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I'm curious to the "why". It's hard to find faithful people nowdays.

Anyways, if I were you, I'd start by becoming (physically) more distant. Less to none of kissing, hugging, sex, cuddling etc etc. These are major red flags and hints. He'll get something is up and that's your chance to say how you feel without dropping bombs since he'll probably be prepared.

>>18469100
We've been together since college.

But the last few years thry just haven't done anything. She doesn't work, she doens't look for work, she kind of lives off me.

I don't hate them but they seem devoid of motivation and I'm a bit tired of having toncsrry everything. I don't seem to be able to motivate them to stop drinking or make a serious effort to look for work more than a day at a time.

I think they need to be on their own to figure their shit out and I just need space to be on my own and find someone I'm more compatible with.

Our relationship isn't physical but were emotionally attached and financially intertwined and I just think I'm done.

There's about 6 years of backstory I'm not going into and some other specifics but no cheating or anything like that.

I still care about them but I don't think us being together is a good thing for either of us anymore but I don't know how to talk to them about it.

I can try your suggestions :/

>>18469162
there's a point where you just have to rip the band aid off. If you think your life would be better off without her and you want to break up, just do it. She can't exactly argue with what you're saying. Just be honest ya goof

>>18468320

congrats, you can finally start living for your self.

if you want the dogs, try to fight for them, but just know them living with her wont be the end of the world. as for the car, if she wants to buy it off of you for the remaining payments, or even more, tell her shes welcome to. and if not, sell it to someone else. its in your name and shes not goign to divorce court you considering you 1) werent married and 2) no ones going to side iwth the tranny lets be real.

people sell cars all the time its no big deal. you might have to take a small hit if oyu can't sell it high enough but still you will survive.

good luck

>>18468338
I'll be honest, I really REALLY want my dogs. They're pretty needy and my ex tends to ignore or forget to take care of them (ie; feed and walk them) I was going to take them to my dads house on Saturday so when my ex comes around they won't really be in the way.

And like I said, she's playing the victim. She's saying she's suicidal and when she did dump me she told me it was because, as she put it, little things that get under her skin. I don't always check the mail right away was the main thing she said, but I've gotten really good at doing the chores like cleaning the kitchen and living room.

I feel SO used. My friends say she would not be the person she is today if it weren't for me, she wouldn't have been so brave to come out or get a good job and I feel betrayed.
I had even lost some friends these last few months because of the way she treats me. I was in denial, cut those friends off to focus on our relationship and communicating with her only to find out she's been seeking advice for someone who took their kid and left their dying husband all in one day with no explanation to him.

So that's my bad, I sent those friends I cut off a text saying sorry, you were right. I'm gonna try and work through this without that friend cause I realize the shitty thing I did and they told me that if I really need a place to stay I can kick it with them.

In the mean time, I haven't worked out the details yet but I plan to quit my job and move back in with my mom to heal for a month or two, then finally start to pursue jobs/careers that I'm actually interested in.

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You can't love somebody if you don't love yourself and your suicidal ex doesn't meet that criteria. Fight until the end to keep your dogs, she'll mistreat them. Your ex sounds like a huge waste of your time, move on and find someone new. I feel happy for you, some people never get out of these one-way relationships. You'll find someone better.

Fap before you meet her. It'll make you last longer.
Also, try acid and fapping while on acid before doing it with her. Be prepared, and know what you're getting into.

>>18468238
are you experienced with doing acid?
if you arent dont try to have sex on acid.

hell, even if you ARE don't try to have sex on acid. its goofy as heck.
try it with molly instead, although you run the risk of not being able to get hard/ejaculate.

>>18469151
I've fapped once with acid and my dick felt weird. It looked a lot bigger and it felt like I was having mini orgasms constantly.
>>18469176
How is sex on acid goofy? Some people say it's the best thing ever and others say its a weird experience.

Make a list of shit on the cheapest POSSIBLE budget - beanbags, chairs, tables, tvs, games, fidget spinners, a hackysack or two, maybe a ping pong table and foosball table, art/posters/crap to decorate, maybe one of those rugs from the 90's with the roads on them that you play toy cars on - get the total price and show him and ask for that much more money. Have a plan, like a layout made up already, so he knows you arnt just buying a ton of shit but actually have a complete vision on how itll end up. Also make a list of the next-to-nothing you will buy with his tiny shitty budget, and make a plan for that too, so he can see how fucking gay it is compared to your plan.

Stress that you are sourcing everything for cheap as possible, maybe have primary and secondary stuff like what is more important and what could be cut out. Be ready to be shot down because your boss sounds retarded and wants to be all trendy and cool without actually doing anything to achieve that. Its safe to assume you wont have a sick games room if thats the budget he gave you.

>>18468206
Can I come?

>>18468220
Honestly thats what I was thinking.
They already have seats and tables, soo that's out the picture, its more of a sweaty-nerd-card-game-den/ kids-play-xbax place so alot of sitting down and talking.

Thinking of getting non-expansive card games (munchkin, fluxx ect) , like the ones that you don't buy boosters for. Another thing I was going to get would be cheap figures and button badges that the kids could buy at the front. Maybe stickers too...

Thanks for the input btw it is appreciated and noted.

>>18468136
Acne scars and stretch marks? There's no way he will care about small shit like that

>>18468218
His past girlfriends are really pretty. What if I'm a downgrade?

>>18468390
>What if I'm a downgrade?
So what if you are? Is that really so bad? It's clear he wants YOU now, not them, embrace that. If a dude wants to have sex you can bet your ass that they won't give a rats ass about stuff like stretch marks or acne scars.

