ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

How do I get pics of me doing stuff and having fun with friends and girls for my tindr, grindr, okc, pof and bumble profile if I only leave the house for work and the gym?

>>16930223
Get your friends to do fun things and take pictures. Duh

>>16930238
I don't have friends.

Even if I did, are guys normally doing something fun together and one is like "hey Chad, take a selfie with me at the beach lolnohomo"

>>16930243
Then you're going to have to deal with having no photos of yourself doing fun things with friends.

I got in fight by some drunk guy probably homeless so I got little cut probably from his nail when he grabbed my face.

I am huge germaphobe can I get some dangerous disease from this ?

>>16930245
Disinfect it. Put on a bandaid.

>>16930254
I didn't disinfect it another problem.I just went asleep and this morning washed my face.

>>16930245
>huge germaphobe
>I didn't disinfect it

Pretty dumbass for a germophobe.
Keep the cut clean and nothing bad should happen. Eventually, if you notice fever or if the cut seems weird, see a doctor.

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My ex is suddenly interested in texting me, asking my dating life and all, even though he told me he has met someone a few weeks back. He added that it's nothing serious yet. He was kinda flirting with me, and said that I'm the funniest girl he has ever met. He was telling me bad jokes and all, just like old times when he was trying to hit on me in the beginning wen we first met.

I mean what, why?

>>16930264
Then just keep it clean. A little dirt isn't going to kill you.

You'll know if it's infected because you'll get a fever. Being that you're a germaphobe though, you may think you're getting a fever just by worrying so much about it.

Sexually active girls can you tell when you're banging a guy that it's his first time
I don't want to tell my gf but then again maybe she'll be able to tell
I'm 24 so I'm pretty embarrassed

>>16930289
If he pretty much knows what he's doing, no.
Even if he's not good, I'll assume he's bad in bed.
But, really, if you're some what intimate and trust her, you should tell her.
She might be able to guide you and help you, telling you what she likes and all.

Girls,

How soon is too soon when you're hitting up a girl after a date? Don't wanna seem desperate.

I can't tell if this woman I'm interested in is straight or not. She wears very dark lipstick (like Scandinavian platinum skin with dark dark burgundy lipstick). Is this a sign of non-heteronormativity?

>>16930331
Straight girls wear that lipstick too. Your best course of action is to find out by asking her out.

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>ask girl out last October
>she said "no", it was awkward as fuck but whatever, I moved on
>in December she started working in the building next to my workplace
>in January she goes to lunch every day in the same place I've been going for lunch for the last two years every day
>stop eating there
>in February find out she moved into my same apartment complex I'm in

What is going on? I'm over it but being reminded daily of being rejected is kind of a shitty feeling. Is there a chance she's intentionally doing this or is it just a string of poor coincidences?

>>16930300
Well we've been going out for 3 weeks and see each other 2-3 times a week. As for intimate well we pretty much swapped life stories early on. I've heard so many stories about how they'll make fun of you, break up with you, tell all her girlfriends etc.
>Even if he's not good, I'll assume he's bad in bed.
I'd rather just have that... would you naturally suggest things in that scenario? Or do I have to bring it up and be like "so what do you like, what do you want to try"

>>16930337

Isn't it a faux-pas to ask someone their orientation plainly? We're not friends or even acquaintances, she's a friend of a friend.

What should I expect getting into a relationship with an older girl. I'm a 19 year old guy and she's 26 so there's about a 7 year difference. I'm already great friends with her and we're both interested in each other but I'm sure not everything will be smooth sailing (for any relationship but...) because of that age gap. Any advice? I don't think it's common for this kinda thing to happen with the girl being older.

>>16930342
At the beginning of the relationship, I prefer avoiding suggesting sexual stuff because I know guys feel bad about it.
So maybe - Tell her you're a bit inexperienced and you want her to suggest what you can do to please her?

>>16930345
Don't ask her about her orientation, that's none of your business. ASK HER OUT. If she says no, it doesn't matter if she's a lesbian or not.

