> Turning over a new leaf.
> Have job and car, a few interesting and outdoors related hobbies.
> Starting uni next week at 21
Want to make more friends, be a little more social and outgoing, maybe even get a gf next year or so.
How do I become approachable and sociable?
I know I should genuinely smile more often, which I've been keeping in mind, especially if acknowledging people when they look at me.
I've also been going to smaller functions and getting to know people there.
I've been working on my speech (I tend to slur)
What other advice could you impart?
How can I not be a "creep" when talking to people etc.
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>>18074179
just talk to everyone all the time with one exception: don't ask your teachers questions during class
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>>18074204
Thanks i'll keep that in mind.
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Get shit off your chest time. When i was in gr 6 my mom was gonna marry someone. he was awesome. had kids older than i was but loved em. One day when i get back from a friends house my mom, dad and step mom are all at the table and want to talk. turns out the man who my mom was gonna marry got arrested for distributing cp and having it on his computer. had over 2000 pics and 300 vids. she immedialy ended things and cut off almost all ties to everything related to him. fucked so much up in both our lives and i could go on about that...but fast forward to now and im un university...guess who gets arrested again...the scumfuck who my mom was gonna marry is back in jail for the same thing...thanks for listening. i posted this on /b/ but i thought id post it here too. feel free to ask any questions bout the situation.
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did he ever touch you
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>>18074173
No he didnt and im really fortunate for that, Im not sure if anything ever happened to his son...i dont think it did but there was deffinatly anger between them.
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How can I get my life together? 2017-02-23 07:16:55 Post No.18074146
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How can I get my life together?
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'm still in high school, if that helps for context. I have overdue projects in three out of the seven classes I'm taking this year, and I have two projects due tomorrow in two other classes, one I will definitely not be able to get done and one that I can probably do but I still procrastinated way to much on it. I'm also having a large amount of trouble keeping up with daily homework assignments as well, many of which I just have not done. I have trouble focusing and starting assignments and I'm not entirely sure how to fix it. I've said I was going to do the whole "start your homework as soon as you get home from school" thing, and I really have tried, but honestly I'm just so exhausted by the end of the day that I just physically cannot make myself stay awake; I need to take naps, even though I usually get around 7-8 hours of sleep each night. I don't know what I'm going to do when I have to go to college, and I'm honestly starting to doubt whether it's even worth it. I read a lot of nonfiction (mostly business books, but some philosophy, cosmology, astronomy, and history) and I've learned wayyy more from that than from school, not to mention that most of it (business and finance mainly) just feel more relevant in my daily life than anything I've learned in school. (Continued below)
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2/3 I have a lot of ideas for products and businesses I could create, and I sorta want to be an entrepreneur but at the same time I'm kinda scared to actually put money into any of these because what if they fail. I'm not sure if starting my own business would make a college degree unnecessary, and if it did I could at least put the money into the business, but if it fails I'm not sure what I would do. Not to mention, I don't think that I have enough discipline to really do this. I wish I could start now but I don't know how I could find the time, since I can't even do my school work now. I also kinda hate myself because I feel like I haven't pushed myself enough in high school because my grades aren't that good (mostly Bs which doesn't sound that bad, but I somehow managed to get in the 99th percentile on my SATs on the first try without having taken any prep classes which probably should make me feel better but it just shows that I had the potential for so much more but I didn't do it and I don't even know how I would go about doing it) and I don't really have anything else going for me either. (Continued below)
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3/3 I can draw sort of well if I have enough time but I lack the patience to actually focus on anything so good drawings by me are rare. Even though I'm at what the internet says is a healthy weight, I don't eat all that well and I rarely exercise so I would definitely not consider myself healthy. I'm also not super pretty or anything, I wouldn't consider myself ugly, but my looks are just kinda plain and my hair always has flyaways unless I put a ton of product in but then it just looks greasy which I think is worse. This got really long and I'm sorry, but thank you for reading if you got this far. I'm also sorry about all the poor grammar, I just really needed to get this out. I'm basically just trying to ask if you have any ideas for how I can get my life together. Thanks!!
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i skimmed as it was tldr, but judging from what I saw, I can tell you that you remind me of me, when i was in school. I'm now 30.
I was never the school type. I felt the whole concept, structure, and execution of school is an antiquated concept, and I could never focus, I always procrastinated, and I never got shit done on time, and I hardly ever did homework because quite frankly at the time, I couldn't find the capacity to give a shit about filling out worksheets, glueing cardboard together, and memorizing dates.
I ended up skipping school to the point that I couldn't pass due to absences until I dropped out.
Here's how it happened:
>parents started getting phone calls about my absences
>mom schedules a visit with me and a guidance counselor
>I agree to talk with them
>they try to convince me to get held back and continue my highschool career
>I decide to drop out
>my mom freaks out like it's the end of the world, and is upset for a couple of weeks
>it isn't
Now the only way this can work, is if you hit the ground running and just start working... at a job. Not at some dumb ass idea or scheme or internet marketing bullshit... a real job, flipping burgers, delivering pizzas, or whatever.
