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Hello, /adv/, I only come here when shit gets fucky.
I am in a weird dilemma at the moment. I have currently been dating this girl for around 3 years, she's as good as it gets as what a 'good girlfriend' would be considered as, i'd even say she's wife material. She's very adaptable and has adopted all my passions but isn't truly passionate about them. She says she loves me and I say it back, but the spark is barely there, it was barely there to begin with but yet I stay with her because I have yet to run into anyone better...
But, back in highschool I briefly dated a girl for half a year that I happened to massively click with and I felt an incredible spark with her. We ended up breaking up due to a childish fight and both our parents were very strict and wouldn't let either of us out of the house for the most part, so we broke up on bad terms and didn't talk until 4 years later. We have all the same passions and she's definitely true to them. Not to mention she's way fucking hotter now than she was back then. One of our last conversations was that she would consider trying again years later.
Well, I just went to get dinner with her. She has a new boyfriend that she says is "alright", she's literally perfect as far as my checklist goes, and I could feel a massive boost of motivation that I haven't felt in years by just being in her presence. As of right now, I don't mind that she has a boyfriend or waiting until they crash and burn. We live a few hours apart as I have moved away for college. I just don't know what to do when the time comes and I am out of college and could possibly hit her up again... I feel bad about the girl I am with because she is genuinely a good girlfriend and I could possibly see us getting married. But my old ex and I never got far and I want to finish what I started with her, we were going to sleep together the coming weekend but then we broke up. I miss our spark and today at dinner it was as if we were still a couple...
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Grass is greener syndrome.
Also does your girlfriend know that you had dinner with your ex?
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OP here:
I have always had her passively in the back of my mind throughout the years and I purposely waited these long years for her to mature and for my self to also mature and get my shit in general. I have the patience to wait, but tonight was a real shell shocker due to the overwhelming emotions of not love, but pure motivation. Its as if I have been off the plug for years and finally got my groove back, and the second I dropped her back off at home I have returned to my simple self.
I have dated plenty of girls but this specific one really moves me for some reason.
What would you do?
If you have any advice or would like to know more I can provide.
I am truly torn because I know I could easily have a stable future with the girl I have now and she is truly head over heels for 'us'. I really just wish I could take a break and try being with my ex again for a year or two so I could really compare and contrast, but things are clearly not all that easy... If I ended up staying with my current girlfriend, I know for a fact that for the rest of my life I would continue to wonder "What if I did try rekindling with the ex, what might have come from it"
Thank you to those who have read through my emotional rambling.
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OP here:
Yes, I agree completely. And I can't get over it even years after.
Yeah, she knew. She didn't like it initially, but quickly let me do what I wanted. She trusts me and I wouldn't betray her.
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It's my birthday today, I'm 26.
I have 300 dollars.
Decide what I blow it on to have the most fun possible.
No hookers
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Oz of chronic and six bottles of Hennessy
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>>18581183
put it in your savings account you degenerate.
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>>18581183
When I was 25, I bought meat for my friends
Some beef short ribs
Marinated all day and BBQ'd to perfection
With 48 bottles of beer
Because they my niggers. And deserve all my gratitude
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I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now, and I think I'm gay. I'm romantically very interested in her, but not sexually.
For guys, I only have sexual feelings, not emotional feelings.. at least not yet.
Should I just settle for emotions over sex?
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>>18581156
You are responsible for your own happiness. Do what you want.
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>>18581156
Kill yourself.
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>>18581156
lmao that sounds fucking awful. I don't have any advice but sorry dude, seriously that's so fucked.
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What's the best way to fool girls into sex? 2017-08-02 04:23:31 Post No.18581138
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What's the best way to fool girls into sex?
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Is lying to them about loving them good?
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If you can't get sex without deception, you can't get sex with deception.
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>>18581138
Find easier/ willing girls.
Tindr and all that bs exists for a reason.
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>>18581145
tindr has become full of bots, trolls, catfishers, etc.
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I am trying to get my boyfriend to be friends with my friends' boyfriends, but he doesn't get along with them at all. I love my boyfriend, he isn't perfect, hes got major emotional issues (he gets angry easily, and seems to only be able to express anger, her bottles everything up... he isn't dangerous at all though). Hes incredibly sweet to me, but he comes off as abrasive to my friends and their boyfriends though, theres been multiple incidences where my boyfriend has rubbed someone the wrong way, or said things that were very insensitive.