>>16930347
Expect her to get bored of you because you're so much younger than her

>>16930347
When I was 19-20 I dated a 24-25 year old woman and it was awesome.
>What should I expect
Her clock is ticking and she knows you could dump her for a younger hotter girl. So she's willing to put up with all that weird kinky shit you want even though she doesn't like it. There's less headgames and shit testing because she's not a kid anymore. But she's also looking for a husband so the expectations are high and there will be arguments about the future. It will affect her social status to be dating younger and her relatives will judge her causing insecurities.

If you don't care what her parents think then cool, you're about to have the best sex of your life, and in 2 years she'll want to get married.

>>16930370
How far did she go for you? BDSM? Anal? Deepthroating with swallowing?

>>16930342
Same problem here, except I worried about it so much that I systematically lost my boner anytime I was about to penetrate her. Stress is bad, don't worry about sex, it's supposed to be fun (for her of course) but for you too, don't forget that. Try to have long foreplays, so you get to know her body, foreplay is easier as you have more control over yourself and can give her pleasure without stressing. After like one week I eventually grew confortable and lost my virginity. I never told her she was my first time, but I did tell her that I was really inexperienced and that she was kind of my "real first time". If she loves you (like mine does) it's okay, she will be understanding and help you through it. Just do your best to try and pleasure her and don't forget to have fun too.
Also be open about sex, when you do something try to see the clues, to see if she enjoys it, and ask her if she likes it. Tell her what you like (obviously at the beginning it might not be really easy, but as your relationships evolves you get more confident with talking to her about that and start to create complicity).
Last thing, my few first times (like 4 or 5 first times) were really fast and I felt really bad about it (even though my girlfriend was really supportive) so if the same happens to you, don't worry, it gets better with time. Breathe deeply when penetrating her and if you feel like excitement is getting too strong, stop for a while (you can get out of her and squeeze the head of your penis, or pretext changing positions to let the pressure go down). What I do is that I stop, go down on her (so that she stays in the vibe) and then get back in there when I'm calmed down. Don't go fast, slow is good too (even for her). Eventually it's weird but you get used to it and start to control the sensations, at one point it clicks and you get it, but don't be impatient.

Hope this helps, I've been there and don't worry about it, you've managed the hardest part.

My boyfriend and I will be in a long distance for the next 3 months. We meet once every two weeks. He's cold and not flirty at all through text. He wasn't like that when we had to be apart before.
In person we still have chemistry, but through text we're just... friends.

How do I keep things sexy while we're apart?

>>16930406
call him?

>>16930412
We both hate talking on the phone. I think I called him twice in two years.

>>16930414
I hate talking on the phone too but this worked for me

>>16930274
I'm gonna say stay away. That can be a really toxic situation where it's easy to get hurt. Unless you had something really substantial then getting involved in ex's is a bad idea. If they're a reasonable person and you made some reasonable decisions then there's probably a good reason why it ended in the first place. I think part of it is just him thinking of the "what could have been" with rose colored glasses. Be careful that you don't do the same. Think long and hard on what actually went on in the relationship.

Haha, I guess I have two conflicting responses? I appreciate both of them though!
>>16930356
Can you clarify?
>>16930370
Ah, well both of us are virgins, so I guess we'll see what happens. We've both talked about saving sex for marriage. I'm not looking to play any games or mess around so that's good. There's no reason for all that. I hope the fact that I seem to be about her age if someone would have to guess helps that out a bit. Not just in appearance, but apparently the way I behave too. Meeting the parents is probably gonna be... interesting. Honestly, if things continued to progress without some big issues screwing something up, this girl is so cool that I probably wouldn't mind marrying her in 2 years. I've known her for a while but we just recently expressed interest in each other.

>>16930218
So, I kinda have a girls name cut into my leg. The scars are pretty deep and wide and you can clearly tell that it spells out something, if you read it it's undoubtedly a girls name.
How fucked am I because of this? It happened YEARS ago, we were stupid teenagers, etc. What would you think if you saw something like that on someones leg, women? And how should I explain it if it ever comes up?

>>16930245
You probably got whatever was under his nail, like scratched up skin cells lol
Shame you didn't instantly clean it. But you should be fine.

>>16930315
Men I've been out with have often texted me right away. I think it's cute. No reason to wait X amount of time.

