>>8788492 You know when this dress first came out I never thought too much of it. Then the first re-release happen and I started to see cute coords of it, I considered getting it. Then the next re-release happened and the next one, and the MTO... Now I'm just sick of seeing it. AP please put this dress out to pasture.
So question. Has anyone ever been charged by AP Japan, but gotten no confirmation email? I was trying to get chocolate rosette a few weeks ago, it sent a pending charge to my credit card, but I got no confirmation email and it doesn't show up in my history. I assumed it would go away, but now it's changed to a finalized transaction. There is still no dress in my history. I plan to email about it, but I'm still curious if this has happened to anyone before.
You can write in English, if you don't speak Japanese don't send them autotranslate splooge.
Last time an anon reported this happening to them (they had an email confirmation but the dress didn't show up in their history) it turned out to be some sort of error but AP had run out of dresses so they just sent a refund. Hope you get your dress, anon.
>>8788865 I didn't know that, sounds kinda self fulfilling in a way too, as in if that's the general feeling, it's likely that potential customers wouldn't be willing to purchase items from the previous year and so they lose profits, creating 'bad business karma' for the new season.
No, you have it right. It's mostly buying unwanted leftovers for cheap, or lower quality stuff (for cheap).
In the case of blind bags, it really depends on the brand and how much you like them. Since you know you're only getting leftovers, you can pretty much stalk the brand, guess what might be in the LPs, and then decide if the risk is worth it. With IW, the really plain dresses that tend to end up in them are too low key for meetups, but I like to wear them casually as everyday wear. With Baby, I just genuinely like some of their less popular stuff. So it's worthwhile for me to take the risk as I'm likely to get something I like from these two brands.
In contrast, I have never and would never get a Bodyline blind LP, I shop from them but I only like 1/4 of their stuff, so chances are any LP I get contains more things I dislike than things I like.
Never buy a blind bag from a brand you don't completely love, or whose clothes you have to pick and choose.
Main pieces aside, some girls target lucky bags for the blouses, they'd generally sell off all the main pieces and then be left with a lot of brand blouses without having paid a lot for them.
>>8788805 I feel like it's just fun and as you said it's pretty much quantity over quality, but I wear dresses/casual jfashion on the daily so it becomes a better bang for my buck if I just get LPs. I'm not too picky either, and it's usually pretty easy to make your money back.
>>8788492 I really have to admit I'm getting tired of HL. It was my number one dream dress ever since it's release and I had sleepless nights over the rerelease. But now that I got my wine dress at the rerelease and got the wine zippy dress in the first MTO, I don't look forward to it anymore. So many people have it and posted about it, I just don't get excited about it anymore.
>>8789191 I think it's more that it's over-seen/over-used. It's like a meme- it might be funny or cool the first few times, but eventually it begins to look/sound old and boring, maybe even annoying. The same thing happened with Krad Lanrete's jellyfish dress and even Nameless Poem (though maybe to a lesser extent). HL has been re-released like what 4 times this year? Including 2 MTOs. I'm not necessarily sick of HL, but I am pretty fed up with seeing it re-released over and over, especially when it means special sets and whatnot of other releases aren't being made.
>>8789214 >>8789209 >>8789199 Re-released, a special set release (that pink one) two MTOs (first might have closed early, but that's only because the production limit was hit), and now another special set, so a bare minimum of 4 releases, two of which were essentially unlimited. Meanwhile I'm over here thinking about how I'd kill for an MTO of Melty Cream Donuts or Chocolate Rosette in Brown, Ivory, Green, Navy, and Red.
What is it with normies being weirded out by wood colored RH soles? I have 2 black pairs. One with a black "wood" sole and one with the normal sole. The brown ones get people to stop and ask me all sorts of questions while the black ones just pass for regular platforms. I remember a couple of years ago when pic related was everywhere and no one would bat an eye.
>>8789199 Not gonna lie, that's why I sold my Nameless Poem. I really loved the dress and it took me forever to get it, but then it really blew up and I felt that I couldn't do anything interesting with it anymore and that I was just sick of seeing it everywhere.
>>8789542 I don't know if you've noticed or not, but Lolita is a fashion-based hobby. Fashion trends come and go, and one of the reasons they go is because they become overdone. I love lolita and have a lot of pieces that no one would give a shit about, but that doesn't mean I'm all in for attention or on the contrary don't care about attention at all. Why does no one care about Sugary Carnival anymore? It's overdone and ran it's course; when you get sick of something, you move on to something new, and that's not always about attention, but is a natural progression in fashion.
>>8789191 It has nothing to do with it being popular. It's just that I was exposed to it so much, that seeing the print has become nothing special anymore. It will always stay in my dream dress list and I'll probably recover after some time, but right now I'm not very excited about it.
Melty Cream Donut and Honey Cake re-releases would be pretty sweet but maybe I'm just super hopeful (kinda bored of the option of either paying $400 for the real deal or like $100 for a replica) let me live AP
You'll want to research the methods of dye-ing carefully. afaik one version of poly dyes doesn't actually give you black, just charcoal grey. I don't know if idye fares better than dyemore. Most of them also need to be boiled or something, and since this is a corset with presumably boning and stuff inside, you'll want to make sure you have a pot (and a kitchen) big enough to fit it.
Dyed items also tend to be a little delicate, make sure you wash it by itself after you're done, or at least wash it with a colour catcher, as some people have reported the stronger colours bleed. When you sell it on, make sure you mention this as well.
Other than that, there's no big reason to not do it. I mean, I wouldn't do this as my first dyeing project, and I wouldn't buy a new and expensive corset to do it on, but I'd totally do it myself if I did want a black-tailed corset and couldn't find one.
>>8789320 I think it's just that with the wooden sole it draws the eye, and people see that little chunk missing from the back. When they're solid coloured soles, their eyes just glance over the entire thing.
