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I'm 29 going on 30 and I'm not sure what the hell to do next. 2017-07-11 03:33:01 Post No.18505487
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I'm 29 going on 30 and I'm not sure what the hell to do next.
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It's my only two days off and I'm ruminating about how my life is going nowhere. I'm wasting my only two days off, and the rest of the five days is wasted away in a job I'm not necessarily fond of. I now work the weekend shifts, but it's not that I would get to enjoy the weekends off anyway.
I make barely more than 12 bucks an hour. I have a bachelors degree. It's an English degree and most people on here would consider that useless, but its a degree nonetheless I put up with enough bullshit and parted with enough cash in an accredited school so it should have some value despite the political/economic environment.
I have no real friends I can share my thoughts with. My sister, mother and father dismiss me whenever I try opening up to them. It's always some kind of version of 'suck it up asshole', and they just drop it there. On my days off, all I do is sit around in a bookstore at a mall and not even really reading books; most of the time, I waste it doing nothing or just wandering around someplace like H&M. I'm an aging mallrat with no friends or relationships. All my peers have their own houses, real careers, and at least one aspect of a respectable middle class lifestyle.
Years ago, when I was working at a warehouse and as usher at a movie theater, working nothing but closing shifts and very weird hours in the middle of the night to the wee hours of the morning, I always dreamed just even having a cubicle job where I get to dress in business casual, not even for the pay but for the image of it.
I'm there now. Despite this, I'm still really unhappy. Sometimes it gets so bad to the point where something is telling me "this is as good as it gets. There are people sub-saharan africa that cannot even get decent water and are getting illnesses from drinking the local supply and somehow they're more happier than me. They live in a culture where their country doesn't have their back, but they'll always feel like the other guy's got theirs.
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>>18505487
suck it up asshole
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>>18505487
Maybe a part of me wishes somethign drastic happened in society so I can feel like im connected, that I can feel like I can contribute, that what I do for others matters.
But that's likely not going to happen.
One of my "hobbies" is to drive around aimlessly, walk around aimlessly waiting for something to happen. I take ballroom dancing lessons in the idea in that unlikely event a dance is required, I will have the confidence to take my partner to the floor.
They promised if I cando this I can be confident. But in the last 11 years since highschool and college, I have had nothign to be confident about.
I never had a relationship.
I don't have a friend I can talk about these things to.
I don't feel close with my acquaintances and family to open up to them.
My job sucks, and I know the only way to go up is to beat the streets and check craigslist and classifieds, but often it feels I'd actually be more likely to win a scratchcard than score another job.
In short, I feel like a failure. NO relationships, no real friends, family wants nothing to do with me, and everyone as far from my perspectives goes, wants nothing to do with me beyond basic social etiquette (if any given at all) or the trivial (nice weather eh?). And it's killing me inside. Sometimes theres a voice that tells me "Maybe it's time I stop kidding myself and just end it here". Of course, I'm too much of a wuss to do anything about it, so in a sense I'm saved by my own lack of motivation. I just can't see the light anymore or the end of the road if there was any destination to begin with.
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>>18505487
Same age as you.
Got a bachelor in poli sci. Same deal it wasnt crazy useful but i fuckin did it so i get you there.
Been working my way up the ladder and job jumping and i currently make 25 an hour.
The other thing im doing now though is amassing my life experience and job experience (ive managed to pull some very educational positions) and now im entrepreneuring hard.
Im profiting in small amounts after about a month and a half. Nothing crazy but i expect to increase that income and be self employed eventually. I suggest you look into it and do the same.
Quite simply because the job market now really is shit but this is capitalism we live in, you can easily start something and get people to pay you directly for your services.
Its the way to go now, and at 30 with all your struggles you should know a thing or two thats marketable.
Hell, write essays for university brats. Those fetch hundreds of dollars each, and with an English degree ill bet you can write like a motherfucker and you likely have the research skills from university to even write outside of your expertise.
Thats what i suggest you do next. Carve your own job and income. Side at first, and free yourself from wages eventually.
I suggest you check into r/ entrepreneur (inb4 website war cliques) and go to the library and grab some books on self employment and entreprenuerialship.
Red pill yourself by taking a stroll through a commercial sector. Look at every single store and remind yourself every one of them is profitable whether you ever thought their specific wares could fetch a price or not.
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Sex Clubs and Swingers Parties 2017-07-11 03:22:46 Post No.18505451
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Has anon ever been to a swinger's party or sex club? It's been a fantasy of mine for some time.
