I have been in a relationship for most of my
adult life. Now that I'm single again I'm finding it difficult flirt. Allow me to reiterate
myself I'm having a hard time effectively
flirting to the level that solicits a response
that I can accurately gauge while if nothing
else making myself seem fun and likable.
Too subtle and it's confused for friendliness.
Too forward and it intimidates women.
I'm not talking about game or pick up lines.
But rather authentically being myself and
provoking an indirect yes or no answer.
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>>18702279
you're way way way over thinking it. Just talk, don't plan it out in advance, just talk. If there is chemistry there you will know and it will be natural.
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>>18702291
Well now this I can do.
I can initiate and hold conversation.
But I just have trouble recognizing if a girl is into
me. Which is where flirting would come into play.
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>>18702295
Practice makes perfect mate. No way to get around it I'm afraid.
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I'd post this on /sci/ but they'd laugh me out.
I'm very good at doing highschool math - which is, following basic pre-taught instructions to arrive at certain answers. I'm even decent at the slightly more open-ended geometry proofs, if only because I'm practiced so many of them I've developed a gut intuition as to what 'tools' to use when solving what type of problem.
But when I went to college, everything broke down.
When a professor writes a proof on the board, I GET it. I understand it, even on an intuition level (although sometimes only on an intuition level). Same goes with all those math channels on YouTube. I get what they're saying, I get how they reach all these conclusions. And yet, as soon as I'm faced with an open problem (even something as "simple" as proving root-2 is irrational) I'm completely stumped. I have no idea how to begin to approach the problem. It's almost like I like lack CREATIVITY to solve all these proofs.
How do I stop being such a brainlet?
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>>18702206
I know everything above that line but rarely ever use anything but algebra
t. engineer
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>>18702206
Boring old fart here.
I was a whizz at high school math. Straight As, awards, scholarship offers. I entered college as a math major and took my first calculus class. It might as well have been conducted in Sanskrit. I understood nothing, absolutely nothing.
I changed my major, did well in the new field, and never looked back.
Get the point?It is not the end of the world
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You get a more fundamental understanding of math when you have to use it to do a job, I.e. The Sumerians discovering the Pythagorean theorem to build, all the ancient cultures that had sophisticated calendars to predict eclipses, etc.
If you don't need to be creative, then you won't be
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a person i know is a prime example of a normie and whenever i say anything about it he just goes on a rampage, what should i do
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Stop?
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>>18702189
Dumb frogposter
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>>18702189
The fact that you're accusing him of being a normie
The fact that he knows what a "normie" is
The fact that he's "on a rampage" over being called one
Says that you both spend waaaaaay too much fucking time on here.
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I was wanting some opinions on this, if you guys could help.
>depressed as all hell (runs in the family, fuck you genetics)
>been fighting it for a long time
>it's finally catching up with me though
>been feeling worse and worse
>remembered that I have a bag of these sample pills that my doctor gave me a while back
>they're an experimental drug (at least they were when he gave them to me), and they didn't fix my depression
>instead, they sent me through manic highs and deep lows, almost like I was bipolar
>the lows were really bad; gave me suicidal thoughts, but I never acted on any of them.
>but the highs
>the highs were amazing; I was king of the world and more productive than I'd ever been
>never felt better in my life
>have enough of these pills for at least a few months
Should I start taking them again? I live in a small town and the only doctor within a reasonable distance refuses to treat me anymore for some bullshit that I can't get into, so getting a new/better prescription is nigh impossible with how little I make. Do I fuck myself up for the good days or stay feeling awful?
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Take them or sell to somebody that's willing to.
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>numale crying about some made up "disease"
lol
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How can I have better motivation and discipline?
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>>18702038
I'll tell you if I feel like it
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>>18702038
Kill yourself
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I ask myself this all the time.
Why does this randomly happen sometimes when I press delete? Driving me fucking insane.
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Please send help.
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Nobody helps pedos
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>>18702171
Look at those child-bearing hips. She's clearly 18+.
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Something is wrong with me.
I love my wife and kids, but it doesn't motivate me enough to go out and work hard. I want to, but I procrastinate and lose focus so easily. I'm so awful with time management and organizational tasks that it is beyond overwhelming. I just can't bring myself to do anything in life that is productive or positive. I've lucked my way into a great career that I'm barely able to manage and I'm faking it successfully due to fake charm and a high IQ. The problem is that it doesn't give me any noticeable anxiety. I kind of bury it. I can dig up the anxiety a little if I dwell on uncomfortable thoughts, but normally it's suppressed. I make about 150k per year, but could easily make double that. Not to mention that if my employer started investigating me, I'd probably be in danger of losing my job.
I used to waste my life away on games and entertainment. Now even those things barely register for me. I get bored of everything easily. I have pissed away all my friendships and can't seem to make friends easily anymore beyond the most superficial acquaintenances. No activities really bring me actual joy. I don't even remember what that feels like.
