ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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>>17956598
from other thread, didn't really get much of a response:
>>17953836

>>17956623
>Keep questions short for more answers.

When fapping at home
>boner for hours
When with a girl
>sometimes cum too soon, sometimes can't keep boner
This is getting worse as I get older (29 now).
What is this and wat do?

>>17956701
Too much fapping

How easy is it for you to get wet and how often does it happen?

Does a girl adjusting her clothes infront of you = she's attracted to you? I've notice a lot of coworkers doing this to me when talking to me recently (e.g. Fixing their leggings when talking to me etc)

>>17956623
If you are acting out your trust issues towards her to this extent, I don't think it's fair to try to get anything serious started with this woman. Seriously contemplate how you would feel if someone was hot and cold with you like that over having been burned in the past. Yeah that sucks for them and it's understandable, but chances are you wouldn't want to stick around to ride it out.

Everyone has bagage but what you describe sounds too serious or recent to incorporate in a healthy relationship to me.

>>17956701
It's mental. You're not even thirty yet. You just had some bad experiences (due to nerves, one too many drink, gripping yourself too hard during fapping) that have caused you to become anxious about it happening again... which is the most surefire way to lose your boner.

>>17956716
It's hard to tell how often it happens. Everything pussy is body temperature including the fluids from arousal, so while I recognize the signs that I'm a bit turned on it is hard to specifically feel whether you are actually wet, just starting to get wet etc.

But getting wet is not difficult for me. Sometimes I am a bit distracted and have to get myself there, then it's a matter of some extra fantasizing and focusing on wanting to get wet. Usually it happens naturally when I am otherwise in the mood. I am quite sure that at least a few times a day on average I get damp daydreaming about sexual things.

>>17956740
Not that easy to say. Fixing your leggings is such an unflattering thing to do that it strikes me more as something to do around someone you're hypercomfortable around, no tension. But in general fidgeting and adjusting appearance is an encouraging sign.

I would try to not get hung up over single signals and try to look for patterns instead. Like fixing her leggings in front of you, laughing at almost everything you say and asking your opinion on her new haircut.

>>17956740
No. I do it when I'm bored and feel relatively comfy around someone.

Girls and guys
I have a birthmark on my dick, is that a turn off?
I'm a virgin so I'd like to know what to expect from people's reactions.
I personally think it's kind of charming but is not like my input matters that much.

>>17956834
If it's raised, depends on how big it is and where. If flat, no, that's cute.

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Last day at job today. Cute girl I work with tells me she doesn't want this to be the last time she sees me and wants to get high with me next Tuesday. I told her I don't get High anymore but I would be down to chill. She gives me a weird look and doesn't understand. I tell her she didn't know me when I was a heavy user and I'm a lot more confident now. I tell her I'll hit her up and we say bye and part ways.

I make tons of sexual jokes and tease her a lot and she reciprocates (I.e. "How do you know I swallow?").

Is she into me? I wanna chill with her and was honestly surprised cause I've never had a cute girl approach me to chill before.

Common qestion to girls:
How do I escape the friendzone?

Girls, why are you asses so big? Would you want your ass to be even bigger? Why?

>>17956839
It's flat, good to know, thanks anon.

>>17956841
Sounds promising but no one here can guarantee it just from this description. Just go over and try to have a good time, see what happens.

>>17956843
Because big asses are now what big tits where some time ago. It's shown as what men find beautiful and hot in music videos, ads and what not.

>>17956843
Wider hips for birthing, fat storage, advertisement of health and fertility, etc.

Bigger, maybe, but I mostly wish mine was more shapely. Gotta start lifting.

>>17956842
"The friendzone" isn't as big a thing as internet makes it seem. What happens is falling for girls who instead just want to be friends, or who try to push you more towards a friendly role if you try to flirt with them.

The idea that you can somehow fall into the friendzone by not being assertive and masculine enough is some make believe shit... like you could get any girl to like you if only you were smooth and forward enough. In that sense the friendzone (if talked about like you were registered in the wrong department in her head by mistake) is not real.

As for how to avoid it: don't become the girl's friend. Be friendly but either ask her out relatively quickly, or break the news to her that you actually like her in a different manner if she invites you for something that makes it obvious that she thinks of you as a friend. Basically, try to date her and otherwise resign to having failed to do so. Many guys who complain about the friendzone can't resist being around the girl they like no matter in what way, shape or form.

Once you already are friends, if she knows you like her and does not reciprocate then you can decide for yourself whether you can deal, can deal after some space, or need to end the contact to move on.

>>17956843
Because we have wider hips for giving birth.
Big butts are one of those physical traits that scream "fertility".

Honestly I wouldn't want it bigger. I have a nice butt, pretty big but muscular and not fat. Pretty happy with it.

>>17956843
>>17956851
Misread the second question. Not quite sure, let's say I don't lie awake at night wishing it were bigger. I sometimes get a bit self conscious when I see guys refer to women with my body as "flat" or not having an ass (I have an ass with a nice shape but it's a typical little white girl bum) just because it's not big. But mine fits my body type, a big ass would look ridiculous on me and honestly I find a lot of the inspirational pictures too... porn-y for my liking. I don't want people's first association with me to be that I'd do great in a twerking video. I think it's great being able to choose whether you show off your curves or hide them with little effort.

>>17956842
Ask her out or make a move. If she rejects you, stop talking to her and move on.
Friendzone is self-inflicted.

Guys AND Girls:

>met a girl in october, as friends at first
>we both develop feelings for eachother and around the end of november we're both hinting and flirting
>things are cool, and the normal will we wont we tension until a party we were both invited to december 13th where we sit akwardly and talk and in long silence for about 5 hours until the tension breaks and we kiss and go to the train station together, both expressing how happy we are that something happened
>we both leave for our families over christmas
>day before new years we finally get some time together, she tells me shes been having hormonal problems messing with her period, and that we cant have sex
>we meet many times since then and make out, watch movies, have a great time in general
>really feel a good relationship starting, Im crazy about her, and shes crazy about me
>today we were hanging out at her place and she goes really nervous and sits me down to tell me something


cont...

Girls, what are some examples of signs you throw at boys you like which they very rarely pick up on?

>>17956965
>her voice is shaking, eyes well up and she stares down at her hands while fiddling with her fingers as she starts talking
>reveals that she never had problems with her period, but that she found out that she was 7-8 weeks pregnant december 29th (I know she was seeing a guy until about mid-november btw, whom she left partly because of feelings for me) when she was at the doctor after feeling sick all december
>tells me she had an abortion this monday
>tells me this has been a soul-crushing experience
>tells me shes saying this because she had talked to her friend about it and the friend said she personally would just have bailed without saying anything out of embarrassment
>tells me she doesnt want to do that because the last 4 weeks have been amazing and she wants to build this relationship on trust and honesty
>tells me it feels so unreal to tell me this, she has been repressing it so badly that she almost felt like she was lying when she told me everything
She was crying the whole time.

This hit me like a ton of bricks, was about 5 hours ago, I just got home. I assured her I still want her and that I understand how hard this had to be to tell me.

Tell me what I need to hear:
This isn't important, right?
If I love her this isnt a big deal, right?

I'm not sure I even have a problem with it. I havent had time to reflect over it whatsoever.

What do I tell her? She was really shaken about this and really worried that I would bail on her or something.

Girls

(Didn't get any replies last time.) How can you tell if she is actually trying to let me down easily or if she's actually wanting to do something?

Girl is very enthusiastic and eager sounding about doing something. Even will go as far as agreeing to get together when it is left sorta vauge. But when I try to cement plans, she shys away from it. But she always sounds disappointed about not being able. I still can't discount the shy factor, given that she is, very. And also kind gives quite a few signs that maybe she is interested

>>17956598
Ladies,

Would any of you date a loner? One that is a loner through choice and not because of social anxiety or mental health reason.

>>17957001
Yes. Definitely.
As long as he's not socially awkward and/or clingy, I'd actually love to.

why do you give puas and other sex solicitors the time of day and spread your cheeks for them but ignore even more attractive guys just because they dont violate your peace with subtle requests for sex

Girls

What does kissing feel like?

>>17957040
... What?
I don't ignore an attractive guy who flirts with me.

>>17956971
Don't be a pussy and date her. The past is the past. Unless the former boyfriend is a nigger. In this case dump her.

Hi all, this question relates to both genders

does dating get better after college? It seems like so many people aren't interested in dating during college, it seems like most people just want to hook up and have FWB.

>>17957063

how come i would if i was a girl

>>17957174
People who want to just hook up or be FWB will continue to do so. People who wanted relationships will have always wanted relationships. Also, it'll become a lot harder to meet new people once you leave college.

that makes sense. Kind of in a situation where I hate the small town college I attend, being raised as a city kid for the first 20 years of my life. I guess there's nothing else to do but to keep being social and looking for a girl to find a connection with.

>>17957026
>I'd actually love to
Could you explain more?

>>17957001
Depends on his reasons for being a loner by choice

>>17957040
I don't do any of that personally

Hey /adv/ so just had dinner and a few drinks with a girl, we had fun abd laughed but she did check her phone often. As we got to the station. I asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said she was currently seeing someone setup by her friend. They'll br meeting on Friday. And had broke up with her boyfriend in October.

Not sure what to do now. Sit tight hope it doesn't work out, stay as her friend and maybe she'll introduce me to someone.

I admire her. Do i tell her i kinda have feelings for her and want something more than a platonic relationship, but tell that i'll give her some space and let me readjust my feelings.

Or do i just ghost her.

average to hot girls: none of you are having sex with any disabled guys yet if you were born a quadriplegic guy or a guy in a wheelchair or some other type of heavily disabled guy you would want to have sex with the hottest girls.