How come no gulls work at AP SF or any of the other lolita branches in the US? You see some complaints here and there about them, but why has no one here tried to work there as a shop girl and make it better?
>>8790249 First of all, isn't the big AP store in San Fran? I can't even begin to imagine how hard it is to get a job in that city, let alone trying to work at a niche fashion retailer. Plus with the lolita crowd, it's probably really competitive to get a job there. And that's just talking about their lower tier jobs. If you wanted to get anything above management there'd need to be an opening first, and then you'd have to have 2+ years of management experience somewhere else in retail. You'd also need to be able to write a very convincing cover letter and probably have to provide pictures of yourself in lolita because they don't want to just hire anybody who's worked in retail. They need you to be able to help customers and in this case, that requires some extensive knowledge of the fashion.
Does anyone know more about the AP stores in the US? I really only know of the one in SF. And everything I know about SF is that it's expensive as fuck to live there and most people living there have fucking tech jobs.
>>8790353 The only US Angelic Pretty branch is the SF one. Fairytale Boutique used to carry AP as a consignment store but it closed down a few months back. Baby has branches in San Francisco and New York City, but I'm sure they face the same problems you mentioned.
>>8790407 Ah thanks. I know that AP does pop up shops sometimes in NY as well, but that's all I know and I have no idea what the hiring process is for those, and I kind of think they'd just take their employees who are willing to travel to work.
>>8790353 I highly doubt it's that hard to work at AP SF, but the main reason is probably like >>8790252 mentioned. The pay is probably not high at all, and adding onto all the crap and drama, I can't imagine it being a sustainable place to work at. I also talked to someone who worked at both AP and Baby and she prefers working at Baby.
>>8790249 you fuckers with your AP store are fucking lucky meanwhile i'm on the complete opposite side of the country with no chance in hell of working for AP even if it's a dream job i can't buy my AP burando at retail on release date either without having to go through a SS and extra fees/shipping when i'd kill to just be able to walk into the shop during a release even if there's raffles or whatever and pick and choose what i want fuck y'all >yeah i'm salty af >mfw my state is so low on the totem pole that the chances of ever getting an AP here are slim to fucking none
AP USA is run by Lynda, who is the craziest gun-toting libertarian lolita this side of Texas. If you think you can change anything she doesn't want changed just by working there, you're wrong. Lynda loves to be in control and brag about the store, but does not love paying her employees anything more than starvation wage or running a less shitty operation. If you have a problem with AP USA, it's because you're a dumbass and a shitty customer and Lynda has probably publicly said so on her facebook.
The biggest myth in the lolita world is that any brand store is run with the level of professionalism and profit margin people seem to think. Even the Japanese headquarters of AP and BTSSB are piecemeal operations that pay minimum wage to most employees.
Source: Have worked at a brand store and dealt with HQ. No, I have no idea when your reservation will be here. No, they haven't responded to my email. No, I don't know what's wrong with the website. No, these clothes are not for children and they are not meant to be kinky.
>>8790701 ok but what if we're the types who can handle bitchiness good (and dumb customers) in favor of helping out customers even slightly better than she can because that job still sounds miles better than fucking retail imo >cute store >interacting with otherwise decent fellow lolita enthusiasts >mostly away from normie overload >mfw i just want any money at all working at a cute store (if we ever fucking get one here) >if we did get one in this state, less chances of dealing with Lynda physically anyway
>>8790743 I think the brands don't have any clue how many costumers they have in each european country. I'm not sure about the Btssb store in Paris but as for the AP store, it was not run by AP itself, instead some french people run the store and asked AP for their stock. Only the Pop-up store is now run by AP itself.
But for AP it just makes more sense to make a store in Paris because they already have bigger japanese community there and the Btssb store is definitely another important pull factor.
>>8790724 It's no different than normal retail. Normal people walk into the store all the time wanting to know what it's all about, making weird prejudgments, sometimes even making accusations that you're selling pedo things. You get moms coming in with their overweight daughters getting mad at you because even the one full shirring dress you have doesn't fit her dear pumpkin. You get people bitching about the prices ALL THE TIME. Everyone wants a discount and many of them try to be pushy about it. And don't even get me started on the sissies who like to talk about their kink in public. Why in the world do you think this would be unlike any other retail job just because you're selling lolita?
>>8790754 This. I actually wonder if, on an average day, those shopkeepers even see that many lolitas. You have to account for the general population. Retail is shit. Where I used to work I'd have a ton of people come in every day and flat out say "I hate [all the shit you sell], I'd never wear this." and still insist on being there a good 20 minutes. You know what we mostly sold? Fucking tights. Just tights and socks. Not even outlandish ones. Shouldn't be controversial.
>>8790952 An-Tai-Na is the Chinese shop that do a lot of knock-offs and some really weird original stuff. Knock-offs are their thing though, especially considering that their NAME is a knock-off of An-Ten-Na, which is the shoe brand that disappeared.
Usually I just feel happy when a dress is out of my house and money is in my account.
But then I'm a hoarder with a large wardrobe and a daily lolita. So I never sell anything if I still have feelings for it, and there's some parts of my wardrobe that really are just clothes, not pets that need attention. The dresses aren't going to die if nobody wears them, and I assume any owner willing to shell out the money for them probably loves them more than I do since I'm selling them anyway, so if they prefer to put them in a glass case and display them rather than wear them, I don't have issues with that.
I guess it would feel different if I had to start selling dresses due to needing the money or space, though.
>>8790961 From what I understand otome is not really a "thing" in Japan, the style is usually not described as Otome kei, most girls either say they're wearing lolita or they're just wearing ETC/JM/brand
>>8790061 I would also like to know this, actually. Something I really wanted sold out in the color I was going to get, so I'm wondering if Sheglit usually restocks colorways of popular items? It has the HOT tag on it..
