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I'm going on my fourth year of college and realized I don't ever want to be an engineer. My grades weren't so hot last year and my motivation for it is 0, i'll probably fail my classes.
I've decided i want to be either a social studies/history or math high school teacher, but have no idea if there's even a chance of switching.
Right now I have about 50k worth of student loans and I highly doubt i'll be able to take out any new ones or pay for full college myself.
Do you think joining the military (with no degree) would be the best option or is there some other way?
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>>18579143
You should first consult someone at your college. Credit transfer between different degrees should be possible in some cases, so you probably wouldn't have to start from the beginning entirely if you decide to swap fields. Just quitting college when you're already 50k in debt sounds like a suicide.
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even if i do switch i doubt ill have the money to complete schooling.
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>>18579143
You can't quit like a homosexual now. It's OK to pussy out on the first year or so, but not now.
You do what you want once you've got your degree. Be a math teacher or pursue any other suicidal idea later on. You'll never be like "gee I wish I hadn't got my degree in engineering"
> You don't fuck a girl just to stop before cumming.
> You don't run a marathon and give up when you can see the finish line.
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Should I ask my best friend if she wants to have a threesome with me (I'm a guy) and my girlfriend? And if you think I should, how should I bring it up?
In the past I asked if she thought we'd be dating had we both been single when we met and she said yes, although we both agreed that we work way better as friends. This actually didn't make things awkward at all.
She knows that my gf and I have been looking for someone to have a threesome with but I never really thought of asking her since I thought she was completely straight but she recently corrected me on that saying she'd be down to do stuff with girls, just that she's more into guys.
She's also dropped what could be interpreted as hints encouraging me to ask her, like telling me she used to have a fuckbuddy she's still good friends with.
That being said she's never made a move on me, even when we've slept in the same bed.
I feel super comfortable around her and we talk about pretty much anything but for some reason I keep pussying out on asking her about this.
I've never had a hard time asking something like this before but for some reason I keep thinking she might have a negative reaction and that might damage the friendship even though nothing whatsoever indicates that this would happen.
On the one hand I don't want to risk damaging the friendship but on the other hand if it works I feel as though that would make my friendship with her even better since we'd literally have no limits with each other.
(Also don't worry about the girlfriend aspect of this, she's into her too and really isn't the jealous type.)
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Curious as to why you think so. Could you elaborate?
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Abandon this idea immediately. Best case scenario you will lose the friend. Likely you will lose both. Its almost innevitable that at least one will get jealous. This sort of thing is best done between stangers.
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How do I control my anger? Earlier I was trying to tell my sister something but she wasn't listening. It was annoying but I wasm't angry. I went to walk out then almost fell over my own two feet because im retarded. I got so angry i wanted to punch something. Why am i so quick to anger?
I am constantly falling over my own feet for some reason and it always makes me so angry
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i get angry easily too, it's really hard to control it, but things can be better if you figure out how to change your mindset. The way you approach things is a major variable in your mood.
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>How do I control my anger?
Mindfullness and meditation is great for controlling emotions you will have to decide when it is appropriate for you to act upon emotions though else you become a depressed robot.
> I went to walk out then almost fell over my own two feet because im retarded. I got so angry i wanted to punch something.
This is rather normal but acting on that anger is entirely different. If its manifesting even as you try to deal with it and you are completely unable to stop it for a period of time afterwards thats when you need to make some changes.
>Why am i so quick to anger?
Alot of the human body and mind based around routines,habits, and just repeated actions. I could bullshit you all day on why or why not you are a fucked up individual but all that matters is the solution right?
>TLDR
Look into meditation/wellness its not really all that monky bullshit you think it is
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>>18579481
I like meditation but i don't do it much. It just makes me calm at that moment but then later i return to normal
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Hey guys - can I get some help drafting an email? I'm having some trouble with the wording and this is a relatively important subject to me.
To: my landlord
Situation: My lease starts sep. 5, I have legitimate reason to move in about a week before that, I know the place is not occupied, rest explained in email
Here goes:
Dear Mrs. xxx,
>Is Mrs. appropriate?
