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Next time he fucks with you just fire back.

"No den to go back to, pig?"

Just do something. Show your balls. Not literally.

>>18649312
Record him harassing you.

>>18649322
This is stupid. Do not do this

>>18649326
This is smart. Do do this.

Carry around a recorder and when you see him flick it on. Do this multiple times and stockpile evidence. Once you have a good amount of evidence file a complaint with some higherup in the police force and possibly take him to court for emotional harassment.

>>18649278

About two days ago, she was going on about how I'm too polite, how my culture being formal meant that I had no charisma, and how that meant that I would never be able to be the kind of man I want to be. She'd been saying that I needed to be ready for the possibility of her overshadowing me, and that I needed to change. I asked her if there was anything she thought she needed to change, and she said that she didn't need to change at all. I mentioned her difficulty with appreciating other people, and that was when we had the exchange I mentioned earlier. Then she goes on to say that "if you don't like this attitude" then I had to suck it up because "it's here to stay" since she doesn't have anymore "tolerance" in a relationship after the one year mark.

That was the point when I said something which I regret, because I still, even now, don't want her to feel hurt. I said "If I didn't know better I'd say that you were trying to get me to be the one who breaks up."

That led to her saying that we were now on a break.

She still wanted to live in my room with me, but she said that, in title, we were single now.

The next day I had to go across to the next state and back, so I had a lot of time in the car to think.

>>18649282

Over those car rides, I decided that it wouldn't be healthy for us to be living together if we're on a break, that if it's going to be a break then it has to be a real break. The much more difficult decision, though, was deciding that if she did want to get back together and live in my room, then I'd ask her to sign up for counseling first. I cared about her too much to keep seeing her suffer like this.

That night we called, we talked about whether or not we could live together, and at first she agreed what I said. After a few minutes, though, she said that she was physically repulsed by me now that she "knows what's inside". Then she said that she would be living with her roommate, and we both agreed that our relationship was definitely over.

Much later that night, we had the conversation I included in the OP.

I wish I did better.

I read the texts before I read the paragraph, and my initial thought was that you don't really sound really sad or upset about breaking up. You are very polite, and from what it sounds like a bit distant.
Then I read what you wrote. Look, honestly, she did you a favor putting you on "break". This chick seems like way too much to handle, and I can see why you have to talk to her like that. Her taking back the mutual breakup was just to get at you because thru text you don't seem nearly as upset. Not saying that you aren't, people express things in different ways. especially if there is a cultural difference. She refuses to compromise, listen, or even be nice to you. the possibility of overshadowing you? I'm impressed, you kept your cool during that exchange when a lot of others would have been (justifiably) outwardly angry. She insults your culture to your face. loving people don't do that. you have already bent over backward when you really shouldn't have, like deleting your porn. You should not have done that, she has no right to ask you to do that. I'm a girl by the way, if that matters. You honestly sound like a really great guy, and you deserve someone who will respect and love you. This girl may love you, but she sure as shit does not respect you.
let her go.

College is what you make of it.
There's many benefits and opportunities to going besides getting a degree.
If you feel you're not going to take advantage of higher education then don't go, or attend a community college and discover something.

I feel like that depends on what you're studying. For example, philosophy degrees are only good for a job at your local Wal-Mart or McDonalds. If you're looking for something that you could actually use to make money, such as Computer Info Systems, Accounting, engineering or the like, you'd most likely see great returns over the course of your life. I would also say that going into trades can be worth it if you're willing to put in the work.

If you care about wealth and luxury rather than just comfort and stainability, maybe. If you just want to learn stuff for the sake of learning, then yes. Unless you can learn by yourself by buying books and stuff. Not to mention the fact that you can also do research in a university.

Girl at 25
Boy at 28

Don't wait

>>18648137
You already got a place, degrees, and jobs?
Then get to it. Women reach peak fertility at 25 and its all down hill after that.

>>18648104
had a dream about fucking my 12 year old sister
ive never thought this way of her before, i blame 4chan

I made the mistake of talking to you after you ignored me saying you blocked me. I'm done jumping through hoops. I'm done apologizing when it was all your fault to begin with. You're just a whore who has been handed everything her whole life and expect others to bow down to your wishes. I wish I hadn't talked to you again. I wish I hadn't seen you again. I'm done with you now. I know that for sure.

Hey M
Stop hiding out in your dorm or whatever and come out more often. I've been dying to ask you out but I never fucking see you. I'm in the library all the time. Come out and say hi.
Thanks, D

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**Caution**
Behavior or Situations that are fairly safe but we should be self-aware of and handle accordingly so that they do not reach the Warning or Danger Stages. Use our best judgement, common sense, and put ourselves in the perspective of our Significant Other, then ask ourselves: “Would I be upset if the situation was reversed?”
>Spending 1 on 1 alone time with friends of the opposite sex who are Single and actively searching for a relationship or intimacy.
>Red Flags for opposite sex friends: They disapprove of your significant other without getting to know them or for no reason. They are disinterested, disregarding, concerned, or have a mood drop whenever you mention your significant other. (Some women will often fake interest in a man’s Significant Other in a guise to get closer to him).
>Spending time with a group of opposite sex friends where your significant other is not welcome or invited. (the group not wanting him/her there for whatever reason not pertaining to a membership or something similar)

**Safe**
Behavior or Situations that have almost no chance of reaching the other Stages.
>Spending 1 on 1 or group time with friends of who are already in healthy active relationships, or who are single but celibate and not directly seeking opposite sex companionship.
>Spending 1 on 1 or group time with friends of the opposite sex who are homosexual (not bisexual).
>Any amount of communication with those mentioned above.