>>8790989 An-Ten-Na and an-tai-na are two different brands. The latter at least started as a knock off brand of the former, iirc. >>8790994
>>8790938 >>8790984 Maybe they're efamous or a local lolita anon knows has a large wardrobe? I sold an old but still nice brand dress that I had discounted with the idea that it would be nice to pass on to a newb, to a somewhat wellknown lolita before and once I found out who it was, I was sort of annoyed because I know it's such a lowkey piece it won't get much love. Of course money is money, but when you're selling off items you have memories with you want to see them go somewhere they'll be equally treasured.
>>8790724 working at an AP shot IS retail. It IS minimum wage. Just because you HAVE to wear lolita everyday doesn't make it any better. In fact, it might end up making it a lot shittier. Being on my feet all day in lolita for mimimum wage doesn't sound like my idea of a cool job.
>>8790754 >tfw I once went into a lolita store with my mother when I was like 15 and she said almost everything you mentioned >loudly >repeatedly >to the girl at the register, the owner, other customers and then again to a random person in the mall outside god I'm so sorry you guys
>>8791473 Depends on the size of your packages. If they're huge it will probably cost you an arm and a leg and Tenso might refuse to do it, I've consolidated multiple small AP orders before and it was great for me because it put my mind at ease about lots of little things in the mail that might've gotten lost if separated.
>>8791491 Plus you have to use that minimum wage to keep an up to date and trendy lolita wardrobe. Maybe employees get a bit of a discount but it's still way more expensive than your average minimum wage retail uniform. I don't really see anyone supporting themselves on a lolita retail job for long, to be honest.
Hey /cgl/ riddle me this. if I find the way someone dresses an important part of her sex appeal, am I just a feticist? I mean, its not that the true reason behind it is that I want to actually wear them myself?
If it makes you feel better, I actually buy a lot of lowkey pieces that never get photographed. I'm just really lazy to do selfies, so usually photos of myself in lolita as from meetups, taken by other people. The low-key pieces will normally end up as daily lolita wear, which means I'm wearing it when there's no one around to photograph me, but it's actually worn more often than the flashier pieces, and I may actually love some of them more because they're so low key and comfortable.
Which goes back to other anon asking how they knew a dress wouldn't get worn. Just because you don't see photos of that person in the dress doesn't mean it isn't being worn. Especially if it's a low-key piece, maybe it's me but I cannot understand why someone would hand over money for a dress that doesn't give them bragging rights, don't love and won't wear. Surely the buyer at least likes the dress and had some intention to wear it at some point.
>>8791620 I don't know, seeing as how there as so many admittant hoarders even just on this board that buy tons of stuff and never wear it. But that's also beside the point of hoping someone just starting out would be able to make the most of the deal.
>>8790724 This was the logic I used when I was 19 and thought working at GameStop would be cool. >I get to be around video games all day! >dumb customers aren't a big deal, I can handle them >I just want to work in a hobby I love >three years in retail service and I fantasized daily about a semi losing control of its brakes and crashing through the front of the store, killing me instantly >two years since I quit and I haven't bought a single new game >can't even talk about video game reviews and such because it still makes my stomach turn Don't do it anon. There's no faster way to kill the fun in something than finding a job based around it.
>>8791694 I don't know? I've never worked there and don't want to because like I said, customer service is a no for me now. Technically I'm still in it, but I don't deal with customers EVER.
I wish the girl that said she worked there would answer more questions about her experience cause I'm curious as to what it was like. Most customer service jobs are the same in that you have to put up with a lot of bullshit daily, but selling lolita has to be a bit different. Especially all the nightmare "THIS IS PEDO" customers.
Fuck, it's bad enough to work for a large grocery chain and people will come in and try to tell you conspiracy theories about your company. Like fuck off man, I just want to pay my rent..
>>8791694 > will a business give away product to an employee
my friend if walmart won't give khakis and teeshirts to their employees that probably cost $5 at cost, what kind of drugs would AP or Baby have to be on to "donate" brand to an employee?
When Baby NYC reopened, they were only hiring maybe 2 or 4 staff, and the competition among local lolitas was very stiff. There's no reason why they would hire a min wage part time grunt (because it's also hilarious if you think any of the staff gets enough hours to be full time/benefits) who can't supply their own Lolita to wear when there are dozens of applicants who are more or less qualified.
>>8791816 You don't get first pick as a shop staff you're dead last. And the discount sucks. In Japan the stores have a small amount of main pieces that shop staff can borrow from. But wardrobe is mostly paid for by staff, who in turn live at home and are supported by their upper middle class parents who are still loaded from the bubble era. Working at a "charisma" store is never for the money- in fact they likely spend more than they earn on keeping up their appearance. There is a possibility of moving up in the company or gaining a following for being staff, but there's no guarantee.
>>8791908 Did it actually open yet? All the articles I can find about it are from when the news broke, I see no kind of reports about the store opening or pictures of it. I guess I could go try to look for it at the supposed location tomorrow or something...
Some girl came on this board during one of the wardrobe posts and sort of argued with everyone that she could not conceive why anyone would ever need a wardrobe of more than 50 pieces, her logic was that you'd only be able to wear lolita on weekends, so 50 pieces meant a dress was worn only once a year. iirc she didn't like the idea of daily lolitas either, she called everyone with big wardrobes a hoarder.
That's when even the serious collectors who only collect rare and sought-after dresses started referring to themselves as hoarders on this board. The word doesn't really have the same connotations when girls use it here rather than elsewhere, it's still very rare to find actual hoarders who impulse buy lolita dresses every single week and then shove their regret purchases under the bed instead of selling them on. That's why I said I have trouble believing a hoarder/collector would randomly buy a low-key dress that isn't sought after if they didn't actually like it.
