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>>18393624

I know exactly how you feel, find a way to REPLACE the memories with better or less cringey ones. Its tough

>>18393624
just stop thinking of yourself as pathetic and failure
stuff like that is normal in just some months you won't even think about her just focus on your current chick love her spent the time with her go on dates and just stay on your path Don't loose you way man K

>>18393644
this. u had a life experience OP, u didnt even scratch the surface of embarassing things u will go thru in life. enjoy the ride.

>royal we
RUN

>>18393594
it depends if you have that purpose or just ignore this topic and never accept always decline if you have to answer best answer is a maybe

>>18393594
she's asking if you're into her, or the attention.

also I didn't know what this was til today >>18393601
but that sounds like an interesting linguistic choice of words with possible consequences. fuck if I know though.

chill down senpai and first accept yourself no one is in better state every single one is a mess they just act like they are not its just a matter of admitting you are awesome the way you are just keep progressing in the way you think is correct and someday you will feel worthful in your life and let me tell you nothing is worth anything until you give it its worth so relaxx

>>18393573
sorry for using senpai I just feel like a weeb now

make a list of things you'd like to be doing if you weren't on the computer. then schedule them and keep track of how you spend your time.

>>18393523
I would give you advice, but I don't talk to cucks

>>18394737
Breaking up with a chick that cheated on me and hooking up with people makes me a cuck? That's a weird definition

>>18394744
Getting cheated on makes you a cuck. I said cuck, not beta. I can see why she cucked you, you jump to assumptions quickly and aren't a good listener

the first step is admitting that you have a problem
the second step is realizing that more drugs is not the solution

>>18393460
Drugs are making it worse, scro. That and you'll eventually get onto harder stuff. Hit the gym and study for a trade if you're not in school, useful stuff. Work on yourself and things start to fall into place. It's hard starting off, so just wake up tomorrow and start, exercise, grab a book, do a hobby you like, something to move you forward and baby steps aren't bad, you don't need to move a mountain in a day as long as you keep trying.

you can get through this anon

I think you are fine actually its just a matter of time go to college make friends with some 2pac wannabe make beats release your album and win the grammy
That's just my advice btw good luck for socialising and future

>>18393442
brah all you's uh need is ta axe out a fine hoe ya feel

>>18393442
yah man get yo game straight

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>>18393418

What do I do? All of my friends from school live at home in london near my mum. They all stay at home paying varying degrees of affordable rent while they save up because it's too expensive to get your own place

All of my friends from uni have gone home to live with their parents again

I have nowhere to live and my mum is telling me I'm 23 years old and should sort myself out.
I really don't know what to do.


She's just saying over and over that she is fighting my side but her partner (carl) is just having none of it

I've tried telling her that I'm an adult now, I'm not looking to come home and sponge off them, nor start arguments.

I wouldn't even be at home that much, I'd use it for sleeping and eating. 80% of the time I'm out either at work, gym or with friends.

But apparently it's all too much for them to cope with in their big house.

Its hard to deal with because it feels like I'm being betrayed at the same time because she's choosing her husbands weird comforts and preferences over her son having somewhere to live

And then telling me constantly that I'm "bullying her" and asking why doesn't my dad get any abuse (the dad that said "my home is always your home").

Help me out here /adv/ I can't get through to her and I'm losing my mind

I've got my first shift in london or Saturday I need to get moved in by then

Sounds like both your mum and her husband are pretty toxic, selfish people with little regard for you. If you're looking for a way of convincing her to let you move in, then I sadly don't think you'll find a suitable answer. It's unfortunate that you can't depend on them for anything and I really feel for you OP, but look on the bright side - from what you say, I think you're dodging a bullet big time with this.

Some questions:

What is your degree?

What is your line of work, are there many opportunities around, can you find work in cheaper areas?

How far away does your father live?

Why didn't you think about the possibility of your mum not wanting you to live with them before you applied to transfer your job to their location?

From what you say, I definitely think that relying on your mum for anything is a big waste of time, heartbreaking as it may be, just work towards cutting her and her husband out of your life - be courteous and polite, but not familiar with them as they sound like the sort of people that will only drag you down.

I know this is hardly the best time for this life lesson but you definitely should have secured a place to live before setting your job up, figure out whether you can crash at any friend's places, times for commuting on the tube or buses etc. or otherwise suck it up, phone your bosses and admit that your housing situation has imploded and that you may need to transfer back to your previous location.