This is *my name*, a soon-to-be tenant at *house address*. I'm reaching out to you because I'm interested in moving in to the house as early as a week before the lease begins - I'm moving from *city 1 (known to be very far away)*, and my mom and I are driving there in her car so she can help me move in, but she needs to be back in *city 1* by Sep. 5 (when the lease starts) for her first day at a new job.
Would you consider some sort of arrangement where I can pay you a quarter month's rent in order to move in a week early? It would save me the logistics trouble of having to find a place to store all my things for a few days and then try to move in without a car easily available.
Thanks for your consideration,
*my name*
It's really important to me that this email has the highest possible chance of letting this landlady allow me to pay her to move in early. Let me know what I can change to make it more appealing. Thanks /adv/.
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Please I have autism you can write this off as community service and I'll give you a tax deduction
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Why don't you just call her instead?
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>>18579361
Don't have her # and I wouldn't be able to articulate myself as well
Cmon guys does this sound like a normie email or no
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>be me
>at my apartment
>gf is with me
>doing uni work that night
>am very tired but I have to finish this
>almost falling asleep
>tell gf to slap me hard so I'm not tired anymore
>she does
>am wide awake
>get very hard erection
So that was the moment I realized I'm one of those type of men. I want my gf to hit me and talk abusively during sex. No BDSM stuff. I just want her to be abusive and the sex is supposed to be a "both are struggling to be dom" kinda way. Hard to explain, but I want her to be more aggressive.
My question is, should I even tell her about those fantasies? I feel like it could ruin our dynamic as a couple and how she sees me as a man if I tell her I borderline would like to be sub during sex.
Or am I overthinking this and whatever happens in the bedroom would not change our relationship outside of sex?
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>>18579092
It really depends on your gf and what type of personality she has. If she's naturally submissive, she could get turned off and uncomfortable, if you try to initiate something like that in bedroom. If she has some dominant traits, she might be intrigued and willing to try. You know her best.
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>>18579092
What a great example of how child abuse effects adults.
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>>18579169
I'd love to get hard when (lightly) beaten. It's the second woman I meet that wants to do it to me but I don't like it that much.
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Feeling horny all the time
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Hi /adv/, 20yo male here
So long story short I decided to slow down on masturbation, not because of some NoFap bullshit, simply because it had become a bad habit (an addiction, actually) and I always feel awful because of it. I try to masturbate only once or twice a week now and I already feel way better
The problem is, now that I don't masturbate all the time, I realized that I'm really horny. Always. Since I used to masturbate a lot I never really felt that horny but now it has become pretty overwhelming. I constantly think about sex, I pop boners all the time, and I feel like my dick has replaced my brain and that I'm some kind of crazy beast ready to jump any female I see. I thought this would give me some extra energy that would help me hook up with women, and sure the energy it gives me is nice, but the thing is now I get attracted to girls I wouldn't be attracted to if I weren't horny (which scares me because I don't wanna find myself in a situation where I hook up with a girl and then realize it was a mistake because I'm not into her at all and I was just horny at the moment), and also I'm still pretty bad at flirting and all so I can't really hook up to "release" it. I just feel like being horny makes me really stupid.
Is there any way to calm down the constant horniness ? I don't wanna go back to masturbating more frequently because I'll fall back into addiction and will feel awful and tired again.
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bump pls
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I got your back young senpai, the trick to get over the initial 20-25 beast mode horny is to quickly and skillfully develop crippling depression
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>>18579360
>develop crippling depression
well i overcame that recently so i'd rather not
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I want to start dating, but I don't know how
There's no one I want to ask out, and no one has asked me out
I've never had a boyfriend (I'm a girl) and I'm 26
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Sorta in OPs boat.. except I have just scored a first date with someone and I got her to agree to dinner. Should I just stick to dinner or should I take her to an activity first? or after? I was thinking mini golf to lighten the mood then dinner and maybe grab ice cream at a local joint. or is that to much?
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>>18579084
did u really just hijack this cunt's thread without even addressing it
although to be fair OP you should be more specific with the advice you're asking for or else you won't get replies
fuckin dumb cunts the both of ya
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Ugly? Or just been a homebody op?
