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The counselor also maintains that the parents should set firm yet reasonable rules for children to help prevent them from becoming hikikomori. For example, setting a firm age for moving out of the family home is good, but demanding that your child become a lawyer at an early age doesn’t help at all.
Around the middle of the questions things get a little heavier though.

Q: Sometimes we see murder cases in the news where a hikikomori kid kills their parents. Could our child also be dangerous?
A: If you ignore the child without doing anything and they become fully hikikomori, trying to remove them from that can be risky.

Q: Violent cases are not rare?
A: If the hikikomori behavior goes on for a long time, acts of violence smaller than that which you see on the news happens a lot. Murder cases and assault cases are not common but equally are not rare.

Q: Why does it happen?
A: Simply, if the parent ignores the problem, the child becomes stuck in their situation. Then, if the family suddenly tries to become involved, the situation can become explosive with anger and violence. Also the older the child gets the more volatile the situation can become.

The word “stuck” which the counselor uses here is translated from the Japanese word tsunda. The word has various meanings like dense, clogged, or checkmated. The counsellor’s use of this words has caused the most hurt feelings for its tone. To use a loose analogy in English, it’d be like saying the child is “screwed.”
Due to the response to this article, the author amended their column explaining their choice of word. The main purpose was to use a word that resonated more with the younger generation who experience hikikomori. While the parent’s generation feel the word is offensive, their children relate more to it.
The counselor also repeatedly points out that a hikikomori child who misses high school and/or college education has little to no chance of obtaining meaningful work in this day and age.

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Therefore someone in this situation – hikikomori or not – are truly stuck.

Q: What do you mean “stuck”?
A: Generally, if the parents leave the kid past 30 years of age, the possibility of getting a decent job is gone, so they are almost completely stuck. So, during their 20s what they do determines whether they get stuck or not.

Q: What if a child remains hikikomori into their 40s with nothing done?
A: Hopeless.

Q: What do you mean?
A: You just have to accept it. Their connection to society is completely shut down. It’s sad, but at this point some families’ true worth is revealed.

Q: Each family has their own circumstances, so is it right to compare families like that?
A: Maybe in principle, but in real life a good or bad families clearly exist. Phrases like “everyone is different” and “you can’t compare” are nice to hear, but they don’t help to solve real problems. If the family is too slow to act then they have the same indulgence as the child.

Q: What’s bad about being kind?
A: The point is that the parents misunderstand what true “kindness” is. In the case of hikikomori, so-called kindness just glosses over deeper problems. They may think they’re being kind, but it’s simply avoiding the problem. The family who can solve their problem is the family who can identify and fix it. The family with no ability or desire to solve problems, meanwhile, says abstract things like “everyone is different” and “kindness is important,” and tends to be avoiding their problems.

The writer and counselor(s) in this column are unnamed but have not edited or changed their opinion since receiving complaints. The have simply defended their remarks saying that it’s okay to let a child go through a reclusive phase if it happens, but it’s up to the family to pull them out of it before it becomes so severe that they can never become independent. If not then they are truly screwed.

Source: Carpe Fidem via Hamusoku (Japanese)

saw frog, didn't read

Who are you quoting?

>/vr/ exists
>/v/ still faster than /a/

/a/ wasn't cancerous enough

probably

>>1468550
probably not

1. No.
2. He already could.

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Ok.

The good old times.....

Kiss me

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>>1468213

Use the legacy captcha

Hilarious.

>>1468060
Even legacy captcha sucks, it's foreign street names and numbers. At least when it was actually REcaptcha it was all letters.

He's American.

>>1468039
One fatass frog is not representative of all frogs. The same can't be said for weebs though.

a

Hey wait a minute, this is pretty similar to your other joke!

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>>1468982
Koisheep is shorry

thread approved

3 of those are mine

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I marked the blatant shitpost threads for you, but if you like them then there's a chance you made some of them yourself.

Hopefully.

Yes we can, we won't though

Just learn to accept each new wave of cancer. It becomes easier over time.

>>1467766
He's too big of an online presence to be ignored. Perhaps you should consult /pol/ about it. They're great at going toe to toe with elephants of his stature.

le go to irc lol

report the threads and move on, retard

>seeing lewd stuff is very annoying
I only post SFW loli, though.

You are being terribly transparent in complaining about one type of momentary spam while completely ignoring the sustained spam from an outside group.
No.

>>1467773
it might be SFW but it's still very annoying anon
/qa/ is not a place for image dumping and spam

based polbro redpilling from his phone

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVQOLX1wDAc

nice redpill, I am going to redpill my whole family on /q/ now.

>ready_to_receive.jpg

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>captchas
loving every lel

>>1467555
If they're also fading out slowly google is fucking with you deliberately.

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>>1467541

It shouldn't be permitted to force grown adults to work 40hr days and tell them when to wake up, eat, shit, sleep, and do anything else either

Welcome to the real world anon. It's fucked.

examples?