Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1806. page

>>18257416
Should probably add it's not that I dislike the sex, just always wished we could be more.

Start working out, soon they'll be coming to you.
Go out and have some fun yourself

Stop being fucking chubby Jesus Christ is it so fucking hard? Then they can't tell you shit because you get butthurt and emotional. Lose the fucking weight then go from there, may have escaped your notice but when you are a certain degree of fat people don't give a shit about other aspects of your life. You are generalized.

Boy it sure seems worth stressing out and worrying all the time so that you can be successful and then die like everybody else.

>>18257395
You claim you are
>young adult
but i dont know what were you trying to tell in the first place. What exactly is your problem? That people around you generally dont care about anything?

And why does that matter to you?

>>18257399
>Worrying about average life happenings

>>18257356

Well, it could be philosophically argued that everyone is obligated to leave the world a better place than they found it and that might be easier to do if you aren't just general waste of space and oxygen. But truthfully, no, you're not obligated to improve, at least for as long as you aren't a burden on society or other people.

>>18257366
>not a burden on society
But he implicitly would be, since society could have had someone who helped improve it

>>18257366
I go to work and pay taxes and don't vote for psychopaths. Is that sufficient?

>>18257371
I'm remarkably stupid, too, so it's not really likely I'd be curing cancer anyway.

>>18257349
You're hitting yes on every POF person. You don't love her. You don't betray the people you love. Get a divorce.

>>18257353
Virgin detected.
Sex isn't love.
Eat shit, retard.

>>18257349
If you have needs that your partner isn't interested in fulfilling, that's okay.
If your partner doesn't care that you have unfulfilled needs, that's NOT okay.

Have you told you wife
>We are best friends but... no sex or hugs or hand holding at all.
>I have physical wants and needs you aren't fulfilling.
>It's okay that you aren't interested in fulfilling those needs.
>It's equally okay that I get them fulfilled and I believe a good partner would want my needs fulfilled.
>I want to have sex with you. You don't seem to reciprocate. Other women are offering. You okay with me pursuing that?

You don't need to lay out an ultimatum. You do need to make it clear that meeting your needs is now non-negotiable. It will happen, whether she's on board or not.

Everybody gets to define the terms of their relationships. So whatever you decide is right for you is right. Never back down from that. But that means it's okay for your wife, too. If this means you don't agree about what constitutes a successful relationship, maybe it's time to consider a split.

>>18256155

>>18257300
Don't ask women about what they want. They have a lost of traits they look for, but for men, and for women, ultimately it comes down to chemsitry, unless you live in an arranged marriage society you will pair off with hottest person you can have fun with.

>>18257300

A quality man in my books is someone who's dependable, responsible and kind to fellow people and other living beings. Everything else is pretty negotiable and up to personal tastes.

>Hey /adv/, normally I am the one giving the advice

So that explains the state of this board

>>18257271
It doesn't sound like bragging, it sounds pathetic. You sound like someone who would end up cheating on his spouse anyway, a bottom of the barrel husband. Dump her and get on with your life as a perma bachelor. Save up some of that bartending money so you can pay people to take care of you in the nursing home.

>>18257271
>gf of 4 years
>23 y/o


you're young as fuck nigger you WILL cheat on her if you marry her now ffs. i guarantee in a year

>>18257246
He doesn't care about you. Please dump him. Being alone is better than being with a disrespectful leech.

>>18257246
If the other chick is really your friend, talk to her. If one of my friends was constantly chatting up my girlfriend. I would have no problem telling both of them to show me some respect and knock it off. If they didn't there would be some changes made.

>>18257258
I've been alone for a pretty long time and I'm not really sure if it's that much better. I was really miserable settling to be alone and now that I'm settling to be with a secret dickhead I at least have someone to take me to places and introduce me to new friends, although I have zero interest in meeting anyone.

I don't really feel depressed but I often manage to find some way to be miserable with everything life hands me. Is it really that big of an issue, that my boyfriend gets bored at work and texts actively with a friend, who just happens to be a hot girl? I'm not that naïve but really, I've had it much worse.

>>18257259
She isn't really my "friend". I said that mostly to establish that I'm not just imagining that he's texting hot girls but that it's a pretty logical conclusion for which I have proof.

