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>>18624476
I had a friend hang themselves many years ago.
>If so, how hard was it to get over? How did it effect you?
You don't get over it, you suppress and ignore it to try and not think about it. It is an extended grief that lasts much longer than a normal death. It stopped causing me grief and invading my thoughts once I became extremely blunt and jaded from living a hard life, nowadays only people I let in can get to me emotionally. Otherwise I don't feel for people. For most people the grief doesn't leave, as I said you just have to try to ignore it happened.

Suicides are said to on average directly fuck up on average six peoples lives, but suicidal people general don't feel they have anyone who cares.

>>18624491
I really badly want to kill myself and I want one extremely close friend who's talked to be about it a lot and she promised that if I do it she will too. Do you think she'd actually do that?

>>18624497
Depends on the friend's mental state, but consider if you have any family at all they will get ruined too. I once had a super close friend, we dated for a long time after being friends for years. That ended with a very bitter break up recently. When ever they said they would kill themselves I said if they did I would too, I sincerely meant it and would have. But again, I am not your friend so I can't tell you what they think or feel deep down.

If you are under thirty you shouldn't even consider it yet, that is when doors start to close.

bumping for interest

Define hanging out

>>18624419
You're in over your head. My first sexual experience was with a 5 year old, well-adjusted, very attractive and experienced girl.
You won't know what you're doing and it'll be awkward as hell at times but don't let that ruin the excitement. Go for it but don't expect to blow her mind. Just enjoy it

I am an evil son of a bitch and I want to change that. I dont know how, I have lost all my morals and ethics.

>>18624415
Graduate high school.

Probably a product of your isolation, as I'm facing the same dilemma, while under the same circumstances.
Could also be a product of your upbringing, which would then make sense for it to be something along the lines of ASPD (just an anti-social personality, not necessarily aspd itself)

Moral disengagement is an achievement. Just maintain appearances and act cautiously and you're gucci.

About the violent fantasies, that could just be out of boredom, or perhaps you observe violence in video games, gore threads (or whatever), or you're just pushing your imagination outside the bounds of comfort. If you decide to act on these fantasies, remember: it's only a crime if you get caught.

>>18624473
>*scoffs*
>Grow up.
show me your vagina pls

why the fuck would you get a degree without knowing what job you want

idiot

Become a geologist if you're bad at math

>>18624423
I hate the looks that people give me when I say my profession; their behaviour changes to treating my like filth and when I try to say that they shouldn't push me around they just say that maybe i should've studied harder in school and everyone laughs.

I don't care even if I don't get a job after this as long as I can say " hey you can't fuck with me now that i've got a degree in three different fields."

>>18624390
do something you like

>>18624391
with going out i meant going to bars clubs etc

Bump because I'm going to ask tomorrow

>>18624308
Do you keep a planner? That'd probably good for dealing with double appointments and scheduling mishaps. Plenty of calendar apps for that. Just put events into it the second you learn about them.

As for relaxing in general meditation might help. There's a lot of materials online for it but basically you just sit for about half an hour each day and try to focus on your breath. If you keep it up it works well for anxiety, at least in my experience.

If you're interested I found this book pretty good on the subject. Some parts get a little religious/new-agey for my taste, but the practice tips are good.
https://mega.nz/#!xm5AlQyR!Jkn2uCRZed0HPE_ew-wEYedDszNZUZWr2nhNUdqVwb4

>>18624397
I use a planner, and it mostly works. The only catch with that is the kind of situation when I get called up for work on the middle of the road and have to make a wild guess about my availability, as I am using the device I can use to check or make a note of the day to call.

As for mediation, it didn't work much if by meditation you mean doing breathing excercises while sitting in a lotus position, but things like writing down my thoughts or listening to some meditative music while working with my hands at least helped to calm me down. Unfortunately, they did not change my neurotic tendencies by much.

>>18624429
Can you put the phone on speaker mode to check while calling? Or is it more you don't want to be looking at it while driving?

Sorry to hear the meditation didn't work out, I suppose it does depend on the person. Out of curiosity what were the issues you ran into when trying it?

>>18624291
look into medishare as well.

By recognizing what are you jealous about you start to know yourself better.

>>18624274
Depends on what job you can apply for and what lifestyle you have.
Use google to find out how much people spend aprox. in your area/city, look into bills from your parents and then do thesimple math as if you were living alone,add more money on your end number for just in case and you are good to go.
>Also i would advise you to stay more with them and work along the way, save up and then move out.

It will be much easier then starting from 0, and you wont risk the chance of going back after you miserably failed.

Getting into relationship with someone with same goals will help you out a lot, since you can both split the costs and help eachother out.

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>>18624663
Thanks Anon. I'll take your advice.

>>18624767
Check Craigslist for rooms to rent. It's whatever an apartment/house would cost divided by the number of tenants. So if you've got a 4 bedroom there for 2000/month you would only be paying $500 each and then maybe another 50-75 each for utilities depending on you guys.

>>18624243
you weren't tired you were too lazy to look for a diesel pump and thought it wouldn't matter. They know and it won't matter if you tell or not you won't be employed there much longer.

>>18624243
Dont be such a faggot next time.
Confront your mistake and solve it.

For fuck's sake, siphoning gas is fairly easy
You've demonstrated you're not very trustworthy
Fucking up and putting in the wrong gas is not the issue, lying and trying to cover it up is the big issue and now nobody will trust you for a while

Start looking for another job boyo.

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Same threads all day long, she doesn't love you anymore, move on Pedro. Stop trying, time heals everything.

>>18624222
It sounds pretty obviously like an allergy - that would explain why some workers get it and others don't. Over the counter hay fever pills might help, but they're not designed for long-term use. A GP could send you to an Allergist who could test to see what among the several things you're inhaling is the culprit, and you could be desensitized to it.

But this really looks like a deal-breaker case, where you'd have to look for another job that doesn't expose you to whatever the culprit is.

My advice would be to get a better dentist

>>18624170
You've got to stop chewing on your red pen

>>18624170
We can hardly see anything on that pic.If it doesnt hurt and its only spot where you have it, then its probably nothing.
If it gets bigger over time or becomse a wound, seek more help, otherwise forget about it.
Im sure it will pass.

>>18624149
A true friend would tell his friend if he thinks that a wedding is uncalled for. Maybe this will be a wake up call for him, maybe it wont.

But at least you'll have tried. Go for it. Be persuasive and honest about the whole thing.

Dont mention your dj or the clothes, they really dont matter.

>>18624178
I've already told him that and he agrees but its still happening.

>>18624187
I should say, I said that he shouldnt get married, not that I disagree with who he is marrying.