GF and I have talked about going to something like that to see if we like it. Would take it slow at first, just watch and maybe have sex with each other. Anyone know what to expect?
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oh GOD what t he ffuck are those real candles? That picture gives me the worst anxiety fuck
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>>18505451
This pic is some Eyes Wide Shut shit
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>>18505451
fucking. disgusting.
never been, no interest. knew some people that I found out did some shit like this a few times. I have no desire to be around those people and I assume other people that do things like this would have similar personality traits.
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that looks like a serious fire hazard, I'd report it but the house was already repossessed and apparently the british police couldn't do shit when they were called about the party going wrong. ah, european authorities, utterly useless.
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So I answered some questions from the http://www.thesectofthehornedgod.com and a few days later they sent me this final membership application and questionnaire. I just did it cause I was bored and thought it was kinda funny. From the information this particular group gives along with others is that they don't worship or believe in Lucifer they just see him as a rebel and they follow the left hand path work on yourself type stuff. They see God and the Devil as subconscious manifestations of the human condition/psyche. Which makes sense to me. We live in duality. I'm pretty much an atheist but I've never been into all the faggy goth dark clothing red lamp faggotness. These people love all the weird macabre shit. Skulls everywhere and all that gay shit. Is that what these people are(the real ones not the queers who are violent)? Just some people who are probably pretty smart and normal but are just into this weird shit? They have a youtube channel. I"m sort of just looking for a club of like minded people but I don't wanna be around all the gay shit.
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>>18505399
Sounds like your kinda group OP, just get your fedora and cargo shorts and you're good to go.
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you're gonna end up sacrificed to something.
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>>18505399
I suggest to stay away from sects, that's how they manage to make people come in. Jehova's witnesses, by acting very nice and kind, scientology, by trying to look 100% real, and here, by pretending to only have smart and like-minded people.
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Hey I think I fucked up
I got in a car accident and when the insurance company asked about it, I said I took a week off of work because of it. That wasn't true.
What are the chances that this will bite me in the ass later?
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>>18505301
It won't. It's actually normal for people to do things like this. I would've done the same.
Don't worry about it.
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>>18505301
If you're in the USA the only ppl that you can't legally lie to is the FBI. Everyone else is fair game. Your employer will/should never divulge any private info about you without your consent.
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>>18505301
If you told the insurance company this to get more in your settlement you are fucked. Its called insurance fraud
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>18 years old
>tried to get a job this summer, failed
>spend my days on computer
>parents don't want me doing nothing
>no friends to go out with
What can I do this summer to be a little active ? Wanted to work out but too poor for a gym subscription. I tried to learn guitar a few months ago, stopped because it was too hard to learn it from nothing. I read a lot but that's not really active.
Any ideas of things to do that'll make me (or at least look) active while not being too time-consuming ?
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Walk around town. Keep doing it and you may find something interesting to do. If you do not find anything interesting then keep doing it.
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Pick up a hobby
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>>18505271
Try running. You might hate it at first, but thats untill you get in shape.
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i'm getting married in two weeks and i am the opposite of a romantic person.
that's an issue, since my fiance really loves romantic gestures.
so, the problem now is that i think that there's no gesture that's more romantic than getting married. for me, that's more than enough for one day. apparently, he thinks we also need to write personal vows and gift each other something. i'm at a complete loss. ofc i could whipe up something sappy to tell him, but it's just so not me and feels artifical and embarassing. and the gift... my god. we make very good money and we have all we could ever want. we also do a lot of things together like going on vacation/to the day spa/fancy dinner and so on. so i don't think it would be special to gift something like that. and material stuff, meh... he has enough nice watches with sentimental value and what not. we also already get the wedding rings and go on vacation after the wedding. so i feel like my options are almost non existent.
i just don't see anything i could give him that day that would be appropriate.
please help me. does anybody have some good ideas?
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i've gone trough a lot of lists and they all come up with clichée stuff like a watch, cufflinks, alcohol, perfume, cigars, even SOCKS (for the cold feet. huehue).
i mean, come on...
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>we make very good money
i have a feeling its him making good money
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If you love him enough to marry him, just do it. Compromise by (for example) not telling each other sappy things in front of your guests but doing that and the gift exchange privately. It's his wedding day as well and if he's that much more romantically inclined it probably means more to him than to you. You don't get to single-handedly decide that he should be happy that you decide to marry him and leave it at that.