With all that said, I'm not sad really. I'm just so fucking numb. I don't really feel emotions anymore. Not really. I feel love sometimes, but it's still like I can't truly experience it. It's like seeing it through a fog.
I'm just so lost. It'd be easier if I really felt depressed or something. I don't feel like ending it all. I don't have highs and lows. It's just this BLEH life all the time.
What the fuck is wrong with me and what can I do to fix it?
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What's your opinion on prescription stimulants? Adderall (mixed amphetamine salts) or Vyvanse (methylphenidate) will probably work for you.
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>>18702020
I don't know. I left out a key detail. I also have a mild version of Tourette's. As an adult it has mostly gone away and I sometimes get an urge to move my neck or blink forcefully. No vocal tics anymore. The reason this is relevant is that stimulants can exacerbate these kinds of symptoms. I don't want to make my tics worse. Most people think I'm pretty normal.
I'm starting college, I'm a freshman in a new school halfway across the country and I just want to know how to find some parties to go to. I need friends, something to do on the weekends and somehow to find an easy fuck
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I'm sure asking strangers on an anonymous website will net you the best contacts and up to date info on the latest get togethers, you thick fuck.
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>>18701991
Every single freshman in the school will be in the exact same boat.
The school will fill the first month or so with parties and get-togethers for new students. Go to every one.
Meet your neighbors in the dorms. Ask around for what's happening this weekend. Someone will know.
And in all the partying, do give an occasional moment's thought to your courses.
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So I had a job. A job I liked. A job that I thought "this is my out, if I work hard I can have the impossible dream of a job I both enjoy and can literally get rich off of. Then the job went to shit. Many reasons involved but I blame ONE person. A shitty guy who had no idea what he was doing and kissed ass to the top, then fired everyone, including eventually myself. I'm so full of resentment and rage. The way this job turned to shit so fast... it made me question my passion. it took something from me. I have no joy when I work anymore. I struggle to work at all because it's just become so painful. I don't know what to do. Every time I think I'm over it I just feel rage. It's like it never ends. Each job is just a reminder of that one, and even perfectly pleasant people piss me off, because I just can't help but associate. I feel like there is no job or career that I can do now that I won't hate. I don't want to end up like my father, my mother, hating every moment of their life because of people stepping on them the whole time. I also never want to work for someone else again. I want to provide for myself. That doesn't necissarily mean a job where i'm boss. I'd even literally rather grow my own food and raise chickens than work for someone else. I tense up like crazy. I grind my teeth. Just thinking about doing any work at all. The slightest task seems like a huge weight. And you might think I'm just lazy, and I might even agree with you if it weren't for the fact that I worked for years leading teams as a director at my company. I don't slack...or at least I didn't...because I found joy in it. But it's like all my work is unrewarded. What do I have to look forward to? Is there even a way out?
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Sounds like a hard lesson but one that everyone must learn which is that you shouldn't spend your precious creative energy on any job. You do it on your own time and for yourself and only do the bare minimum that you need to keep your job and not get fired.
Spend that energy on yourself and your own business or whatever.
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>>18701921
Just don't know where to go from here though. I had learned that lesson before...kind of. But this job made me really believe in it. Thats why I worked so hard. I knew even at the time it was probably stupid, but I took the risk. but now i just want to work for myself but i'm just so exhausted. I literally went from being healthy to having less weight and grey hairs. I'm still pretty young. But I feel so old. I've been trying to figure out a business I'd actually enjoy, but I keep getting so damn depresed that I don't pursue it further. I'm trying so hard to break out of that. I want to enjoy things again. I try to convince myself "oh, you'll like this when you do it." but I don't. I don't know.
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>>18701983
>But this job made me really believe in it.
I can understand, totally. It's funny because it makes me remember that nazi slogan, "work makes you free". it's just so tempting to lose yourself in a job where you're part of something.
pick up a hobby dude, no bullshit like model making or video games but an honest to god hobby where you really have to work to get good at it. woodworking, drawing, fixing cars or something. what you need is an outlet where you see results, otherwise you're going to go insane and burn out. it happened to me and it really fucked me up.
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I'm sure this is a common issue here. What have you do to overcome it? What has helped you?
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I took drama in high school for 6 years. In college, I had countless remarks from professors about the incredible quality of my presentations.
This is despite the fact that whenever I have to go in front of people, I'm so nervous that I want to vomit and I won't eat anything all day. I go first just so I can get it over with.
Since I'm terrified of fucking up, I rehearse everything I'm going to say over and over in my head. I make sure that it rolls off the tongue nicely and ESPECIALLY that I know what I'm talking about. If I don't know what I'm talking about, I don't talk.
