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I'm not to frequent of this board but I would tell you to get over that relationship. IDK how easy it would be but for your own good, get her out of your life. Block her from all comms and carry on with life, never forgetting the experiences you had but allowing yourself to continue.

>>18624778
bump

European here, never met any Americans working anywhere in my city at least. Its probably possible but that depends on the job. You cant expect to just be allowed to speak english all the times in most jobs. You'd have to learn the local language.

>>18625357
I already speak spanish, english, portuguese, some french and I'm also studying german.

>>18624754

>Are their existence so boring and meaningless?

they are puke inducing adults that think they will live forever. Basic and dumb. Don't scare them, let them breathe, eat, sleep and die as useless as they are.

>>18624810
I just feel my IQ and social skills are dropping since I'm stuck with them so much time and as much as I'd want to participate in their cringey drama filled conversations about boring mundane things, I have nothing ot add or say. Work sucks

I lost my eyes in the back of my head from so much rollin. I get small talk, but this is insane

Many people are not used to discussing politics with strangers because it can cause friction. The topics you mention are all safe and neutral. Besides many of those ARE hobbies, you just look down on them so you think they don't count.

Stop being a cunt and expecting your colleagues to stimulate you intellectually. That's what friends, books and education are for. If they do it's a bonus, but they are not human waste for being average. And yes most average people do not have interests that go beyond things like this. It doesn't make them bad people and it doesn't make them bad people to work with as long as you can lower your expectations.

You will have to be able to interact with a whole variety of different people in your life.

>>18624733
Because your brain is addicted to instant gratification via dopamine thanks to video games, movies, and the internet.

>>18624733
Some people just aren't called to any one thing.

Find a job that paysa shit ton of money and have fun learning lots of things. You might find something eventually that takes all your attention, or you might not.

You don't have to be a hyper-focused autist, you can enjoy lots of things.

>>18624684
Idk but I wish appearance/beauty wasn't so important

I wish people sympathized but everyone is busy with makeup, vanity, etc. And it's an obsession that becomes a character trait.

>>18624684
Understand something... She probably makes a huge paycheck doing this, doesnt have to work a day in her life, and all she has to do is post photos, something she liked anyway.

I will bet you her sponsors probably made those requests and it banked her more cash.

For all you know she doesnt actually care whether she has plastic surgery or not. Shes just getting her money and doing her thing.

Even so, shes probably getting dms and compliments all day. Your criticism is a drop of water in the ocean.

Tl;dr

Dont. Its completely useless.

>>18624710
You ever hear of "vote with your money"?
When people stop eating it up, companies will stop pushing it.

Plus size models arent being embraced because the ceos and marketing folk have decided to have a change of heart. Its because it spreads like wildfire across social media and they get praise and positive attention.

Know why mens underwear packs have ripped male models on them? Because women still clothing shop for their husbands. Theyre selling sex to them.

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I don't know.

>>18624679
bc they don't need to have any.

Hormones. You'll just have to wait it out. And it can go way past adolescence. That pic isn't even that bad. If your face is at that same level, it's definitely not worth doing accutane over.

>>18624709
It looks incredibly disgusting though, and they often bleed. So I have blood running down my face in public and don't realise.

I can't stand them anymore. Its been 4 years!

Quit showering 2 times a day faggot
Also if possible 1 times every other day ,

Just say it the way it is in your head. If they make a big deal out of it and don't want to change, then forget them, you need someone who'll try just as hard as you.
Best wishes OP.

>>18624836
Hard truth
How shit can be life

We need more information than that, OP. Is there a reason why your partner isn't putting in what you'd call equal effort? Do they have obligations that require attention that maybe you don't? Are they mentally ill and maybe that plays into it?

Your post creates a "Person A is wronging Person B" mentality but relationships aren't that simple and it makes you seem kind of selfish. You're both human beings trying to live life without any real idea what you're doing. Maybe your partner has things they're going through or growing they're doing that requires a lot of their attention. The world shouldn't revolve around your relationship. Your relationship should be the cherry on top.

I'm scared that if I ever broke up with her I'd regret it because really and truly nothing is wrong with our relationship. She's a good person and loves me very much. She's pretty and smart and doing really well for herself in life. I'd trust her with my life and I'm sure she'd make a great wife/mother to my children when/if that time comes.