I need advice on how to get through to him, to be more socially well adjusted... not only to be friends with our social group, but our relationship too, he doesn't express himself properly, and its making me question whether we should stay together.
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>>18581134
If he doesn't get along, he doesn't get along. It sucks, but what can you do?
The biggest problem women have regarding relationships is that they think they can "fix" men. You can't, especially if they aren't interested in being fixed (and if they were interested, they would be seeking counseling/therapy).
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>>18581148
I just need him to not be as abrasive, but he hates talking about why he acts the way he does, in fact he hates talking about his feelings... again, he isn't dangerous, he doesn't fight people, hes all bark, no bite for the most part and I know how to calm him down... I just think my friends' boyfriends would be a good influence on him, they're all in touch with their feelings, very progressive guys.
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remember when your parents tried to get you to be friends with their friend's kids
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Got this weird rash, any idea what it is? Doesnt hurt or itch
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Go to the doctor. Looks like cancer.
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>>18581198
Just kidding it looks like eczema or some weird skin condition. Seriously got to the doctor though
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>>18581117
I get that on my nuts if I don't shower after going in the pool. lasts like two weeks and is itchy as fuck.
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So my gf just got in contact with her old bestfriend, some dude who she told me treated her like total shit and crushed on her, and she just told me the 'good' news today and she's said, "I've dreamed of this moment for a good year" "This seems to fake to be real" "I wanna cry from joy". Just hearing this is making me feel like shit because I've haven't been able to make her this happy and he treats her like shit, imagine if he treats her nice I might be out of a gf (we've been dating for 6 months btw). So tell me, how should I deal with this? I'm happy and all that she's happy but I can't help but feel jealous and sorry for myself. Thanks in advance.
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>>18581102
rip my man
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>>18581102
Masturbate to hot bitches, or better yet, fuck some.
Realize that she was using you as a placeholder cock until something better came along. Laugh about how she's going to get used up and abused for the next 10 years and you don't have to put up with her shit anymore.
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>>18581102
>Should i worry?
No
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>got invited to a normie party
>there'll be drinking
I don't wanna be the stick in the mud that doesn't drink. I've never gotten drunk before (only buzzed/tipsy with close friends). I'm honestly not sure what kind of drunk I am and I'm concerned about doing cringy shit.
Any advice? am 21
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>>18581091
Drink slowly, avoid drinking games, drink lots of water (try to balance every alcoholic drink with a glass of water), avoid hard liquor
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>>18581097
What defines hard liquor? Is it a certain percentage?
What percentage is considered "a lot?"
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>>18581106
Anything other than beer or wine.
Greater than 15%
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So I was out drinking at a bar about 3 minutes down the road from my house. Figured it would be fine but of course I got pulled over and arrested when I refused to do the breathalyzer. They tried to forcibly take blood and got violent with me (note that I wasn't trying to fight them or anything, just wouldn't make a fist for the IV). They jabbed me with IV needles all up and down my arms as well as on my hands and smashed my face into concrete a few times. Had to be taken to the hospital to get my head checked out afterward. I think they finally did get enough blood but I'm not sure. Anybody had a DUI before or have any insight into how I should handle it? I'm probably gonna at least have to spend up to 10 days in jail. Already lawyered up. Hoping maybe he can at least get my sentence down some. This is my first offense and I have no criminal record.
And yes I know I'm an idiot for getting myself in this situation to begin with. Wut do /adv/?
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get off /adv/ and consult a lawyer. Some will even see you for free.
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>>18581076
should have complied. they would have done the test and you would have spent a night in holding and bailed yourself out the next morning. You've already done everything you can just let your lawyer handle the rest.
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>>18581076
It varies by state. Call a lawyer if you're over 18.
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HOW DO I STOP ANXIETY AND CALM THE FUCK DOWN.
I've been hospitalized twice for this and other shit. I've learned some techniques but honestly none of them work for that constant low-key 24/7 hairtrigger-away-rom-panic feeling.
I'm tired all the time from being wired all the time. I feel like I'm going insane. Doc doesn't want me on long term benzos (and honestly I don't want to either), plus he's out of town for the next month or so.
Also before you say "ayyy lmao weed" I've smoked on and off and marijuana does nothing for or against my anxiety.
