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Do what? Date guys? Text their boyfriends? Lose feelings? Want to be friends? What are you asking?

Because they're 13 you fucking pedo

>>18510808
Why do women just 'lose feelings' when we were just texting the night before about how excited we were to see each other this weekend. Like within a day

If you stop hanging out with them they'll stop inviting you after a while. Just stop responding in whatever communication you use.

t. Guy doing this to people for years

>>18510803

Hey, thanks. I've tried this but we have a chat group where they chat from time to time. I've been ignoring their messages but they've been private messaging me lately, asking me stuff like 'Do you like me?'
What's the best course of action here?

>>18510815

"I'm busy with stuff sorry" - repeatedly, don't elaborate a lot or at all. if they don't get it after the third time they are idiots and you may safely cut them completely in any rude way you wish

Bermp

You've had one date. You met on Tinder. You'd scare her off if you wanted to have serious conversations this early on.

>>18510773
Continue serious conversations until you think they are going to jokeville, then change to another serious subject.

but don't get too serious. you've built a nice relationship on humor and if that disappears, she may too.

why the fuck are there so many guys like this? Why are you so concerned about girls? Just fucking off yourself m8

>>18510778
Well first of all I don't like seeing people in pain and helpless, doesn't matter if it's a girl or a man
Second of all it's pretty normal for guys to get concerned about girls if you haven't noticed so far

She needs to a) go to the doctor b) drink more water and c) stop fucking smoking.

>>18510733

saying you don't want to talk to girls because you're scared of them is like saying you don't want a paycheck because you don't like work.

confidence is the belief in a perceived 'truth'. this is why fat ugly men don't have confidence. when they try to act confident, we call them arrogant for thinking they are worth anything. That being said, there are some ugly or fat people you would say are 'confident'. this is because they are investing their confidence in something other than their looks and aren't over shooting it.

you see, confidence is not some all encompassing bubble. I am a very confident business man because I know what I've done, What I'm capable of, and can easily get where I want to go as a result. when someone talks down to me I don't have to take it because I have the means to back up my confidence.

however, when it comes to sports im not confident. I'm uncoordinated, awkward, forgetful, and just can't stand when the ball comes my way.

Chad might be confident that he can get the girl, but hes not confident that he will get the audition, or get the promotion, or get approved for his business loan.

these are two stereotypical examples really, hot people can be smart and smart people can get girls and etc. etc. but those are some examples for ya.

cont

>>18510748

So, what does an ugly person have to be confident about? well first and foremost, they can be confident in their personality. this isn't to say he should be like 'OH MY PERSONALITY IS GREAT SO GIRLS HAVE TO DATE ME'. that is how we get into 'overshooting' and arrogance. Instead he can rest assure that he is a cohesive person, better than a lot but worse than many. there is nothing horribly wrong with him, he is not some scurge of society, not some waestrel, not the trash of the earth. i think the problem with a lot of people who 'lack confidence' isn't that they lack confidence but rather that they have whatever the opposite of confidence is. they have worked it out in their mind that they are somehow beneathe everyone else, that its their job in society to stay out of everyones way, to only speak when spoken to, and that the only time it is ever okay for you to interact with someone is if someone interacts with you first, thus indicating that they are okay with your awfulness.

the logic its self is flawed. The random people who (would) befriend or date you aren't just somehow magically immune to your awfullness. you are just (probably) not awful. you are just another person in the world, you just had some bad childhood experience and took it in the worst way possible.

You see when we are young, we are taught more based on shame and punishment than by actual example. For instance, you may have done something as a kid, something new, say jumped off of something way too high, like a slide. you didn't have any context for why this would be bad, it was an entirely new thought that had never occured to you before. maybe it wasn't jumping off a slide, but it was bursting into the bathroom while your parents were using it, or running accidentally into something and watching as something delicate fell and broke.

cont

jesus fuck

Ask yourself this - do you want to be someone's bitch?

>>18510720
It's looking that way huh?
I wish there was a third way, but that'd require a glimmer of remorse on her part. I'm not seeing that in the message she sent.