>>17957223
And?
People like having sex with attractive people. Why isn't this heavily disabled person talking to women in his league. He's decidedly below average if he's a cripple.

>>17957184
>Also, it'll become a lot harder to meet new people once you leave college.
Probably varies heavily with degree. Like, 1 in 10 of my classmates are women at best. If I'm out to chat up women I'm probably better off anywhere else.

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>>17956598
idc what gender
gonna sum it up

>use to be friends with this dude
>now whenever i see him around he just stares at me

we didn't fight or anything, we just stopped talking, what should i do if i see him staring at me again?

>>17957223
Why would I hav sex with a disabled guy if I can have sex with a guy who isn't disabled?

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So I've been friends with a girl in college for almost a year, and I find myself attracted to her.
I've invited her to my house often to play games and shit, and more than once we don't play anything at all and just chill, and she has helped me rearranged my room and slept in my bed at least once.
I want to ask her out to be my gf, but I'm afraid she may reject me and stop talking to me, because she's really fun to be with, and not being friends with 'em would be weird.
So I'd like to know; what is the best way to ask her out? (What should I say.) And what are some things I should do to know whenever or not she's interested? (Like, what actions should I do to see her reaction.)

>>17957238
so all the disableds just need to stick to their own kind? shall we just herd them off to their own island maybe.

its easy for you to talk but if you were a crippled guy would you feel the same? i have a feeling you would be desiring the finer things in life but where would u get them when women think as you do.

>>17957249
Sure, that was a generalisation. It's not true in every case, especially when there are skewed gender ratios. But generally speaking, school brings a bunch of people, who are mostly around the same age, together. There are other places you could meet people when you're done with school, but those are also available when youre studying, so you have even more exposure to new people

>>17957262
I'm just a guy stating the obvious. Why arent you chatting up below average women? Should they all just stick to their own kind, herd them off to an island?

>>17957251
You need to give way more context if you want any reasonable advice. Are you still on friendly terms? If so, I'd probably guesstimate he's interested in you. But my response will vary with the actual situation.

>>17957273

no. my position was the opposite so i dunno why u would accuse of such sentiments. most ugly girls can easily get a good looking guy. at least for sex

>>17957267
>There are other places you could meet people when you're done with school, but those are also available when youre studying, so you have even more exposure to new people
I'm still trying to figure that one out. College itself just seems to be a dead end in my position as far as dating goes right now.

>>17957301
>most ugly girls can easily get a good looking guy. at least for sex
I'm not the person you responded to, but as an ugly girl I'd like to let you know that's not true. Also many girls want more than casual sex.

>>17957301
That says more about men over valuing pussy than anything.

>>17957337
Where do you plan to meet people once you're done with school?

>>17957353
Not really sure, as I said college is already a major sausage fest with my major. So it's not as if I'm meeting women to begin with. I'm thinking of taking a stab at meetup but I'm on the fence with that.

>>17957384
>So it's not as if I'm meeting women to begin with
That's my point, if you think it's hard enough now, think about how hard it'll be once you leave.

If a girl texted you out of nowhere to ask if you were doing OK, what would you think of it?

I did this recently (made a couple of threads about it) to a guy I liked and thought it had finally broken the ice, but I saw him today and it felt nothing had changed. I'm getting really confused.

My friend has a severely ugly wife and having a hard time coming to terms with this disability, how do we make it easier for him to understand that we all know and everything is going to be okay?
Do we tell him things like he can always kill her if she's that ugly? Is that a normal thing to tell someone depressed over having an ugly wife? She's taiwanese if that helps with your opinions on this matter.

>>17957388
>if you think it's hard enough now, think about how hard it'll be once you leave.
With a ratio under 1 in 10? Not that much harder.

>>17957389
That means nothing but confusion

Ask him out

>>17957413
I can't. I know it's cowardly, but I really can't. Thinking about even makes it feel like there's a weight on my chest. I tried for 2 months to work up the courage, and it just made me miserable. I think I'm not over the last time I was rejected, which may have legitimately traumatized me.

>>17957418
Stop making excuses and just do it. This is like any other skill, you have to practice to get better at it. I'm not saying you shouldn't be scared, if anything that's normal, but there's always going to be scary shit you don't want to do. That's life.

>>17957435
Thanks, but I can't. If it means nothing progresses, so be it, I guess.

>Girl I care about is seeing someone else
>Turns out that guy is an insecure bastard who lied and manipulated his way into her life
>he literally sat there confessing to me
>she told me last night she doesn't know how she was starting to feel about me, but is really sorry and does like me as a friend
>I have a phobia of physical contact, so even though she and I have a lot of emotional intimacy, I'm apprehensive about touching her

I don't want to let her go, but I've never even held her (all physical contact, she's initiated). What do I do?

Girls, what's the best way to approach you in the following scenarios: at school, club, bar, coffee shop.

I ask because so many girls I talk to are horrified by "creeps" and I don't want to come off as one.

>>17957449
>Thanks, but I can't.
No, you won't. Big difference. You're weighing the pros and cons and you've its easier to pussy out than take the initiative. Men who are so afraid of the potential of rejection are frequently told to get over it, but that applies just as much towards women in your position.

>>17957455
Honestly I'd tell her his lies, and just take some space. I mean it sucks but at the end of the day she chose someone else, and there's no need to torture yourself emotionally. Take a couple of weeks off and being friends probably won't be painful anymore.

>>17957477
>chose someone else
The first time I heard she was with someone else, the distance wasn't difficult to make. The thing is, a mutual friend of ours lied to each of us: he told me she was seeing someone else (the guy she's seeing now) and told her I'd gotten serious with someone else as well, which wasn't true. He pulled us apart so this other fucko would have a window.

>>17957175
You aren't a girl so you have no idea what you would do.

>>17957486
I stand by my statements either way. You should tell her what is really going on, and do your own thing for a bit. If she decides to pursue you that's great and all, but not something I'd hedge my bets on.

>>17957477
The last time I told a guy I liked him, it was my best friend and roommate who I've known for most of my life. I had had feelings for him for a while, but never acted on them because I didn't want to mess up the friendship. But when he started getting serious with another girl, I couldn't hide my jealousy. He noticed and told me if I wanted a relationship, he'd choose me, so I said I did and we had sex (my first and only time).

The next day he hung out with that other girl while I stayed at home feeling like I was going to vomit. When he came home at 2 in the morning, he told me the other girl told him she liked him and that he had only said all that stuff to me because he didn't think she did. Within 2 weeks, he had moved out and gotten his own apartment and was living with her and had stopped talking to me and had made it feel like it was all my fault.

I couldn't afford our place by myself, so in one fell swoop, I had lost my best and only friend, my home, and my virginity. It was awful. I had nightmares for months and I did not leave my new apartment for anything except work and necessities for over a year. Even typing this out is making me cry. I'm over the guy, but I'm not over the damage that it did. I'm still having major issues trusting people.

So yeah, I guess it's still technically an excuse, but I don't know...I think I need someone to make me feel safe for a change.

>>17957494
Yeah, that makes sense. In any case, compromising on my sense of emotional independence wouldn't help in any way.

Sucks, if those two hadn't gotten in the way, or if I hadn't let them, this would have been something wonderful.

Who else thinks the "battle of the sexes" is counterproductive?

>>17957466
I think being a creep is more of a reactive thing than a proactive one.

So long as you don't make wildly inappropriate comments as your opening, what makes you creepy is your inability to read signs. If a girl is clearly uncomfortable talking to you, leave her alone.

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> meet 18yo qt girl
>awesome girl. great fun, social , very passionate about theatre
>7.5/10 looks,8/10 body, 9/10 personality
>friend sets me up with a date with here.
>we go pooling and at my place I cook for her
>watch Spiderman, 30 minutes in I kiss her
>very long make out session, eventually she is topless on my lap both grinding and groping each other
> we lie down in my bed, I rub her pussy through het jeans until she cums
>she sucks my dick, can't cum cause IDK, I always have a hard time cumming
>lie in bed, saying sweet things to each other and looking in each other's eyes
>she eventually has to go home, very passionate goodbye kiss
>go on a date a few dates later, talk for hours in a local bar
>kiss afterwards but not as passionate
about a week later when we're alone
>I think we should stop seeing each other like this
>later texts that's she could really say what's on her mind and explains it by text.

> I really changed since university, I've always had an ideal image of a boyfriend
> but the last couple of months I've changed, I'm not looking for a committed relationship right now
> I'm really sorry for you, I really like you but blah blah

cont.

>>17957516
>>17957516
>today, we meet up for a project we are working on together
> large part of the night she is very passionately telling me about het theatre performances and showing DVD's of it
> eventually we are in her room talking about all kinds of stuff
>In hindsight I was probably the emotional tampon Pook taught me not to be
> eventually I go home, hug her goodbye.
>contemplate if I should have kissed her
> go to 4chan

I seriously doubt what my current course of action should me
> completely forget about her and go chase different girls and sleep with my ex occasionally
> Fuck what she wants, if I want I will go get her and conquer her

what do ?

also semi related; I just finished Pook of Pook and it really helped me with this.

>>17957499
Yes, it was a dick move what happened. But that's a fact of life. If I emotionally shut down every time some gal ghosted me because she wanted to try to date a bit higher I'd never get anywhere in life. It's not like he was a winner anyways if he was moving in with a gal right after becoming official anyways. Also a textbook example of why you shouldn't date your roommate.

>>17957524
Couldn't be fucked reading your essay but
>Pook of Pook

>>17957514
>So long as you don't make wildly inappropriate comments as your opening, what makes you creepy is your inability to read signs. If a girl is clearly uncomfortable talking to you, leave her alone.
I was called creepy because I was too talkative during a group project before. Still not sure what signs I was missing, but its definitely something guys should think about.