>>16930500
I just don't really wanna ruin it with this girl. The date went really great and I just like all of her, like everything she said or did that night made my heart flutter. I don't know how she feels about me.

girls

how do you feel about the guy putting hands/arms around your neck during sex

not actually strangling but in that sort of position

>>16930341
>string of poor coincidences?
Yeah...
You work in the same place, so it seems that both of you have similar wages and could afford an apartment within a reasonable distance from that work, which happens to be the one you're at.

Don't read into it too much.

>>16930406
Interesting, I have this issue too but I'm trying not to read the way they type as them sounding cold, just harder to express in text without using goofy emoticons.

>>16930502
if you are interested in a real relationship, text her and let her know that you're thinking about her

if you're playing games and just trying for sex, you want to keep some mystery to keep her guessing and wondering about you

>>16930507
I am, I just wanna make sure I don't do anything stupid and ruin my chances to be with her. If I text her that she might think I'm clingy and creepy.

>>16930504
Guy here, I think it depends on the girl, I do it with my girlfriend and she likes it. I guess as long as you don't strangle her she shouldn't care (some girls like being strangled though, but ask her before you do it)

>>16930510
then send her something simple and lighthearted

dont get into a serious discussion and dont write her a long love letter just a simple message in a way that says "I'm still here"

>>16930443
Erm, girls? Have I fucked up that badly? Or what?

>>16930443
>What would you think if you saw something like that on someones leg, women?
It doesn't matter what random people think of it. Why does it matter to you?

> And how should I explain it if it ever comes up?
Just tell it how it is.

>>16930506
>Interesting, I have this issue too but I'm trying not to read the way they type as them sounding cold, just harder to express in text without using goofy emoticons.

The "problem" is that we used to be very flirty and even pretty sexual through text in the early stages of the relationship, and now he seems completely distant. Might be that he's stressed or something, I'm trying to not overthink it.
We text constantly, so it's not really a huge deal. It just feels weird to send him flirty things and get ignored.

>>16930543
hes probably masturbating a lot more since thats all he has and it reduced his sex drive

>>16930542
It's not about random people, it's about a potential partner obviously.
I'm not sure if it doesn't come across as weird to have another girls name on your body.

>>16930552
Well this is going to be one of those things that people will be split up on.

On one hand, nobody want's to put someones silly mistakes in the way of a good potential partner (self harm, dumb tats, sexual history etc), but on the other hand there's some thoughts in relation to it that some people can't help.

Honestly, if I saw that I'd probably steer clear. But maybe because I'm also the type who isn't into tattoos either.

If they like you enough, it's for you and you'll know for sure because they see past that mistake.

>>16930543
Yeah I understand that too, I also seemingly get my comments ignored. Even with the wink face strung on the end.

Again, trying not to read into it too hard but when I get ignored I kinda feel down about it. Anyway, will lurk for answers you're getting on this. GL..

>>16930562
>when I get ignored I kinda feel down about it
Yeah, same.

Thanks anon, good luck to you too.

>>16930545
And it's perfectly reasonable, I will never be mad at him for porn or fapping. But since he knows I like sexting and we had a lot of fun with that, I kind of expected it to happen after he moved. But anytime I try to initiate something, he fully ignores it.

I have to ask both genders this question.
Do you guys ever impose an image on someone like 'he's the serious quiet guy' and then never bother to talk to him/her?

>>16930341
yeah I wouldn't over analyze this one, it's really not the big of a coincidence ( although an admittedly shitty coincidence) but you already told her you like her so if she is playing mind games that's stupid, she should know the ball is in her court now.

if you happen to bump into her in the elevator or something just make light of the situation and jokingly tell her to stop stalking you

>>16930584
have the same problem with my gf, she is a super cold and emotionless typer who uses perfect grammar and full sentences, no emoticons

impossible to get any kind of flirtation through text from her, never have any idea if shes pissed off or into it

>>16930443
I would get a tattoo to cover it, or I would explain it just as you explained it to us, you were head over heels for a girl when you were young and dumb and you made a really dumb decision


or maybe find a girl whose name matches the name on your leg. she might find it charming or really creepy. probably the latter

>>16930612
I am all perfect grammar and full sentences and no emoticons, but I do flirt. I think that there are ways to convey it even without emojis and stuff. I actually find it pretty annoying when a guy uses emojis while we're flirting.