**Pertaining to all Stages**
>Inappropriate comments or actions by those mentioned above or yourself, even if regarded or intended as jokes (ex: Nude Pics or Suggestive Texts/Emails, Intimate Contact, Fondling, Groping, etc…). Intimate contact such as Hugs or Kisses could be deemed inappropriate based on a few factors.
>Kiss ex: peck on cheek = OK, peck on lips = NO.
>Hug ex: quick hello/goodbye hug = OK, prolonged hug with body pressing = NO.

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My GF told me that she has always given massages to her male friends, I expressed that I am not comfortable with that and stated these reasons as to why, she agreed that massaging her friends is not something she needs to do.

>Massages can be very intimate unless performed by a professional, neither of us are professional massage therapists and professional help is available for those who need it. Same goes for receiving a massage, we can massage each other or get professional to do it.

>>18648101
At this rate you might as well make a hand book wtf.

boyfriend

>>18647787
pick one with highest libido and let him rip you apart

>>18647787
>okcupid
>find dick
>profit
It's pretty easy homegirl, esp if you're just looking for a casual bang

Any gender: kinkiest sex you've had?

Girls who are publicly prudish about sex, are you secretly into really kinky stuff?

So how do you find confident dudes who are interested in dating and not just sex, or is it all just luck of the draw? Seems like datings been so black and white these days, you only get very insecure guys looking for love, or confident dudes looking for sex. Where do you find the middle ground?

>>18647589
Describe the taste.

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Lol OP is retarded
>Responding to b8 thread
I'm retarded too

>>18647589
That doesn't prove anything as all women stain their underwear after a while. It's called discharge/mucus.

First, you need to stop thinking you are perfect and it's the fault of women for being too stupid to date you. Learn what those other guys are doing right and you wrong. Then work on fixing that.

Also what do you mean trying? Did you set up a dating site account? Or tinder?

>>18643792
you didnt mention your weight
also, the women probably dont know you have those things
take pics with those things on fb and youll get women messaging you

>>18643851
Fuck no, I refuse to use crap like that.
Chat with a random girl I see in the elevator.
Over time (1-3months) try to see if she's interested.

>>18643880
1.84m
84kg
I hate social media. I do not have a single account.

I do not have a smartphone, I have an old simple mobile phone.

He's not defending genocide committed by Nazi's. He's defending EVERYONE's right to voice their own opinion.
bait

>>18650383
Why do Nazi's deserve to voice their opinion? The only thing that can happen is more people find out that they agree and then you have even more Nazis. That's a bad thing BTW

No he is not a fucking nazi he is a patriot

Freedom of speech is what makes america great, nazis have the right to protest peacefully and yes you think they are evil and bad and yomes of course you are right but on a political level your boyfriend is right. No he is not a nazi actually quite the opposite, stopping freedom of speech is a very nazi thing to do

ITT: alpha widow

You gave him what he wanted tve second time you two met. There's nothing in it for him anymore. If a man you like romantically really wants to bang you you put off sex until he gets to know you and starts wanting you and not just your pussy, yes some guys will leave if you do this but those that genuienly likes you as a person and would like to be with you would stick around.
Basically don't put out too soon.

let men hunt and have crushes, you are trying to secude a man which is his job, you are supposed to choose from a selection of cocks not run after them

women up

>>18649581
She has had foreign penis inside of her, and you still took her back, maybe shes so possesive of you, because you're litterally lower than her ficticios dog

>>18649581
I don't even want to fuck any other women nor do I go out of my way to try to fuck other women. In fact, I barely go out when I have time off anyways because I want to save money. How the fuck do I fix this without provoking a mental breakdown by calling her insecure and making her self conscious about being insecure? Everything aside from these dumb fucking episodes that feel like she goes out of her way to find problems with our relationship is fine. I don't even want to break it off, I just want her to understand that I'm not this sick fuck she thinks I am. It's fucking ridiculous.

>>18649591
Im pretty sure these episodes are not the only thing wrong in your relationship, their just fairly large and therefore makes any other thing look miniscule in compairisson. In other words you are fooling yourself OP dump her preemptively so that you might actually have a chance at recovering ever again

>>18649580
tell him he is your little baby tampon boy and you will put him in your hoo hoo

>>18649580
If he's not good teach him otherwise say things that make him feel powerfull if he is a dominant type and the inverse for a sub and experiment with scratching his back as if hes just killing it down there that and if you dont moan id recomend finding some kind of identifiable action to display your satisfaction that he can identify its all in the end playing to his ego and fetishes

"I wish you were bigger"

Learn to love a little less each time. Also, fuck you and this slide thread.

>>18649136
That's not me bro. I'm completely all in or nothing

>>18649135
Been six years now and no, I still carry her everywhere I go.