>>17957535
I know. This wasn't just some guy who ghosted me though, this was my best friend (and vice versa) who I trusted more than anyone. Severe damage was inflicted, and while I would love to just brush it off, that doesn't seem to happen even when I try to will i to.

I know I will eventually need to get my confidence back, but right now I think I need someone else to pursue me or at least put in a little bit of effort to make me feel safe and wanted, even if it's just as a friend. Right now it's looking like it's not going to be this guy.

>>17957547
Hmm, it's hard to say where you went wrong with so little information.

I will say that there are some girls that use the word too loosely (same with "stalk", I've noticed). That's not to say that you should ignore it every time, but if you've assessed the situation to the best of your ability, just let it go. If you can ask someone else in the same group, that would be ideal.

>>17957551
>Hmm, it's hard to say where you went wrong with so little information.
I honestly don't know either. Teacher told us to work on a problem together, I outlined the basic equations we'd need, and I was told to "stop talking, you're being creepy". Had half a mind to off myself on the spot honestly, the other 2 just sort of ignored it.

>>17957554
I'm leaning towards her just using it too loosely. Does she normally seem kind of vapid?

>>17957565
Honestly had never talked to her before that, so I can't really say. I've been done with the class for a good while now, but experiences like that have made me a bit paranoid around women I don't really know honestly. It basically translates to "you make me feel unsafe" after all.

>>17957572
Just ask yourself - very honestly - if there was a reason she should have felt unsafe. Try to put yourself in her shoes and imagine you're surrounded by physically imposing men who may or may not have your best interests in mind.

I can't see any reason she should feel creeped out by you talking about an assignment, unless you were leering at her.

I will keep this in mind myself and try to use the word only when called for.

>>17957545
Good or nah?

>>17956740
Depends on the person/situation, best not to read anything into it
>>17956834
Nah, nobody cares
>>17956842
No such thing, either there's mutual interest or not
>>17956979
When in doubt, she's probably trying to let you off easy. I say this everytime since guys seem oblivious about it: girls are really bad at rejections, most of them at least. They'll go to great lengths not to outright reject you and that kind of doesn't get the message across.
>>17957001
As a loner myself, yeah of course
>>17957174
Haha, no everyone just gets more desperate, so if you're looking for sth serious, look now
>>17957466
If you come off as creepy, it doesn't matter where you talk to them you have to work on yourself first

So today I was at the gym and when I walked in I noticed this girl who immediately caught my attention. I gave her a few looks and went on ahead with my squats. About 10 mins later her and her friend come over to do leg press. Surprisingly good form as well. I wanted to compliment them on their form but chickened out and continued doing squats. Later in the workout I was doing some rear delts on the machine. I saw her over across the gym doing something for legs. I am assuming her friend left. She walked across the gym as if she was looking for something and then came right behind me as I was resting. Then I went ahead and did my set and she went back to where she was. Saw her a bit more later but as I was about to finish my set and say something she finished hers and left.

tl;dr
how do i not be a beta cuck and just talk to her?

To females:
Is a bald guy a deal-breaker for you?
Does a bald head look not as good as a head full of hair, in your opinion?
How much would it affect you?

>>17957640
If you have a nice beard I'm all yours(probably)

Does anyone else have an answer for >>17957389 ? Beyond telling me to ask him out

I thought it was a pretty overt sign and things seemed to go well, but he didn't acknowledge it today, hasn't texted me since, etc.

Part of me is kind of irritated and I kind of want to just shut down on him entirely, but I'm trying to avoid self destructive impulses.

>>17957666
Imo it just sounds like friend stuff, not like you're romantically interested

Is a man who never wants children guaranteeing that he'll not have a significant other?

>>17957670
Either you're young and still in the "why would I want a parasite who eats up all my money and free time" phase, or you're actually serious in which case no worries, there are quite a few women like that.

>>17957669
What would you consider an overt sign beyond asking him out? I pretty much only see him in a group setting so keep that in mind. The text was the only private 1 on 1 conversation we've ever had.

>>17957677
Oh good. I'm actually serious. I Don't want them. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship and I just want to know if it's a dealbreaker what with me being 30 in two years.

>>17957687
Plenty of women don't want children.

>>17957692
Indeed. I've just had this dream since I was sixteen to spend as much of my life traveling as possible. To be a nomad and see the beauty of the world before it's gone. I Don't want to settle down.

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Girls,

what'a an absolute dealbreaker in a happy relationship?

>>17957686
Well, if the situation was reversed you'd want him to ask you out, right?
How about you propose a group event, get to know him, get him to know you and go from there?

>>17957713
Right now I'm 80% sure I'd get rejected. There are times when it drops to maybe 50% but then he starts acting distant and it shoots back up again.

Right now asking him out isn't in the cards. I'm just looking for more ways to thaw the ice. I don't think I have the social ability or skills to create a group event. I have literally zero friends. This study group is the only social thing I do. Perhaps I should focus on that too, though I would be happy just being friends with this guy for now.

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Can girls tell how well a guy is built under pants and long-sleeved shirts? I can see why getting /fit/ matters if you're in a relationship or you plan on having casual sex, but I personally can't tell if a dude lifts unless he walks around work in a t-shirt.

Pic unrelated, just some guy from google images.

>>17957750
It depends on the body and the clothes. A super ripped and big guy will be obvious almost no matter what. A leaner more muscular guy may need to wear right clothes.

You will look better in clothes if you're fit however.

Quick question

My friend took a snapchat of a performance I had (breakdancing lol) where I did really fucking great. and he ended up sending it to everyone on my friends list Including my ex


how pathetic am i going to look in her eyes? She wont know it was my friend who sent it out to everyone.

>>17957796
Who cares? Maybe she'll be impressed, maybe she won't, she's not your problem anymore.

>>17957710
Cheating, obviously

Girls and guys

I matched this girl on Tinder a year ago. We briefly flirted. But nothing ever happened because of scheduling. We never met IRL actually. Anyways, we have been texting for the past year almost everyday. I actually developed a good trust for her. I've told her very personal things, she knows about my past depression and anxiety. And has talked me through attacks in te past. She actually seems like she cares. Anyways, Last I knew she had a boyfriend (she doesn't talk about him much), but they were having problems or something. I don't know much.So I've obviously respected that.

Well. Today we've been having a in depth discussion on TV shows. And I said to her "well hey! You need to be educated... so.. when you get back to Uni next week. We should meet up and watch TV all day.. hahah i started to type "TV and Chill" but remembered your boyfriend, so that would have been bad... hahaha"

She replied with "we can totally TV and Chill"

What does she mean by that...

>>17957841
it means you're in there man, go for it. she wouldnt invite you over to her place if she wasnt at least a little interested. plus she used the online meme "and chill" which joke for fuggin, so if she is open to make a joke liek that that means you should go for it and stop being a little bitch bro

>>17957509
I think it's more than that. I think it's destructive and literally "degenerate" for society.

How do I get meat from the meat market?

>>17957850

But I'm not 100% sure if she broke up with her boyfriend.. so I don't know if she was just going along with my joke or not.

When we first started talking on Tinder a year ago, we did talk about sex. But we kinda stopped talking for a few months. Then she reconnected with me. But at that time she had a boyfriend. Since then, we've been pretty good text friends. I feel very comfortable being open with her. And she does the same for me.

i actually care about her as a person. So i wouldn't want to cause any troubles

>>17957862
She's causing the troubles, not you. I find your sense of honor most commendable, but in this case you'll be a symptom not the disease.

>>17957640
No I wouldn't say so. Most guys will go bald in ther lifetime. If my boyfriend goes bald now, I'll just enjoy his new look and rub and pet his head. If my boyfriend were bald when I met him, I would have still fallen for him. I understand losing your hair must be a hard thing to deal with, but it's really not that bad. A shaved head actually looks pretty masculine. Reminds me of tough Slav guys. Just get stronk and it will compliment nicely.

>>17957868

Do you think she was being serious about the "chill" in TV and Chill?

I really can't tell if she just said that going along with my joke. Or is for real.

You know what, before I meet her at campus next week. I might just text her before I go and say "hey, quick question, you're still with your boyfriend right? Just checking, so I know"

>>17957875
You know her better than I do senpai, from what you wrote I'd say she's being serious but it's you who ultimately should know best.

Do girls want a boyfriend more if their friends have boyfriends?

>>17957882
Only if they're young and immature.

>>17957882
>>17957886
And even if they do want a boyfriend, it doesn't mean they want you as their boyfriend

>>17957212
Fuck it, i'll just tell her how i feel.

>>17957880

Well. She just answered it for me.

We were talking about video games and she literally just said "my boyfriend just really got into PC games over console.."

A bit disappointing I guess. I was not even hoping for sex. I honestly just was hoping to cuddle. Well, I guess we'll still hang out anyways

>Every guy I meet is a jerk
>then stop dating jerks
>YOU'RE SUCH A MISOGYNIST NICE GUY
What do girls say this shit? Literally you agreed to every relationship you've been in, so if they all ended miserably you've been making poor choices.

>>17957955
Those girls are retarded. Don't bother with them.

>>17957753
>You will look better in clothes if you're fit however.
How so? Assuming it's not clothes that clearly show off your muscles.

>>17957977
Clothes will generally hang off people better if they're fit. There won't be a spare tire spilling out over the top of your jeans, broad shoulders and well developed traps / lats will make your torso taper and that will be visible so long as you're not wearing completely baggy clothes. Your ass and thighs will fill out your jeans.

