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My straight best friend who I treat as a brother and love dearly, but at the same time have a massive crush on him and think he's rather attractive, proposed the idea of getting his dick sucked by another man.
He doesn't know if he'd enjoy it or not and always thinks about not knocking it before trying it.
Would it ruin our friendship if I offered him that opportunity to experiment?
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One way to find out.
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>>18642057
it might. some people bounce back. some dont. the fact that he told you this tells me that he probably WANTS you to do it, but on the other end it can still ruin it after the fact. he might not be bale to look at you the same way.
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People seem to always have friends, girlfriends and boyfriends. But i never understood how to get close to anyone, thus i never did get close... Soo how do i do it? This getting close thing, being able to just relax and be myself around people. And, eventually, getting a girlfriend and all.
You see, i already go out with girls, we kiss etc, but i never go beyond the point of just physical interaction. Never understood how.
Is it something about my personality being unbearable? If so, anyway to know this? I already spend a lot of time trying to see if im just a plain person, or dick, and then work to 'fix' it, but not results yet.
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>>18642036
>I already go out with girls, we kiss etc, but I never go beyond the point of just physical interaction
That's your problem. You're one step ahead of yourself and that's ruining the chance you have to develop something emotional.
Think of it like this. You meet a cute girl at the library, she's reading a book. It's one of your favorite books. You approach her and comment on the book she's reading and how you like it too.
Now this, you meet the same cute girl. This time, not at the library. Instead on a dating app, let's say Tinder. On tinder, you dont meet the side of people reading a good book at the library. You meet the desperate people looking for a happy relationship.
Its a miss. When you meet a girl, meet the emotional side of her. Not the needy physical want side of her. Find out her interests, her hobbies. Tell her yours. Form a bond and create chemistry.
Macking out in the back seat of your car, it's not romance unless you know the girl for who she really is.
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>>18642098
Yup this. Dating sites are terrible for the most part. It's really hard to do for some people but get out there and meet people in some form or another. Work, hobbies, religion, all that stuff works but it takes time to get comfortable. Also, if you are new to this don't go in looking for a GF at these places. Go in telling yourself, I want to be friends with these people and make friends. Girls can often hook you up with other girls in their social network. Just be a really nice guy, listen to everyone who talks to you, and build a social network that takes place in real life.
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>>18642098
Ive never used such online ways to meet people, because i don't really like it. The things is, i cant form bonds with anyone.
If i get to know the girl from the library, i'll find interest in her hobby, books and all, and she will like me big time. But it fades... In the middle of it i do something that i'm now aware of, maybe i just don't show myself enough, or maybe i'm boring (even though i'm almost never the one who initiates the conversations).
I.e: I've been working with a crush of mine for nine months, i've the same hobbies she has (running, exercises, security, tv shows, manga, anime etc) and yet, i can't make this chemistry thing start. On the other hand, i went out with a girl that always stares at me, even though we have nothing in common, we hit it off quite easily.
I just suck.
>>18642130
That's exacly what i do, because i wanted friends, or people like me, but i got nothing of such, just physical things. I still never 'click' with someone... I dont get this chemistry thing from them...
I'm well aware that the problem may be in how i handle emotions.
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Sup /adv/ I need advice on how to proceed with my educational career and maybe pickup on some life advice as well. I want to start gathering as much info as possible since I decided just recently to quit.
I'm 21 year old and last year I started a bachelors degree in electrical engineering (I'm one year behind due to me moving to Slovenia at an early age I had to repeat a year in elementary school because of different school systems). The reason I picked this degree is because it somewhat of a job I wanted to have in the future. There was no real reason why I picked this degree. After I finished high school I had no fucking clue where to go next. I'm still just a dude who playes vidya. It was either electrical engineering or something like computer science (programming so I can maybe learn how to make games).
