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>>18565661

You hate the work you do, specifically, or you hate work in general? If first, try to change where you work or what field you work in. If latter, suck it up and find something meaningful, fulfilling and worthwhile to do in your free time that compensates for the work shit and gives you something to look forward to during a work day.

>>18565686

I hate work in general. What I do is a decent compromise. However, I'm too stressed and tired from it to want to do anything after work, like a hobby or something. I can't imagine forcing another task on myself and having even less time to relax, eat, and sleep.

"Suck it up" isn't particularly good advice by the way.

It's not easy to enter the working society. School is pretty much there to get you used to it, that you have to do something every day and perform reasonably well. For normal people like me it's hard to comprehend that some people would do anything just to avoid work. I'm not a psychologist, I just have to deal with them sometimes. We had a guy who always tried to slip away and lock himself in the toilet (standing on it so we don't find him). And another one who was always hiding behind the trash containers. The little shits.

I usually attribute this to a fear of failure. A lack of self confidence and lack of skill. They are so afraid to be found out they would rather try to not work at all, try to avoid delivering anything because then they would be found out. They just "want to be safe" above all else.

You'll have to git gud. If you didn't get used to doing stuff in school, you have to start now. For normal people work is motivated by pride in success, not by fear of failure. They want to perform well, earn more, get promoted, etc.
Try to be the best in the team. Or pick someone who's OK and try to be better than them.

If you're already "that guy", then git gud and get another job when done. Because all your colleagues already know, and this impression will probably never change. Another big factor of liking your workplace is liking the people you work with.

Don't post something you question even slightly , or just delete all social media

>>18565629
Wtf increasing it? Just get sum decent sleep and a healthy meal. You still gonna get some srs health issues with all that caffeine

>>18565626
Either find real gf, fap like 4 times per day (instead of coffe on coffe break go to bathroom) or chemical castration.

Choose wisely!

It's ok, we all are.

You lack an ambition

> first get interview
> deposit to him if he owns the place of not and he is renting to you while he is renting from some else then you need a legal contract like I agree to pay x amount per month for this room in this apt with these utilities included
> then just pay him monthly
>

>>18565600
how do I know for sure it's his house?

when it comes to payments, how do I record/register my payments if he is the owner?
like if he says he'd rather have me pay cash or wire the money?

>>18565646
Get a receipt from him each time you pay him I reccomend checks , you can see who owns the property by going to your local assessment office ,

Nah men, probably happened just because you were on edge from your nightmare.

>>18565580
This, you're overreacting to the situation you drama queen

>>18565575
Shouldn't she go to the doctor?

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>Found out ex is now with a new partner
I was almost over my ex and I found this stuff too. In fact, I looked up on FB that she actually had a kid with some other guy who looks kinda nerdy like me. I didn't even care about her but I stumbled upon her pictures with the new guy and kid and it made me sperg out very bad, I was yelling at family members, stormed outside, crying and called suicide hotline multiple times, but they didn't respond. Later, I calmed the fuck down and didn't care anymore.

I don't know why this shit happens. Some psychological phenomenon, I guess?

>>18565592
Strange phenomenon

>>18565530
A fuck tonne if people have internet addiction. Its the perfect storm for human reward system stimulation.

You can know anything in 5 minutes. You can get affirmation on facebook or instagram, or here when you write out your opinions and some anon agrees with you and affirms your world view.

Videos, stimulants, comedy, interests... Its the perfect storm man.

>advice

I dont know how to break it. If i did i would. Ill tell you ive moved a lot in my life, and at this one place i lived internet was so fucking expensive i cancelled it and didnt have it.


It was the best time of my adult life. Seriously.

But im too reliant on it now. I need access to email for work and i do have some real skills and hobbies for which the internet is my primary teacher.

Its tough mang.

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>>18565530
I actually have thought and read about internet addiction. I remember it was such a big fucking deal in the early 00's computer magazine, but by now, people don't even know you can be addicted to internet, because they all are.

It sounds bad but keep being internet-addicted. For real. Some guy on Ted talk said that when he did an internet detox for a year, he got even more lonely than he was before, because social media/internet is where you get notifications on events in the real world, and where you can network with others and build relationships and all that jazz. There is real power in how much internet can affect real world.

Only thing I can advise to you is that using internet without pracitical application is loser neckbeard tier - use internet in the most practical way possible. When you read knowledge, read something that could bring you cash in the future. Learn finance, business or some shit, hell, learn how to play online poker. Use internet to meet people, build profiles on different sites. Use internet for diet/exercise advice. Use internet on tips on how to save money. Use internet to buy shit cheaper than in stores.

Internet is such a great fucking thing, you only notice the upsides when you spend away from internet. You cannot appreciate which is always there, OP.

>t. spent first 7 years of my childhood without computer or internet then got a shitty Win 95 computer, XP/dial-up internet in 2003, actual internet in 2006 and so on

>>18565530

At this point being addicted to the internet is like being addicted to oxygen. It's pretty hard to go without it.

razor blade?

>>18565488
Ya

Stop doing this kind of shit. People only interact with you for pity exactly because of this.
Clean up your act and get out of the basement more often to have normal social interactions.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, you've brought this on yourself

>>18565468
Plan this OP. Get your finances in order, organize your possessions, find you a place to go, set a deadline for your flight and keep your mouth shut until everything is ready. This is going to be messy and no way around it and if you can when he is not home move most of your shit to your new place and when he gets home have your talk and do not spend another night with him. You tell him its over and why and grab your purse and leave.

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>>18565468
You cannot have a breakup without much harm. Your decision will probably ruin his life for many years. Only way you can truly minimize the damage is when you somehow manage to arrange your life in such a manner that you are moving somewhere far away because reasons and you can't have a long distance or take him with you.

I am a guy, and I have been both dumped and been dumping myself (not really dumped the next gf, just acted like a dick on purpose b/c I wasn't into her and she broke up with me), and I can tell you that it's going to be very bad news for him.

Only words I can say is that you have to be decisive and assure him with confidence that it's not his fault (since it seems it really isn't).

Don't date people from 4chan, especially if you're a femanon. People here are most part outcasts, mentally ill or NEETs.

I've never been in a relationship before but people have always told me that two mentally ill people don't work very well together. Hell, I have a hard time even hanging out with my depressed friend.

It may not be the time for you to commit to something like this. I don't know how you can boost your self esteem, but you should definitely work on yourself first before you try a relationship.

It's rather simple, OP
If your bf/gf is not making you feel better about yourself, then that person is not for you.
Get out of there before you get more damage going your way. Also it seems like the guy is really pushing for threesomes because he knows he can manipulate you for your insecurities

>>18565430
They obviously are more your ex's friends not yours. Break ups tell us where loyalties lay so why not find real friends, friends that have your back and support you and not fair-weather acquaintances.

Ask them if they would like to hang out without your ex sometime because it's too painful for you to see them. Real friends should be understanding.

Blood in his urine, forgot to mention.

>>18565428

Don't worry. You'll kys anyway after your parents die so you'll be with them in the end. :^)

I just want to tell you there is nothing bad about crying, no matter where and who you are. I found my dad dead after he comitted suicide like three years ago and I think about him everyday. I cry a lot too. It's never bad. Now you should do everything to make your dad feel special. He is fine and you too should be.

How u send pm

>>18565369
>>18565372
You don't send PMs here. Best case you can hope for is someone giving you a throw away email address and then giving you a phone number (or, more likely, skype/telegram/wickr/wire account).

But you're anonymous here, nobody knows who you are. Just ask for advice.

HOw do u chat on phone anonymous. Usa. Free