You do need to be wearing decent fits, but they don't have to be skintight muscle shirts in order to see the goods.

>>17956598
>texting girl about bs
>already jerked off earlier cuz she was taking too long to text back so not super much interest
>said some really lame bullshit offering her to hang out
>realized how lame it was and apologized after she didnt respond for like 40min
>she texted back saying she is tired instead of just ignoring my autistic ass entirely

this is a good sign right?

>>17957997
no

>>17957997
never apologize
holy fuck you little bitch

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>>17957277
Yea, nothing bad happened between us, we just stopped talking and now every time I see him he just looks at me, dunno what to do

>>17958001
well it means she doesnt want to hang out now but at least cares enough to show interest in me and might be down in the future rigt

>>17958009
well i said something really awkward that was basically offering to fuck when she wasnt that interested and realized after i shouldnt have been so explicit

favorite place to get jizzed on

Should I confess and ask someone out first or ask them to hang out/meet up first and then confess towards the end?

Though if things Backfire I'll probably have to stop talking to them for good.

>>17957053
I'll tell you what it shouldn't feel like...gross. I should not feel gross. You should not get second thoughts about it. I.E. kissing my ex husband, after years of abuse, became gross. Cringeworthy, like kissing a pile of shit.

I imagine, when it's good, it's supposed to be like sucking the melty part off the top of an ice cream come, or nomming the frosting off a cupcake. Your lovers mouth should be inviting, and taste good or neutral, if nothing. My ex made me feel like I was holding my breath and suffocating. I don't think that's how it's supposed to be.

It's supposed to be yes. A big, wet "yes".

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what do girls think about dating a murderer?

Should they tell you right away or not at all?

a-asking for a friend >///>

is it weird if i exchanged goybook passwords with a female friend that isn't my gf, she says she trusts me more than any any other guy and that not even her bf has her password, any thoughts?

>meet guy with similar interests
>exchange numbers to chat about these interests
>chats about interests, but guys keeps asking aobut me
>I avoid answering, steering conversation back to interests
>I avoid asking about him too
>guy often compliments my looks/skills/whatever
>I thank him warn him to cut it out because it makes me uncomfortable and steer conversation back to interests
>repeats a few times, until he comes out with a bold compliment on my body while asking for pictures
>I get really uncomfortable and feel like I have nothing to say, so I don't reply
>days pass
>he apologizes claiming he was drunk
>I still can't figure out what to say so I don't reply

I figured I lost my new friend and moved on.

However I've now heard he's mad at me because in the middle of these exchanges he fell in love, and has accused me of leading him on and cutting him off to everyone I know in the scene related to this interest.

Guys, please shine a light here. Where did I go wrong, exactly? I tried to cut him out in the personal details and compliments precisely because I wanted to avoid this situation. What does a girl have to do to not arouse your interest in conversation?


>>17958262
I don't know about your country, but where I am from, if someone knows of a crime and does not reported, they become criminals themselves. While personally I would prefer to know the person I'm dating, I wouldn't want to be put in a spot in which I either report a guy to the police, or risk being prosecuted along with him should he ever be caught for what he did.
Ignorance is bliss. Don't tell.

>>17958376
>What does a girl have to do to not arouse your interest in conversation?
I meant romantic interest, of course. Friendly interest is very welcome.

>>17958376

You can't move a guy from wanting to be your lover to wanting to be your friend unless you are valuable as a friend to him to a degree it is worth dealing with the emotional pain and shame of not getting to be with you when you reject him, you probably did'nt have that to him. Allot of dudes with strong/niche interests have tons of people to talk about their interests with ( other dudes mainly), but they often go through long periods of celibacy, so if you are remotely pretty, having something in common with them means that you are gfend or at least hook up material. Unless you have some mind blowing knowledge of your shared interests that makes you invaluable to him in that regard, the sexual/romantic attraction is going to take precedent.

>>17958395
That's very depressing, but thank you for the input anon. Is there a way to tell romantic interest before I share my number?

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>>17958376

Ok then i should emphasise that i did it a couple of years ago in another country and was let out on a technicallity and i assume a bribe by my lawyer over there.

It was self defense in that i just killed all my assailents and i dont feel ashamed of it but i feel others would look at it as a crime or im a psychopath or something.

Maybe its something ill keep to myself until im married to them lol?

Haaaalp my ugly wife is so disgusting i've resorted to fucking nig nogs niggers. Those filthy apes are just more sexy than she will ever be! Haaaaaaaaalp i don't want aids, ugly/nigger offspring.

Was talking to some internet friends and they found my facebook and what I look like.

They said Im cute from the first pic they saw, and they said my prof pic doesnt look like me since Im not wearing glasses and have a filter on it.

Does this mean Im ugly and theyre being nice or Im actually cute?

I have some self esteem issues :/

Question to both genders:
tldr; Recently I went abroad to see my family, and my bf didn't want to go with me to the airport and meet me when I'll return. He didn't do it no matter how I asked. How would you react and what do you think about it.

Longer story: We work together. When we were in our way to his place, I was with my bags and I thought that in the morning we would get a taxi and go to the airport. It turns out that he never planned to see me off. I'm not a sentimental person but international flights are a little stressful for me and also we wouldn't be able to see each other for a half of month. So his company would be helpful for me. That's what I told him and he said that it's a three-hour way there and back, and he doesn't want to waste his time, "don't you appreciate my time?" I asked: "What are you going to do at the morning of the weekend?" He said: "I'll find something".So we spend night together at the opposite sides of bed and in the morning I went to the airport alone. I was pissed and offended. We haven't talk or text to each other the whole time I was home. I talk to his close friend (lets call him B) and we discussed this situation. B said that we are both right, and I should understand my bf. He never meet even his close friends at the airports or wherever. He has this rational and logical way of thinking(mathematical?) and he would make more useful things by using the time of heading to the airport and back, etc.. B also said that he talks about me and it's good things (like what I read, about my christmas present to him) and he knows that I'm mad but he don't know what to text or what to do.

Tomorrow we will see each other at work, am I overreacting or am I right to be mad about it?

>>17958489
No. Either you tell them early and hope they'll side with you, giving them the choice of pursuing a relationship with a killer or not, or you never tell them at all under any circumstance, not even at your dying bed.
Relationships are ruined for less, way less than multiple killings. It doesn't matter how justifiable you think your circumstances were, it just does not align with the morals of certain people, and this can wreck their minds and hearts in irreparable ways. Remember those threads we've seen around in which the guy finds out their girlfrends had abortions in the past while they're anti-abortion themselves and they're torn inside? It's like that but way worse.

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Ladies, what do you think of a guy that's paid for sex?

>>17958575
Not husband material. Or friendship material. Or social acquaintance material.

>>17958598
How about a virgin?

Bonus points, he's single (durr), rich, stable career, good looking, about 6'0, occasionally funny and relatively intelligent.. and in his late 20s.

>>17958607
Much preferable. I would consider a relationship with marriage as a goal if we got along.

>>17957524
Fuck her and go for other girls
You cant do shit if shes not looking for a commitment

>>17957636
Regret is worse than rejection

Just talk to her, even if she rejects you, atleast you had the balls to do it

>>17956598
Guys

Would you date a girl that used to be fat and now has loose skin?

I'm in the process of losing weight but afraid that no guy will like me. And no I don't want to do surgery.

>>17958646
>And no I don't want to do surgery.
you should.

i was with a girl like that. most of the time i pity fucked her, because she was somewhat cute. but body was garbage.

>>17958646
Maybe, how bad is it?

>>17958598
Well it's been almost four years. I don't see why I should have to go any longer.

>>17958649
I can't afford surgery, I am poor and you have to be in bed for a long time.
>>17958650
I'm losing 200+ lbs

I'm so depressed I feel like I was meant to be alone cause I've been fat all my life and now that I decide to make a change, I'm screwed either way

>>17958646
Not a guy, but can I ask what exactly do you have against surgery?
Because the skin might actually never recover ever depending on your previous weight, skin type and genetic predisposition. With age, saggy skin will look worse and worse. And stretch marks only successfuly disappear with tummytucks as well. Are you just sure that your skin will recover eventually or does the possibility of it never doing so not bother you at all?

>>17958657
I'm too poor

>>17958281
Yes thats weird and dumb

>>17958659
Try to research the prices in another country. South America and Singapore seem to have it cheap.

>>17958633
Virgin here again, I respectfully disagree. There's a few times I'd have rather the regret, only a few.

BTW
>>17958613
I don't really buy it, low experience means the more experienced partner needs to put in more effort, that's the reality of dating a virgin. Girls are notorious for low effort.

I also think it's easy for girls to assume I have extra experience and have greater expectations, which I always fail to meet. That's what I'd like to know if women are okay with, literally no game after a certain point.

I'm great at approaching girls though, I can usually make them smile within a few minutes.

>>17958646
Basically >>17958649
Like guys with small dicks, how will your partner know until it's too late and suddenly stopping would seem rude?

It looks like you really don't have a problem if you can get to that point in a relationship, just don't plan any beach dates before that point.

>>17958670
Yeah but I will still need money to go there. I'm in Australia so we're pretty isolated

>>17958673
I do have a problem with it. Which is why I won't get into a relationship until I figure this out

>>17958678
As per the "problem" the only things anyone can suggest are surgery or filling it up, maybe by weight lifting to gain muscle mass which still looks womanly and better than fat on women. You won't get man body.

Otherwise
>I won't get into a relationship
That's your choice.

>>17958262
Don't listen to that dumb bitch who replied to you.
All women love criminals, if anything, it raises your value as a man, makes you more 'mysterious' to them.

