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>>18070946
Oh I should also mention when she got the drugs it was like 12 at night. She is five years older than me as well.

>>18070948
I've had girls like this too. My neighbour used to be super friendly and flirty when she found out that I had drugs
I've found that 9/10 times they're just looking for cheap/free drugs
There's always the outlier though so just play it by ear but don't ignore the signs if it seems like she is just doing it for a cheap deal

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2. I feel old. Hard to explain, but I've always been very independent. I've lived on my own since I was a kid, I've taken care of whatever needs to be taken care of and paid for everything myself ever since I can remember. And I travel constantly between countries since my family live abroad, and between cities since other family members live in different parts of my country. All this travelling wearies me A LOT. I see all my friends finishing school and wanting to travel, to know the world, drink and have fun, and all I want is to settle somewhere, own a house and have kids. I'm tired of delaying these things and living uncertainly. I feel old because I'm 25 and I've been looking for a purpose forever and still haven't found it.

I have little money and will need to get a job ASAP after my degree is done...and taking into account all I can aim for with my sort of work and academic experience at my age are low paying jobs, that means years, DECADES perhaps, of being miserable doing what I already do, counting pennies. Renting a room, shared to save even more money, dreaming about having enough money to have a place of my own. And of course, all this taking place during an increasingly crazy housing market, so who knows if in 10 years I'll have enough saved up for even a downpayment.

How can I deal with this? It's the feeling of not being secure, and the vision of security being so far away from me that's fucking me up. How am I supposed to deal with this?

>>18070928
Most people who take time off to work and go back to school are sensible. What in god's name compelled you to study fucking literature. With that you might be considered for a sales job where you don't need a degree anyway. Other than that, start a business, or keep working low end jobs. Literature degrees are for trust fundies who go work at dad's firm. That obviously wasn't you.

>>18070960
No regrets on that front, desu. I chose whay I love.

If I picked something else with better job opportunities, it'd be the same problem but from another perspective; this time I'd have a stable job and more money, but still be miserable because I'd be doing something I don't like. I suppose I could get off the ride faster because I'd save more money in less time, but still...

Get a puppy.

>>18070968
no, seriously, anon. I was the exact same way, I just needed someone or something to love that would unconditionally love me back.
Was a pretty fucked up person before then. Really. Demanded love from way too many people.

Got a dog - boom, all problems fixed. I'm not in such a great mental state compared to me a year before, completely made a 180 and now in a stable and healthy relationship. ez

>>18070829
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>>18070976
Yeah. In all seriousness, there's a lot of studies that show that having a pet like a car or a dog greatly reduces stress and depression and shit. Dogs especially improve a human's mental health in all sorts of ways.

>>18070792
>have a hand full of friends and train at the local gym
Pretty good reasons not to end your life.

>>18070808
Fpbp
This senpai

>>18070792
Honestly you have a chance for everything to get better. You have a handful of friends, I'm assuming they must be good friends. That is something not everyone has in life. Enjoy it. You are in school, work hard and do your best to enjoy it. Keep up the gym and just do your best to make it work every day. 28 isn't that old yet. You've got opportunities ahead.

No and never go back to social media cause its shit.
He's giving you an opportunity to drop it, take it.

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>>18070761
Are you really an introvert, or just someone who's shy around large groups?

>>18070779

I'm pretty sure. Aside from the behavior mentioned in my post, I go through most of my everyday life by myself and don't like to talk to people. It's just my small circle of friends.

because your parents didn't give you enough love as a child

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>>18070726
Possibly, would need more details. Is he a comfy guy who gives you positive energy amd is authentic or is he a shallow person who has shallow relationships and makes you feel inadequate?

I think it would be weirder if you suddenly decided not to be friends with them just because you're dating her now. It sounds like you're making something unnecessarily awkward or complicated, just from this little info.

>>18070726
I met my current group of friends through the ex of a girl I dated.

There was a few times where me, her ex, and her current boyfriend (after we stopped dating) would hangout
Maybe she got off on it a bit

>>18070721

> only seem to have success when I don't care or try.

pretty much this. if you don't feel like touching, don't do it. don't worry too much either. have a good conversation, share some food, do things together ... just the usual stuff.

start beeing touchy, when you feel like it.