I feel like 95% of relationship situations on /adv/ boil down to people not being willing to say "this isn't REALLY what I want, but it's the best I can do right now."

Show some self-respect and don't settle for someone who took you for granted.

>>18510710
They're practically the same ring

>>18510710
If your gf has a warm undertone to her skin then silver won't good. Gold copper and brass are better for warm tones.

>>18510712
6 vs 4 prongs.
Single vs bypass ring.

That's why I'm asking for help :/

>>18510642
Some fucking dumbshit's arm.

>>18510685
Isn't that a leg? Both of you are retarded.

>>18510685
Yup, he's wearing socks on his hands. That makes sense.

>>18510598
No. The best part about losing your virginity is realizing how stupid you were to inflate its importance to such ridiculous levels.

nah do what you want

>>18510607
But its a symbol of love for somebody. If you only have sex with one person it shows you love them more. ..

>>18510581
It's no different from initiating any conversation with any girl

>>18510581
give them the good ole death stare. Shy girls love that shit.

>>18510581
Make sure you initiate, and make her feel comfortable enough to open up to you. Keep it playful and don't be insulting-that will only make her clam up more. Take the reins and initiate and double text etc

Sounds like you already declared them to the employer? If so they took you knowing about them, so don't worry.

>>18510571

tell us what the offenses are instead of saying 'dumb shit'. if its actually dumb shit you probably dont have to worry.

better to say these things up front though.

The fact that you've done something stupid enough to attract police attention as an adult is a red flag. Obviously it's not as serious as a proper conviction, but it still says a lot about your maturity.

>>18510482
Minimum wage job + treating your hobbies like hobbies is the way to begin. You're not getting attention because you're a nobody. That takes time.

>>18510482
This will sound like shit advice, but people get noticed by
>attention whoring
>paying somebody famous to promote them
>paying ads on internet
And very very underrated way
>having actually good results
>having good idea

So yeah, good luck with whatever you are doing. Your best bet is to find some already going project and offer help. That way you wont be nobody, you will be that guy who did X for Y.

>>18510490
>>18510497
Thanks for the advice guys! I'm going to take a gap year before college, and I think I'll use that time to get a job.

You probably are ugly and aiming too high. You need to find an average looking girl who is on your level and lower your standards.

>>18510436
Okay I guess I'm ugly and I'll lower my standards.

Secondly, what if (because it's possible) I also start getting rejected frequently by average looking girls ?

I just don't understand how to get them interested/make them come to me.

How do you guys do it ?

>>18510434
Girls are like boys with illogical brain and vagina. Treat them as people and you will be fine.

>>18510524
It is called conversation
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

And now either spin online dating or go to social events you hate. Practice makes perfect.

>>18510421
Majority of girls dont cum from penetration anyway. Learn how to cuddle before and after sex, how to lick her clit properly, make her cum few times before you insert and DONT FORGET TO CUDDLE after sex and you will be the best lover she ever had.

Look at some lesbian porns to get inspiration on how to do cuddling and foreplay right.

Penis size really mattering is a myth. My vagina is about 4 inches deep and anything longer than that just hurts.
As above anon said its unusual for girls to cum from penetration anyway.
I would say however that if you're going to watch lesbian porn for inspiration, try to find some lesbian porn intended for female consumption. Lesbian porn for men tends to be wildly removed from the reality of sex, as with pretty much all porn aimed at men.

>>18510421
My ex had a tiny dick and I was fine with it. He ate pussy like a champ though.

>>18510418
>Move out
Or cut off one of your brothers hands Chinese style.

dead bolt the door. Don't have shit in there to steal.

If your parents forbid you from locking your room and they want your brother to steal your shit AND you also can't get a storage unit to put your important shit in AND you can't move out then you're fucked. Just accept your shit is not your shit anymore.

>>18510418
Just kick his ass. Be a big brother you fucking pussy pushover. No need to get the law involved, keep it in the family. Give him a fair warning that if anything goes missing it's gonna come to blows, and if something does, sort your brother out oldschool.