>>17958646
If you lose the weight slowly and steadily, you take care of your skin (supplements, lotions) and you're relatively young, you won't have HUGE problems of lose skin.
I lost over 100 lbs and I don't have any. I can imagine that the problem is worse if you are 200 lbs, but you won't look like the guys from "the biggest loser" if you do it in 2-3 years like any normal person would.

>>17958695
Congrats on the weight loss. And I will wait at least a year or two and see if the skin will tighten, what do you think?

>>17958539
pls answer

>>17958703
I didn't have TONS of loose skin right after I lost the weight, so I can't tell you if it will tighten.
My tips are
>Lose weight slowly and steadily. It doesn't matter if it takes 3 years or 2. Make it a lifestyle change and not a diet.
>Drink water
>Have a healthy diet and give yourself all the vitamins and nutrients necessary
>Eat the right things - nuts, seeds, fish oil help a lot when it comes to keeping your skin healthy.
>Take care of your skin -- exfoliate. Use creams with hyaluronic acid, vitamin C and A.

>>17958673
>I don't really buy it, low experience means the more experienced partner needs to put in more effort, that's the reality of dating a virgin. Girls are notorious for low effort.
Girl who replied to you earlier. In this case, we'd be at the same level of experience. Which I find ideal. Even if we're probably virgins for different reasons.

>>17958675
Have you tried the Mustela line for pregnant women? It is meant to avoid saggy skin and stretch marks. Everyone in my family has them from pregnancy, but my cousin came out nearly intact from two pregnancies and she swears by it. I assume it will work just as well with weight loss.

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I got a girls number I see in person occasionally but we havent texted much yet but is it fine if I ask her out over text this week? I ask because I won't be able to ask her out in person for about 10 days.

>>17958747
It's the cream I used when I was losing weight. Such a good product! Gave me a perfect tummy.
I used that in the morning after the shower and almond oil at night before bed.

Halp
Both genders plz
>be college
>no car.jpg
>want to ask cute girl on a date
>see no car.jpg
How do I take girls out on a date if I don't have a car? Wouldn't an Uber be really awkward?

>>17957262
So let the have-nots desire, it's a free country. But, who cares how sad it makes them? I'm a guy and I wouldn't give a female burn victim the time of day, or one who was fat.

I might have sex with one in a wheelchair, or who was missing a limb, but they'd have to be otherwise well rounded. I feel like disfigurements matter differently due to gender dynamics. There's something to be said about having more dominant power over a girl. Guys on the other hand are expected to be more utility oriented. What good is a guy who can't take you and fuck you? I feel like that's the best part of being with a guy in the first place. Women always get deflated, in my experience, when they take the wheel during the sex.

Should I shave my stomach?

>>17958758
>takes uber or cab
>no worries about finding park space or parking too far from intended venue
>both parties can drink with no concern
>you help both the economy and the environment
>no surprises over car breaking or getting lost
>even traffic just seems like a fun extra time to talk
I'm not sure I see the issue. Living in a city, I find the use of personal cars rather idiotic.

Best conversations to lead up to a kiss?

>>17958783
If you're a woman: I wouldn't, it's probably more visible to you than to anyone else, and stubble on your belly isn't really feminine either.

If you're a man: don't you fucking dare.

>>17958788
Heart to hearts. Personal memories, dreams, viewpoints. The more intimate the better. Not sexually intimate necessarily (that's good for hook ups, less normal for building towards something romantic) and more "I never told anyone this childhood story before".

You know it's coming when there's lots of random, loaded pauses where you are strangely shy/awkward with each other. Eye contact either constant, completely absent (aside from stealing a sidelong glance here and there) or mismatched and you both seem to overthink it. Blushing, fidgeting, looking at your mouth and edging closer are all tell tale signs as well.
As for the actual kiss, if you want to go first tell her "wait", "hold on" etc. She'll look at you, it creates a natural lull and then you can move in and smooch her.

>>17958798
>If you're a man: don't you fucking dare.

It looks terrible though, like a teenagers patchy beard.

>>17958539
I get where you're coming from but I think I would've done the same if I were him.

>1.5 hr commute for you, 3hr for him.
>taking a taxi, so no logical reason for both people to go.
>extra taxi fare for him to get back.
>willingly going to the airport, ever.

When I was with my ex, we used to walk each other to the train station (before we just started taking Lyfts to the airport).

Not saying you're wrong, but in our case, both of us thought it was more reasonable to part ways before the cab ride. Probably because she was cheap and I've never liked to waste time.

>>17958802
Belly hair is sexy as fuck.

>>17958598
Why's that? Assuming the hooker was legal and the guy wasn't cheating.

>>17958804
I guess then.

>>17958802
Eh, bodyhair takes all kind of shapes, I've never seen a neat linear happy trail in real life. Yet I still licked them all over their stomach hair because it's crazy hot.

>>17958803
I see.
It just was kinda sad seeing other couples at the airport and such.

>>17958817
That's nice to hear.

>>17958806
Because hookers are associated with other kinds of degenerate activities I do not approve of and that he probably normalizes and believes to be "not a big deal". No way.

>>17958806
Not them but I have heard this opinion a lot and it is typically either (or a combination of) a concern for human trafficking that makes it immoral to them to solicit a prostitute, and/or it is just finding the idea too icky.

I mean, after all you are shoving your dong in a woman who is paid to fuck, who probably had five other dicks inside of her that very day, who has (had) STDs, and you're paying for that privilege. It's about as off putting for many women to envision as it is for a man to picture their cute crush being penetrated in both holes at once by tinder dates.

>>17958245
Bump

>>17957635
4th anon here.

But aren't sky girls kinda known for doing that stuff if interested?
Plus coupled with these thing. I kinda think that maybe she isn't letting me down easy, but is just shy or nervous

Laughs at my not-so-funny, slightly teasing jokes. Then sorta teases me in response

Locks eyes from a distance

Never texts first, but has no issues talking for hours on end. I she'll even work to keep it going if there is clear way out. But she almost never takes the way out

When we first met and had semi similar schedules see would show up near me in an otherwise empty room/building.

Makes it a point to try an push me to become an Emt. Which she is one, but also knows that I want to do it soon. >>17957635

>>17958833
Do it upfront. You spare yourself the anxiety of waiting for the right moment, and if they realize (not unlikely) that you met up with them in order to "confess" that will only make everything seem bigger and more dramatic.

>>17958817
What about rest of the body hair?

>>17958839
But it'll only be able to be by text if I do it up front. I've known them for a monthish (or a bit more) I've never asked someone out irl, only once or twice through text (both times things never worked out or wasn't what it seemed) so never had a gf. I don't wanna mess this up because I see this person differently than anyone else I've ever liked.

I guess it'd probably be more shitty if I asked them up front just to get turned down but through text, I'm worried about confessing.

>>17958846
Keep in mind I don't speak for everyone, I'm European and bodyhair is a thing for me. But I love it all. At most there are areas (back hair, ass hair) that I feel mostly neutral about. But if you're that hairy, shaving it off in any particular place is going to look weird as fuck anyway, and it doesn't bother me one bit.

I LOVE pubes, stomach hair and chest hair (also in that order). I don't feel as strongly about arm hair or leg hair but I do very much miss it when it's shaved. Same for pits. Hair on the feet/hands is strangely cute and endearing to me.

Out of those I could deal with a guy shaving his armpits or his chest. Pubes or stomach hair would be an issue.

From a long time of having female friends, at least from my fellow Euros typical preferences seem to be:
>don't touch the happy trail
>trim your pubes
>chest hair depends on whether it's full or patchy, doesn't matter much
>unshaved arms & legs are weird
>please shave crack, back and trim the armpit hair

I always get the impression that Americans are much easier grossed out by bodily stuff in general and bodyhair especially... so yeah obviously this is just anecdotal opinions here.

>>17958832
I'd say it's probably about as offputing for a man to to picture his cute crush being the prostitute.

Have a friend i had been meeting up with for a couple of months now on/off, text each other every once in a while. She was/is one of my few friends since I started and we had been getting on really well.

Last night, we went out, sort of had been misinterpreting these as dates, but i genuinely found her a really admirable person. Asked if she had a bf and she said she was seeing someone, but had only recently broken up with her boyfriend when i first arrived. I was a little devastated. For the past month she'd been creeping into my mind, i was pretty sure i was falling for her.

Later that evening an hour after we parted ways, over text i told her that i really enjoyed her company and admitted i had slight feelings for her. I also told her i'd give her some space and that it'd be good for me too, so i'd get over her.

Was it the right move? I sort of regret it, I feel like i've backstabbed her, but I only wanted to only temporarily cut contact so I could be a better friend later and not some spiteful orbiter.

She hasn't responded.

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>>17957223
People want stuff that's better suited to their needs, and nobody is entitled to sex.

You're implying there should be a wheelchair accessible ramp paved through women's rational thought and freedoms, straight to their vagina. You're like cripple Hitler.

Girls

If a guy friend of yours asked you for help with meeting cute girls. Would you help him?

my only female friend is a uni student, and I have no way to meet girls, so I was thinking about asking her to show me around her campus and help me meet girls.. but I feel sort of embarrassed to ask that..

>>17958886
I'd be really thrilled to be a wingwoman but at least speaking for myself I would not really have amazing resources. I have great friends but I know them all so well that the chance of a random guy being a great match with them is small... and it's kind of tricky setting a close friend up with someone. What happens if their relationship fails or is just unhappy overall? What's your role in that?

But I go to an overwhelmingly female dominated university so I would be thrilled to bring a guy along to a party there, stuff like that. And I think many girls harbor a secret desire to get to thoroughly advise someone on their personal clothes/haircut etc.

>>17958886
I love playing matchmaking, so I say go for it. I think a lot of girls enjoy pairing their friends off as well.

