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>>18654064
Does it make you feel like your gf belongs more to other people than to you?

So you landed a girl who other people want to fuck? Why aren't you proud of that?
All that should do is make you want to keep improving yourself so she sticks around. If she leaves, fuck her.

>>18654070
She doesn't respond or even follow these people so I don't feel like she's "whoring" her social media presence (for lack of a better wording)
>>18654073
This is true, however I'm just not used to being with the girl everyone wants. In a sense I guess that means I did good? It's just seeing all the people who would jump on her in a heartbeat makes me feel as though I have to compete with total strangers

>>18653654
People watch porn. If shes that insecure about it theres more problems than just that.

Youre a male. You need some kind of outlet for your ridiculous indiscriminate sex drive.

Some women dont understand that shit. They live in disneyland.

Getting out of a porn kick is hard, especially when forced out of it. The trick is to take your mind off of it. If you have to, visualize her when you masturbate.

>>18653657
I generally agree with this comment but wanted to add that if you promised her to not watch porn and it's important to her, breaking that promise is not right regardless of whether or not she has a legitimate point. These are her irrational feelings that you promised to respect. If she catches you then "I know I promised but deep down I thought you were being silly" is not an argument even if 90% of mankind would agree.

Either stick to fantasy or try again to get across to her that you don't compare her to women in porn and yada yada. She's going to be hard pressed to find a man who never wants to look at it.

>>18653425
Motherfucker stop jerking off and nut in your wife. You're wasting your supply.

>>18653435
But I've heard that jerking off every 2-3 days is something one should consider because it helps new young healthy sperm be produced and cleans out the old shit.

But then I heard young sperm is not mature enough to do much more than swim in circles. Idk wtf to do.

>>18653438
Whoever told you that has probably never had sex in their life. You need to let the supply grow for the odds of a sperm to reach the egg. Simple biology, my friend. How "healthy" a sperm is depends on your genetics and now you've been taking care of yourself.

Have you met in real life?

Since I know how it is to be deep down the hole and not seeing the structure to the problem and reasonable steps I'll help out:

1) how much do you trust him? even if there are always surprises in life, if never had a hint of him doing anything wrong you should try to tell yourself that it is fine to have less contact some days

2) depending on how long you know each other and how long the long distance lasts, you should try to think of a way to be less "needy", I'll use that word even if it may sound a little hurtful. Yes I can fully understand he may be the one, but even then you can get quality over quantity time spent together. Think about a plan considering the time frame

3) talk to him in a clear way without any masquerade.
>Hey, I haven't been feeling too good past days
>did something happen?
>I feel we don't interact enough/as well as we used to
you should be able to continue from here. Be prepared with some reasonable suggestions, or some vague ones. And ask him what he thinks, talk about compromises (say that word) and perspective

4) you can look at it in many ways, being alone may feel like an overwhelming darkness that you dont even want to consider a possibility, but being with someone for the sake of not being alone is also not entirely right. DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF is the biggest relationship advice I could give to younger me

Dare to change your approach and good luck!

>>18653419
We are planning to meet on my birthday, but if it keeps up like this I doubt anything will happen.

Unless you plan on marrying her then yes

>>18653329
You should
She'll most likely find someone better than you and dump your ass.

>>18653329
Hnnnng

She had different intentions but didn't spell them out. You went in for one thing and one thing only.

>>18653003

its possible to want intimacy without going straight to sex.

I like to date, but other guys tend to get upset if we go three dates without sex, they claim im leading them on just because I don't want to sleep on the first two dates.

>>18653010
>>18653011
>meet me in one hour and lets go to my room
>really touchy from the start
is this really that much of a misconception? lol. I feel like shes the one that had to spell things out and not me, specially in Tinder. Was I supposed to ask "hey babi wan sum fuk" to every girl that invites me to her room in tinder?

yeah im just ranting because im blueballed as fuck as im in a long dry spell, i know i shouldnt have gone with expectatives but this one looked so much like a quick hookup.

>>18652783
I'm still trying to figure out how to fix this problem myself

its been 3 times now out of the 3 times I needed it the most

>>18652783
Same here. Seems like you need to be rock hard to penetrate and I just don't really get that hard.

