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I'm not losing my mind or anything but I'm a bit stuck as to where to head in my life. I'm 20, got my GED when I was 16, took a couple college classes, and I've been working for these years out of school. Unemployed for a couple months but saved up to last through finding new job. I enjoy writing, have a commanding radio voice so I was thinking of doing some public speaking, I'm very into psychoanalysis, teaching mindfulness, and world aesthetics. Though I'm not sure what to do right now. I've thought of just going to a trade school and working while I figure it out but i feel opportunity may pass me by to do something unique. I'm not exceptionally smart in any field of STEM, I study english and read/write a lot but I don't know if I want to get into an actual field about writing, a journalism major doesn't sound like I'd secure a stable job. I'm not looking to make big bucks or lead a company, as long as I'm living comfortably.

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So I dated a girl for nine-ish months a couple years back. Broke up with her after months of slowly getting more and more disgusted with her and her family. Was only really in it for the sex, towards the end.

Anyhow, never once in that nine month period did I tell her that I loved her. She told me all the fucking time, fishing for me to say it. But I never did, because I wasn't ever sure if I did or not. Looking back now, I can see that no, I didn't love her, but that's not the question here.

Should I have said it to her anyway? Not at the end, obviously, but earlier when I was still interested. Is it autistic/cruel/whatever to date and fuck a girl for nine months and never tell her that you love her?

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Hey /adv/ I'm in a dilemma right now a girl I knew for 5-6 years recently shown definite interest in me but my best friend of also 6 years told me she isn't good for me and I simply can't get over it on what to do ( other parties also give me very split answers) he says she too crazy and lies Alot .help?

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>find no joy in studying anymore
>semester barely started and already feel bored and apathetic
>not fit for a manual job either
>would become black sheep of family if I dropped out
>wants to study journalism but can't because of little job openings

What should I do /adv/?

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I feel sort of disconnected from everyone, like people are deliberately avoiding me or something. It's not just that I think my friends are ignoring me or something, I somehow feel like EVERYONE is keeping their distance from me, and it's convincing me I'm going insane or something.

This morning I woke up and I was reluctant to talk. At all. Like it was weird for me to use my fucking vocal cords. And I have a constant bad feeling in the pit of my stomach.

Am I psychotic or something? How do I feel normal again?

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I thought for a long time that what I wanted in life was to achieve something very high in this field and to never give up. I did just that and I stopped hanging out with people and ended up focusing on studying and learning either at work or at home. Eventually things went south and I was being promoted and had to train other people and teach them my skills, that's kind of where I learned that other people who work with me don't really know shit and they don't put in the amount of effort as me. I stopped studying since I was always alone and always studying or working on something from work, I completely gave up on studying for certifications 3 months ago and have spent every day playing video games. Truth be told, I have no friends and this work/life is really painful on the mind since you can be really good at what you do and one day you figure out that other people actually socialize outside of work and you're the guy who never gets invited anywhere.

These days, I want to start studying again and end up getting promoted in the next few months, but for what reason? To climb the ladder again, and to make more than 150k and join the solutions/architect team?

For what reason? I'm single and alone, the other guys are married and spend their time working or sitting at home with their wife

I have nothing anymore, except this career and I used to be so busy and happy I didn't care about being alone. But now, I can only see myself being alone and miserable at this job forever

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Sometimes I get really angry at myself and have fantasies of hurting people, or hurting myself, or vandalising things
How do I stop

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Are there any good techniques/readings that can help me stop being paranoid over nothing? I'm pretty new to girls being attracted to me so this is my first relationship pretty much ever. Things are great other than the fact that I'm always paranoid she's cheating, despite the fact that she never did anything to deserve any suspicions.

I'll get completely irrational over the most minuscule things, like her not texting back in a while or even her drinking alcohol (???) and I don't know why I have to be like that. My dad was the same way with my mom and that scares the shit out of me. But my dad was too dumb/egotistical to self reflect. Will my condition get better with time? What's out there that can help me? I don't want to lose her

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In bed with girlfriend. Does anybody know if guys dont shoot cum but rather have it dribble or rupture out?

Asking for a significant other.

