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use Aciclovir cream and pills
when get them, they dont even last a day with this

>>18543888
when i get them*
holy fuck i should go to bed

>>18543888
will try
its 2am, but i will be there first thing in the pharmacy

>>18543848
Stop being a pussy? Stop putting so much stock in what others think. I know easier said than done.

No one on this planet has anymore right to be here than you. This authority you feel they have over you is in your head.

You can't change this over night but you can make steps. We are all part of the same compost heap. Fuck what people think, including me.

Who cares if you make a fool of yourself? People literally make a living out of making fools of themselves. Even if you do make a fool of yourself you will probably never see any of those people again and they will forget about you in a couple days.

>>18543964
I guess I just need to find a way to get braver.

>>18543732
>How do I get over liking her so much?

only way to get over her is to remove her from your life. if you keep hanging out with her she's just gonig to continue to absorb your attention and thoughts.

just move on, its the only way.

>>18543757
How am I supposed to drop her like that? It's not easy, especially since we're close.

>>18544374

Nobody said it had to be instant. Just turn your head and start looking for other opportunities. Take a walk on that day you'd normally do something else, hit the gym, find a hobby, etc.

Start a journal. It really helped me out when I was dealing with the same thing. It really lets you say what you wanna say without hurting others.

Buy gym membership. Buy punching gloves. When angry, kill punching bag.
If ya don't wanna buy a gym membership and punching gloves, just punch those easily replaceable doors.
> angry at game
> punch door
> hole in door
> been here for months now>

>>18543982
Pretty much this. I live by the woods so when I feel the anger building up I just grab a baseball bat and find a nice stump and smash the shit out of it.

I call it my therapy bat and it is dented from a tree.

>blowing you off
Where? All I see is you asking her what she's up to this weekend and her responding to your attempt to make smalltalk

She answered your question?

And assuming you have no previous chat history, she probably doesn't want to set up a date with a guy she hasn't even talked to for five minutes.

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>>18543697

>She's blowing me off pretty hard here.

What the fuck are you talking about? You asked her a question and she gave you an answer.

>>18543694
A trained therapist. A support group. Ask your family or friends to hold you accountable to abstain from using. It's hardest to beat addiction if you keep it to yourself.

>>18543694
Depending on the physical effects of withdrawl, you can get over the mental effects by locking yourself in with a friend for a few weeks to have him keep your mind off of it and keep you honest until it passes, though I dunno where you'd find that kind of friend if you don't have one

Started going to CBT last week. I can't say if it will help or not but I've made a point to cut back anyway. I'm still kinda paranoid my therapist will think I'm a stupid piece of shit. Why do people take these jobs... ?

OP-- gonna give it a read, hang tight.

Initial advice: you don't really 'select one.' Just like people, their experience and interests and personal strengths will lend them to and against certain things. You could have the same problem discussed by two therapists and end up with totally different results. Or totally similar results, who knows.

You'll likely have to get your feet wet on this one, I'm afraid, so steel yourself for that. Just try to keep the open approach.

That said, gonna read.

>>18543554 here,

For starters, haha. It sounds like we have a lot in common to a point. We divide at the families-- you are surrounded by the 'black sheep' who embody worse traits of humans... in my family, that's me-- I'm the black sheep, the one everyone mutters about, wonders about. I'm sure they're waiting for me to end up in a noose, jail, or the news on the run. Not to mention how many of them assume I'm gay because I have troubles connecting with women because I've been nothing but fucked over in the past in relationships. Gosh!

To be straight with you, I don't think we get to win against this shit. This anxiety that eats us over the most banal shit. And here we wonder, are we normal? We're perfectly privileged, doing things others would only dream of. We're not allowed to be broken, right?

I can't offer you much. I'm interested in psychology casually, but I'm not an expert. I'm mostly just in the same boat as you as I said, though my family tends to leave me in the corner more than push me into it like yours-- which is one relief I am glad to claim. But, for one claimed, another forsaken. Right?

You're going to need to try a lot with therapists. I had to run through three before one of them finally stopped me mid-story and said, "You know THAT part isn't normal... right?" And I fucking didn't, because most shrinks are just out for a buck and fucking blow. I don't blame them, though, because a lot of patients just want an easy excuse out of something. So it's a bit on both sides there. You could end up searching for a while, so I'd get the specifics on your uni's plan.

As for a paper trail, it'll be left but I think as an adult only you (or authorized bodies of law) can access it. It's your information.

But, I'm Canadian, and a guess says to me maybe you're American, and that means you're coming from a vastly different infrastructure. Take my word with a grain of salt.

>>18543579
Thanks for your response. I'm actually Canadian as well and currently residing in Southern Ontario (shithole I know).

The bit that you said about not being allowed to be broken hits home. It's something that I've said to myself as well.