>>17956598
>crush on girl
>try talking to her for a bit
>she's not having any of it
>back off and treat her like anyone else
>completely stops responding whenever i say anything (good morning, hi, etc)
>refuses to look at me
>avoids walking past me

I feel like I've committed some grave offense, and I'm wondering if I should ask her about it, or just let it lie and pretend she doesn't exist too.

Any input from either gender is appreciated.

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>>17957251
>>17958020
bump

>>17958895

I'm not specifically asking for her to hook me up with one of her friends, but just show me where girls are, and get me in a situation where I can freely talk with them. I don't think I'd do well if she straight up walked me up to a girl and introduced me, it would feel too forced.

>>17958898

Ok, thanks. I feel a bit nervous because I'm not a Uni student. So I have no idea how you are suppose to approach and talk to a random girl on a campus. (I don't know how to do that in general anyways)

>>17958673
No offense, but with that mentality you'll stay a virgin

Sure there are exceptions, but i rather get rejected and forget it after 5 minutes than spending the rest of the day thinking what could have been, would she say yes, etc

>>17958886
I don't see why not, unless he's hopelessly unattractive.

>>17958905
back off. don't even try to apologize. she wants nothing to do with you, and that's a choice she made based on something you have no fault over.

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>>17958917
>mfw I almost asked her about it this morning

Thanks anon. Sucks, but I guess that's life.

>>17958633
>Regret is worse than rejection
eh, imo there's no reason to try if you know the answer is no

regretting not asking someone out is a lot better than regretting asking someone out and having it blow up in your face

>>17958905
Just leave her alone. She probably recognized your intentions and now feel like if she does anything, it may be read as leading you on or teasing you.

Just leave her alone, and eventually she may start being nice again once she realizes you've backed off asking her out.

>>17958871
Understandable move

Stop overthinking it, u cant change it anyway
Focus on yourself and look out for a new girl

>>17958925
excelent. all you'd have achieved would've been feeding her ego by being the dude who keeps "stalking" her despite her best efforts.

I feel like my boyfriend rarely actually makes time for me and just spends time with me when he doesn't have anything better to do.
I don't feel like a priority at all, but I feel like when he's not too busy with work, his family, his friends he spends time with me, without taking in any actual consideration my schedule and my needs.

Like, I don't know. He goes away to visit his family. I tell him I'm going to study all day so when he's free we can spend time together. He doesn't give a shit about me all day, doesn't text me goodmorning or goodnight like he usually does, doesn't reply my texts ever, but in the fucking middle of my study session he texts me and expects me to put effort in the conversation because he's bored. I tell him I need to study but can reply here and there, and then he says "well you can go, I'll go do X with my brother".

Isn't it a bit inconsiderate? Am I petty for getting mad over this stuff?

>>17957636
How do you have good form on leg press? It's a machine - there's almost no way to do it wrong unless you're being stupid.

>>17958915

She compliments my blue eyes a lot and has called me cute... so I'm assuming I'm ok..

>>17958932
Yeah, that's probably for the best. Gonna be weird though, since I am so chummy with literally everyone else.

>>17958938
Perhaps you should try to participate in this visits to friends and family, it could bring you closer together and generate quality time too.
It's just a bit annoying when couples are only with each other all the time, so making it social, specially when he seems to like it, seems like a nice option.

I don't think it's horrible not texting your SO when you're busy with something else, it is very disrespectful of him to just demand attention whenever and it is very inconsiderate. Have you told him how you feel about this?

>>17958928
1. How do you know the answer is no if you didnt try ( except the obvious shit I.E. bf/gf )

2. >asking someone out and having it blow up in your face
Since when was dating any different? Like do you really think that shit aint gonna happen atleast 50 times?

Youre gonna get rejected, a lot.
But why should you stop? Just because one girl doesnt like you, doesnt lower your chances on the next girl so stop making up bullshit excuses

>Fall for a girl
>She would randomly sit next to me in mostly empty rooms
>Talk to her, we are friendly enough
>Try asking her to lunch
>Say yes, but drags a guy friend along
>Awkward lunch. Guy friend hits on her, and she wants nothing to do with it. (Ends up breaking contact for an unknown reason with him)
>Nothing happens after
>I catch her staring at me, and occasionally she doesn't look away, instead we just stare into each other eyes for a few seconds.
>She still never texts me first, but she will keep the conversation going if I do text her. Sometimes for 6-10 hrs.
>I sometimes slip in jokes that kinda tease her. No one finds them funny, but she still laughs. She sometimes teases me similarly
>She Makes it a point to try an push me to become an Emt. Which she is one, but also knows that I want to do it soon.
>She is always seeming willing to meet up, says "Definitely" and "We Can always give it a shot!" but will never commit to an actual day. But she seems kinda disappointed.


What to do? I am pretty sure that she knows I am interested in her

>>17958964
well, i'm special (specially ugly)
but yeah it's pretty damn easy to tell if someone is interested in you, and when they aren't.

it is not normal to get rejected a lot

>>17958956
I honestly can't go visit his family, I am in a fairly demanding university and I can't take 3-4 days off studying. He works so when he doesn't have to work he is actually free, but yeah, I have to study 6-8 hours a day to stay on track so it's more complicated.
When I'm free I prefer spending my time with my own family or my friends, or him.

I never told him anything about this, I was honestly wondering if I am jut a petty bitch for getting upset over this kind of stuff (and it might be the case).
He rarely makes time for dates, rarely makes time for spending time with me, I just have to basically be there whenever he's free and rarely get his undivided attention anyway.
My schedule is much more flexible than his, and I get that, but I still feel like he doesn't give half a shit about me when I'm just a filler.

>>17958972
Specially ugly? Explain

Yes i know what you mean but to check if someone interested in you you gotta talk to them and thats exactly the point.

Instead of making up excuses for not talking to her, just start a conversation, and if you realize your talking to a wall, just abort mission and fuck it

>it is not normal to get rejected a lot
And that Ladies and Gentlemen is the keydifference between alphas and betas

While betas overthink the rejection and take it as something personal, alphas take the rejection as it is ( just a simple no ), dont give a fuck and look for the next girl

>>17959001
talking =/= asking out

>>17958969
Dude go for her
If shes the only one laughing at your jokes and looks into ur eyes for a couple secs shes into you

Ask her for a date, if she wants to take another guy friend straight up tell her that its just you two

You basically got her already, good luck bro

>>17959005
We were talking about beginning a conversation with a girl, if youd check >>17957636

You still gotta explain why your specially ugly

>>17958964
>Like do you really think that shit aint gonna happen atleast 50 times

That's very discouraging

>>17959011
But her bringing the guy along the first time, and the reluctance to meet up a second time is a bit unsettling.

>>17959036
Yeah, should have told her that on the first time but its in past, cant change it

But all signals show shes interested so no reason for not trying

>>17959051
I guess the first time I kinda accepted it as just her being shy and wanting someone that she knew a bit kinda to make it less awkward.
It's already known that she is shy as all hell, so that is probably a contributing factor.

Still though, if she is interested in me, why is she so reluctant to get together?

I guess I'll message her at the end of the week asking how her EMT Certification went, and kinda figure it from there.

How hard is it for a non-uni student to go into a uni and meet girls? I literally know nothing about campus life and customs

>>17959029
Im not here to sweet talk you, its the harsh reality and not gonna lie, the first couple times will be awkward af BUT

With every rejection youll get, you become stronger and learn how to talk to girls

Go to YouTube, search for SimplePickup
Dont ask, just do it and watch a couple vids. If you really want to talk to girls, it might help as it helped me

>>17959069

It sounds like a waste of energy.


If I have to go on dozens and dozens of failed dates, what's the fucking point?

>>17959065
You just answered your own question
>she is shy as all hell

And DON'T wait till end of the week
Playing it safe might destroy your chances as she could always meet someone

As a wise man once said : JUST DO IT

>>17959087
Honestly, it's been like this for almost a year. First met at the end of January, that Lunch was in Early April. So, I think another few days won't hurt. Especially since we only spoke Monthly or bi-weekly at best. Besides I just feel too awkward just messaging her outta the blue if I spoke to her within the past couple weeks.

>>17959075
1. You dont have to go on dates, just talking to different girls can already make a difference

2. For me, the point is collecting all kinds of experience, cuz sooner or later, i will met a girl who stands out from every other one, and by having all these experiences i know how relationships work etc

I know it sounds idealistic as fuck but i would hate myself, if i met her and somehow fuck it up

>>17958939
Cause 99% of people half leg press and do it extra fast. From what I saw they were doing all their exercises nicely and controlled. Just because it is a machine doesn't mean you don't have to worry about form.

>>17959099
Do as you please, i just know from experience what could happen when you tell yourself "next week", etc

Anyway, good luck

>>17959116
I see what you mean, but given that she's acted like this towards me for close to a year, she probably has fallen for me to such a degree that she can't find someone else. You know what I mean?

It's only till Friday that I'm waiting, as she has the Certification on Thursday.

>>17959101

Well couldn't we just learn all of this on /adv/.

Honestly, I read so much on here that when one of my friends who's an autist met this girl he liked, I gave him advice based off what I've learned here the past 5 years. And it really helped him. He's been in a solid relationship with her, and he actually thanked me for solid advice for what type of gifts to get her, when he needed to make his first move, how to do it. Everything. I have no personal experience with girls either. It was all just what I learned from here.

>>17958835
well that sounds much more inviting. Might as well ask her directly what's up with that, I guess.