The only thing I wish was different is that she's not very confident in herself and has low self-esteem. Sometimes that can make things difficult but we get through it. Maybe this plays more of a factor in the way I'm feeling than I'm willing to admit/realise.

So why did you end it? You're not going to convince me that just another woman being hot was enough to make you leave a woman you apparently also find hot and was passionate about and had shared 2,5 years of your life with.

First of all those issues might still be there. Secondly, there's a chance that regardlesss of how much she puruses you, she will resent you for leaving once she got used to dating you again. Or just become superinsecure about it happening again. You cannot undo what you did.

>>18624641
Go tell her that you are an idiot and started dating someone, then tell her that you still have a lot of feelings for her and that you don't know what to do.

See what she tells you, it might hurt her but if she's a good person she will hear you out, if you still have feelings for her and might come together with her again you should have ended your relationship once and for all before going out with somebody.

Don't go out with someone after a fresh breakup if you are still not sure about it, you could've told your co-worker that you simply want to take some time because of your ex and that you still want to meet her (co-worker) and that you don't see your ex which you could promise.

This way there wouldn't be any conflict, it's your fault in my opinion, try and fix as much as you can do and think about what you really want. Then go full out and take it, don't let yourself be played into by two women, I know it can be entertaining but is it really what you want? You are ruining it by doing that.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but that's the way I would deal with it, tell both of them about what's going on, they deserve to know, then make a choice and be proud of it.

I left the old flame because she took me for granted. She kept me at arms length and told me we couldn't be anything more than close friends. I had to hide what I was from her friends, family, coworkers. It worries me down. I didn't think she'd care when I moved on, but she's after me hard now. The passion from before is tempting, but how do I know anything changed? Shed been in counseling for damned near a year.

Yeah it will. Weed and sex is an amazing combination. I have to say I'm a very pragmatic weed user and never really paid much attention to the details. I have never smoked any kind of weed that didn't enhance the sensations and how much you're able to get lost in the feeling. Optimal amount is the equivalent of tipsy, when you feel buzzed but don't have that stoned feeling like your limbs are superheavy. Golden middle road and all. It most likely won't make you last longer.

It will make fap sessions feel better. Id say smoke it if youre looking for that alone. Eating is entirely different. Each person is different, but from what I understand having an orgasm brings you back down.
The time you last probably won't lengthen.
Stay safe and have fun being lifted.

Don't do drugs. You really don't want to do that to yourself

Remember that BAD habits are hard to kick, and that a GOOD routine is difficult to follow

Differentiate between the two and be conscious of the small decisions you make every day. Do you go for a brief walk every morning? Do you make lunch for yourself or order food instead? Do you brush your teeth regularly?

If so, then why? Learn what makes good habits good and what makes bad habits harmful. Be mindful, but more importantly, be objective. It is YOUR life and YOUR time, so nobody but yourself can make the most of it

>>18624634

What do you specifically want to be organized about?

Small tip: Scheduled messages on your phone.
If you either need to remember something at a certain time, or text someone at a certain time, set your phone to send a text message at a specific time.
I use that to remind myself to do things.
Better that reminder apps in my opinion since it's in an app you use all the time (messages) and not something separate.
I know Android can do this, not sure about Apple.

I moved about a thousand miles without a job or place set up first, saved enough for a few months.

Made reservations at hotel at a stopping point on the way, and extended stay reservation at my destination.

Got rid of all the shit I didn't want, loaded up the car and went.

Stayed in an extended stay hotel for a couple weeks while researching apartments/jobs.
Got a PO box at a UPS store so I could use that as a street address on applications

Ended up getting an apartment before a job by faking my income documents and saying I was still employed in a work from home capacity.

>>18624542

Well, you are clearly nervous and agitated. I don't know if you are "ill", but you should get some help. At least get a psychiatrist to talk to man. Get these fears in the open and let someone help you deal with them.

Learn how to do basic every day tasks for yourself you fucking ape

Laundry once a week takes a maximum of 45 minutes, 15 minutes to shove all your shit in one machine and then move it to the next, and then half an hour to fold it. Hell, you can even skip the folding part and just fuck off somewhere while waiting for it to finish washing/drying

Nobody on earth is going to attempt to convince an adult baby the merits of wearing underwear.