So there's this girl in my English college class who eventually gave me her number and we started talking. It's apparent that she thinks of us as friends and has apparent interest in talking to me. But man, it doesn't really feel like when we talk. I feel like there's some barrier that hinders any form of a deep conversation. Any clues as to how I can really break this barrier and spark up more interesting conversations?
>>18625865
>I feel like there's some barrier that hinders any form of a deep conversation.
What do you mean? What kind of convo do you want but you are not getting?
>>18625879
I want to have a conversation whereas I can learn more about her not through direct questions, if that makes sense. Also the simple fact that I'll ask about things she may like and all, but it doesn't really open up to much. It just seems like she's not interested in talking, but she did give me her number and messages me first most of the time. Should I just give up on this?
>>18625960
>It just seems like she's not interested in talking
Clearly she is interested in talking like this.
>Should I just give up on this?
Give up on what? Changing what she wants? Yeah, that's probably not gonna work, so let it go.
hey /adv/,
I am a pharmacy student and I am not passing one of my clinical rotations out in the field. I failed a hospital rotation, then I failed the second resolution period with the professor from my school because she said that I am still lacking enough clinical knowledge to be able to move on. I did well in some parts in the make up period, but still not well enough in the parts where I was tested verbally on my knowledge, which is an "on the spot" type of thing. I do admit sometimes I freak out when I am asked questions on the spot and it makes me under perform.
Still I invested a lot of energy, time, and money into the schooling. I am ~$200,000 in debt right now. I did not anticipate failing the clinical portion of pharmacy school because I still passed the didactic portion.
At this point the faculty at my school are deciding if I have to get dismissed, or if I can stay in the program. I told them that I don't want to get dismissed.
I am still waiting on their decision, they should send me an email this week.
The thing is, if I am dismissed I am screwed and nobody cares about it. The faulty don't care, clinical professors don't care, society does not care, and I am left to handle this on my own.
There is no way I'll be able to pay this off and survive on my own at the same time. I am going to be haunted with this debt for the rest of my life, and will not really have a chance to do anything else. I can't even plan ahead for anything in the future because I am constantly waiting on what people will say about me as a student.
I am not sure how to handle this problem. I don't want to work a low end job, and not have a pay check at the end of the pay periods because 100% of it goes to loans. Why work if I cannot survive off of the money?...
Seriously, this is a very tricky problem to handle and I won't be able to handle the money issue. My parents will not be able to pay it off either because they have other expenses and will be retiring soon.
Buy bitcoin before they start garnishing wages.
You'll get the last laugh as you drive away in your Lambo 5 years from now.
I feel like I am going to be in serious legal trouble.
this is a financial crisis...wtf...
I cant believe i'm at such shit situatio n to recur to the likes of you.
First of all, i'm a fucking mess, i'm not a normalfag like any of you, and i don't really think of the world and morality like any of you do. I've been sheltered my whole life and so i lack all experience with people and i'm very immature, i know these things well. Also, i live in El Salvador, a literal hellhole and there is a very real risk of getting murdered for walking the square my house is in, in fact one time gangs almost execute me for sleeping in the bus, but that's for another time.
I study medicine, 6th year. I've been in love with the classmate next to me for 4 years, never did anything because i was a delusional autist who thought god gave shit away for doing nothing and behaving well, she got a boyfriend from the same year 2 years ago, and i can't get over it. I feel the deepest envy for them, i have to see them every fucking day, i hate myself for having been so delusional and autistic, i wish i could suddenly turn normal but that goes against my worldview.
Cont.
My wish is not to get laid, it's to be happy and wash away all these regrets. It's just that i know nowhere to meet new people, i dont like almost anything, i don't drink, i think promiscuity is wrong, there's basically a curfew at 7pm in the neighborhood i live in. What the fuck am i supposed to do?
Also, people always say to not care about the lives of others, but then how do you flip the fucking switch and start thinking otherwise? What is it that they truly mean? Does my life and opinions matter or not? Because no one has ever cheered for me before. What is it then, what's my place in the world?
>>18625825
Holy shit dude, you need to talk to people. If you have free time, join some sort of club
or community or volunteer. Interacting with others can challenge your own ideas.
Don't pussy out of opportunities.
How do I be less argumentative? I feel like I would be a lot happier if I were more easygoing, to say nothing of the people around me. The problem is that the world is full of stupid motherfuckers who don't know their ass from their elbow and I can't help but feel the need to educate them a little.
Become more happy in general. Then you won't bother to waste your energy on petty stuff. You aren't happy enough right now, which makes it easy for you to be in that hostile mindset. After all you could educate people without turning it into an aggressive argument.
>>18625819
It seems obvious but just stop yourself
When you see yourself getting argumentative the coolest* thing to do is just shut YOURSELF up.
>>18625819
>need to educate them
they're close enough to you intellectually that they don't need help from you. they're just willfully ignorant and don't want to be educated. this is why you should just not argue.
Ex won't respond to my calls, I'm so heartbroken over her. How do I take the high road and erase her from memory? How do I occupy my time so that she doesn't take up my thoughts? How do I get a rebound bitch?
