>20 years old
>Talk to someone
>Don't feel an urge to converse
>Get nothing from opening my mouth, and I don't care to speak
>Talking to people feels like solving mathematical equations
>Can't stop treating people like they're problems in my way
>Only feel happy to converse in writing
Does anybody else do this?
I'm lonely, but I just don't feel like talking to others.
I've constantly seen my father doing the same thing. Is this just something that comes with age? I can't help but feel that each word that comes from another human being older than teenage-years is forced.
Bumping for more information on this
Hey, I actually kinda feel the same. I can go on and on with messages but I hate talking, by phone or in person. Sometimes it messes with my relations because they think I'm angry at them but 1. That's just my expression (resting bitch face) 2. I don't feel comfortable talking 3. Most of the time I don't like to look at people in the eye. I too would like some advice!
So I was talking to a girl and I was really into her. Anyway, she opened up about some personal stuff and it turns out that a few years ago she got raped by a bunch of different dudes and is (understandably) still traumatized about it today.
How do I get rid of her without making her feel shit?
Easy, just slowly hint that you're a horrible person by dropping some poor taste jokes and being really cringey. Eventually she'll stop talking to you
If things get intimate at all, just tell her that you think it's only fair to let her know you're not at a place in your life where commitment is an option. Explain that you're working on yourself and can't be in any sort of relationship.
If you're trying to get rid of her as a friend all together, I dunno. But if you like her idk why you'd need to remove her as a friend
"accidentally" open your laptop around her with hardcore rape porn on the screen
she'll either never speak to you again or.. jackpot
I'm 20 and going back to school, trying to get my shit together.
My problem is I feel really dumb. I have a hard time thinking critically, organizing my thoughts, remembering things, concentrating, have derealization and brain fog all the time, etc.
I can think of some possible causes:
>I damaged my brain's development from never working hard at anything during my teen years and shitposting and smoking weed instead
>I have some undiagnosed disorder like ADHD
>my room in my parents' house is adjacent to to a storage room that's had a mold problem for years, I can sometimes smell it it my room so maybe it's effecting my cognition
I was wondering if Wellbutrin will help since a psychiatrist I saw already said it might be an option for my depression and anxiety.
As for the mold thing I'd like to just move out, but I'm at an all time low right now (mental health issues, chronic pain, no friends) and fear losing the support network of my family. I don't really want to convince them to get some professionals to check it out since I've caused them enough stress already. Can I just wear a face mask whenever I'm in my room?
can't help with the mold problem but i'd think there's some practical solution to fix it.
i can relate to constantly juggling a million different thoughts in your head though, and while i'm not doing it anymore the one and only thing that really helped was physical exercise of any kind. basically wearing your body out until you have no energy to think about all the random bullshit. sounds cheesy as fuck and you've probably already heard it a million times but that's pretty much it. there's a bunch of science to it but i'm like you not being able to organize my thoughts atm so i can't elaborate.
if you manage to squeeze it into your routine and ride the high that comes off it maybe (probably) it will make it easier for you to move out and cope with your issues.
>>18704091
Sounds pretty much like me. People usually say I'm smart, but I'm sure they're just kidding. Anyways, exercise is under-rated. We always talk about how healthy it is. The untold story is that it actually encourages brain development and connections to be made. So, if you're not, try taking up cardio and lifting. I hate to pull the "/fit/" card, but it may help you. Especially if you've been sedentary.
>finally had one hardcore exercise session last week
>night afterwards I had my first lucid dream
And make sure you air out your room if you have a window.
>>18704159
>>18704447
Just went for a run. Doing it always makes me feel better after doing it but I have never kept it up regularly. Need to change that.
Thanks guys. I'm also going to a meditation class on Sunday as I've found it to help me some when I've tried it.
So I got married (both virgins) a month ago and asked a few questions here, maybe you remember me.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you and mayber give some advice too if there's any need for it.
Not sure if this actually belongs here though, so if not, feel free to remove it.
>>18704089
If you actually want to be useful, tell us what advice you used and how effective it was.
Telling us how does one find wife tier material gf (and even virgin) would also be cool. You have 2000 char limit, feel free to use it.