Now, one year I decided to not proceed with my studies in this degree but I have no idea what to pick next. I'm so fucking lost its killing me inside. It wasn't really the difficulty of the degree (finished in one of the top schools in Slovenia) but I lost all drive to finish it.
As for ambitions/drive goes, I kinda wanted to either make games or go to space. I think that was the reason I gradually disliked electrical engineering. It didn't offer me any of those in the end.
I have two options now:
- pick another study here in Slovenia
- move to Switzerland and go study something there (Bern)
My parents live in Switzerland and have been pressuring me to go and study there. I was many times there and it seems like such a cold country to me. As in the people are quite cold there. Its only work, work, work. All of the people I met there (a lot of them immigrants) say that people don't have much free time and are not very social. On the other hand I like slovenia and have made a lot of connections here.
to be continued.
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>>18642001
I definitely want to study in science/technology but I have no idea what. And I've seen some degrees in game design but you need some sort of art certificate (some test of creativity or some shit) which i definitely don't have. Don't have more info yet.
I do have a C1 degree in German but studying there could be proven difficult since I have no clue what they're saying. I'm sure many germanfags would agree that its like a different language entirely. If anyone knows where I could study in english that would be amazing.
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>>18642020
So what do I do now? Do I move and start over in a new country or stay ? I have a feeling that no matter what I chose I would fail if I don't find the ambition/interest to do it. I have about a month do decide now. And if I go to Switzerland I have to wait a year so I can start again in the fall semester since their admission deadline was In april.
As in the going to space part, what degree would be best to start with. I could go back to electrical engineering but in Switzerland since they offer some unique degrees in that field but I have to delve a little deeper into it this week.
If anyone has anything i asked dump it here. Any advice/info is appreciated.
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My husband is bipolar and drives me nuts. How do I deal with a bipolar spouse?
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>>18641981
You divorce him.
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>>18641981
Why would you take a photo of that plate of food? It's not appetising in the least.
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>>18641982
fpbp
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Is it normal to share personal stuff with a friend of opposite gender you don't even know long or in person? What does it mean if we both trust each other so much??
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>>18641901
It probably just means you get along well. Doesn't mean you're destined for a romantic relationship. Don't get your hopes up
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>>18641907
I'm just asking if it's normal because my other friend said it's not
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>>18641929
its rare to meet someone you can really trust, doesn't mean its a bad thing
How can I not only survive but prosper in university?
I had a ~3.5 GPA in high school and I studied very minimally and paid attention in class. I'm afraid that my habits and tendencies will limit me from getting an optimal GPA in university; I want to get as close to a 4.0 that I possibly can.
What are some resources that I should be aware of? What are some tips that you can give me for studying effectively?
I'm going into finance if any of you were wondering.
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Taking notes by hand was the #1 thing that helped me improve my grades. I had a laptop for between classes and assignments, but in class I just used a paper and pen.
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Go to your professors office hours. Read the book and pruposefully find shit you dont understand and go and learn additionally from them. Major?
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>>18641926
Oh look I didn't fully read the post. Read the instructions carefully before you do anything. Also this >>18641897, ditch the laptop in lectures.
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guys i need some advice
>be me
>be 18
>be very antisocial
>play a game 1 week ago
>meet a girl who is 2 years younger then me
>girl is very much like me (antisocial, like almost the same music)
>she has a bf (a narcissist)
>tell each other almost everything
>i once asked if she tells her family, friends or bf about me. turns out she is very silent about me when she talks with her bf
>starting to get a little bit feelings for her
>said to her yesterday that i wanted to talk to her about something
>she mentioned that her bf was coming over tomorrow
>next day (today) she asked me what it was what i wanted to say to her
>say that i might have some feelings for her
>suddenly ''SIKE nIGGA IT WAS ME THE ENTIRE TIME
IMA DUDE''
>im starting to be confused
>''its her bf''
>i thought she was joking first so i start asking for an explanation
>turns out that the girl i was talking to was gone for a few minutes and her bf was (while the girl was not in her room) reading some conversations from me and her and then suddenly said that i needed to say it what i would say
>i said to her that i'm fine with it and she only says ''sorry''
after that weird conversation i did'nt felt any anger. i am pretty neutral and confused about it but i also felt some kind of dissapointment or Betrayal or something like that.
what should i do?
should i speak with her about it or should i ignore her or anything else?
thanks for helping
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>>18641886
lost cause imo
get something going for your life instead.