>>18625791
that's actually a really tough thing to do.. was she your first? if so, its gonna be hard to get over her.
a rebound bitch is a great idea
>>18625791
dehumanize, cut out, and move on
>>18625888
Yeah first one, it sucks man
I need help making a diet plan. I've been hitting the gym rigorously for 2 years now lifting and doing cardio, yet I'm still fat and I know why...
All I enjoy eating is burgers, fries, pizza, cheese, cheese and more cheese! Heart disease runs in my family and I can feel the food making me feel run down, but I haven't changed it yet.
So I need some help making a diet plan. Today all I've eaten is honey nut cheerios with almond milk (apparently the way they pasteurize cow milk makes it toxic for consumption) and I just had an egg sandwich for lunch. But I need to start eating VEGETABLES or I'll stay a fat fuck until my heart gives out
pic related, I'd literally get a 4 by 4 with animal style fries and eat it like it's no problem
I'm ready to change!
Search "Ray Peat"
You need more metabolism and you don't 'need' to eat vegetables to be healthy. I really recommend Ray Peat but whatever, nobody listens and I'm tired of helping people... I eat tons of food and don't exercise but I never get fatter because I eat foods good for metabolism (and usually not binging)
>>18625788
first realize all diets are a variation of "eat less move more". everyone is different, so you will have to find a diet that works for you. as for the food problem, that just takes discipline and practice
and dont listen to him >>18625832
always eat several servings of fruits and vegetables per day, you'll feel way better in like a week trust me.
>>18625872
>and dont listen to him >>18625832 (You)
This is very triggering.
I expect people to not even look up what I say. Suit yourself
Is there some kind of trick to just...calming the fuck down and doing something?
Right now I just want to paint my room so I can have a clean slate, and a new space to grow in. But whenever I start thinking about taping the walls, rolling the walls, doing the cut-ins, and then repeating it all for a second coat I get so anxious my brain just shuts down and I start debating if I just want to hand my shekels over to a pro who can knock out in two hours what it may take me three or four days to do. This is extra obnoxious because I only ever have two days off to get it done.
What do I do, /adv/? Should I just hire someone? Do I suck it up and try first? Do I waste money that way if I end up defaulting to a painter? Has anyone else ever dealt with something similar? Should my thread be on the /diy/ board? God I'm freaking out.
>>18625781
Painting a room won't take you 3 days to do. You need to do it in a couple hours so the paint job doesn't look silly.
If you need to take a while. Spend one day moving all the furniture away from the walls and taping lines. Then the next day paint. After it dries take off the tape and put everything back.
I can't find answers anywhere to my synchronicity and connection, can anyone help?
>Be me, student nurse
>8/10 chiseled Russian/German cheekbones
>Match on tinder with girl
>10/10 4'10" Asian girl
>Literally the one girl out of fifty dont immediately go for sex
>Have good conversation
>Became very close in a few days
>We shared very intimate life details
>Very similar lives
>Both adopted from foriegn country
>Strict religious families
>Psychoanalyzing fathers
>Both of our fathers intoduced us to sci fi and fantasy
>And old shows
>Both were raped
>I get sick when she gets sick and vice versa
>I feel when she's sad or something bad is happening
>She consistently messages me when I'm having a bad day because she feels it
>We feel pain in the same body parts
>I got punched in the right eye
>Hours later she says her right eye is tearing up from allergies
> We can feel it. It feels like static and like butterflies late at night
>>18625752
>bunch of greentext
>no real question asked
>"I met an asian girl we are one and the same"
Okay.
>>18625773
What the fck is this thing why is it happening I'm overwhelmed
>>18625752
This belongs on /x/ tbqh, you might be being matched by God though sometimes people ARE meant to be together, pray about it regularly so you can keep composure and keep your relationship blossoming.
I can't imagine how mindblowing sex will feel if you both have the exact same pleasure wiring and like the game things.
How do I let my best friend of 8 years/girlfriend of 1 know I have a major fart fetish? She farts in front of me all the time but she doesn't know how badly it turns me on. Fetishes in general are awkward enough to discuss, I just don't want her to think I'm a weirdo.
Keep it to yourself.
Talking about something as silly as a fart fetish isn't going to destroy a good 8 year relationship
>>18625744
>Talking about something as silly as a fart fetish isn't going to destroy a good 8 year relationship
Getting turned on by someone passing gas isn't really all that normal, bro. "Mmm, I'm really turned on when you waft old broccoli and burritos my way."
Fucking weirdos.
im currently in a foreign country (slovakia) for work purposes. someone stole my wallet and im stuck without a single euro until next monday. none of my co workers have any money to lend, none of the people i know have any money to send.
i dont want to beg on the streets cause im not a fucking nigger.
i need advice on how to survive with the supplies i have.
salt
3 kgs of potato
ketchup
6 eggs
access to fresh water
how to survive until monday?
>>18625728
>Survive
That's pretty much guaranteed. A human can normally survive without a crumb to eat for up to two weeks.
