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Go take a walk you beta

>>18504133
im im im.
Stop thinking and DO

>>18504142
>>18504145
I guess I'll go do one at 6 PM

>>18504114
I wondered why if she knew I was such a "great guy", why she'd choose sex and alcohol over me, then stomp on my self esteem by saying the new guy was better than me, insult me, lie that I treated her bad to my friends; and now come back?

What do I do? I've saved myself for a good girl to come around and while I tried hard to build a solid foundation with this girl; she threw it back in my face and treated me horribly after. This was someone who said she was my friend first and foremost. But I couldn't even get the "let's be friends" consolation prize when I confronted her about the guy. It was as if she was somehow so sure about him and knew that the relationship was locked in. And of course as I said earlier, finding out she'd been seeing him while kissing and making out with me the entire time, turned my stomach and realized that she'd cheated on me like she had with her ex. I asked myself a simple question, "If she were a guy friend, and did something as emotionally painful to you, would you ever hang out with that guy again?" And my answer was no. A friend suggested I just use her for sex, but I'm not that kind of person and giving my virginity to someone like that...just feels like rewarding them for their gross behaviour. Do I respond? I was thinking of responding politely with a "No thank you". 2/2

>>18504121
>I wondered why if she knew I was such a "great guy", why she'd choose sex and alcohol over me, then stomp on my self esteem by saying the new guy was better than me, insult me, lie that I treated her bad to my friends; and now come back?
Because she considers you her backup plan. Politely tell her to fuck off and move on.

You're a spineless loser for even considering going back, and even though she's a cheating whore she's still too good for you.

>>18504111

move to europe

...just throwing it out there

>>18504113
Considered it actually (studied German for 3 years in high school) but parents won't support it at all, they would rather me join the army than leave.

>>18504111
honestly thats a waste of money. If you go some how enjoy the debt.

>>18504066

define 'worked'. do you mean they ended up staying together until one or both of them died? yes that has happened.

>>18504066
no

being with anyone never worked for anybody

it is beta to talk to women, annoying them and giving them control over the entire dynamic of the relationship

if you do not become so alpha that they speak to you first, always, you're doomed

Why can't i speak to them and still be in control? Women do not tend to naturally speak to you first if you're not a rich handsome famous guy so 99.99% of the population has to speak to women first. Also, it takes courage to speak out of the blue to someone who is a complete stranger and most women do not have that courage.

>>18504060
Believe it or not, anon, despite what PUA's will tell you, this isn't how you meet women. You meet women the same way you meet other friends, through common interest, or through other friends. If you strike up a bond, or if she is interested in you it will be natural. No woman in a supermarket wants to be accosted by some mouthbreather going "SO YOU LOOKIN AT SOME... CANNED GOODS? TRY DUH PEECHIZ DEY GOOD". It just doesn't work that way. Women are like friends that it's socially acceptable to put your dick in. Nothing more. Your problem is that you're going about it all wrong. You're even looking at the situation all wrong. It will all happen naturally. The reason the situation is awkward is because the entire conversation is synthetic. That's not how conversation works unless you have the patience to study communication and figure out how to strike up interesting conversations with anyone. Some people are social butterflies and have no anxiety because they are just happy and charismatic and WEEEEEE! all the time. If that aint you, then that aint you, and there's nothing wrong with that. The only thing that truly is what these preschoolers call "alpha" is following your own path and not worrying if anyone else around you likes it if you're not hurting them. Repeat after me; "I walked a mile in my own pair of boots, do you think I give a goddamn what you think?" This is what "alpha" is. Plain and simple.

As for your specific predicament, I'd say that you saved yourself a lot of embarrassment by walking away. You don't know her, likely have nothing in common with her other than the place you were in and the cubic meter of oxygen you're both breathing, and she most likely wouldn't have been interested anyway. You don't have to be something your not. Find out what YOUR PERSONAL STRENGTHS are, and play to those, and appreciate your girlfriend. The fuck are you even trying to pick up chicks for you fence hopping motherfucker?

I'm sorry to hear that anon, I hope the chances are still good. Is there any other reliable family you can turn to? How old are you exactly? She seems to consider you adult enough to talk about it, so maybe follow her lead and there will be a way for both of you to get through whatever is to come.

What kind of cancer and what lengths are you willing to pursue for treatment?

Idk why i cant directly reply but im 15 gonna be 16 im a month. Both me and my mum are thinking im just gonna stay with close family. It was originaly lung cancer but because it was small cell it spread she starts chemo in a week.

Do what I do, drink a lot of alcohol and take antidepressants and birth control pills whether or not you're a male and also don't eat food because your calories come fromt he booze.

>>18504000
jack off

yeah just jerk it what's the problem

>>18503827
>would it be weird to accept invitation on a date from person i like/love/want have sex with?
>op comfirmed for retard

STOP OVERTHINKING PROBLEMS AND DATE THE BITCH! Dont forget to bring condoms.