We used to have these extremely sexual inside jokes, he used to make nice comments about my butt and breasts all the time, about how much he loved doing this or that. He kept the count of the inappropriate boners I gave him while he was at uni/work. And it was fun, I liked it. Now we chat about random bullshit and we seem like old friends.

>>16930628
see when I see perfect grammar like that it comes across really flatly and bored

Women, why haven't you dealt with radical feminists yet?

They're making real feminists look bad.

>>16930643
real feminists are radical feminists, I think you underestimate how many women are totally cool with the status quo of women do this men do that

i'm sick of hearing about how some many women would be computer programmers if it wasn't men keeping them down

>>16930648
Actually STEM career paths are pretty sexist. Plenty of women doing majors in STEM or working in those careers get talked down to or sexually harassed.

>>16930650
I know there are women that want to work in these fields (and I strongly encourage that) but there are plenty of women that have zero desire and the media makes it seem like this majority would be interested if not for men cutting them down. The problem is that the men currently working in these fields are sexually frustrated forever alones that have deep seated issues with women so they lash out and anyone that tries to enter their boys club

>>16930664
I don't think it's men holding them down. I think it's their parents and surroundings not encouraging them to pursue STEM or discouraging them when they do show interest because "it's not lady like".

It's like with boys who wanna be fashion designers.

>>16930245
THE HIGHWAY TO AIDS

Hey so I have been talking to a girl
I know if I talk to her I'm not over stepping.

I'm trying to talk to her after a class, although I'm trying to avoid a creepy run over to her, or wait ahead for her.

Can ladies suggest how I can approach her naturally?

Might just be paranoia and i usually brush it off, but sometimes i feel as if my bf is behaving strange. And i don't know what to make of it. Pls help me to determine if i am reading too much into this or if something's fishy
>he has to be out of the country during workdays due to school
>We see each other on the weekends
>it happens that one of us is away on the we too and then we make an effort to meet during the week once
>this is the case this weekend
>we agreed that i will go visit him
>that's 5h driving
>he was reluctant. He was enthusiastic about meeting up but said he didn't want me to have to drive so long
>offered to drive to me instead but last time, he came. so i insisted that it's my turn
>I arrive at around 4pm (i had to work in the morning).
>i was expecting that he will show me where he is spending all the time every week, that we would grab dinner, maybe walk around town a bit and then watch a movie at his place or whatever. (he has a roommate so i was aware that we won't get alone time at his room)
>when i arrived we went for a walk IMMEDIATELY
>i had a long trip, i would have rather went to his room, go to the toilett, drink something, whatever
>i don't know why but it felt as if he wanted to get me away as far as possible as fast as possible
>we had a nice walk, sure. But at some point he suddenly said that we should go back or it will get too late. I agreed since it was almost 6pm at that point
>we get back and i tell him that i need to go to the toilett
>instead of going to his room with me and what not, he shows me where i can use a public toilett. Wtf...
>then he tells me that i should drive back now since it will be dark soon and that he has made plans to eat dinner with his friends in half an hour. WTF?
>i have to admitt that i felt a bit out of place and as if he wants to get rid of me asap so i left
>i still think that was very very strange. I haven't asked him about it cause what should i even ask?
Am i overreacting?

I'm hanging with a girl tonight (I'm 22 she's 20). She's mentioned that she wants to play drinking games with me, presumably at her apartment which is right off campus at our University. I'm fine with that, but I live far away and commute to school so my options would be getting someone to drive me home or just assuming that I'm sleeping at her apartment (which seems bad as this is our first time legitimately hanging out)

Should I bring this up to her or just roll with it?

>>16930747
She wants to get drunk at her place. Yes she assumes that you will spend the night. Bring condoms

Girls and guys with guys and girls, or a history of being together

At what point did you know for sure that the other person liked you romantically? What was the final sign that made you certain?