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>>18641886
>what should i do?
Move on. You're 18 and this is just a stupid, childish situation that doesn't have any positive outcomes. Long distance relationships over the internet with mentally ill girls with boyfriends never works out. Move on. Time to grow up, OP.
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>>18641899
thanks anon :)
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How to get back libido/love for women?
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Hi /adv/,
I went through a long spell of depression from about Christmas last year to February this year, and came out of it using meditation/mindfulness. Most things in life feel far better, though the rush of feeling better is eventually going back in to every day life.
One thing that hasn't come back is my libido. I'm not a virgin, I've had sex, but other than on the night I don't really care. I have to be pretty drunk to care.
I occasionally masturbate to porn (but I used to watch it all the time, and masturbate to it all the time). I never feel fulfilled after masturbating to porn.
Is porn my problem? Should I just cut it out completely? It is only very recently that I stopped watching it as much.
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>>18641884
Spend 5 minutes looking at >>>/adv/catalog and then see how stupid you would be to willingly increase your libido.
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Try to fap less or don't fap at all for a few weeks. Your libido will increase if you won't fap
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How do you last longer when fapping or banging? Any tips on how to edge for hours? Any drugs or dietary supps i can take to make it impossible to cum?
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>>18641858
Really any pills that you find at gas stations work magic. Theyre so full of hormones that aren't cleared by the FDA, but you get enough of them in you shit it going to happen for the better regardless trust me i'm a doctor
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Hey adv. Met this cute girl online and we really play well off eachother, been chatting with her for about 1 months and a half now. I really like her but I'm not trying to bang her or anything, we live different countries, but I think we could be really be really good friends.
The problem is that her brother is in a really bad state, she keeps having to fly her way out to him because he's in the hospiital again, I try to not ask her details but it feels like its a could die tomorrow kind of bad.
I have no idea what to do and it feels shitty, I really want to help her even if its just by cheering her up, but I never know what to say and stuff. I've been the fun guy she talks to but kinda want to do more than that, idk...
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>>18641843
I'm taking bets on how long it will be until she hits OP up for money for her sick bro
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>>18641849
Depends on the amount of trips shes taken in the last month.
Once a week, I will say the question is coming any minute now. If shes been out TWICE, i'll give it a couple weeks
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I actually that could happen but after talking to her some more I know she has her money situation figured out and she knows I'm 100% broke right now so I'm not worried about that
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Every time i'm with a girl I struggle to not get nervous and get an erection. In my mind I want to fuck her so bad, but I just can't seem to deliver.
I'm a decent looking guy who gets a lot of attention from girls and so on.
If I go to a bar or whatever I know I can get "laid". But, I'm just so afraid of acting on it since I'm terrified of getting humiliated again.
It's killing me that I'm losing out on all of these chances to get laid during my youth and find a girlfriend.
I'm 20 years old so viagra and so on is not an option. I did have had a girlfriend that this was not a problem with during the relationship, but the first 3-4 times we had sex.
If I bring a girl home, long before we start undressing I start to imagine not being able to get a hard'on and I just know it won't happen.
I need tips and advice on how to get over this "mental" block of mine.
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>>18641797
>I'm terrified of getting humiliated again
What do you mean 'again'?
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It have happend so many times that I've been with a girl and after like 15 minutes of kissing, licking, getting a blowjob etc I have to tell her that I'm just to nervous or drank to much and so on.
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>>18641797
Get a new gf.