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I've abstained from dating for the past three years while I finished school (I'm 24) and it's fucking me up way more than I thought I would. I am considering seeing a therapist about it, and I am still trying to meet and talk with girls since it'd be counter-intuitive to do otherwise, but especially considering a business trip to England I have coming up, it could be about a month before I see them. Is there anything else I can do in the meantime to ease how much this inexperience is gnawing at me?

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Are there any ways to inflict physical pain without causing any kind or serious injuries or scarring? If so, what are they?

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I recently moved to a new country. So i decided to hit up tinder and find some new people to hang out with. I ended up meeting with a girl and hit up some bars. I felt the night was going great because she was laughing and appearing to enjoy herself.
Maybe the night did go well since i was invited to her place to spend the night. We ended up having sex, but it was weird because she kept asking me if this is a one night stand. i suspected she didnt want anything more. Anyway, I walked her to work the next morning. She texted me right after saying we should keep in touch...
Then later that same day I got myself into a problem. A money transfer I was supposed to receive ended up failing because I didnt have proper documentation. I could not return back home because I did not have enough money... So i texted her if she could lend me 50 bucks to help me get home. She told me no problem and we met up in front of her office. She handed me the money and I was on the way home.
I ended up sending her a text the next day but I didnt get a response for like the whole day. Thinking that I got one night standed I ended up getting sad and deleted the only ways I had contacting her... We were communicating through an app similar to whatsapp so its clear if you were deleted off a person's contact list... anyway i regret my decision. I had a lot of fun that night and it just feels wrong I just killed off contact. I dont blame her for thinking im weird. She could still contact me but its understandable if she doesnt want to because i deleted her. But Id like to pay her back so she doesnt think I'm vindictive. I'd like to ask her to hang out for fun and be friends because the night really was fun and id like to talk to her more. No problem even as friends if thats even possible at this point.

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Hi /adv/, I'm 24, male, and I've never had cereal before. My friends were talking about favourite cereals and were in shock when I told them this. Then there was a debate about how to make it.

I've never been good at cooking, so was just wondering if anyone here knew how to make cereal. I don't know whether to pour the cereal or the milk first. Please, my friends are on the edge of their seats waiting for me to try it for the first time, but I've hit a cross-roads.

Thanks in advance!

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>be me
>pretty socially retarded, but self aware enough to change that
>best friend introduces me to a nice circle of friends
>date a girl for a while from that circle
>best friend for whatever reason becomes a massive dick head
>insulting me, even some times being violent for no reason
>not a punch to the shoulder like friends do, a punch to the face because he can
>he's obviously not a friend, but for whatever reason i keep forgiving him
>others don't want to hang out with him anymore either
>he crosses the line one night, i cut him out of my life
>end up breaking with the girl later along the line
>"anon, we can still be friends to, y know, hang out with our friends"
>after a few weeks of silence i decide to text her
>she leaves me on seen and unfriends me
>mfw
>still want to be part of this circle of friends, in all honesty in hopes of a second chance with her
>we agree to go watch a movie about a month after that (3 guys, another girl, my ex and me.)
>start developing feelings for a girl i was talking to some time after our break up
>she's fucking top tier
>we click really well
>don't care about my ex anymore, kind of hurts when i see her though
>now i want to be part of the circle because, well, they're fucking awesome. would be shit to lose em
>one of them invites that guy that was once my best friend
>mfw

We're gonna watch it in 2 days. I don't want that fucker to have a single bit of hope that he's going to be able to be my friend any time soon, i don't want to see the bastard, talk to him or hear him. The most likely thing that I will do is go out with them, but don't talk with him, or rather not talk that much. We're watching a film anyways, so we won't be talking much. I'd like to hear others opinions on this.

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If I use Google reverse image search to check if a picture of a young-looking girl is a legit 18yo actress or CP and it turns out to be a minor, did I commit a crime uploading it to Google?

The pic is obviously not uploaded from my computer but straight from its internet source as a URL. But nevertheless Google saves the image to their database, meaning I uploaded it to Google. Uploading CP is a crime.

This has never happened to me, I'm just asking this in theory.