The sooner you get into the work force, the better, because I can tell you this... after watching my friends graduate and move onto college and then try to find their way, I realized that they have to do the same damn thing anyways.
In retrospect, the most important thing you can do, regardless of what happens with school or college, is to find a person who is highly successful... and I mean on the cusp of success. This person will be wealthy. They will be a business owner. They will be a douchey. They will have a drive in them that you don't understand. But if you find that person, and you work for that person, you'll find your way.
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How do you open up to people?
I haven't done it in like 17 years and want to tell some people how much they mean to me since I may not being seeing them for a long time.
Frankly the thought of revealing my actual emotions terrifies me and I am afraid I will chicken out and not say anything.
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>>18074116
What's the problem? If you feel a certain way, why can't you just say it?
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>>18074139
why would you expose your vulnerabilities? this will just give them something to hurt you with.
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What are your actual emotions?
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Hi /adv/.
I will be selling today for the first time (donuts).
Any tips?
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>>18074115
dont fail
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Sunibee?
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if you do this publicly to strangers on a non-insignificant scale (more than a decently-sized box), make sure to research whether permits or shit like that are needed for your country/city.
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Please help /adv This is herpes right? Top is current and bottom is what happened when I popped one awhile ago. Herpes is a common std so I think I sadly got it. How do I treat this?
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You go to the doctor and tell him you stuck your peenor into a nasty vagina. He gives you medicine and then you die after a few years.
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>>18074034
HAHAHA, I laughed
But dude is right, go get some meds to keep your junk from breaking out in puss boils and enjoy your now much shallower dating pool.
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>>18074030
It could just be snoo.
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Hi guys, start uni in a week (my first year), doing common engineering (later moving onto aerospace). Other than keeping up with my work, have you guys got any good tips for passing/succeeding in my units. My maths is average but my physics and chem is good, so have you guys got any tips or resources for getting good at maths.
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L2derivate, its not like 99% of engineers do anything more complex. Advanced hs math is basically as hard as it is going to get in working life.
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>>18074195
well, thank fuck i can do that
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I'm a senior in high school and have never dated. There's some girl I like, but she seems very religious and uninterested in dating from the outside. I'm planning on talking to her tomorrow or the day after and I know what to start off with. Can I really succeed at this though? I don't plan on making any moves clearly starting my intentions to date her and am instead looking for an interesting conversation about each other and to get her somewhat interested in me.
Will this get me anywhere or is this just beta fantasizing? How do you pick up these religious types anyway?
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Hold the fuck up with that ifunny tag I'm not taking you serious
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>>18073993
Don't try to leap into "dating." Chat. Hang out together. Agree to hang out together again tomorrow. Suggest that the next hang-out be at the park/mall/McDonalds/wherever.
Step by step the hang-outs morph into dates.
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Not OP:
I am so "high" that I thought after seeing "park/mall/McDonalds/wherever" that McDonalds was a physical place inside Mall, inside a park, when I read "wherever" being inside McDonalds my brain completely cracked.
I am not a programmer. I probably just didn't sleep well enough.
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>Interview at Big Y this friday
>For Manager position
>Night Manager to be exact
Anyone have experience with working at Big Y?
Anyone have any experience with being a manager there? What the duties and responsibilities are?
Thanks!
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Who or what is a Big Y?
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Should I get a second opinon or am I overreacting? 2017-02-23 05:59:09 Post No.18073987
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Should I get a second opinon or am I overreacting?
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For my college major I had to do physical fitness testing. It came up on one of my tests that I have a heart problem as my pulse was much higher than it should be.
I went to my primary care physician and wound up having a ton of blood tests done and everything came back normal. Then I had a heart monitor for a month and one day the people watching my heart monitor called and told me to go to the ER because my heart rate was very high. I didn't go because it slowed back down and I felt fine.
Fast forward to after I got the heart monitor off. My PCP pretty much tells me that yes, I have a fast heart rate, but since the tests performed came back normal that I'm okay. I feel like she didn't even check the records though because she called me within less than 24 hours after they were sent to her.
Now it's been two months since then and I've been monitoring my heart rate with another monitor and my pulse is steadily climbing. The highest point being 156.
Is it safe to say that she was wrong and needs to do more testing?
I'm 22, skinny, but otherwise healthy and fit.
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Yes. Your heart rate is not normal for a fit young man. If she doesn't play ball, find another doctor and get their opinion.
I don't know what more testing will do though. You know what's wrong with your body and you have records to show it.
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>>18074043
Well I know that a fast heart rate is caused by something and that's what I'd like to find out.
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> 26yo male
> make 120k/yr
> Rent own room in house
> Broke up 1month ago
> Feel hurt
Can you guys remind me about all the cool shit I can do as a single man?
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Buy a cool car, take it to the track, do some autocross, pick up sailing, go fucking travel by yourself to foreign countries. Do what you want to do
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>>18073954
browsing 4chan with friends and family for starters
also get a better job?