So if you ration what you have, you'll be able to eat every day though it'll obviously be a shitty time.
Other than that
>Soup kitchens
>Aid foundations (found in train stations, might be willing to kite you over with a bit of money)
>Worst comes to worst, end-of month moneylenders whose rates will kill you though
>Petty theft if you're willing
I do't know how many of these things (besides petty theft) exist in slovakia, but if you have a means of transportation you might want to consider taking a short trip to austria which definitely has them.
Either case, you won't die of hunger.
You can ration the potatoes. Im no nutrition expert but boil/ scramble an egg and have it for breakfast along with some mashed potato. It'll keep you going for longer at least in morning hours. Worst comes to worst, offer to work for a takeaway and accept any pay they offer you.
>>18625728
Mate I just went one week eating only one small meal a day (bowl of cereal), and i did that for fun.
It's very common for people to fast completely for a week. It's actually good for you, if you do it once in a while.
Your body will stop bothering to feel hungry on the third day or so.
when i stop browsing instant gratification sites like 4chen and reddit I immediately start getting terribly terribly anxious and unbearably lonely
why is my existence so awful that I have to distract myself 24/7
somebody help
>>18625715
Sounds like depression. You're not the only one that feels that way. I have no insight to your life. You seem like you have no goal or internal happiness. The only person that can make you happy is you.
>>18625715
Its just the mind of our generation. Instant gratification. Maybe in the future we'll get cybernetic implants that will let us browse the internet and get the flow while doing other stuff.
>>18625736
>The only person that can make you happy is you
I get that but it gets tough to carry on when suddenly you're alone all day and "friends" ditch you and nothing romantic ever seems to work out
where exactly am I supposed to get this internal happiness when shit's going downhill
Is this bad?
Do you have info on what is this?
did you eat cucumber or grapes recently? green scum will collect on the back of your mouth
So I got back from work this evening after a 9 and a half hour day to find my fiance, who's a teacher, sitting around watching netflix and sketching out wedding invites. It's summer break at the moment, so she literally has 6 weeks off. I just want to add, I cook us food literally 90% of the time.
She hadn't:
1. cleaned the kitchen after I bought and cooked her dinner last night
2. done any laundry
3. cleaned any of her teacher shit/clothes off the dining table
4. considered cooking dinner for me, I had even already bought it the previous night
I ended up cleaning the kitchen and cooking again, I also prepared a chicken stock for tomorrow night.
Am I being a dick? Whenever I have the day off I always ensure that I AT LEAST clean the fucking dishes and put one load of washing on. I don't want to live in a shit hole.
she can sense that I'm seething, I'm trying to stay calm. I had a long day at work, what's the problem with doing 30 minutes of house work??
>>18625579
>marrying american women
if you haven't gotten the message by now you're a lost cause.
>>18625596
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>>18625579
Why are you bitching to us about it instead of talking to her about it? It's totally unacceptable what she's doing(assuming she makes a habit of it) you have to pull your weight in a relationship. My gf had a job and I didn't, so I cleaned up shit and made dinner. Now I work and she lost her job, she does that stuff. It's only fair.
How do I rebuke younger women flirting with me without being rude or being an asshole? I'm not really that attracted to younger women, I like them my age or older, but I feel like an asshole every time I rebuke flirting attempts by really young girls. How can I do this in a more friendly way?
example
>done at work sitting at the bar having a drink
>chatting with the bartender I know personally
>young girl probably 18-20 is flirting, asking what I'm drinking etc
>I'm drinking jack and coke though technically thats not allowed at the time but I know the bartender
>Say I'm just drinking coke and ignore her
>She smells the drink and says It doesnt smell like coke and gets closer and starts asking me about shit
>try to have a polite conversation but its not giving her the hint
>I dont know what to do so just pay my tab and leave
Feel like an autist sometimes.
what are you gay?
>>18625583
fpbp
>>18625588
>>18625583
my boyfriend of a little over two years broke up with me, he had no solid reason but our fighting just got bad enough i guess. I am sure I am absolutely in love with him and would do anything for him to stay with me. I tried telling him everything there is to say and all my friends convinced me to ignore him for a couple of days. we spoke every day for two years and i ignored him for 3 days after he told me he doesn't love me anymore, he kept messaging me telling me he misses me and that he hopes im doing well. i was sobbing in pain every second for those 3 days. i finally gave in to answer him when i noticed he unblocked a girl that i have previously blocked on his account. After talking the littlest bit he told me he wants nothing to do with me and no contact with me what so ever. I truly believe I am the one for him and have been crying about it for so long now. What do i do?
>>18625576
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=65uNCLBTje0
>>18625576
>he had no solid reason
>the fighting had just got bad enough
woman logic at work jesus.
Sometimes relationships just end. Even if you think you are still in love with him 100% the best thing for you right now is distance from him. Try to go out with your friends, take some personal time and reflect on what you do for yourself. Try out a new hobby, get those work outs in you always never had time for, catch up on that book series you've always wanted to read. After a few weeks see how you're feeling. You might still miss him, but you'll have a clearer head and a better sense of self.