She's a childhood friend of mine who lost interest in me after she took the teenage bimbo path, leaving nothing for us bond over or even talk about. I was hanging out with her for the first (and last) time in years when I met my to-be boyfriend so she knows him as well.

She lives in a different city now but she's visited a few times and it's been very awkward for me, and I truly wanted for all of us to be friends but she's a dick to me too. Really hard to approach. It took months of one-sided texting and begging until she opened up to him and I'm not attracted to her so I don't have the patience for that.

I would be her friend if she wanted, though. I don't have anything against her although the situation is causing some frustration. The blame is on my somewhat poorly chosen boyfriend. Not only am I jealous, I feel like an outsider there.

>>18257241
>traditional wife quality women
Again, what do you mean?

Churches are usually a good way to find someone very traditional.

>>18257243
JUST REMEMBER: TRADITIONAL MEANS NO SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE.

ANYTHING BREAKING THIS RULE MEANS SHE'S NOT TRADITIONAL WIFE QUALITY UNLESS SHE GENUINELY PUTS HER SOUL TOWARDS YOU.

PANCAKE ON A STICK.

>>18257241
High quality people usually have social networks and gatherings to attend and they meet their spouses through them.

You should keep an open mind for what your degree could be useful than what you listed already. Maybe you can combine the things you learned with your passions somehow.

Just an example: Theater or movie business could use knowledgable people in history and someone could hire you as an advisor. Maybe you could use your expertise and passion for building as an instructor for movie set design.

The military is not a bad idea either, since you like it. Go for it before you rot away in a job you don't like

>>18257162

Same boat. Animal Husbandry student and vegan so fuck my life. I still want to do something with animals but it's hard trying to actually do my school stuff.

is there any aspect of your study that you do like/liked the idea of when you signed up?

>>18258003
>Animal husbandry
B-but you guys said it wasn't a slippery slope when we let the gays get married!!

>>18257088
Ignore him

>>18257093
Then I feel bad and sometimes I do but then he gets invited to a party and confronts me and I feel worse and I am a terrible lier ;-;

>>18257088
If he knows you're into him and you know he doesn't want a relationship and you can't handle being just friends, you should cut contact. Dragging it out will only hurt longer and get in the way of you moving on

OP here. I meant /adv/, not /b/. Sorry.

>>18257081
Why do you want to die?

Scared of life?

>train
is foolproof, you will give free mental illness to train driver, you will be in tv news and a lot of people will be late to work or school.

But you suiciders are all same. You either suicide or make these stupid threads to get attention.

So what is your problem?

>>18257114
My reasons are personal. I'm sorry. What I can say is that the only pleasure I could get out of life would be ruining someone else's life, so I rather prevent that from happening.

My Exs parents were the same way. Pretty much completely opposite of my parents so being around it was really jarring honestly. They never showed affection(her dad would always get her mom xmas and bday gifts though) and barely ever talked, yet they are still together and live in the same house.

Why not get divorced? I'll never understand it.

>>18257070
I dont know if I could include my parents, my father is super shy (nearly autistic kek) in this stuff, he can't do it in front of us.
Sometimes, when he tries, I don't know if it's cute or cringy.
And my mother just got used to it.

Well i slept in the same bedroom as my parents for years so i know they weren't getting any. They were never really physically affectionate with each other, i saw them kiss a couple of times (in my life) but it was just an awkward peck on the lips.

I never got the impression that there was any resentment between them, they just weren't that into that kind of thing. They are still together, I'm just writing in past tense because i don't live with them or see them that often any more.

kys maybe?

>>18257034

Vape or Ecigs?

Gets rid of one of those problems at least.

>>18257143
I'm paranoid about the fact that the health report is not fully in on they yet. I know exactly how bad cigarettes are for me.

Vaping does a lot less harmful stuff to your body, but the burning coil and the itching in the lungs causes me some concern.

>>18257007

How do you guys run all the shit?

How do i gain popularity as an artist?

>>18257007
as someone who doesn't have supportive parents, I don't think an orthodox jew could possibly relate to me

and I don't mean emotionally supportive, I mean parents who give a shit what happens to you

thoughts?

>>18256987

date from church you weirdo

>>18256987
brown women, not from the US

>>18256990

Church? which denomination? I don't have one but I wouldn't want to date a strict Catholic.