>>18070721
You probably just haven't tried enough alcohol.

>>18070721

"creep" here.
I don't actively try to be creepy, I just give off a vibe. Believe me, I've tried everything. I can't avoid it.

I found the the easiest way to prevent hoverhand is to just not even try making physical contact. Your hands don't hover at your sides or in your pockets.

Now you might think "Well, if she's touching me, she must be okay with physical contact with me". Nope, apparently it does not work both ways. Women think they can touch a man whenever and wherever they want (even if the man has autism and has made it fucking clear he does not like physical contact) but if he touches back he very well might hear "ewww don't touch me" even from someone who's supposed to be his friend.

Make a girl work for it. If you don't feel comfortable with that shit, it's her problem, not yours. If a girl actually does want to be touched in any way, it's on her to find a way to make herself some more approachable and comforting to you. To let you know that shit's alright.
Otherwise she can jog the fuck on and end up with Chad. I don't give a fuck.

just buy the tickets ahead of time, bypass this whole scenario

>>18070674
bumperino

Have you kissed her yet?

If so, definitely couple seat.

I'd lean towards couple seat even if you haven't, give you an opportunity to cuddle a bit and have some physical contact.

I can't imagine myself ever succeeding. I hate it so much, but the truth is I fuck up everything I do. Almost nothing goes right for me and I can only imagine death or worse in the next year or two.

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>>18070630
Anon, I know how you feel. Wanting to better yourself and not yielding a tad of satisfaction is hauntin. I quit smoking, stopped fappin, go to the gym, and I still feel like absolute shit about myself. If I could focus and make progress I'd probably be ok, however in my mind "progress" is one big abstraction. Rejection isn't progress in my eyes, niether is reading a journal...sure I've gained a broader perpective on things but where the fuck am I going to use it if I'm still a wageslave/college loner

>>18070624
I feel you OP ...
What I would recommend is probably just taking a couple of days as a break and then setting a time table that you shall follow from this day onward strictly ...

i just tell myself im never gonna see that fuckface ever again and move on with my stupid life

>>18070577
I live in phoenix and we get shot here if we pull that shit so people generally don't. The bad driving is generally based on people being stupid, not malevolent here.

Buy a gun.

Buy an old zil truck and shove a massive bull bar on it, whenever some cunt tries that again you'll mutilate their car, also get a dashcam so you can prove they were at fault.
You also get a cool car.

>>18070530
marry stream punk fan girl

>>18070530
You play EU4 my man?

excellent taste brother, i thought to be the only one with them as some of my interests

you are not fucked in the slightest. The classic architecture show that you have a great sense of art and aestetic while the grand strategy game shows that you have a brain that work quite well.
So cheer it up, your problems are not due them

Cringe. Kys

My advice is to get a job where you are and amass some savings. Moving to another country right now would be unwise.

I have this exact struggle, and unfortunately the best solution I've found is practice and putting in additional effort. One thing that may help is to repeat details/events you want to remember a few times in your head until it actually sets in. I don't have many other ideas beyond that and advertising an iffy memory.

>>18070474
Just politely say, hello back, and if they say anything flirtatious, say thabks very much but I'm seeing someone.
Your boyfriend's being a bit of a dick for sure, but men are protective and knowing your past he prob is ultra protective but doesn't realize that your past is why you reacted.
I straight up drunkenly was molested by an Uber because I just didn't know what to do because I never get hit on, my boyfriend was mad but didn't take it out on me. It isn't your fault, and you need to explain this and talk it through with your bf.
The bartender was just playing banter, you're not his only customer you know? It was rude of him.

>>18070485
I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you, that sounds horrible.

I'm glad to hear I did things mostly right then. The person mainly doing the talking didn't say anything too flirtatious, just usual bar questions like if I was having a good night, but then his friends started laughing at him trying to flirt. If he said anything outright flirtatious then I would've rejected him, but then the owner came in.

I do think I need to re-open this discussion with him. I hate any and all attention, so the idea of some bullshit fight happening in my honour makes my toes curl.