>>17959124
I know what you mean and dont think shes falling for someone else, if you really ask her out on friday you should be fine

But what im concerned at is the fact that she had an unanswered crush on you for about a year, you never know if her feelings for you are still that strong, life can be a bitch afterall

So yeah, dont wait too long

>>17959025
>You still gotta explain why your specially ugly
I'm not really sure. I think there is just something really off about my personality

>>17959067
It seems kind of strange to just roam around campus and hit on girls if you have no business there. I doubt it would go well.

>>17959153
Yea, I see what you mean. But as far as I know, she probably feels the same for me as she has at the start. But we haven't seen each other in person since May (other than briefly in passing last semester)

I don't really know how I want to word this with her when I do message her Friday. In the past I never worded it romantically, but I am pretty sure that she knows I am interested in her.

>>17959176

Well, how else am I suppose to meet cute single girls?

The average age group where I live is 38-42 years old.... I'm 25. The only place I know where young people are is the university

>>17959133
Cuz that would be too easy
Jk, do what you want, its your life afterall, but what i can tell you is that you learn the most just by doing

>>17959155
Dont be so harsh on yourself
>take care of your appeareance (take a shower, dont be smelly,etc )
>believe in yourself, sounds gay af but its a huge turn off for girls if the guy doesnt believe in what he stands for
>it doesnt really matter WHAT youre talking about but rather HOW you talk, be polarizing, keep her attention
>let her know about ur intentions, she should know that youre not looking for normal friendship

And always keep in mind
>If it is to be, its up to me

>>17959184
I wouldnt text her desu, try to call her as its more personal

Be direct but friendly, male sure she knows that its gonna be a date

>>17959196
Tbh instead desu
Make*

>fucking samsung keyboard

>>17959196
Yea, I know it's not the best, but we haven't spoken verbally since May. So, it can be sorta awkward as I am also shy as all hell.

So, sadly, I kinda am stuck with text...

How to find a Disney princess to date?

>>17959238
Be a disney prince instead of a neckbeard faggot

>>17959215
Call her, if you havent spoken to each other since May, its more special to her, trust me

I know it could be awkward but if you like the girl its worth it

If youre that shy, here what i would do

Call her, ask her how her certificate went, if it went well, ask her if she wants to go out, celebrating 'nd shit, shes gonna say yes, believe me

Go to the cinema, after that go to a bar, take a drink etc
If everything works out, try to go for a kiss, look for the signals ( staring on your lips, etc ), and kiss her if it feels right to you

Hope i helped you somehow

>>17959259
I guess, but still. That is literally the worst for me to use. I can barely hold a conversation over the phone if its with someone who I havent spoken to in a long time.

I'll try to work up the nerve to do so, but it probably won't happen. I'll still probably use that plan of action anyway. Gonna change up the places though. I can't take her to a bar though. Given that I am still 20. Though I kinda wanted to take her to Wollman Rink in NYC, then for a nice dinner after. But it is like 1hr by train...

>>17959238

Why the fuck would you put yourself through that..

Male here, I think I'm noticing a pattern that whenever a girl says we should hang out, meet up, etc. And I respond with when I'm available they kinda just stop talking about it. Am I onto something here?

>>17959283
You dont have to hold a long ass conversation, you basically just have to ask how her certficiate went, and ask her for the date and then say your at work right now so you gotta hang up or something

If you do this, i promise to you, that you feel stronger than ever before and you learn how to deal with the anxiety. I had exactly the same problems as i was bullied for a couple years which fucked my last bit of confidence. You got to take actions to actually change something in your life, the effort is always worth it. Go watch SimplePickup or something like that, it might help you as much as it did for me

Your plan sounds good to me, idk if thats your first date and all but yeah best wishes from me

>>17959332
You do know that "we should hang out" etc isnt always 100% honest as they try to be a nice person?

>>17959332
>>17959343
This. Often it is more a general way to show goodwill and willingness to spend time with you, not saying they actually want to meet up stat. This happens to me semi-regularly as well platonically. I have acquaintances who tell me we should hang out every. single. time. we run into each other and we never do. It's understood that we like each other but just not enough to make the extra effort. No hard feelings on either side.

>>17959343
I think in my current situation that may not be the case but in the past yeah I'd definitely agree that it's likely. Any suggestions going forward?

>>17959356
I hadn't thought about it this way. I'll probably just try to cool it and agree with them rather than handing out my schedule. It gets easy to get over excited when nobody ever invites me to hang out it's always the other way around

I have a girls number from like 5 months ago when she was dating another guy, do I ask her out in person? wouldnt that be weird since i have her number? or do I just do it via text? we never texted much. Not sure if she likes me or not.

Any tips on how to finger a girl properly?

I always end up feeling like I'm not doing it right with my girlfriend. She says she enjoys it, but I don't think I'm getting close to making her orgasm.

I usually just try circling around the clit, or sliding up and down as well. I never know how much pressure I should use or how fast I should be going.

>>17959238
Start singing in public and see who joins you

>>17959372
Dont, youre gonna look like a creep

>>17959374
I'd be a little cautious of anyone who came up to me and started singing in public lol

>>17959114
You sound like a gym noob. There's nothing impressive about doing leg presses "with good form"

>>17959365
Nah, I actually think you should be pro-active. Who cares if you feel more like it than they do, especially if you hardly know each other - then in all fairness they cannot even really know yet how exactly they feel about your prolonged company.

I would flip it around and instead of going "sure, I'm free then and then" get on top of actually planning something. Ask her what she'd like to do, offer some suggestions. If she's being a complete limp fish then ("idk, ok, sure, smiley") you know to drop it and not to expect anything. But she might be pleasantly surprised by your enthusiasm as well.
Charming/seducing someone also means convincing them that you're great... I get that it's uncomfortable but you need to sometimes learn to not wait for people to make room for you. This was hard for me as well but it saves you so much stress.

>>17959373
https://youtu.be/vrqYhFfEStk

>>17959336
I know I don't have to talk long, but I think she'll be at work then anyway. And then there is the fact that my voice is terrible.

And I am kinda not too sure if the think I mentioned is reasonable for a first date. Taking the train 1hr into NYC to go ice skating? Especially since the girl and I live ~30 minutes from each other. Maybe a local restaurant may be better.

Truthfully, I haven't had a relationship, and I don't think she really had one either. So, I am kinda new to this...

>>17959373
How much pressure is entirely personal, depends on how sensitive she is and whether she likes teasing soft movements or rough and full on. Best for this is just asking her to finger herself so you can see what her default way of doing it is.

Other than that though, fingering's straightforward. Make sure she is really nice and wet, the slicker her pussy area is the better your fingers will feel on her. So it's important to make sure you use ample fluids to lube the top area. Along with making sure she's wet and you're doing it the way she likes it, all you can do is keep a nice rhythm going that makes her anticipate and yearn for your next move.

Other than that, fingering just feels good. Some girls can come from it and some can't. There is little variety because most girls know what they like, and other than some occasional teasing there is little else they want in that regard. What's fun about fingering is that you have a lot of options with what else to do - you can have natural eye contact or be all pressed up together, there can be kissing and/or grinding, penetration even, you get the idea.

>>17959383
I appreciate the honesty. Any ideas on how to dig back out of this hole? Like me saying when I'm free halted the conversation. Wait a few days and come back with a plan etc.? This is someone who I haven't seen in a while but know decently well so I'm not super concerned that I will scare them off altogether.
Thanks again, your advice seems solid and I will give it a go once I'm back in this scenario

>>17959400
Thanks, I appreciate the advice

>>17959404
First of all, you need to gather as many people around you as possible. Someone asking you for directions for something you're also heading towards? Tell them they can come along. Someone at college bemoaning that they're so nervous for their presentation? Offer to let them rehearse it for you and give some feedback as a listener. Someone saying they would like to go to x event but don't know anyone who'll come? You'll come.
It's not a matter of whoring yourself out to everyone. If you meet up once and have no chemistry, don't bother trying to arrange another situation to spend time. You just want to experience being with a lot of people in a lot of different circumstances. One advantage is that this helps your social skills, but that's not even the most important. The most important is that it gives you a frame of reference and perspective that will help you not take it too personally if someone is shitty or flaky or anything like that. If you barely interact with (new) people, you give them so much power to give "feedback" that makes you feel like there's no hope. The best social protection against bad experiences is the firm conviction that it's not on you if other people act like rabid cunts for no reason.

Also in this specific case, strike up a conversation, talk to them for a while. Then incorporate a suggestion, eg you're talking about a movie and suggest you could watch a similar one together. Then you can go with that conversational branch and ask if she'd like that or whether she prefers something more active, or actually going into town etc. As I mentioned you can also 90% likely tell from how she responds to that stuff whether she sincerely feels like seeing you or not. Though I'm still in favor of just regarding her as a chance to get some practice even if she doesn't feel too strongly about seeing you. And people change their mind all the time, too.

No problem, best of luck!

to all the guys in this place, im a guy too

im 23, and i am starting to see tiny back hair near my spine and i hate body hair that isnt in the face.
do any of you guys have this too?, how do i know if that hair is going to become thicker and longer?

>>17959408
No problem! Also you know your own girl best, but as a woman who thinks fingering is great and underrated: a guy I'm seeing saying something flirty, pulling me in by the waistband of my jeans, unbuttoning them, slipping in a hand and starting to finger me without breaking eye contact, just closely taking in my responses... will never fail to thrill me.

>>17959388
So what?
Guys have to treat girls in a special way cuz they want to feel special. So if your calling her while youre at work or whatsoever, she gets the feeling that youre thinking about her while youre at work, which makes her special. Also by calling her you imply some sort of alpha behavior as you do what you want, this alphabehavior is one of the sexiest things for women

>Confidence is key.