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>>18073954
Drugs
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I need advice here. Basically I have a friend I've known since I was really young that I no longer want to be friends with. I used to enjoy hanging out with him as a kid but as we have both grown up we have become very different.
He has ended up as someone who enjoys drinking, doing drugs, socialising, gambling, smoking, sexual intercourse and partying and stuff like that. I have become less and less social throughout life and enjoy simply relaxing at home and do not enjoy any of the things he does at all. Another issue is that he will always try and get money off me to support his habits or the things he enjoys. He never takes no for an answer and will try and emotionally blackmail you or get angry if I don't loosen my grip on my cash. I personally dislike conflict and shit so I usually lose a decent bit of money every time we hang out. When we hang out its almost always that he just says "lets go do x" and in the same way with the money his mind is set on it and he wont compromise so I have to end up in places I hate doing things I don't want to.
The reason I haven't ended this friendship yet is simply because I don't know how I can without causing a massive shitshow. This friend has had a very shit life so I understand why he ended up as he did and try my best to help but its ingrained in his personality now. He has really bad depression and cant control his emotion and always goes on about how I am the only person in his life that has never betrayed him and always been there for him. I feel if I just straight up told him "we aren't friends anymore" he would kill himself or be mentally destroyed. Also he knows my family and where I live etc and so I cant just ghost him either.
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This is a really difficult and quite sad situation he does feel like a friend still and I like him as a person or rather can understand and respect him as a person but every single facet of our lives is incompatible at this point and hanging out with him is almost always mentally and financially draining. Does anyone have any sort of advice for me? Its quite a complex issue and I never usually deal with this sort of shit so I am clueless.
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Ghost him, if he shows up just say you cant do shit right now maybe another time, keep doing that until he gets the fucking idea that you dont want to hang out anymore
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write to him what you wrote here. like a break up letter
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I've known this girl for about 3 years. We were always friends at work and what not, never really saw each other as a companion, seeing as we were both in relationships until about 2 months ago. Leading up to our break ups, we talked more and spent more time together both in and outside of work. Needless to say, I caught feelings for this chick hard, but whatever, didn't do anything about it seeing as we both just got out of relationships. We hang out with mutual work friends to go out to eat. Have a great time, no physical contact, but definitely a good step. After work, she drives me home afterwards via the long way. We talk, confess how crazy I am about her, she responds in the same manor. Talk about wanting to date and take things slow and both agree that would be the best way to go about things.
So we're dating for about a week or two now. Everything is going great, life is good. Even start hanging out at her house til late in the morning. Start hanging out with each other every day until last Friday or whenever.
So on Saturday I notice something strange. We give each other the usual good morning texts, but she doesn't reply right away like we've been doing. Continues throughout entire day. Hours to reply. Just figured she was busy, whatever. Next day, same shit. Good morning texts, hours to reply. Same with the next day, and the next, and then today I built up the courage to ask her what was up cause obviously shit wasn't how it has been. Says she isn't as ready to be committed to anything as she thought. The fuck?
I feel like i'm being led on, so should I abandon ship? Because it's not like it's just been me doing all the work. We said we'd take things slow, which is what I anticipated. However, she's initiated everything from holding hands to making out. As I've stated, I've caught feelings for this chick hard. So how the fuck do I come out on top and not lose her? Because that's what it feels like is happening.
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You are the "rebound" guy. Assuming her last relationship was lengthy, yes you should break it off.
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>>18073942
She was the one who broke off the relationship with her though, so being the rebound guy doesn't really seem to make any sense
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How do I politely tell a friend to leave my house when we're hanging out? I can't come up with any way. I mean, they're not doing anything wrong, I just want to be to myself after a few hours of hanging out. But the problem is I'm afraid to hurt them so I just keep hanging out with them until they decide to leave. I have no other excuse than the want to be alone. I also don't wanna lie or use some trick to manipulate them. I want to tell them so they know.
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Try telling them that you're getting kinda bored and wanna just chill by yourself for a while. I do it and in my cases my friends normally understand and don't feel left out because at the end of the day we've all been there.
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>im gonna take a shower
>i'm going to eat
>i need to do some stuff alone
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>>18073909
Seriously, just tell them.
>"Hey man, I need to be alone by myself for a while. Piss off in a bit"
>"Why?"
>"I need to rub one out."
Not in that exact way, but keep a lighthearted tone about it. If he presses further, say that you feel kinda overwhelmed and that you need some time alone. It's not their fault, you're just pretty tired. Tell them you'll invite them back another time.
If they're really your friend, they'll understand.
Am I wasting my time taking community college art classes? I mean, theyre kinda fun but I really dont think I have what it takes honestly. Im pretty lazy and dumb and give up at everything really quickly. Maybe I shoulda just let go of my "durr i wanna work with vidya" dream and went to a trade school or some shit. Bleh.
Pic kinda related, self portrait I drew a while ago. I had nothing else to post.
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Maybe try to get into doing more simple things like cartooning and learning the use of simple shapes so you can improve as an artist
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>>18075441
Not a bad idea. My classes are kinda helping with that