>>16930794
When we sat next to each other on the sofa and our hands touched "incidentially". I eeeever so slowly started to caress him and when he reciprocated, i knew

my girlfriend has awfull past and cannot get rid of it. She said she lost interest in me because she just cannot get out of chains of past. She has feelings for me but she kinda wants to give up.

How do i continue since she clearly wants to try but has no willpower for it? I do not want to give up and somehow neither does she.

>walking together with girl
>she keeps walking into me and our arms+hands keep touching
Is this something I should be looking into, or is this too insignificant to consider? I'd asked her out the day before and she kind of said yes, but the jury's still out on anything beyond "good friends"

>>16930794
We met at the library, talked a bit while we were studying. We ended up spending the rest of the day together. He wasn't flirty at all. He fell asleep at my place at 3 AM while we were talking. When he woke up in the middle of the night, but he just hugged me and slept like that. At that point, I knew.

>>16930813
>touches you intentionally
>said yes to a date

nigga, what kind of signs do you need? Flashing neon ones?

>>16930813
I do it on purpose if I like the guy. Try to hold her hand.

>>16930812
What past? Does she go to therapy? How does that have an impact on your relatio ship? It sounds more like excuses to break up to be honest...

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Things might not be so bad as I thought between me and the girl I got a crush on. I probably just misinterpreted her behavior during this week, as yesterday evening, we played tabletop games together and had tons of fun together. Her company makes me so damn happy, I just wish that I had the courage to tell her that.

Hopefully she won't leave for the weekend today, so I can spend this evening with her.

>>16930845
And your question is...?

>>16930342
Well honesty if it was me, I would probably tell my friends unless you specified that you didn't want me to, but it definitely wouldn't be something I'd make fun of someone for dump them for.

I like taking virginities, but that's just me.

>>16930855
Fug, I thought this was the get it off your chest thread. That's what I get for having so many tabs open.
Well, I guess I could ask how to gauge if she is actually interested in me as more than just a friend.

>>16930869
Only one way to find out..,

>>16930443
I'd probably think he had a history of mental illness, but it wouldn't necessarily be a dealbreaker if he explained it was ages ago etc. Consider the cover up tattoo option.

>>16930504
I like it, but I like being choked. It's subjective from girl to girl.

>>16930794
When he said he wanted to talk to me alone at a party, then kissed me. Fairly obvious.

>>16930876
And that way is?

>>16930897
Asking her out?

>>16930901
We have been to the movies together twice now, and also just hung out at the city once.
I dunno if those were actual dates though.

>>16930906
Ok... So, what signs would you need to finally get the hint?

>>16930907
Hint on what? How can I know if she just saw those as going to movies etc with a friend?

>>16930218
How does someone deal with the anxiety of a relationship going long distance?

>>16930910
If a girl is somewhat normal and not actively trying to friendzone you or make you a beta orbiter, then she won't go to the movies with a guy all alone when there are no romantic intentions. I don't know her, but judging from my own experience, you should make a move asap or she will think you have no interest. Next time, try to escalate things physically. Like hold her hand or something. Or flat out ask her if that was a date. Follow that up with "cause that would be neat". Or else she might think you asked to not get her hopes up. It will always take courage to make a move. And it will always bear the possibility of rejection. That's just the nature of finding out if somebody is interested. But not doing it would be disastrous since she seems to go out of her way to show interest... Go for it.

>>16930731
Bump i feel like a crazy gf...

>>16930922
just dont

ldrs never work unless you've been together for ages and it will end soon

>stop flirting with me and get back to work
Is that a cringe-line? It was said mid-banter and clearly wasn't said or meant seriously. It didn't have much of a response though, and in hindsight I don't know what I was thinking.

>>16930924
Alright, point taken. I'll try to ask her this evening if I get a chance.

>>16930946
We've been together for a year and a half when she went out of town for uni

>>16930959
so shes going to be away for at least 4 years?

to university?

never going to work out man.. end it now

>>16930963
nah she's back in April but I have anxiety issues

>>16930731
It might not be anything to be concerned about, but it does sound like something you should talk with him about.