>>18503849
I don't think I made it clear, but she's easily late 40's and with 4 kids (single, yes, but still). Never took that plunge so I guess I'm getting cold feet about it.

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>>18503887
Since age stopped anybody to sexing up somebody?

She is mature woman who is probably tired of vibrators and now wants young horny bunny who will destroy her.

>you wouldnt make this post if you didnt want it

>>18503821
>damaged goods
Either find better girls (good luck with that) or give them a chance and ask them on dates. Chances are high you are as damaged as them if it took you three years to leave insecure slob who abused you.

>>18503854
I agree with this guy

>>18503854
It took me 6 months, she wasn't a slob when I met her but apparently, she has always been one according to her mother.

I gave one of them a chance and we had 2 good dates. I liked her even though she didn't have a license, was failing community college, and didn't even know what to do with her life. She stopped talking to me after our second date claiming she wasn't ready for a romantic relationship... go figure..

>>18503754
You didn't need to timestamp yourself, but general advice:
>dress one step above what you'd normally wear at this job
If the uniform is something like fast food, then your shirt is acceptable. If it's business casual, then you should at least be in a shirt and tie. If it's an office that enforces business clothes, wear a suit. Either way, you're a little underdressed. What you have is the barest minimum acceptable.
>prepare answers to the most common questions
Like tell us about yourself, what are your strengths and weaknesses, why should we hire you, where do you see yourself in 5 years

What kind of job is it, exactly? If it's basic grunt work then you should be fine with just the above.

>>18503781
I have the chance to :

1.Pickup kayaks , boats and be in the beach.

2. My fucking god , I wish I could have ask this before, I came wearing jeans , shirt and my goddamed voluminous hair.

Thanks anon !

When they say ask "do you have any questions for me?" , ask them some q's, shows them youre interested

>>18503750
Yes it works but you have to find a good therapist

>>18503750
If your insurance is like mine therapy should be free. It helped me. I had a shitty year too with a breakup. It didn't stop making me feel shitty but it helped me understand somethings more.

Give it a try. It depends on the person.

>>18503750
Therapy doesn't work, it's a sham. You're in a depressive state causing you to lose interest in the things you used to be passionate about.

>>18503726
"Hey, I just realized I invited myself to the vegas trip, I'm not intruding am I?"

>>18503840
What if they say no but they'd still prefer I don't go? I'm almost certain they won't *mind* me going, but I'd rather be wanted than tolerated

>>18504032
well what you do there is the point anon.
If you don't want to be tolerated, use the opportunity to be wanted. That is social skill that one builds over time and they are your friends.
>Be honest
>>18503840
This, plus make it clear that you had fun and you want you all to have fun again.
>Don't overthink stuff
See if they are your friends, they like you.If you invite yourself, maybe you did because they didn't had enough time to invite you...or maybe because for them it was implied that you would be going too...
>Once more, be honest.
If you like your friends and you are insecure about being tolerated, just find a way to ask that...people are insecure some times, and that only means you care about them.

And in the end, try to have fun anon and help, that is what friends are for.

Get a stationary bike?

>>18503706
That doesnt solve my problem. I was working 11 hours and I walked a lot during that and it hurt a lot, so I need something for that.

No real underwear that I know of that can fix it.

Instead, wear loose, light clothing to avoid sweating as much as possible. Consider keeping a change of clothes on hand if you sweat a lot.

Also, rub some cornstarch on the area where your thighs rub together. It keeps the area dry and reduces friction to prevent rub burn.

Make sure you towel off thoroughly after a shower, too.

>>18503664
You're going to listen to what she has to say, try to fix it for a little while, eventually you'll go back to your old habits and she'll leave. Your best bet is to just tell her you're unhappy, and you'd like to divorce, get it over with, move on.

What incident caused you to seperate the first time?

>>18503685
I was severely unhappy with life.(not with my wife) and the only thing keeping me going at the time was the sex. But eventually that caught up and all my passion was gone. I felt no satisfaction in where I was heading in life and my job sucked at the time (still have the same job but I am in a new better position I like). So I isolated myself from her and the world in general and my wife is for sure an extrovert and she was pretty much left alone to go make herself happy. I stopped playing an active role in her life and more into a parasitic one. And eventually it just took its toll on her. attempted suicide and its been a real mess. Got some help and can say im much happier on an individual level.

>>18503607
... Get an enclosed cat box, and scoop it regularly... cats will destroy shit if it's not up to their standards.

>>18503607
>living with a girl

there you have it

yeah, that's disgusting. she needs to scoop out the shit daily or the cat won't shit inside anymore. she should know that...

anyways, having an animal inside is bordering on abuse. having a pet altogether if they don't serve a purose (a dog watching the house, a cat getting rid of excessive mice, a cow giving milk, etc) is just a sign of mental issues. to me it screams "i can't get people to love me, so i use animals to feel loved, even thought they only care for me because i provide them with food, but i chose to ignore that fact and act like they actually love me "unconditionally"".