I see your point about selling something you hoped would be a newbie wardrobe's star dress suddenly being reduced to background wardrobe filler, though.
>>8792159 >>8792273 This, basically. Take it from someone currently job hunting with an illustration background who never got a proper education in specs and tech packs when I went to school- you want the technical design background. Anyone can learn the illustration part on their own. I really regret the degree I went for but I wasn't as interested in garment construction...
>>8792141 I think you're talking about my post (>>8787294) and the way you twist my wording angers me a little. I didn't argue and I was wondering about non-lifestylers owning 50+ 'special occasion' dresses.
I've got a kinda weird question. If you see someone on LSE providing a buyer wrong information about a dress, is it rude to butt in? This girl selling the pink Honey Cake jsk told an interested girl that with 106cm bust and 84cm waist it would be a tight fit. I own the ivory jsk and I know that even 95cm bust and 80 cm waist the dress won't realky zip up. So she's either lying to sell or the dress is stretched out so much that it should be noted as a flaw.
>>8791473 I consolidated a package with tenso, they used a massively oversized box which added over 1kg to shipping and charged a consolidation fee too. It would most likely have been cheaper if i hadnt consolidated.
>>8791908 >http://fashionweekdaily.com/vivienne-westwood-to-open-new-york-flagship-store/ Well, time to head to New York. The only thing missing there is AP for me. Did we ever get any details on what happened with that?
No, it wasn't you. It was many threads ago, might be a few months. I don't know if the older threads are still in the archive and can't be arsed to go look for them.
Your post is pretty okay, but the other girl. She didn't say anything as nice as "that seems like a lot of dresses". She just outright came in and said anyone with a big wardrobe must have mental issues and were all hoarders that needed help. As for the 50+, specifically, she said that one year only has 52 weeks, so since lolitas only wear them on weekends then someone with a larger wardrobe means some of the dresses never get worn at all. Of course some girls pointed out the problems with her assumptions -- daily lolitas wear them more than once a week, cons would mean wearing two or more dresses that weekend, and some girls are into the collecting aspect, much like stamp collectors collect stamps. She wasn't having none of that and continued replying to say anyone with a big wardrobe was a hoarder and needed help letting go. So then after that I noticed a number of girls openly admitting to being hoarders just because they have bigger wardrobes.
But no, it wasn't you. Sorry if I didn't clarify. In fact I completely skipped over how similar your post was as yours is much more polite and open-minded.
I'm 5'10 and in the UK. I have never bought anything before because I assumed nothing would fit or it would have to be imported for ridiculous prices, although I haven't really searched in detail. Just asking is there anywhere in the UK that might sell things that fit?
>>8792691 Most people can't buy domestically unless they're buying secondhand. Also, there are plenty of tall lolitas (there's a tall girl thread here >>8766238), and your other measurements (shoulders, bust, waist, etc.) are just as important as height. Please do more research before buying things- fyeahlolita is a decent place to start and has not only style guides but also resources for buying both new and used.
>>8792759 That sounds like the dumbest thing, honestly. Secrets should be on a totally anonymous site, like they are on LJ. There's no reason to move it, either, because it's not like you even need an LJ account to view or submit secrets.
>>8792762 Secrets have been at a pretty steady rate for the last year or so actually. Some gull posted a graph showing the fluctuation over the last few years, and it's been lower but not that low. Sometimes there's a spike bc of drama, but I don't think 20ish during a time when many people are very busy with family and other things and when there's been no real drama within the community is that bad/low. Last year was higher, but looking at them, a lot of it had to deal with e-famous lolitas' drama and like Mr. Yan being a weirdo. If you want more secrets, try posting more yourself. I, for one, am not going to complain about a lack of shitty, basic drama.
>>8792615 Ah alright, don't mind me then. I just felt a little baffled as I didn't see how my post could insult anyone. Quite frankly, I understand having a 50+ from a collector's perpective. It's just that a wardrobe with 10-15 pieces is considered small by most, but if you ask any of my relatives they would say it's more than enough for dresses I wear so rarely, like owning 15 prom dresses. I just wondered about these different opinions on the same amount of dresses.
>>8792819 Relatives dont matter because they see it as weird shit that you dont wear. They dont see it as how it is.
For most lolitas the hobby is a bit collecting and a bit not. You are going to accumulate dresses as you stay in the hobby, even if you arent wearing it daily. Owning only 10 pieces while being in the fashion for years is small because it makes sense to collect more over time. If you bought that many in a matter of months it is pretty big in comparison. If you went to a con that was 3 days, only owning 15 main pieces mean you would wear 1/5 of your wardrobe at that con, which is how it is seen as small by most people who wear it occasionally. It is easy to feel like you have nothing when you can cycle through them easily and you do feel the pressure to do something new every time you are public about your outfits.
no one replied in dumb questions - does anyone have a recommendation on which melikestea petti to get? I'd like decent poof but I'm mostly into classic/military so there's a kinda thin line there. pic related is my first dress, I'd like a slight bit more than the pic shows but I realise it won't fit much more petti. is her hybrid monster petti meant to be convertible into both bell and A-line? if not, which one of hers could do that best with the pinning trick?
>>8792762 >>8792766 >>8792770 IMO there's not really a need for secrets anymore because everything comes out and is discussed so much faster on here and other anonboards. Secrets just end up being rehashes of stuff that's been beaten to death here, silly joke images that aren't really secrets, and random vendettas. I agree, it's time to let it die.
>>8792862 >and you do feel the pressure to do something new every time you are public about your outfits. I think this is most of the reason for how we view wardrobe size, honestly.