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hey girls
Theres this girl I like but we haven't been talking to each other for ages, I'd like to text her again on facebook. I intend to jokingly ask who she is as I am cleaning up my friendlist, would she find that funny?

Ladies,

What are signs that you'd give that a date is going well?
What would be signs your looking for on a "good" second date?

Is it offputting if a girl is emotionally fragile and can get needy at times?
Especially when theres already a relationship going on

>>16931064
I like it personally but I know most guys fucking hate it

>>16930982
>>16930982
I don't see how that would be funny in any way.
Especially not if you used to initiate conversations with / requested her.
Just write to her asking how she is, etc...

Is it wrong to ask a girl out to do something later the same day you are asking her?

>>16931079
no but it does increase the chance of getting rejected by a bit since she wont feel like she has as much time to prepare

I think i have kind of skrewed up (but i'm not entirely sure yet) my 1 year relationship by being needy and sometimes even a bitch.
My bf is attending uni and he is busy all the time, which isnt the problem, but i feel like he is growing apart from me more and more. Since its'a also a ldr i get really confused. I'm not sure anymore if he still cares about us or isnt he. Maybe he is holding back the truth so he doesnt hurt my feeling or is he just so busy that he forgets about other stuff. I tired to talk to him but he doesnt seem too responsive and usually doesnt know what to say. He told me that he cares but then disappears for weeks.
Should i be worried?

>>16931086
Not gonna lie to you, every person I know at university who was in a ldr when they started uni has now either broken up with the person or cheated on them.

>>16931086
ldrs are a joke at university, most end the first party the person goes too

>>16931105
>>16931103
We dont have uni parties in the country i live in

>>16931109
Well in any case him disappearing for weeks is hardly a good sign.

>>16930331
I'm straight and wear dark lipstick. I have pale skin so it contrasts nicely (imo) and makes my teeth look whiter. There isn't a secret lip color that says if a girl wants a dicking or not.

>>16930443
I would be really concerned but if you explained it I could understand.

>>16930643
I have a few rad fem girlfriends and there is no getting to them. Trust me, I've tried. They enrage in a lot of shifty behavior then when it backfires blame gender inequality.

>>16930794
He really laid on the flirting, he seemed like a natural flirt but it was more silly and stumbly

>>16930982
That's lame just say "hey, it's been awhile, how have you been?"

>>16930994
I touch his hand or shoulder and smile, and mention how fun its been and that i want to go on another date

>>16931086
It's over. He can't fulfill your needs and he has other duties. You will become a chore and he will treat you as such, making you more and more needy.

Talk to him about it and accept that maybe it just wasn't the right time.

gurl here
how do I masturbate properly

I'm pretty sensitive and I tried using an electric toothbrush but I didn't came and it was too much to put it directly to my clit

I tried lubing my fingers but 3 was painful and it wasn't hot

I want to stop dry humping my blanket

>>16931125
Just put your hands between you and the blanked and dryhump the hand. You will feel the desire to start experimenting soon. Just do whatever feels good

>>16931118
>I touch his hand or shoulder and smile, and mention how fun its been and that i want to go on another date

Shit we aint even hug.

Damn, no wonder I haven't gotten the text back.

>>16931079
Depends strongly on the situation. I would prob feel a bit rushed, but in some situations it might be the most logical thing and i would gladly say yes.

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Men, how do I help my boyfriend? This is something I've given a thought a lot, and sometimes it leaves me really angry. I think he's slowly succumbing into depression (and I think is especially problem since his dad had issues with that too). He lost his job after 5 years of constant work and afterwards he once more got laid off the work after 6 months. Money is HUGE issue to him, and while I'm one currently earning good money, he feels like he's using me (and at same time I feel like I'm forcing him to stuff like going out for coffee or traveling somewhere). We also discussed that he should go to counseling with someone, but lately he doesn't mention it at all. Should I remind him more?

I don't want him to lose himself over something ridiculous as money/job. Not saying they shouldn't be important, but I want to do something. How can I help him perk up more and not leaving him feel like shit compared to me. I also feel responsible for his current condition because he met me in my worst moment and I struggled with anxiety and depression episodes a lot, and I can't watch him go down the same lane as I did.