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>>18581037
so then don't go on long term anxiety medicine, take it short term and only in a dose that is required to help you.
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>>18581067
My problem is a long term one though and my doctor is out of town.
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>>18581078
how is it long term? If you can become comfortable with whatever is causing the anxiety then you wont need them long term. anxiety isn't caused by nothing.
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How to deal with cat-calling ? 2017-08-02 03:53:13 Post No.18581020
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How to deal with cat-calling ?
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I'm fucking fed up with it.
Whenever I go outside, men start yelling obscene things at me and even try to touch me. it makes me feel scared, insecure and just like shit in general. It's not like I dress "like a slut" or anything, I'm trying to wear the most unsexy clothes ever and yet it won't stop. (I dress like an italian village old man like pic related).
Wat do ? I know not all men act like that but sometimes I feel doubtful. Going outside makes me feel anxious.
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suck a dicker 2
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>>18581020
Only negroes and spics cat call
Move to white suburbia and be free from it
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try wearing a niqab
Do you believe someone can love two people? Somone Ive been in love with says hes loved me while he was with his gf. Him and I have known eachother way before he met his gf. Apparently he liked me then and still does. But he shows that his girl means everything to him and im just there wondering why he toyed with my feelings. Are most men like this?
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He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He doesn't love you, he never will.
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>>18581008
pretty much this. And im speaking with experience in his position. Not exact but close enough
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>>18580998
Yes. Yes they can.
If you have two children, do you only love one of them? If you have a mom and dad, do you only love one of them? two sets of grandparents, do you only love one set? If you have two cats or two dogs, do you only love one?
Have you dated someone before? Have you had sex with someone before?
If we could only love one person, or one thing, we wouldn't be connecting with multiple people on multiple levels.
Is it morally wrong? Maybe. Does it mean they don't love you? Not necessarily.
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Sister is 10. What's the best way of inquiring if she's yet begun menstruating? Seriously just curious, noting deviant, but I feel there's no way of asking without coming off otherwise.
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>>18580996
>Seriously just curious, noting deviant
Bullshit.
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Just straight up ask her casually.
>Hey sis, you get your period yet?
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>>18580996
What other possible reason would you need to know this
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Thinking about breaking it off with my girlfriend. Been dating for a few months and she still isn't over her ex, it's been an emotional roller coaster that I can't keep doing. She has a kid whom I have grown attached to, and her inconsistency with how she feels about me is fucking killing me, I have never felt so suicidal in my life until I got thrown into this fucking mess. She claims she loves me and that we are a family but it's hard to believe with her not being over her ex. They fucked right before we started dating and then continued to talk to him up until about a month ago as soon as he got himself another girlfriend. When I am with her everything usually seems alright, she has a lot of mental issues, has full on panic attacks which I don't mind and I am there for her whenever it happens, but I feel like I am getting shafted pretty hard, she tells me "Oh I'm trying to get over him, but I am still in love with him" Why would she tell me she loves me then? Am I straight being cucked? Thinking of packing up my bags and relocating to western US and try to make something with music as it's one of the only things I am passionate and have a talent with.
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>>18580994
And she just called me saying she was over at his house, man fuck this shit.
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>>18581041
Holy fuck dude. Sorry to hear. How long have you been with her?
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>>18580994
Are you me?
My exgf was in the same boat:
>kid with her ex
>ex always in the way
>knew before going in that since kid, her ex would ofc be around but it befane pretty clear that it was more then for the kids sake
>she enjoyed spending time with him much too much
>after about 8months of frustration that it wasn't changing I told her: I am uncomfortable with how close you are with your ex and I can't have that anymore: I'm trying to figure out how serious we are but it's impossible when you are so inconsistent about what role he should have.
At first she said "I'm sorry, I will try to do ot better, I don't want to loose you blablabla"
>Paraphrased
But nothing really changed so I broke IP with her.
>barely a month later she was back together with this guy
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I like a girl. I'm not exactly sure how to tell her. I don't think she likes me like that back, but I need to get this shit off my chest. How do I tell her? I won't be able to see her in person for a while.
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>>18580987
>i wont be able to see her in person for a while
why?
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>>18581086
I just graduated and she'll be a senior. I'm moving to college soon and she's somewhere in Washington DC on a family trip.
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>>18581095
so by 'for awhile' you mean potentially forever? id move on.