Is there some trick to using sniper bid on y!j? Should you wait to bid on things until an hour before it ends? I like to open up bidding and it works really well on LM but I've lost about 20 dresses to snipers on y!j and starting to get discouraged. One went for under 30$ and I about cried, I wanted it so bad I would've paid twice that
Does anyone use eff you el el chan /cgl/ here? (Please no bully, I know it's a horrible place which is why I don't go there currently). I am sick of how slow it is here and I constantly contribute new posts and threads. I checked out the farm and they really aren't that active on lolita threads
>>8793025 I'm an impatient shit so while I do visit the other egl/cgl from time to time, I only post like once or twice and then get fed up with how slow they are and head back here. My impression of lolita threads on the farm was that they end up getting shitposted in by non-lolitas too often for my liking.
>>8793025 wow, you can't even type the name with full anymore? This place is a dictatorship. I've never been into farm, but sometimes I go to pt to read up on wenus and stuff. If you want a giggle, go to the lolita forums on gaia.
>>8792921 Part of it is that we differentiate between "main pieces" and other stuff. We count dresses and skirts but not blouses, jackets, vests, accessories, etc as a sign of how big it is. Yet you need all that for outfits so what may be 20 items is only 5 main pieces which is 'tiny' but you have variety for a few outfits or something to that effect.
>>8793019 Then you should place a higher initial bid. Some auctions auto-extend by 5min if someone bids in the last 5min. If you want to be able to place bids last minute, use a service that lets you do so
Lor tweeting about her sex toys and then re-posting to tumblr is embarassing when she knows most of her followers are little kiddies how long is her breakup trauma going to end? she needs to calm the fuck down
>>8793116 I don't know what was posted, but, honestly, it's not her job to care about whether someone should or should not see the content on her blog. If there are kids, their parents should be monitoring them, lol
>>8793019 I dunno either, the same thing has happened to me. All I can say is whatever you want your max bid to be, make it a little higher than that and when the auction is ending always be there for when it ends. I think most auctions have automatic extension to stop people from snipe bidding the last 1 minute so people will usually try to do it a few minutes before which is why it's good to actually be online in case something happens. I like to use FJ because their bidding is real time for yj.
I was bidding on a dress once and I had it in the bag but then some bastard bid on it the last few minutes. A bit of a war started to happen until the other person realized I wasn't gonna stop, plus the auction had auto-bid. Probably helped that it was a cutsew dress and the person didn't want to pay too much for it. That was the first time I ever won an auction so yeah, that's my advice - bid a bit higher than you actually want and be online in order to get back in there and fight.
>>8793168 I really don't see how lol obviously you should set limits and cut yourself off at some point but every single auction I've lost, it was only by 100-500 yen and it was when I let the automatic bid run while I was away or asleep. If there's 5 minutes left and you're about to lose by just 500 yen it's certainly way better to actually be there to up your bid then to let yourself get fucked over with such a small amount.
>>8793231 seems like this has been going on for a long time, does she go to therapy at all? if she doesn't she really should...if she's still so broken by this months later I really think she needs some help. I don't mean that in a "lol what a loony" way at all, I mean that she should seriously just take the time to try and nurse her mental health back together if she's still falling apart like this.
Wardrobe posts are making me feel bad about all the random crap I buy... If I post my shitty, incoherent wardrobe, do you think people would be willing to help me figure out what i need? Should I post in a wardrobe thread here or on EGL, or is there a FB group where it would be relevant? Don't wanna post in my comm because a shitty wardrobe is a lot better than just one coord like most of them have
>>8792665 Yup. I haven't been able to get it loaded at all. My computer is down and i need my secret fix. Even if they are dumb. Its always been a part of my weekend ritual, secrets with a glass of wine to wind down from a shitty work week, so it's agrivating when i cant access it.
>>8793670 Incoherent as in nothing goes together at all, or incoherent as in you have a variety of items, colors and themes?
If it's just having a wide variety of themes, you're okay as long as you can put together coordinates for everything you own. If that's not the case, you may need to do some purging or focus on wardrobe building rather than just buying main pieces.
This is what I tend to ask myself when looking for new main pieces:
1) How high of a priority is this dress? Am I buying it because it's cheap and there, or is it something I really want? 2) If I bought this, what do I have that would coordinate with it? 3) Do I need to add new colors to my wardrobe in legwear, tops, shoes, and/or bags to go with this? 4) If so, would buying items of those colors or themes benefit the rest of my wardrobe? Can I wear them with other pieces?
When adding new colors to my wardrobe outside main pieces, I tend to line everything up and make a list of all colors I think I could use and tally what colors would go with each dress. The items with the most tallies get higher priority. Normally for me, it's blouse and legwear or blouse and shoes. If I have a bag that goes with it, great, but I'll try to add new bags when I can, especially if it can be worn with mulitple items.
>>8793253 IDK anon, I went through a pretty awful breakup at 22, and I still was struggling with some aspects of it at 29 and getting married (three relationships later). I had some therapy, but it was something I had to work through myself and took time before I was able to fully heal from it.
Still, it's a little awkward to talk about sex toys, especially on a lolita-themed blog with minors around that do look up to her. Personally, I don't care what anyone does or if they have a full blown BDSM chamber in their basement and a collection of 20 dragon dildos. But if I'm following you for lolita, I'm not following it for sex toy talk.
>>8793808 Sorry I meant not cohesive and couldn't think of the word. I have a mismash of styles, mostly cheap secondhand brand. I noticed that the wardrobe posts tend to have a lot of nice coords within them while I'm struggling to find stuff to match (trying to find RHS or tea parties that I like in my size is so hard, I don't have any nice shoes). I want to have a gorgeous oldschool sweet and Gothic wardrobe and instead I have a lot of classic and newer sweet. I need more blouses and haven't seen any I want lately, all my blouses are white. I am hoping that people will sell me stuff if they see my horrible wardrobe, I constantly post wtbs to no avail
>>8793831 I think a mismash of styles is fine. Even if it's cheap second-hand brand, if you really like it, I see no problem with it. My wardrobe contains everything between OTT sweet pastel rainbow vomit to mature classic items. Most of my wardrobe is 2nd hand, a lot of it was cheap. They key is to just make sure everything else is well fleshed out, and that may be where you need to invest your money.