Also, how do I know if someone else is crushing on me? I'm only girl in my office (its small company) and I'm suspecting this guy, like... I can't put my finger on it, but it really doesn't seem like regular ''niceness'' to me. I'm bit of a ditz in that compartment (bf and I hit off really fast, but he had crush on me before we've even met).

>>16931125
Rub your clit slowly, feel around and see what you find the most desirable

If you aren't relaxed with penetration then 2 fingers MAX

Just really feel around. It took me a very long time to find what works. I spent like 2 years humping my pillow because i was too shy to just go for the clit even when i was alone

>>16931135
No hug no love

Maybe she's just not touchy feely but I hug guys even if it didn't go too well. Like a quick half assed hug and thank you if it was bad. A closed arm hug if i want a cheeky feel

>>16931125
>I tried lubing my fingers but 3 was painful and it wasn't hot

Gurl, start first with one finger. When you feel like you've achieved more wetness, use second finger.

However I doubt you'll go more than 3. fingers, because jesus fuck I have tiny hands and looking at my fingers now I can't just image it going smoothly no matter what.

There's reason for quote ''it isn't about the size but how you use it''.

Now that you mention it, how do you initiate a hug? Do you just do it or whatever? I'm a guy, and the worst I ever do is arm touching if she's troubled and side-poking if she's cheeky. Anything else just feels awkward and unnatural to me.

>>16930994
There are a few signs a first date is going great
>she seems relaxed and enjoying herself
>you make plans for the "future". Aka "i always wanted to try that!"/"we should def do that" and so on.
>lots of eyecontact and some touching
>neither of you wants to go home soon
>you can talk to each other easily
>you feel like you can be yourself
>you laugh together and banter
>you find (weird) stuff you have in common (no way, i thought i was the only one getting teethgasms when flossing)
>you catch her looking at you
>she actually tells you that she has fun
>she is eager to arrange a second date
>she sends you a text right after

>>16931173
I rarely insert a finger when masturbating. And if i do MAX 2. Usually one. Sometimes just the tip. Experiment till you find what works for you.

>>16931181
Also:
>she gives you (low key) compliments
>she seems to only have eyes for you
>she laughs a little too hard or too loud
>she tries to make a good impression or even impress you
>she smiles at you
>she goes to the bathroom to "freshen up"

>>16931171
Yeah she's been tough to read. Been figuring out that she's more plain Jane than anything in particular.

>>16931181
Things that happened
>she seemed relaxed and enjoyed herself
>made plans for date number 3, still no response
>lots of eyecontact and no touching
>neither of you wants to go home soon
>you can talk to each other easily
>you feel like you can be yourself
>you laugh together and banter
>you find (weird) stuff you have in common (no way, i thought i was the only one getting teethgasms when flossing)
>you catch her looking at you
>she actually tells you that she has fun
>couldn't tell if eagar or not.
>she sent me a text 24 hours after.
>she smiles at you
>she goes to the bathroom to "freshen up"

I feel kinda good reading that. Just reaffirmed in my head that things went well. We used to talk a little daily and now there hasn't been a response at all. A lot of my friends were all like "you didn't kiss? you didn't x or y????" and I felt a little down about it.

I know I shouldn't be thinking so insanely about it, but for a girl to be seemingly interested in me after 10 years is a lil exciting and I really don't wanna fuck up.

>>16931180
I'd like to know this as well.

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>Sometimes just the tip.

Joke aside, I'm pretty much like you

Question for both: Should sex be much harder to get than usual?

>>16931195
>hasn't been a response at all
After the date? Why? Has the conversation run out or have you waited too long to ask for a second date so she thought you aren't that interested?what was your last text?

>>16931211
Has there been any other change? In their life or in your relationship/

>>16931220
She thanked me for the date (it was our second), and thanked me for dropping her home. I texted back afterward saying there was no need to thank me, and that I had fun. Then I suggested a third date aaand that was it.

I used to text her good morning or she would once in a while too wishing each other a good day and stuff.

I did it once this week, no response and nothing's happened since.