The man should always initiate sex.

If you happen to be horny and hard as you are with her, then kiss her and undress her.

I never touch a girl unless my body and mind is ready to.

Also, don't drink mate.

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>>18652442
All i say is don't do it unless it's just fucking around. Very few actually want a relationship at a young she because hur dur me feminist.

>>18652442
It's normal to want to use sex as a form of power. I don't mean that in a derogatory way. I often want to have sex with women I hate just because I hate them.

>>18652496
It's not about hatefucking. It's more that they turn me on sexually more than conservative women who are less sexual. I usually only hate liberal women if they are racist towards me as a white men or are sexist towards me as a man. Or if they support truly evil causes.

Boundaries are dumb. Everyone has different boundaries. Theres no such thing as healthy or unhealthy boundaries. The only people that have an issue with that statement are people that a generally unteusting of humans, and react to that fear by deciding for others what is considered acceptable.

>>18652415
Quantifying and naming things in this way creates a fractured multiplicity in the minds of people who would otherwise be capable of seeing the world as one giant interdependence.

Study the Tao. There are no boundaries.

>>18652415
It depends on the individual and that's usually dictated by past experiences and personal preferences.

Some guys want a girl that will cook/clean and be willing to do provide enough sex and emotional comfort or to solve their insecurity problems.

I would avoid reading shit that tries to "redpill" you. It's full of kids and failed men who try to convince themselves that women are inherently whores and incapable of loyalty without some mind games or borderline abusive habits.

No only dirtbags do

>>18652115
It's not porn's fault, it's women who have no sense of decency anymore.

There's nothing wrong with anal. Women brought the rebirth of the sexual liberation era from the 70's, now you reap what you sow

>>18651742
Get help, and keep in mind that you are overestimating your "danger level". Thoughts are imaginary, actually doing it is a completely different thing.

>>18651742
Go run and run hard. If it hurts keep running. Vent all your emotions out. If you can't run after your legs feel chattered then you are not trying hard enough. Best wishes.

>>18651751
i know they're just thoughts right now, but morally i know i shouldn't be having them

Same boat man I feel the pain

>>18651658
I've always prided myself in being emotionally cold and detached, but my feelings and the pain prove that wrong.
She shattered that reality of mine, I've never thought something like this would affect me.
God shouldn't have made us capable of love.

>>18651669
Holy shit, you're a drama queen. You'll get over it.

>>18651648
what are some things a guy can do on a first date to make her attracted to me and make her want to go on another date with me? Without seeming like a creep.

>>18651688
Keep conversation flowing, be interesting, show her a good time. And of course, actually ask her on that second date.

>in b4: I do that
Then it just comes down to luck. Most people just do not click well enough to date, otherwise getting a date would be as easy as talking to literally anyone and it would not be that special.

>>18651713
when should you ask for a second date? at the end of the night? next few days?

Damn dude sorry about that but start networking making connections with people , see a girl in class introduce your self , just work up to it and it has a snow ball effect the more girls and people you talk to the more you'll find

In time you'll learn how to love yourself, be yourself, and learn that everyone else's opinion of you only matter when it's about you.

Honestly bud. In time and patience will you become someone you love and that requires making the first moves and never being wrong. Be genuinely happy to be around other people. Smile more and make those around you smile. You'll be happy and you might find what your passion really is. And by then, the right woman may come your way. Long life to live and you gotta move forward and prosper.

>>18651473
Thanks for the response. I can make acquaintances in class that I'll chat with but it never develops into proper outside of class friendships. I think my lack of social media doesn't help but then I stumble into this obstacle of if I made it now it'd look very blank and turn people off anyway because they'd know I was a weirdo.

>>18651480
Thank you, the optimism is appreciated. There's an optimistic part of me but it's so small and nearly my entire being is telling me that chances of success in improving and getting out of this hole are minuscule. I'd just be wasting time with the only benefit being maybe my mother will pass naturally and I can kill myself guilt free.

guess ya shouldn't have gotten married at 18 ya dink! LOL

>>18651444
bait thread

>married
>18
Doubtful