Go to places like glitter tale and just commission a few blouses at once in colors you need or get some taobao ones. You can hunt down the ones you really want in the future, but at least you'll have that. Look for sock lots on mbok. Up your accessory game. Those are good methods to really building up your wardrobe.
>>8793831 You need to go looking for stuff rather than posting wtb's all the time, and accept that sometimes it does take months to track down the perfect blouse/shoes etc and sometimes you just have to commission. Have you tried Anna House? They're still pretty old school imo and their blouses used to be staples back in the day. You can get custom shoes from antaina as well. If you're on a budget, then you will have to compromise between getting what you want quickly, getting the right thing, and spending money
>>8793889 >>8793868 I was going to commission a couple blouses but everyone that replied to my posts said they looked cheap and I should buy brand blouses. But it's hard to find brand blouses used in odd colors. I scour Japanese secondhand sites for things, I'm not lazy. I just don't want to pay 50$ for a taobao blouse if people think it's ita
>>8793949 Brand blouses are fine and great if you can find what you're looking for. You have to be lucky to find that exact item. Sometimes it can be a hunt. Honestly it's just better to get something commissioned when it comes to blouses and grab brand ones along the way when they do pop up.
>>8793527 Yeah but when you actively pursue the roll as a 'lolita guru', it's natural that newbies and young people will follow you. I mean shit, Lor has the same sort of cult following as Peachie does, and Peachie has a shit tonne of younger fans. Imagine if she started posting sex toys on her blog? I mean yeah, it's her personal blog, but people would still question it.
>>8794063 Is it common for lolitas to use twitter? I hate their image function, I feel like it's pointless to use a fucking text based site that links to images... I'm often confused as to why so many japs are on it. Is it just easier to link to photos? why the fuck?
Is it taboo to wear another brand's dress when entering a store? I'm going to Japan in a few months and I know its better to wear lolita when visiting the stores than dressing in normalfag attire, but I don't want to get dirty looks for wearing Meta or AP in a Baby store or vice versa.
I have an IG account that is so far just my lolita and Otome coords. But recently I'm starting to get back into cosplay after a long hiatus and I'm a very progress pics type of person, keeps me focused. I'm having trouble deciding whether or not to create a side account for my cosplay stuff or not. I'm planning a sakizo cosplay, and I feel most lolita said wouldn't mind progress pics of that., but the other is a video game.
Would you get frustrated if a lolita account suddenly started posting cosplay progress pics? I mean I'm not going to stop posting lolita content, but I don't want people overlooking my account because it has cosplay in it. Thoughts?
TL;DR would you be annoyed if a lolita/Otome blog suddenly started posting cosplay/progress?
>>8792876 Hybrid is bell. Poof monster is a-line. In tulle and stiffer organza, petticoats aren't as easy to convert. I actually think a square dancing petticoat like the other anon suggested will work best if you want one that you can pin up.
>>8794022 I think it really depends on the blouse as well. I'm surprised everything you liked was seen as cheap, particularly since infanta generally does decent blouses - I haven't really looked at chess story or pumpkin cat as I haven't liked any of their releases. Bunny house can look pretty average though, apparently Glitter Tale is not too bad as long as you don't want any of the ita designs (that satin and lace monstrosity with ruffle sleeves is particularly bad, but I've seen the chiffon blouses in person and they looked alright)
>>8794086 >>8794291 thanks, but I was hoping to avoid malco modes because shipping from the US is always shit expensive and the ones MLT listed were a bit better. maybe I'll just suck it up and try to have a GO/just buy 2 pettis already (unless someone has an eurofag source for MM) extra question: voile vs organza, does it matter very much? I'm prob going for organza but I've just never heard of voile being used and I'm curious
>>8794258 I'd create a second account unless your account is personal to begin with and you post things besides lolita/otome frequently already. I'm personally not interested in cosplay and don't like following cosplay accounts, so I'd probably unfollow unless your craftsmanship is amazing or your costumes are super complex.
>>8794351 >>8794349 >>8794324 >>8794261 >>8794321 Thanks gulls, from your comments I think I will create a side account. Ill just cross link and post a few cosplay/progress shots on my main that suit the lolita/Otome aesthetic (eg sakizo)
>>8794258 I'm both a cosplayer and a lolita, but I'd unfollow. Cosplay really just isn't interesting to me to watch, even amongst my friends. I recommend you get a Facebook fanpage for cosplay and keep your instagram fashion related. That's generally where each pool of people groups around. I've never seen a lolita fanpage and I've personally never seen many cosplay instagrams that were really popular.
There's an item I want to bid on on Y!Japan, but I'm afraid they won't accept proxy bids. Where do they usually state if they do or don't? Their item description is huge and really specific, but it doesn't say in there that they wouldn't. Do they usually write it into the description or is there an auction info spot that has that info, sort of how you'd find out about shipping and questions?
>>8794745 Most of the time I see it in the item description. You might want to check the seller's 'introduction' space on their profile page as well, they may say it there. But I think sometimes they don't say it at all and will just deny the bid.
I have a question about Aus Post. I live in the US and recently recently bought a dress from a girl in Australia. According to the seller, it was shipped like a week ago. However, the tracking number isn't bringing up anything besides "International" and "No events currently found," and international tracking websites don't pull up anything either. Wouldn't it at least say that it had been processed and dispatched? I messaged the seller earlier today and am waiting on a reply, but is this cause to worry or is it normal for Australia Post?