Also everyone thinks his own voice is terrible so chill dude

Okay, so your plans for the first date are not that important aslong as you two do something together, try to fit it into her interests, like if she loves animals, go to the local zoo or shit

>>17959244
What the fuck did you just say about me, you little bitch?

>>17959316
What's wrong? Disney princesses are nice, delicate, pretty.

>>17959374
LOL

>>17959377
Are you a princess?

>>17959430
>Razors bl

A few questions for the madames:

Wemon look at me weird when I wear my cape, is it because they're jealous of me?

How do I get out of the friendzone?

Are all women as vapid and senseless as the ignorant swine on OKCupid?

Where can a gentleman find love?

>>17959447
>Also everyone thinks his own voice is terrible so chill dude
I've had people who know be completely stop dealing with me because they cant stand my voice.


I am honestly most afraid that I might freeze up with her, and then just awkward silence. She already know's that I am nervous with speaking to her.

So I'm very interested in my coworker. We have become pretty decent friends working together so closely 3 days a week, I'm already over not pursuing her since we work together, its happening. I told her I liked her over a month ago and she gave me some b.s about not wanting a relationship or to be romantically involved with anyone, yet I do feel like she likes me, heavy eye contact/smiling whenever I talk to her directly, always nice to me when she's seemingly with everyone else. I've noticed she mimics my body language when we have idle time at work, I've noticed it awhile and I'm no sperg lord. Recently agreed to hang out for the first time alone at one another's place, she texts me a day later asking if we can wait until she's off her period to hang out. Does this mean she might wanna fuck? I'm 23 and she's 20 if that matters.

>>17959457
Elliot pls. Go back to your grave!

>>17959463
Depends if you like sharing the girl with other men because monogamy seems out of the picture. Date someone else in a seriously exclusive manner.

>>17959463
Seemingly a bitch witheveryone else*

>>17959459
If she hated your voice she would have left by that time
And even if your voice is that bad, think about what i said about confidence, dont show her any sign that you feel embarrassed, it makes you look weak and pathetic

>protip : if you call her, smile while you talk to her, youll sound more pleasant

Im honest, its most likely going to be like this in the first 10 minutes, but youll warm up fast enough
Keep the conversation going, the topic doesnt matter, just sound confident in what your saying

Also, if she already knows that youre shy, its most likely that she is talking more than you do

>>17959451
thats the thing, i dont know if i should expect myself to shave it in the future when it becomes thicker and you can notice it without paying attention

>>17959501
That shit is myth

Now go off 4chan and shave

>>17959496
>Also, if she already knows that youre shy, its most likely that she is talking more than you do
It's more 60/40 with me leading and talking only slightly more than her. Still though I usually initiate anyway with her.

>If she hated your voice she would have left by that time
I guess so, and it was usually like 4-5 years ago when people would kind get annoyed with my voice. I think it kinda "Normalized" by now anyway.

>Im honest, its most likely going to be like this in the first 10 minutes, but youll warm up fast enough
>Keep the conversation going, the topic doesnt matter, just sound confident in what your saying
Yea, I guess. Fuck. I'll try to call her, but like I said, I'll probably back out. Though if she actually interested like you think, it shouldn't matter too much if I call or text, just as long as it is known to be date like?

>>17959378
I've been lifting on and off for 4 years. I'm not saying that the Leg Press is impressive by any means. I am just saying that 99% of the time people half rep it. Seeing someone actually do it slow and controlled while actually going all the way down is something you don't normally see.

>>17959192
wow thanks for that incredibly basic guide to being a human being

>>17959378
You can fuck up your spine you n00bl37

>>17959516
And yet, 4chan is filled with kissles Wizards who dont know how to talk to a woman

>>17959539
i am not a kissless wizard

i wish i was sometimes though

>>17959511
As i said, dont overthink everything

Well, i dont think it matters that much but i told youalready, women want to feel special
Calling her might get you some more points u know? Also if you want to beat your anxiety you got to face little challenges, step by step, until your confident enough to talk to random girls on the street

>>17959548
Follow yours dreams.

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Alright so there is this girl i like at work. Chick friend said to invite her to a group event.
What the fuck is a group event. And what do you females think would be a good one to choose.

>>17959426
I will probably go ahead and re-read How to Win Friends and Influence People too, I read it about a year ago but it's my understanding that people read it religiously to keep up to snuff

>>17959559
I guess it could help slightly, but it could kind hurt a fair bit as well if I do completely freeze up.

If this was in person, it woulda been much easier. But, its not.

>>17959567
Take her to a bar with a couple friends, ffs anon its not that hard

>>17959570
You wont freeze up, the more you think about it the more you fuck yourself up.

Stop thinking, stick to the plan, make some notes what you could say before calling her and youll be fine anon

>>17959580
Well, I mean I have frozen up with her in person once before. Granted I didn't even start talking to her then.

Online dating/Tinder/texting seems so damn confusing, like a really contrived board game. Is it possible to find a gf the traditional way?

>>17959593
Chill

Keep in mind that this girl likes you the way you are
She wont hate you for freezing up, it wont change shit

Youll become stronger from experience, just ask her on friday

Good luck bro, i got to go now

>>17959509
i know hair gets thicker with age, im asking if is it normal for men to have small back hair near their spine

>>17958832
>It's about as off putting for many women to envision as it is for a man to picture their cute crush being penetrated in both holes at once by tinder dates.

Guess I can see that. I've always equated it to one-night stands, which I feel women see as being one tier less creepy, but in the end both are looked down upon. Can't say I blame 'em.

>>17959609
Thanks

I'll try to call her. But I don't think i'll end up doing it, and will probably end up texting her.

>Girls have extremely long fingernails
>It looks hot
>There are situations in which I cannot imagine it working

Girls, how do you use toilet paper or how do you pick a nose with fingernails that long? Do you have your nose and ass all cut or do you have some workaround?

>>17959463
Woah.
Besides the sperg part your situation seems similar to mine. Friend told me being direct would end in failure instead work slowly to hang out outside of work.
You may have fuck up completly though

Guys,

After you lost your virginity did you end up going wild, e.g partying, hooking up, flings, fwb? If you did, do you regret the time spent on that?

>>17959662
I don't have mine long enough to where it becomes a problem, but they are longish.

Wiping was never a problem. My nails are covered by the toilet paper.

Picking your nose is easier with long nails.

Occasionally my nails would break. Most annoying thing is cutting up food with long nails Or using a box cheese grater. Since I occasionally chop off part of my nail in the process.

>>17958969
>>17959099

Like I told you last time, dude, you just need to talk to her. When will you stop coming to us for validation?
There's nothing wrong with talking to her "out of the blue". You need to use the word "date" when you ask her out on one, and you should tell her that you like her.
You're obviously frustrated with her. Is she really worth it if this is what her communication is like?

>>17959596
What's the traditional way? I met my boyfriend through a mutual friend when we were both asked to help with a project. Is that what you mean?

>>17959743
I know, I know.... I need to just term it a date and be done with this. I just can't bring my self to doing so, as I really value her as just a friend, and I don't want to loose that incase she doesn't feel the same.

Honestly, in my eyes she's one of the best people I know, and is definitely worth it

>>17959821
He might be one of those people who equate love with drama, pain, and fighting. He might be unnerved, thinking that something bad is just over the horizon. He might be thinking that if you aren't fighting, that you aren't really battling for love. Or something stupid like that.
Sounds like he has some issues to deal with. I assume that he didn't give you any more information when you pressed him about what he meant?

Girls , i met a girl on a party and afterwards we went to her apartment to have sex, but i couldn't keep up the boner because (probably) i smoked weed before, but i made her cum with oral and masturbated her a lot, and she kept saying how hot i was.

I want to know if the fact that i couldn't keep a boner is a huge dealbreaker even though i sorta satisfied her by other means.

(It wasn't a one night stand, but the start of something that i pretend to invest)

Girls, who is a male example of someone who is considered objectively charismatic?

for the guys

I was talking to a guy for a few months, and he quickly fell for me. I really liked him, but my ex who broke up with me like the same week i met this other guy decided he wanted to try again like 2 months later. We were together for over a year and a half, and there were still feelings there, so I chose my ex over this new guy. The new guy tried to be my friend, but I ultimately cut him off. I was happy getting back with my ex for a few months, but now I just feel like I chose the wrong guy, and I miss him too. He's probably moved on by now, but I want to try again with him. Is there any chance? I feel like I would be hurting him a lot if I just tried to dm him or send him a text.

>>17958914
I think that's a little unfair, if a girl rejects him and is an unrepentant bitch about it, he'd probably rather just never deal with her. Getting rejected by normal people with normal reasons is just part of the learning process though.

There are some bitchy girls out there.

Actually to both genders

Which key words would you use to search for cheating signs on your GF's FB ? Already tried a lot of the usual ones so try to be thorough

>>17959692
>Or using a box cheese grater. Since I occasionally chop off part of my nail in the process.

Think of it as a warning system to stop you from grating before you slice the tip of your finger off. Much more useful than annoying.

>>17960284
You've aired too much dirty laundry while you knew him. There is too much value in meeting someone new while starting with a clean slate. You should move on.

I wouldn't reconsider being with a woman who chose her ex over me; it's too obviously the wrong decision no matter WHAT the context imo.
I'm 99 percent sure that your previous disassociation with him is going to stick in the bottom of hIs mind. If he rolls over in spite of that, then he's a beta cuck. It feels like a lose-lose.

I'm not saying it's a certain disaster waiting to happen, but I definitely wouldn't bet on that relationship going well in the long term.

If you are wondering where I am coming from with my information, then feel free to ask me personal info.

>>17960726
He seemed really understanding and courteous of everything i ever told him, I don't think it would be him being beta.

Whats your experience with a situation like this?