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Someone in my organization is trying to headhunt me for a different area of the organization (it's very large, so this is common). I'm happy at my current position and won't mind if I don't get the opportunity, but what do I do about when my current boss gets wind of my application elsewhere? What's the proper etiquette here?
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>>18641780
Decide what you actually want, and be up-front about it with everyone involved.
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>>18641780
Don't keep it a secret. Let him know some other department is trying to bring you over and you're interested in the promotion, but you like your job where you are. If your current boss likes you enough you could get a significant raise to stay, or he could just go "whatever" and let you transfer.
Whatever you do, don't keep it a secret. It could severely damage your reputation at work.
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>>18641812
what if I'm ambivalent? The other job is a step up in the ol' career, but the job I have now has unique opportunities (which is probably why I've been headhunted)
>>18641820
at what point should I say something? Application? Interview?
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I'm a fucking failure.
>9cm penis
>ugly
>KHHV
>socially awkward and retarded
>have no hobby or interests whatsoever
>i dont even play games or listen to music just browse 4chan and fap all day
>live with parents and couldnt get into studies for a year and this year it looks like the same will happen
>no goals or dreams at all, empty life without meaning
>had a huge pilonidal cyst removed that left me with huge scar on my ass
The only reason i don't kill myself is because i dont want to make life harder for my family and people i know. Still most if the time im depressed or very nihilistic. I dont find enjoyment in things. And i look at people around me who seem to be sorted out with goals and dreams. What should i do?
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>9cm penis
Either 14yo or 200kg, which one is it?
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>>18641774
Knowing 4chan, probably both
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>>18641774
OP here
20 yo 70 kg
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Hey anons,
Just hoping for a bit of life advice.
I'm a guy and I'm 21 and from the UK and I feel lost and bored as fuck with life.
I had a gap year straight after I finished school but I just spent it working retail, then last year I tried university studying geology but I really fucking hated it and quit at the end of the first year and since then I've been working at a call center living at home with my parents.
I get so jealous seeing everyone I used to know pursue their passions and graduate from uni doing what they love whilst I'm clueless as fuck in what I'm doing with life. I only did geology because I got good grades in Geography and didn't really put any thought into it.
How did you guys and girls all find what you love or your passion? I used to like doing 3D modelling, product design, graphic design, drawing; that sort of stuff at school but I cannot think of a degree or career where I could do that...
Anyone want to point me in the right direction or share their experiences? Like maybe going to the gym or something to take my mind off it? I could do with a little inspiration.
Just feels like everyone else has something on their horizon but mine is empty.
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Ever since I was a kid, I was so certain I'd be a vet. Then I realized I didn't want to be a vet, so I followed in my sister's footsteps and went into ecology and research in college. That went fine, pretty rewarding, but then I had to figure out what to do after college. I started stressing about it years in advance.
I guess just over time, I became less concerned about a specific job I wanted and more about what things I wanted a job to have. Before I left college, I decided that my goal in life is to meet animals, so as long as there's that going on, I'm good to go. I doubt I'll go to grad school, and as a result I'll probably never make much money no matter what I do with animals, but I'm okay with that
I've been doing nofap for 15 days now and I'm starting to lose control. The way I used to see fapping was a way to get rid of my sexual frustration and not have to talk to women in order to improve myself academically and mentally (if I fap enough, i don't have to go out of my way to go meet girls and have meaningless sex with them). I've read on no-fap, and one of the main purposes people do this is because they want to talk to women and/or have better discipline. I'm interested in the latter. However much benefits people claim that no-fap gives them, which they all interest me (not the meeting women part) makes me want to stay doing no-fap but the other part of me is wanting to fap and to get rid of the sexual frustration. Does anyone have anything to tell me? thanks
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get a girlfriend
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>>18641743
that's a waste of time, I must succeed in academia then focus on meeting somebody
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>>18641745
what a stupid attitude