So I guess:
1. Rehearse
2. Rehearse
3. Rehearse
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>>18701785
>in high school
>6 years
I meant in school in general. I swear I'm not retarded.
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>>18701785
In your head, jerk your dick off a bit about how you got all those fags to pay attention to you.
Don't be afraid. Feed off it.
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legitimately considering offing myself
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So this will probably seem extremely dramatic to just about anyone on the internet, but I was recently banned from just about the only place I felt welcome (the Beyond Skyrim discord (it's a mod)) for sharing my opinions (I'm quite the conservative and someone was asking for relationship advice, so I basically told the lad to man up) and was immediately banned for being "sexist". I'm just so sick of living in a world where I'm hated for my beliefs and I feel like the world would benefit from me not being here. Maybe I'm not alone? I doubt I'll seriously do it, but I just feel really alone right now.
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>>18701775
I get that feeling too. Sometimes you're trying to help someone and people hate you immediately because of your "beliefs." We live in a very weird world anon where up is down and down is up. We are almost at the reset stage of civilization.
Hang in there.
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>>18701775
Im liberal leaning n all so hope that adds value to my agreeing with you here:
Thats no welcome place. If saying "man up" gets you banned that was a shit community full of sheltered little faggots who after banning you out on a smug smile and couldnt wait to tell everyone who would listen they did their part to smash some imagined enemy they all made on tumblr.
Fuck that place man.
It doesnt sound like from what youve provided you dont have or share any extreme beliefs (i imagine if you did youd have been banned sooner for more.) so i can honestly tell you the amount of people who would actually seek to prosecute are incredibly few in number. You arent under attack.
Its fitting it happened in an online community where everyones hiding behind keyboards. Thats where these people.hang out.
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>>18701775
Gravy says don't do it man
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Hey /adv/ I'm confused about a girl I'm talking to. We send each other good night/morning snaps and such and I flirt with her. A week ago it was my birthday and she sent me a tit pic. I showed her my dick. I asked he r to talk dirty and she said if she did some of it wouldn't be true? This chick is the definition of mixed signals.
>Pic may be related
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>>18701754
maybe she got nervous
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>>18701764
How so?
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>>18701754
>she said if she did some of it wouldn't be true
what she meant was she would just say a bunch of slutty stuff that she doesn't really mean or ever intend to do just to help you feel good.
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I am such a fucking beta i can't even tell a girl i have loved for 3 years and knew for 7 how i feel about her.
Even normal conversations i just feel i'm being annoying, i'm even debating moving cities just to escape the shame.
She has more online friends as she is a shitposter and i just wish she had interest in me, as we live in the same town.
I just want to feel what its like in a relationship.
Any ideas?
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>>18701734
Yeah, find another girl
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>>18701734
tell her how you feel. if she doesnt feel the same then tell her to eat shit and move on
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How do you move on from a lost love when you KNOW you'll never love someone that much again?
I feel like dating anyone would be disrespectful because I'll never love them as much as I loved my ex.
I've dated a few times since and the feelings have always been shallow in comparison.
I want move on, but I just feel it's shitty of me to date someone if I'll never love them more than her.
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>>18701704
Love is not enough.
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>>18701704
Everyones felt this.
The objective truth is you dont know that. You arent psychic.
And if i can bore you with science..
Love isnt magic. Its chemical. Your brain has proven itself capable of producing these feelings and it will again with another who fucks you affirms you and gives you companionship.
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Yeah, you can't do it. You're fucked, you may as well kill yourself. I mean, out of the billions of bitches on earth you managed to meet the one you'd love the most and date her and now you'll never, ever find anyone even close! The chances of that happening were so small! You were truly the luckiest you'll ever be and now you have absolutely nothing to look forward to. Just end it. She was truly the most special snowflake out there.
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Got contacted by ex during No Contact. GIVE ME WISDOM!
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My ex dumped me two years ago. Afterwards, we continued to hook up. Eventually, she would tell me she's getting serious with her new partner and wants to stop sleeping with me.
We eventually started fucking again. About three times a month.
On Labor Day she said the same thing to me. She's been dating someone for eight months and feels guilty about hooking up with me. I was dumb enough to tell her I could just be her friend, like last time, then made out with her for a bit.
But fuck that, I don't want to just be friends with her. I want to fuck her brains out, and if that's not an option, move on completely.
She just texted me randomly about catching up on Game of Thrones, even though I haven't messaged her since Labor Day. Considering my goals, our history, and current circumstances, do you guys think I should respond? Or should I be distant for now?
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You two are really disgusting people and are perfect for each other.
I suggest you become trailer trash together and live in peace in the wilderness.
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>>18701701
I already intend to move to the wilderness when I retire. I asked for advice, not PATHETIC MORAL MEWLING
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>>18701685
>move on completely
do this.
obviously you are her backup safety net and she has no interest in you in the long term.