>>18704097
The advice was mostly about the wedding night, as there wasn't much else left that I/we needed help with.
Thats was mostly stuff I'd expect anyone who's had sex before to know already.
Like, don't expect it to be perfect, don't force it, don't take it too serious, if it doesn't work out the first time, just relax and try again later.
Have a towel ready and make sure she's relaxed.
As for where to find someone like that, it's hard to say, because I only found one, and I think there's a few more out there.
We met over the internet, while playing games,so I'd suggest you look somewhere in your field of interest.
Other than that, she went to church, not because her parents made her, but because she wants to, so that always helps, as well as her generally being traditional, since marriage is a generally traditional institution.
Not saying a 'modern' women can't be married, but it's probably harder to maintain
What's most important though is that you get along well and can REALLY trust each other.
We married rather young, so neither of us really had to worry about gold digging or anything like that.
Motivation general
Whether you need motivation or have ideas and tips for those struggling with it, let's try and help one another. Any kind of motivation welcome as long as it's constructive. Life, career, working out, creative motivation.
I'll start with some general life advice.
There's a burning passion lit deep within you yet to surface, as we grow older society likes to dull and hide our flame, its just a matter of rekindling the fire.
Everything you choose to do, every little move you make shapes you into who you are. The actions you take train your mind and the mind follows the body, the body follows the mind. Each time you procrastinate you get BETTER at doing it. You build up your skill set of procrastinating. You need a focal point, goals that are attainable. Understand your vices and keep a schedule, get in a routine, it sounds like dad advice but it works. Identify your reward system of bad habits, do you like the energy you get from a soda in the morning? Replace it with the energy you get from a morning run.
Motivation, just like confidence, is not an emotion. It's a skill.
>>18704046
I never realized how overwhelming it is to get into med school and I could rlly use some motivation to help me not step down from following my dreams.
>>18704231
bumping because i'm in the same boat but in fashion school. it's hard and about 20+ hours a week in only one class
it's hard and everyday i think of backing down but it's my dream
I feel an insane amount of confidence in pretty much all situations but I live in a small town and never get to meet new people. Who here knows these feels?
It's like needing to fap but having no dick.
>>18704019
if you're so confident then move to where the cool shit is and don't make any excuses
>>18704025
I'm moving when term starts but good point.
So basically I fell in love with this one girl living in a city 50km away from mine. I used to visit her three times a week.
We decided to break up because both me and her have jobs and we can't see each other that often. Also moving in together isn't an option.
I don't blame her. It's just... I find her perfect and can't get over a fact that I'll never have another shot with her, since she's mad at me for getting laid a week after the break up. How do I get the idea that she was the love of my life out of my head?
Help
Time.
50 km is like a 30-45min drive, not even that far lmao
>>18703959
>How do I get the idea that she was the love of my life out of my head?
>love of my life
>coudn't keep it in my pants for a week
>broke up because we live 30 minutes away
Clearly NOT the love of your life. You're dramatizing here.
P.S. I live 80km from my GF. We only get to see each other on the weekends, some of which I'm even working during.. Been together for 2.5 years, now looking for a place to move together that's closer to both of our jobs.
how do you overcome a life of being bullied, your best friends in school just seeing you as just another normal friend and not giving a fuck about you, insecurity about being a manlet, feeling like shit every day, low self steem, constant depression?
I feel like worthless.
I want a gf but I don't feel worthy.
I would like to be a writer but I don't think I'm good enough.
>insecurity about being a manlet
quit 4chan
>>18703869
Lord I feel like you've got to start thinking of yourself as more than the answer to a question or the response to something. Your opinions should be for things, not against them. Focus on yourself and making yourself better, anon.
Best way start a conversation with a girl you and how to sustain it ?
O am taking about text
>>18703851
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
Don't use minions no matter how self deprecating, ironic, or funny you think it is. Don't mention minions to any girl or anyone, especially on this site you fucking disgusting piece of shit degenerate
If I am receiving text message verification codes from Instagram, something I have never signed up to, would that likely indicate its someone trying to log onto my account, thinking I have one?
Asking because it feels like something my ex girlfriend would doi
Plz respond
Perhaps, probably not.
