it wouldn't be disrespectful or anything or look bad calling the second company right? Just making sure, I'd like to stay on good terms with both just to keep future options only.

>>17137126
No, it's totally fine to call. It shows you really want to work for them. This happens all the time. Just be sincere with them when you say you really want to work there, and just want to know if there's a way they can move forward with your application today. Like I said, it's not likely to work--you've put their feet to the fire in a matter of hours. But all you can do is try.

>>17137090
Mix something highly toxic into a bag of meth and leave it out somewhere they will find it.

ffs just leave them alone fucking snitch
Theyre hurting their bodies not anyone elses

you must really be an unpleasant human being

No. Wishing someone a happy birthday won't get them to want to be with you, especially in your scenario.

Can't you just wish her happy birthday because you are happy she was born in this world on this day and leave it at that WITHOUT your stupid ass orbiting plans?

>>17137067
This. You sound like a 'nice guy'. Those are the slimiest

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>>17137036

Maybe your neighbors really enjoy sex?

Frankly, if I were you I would be expecting to have some pretty fantastic dreams if this is how your imagination works.

>>17137073
I'm pretty sure this was the first time I proper heard it, I keep hearing noises now. Like every noise sounds sexual. It's not a good thing for me :(

Also I don't think they've done it again after then.

Well every time you have a panic attack, the first thing you should do is slowly and calmly remove yourself from the immediate surroundings. Find yourself a quiet "safe space" even if it means locking yourself up in the bathroom cubicle. Keep kitten pictures in your phone or something, that you could tangibly look at or hold on to and think calming thoughs about

>but what if I am having a panic attack because I lost my phone with my kitty pics or something

Don't just have one item. Assign positive calming thoughts with a whole bunch of objects, like clothing, shoes and so on. Get yourself into a weekly ritual as you get dressed like "this shirt is my favourite because I won a contest in this shirt before" to try and remember and hold on to the positive thoughts.

>>17136995
Ever since I started reading novels they seem to have gone away.
Try reading it helped for me.
Or an activity where your mind is concentrated they fade away little by little.

>>17137062
Appreciate it. Let the positive vibes flow through past memories and stuff, cool.

>>17137071
I've been studying so much the past few weeks that I've been missing out on a lot of physical activities so maybe that plays a big part?

>>17136993
Just tough it out for a little bit.

>>17136993
By not taking EVERYTHING super seriously.
By accepting that amount of effort is not equal the results.
By getting something which will distract you from self destruction (hobby, gf, family).
By being optimistic who can see good things no matter what.
By actually enjoying what you do, no matter what other might say, think or do.

>>17136993
Accepting that you did the best you could given your current constraints, even if it didn't meet your own standards of achievement. It's easy to say, but hard to accept, esp if you're used to producing top quality work in everything you do, getting A+s, etc. But you don't have to knock it out of the ballpark every time. Not at the expense of your sanity/health.

Also, I suggest that you listen to outside forces, too. i.e., it has been my experience that your family and friends recognize burnout long before you actually admit it.

Check with the aunt the difference between 100 guests and 100 invitations. It is true that certain people will be offended and upset if they are not sent an invitation at all. An expectation of them actually attending is quite another thing. I don't even think there would be a gathering venue and accommodation for 100 people.

I would say that about ~30 people is reasonable for a baby shower in a large family, especially if they have to travel overseas for it. Have you spoken to your mother about it? Basically since you guys got voluntold, respond matter of fact to the aunt that the fixings will only be enough for 30. Chances are, only 15 odd will show up and you will be left with piles of food.

>>17136945
thanks for the reply,

in Peru extended family rolls a bit differently, for example last year we hosted a large party to celebrate my grandma's 80th birthday, and invited 120 guests and asked them not to bring kids and in the end we had 140 adults + 10 kids so we were scrambling for tables and chairs and food for everyone. Family friends invite other family friends or people that weren't invited hear about the event and assume it's open invitation and just show up, that's just the way it goes over there, with my mom's side of the family anyway.