The ID man up the road

>>18468118
I just went to the dmv and got my license that's an ID right.

bumping

>mfw US drinking age is not 18 like all other fucking civilized countries

>>18468113
JSA, tax credits you only get when you work a minimum of 16 hours each week, zero hour contracts, unpaid work for your measly benefits etc.

Why don't they just force all us working class plebs into slavery?

Just keep applying for jobs OP. And take any additional courses that will benefit you.

>>18468122
As far as I understand JSA et al have all been wrapped up into this new Universal Credit thing, so it's different from the tax credits thing they offer.

Before you finish the application they make it sound as if it's awfully close to basic income but then you quickly realize that it's no different from plain old JSA and all the nastiness that comes with it.

All for fucking 80 quid a week.

Ye it's pretty dire really.

>>18468129
Sometime you get lucky(!) and you get an advisor who doesn't give 2 shits and signs whatever they need to sign each week.

I haven't been on jsa for years so I don't what's changed.

A self-bump is not a crime, right?

I can't understand your feel, anon, I usually try to make things work for the other person as much as I can, so it devastates me when close friendships end.

I suppose people must have felt like you towards me.

>>18467922
This makes me look like a scum, I understand, and I've brought a lot of pain to the good people like you, but there is nothing I can do about it. That's why I'm asking for advice. Is seeing psychiatrist a viable option? I've never visited one in my life.

Girls,
Can you share a video where foreplay is exactly like you want it?

>>18467623
I mean girls dont really watch porn to get off. Its usually gay porn if its porn or vibrators or erotica. Theres not much female orientated porn out there if you've noticed. Just be gentle and ask what she likes

>>18467632
What if we are both virgins.

>>18467605
Tell her how you feel

>>18467606
Wrong. Do not do this unless you just want a pointless conversation about feelings that will solidify your girlfriend thinking you're boring and unattractive.

Now, if she's not thst important to you go ahead and no contact then move on and learn how to stay interesting and attractive in a relationship/never have a committed relationship again and just fuck girls.

Otherwise you'll need to make immediate and probably drastic changes and try to win her back.

>>18467605

>Should I talk to her and be friends with her and also try to get her back along the way?

No.

>Should I just move on?

Yes.

>>18467595
Tell her

You're letting her down already by not telling her anything and not even trying. She probably thinks you don't like her and think she's disgusting since you refuse to tell her anything or go further. I'm a girl and i was with a guy who had your problem but he told me what was up. He reassured me that i was sexy. he also kept trying even if it didnt work. I appreciated that and i stayed with him for a while. (We broke up for distance reasons)

try to relax using music, scents, whatever might realx you and take the edge off
also wear double condom, you'll feel less stimulated and so you will last longer

>>18467526
Post that she is a cheating whore on her Social Media. She no longer has any respect for you. And you shouldn't respect her.

Oh fuck, this is so pathetic. But hey, at least you attempted something.
Instead of you I would have just look at them, she yells "ITS NOT WHAT YOU THINK", I turn around blankly, and ghost her out of my life. Better than trying to hit the guy.

Don't talk to her anymore, ghost her. How do you get over it? You probably won't right now, but over time you will.
This is a failure with no redemption. Live with it.
Unless you willing to try another swing at the guy? Which isn't recommended.

>>18467538
Thanks for your response anon but I don't want to hurt her. . . regardless of the reason

>>18467521
you fucking faggot.
Just ask them if they want massages, and while you do put some attention ln their feet. Then just nonchalantly say that you think she has great legs and feet. If she asks about it, just say you like hers, even if usually you dont mind, but you dont know why.
From then on she will probably tease you.
If she doesnt, some tiem later on just repeat yourself, that you like them and be playful with them.

Or touch them during sex.

I had 4 gfs so far, and they all enjoyed me liking their feet.
My current gf is just a champ at teasing. She can always find a way to use her feet to tease me somehow.
Just few days ago she put them close to my mouth as I was cumming inside her.

Get some balls and act faggot.

If you truly have little trouble pulling girls as you claim, then I don't see what could hurt in trying to be up front. Try and casually mentioning while you and you girl are in the mood and see what happens. If she is put off then you two would never have been a good match anyways right? If you really have trouble with this fetish of yours, maybe try to get over it but I would even know how you would start a process like that.
In short, be casually up-front about it at the right time and hope for the best.

>>18467553
>>18467558

Will take these into consideration. thnx

Google

I have already checked google and nothong seems to work.

>>18467434
> Install-Module PSWindowsUpdate
> Get-WindowsUpdate
> Install-WindowsUpdate
See if this still gets the error

>>18467397
>Would it be wrong to kill myself
I think so, not because there's anything inherently wrong with ending your life, but because it would dearly hurt your family and friends. That's selfish and cruel.

as for the "can I be saved" comment, I'm not sure what advice to give you without some clarification. Do you mean saved in a religious sense? It's true that christian theology holds suicide as a grave sin, but personally I think if there is a god he's probably got way more important shit to worry about than if you decided to take your own life when you weren't given a choice if you even wanted it in the first place.

Or did you mean it in a "can I turn my life around" sense? If that's what you meant then definitely. What is your degree in, and what are some long term goals you had but have put on the back burner? Let's figure out how to get you back on track moving towards them.

>>18467397

you can be saved.

>BUT HOW1?

simply. diet. exercise. applying for other jobs

>but that sounds like a lot of work, easier said than done!

do it anyway

>>18467409
Degree is in graphic design, but I'm way to depressed to actually make anything anymore.