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Well, you could just keep denying it.

Why exactly did you order the razors?

Just stick with no porn. No fap isn't that great.

Good luck with killing your libido

>>18551463
>>18551527
Are there actually any benefits desu. Someone care to explain why people do this. One of my close 'spiritual' mates was making it sound really basic about it feeling better when you do and just the power of self control but are there any genuine benefits?

Sometimes I unload and feel like I've 'lost energy' if you get meh.. like to be autist about it, sorry for the spiel anyway

She asks if I'm still suicidal, which is funny because that wasn't the reason I was in the psych ward but was the reason my partner was. She asks them also if it hurts them to be with someone who doesn't care to live. She's wrong about me, so I'm not offended.

Then some shit about if he's "sure I'm the right person" and that he "hasn't really made a commitment to me yet" and how he would do better with a girl from her church. (6 months living together, not a single fight. Why am I the fucking devil? I don't understand what I've done. I'm not Jehovah's Witness so I guess that's bad.)

She leaves. I wake up and deal.

Partner gets a letter from her a week later.

He jokingly reads the part to me where she outlines that I'm not fit to be a mother and that he should never impregnate me. (She has no idea that I lost a child 6 years ago, but whatever. She didn't know.)

For some reason, I woke up this morning and I'm fucking livid about the fact that a random woman I barely know waltzed into my own home, insulted me, tried to plant ideas into my partner's head to doubt me, and is now deciding that I'm incapable of basic human behavior such as raising a child.

My schizo shit already makes me feel like I have enough to be self conscious about, but having people enter my home uninvited only to slander me (I pay the bills, I make the food, and I actually do the dishes - the few plates on the counter were from 2 hours prior when I ate before bed) it just infuriates me that I'm pulling this shit together and getting shit on in return.

Not to mention she has to gossip about me to his family, who when I first met up with confessed that they envisioned me to be much more maladjusted.

My partner doesn't have a mother, so his Aunt's really the only maternal figure he has. I don't want to take that away from him, but fuck - being slandered in my own home and having this paranoia on top will be my ticket back to the ward.

How do I not be considered a piece of shit to this woman?

>>18551448
Well, to bet honest with your shit you should never get a kid and 6 months living together is nothing. You're both mentaly fucked, so she probably just doesn't want her son to end up with some psycho just because he had PTSD.

She doesn't respect you and to be honest, I wouldn't want my son to date crazy as well. That's just life. PTSD can be handled, but you'll be always schizo.

>>18551448
>For some reason, I woke up this morning and...

That was all what i was thinking during reading this whole story.

1. What does your bf think about her behaviour.
2. He should be on your side. If he aint, he is not relatinship worthy.
3. If he is completly against his aunts oppinion, (he should be, IF your stated facts ar true) he should
3.1 talk to his aunt
3.2 explain her her missconceptions of who has which illness
3.3 ask her, to ask you for forgivness
4. If she does not appologize
4.1 you should ask your bf not to let her aunt in because you wont

I dont know whose home it is and who has control about what. I dont know how much of a relationship is going between him and his aunt, but you should have the right with enough financial participation of the house to restrict her appearing. If he wants to see her, he can meet her somewhere else.

Its not even his mom. Im not too familiar with all those mind diseases but thats what i would hearty try to inforce from a man eyes view. At least none of my gfs family members is gonna do this to me.

I only hope that you aint too insane in your head and that your guy is not a pussy.

Nope
enjoy being an alcoholic

>>18551373
-local university, college or CC
-gym
-YMCA or similar
-mall food court
-coffee shops
-bookstore lounges
-comic book store or hobby shop
-volunteer work
-library (check notice board for community activities)
-church
-sports fields (join pick-up games)

>>18551483
Not op but thanks

Yes, no job for philosophy.

>>18551320
Majoring in philosophy will accomplish two things.

It may well be interesting, if your mind and taste goes to deep thinking.

While it won't prepare you directly for a specific job, the way most STEM subjects do, it also won't limit you to a specific job the way most STEM subjects do.

Most general business jobs (sales, management, customer relations, etc) will at least consider any major.

Fuck it out

>>18551340
The sex was great, but we didn't talk about how we'd deal with this moving forward

>>18552001
Don't talk about it. Just keep banging. If she wants to talk about it or a future or a relationship, she'll bring it up. In the mean time enjoy yourself. If none of what I mentioned above interests you then tell her you only want to be friends and stop fucking.

Hmmm It kinda sounds like you are both better people without each other and your self-improvement has came as a result of not being with him. But if you really want him back I think you should give it another shot as long as you are aware of what went wrong the first time.

>>18551306
Don't do it. Reminiscing is sweet and warm but it is not reality.

>>18551351
But some people make it work with exes, right?
And I do acknowledge neither of us is perfect etc

>>18551280
Yeah dude you dodged a bullet she sounds like a whore. Tell her and your bro to fuck off as they obviously don't have your best interests at heart and I guess you just move on.