>>8794801 All Aus post parcels now come with a super basic tracking number that only says if it's left and arrived. A real tracking number that we have to pay a lot extra for will update much more frequently with detailed info on each location. You should be able to tell, if it's got like AU at the end it's the good tracking, if it starts with RR or something it's the cheap one.
>>8794853 I guess I just feel like it would be weird for it to sit around at the post office for at least 2-3 days (even taking the holiday into consideration, there have been a few business days) with no updates. Then again, I really only know about USPS.
I have a package in the mail from Btssb, and the mailman didn't take it to my building's leasing office like he was supposed to, choosing to leave it at the post office instead. I wasn't even aware of this (long story) until today, and apparently yesterday was the last day for me to go claim it at the post office - they gave me three days, and I was away for those three days anyway. I'm going to try to call the post office, but if my package gets returned to Baby, how screwed am I? Will I be banned?
Completely truthful answer: I take apart Baby's bows that I dislike and resew the whole thing. Generally they come out looking nicer and less squished.
But assuming you can't sew. For stiffener, get spray starch (should be in the laundry isle along with the detergents). Spray a good deal onto the floppy bow (I'm not sure if the bow should be slightly wet first, but you definitely want a decent amount of spray starch on the bow, a light mist won't hold). Then, either use a steamer with a board, or a hair straightener.
Steamer with board: put the board behind the bow. Press the bow flat against the board with the steamer. Do only the outer edges of the bow, leave the middle alone. Mostly you want to get the "wings" of the bow to stand up like a butterfly, and then the bow won't look squished.
If you have an iron instead of a steamer, you can still lay the dress down somewhere flat, put a board behind the bow, then press on the bow with the iron.
Hair straightener: Grab the bow between the tongs and press. Again, only press the outsides of the bow.
Spray starch can be home made, but I haven't tested recipes. The stuff is intended for use in stiffening collars on men's workshirts, it doesn't have colour and it washes right out.
I'd suggest experimenting first on some dress that isn't your most favorite precious. Or maybe experiment on some scrap of fabric. Pay attention to the temperature so you don't burn the dress or melt the lace -- polyester, chiffon, tulle lace, all have lower melting temperatures, so be very careful with those. You may want to lay another clean fabric over the bow before pressing it so that the dress print doesn't come in contact with hot iron (however, if your iron is too cool, the pressing won't really "take").
>>8795360 Wrong. Most packages will be sent back within a week at most, and I've definitely had packages sent back after 4 or 5 days. >>8795317 Definitely call the post office, and if they give you any flack, say you want to talk to the manager/post-master. I can't advise you w/r/t Baby, but I hope your package is still there or able to be re-routed to you.
>>8795904 I'm sorry this isn't true. I used to work at the PO. They keep it a minimum of 10 days. Most at least 15 days and some up to 30. Just call and I'm sure it will be there. It does vary by post office and by state, but they do have a very lengthy amount of time they are legally required to hold international packages.
As for what to do if it does get sent back, email Baby ahead of the packages return. Say that you will pay any And all costs to have it shipped again and apologize for the inconvenience.
Have any anons ordered Museum of Fairy from Long Ears Sharp ears and received it or a working tracking number? I was told mine shipped a week ago but every time I check EMS the tracking number I was given doesn't work...
I'm looking at Gramm's items on the kincs webshop vs. the world.kincs webshop, and some of the prices are different. On the international site, some of the items are not discounted like they are in the Japamese webstore. Would it actually cost more, or have they not updated it yet? I was thinking of getting something, but it's literally half off on the Japanese website while full price on the international site.
>>8797188 yeah it's too bad - the purses she makes that are shaped are so cool but most of them come in odd colors that just wouldn't work too well with lolita. i remember when she came out with these cute cherry pie purses that were pretty perfect but by the time I found them they were all sold out.
This seems to be more common sense than actually lolita related.
If the blouse takes the outfit into tramp territory, or makes you look like a dressed up hooker, then it's definitely too low and distasteful, even if you weren't dressing in lolita.
If you're just talking about a wide, open neckline like pic related, nothing trampy looking, then it's all right, but you gotta make sure to balance the outfit. Usually an open neckline like this needs a choker or something around the neck or else it looks very bare.
Lolita doesn't have rules on blouse coverage, but it seems commonsense not to be showing your nipples (unless you're doing edgy ero lolita), and to choose a blouse that fits your style, so you wouldn't choose a low-cut blouse if you were aiming for a sweet, innocent look, same as you wouldn't choose a peter pan collar for a more mature style.
Could someone explain to me the "cuts" of lolita dresses? Just getting into purchasing them but unsure of how to judge/know what cuts mean. I know it has to do with the length but are there specific terms and stuff I should be aware of? It feels like a lot of people on cgl know the cuts just from a photo too which is impressive.
>>8797570 >jsk - no sleeves, needs a shirt under it >op - sleeves (>salopette - short skirt)
that's more or less all there is to it, unless you meant something else. sometimes if a release includes several jsks or ops they have separate names that are usually listed (HL had the zipper jsk and the.. other one, can't remember)
>>8797570 Not sure exactly what your after but; OP = Onepiece. It is a dress which always has sleves, whether they are long or short. JSK = Jumperskirt. This is a dress which only has straps
When lolitas talk about 'cuts' they are referring to either an OP or JSK which has multiple styles of the same print. For example using AP's Holy Lantern (pic related) OP on the left JSK on the right. But they are avaliable in different styles or 'cuts'. Top is called the 'High Waisted JSK' and the lower is known as the 'Zipper JSK'.
Depending on the series and the cuts the brands release, different cuts will be known as different names. Common examples include; Switching Babydoll Military Bustier Special Set
It's not much of a feat to know the difference between cuts. You will pick it up as you become more familiar with yhe prints around. Especially the more popular ones as they get posted up often. If you are unsure if a print you like has another cut, try searching Lolibrary for the print name, and it will show you all assosiated items.