I've always got the feeling that my gay parents wanted me to be gay as well, but I am not.
I'm straight - I don't want to disappoint them. What do I do?
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>>18579060
Have a threesome with them
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>>18579060
don't worry they know how it feels to disappoint your parents
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>>18579088
hahaha holy fuck
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Ex broke up with me. Week has passed. No text between us. We used to text a lot when we started. Will she eventually break and text me or will she move on?
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>>18579050
We can't see the future buddy. But I wouldn't get your hopes up. Time to start dealing with your emotions.
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>>18579050
It all depends on how long and how significant your relationship was. If it was like two months long, then I wouldn't expect anything and move on. If it was several years, she may text you eventually to see how you're doing. But again, it all depends on the situation and how you broke up. Also, we can't see the future like >>18579057 said, so its best to just face the feeling and move forward regardless.
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Why did she leave you?
Hey, /adv/.
My girlfriend has been acting like a massive bitch for the past few weeks. We've been dating for a year now, and all of a sudden she started giving me shit about how late I stay with my buddies at night and even at what time I was on Facebook Messenger. I was out with my buddies until 2 AM last night, woke up a couple of hours ago, get a call from this idiot "demanding answers" on how late I got home last night.
Mind you, I'm a 21 year old and she's a year younger. We don't live together. I don't have to be held accountable by a 20 year old girl. I tried to explain this to her over the phone, but she just got loud and starting spouting non sense so I hung up and turned off my phone.
Thinking about breaking up with this bich. What does /adv/ think?
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I think you are your own. And you should not be controlled by anyone. If she keeps this up you should find someone that wants you to be happy,and not someone that wants a leash on your neck. Simple. I have been where you are,and i broke up,simply because it's my life and i refuse to be controlled and held accountable for shit i'm in my liberty of doing.
"squishpotatosalad" is my instagram(without the quotation marks). Feel free to dm me if you need more advice.
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>>18579038
You are young and she is young and don't understand why you are in a relationship if you are going to act single yet bitch when she calls you out. The only reason you have her around is the steady pussy so be a man and drop her so you can continue chasing other pussy.
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>>18579038
You call her a bitch because she's insecure and doesn't trust you. You should break up because you obviously don't like her very much.
Anyone have a gf that when you do something wrong or mildly annoying they just stop talking/texting you for a day or so until you ask them to spill the beans, they say they were angry with what you said, you say sorry and then everything's alright again?
Fuck this Micky mouse shit, especially when you love the person. It's so fucking dumb
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Yes, and I fucking love me some good alone time.
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I used to do this with my first girl and then after it made her cry I realized my cool off time was destroying her emotionally so I stopped
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Just tell her to be honest with you immediately or else it's over, no one deserves that.
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My dream was to visit Japan (few years ago I even learned basics of language), but now I want to learn korean and live there... Not even sure what I'll do in life, what kind of job I will have or anything else. I'm european, so being so much attracted to studying asian languages makes me look weird to people surrounding me. Usually they laugh at me for taking interest in asian stuff. Like a year ago I was fit, smart, sexy girl, but after a break up with boyfriend I ended up gaining 12kg in last 6 months + became anti-social (though I was always quite shy), no selfesteem left. One day excersising like crazy, other day starving myself, and another just staying in bed crying or just sleeping. I'm over that break up, what makes me depressed is that I came to this state - awkward, depressed and fat.
How you guys motivate yourself every day? I know I should get membership at the gym, but it' too expensive (I'm very poor, but thankfully have enough to use internet), I try to meet friends (though after meeting them I feel even worse). Self motivation books not working on me. I give up extremaly fast. I want some real advices from people who went through something similar. How you went through your everyday life? What gave you strenght not to give up?
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>>18578936
ditch that dream and get a job
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Since you like the asian culture I think I might be of help, we do have something in common. But before starting let's talk about motivation.
Motivation can be truly hard to get if you don't have the required mental fortitude but it's important to take it with a grain of salt because it's only a state of the mind. It means that by anytime, at any moment, you can change the way it shapes your thinking.