As for the money, just give a sentimental gift. Something that's nostalgic to him because of his childhood or your relationship/how you met, or something symbolic for your love or whatever. Ask for help from someone who knows you better and is more romantic if you have to. Do it for him.
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I'm back again!
Simple question: should I move states?
I live in Anchorage, Alaska and let me tell you, its shit. I'm struggling with this notion that I should move to another state for a fresh start, and go to college there instead. Here's the pros and cons:
Pro 1: Alaska's shit economy is never recovering, and in another state I could most likely have a better life making more money in a place that costs less.
Pro 2: UAA (University of Alaska, Anchorage) doesn't have a Software Engineer program, which is what I'd like to go back to college for. Although UAA offers Computer Science, I am not sure if that's what I want. Software Engineer seems to have an overall better salary and I am overall more interested in working with the software side of things, and from my understanding Computer Science only does a little bit of that, but the majority is hardware related.
Pro 3: No more deadly ice roads and a government so poor it announces on the radio that it can't afford to plow them!
Pro 4: No more worrying about deadly bear attacks within the city limits, which has happened this year because of the lack of salmon
Pro 5: I will probably find more jobs for Software Engineering, or internships in another state, Software Engineering as a career is 1-step from nonexistent in Alaska
Pro 6: Food, energy, gas, all of these things will be cheaper in another state, meaning my overall cost of living will plummet, and I can actually save money instead of bleed for money each month like I do here
Pro 7: There's a serious lack of women in Alaska, its something like 6:10 women to men or something, and the women here are all turbo-charged bachelorettes, always balancing 20 Chads who are hitting on them, its just so common
Pro 8: The crime rate up here is terrible and is on the rise, I have the APD Alerts (Anchorage Police Department) sent to my phone automatically and you should see some of the carnage up here, its terrifying just to leave the house!
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Continued!
Pro 9: If I moved somewhere with a better economy, I could most likely find a cheaper place that's SAFER as well. The only affordable places up here are in ghetto neighborhoods, one of the places I contacted today looking for a room to rent had literally a gang shootout just recently! Even the landlord said that it "has its reputation" and warmed me that its pretty dangerous there.
I know I've thought of a lot of pros, but although the cons are fewer, they are all pretty hard-hitting. Here they are:
Con 1: How do I get to another state? Because of the economy up here, its almost impossible to save money, because everyone is "living above their means" when 50% of your income is just rent alone, and its so very costly to live up here, I'm always barely getting by.
Con 2: Everyone I know is here! I suppose I have some family in Lacey, WA, but choosing a place based on that would kind of negate the point of me choosing a new place based on how well-suited it is.
Con 3: I've never really left Alaska, just thinking about it makes me homesick, and I haven't even left yet!
Con 4: Its true that I could probably find a Software Engineering course online, with an accredited college, and I want to do this even if I move, due to there being much easier scheduling.
Con 5: It will delay my college journey! I'm already $15,000 in the hole and still in my grace period for my college loans from my trade school, so if I want to do it I have to do it very soon! Which means I'd have to work for probably a year before I could even begin college again! But that'd set me back an ENTIRE YEAR!
Con 6: My car can't possibly survive the drive from Alaska to Canada, and there's absolutely no way I can afford a new one! I have crap credit because of medical bills (healthcare here in Alaska is completely unaffordable, Obamacare's WORST/lowest cost coverage up here was $475/mo with a $12,000 deductible, and that was years ago!)
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Move to eastern europe, bro. It's the same shit weather and poverty but at least exploiting us is compensated in german gibs and we have an OK education system.
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Can you sum all that up in like 2 sentences?
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> be introverted
> need lots of alone time
> tell gf i need some days to myself
> next day tell her i want to go to the movies with colleagues the day after (she was learning for a test though)
> gf breaks up
> 5 months to talk
im 25 shes 27
first of all, was ist appropriate for her to break up over this ?
i saw her with a new dude about 2 months and 2 weeks near my workplace, which is quiate a bit away of the uni she goes to. this guy isn't her boyfriend though. she posted i muss us stuff the first 2 months on fb. about one week ago she started tindering since i saw here there. so she currently ahs no boyfriend.
i really miss her. should i reach out to her ?
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>>18509222
she was not a right choice obviously, take time to develop yourself, don't fuss with relationships
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>>18509241
but what about ?
>first of all, was ist appropriate for her to break up over this ?
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I think that it was not appropriate for her to break up with you just because you wanted some time alone. Everyone in a relationship should always be open into letting their significant other have time away to think. Now reaching at to her I highly do not recommend. She made her choice and you should not really be the one to crawl back to her.