>>18703842
I doubt it.
What would be a good job for:
-19 years old
-4.9/5.0 Primary and 4.7/5.0 Secondary Psychopathy.
-"world class" pull up and "elite" strength on the majority of main lifts.
-Striking, grappling, wrestling and various melee weapons martial arts
-Horrible people's skills
Pic related
What do you like to do?
>>18703786
Some sort of fighting instructor maybe?
>>18703786
You managed to get me to really dislike you in less than 30 words.
I'm 20 years old, 6'2 male. Pretty fit.
I have a good friend which I think his mother is sexually interested in me. Our families know each other pretty well since we were kids.
She is around 40 years old, married with 3 kids and the oldest one is my friend which is the same age as me. He left the house (For college) and the other 2 kids are both under the age of 10.
Her husband is a IT guy and he comes home each day pretty late (Around 9-10PM). She on the other hand is the one who is coming home early each day and in my opinion is the dominant parent at the house.
**Why I do think she wants to have sex with me?**
- We talked one time and she told her husband can't stand his own. She needs to do some stuff and her husband can't do it for her cause he is not enough a man for it.
- >I think she got a sexless marriage. Her husband is too busy in his work and is not doing his job. He also is a kinda geeky type of guy and she is way far from that. She likes to curse and talk straight to the point compared to her husband.
- >She wanted to "meet" me in a bar to "talk" about life. . She complimented my height, my body type and I felt like the conversation was more of a Date-type than a just a friendly chat.
- >One thing I remember at the bar is that she bought me a little gift and said that she "I am not trying to seduce you or anything, It's a gift for your new car". I won't tell what the gift is, but her description for it was kinda weird.
- > She wants us to meet at the bar again. She said to me she got free time and basically lets me to choose which day of the week to pick up (While she is supposed to be the working parent here).
What do you guys think?
You only fuck milfes. So ''date'', sure.
What was the gift Anon?
So, I run a pretty-okay business. Probably 20k Monthly in Revenue. Sometimes I'll go out and party hard whereas other times I'll send my dad some money.
In the long run the business will be big because our product(s) have been picking up traction and I have a lot of people interested in helping invest.
Today I was driving my hoopdie, the Engine blew and I spent 230$ getting an oil change/fluid replacement.
Took it to the mechanic they said to get another car. Now I am debating. I am getting paid tomorrow around 3,000$, with another 4k check in two weeks, a 2k Business Credit card next week and a 1k investment coming in later today.
All throughout college I've driven cars under 00' and this is my 2nd one that blew. Should I wait and get another crap car , trade in my broken one and get a newer one , or Put down 2-3k and buy a prius or something?
Put down money for a new non gay car
>>18703729
Is 20k a month your profit or does some of that go back into your business? Because if you profit 20k a month you should be able to have bought a new car outright by now.
Have recently been dumped by my girlfriend of one year and want to move on and be able to look at other girls and be attracted to them and want them any advice?
>>18703698
Time heals.
Breakups are terrible for everyone with very little exception. Everyone gets over it eventually.
Cut contact with her, take some advil, and wait it out. Get some new hobbies and learn new skills while yer at it.
don't pursue women now, it will be empty and unfulfilling
When I came home, I turned off my social media and any type of contact with others, I expected one of my friends to give me a call so we could go hang out with some other fellas and my oneitis. They didn't call me, I just turned on my viber and got like 15 messages of them inviting me, and I was complaining the whole night about being alone. Now I just feel like shit.
I'm kind of used to being a semi-normie, I got into the "asocial" thing at the beginning of this year after realizing I like being more at home). But heck, boy I do feel bad. How do I cope with the feels?
You literally just apologize. "Derp, sorry for being an emo faggot last night guys, been stressing out a bit and then I didn't even realize I turned off my messages and shit - fuck me lolol"
Hell if you're slick enough you can turn it into some kind of platitude about how not letting other people is the root cause of loneliness and depression or some bullshit.
I didn't talk to anyone, and I really made no issue about it. I am usually social in my group of friends, however, everyone just went out tonight and had a blast, while I missed out and I didn't do anything well instead of it