I've been going through a few countries: Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand, etc... I've had my share of fun and hardships. You see, in these countries, the gap between the rich and the poor can be quite a shock. I've faced in situation where children were naked but were playing with a soccer ball been all dirty.... and they were still having fun. Or others trying to fish little fishes with their broken nets but they were still smiling as they played along.
What could brighten their faces so much in their misfortune I though. Quite simple really: They simply enjoyed life, the bad aspects of it were overthrown because they didn't pay much attention to it.
TL.DR: Going around the world and learning different cultures is never a late thing to do. Motivation is only a state of the mind, take it step by step and make your mind stronger because if the poor can do it, why couldn't you?
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>>18578944
not having a dream is same as not masturbating, you can last few weeks, but you'll end up doing it sooner or later
>>18578950
how did you decided to travel? Like a typical tourist, or just by yourself, small backpack and a bit of money in pocket?
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So I've been unemployed for a year. I had a friend die and some other shit happen and fell into some really bad depression. I feel like I'm out of it now though.
I have a wife and daughter to take care of and I'm ready to jump into pretty much any job.
I know this is a long shot, but does anyone here have any leads on jobs where the year of unemployment might not really affect my chances of getting hired?
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>>18578911
>reddit spacing
>not enough info given, experience, education, state etc
>philip defuckass
>screenshot taken from a phone
jesus dude fuck off
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>>18578911
Work in grocery
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>>18578994
>reddit spacing
what meme is this?
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How do I keep thinga from getting to me? 2017-08-01 01:17:15 Post No.18578897
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>Just found out that my ex of 8 years went back with his ex who he swore to me he didnt love anymore and wouldn't get back with her.
>I probably have arrhythmia and thyroid problems as well as a swollen colon meaning I go to the bathroom every time I feel emotionally anxious.
>2.8k in debt that doesn't seem to go down
How do I relax? How do I keep this from gaining control over me? How do I keep mental peace?
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Btw no I don't have friends. Lost them in the breakup. Tried to talk to the only person who's left but he just seems apathetic about everything. Can't find something that really keeps my mind busy. It always drifts to feeling disgust for my ex for lying to me all these years.
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If he's your ex why are you worried? I had to cut off contact from my ex because I felt myself going back to old mindsets but there's no hope to rekindle anything. It was bringing back the misery and stress of marriage without any of the good things. Now she's saying how she's broke and has no friends, etc but really she's where she's at because of her shit choices and I'm no longer responsible for any of that.
It sounds nice to have a relationship with an ex but as I've found you need to keep your distance. He's got his own reasons for doing what he's doing and you no longer have the right to dictate what reasonable behavior on his part is.
Get out and meet new people to hang with and drink more instant coffee and eat hot pockets to save money. After the divorce I had 20k in debt and a year and a half later I just have 1.3k permadebt on my cc. I'm way better off and she's still where she was when we divorced
Tl;dr don't worry about him and get your shit together
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Worrying solves nothing. It's a complete waste of time and energy.
Action is what solves problems.
Forget the problems that are out of your power to solve. For the ones that aren't, take actions, set goals, be proactive in trying to solve them.
Sitting around wringing your hands and taking anxiety shits does nothing to help you.
DO something that gets you closer to solving the problem that is the root cause of your anxiety.
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I overthink very often. How not to do that? for example, there are some ridiculing photos about me, how not to think about them?
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Find other things to do with your time that hold more value. Raises your self-esteem too which you probably don't have a lot of right now. Do like brazillian jiu jitsu.
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Overthinking isn't something bad, it's only the way you view the negative aspect of it that is bad. Turn that around with a touch of humor, think about how the funny things could brighten the day of someone.
Overthinking and overlooking at things can be a god send in many professions, you simply need to make sure to not abuse it in a negative manner.
TL.DR: Over analyzing isn't bad, just look at the brighter side of the fence.
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>>18578906
What can I do alone? (nothing like jiu jitsu, taekwondo, I want to do something without coach)
>>18578917
but overthinking about bad things that are not pleasure for me isn't good I guess