>>8797606 Salopettes typically have drop (low) waists, a non-fitted bodice (compared to a JSK in any case) and room for a very small petticoat (if at all) in the skirt portion. Depending on the specific piece and its design it can be considered casual lolita or not lolita at all.
>>8797606 http://lolita-tips.tumblr.com/post/69199904000/may-i-ask-the-difference-between-an-opjsk-and for a more typical reference image (since the HL OP is a babydoll cut and has a non-existent waist)
>>8797570 When someone says "I prefer x (or y) cut," they're usually referring to what >>8797598 said. Sometimes a brand will release two or three different cuts of OPs or JSKs for a print series; these usually differ in things like skirt or bodice style, and the measurements can differ. For example, the "round" cut of Honey Cake (on right) is more popular than the "yoke" or "switching" version (on left). (Switching refers to the fact that a new or different material is introduced/used in the bib or "yoke" bit) This is in part because the round has a cleaner, more "mature" look, but also has a lot to do with the fact that the round cut has full back shirring and is thus more forgiving measurement-wise. If you were asking more along the lines of skirt shapes/dress lengths/etc. here's a decent link: http://www.lolitafashion.org/dress_styles.html It leaves out a few things, notably tea length, but it covers more than I have time to.
>>8797414 Different anon but what is considered "tramp territory" varies pretty wildly between lolita and other fashions as well as between the West vs Japan (and presumably other Asian countries). Many lolitas will probably bristle at the idea of having a neckline lower than ~2" below the collar bones but I regularly see non-lolita women with necklines so low the top of their bra cups are practically peeking out, both in casual- and fancy formalwear. Those women probably don't consider themselves to be dressed like tramps. The neckline in rococo fashion (which lolita is supposedly heavily inspired by) is also crazy low and would be completely unacceptable in lolita. You're right that there is a certain aspect of common sense re: not letting your nipples pop out but aside from that you can't really say that a lolita's standards of an acceptable neckline are identical to those of everyone else.
>>8797656 >rococo fashion (which lolita is supposedly heavily inspired by) It really depends on the sub-style and the specific dress; you can't say that lolita as a whole is "heavily inspired" by 18th century French fashion because it takes inspiration from too many different sources to be pigeonholed into that specific definition.
>>8797702 I'd definitely say the round is more popular. It consistently goes for more than the yoke and is many people's preferred cut. That said, I never meant that it was way more popular; HC as a print is popular enough that basically every cut is popular and sought after.
>>8797664 Yeah, thats why I said supposedly because it's always trotted out as lolita's #1 historical inspiration regardless of substyle. My point is though that "tramp territory" cleavage is totally different in lolita compared to (for instance) French rococo gowns even though there can be a lot of stylistic similarities between the two otherwise, so that the lolita standard of acceptable cleavage can be totally different from other fashions' standard of acceptable cleavage and it's more than just common sense like anon said.
Assuming they're planning to wear their outfit out and about, the neckline could be up to your "lolita standards" and still too low or too sheer for anon's culture/country, and then they may find themselves getting harassed for it. That's exactly why the tramp definition is loose. Most girls live in countries where bra tops showing is definitely tramp territory, not the other way around.
As for girls bitching about necklines being too low, I'll bet you most of these times the outfit suffers from coordination issues, not just one neckline. I tried to convey that part by saying they needed to choose a blouse that suits the style, for instance, a low cut blouse while the rest of their outfit is sweet old school lolita is going to look very wrong because old school sweet tends to look conservative and doesn't favour low-cut necklines.
On the other hand, if they were doing a more mature look with a corset dress and an intricate, large choker, then a low cut dress suits the image and shows off the choker. With a more opulent, borderline aristocrat look, it would even be acceptable to show off cleavage.
I don't know if any of the lolita styles lend themselves to showing off the top of bra cups aside from ero lolita, which is the real reason I'd avoid a blouse that low, even if I lived in an area that considered showing bra tops to be non-tramp territory.
Well, it seems commonsense to me that you'd consider what's acceptable in your part of the world before you walk out the door, and it seems equally common sense that you'd consider whether the style of lolita you're going for when considering whether the blouse is too low or not. Hope this explanation helps to clear things up.
As for comparing things to rococo, I made zero assumptions about anon's style. If that anon is into rococo, then the advice still stands, the cut of the blouse should suit the style that they're aiming for, neckline and all.
I ordered some stuff from fururun a couple of weeks back and paid on the 28th, but I haven't heard anything from them since. I assume it's just because of the holiday season, but should I send them an email or something?
>>8797414 >>8797899 >>8797889 I found a picture showing the approximate neckline of the blouse. It is sheer so I would wear a tank top underneath it and the tank top neckline is approximately the same as the blouse neckline. It has sleeves and such though. I hate choker necklaces but the blouse also has neck ties so it isn't completely plain.
Couldn't find feel general, but I need to express my frustration > Cooking fish > Drop large fillet on my home shirt > Well whatever, put it over the dirty clothes box so it will be tossed into the washing machine with the rest of it > In the morning I find unwashed shirt that smells strongly of fish among my lolita clothes hanging it the wardrobe > everything smells like fish > disgusting > turns out my mom decided that shirt was clean and decided to put it in my wardrobe because IT WAS LAYING AROUND HOW UNTIDY IT IS LEAVING YOUR CLOTHES OUT OF YOUR ROOM > Yeah, okay, but it was laying on laundry box and it had strong fish smell > IT WAS CLEAN ALREADY WHY WASH IT TWO TIMES I DON'T SENSE ANY FISH SMELL Fuck you, mom. Just putting everything without checking in closets just so it is out of your sight is not cleaning.
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