>>18551280

advice depends entirely on who you are OP

are you kissless beta virgin and want your first girlfriend? forget her, you aren't a good match for her, sounds like you're too fragile and she's too callous with your feelings since she should have been able to work out you're interested

are you just a regular single guy with a couple (or more) sexual partners in his past asking for general advice? i dunno, do what you want. 2 months is a long time to talk to someone and not fuck them, if i'm talking to someone and hitting it off big time i'll invite them out (or in) for drinks, get at least a couple of cocktails inside each of us, make funny jokes and occasional eye contact, then put my arm around her waist after we leave and are walking from one place to another. works smoothly even for an awkward faggot like me. why don't you do that next time?

>>18551280
>i don't know what too do?

Really? You befriended a girl going through a breakup and a move but you expected more and that won't happen. Your brother befriended a girl going through a breakup and move who wanted some fun and dick and she got both.

As someone that doesn't need it medically, I took a strong dose in college to finish a 10 page book report on a book I didn't read.

Basically for me, it kept me awake and made me want to continue doing my work. Distractions sometimes came along in the library and I told them nah I want to finish this piece. I skipped dinner because that shit would keep me away from my work too long.

Just remember actually start working when you take it. If you pop it and browse YouTube, you'll be on YouTube forever.

>>18551311
Thanks man. Reason I ask is because I'm not sure if I should feel my head being faster, or have some kind of buzz. But you're saying there shouldn't be, and it just helps you work more effectively?


I've taken once before and was willing to do things I put off, like doing dishes, and be pretty upbeat about it. Now I'm taking it and just reading casually. All I know for sure is I'm not tired even though I should be.

If you take a high dose do it before or youll never sleep. When I used to take it I would get cotton mouth and listening to music while working is awesome. Be careful about taking long breaks as I found it difficult to get back on track.

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>>18551243
Terrible bait, didn't even consider that you were serious

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>>18551243
Then you go to Dorsia afterwards right?

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>>18551243
This wins my Seal Of Upheaval as dumbest post of the day

>>18551204
Jesus Christ, this can't be real. OP I think it's about time you get checked for the tism

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>>18551209
Maybe I've just been a high functioning autist this whole time

>>18551204
No big deal. Lots of normies make odd noises when they think they're alone.

"It's my 'I hate this fucking job' sound."
"It's my stretching and trying to get blood back in my hands sound"
"I was trying to stop a sneeze from happening"

>>18551172
Double texting is almost never a good idea. How far away does she live?

Why didn't you meet when she was in your town?

>>18551175

it was near my hometown. she just had time for a couple of hours and i was busy that day.

>>18551172
Wait 24 hours and try again. What you have to lose? 5 minutes of your time and dignity? And what you have to gain? Qtie girl presenting her pussy for you to lick to future wife.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Try later again. Stop overthinking!

Tell him you really appreciate that, but that it might not be the best option to improve your confidence and assertiveness.
Tbh, I think it's a nice way to get you going, from personal experience. I had to teach classes as an exam and I was getting dry heaves before, when it started and I finished introducing myself I was rolling, because I stopped focusing on the audience but on the subject. I believe you can do it anon, won't be pleasant when you start but it will be damn satisfying.

We got someone who has low confidence so we let his speek infront of 50 ppl, because that exactly is what they are missing. Thats the reason why everybody who is coming out of scool is super confident because havin done once a presentation infront of the class spikes the confidence of everyone..

This shit might even do things worse. Just tell him that you confidence issues wont go away from holding a presentation because you speak out of experience. The pont of a one on one talk is, so your leader knows how you are feeling and doing, whether you are satisfied or not. So if you tell him that everything is allright and your confidence issues are a simple way of your personal character that wont be changed with one presentation she should understand it. Tell him that you enjoy your field of work and that his confidence missinterpritation is not your fault. As long as it not restricting your happiness and your successfull way of working in the team he should not worry.

Fuck presentations. The more confident you are able to say this, the better it will be for you in the end

>>18551065

It might not improve your confidence much, but it'll improve your ability to give presentations in front of 50 people, which is a handy skill that'll make you look more confident than you really are. And that's half of what confidence is.

Maybe >>18551254 is correct, but my personal experience is that I was shit at public speaking until around ~18-20 years old at which point I had to do a bunch, got good, and had a small weight removed from my shoulders on my laundry list of minor insecurities about minor bullshit. Still scared of spiders though

>>18550986
Go with age grandpa. Online games and discord is probably what you want. Csgo?

>>18550993
I'm looking for a snail mail penpal actually.

>>18550994
try fountain pen network or something dude.
look at the ads and see how folks present themselves on there.
what's the problem? just write and see if you click, that's the whole point isn't it?

>>18550969
Sill OP, maybe using "containing" is better than "with".
As "with" seems like the way you have to write to even send it, like if you dont write it like that it wont send or something:


Send a message containing just "$" followed by a whole number to make an offer (e.g. $100).

>>18550980
Well, do you really think it matters?
Just $100 and only $100 are going to convey the same meaning to whoever you are speaking to, right?