It also reminds me of something that friends have said to me. When we first met, they thought that I'd be a complete asshole and we'd never be friends. A few weeks later and I'm one of their favourite people in the world, but they know there's something wrong with the relationship. They describe it as being like I somehow manipulated them into to liking me. I suppose it's because there's no reciprocity in my relationships. I seem to understand them intuitively from the moment we meet, but they know comparatively nothing about me. The tidbits of information that I offer are carefully selected to keep them running in circles on the mask's surface.

I'm 20 myself. Graduating with an associate's in like 2 weeks, then probably gonna stay with them for another year or so while I work and save up money. That is the plan at least.

>>18543509
You don't need friends to room with, just look for ads asking for roommates. It's a decent learning experience, and a great excuse to actually talk to some people.

>>18543509
If your parents aren't dropping hints they want you to start looking for your own place, and you don't mind living with family what's the rush? Think of all the money you're saving.

I am 18 BTW. Oh and I have also done psychedelics a few times which could make me seem interesting/adventurous.

Don't worry so much about image, mate, just focus on doing what you like, and pushing that a little every now and again. *Be* adventurous instead of pretending to be.

Get fitter, get out on hikes or walks etc. Might be a bit more enjoyable than the gym or can at least vary your exercise routine.

If you need the extra pressure, make that positive instead of negative: in other words, do things as part of a team, that way you'll be obligated to do you role, and if you enjoy the activity you'll want to do that anyways, not because of fear the others will hare you. But YMMV.

I only got to your hobby list and I already want to run for the hills
in my experience anyone who likes to """""""debate"""""""" (read: argue with random people to feel superior and correct) are the last people I would ever want to hang out with

>>18543287

>was it cheating

yeah.

>should i tell him

depends where your morals lie. mine say to tell him.

>should I at least tell my gf

yeah. as long as you didn't reciprocate i dont think its too wrong to play it off like she came on to you and you were too awkward to move because you were afraid of calling her out on it and having everyone act like it was your fault.

but if you reciprocated in some way id be honest.

>>18543287
Should have embarrassed her publicly by asking her to please stop kek

>>18543290
I was getting semi hard when I could feel her cold feet touching my bare skin above my ankles.

cos like I said she has great looking feet and yeah I admit whenever she around I do check her feet out when they are exposed.

only thing I'm scared about with my gf is that she already doesn't really like this friend of mine for some reason. I've never told her of our history or any thing but I can tell my gf is a bit more standoffish with this friend of mine.

on the other hand, said female friend has been a lifelong friend and one of my closest friends. so I don't know what to do.

I really do want them to get a long and I wouldn't ever cheat even if said friend was throwing herself at me.

Read your own post and pretend that it was someone else asking this.

The answer is extremely obvious.

>>18542936
>I have failed half of my modules because I just can't understand what is being taught anymore.
If everyone was failing this badly, it'd be an indication of the teaching quality. If it's only you, then it says a lot about you. I'm guessing it's the latter.

>To add to the difficult content, the department expects us to display so called 'professionalism' and any criticism of the course will lead to a disciplinary being handed out to the student.
It's not unreasonable for there to be a professionalism component. If you can't handle this, then you obviously don't belong.

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>>18542936

I'm 28 and for the first time I'm able to go to college in my life. I've work 60+ hours every week for the last near decade t9 take care of my grandfather and mother. Supporting them and helping my mom keep her home, you literally have no idea how good you have it. Buckle down, grit through your bullshit and apply yourself. Otherwise go work in the mine like I did and see how you enjoy that.

She doesn't want to be with you so why would you beg her to take you back?

>>18542746
Wow, you sound pathetic anon

Guess what she did in the meantime.

Is there literally any girl here in the UK that wants to cuddle me?

I'm 18, athletic build, 6ft. Literally someones ideal but I am too much of a ROBOT ;-;

>>18542713
I’m 5’7, 23, and a twig. I’m sure I’ve somehow have had less than ideal experiences than you, and I’ve had a gf every year since I was 18, some pretty hot. Suck it up you dumb fucking Chad. Girls on tinder will fuck you literally JUST BECAUSE

>>18542732
I'm looking for a very specific type of woman.

A skinny adorable shut-in neet who wears oversized jumpers and hoodies and owns a big fluffly dog.

I won't settle for LESS
>>18542713

Is therapy just a meme or is it statistically effective?

>>18542408
Majority of therapist and psychiatrist suck. Up to you

>>18542415
How should I know I'm bearly starting it

>>18542364
Just try to introduce yourself to others. Try to ask them to hang out or go get food together. You don't have to be the most popular person. Just make friends.

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Going to college too, don't have any friends.
My plan is just to try hard, study hard. What I've seen that people on the academic too have people flock to them.

So I'm going to go for that. The worse thing that could happen is that I have no friends and great grades.

>>18542364
>>18542784
Same
We'll all make it bros. Our lives haven't even started yet