So yeah I like your idea of setting up the limit to 30 straight up, and if she says "but i have a list of 100" then ask how she'd like to pay for the accommodations of the other 70, pay for a bigger venue, etc.

Who should take priority in a baby shower? the mom's friend, or family (aunts)?

>>17137009
I think your family is just shitty. If the mother wants 100 people that just means she wants 100 gifts for her/her baby. Your mom should tell her to fuck off.

>>17136899
Just do CS for now. If your GPA goes to shit, consider tacking on a few business classes to bump it up. Also do internships and research early with your free time, way more valuable than an extra major.

>>17136914
>business classes to improve GPA

Fuck no. Operations Management, Finance, Organizational Leadership. Those are the types of classes in a School of Business. And they fucking BLOW DICKS. They are not easy. CS is far easier. Just don't fuck up from the get go and never have to worry about needing to pull up your gpa.

>>17136932
I guess it depends on the school, so let me clarify.

>If your GPA goes to shit, tack on a few intro-level classes taught by a professor with a reputation for being easy, perhaps in business.

take a vacation here for a week and see if you like it. Line up a job and a place to live so you arent forced into somethingg you dont want out of desperation

>>studying in Tucson

How much money do you have? You'll need enough to support yourself for 6 months or so. It can be pretty hard to find work sometimes when you're somewhere new without any friends or family. Having at least 10k would be ideal.

>>17136867
I was there for a few days to check things out, didn't do any job or apartment hunting which I'm sort of regretting. I just think it would be weird to go back so soon and not stay out there. Also, I don't know if I'd be able to get a rental again, I failed the credit check because I have no credit and the only way I could get the rental was to pay money under the table so the guy would mess around with the prices and not do a credit check.

>>17136895
I have like 8k right now

>>17136842
Try to see things from her perspective, ask her to see things from your perspective. It's one thing to be proud of your accomplishments and it's another to use your accomplishments as an excuse to look down on others.

You are not a very bright person, are you? You have now learned that marriage does not work on "stat points" and what it means to sell your love out for the sake of what you believe is an "accomplishment" or "success".

I suppose you can get an annullment, it's only been 6 months.

>>17136855

That's communication 101. We learned that one while we were dating.

>>17136863

You sound mad about something. Don't project it onto something unrelated.

>>17136830
What if she pokes holes in your condoms and lies about being on the pill and shit? What's your plan?

cut it off with this whore

>>17136839
We've never used condoms and I've always came deep. She'd beg me to cum in her

So 8 years? 1 year doing Ennglish, 1 year doing Foundation then 6 years doing Major? failed many subjects I guess.

What the fuck are you talking about

Go to your Dean of Student and discuss these issues with him, and get the academic senate involved to appeal your grades.

I do NOT recommend using stupid ass words like "Jewish Zionist masters" or "illuminati" or "symbolism".

Remember how shitty the withdrawals were for the first 3 days. Do you really want to go through that again?

Remember how caffeine made your anxiety a lot worse/was affecting your heart condition. You don't want to be a wreck or die, do you?

>>17136790
No but whats the alternative? I still feel withdrawls a little bit and I am way more tired. I tried water and tea but Its just not doing it

>>17136794
Decaffienated tea that is.

Leave him you fucking idiot. This has to be bait. Like, what the fuck do you think, genius? He'll treat you like shit for eternity

He's abusive, he's broken. Not you. Leave him and don't take no for an answer. If he promises to change it's manipulation. Abusers operate by isolating you from friends/support networks. He's paranoid and untrusting, and makes you feel like shit. Not all abuse requires a slap or punch. Get out and don't look back.

>lose your virginity to him
>he calls you a whore

He's fucking insane, OP. Dump him.

There's a reason he's not in a stable, happy marriage at the age of 38.