Also, depending on your work, London may be more of a hindrance than a help for you at the moment - I understand that it's where all your friends are but if you're currently cash poor and in a lot of debt then you're simply making things harder for yourself with the current housing bubble and wage stagnation. Move somewhere else, maybe up north, save for a year or two and then come back down, you'll have more work experience, command a higher salary and have a bit of money in your pocket for rent.

>>18393418
OP, I can tell just by the fact that you took three posts to write out your entire fanfic that whatever advice we give you, you won't listen to it, and it will fail

>>18393411
do whatever feels more natural to you

>>18393411
>I think it would be good for my resume and it would help with having some relevant experience

This is correct in the medical field. Don't listen to your parents. Exposure to the field will definitely be a plus on a resume. Employers like to see the education aspect so a good college/university will help out too, but experience is the biggie, as it shows you have actual hands-on knowledge and even already know some specifics of the job that you learnt form the pros.
Take my situation as an example: I have an associate's degree in nursing. I have a few classmates who were hired immediately following graduation because they had volunteer hours in hospitals under their belt or did previous work as orderlies. Meanwhile, I'm unemployed despite a nursing shortage because the 3 years of clinical exposure through my courses wasn't apparently wasn't enough. I now need to spend another 2 years to get my Bachelors, which will then only get me an 80% of getting hired upon graduation.
Maybe your parents lived in the era where you just needed a highschool diploma to get work. They're trying to point you in the right direction, but just aren't aware of how competitive the job market is right now.
That being said, good luck with your career path anon!

>>18393632
My parents both have jobs where they use their degrees. The main problem is I live with my parents and they won't allow me to plan to do anything on a Saturday because I have to drive my younger brothers to their soccer send football. How can I convince them that this is important to me that I do my volunteer training over 2 weekends? Do I have to move out of home just so I can volunteer?

For starters stop telling people you eat shit, also take classes that interest you and talk to the professors, they should be able to help you refine a skill if you end up liking what you learn

>>18393329

when i was 12 i was obsessed with psychics.

10 years later i somehow ended up managing one. honestly it was pure coincidence.

>>18393329
>went to univ to study computer science for the moneys
>take coding classes, boring as shit
>don't want to be doing this the rest of my life
>decide to switch major shifts based honestly on my strengths
>people always tell me I have a big mouth, never stop talking
>spend time editing papers for qt foreigner girls
>can recite lines from anything down to a T
>decide on mass communications w/ journalism concentration
>get job as radio personality with side work as a voiceover artist

I don't know how I ended up like this but I'm not necessarily complaining

you kill her friends. it isn't that hard.

>>18393303
Can we have a moment Alone Together? Alright we can go in the back alley and talk.

>>18393303
get to know her friends. then pull her from the group.
You arent getting in a girls pants if her friends dont approve of you.

>>18393248
Get them drunk or high

>>18393258
bu... but I dont drink or smoke.
Im 28 btw. So starting isnt really an option.

>>18393271
Just talk to them a lot, important shit always comes out eventually

>>18393168

>shallow but they count

no they dont.

>>18393172
I get social interaction, isnt that the point?

>>18393176

social interaction is the point of social activities, not of friends.

thats like saying
>I have food (its just twinkies but it counts)

and then arguing that because you feel full afterward you're getting everything you need out of the situation to be happy.

keep meeting other women. You will never forget her but as time goes you will think of her less.

just distract yourself with other stuff

>>18393124

What I want to know is why is it that women can get forget men so easily? Is it because so many dudes throw themselves at women?

it helps if you can compartmentalize. you run into enough people that are harmful and you learn pretty well how to shut down emotions and thoughts. the only time I have a problem is when there's an open end or some reason for me to not shut it down. reason goes away, shit gets compartmentalized. takes almost no time.

>>18393013
if it isn't rooted and you installed it off the google play store then it's as simple as uninstalling the app. there is no malware that you need to be concerned about capable of infecting you without your permission if it's stock android.

>>18393013
backup your data in google drive.
restore default settings.
restore your data.

>>18393013
I've covered both cameras- if they want to listen idc.

she's a nutcase. Be careful.

>>18393008
She is. Why would you even doubt it? Imagine how the date would've gone if you kept hitting her with crazy personal criticisms like that. Don't see her again, there's no reason to put up with that shit

>>18393008
>she's 27 I'm 23.
This is apart of the problem, aside from her being a nutcase also. But with her being that much older, she may think that she has more experience than you automatically and she feels she can choose what she wants out of the relationship and she feels entitled to getting it, which is why she cherry picks problems.

Just assert that she needs to stop doing that shit or you're out.