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I really need help with this, my girl and I had our first threesome 2 weeks ago and we ran into some problems because she said I was giving the other girl more attention, tonight she said she wanted to do it again but she suggested my fine ass friend and if it's a trap help pls
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>>18509165
You're going to have to watch her get railed, champ.
Unless she suggests you double penetrate her.
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>>18509174
But my friend is a girl thoe
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>>18509180
Bro what exactly do you need help with?
Go fuck those girls. I don't know what your gf is thinking.
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just started dating this sweet college girl. We been going out for 3 months we enjoy each other's company, holding hands, kissing and going on walks. Any tips to keep our relationship chaste? Just recently we were making out and it got a bit hot and heavy. I really want to make this relationship work out and I don't want to respect her and her parents. What things should I do so things don't get to lewd?
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>and I don't want to respect her and her parents
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>>18509164
Bait. And also, masturbate before you go on your dates.
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>and I don't want to respect her and her parents
absolutely based, family structure is a spook
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How do I talk to a stranger? 2017-07-12 07:15:18 Post No.18509154
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How do I talk to a stranger?
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There is this person I would like to talk to. I don't want to take it to a romantic level (at least not yet), I just think she is an interesting person. The only way I can talk with her is through Facebook.
So, how do you meet someone on Facebook without coming off as creepy?
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>>18509154
what does "interesting" even mean? go use stumblupon or tumblr or reddit, or watch seedlings grow if you want interesting. that word means nothing. what person isn't interesting?
what is your endgame even?
you can't "meet" someone on Facebook if you look like a creep. they don't want you.
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>>18509163
By interesting I meant she has similar thoughts as me.
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should i stay or should i go?
a "friend" of mine invite me to hang out in the next weekend. we've never done this before. but i don't know if i should go. the true is that i always liked her, and i already told her that. but she kinda ignored what i said. sometimes it seems she likes me in that other way, but then she suprises me talking about how she thinks about her ex yet and also calling me friend and other friendzone terms. because of that i'm not really excited to hang out with her. i tried so many times convince her to do this, but now that she invite me, i'm not aroused anymore. i really don't know if exist any possibility that something will happen there. my self esteem is also a low. i don't what expected.
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>the true is that i always liked her, and i already told her that
Maybe you should be more clear. She probably thought you meant as a person. Not a love interest.
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>>18508652
she is using you for attention. disregard her and move along
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>>18508652
Physically make the moves on her and see how far you can get.
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Do Italian women make good gf's?
What's the main differences between north and south italians in terms of appearances and culture?
does this carry over to Italian Americans?
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marisa tomei would be a good gf
'italian women' is far too broad a category to make any meaningful judgement of. there are good ones and bad ones just like any culture.
i will say that i think italian americans are culturally different from italians.
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>>18508477
Italian Americans are plague upon the earth.
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>>18508513
gabagool!
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Im 27 an alcoholic and sex addict. Idk what to do i domt want to live like this to people, i may seem like a nice female amd happy amd outgoing. The truth is dark. Has anyone been about to get through something similar?
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>>18508363
Also, im scared to death to detox. My body doesnt handle it well.
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sounds deep rooted in my opinion. See a therapist.
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>>18508905
It is my husband left me then my dad died out of fucking no where with no warning i seem him 12 hours before then he was gone. Now i have no one. I cant see a therapist no one seems to understand my pain.
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today i got assigned a dorm at the college i'm going to and it's not the dorm i requested and it doesn't even have air conditioning. my roommate is also black and from my experience 9/10 times they're loud as fuck and always have people over. i have severe social/generalized anxiety and for me my room is my safe space/only place and time where i feel comfortable and safe. i don't think i'll feel this in that dorm. the college is about 3 hours away from my house. at this point i'm getting extreme cold feet and am considering not going to the college and living at home/enrolling for a spring semester at a local college which is also a nice college in the big 10.
i asked my parents and they said i should get over it and go to the college i originally wanted to go to, but it's my choice to back out if i want
>inb4 just change dorm
i can't
what should i do?
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Why am I not surprised a racist is also an idiot?
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what college?
And you better go to the college. Once there, request a roommate change within the first few days.
Also you're a freshman. You don't get dibs. Just cause you requested a room, you're at the bottom of the totem pole.
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>>18508313
i don't think you'd enjoy living in a sweaty room crammed in with another sweaty body