The only iinkling I have is that something may have been wrong with her phone when she responded that she got my texts a day later. She used to be an avid snapchatter and there hasn't been activity there either.

I haven't texted back asking if everything's cool to avoid sounding desperate or anything like that. Especially with me analyzing so much after a second date.

>>16931211
What do you mean? That we should abandon hook up culture or something?

>>16931236
>>16931244
Wait, you're telling me its actually much harder to get?

Or does it extremely vary from person to person, situation, location, culture, time, mass, space, matter, mood, personality, etc?

It can't be as hard as getting a job or some shit.

Is it?

I don't fucking know anymore.

Girls if a male friend asks you to go somewhere just the two of you do you automatically assume he just wants to have sex with you?

>>16931265
No. I often go out for dinner. movies or a beer with my male friends.
But we're friends - we never flirt or anything, we're not physical.

>>16931243
How long has it been now? This is actually strange.
One note of caution though: i have very, VERY bad pms. If i have it i just want to hide under my blanket till it's over again. Always keep in mind that it could be something like that. It has happened that i stopped texting cause i was so miserable. I felt guilty the whole time but i couldn't help it. If things don't imprive DRASTICALLY in a week, there's something else.

>>16931254
Your initial question was confusing and worded strangely.

How easy it is to get sex depends on multiple variables. We can't day for sure, it definitely depends on the culture you're within, how you're looking for it, if you take care of yourself, etc

>>16931272
I see thanks. And say if one of them actually liked you more than as a friend but you don't know yet, would it be too weird if he makes a move or tries to get physical, or in any way implies he likes you while you are together?

>>16931276
Exactly a week today.

It's been tripping me out since I've been led to think things were good aside from the lack of physical contact.

>>16931283
That really sounds a bit strange... You should ask her what's up. You got nothing to loose now. If she really is just doing the hermit thing it might be good for her to see that you actually care. She might respond to tell you she's fine or something. Just tell her that you are a bit worried about her or something.

>>16931279
>Your initial question was confusing and worded strangely.
This. Are you talking about getting sex in general? I assumed you meant your partner won't fuck you anymore. And of course it varies, just look at /r9k/ compared to your typical chad. Personally I'd say getting a job is easier, but I did well in school and my social skills are garbage and I'm not very interested in sex anyways, so I don't try to get it. So yes it varies.

>>16931281
My friends are friends. I don't want to have sex with them.
So I'd be weirded out and tell them to fuck off.

I can't stand watching TV or listen to the radio because of the cringe tier commercials and adverts and bullshit.

Is this a problem for you girls with people like me?

>>16931298
Nah. I'm the same. I haven't had to watch/hear a single commercial in years thanks to netflix and spotify. I can't understand how people can endure this shit

>>16931298
I don't watch TV and I change the radio station when it goes to ads too. I don't like listening to them either. You're fine.

>>16930794
>Girls and guys with guys and girls, or a history of being together
>At what point did you know for sure that the other person liked you romantically? What was the final sign that made you certain?

Pretty much every time, that slightly shy smile and glint in their eyes.

>>16931064
>Is it offputting if a girl is emotionally fragile and can get needy at times?

*shrug* Depends? Before this I would have categorically said yes, but my girlfriend does have the occasional breakdown and needy phase at times, and can be fragile in some ways, but her history makes it so I understand completely, and actually think she's one of the strongest people I know. She has her shit together 95% of the time, and I can always tell exactly what it is that's bothering her, so that's why I don't usually mind or really feel like it's any bother whatsoever the rest of that 5% of the time.

>>16931086
>My bf is attending uni and he is busy all the time, which isnt the problem, but i feel like he is growing apart from me more and more.


Reality check:

You're in a LDR, where neither of you is mature enough to handle it, and he's in a place where he's surrounded by a constant 24/7 social interaction.

LDR only ever work if both of you were equally committed to this relationship before, and were both committed to doing everything to making this work during. Most people can't do that.

Sounds like that's the case here desu. Have a serious talk, see what your level of commitment is, see if it'd be better for both of you to break it off.

>>16931165
>Men, how do I help my boyfriend?

Not much you can do DESU. He's stuck in a rut and the only way he'll dig himself out is his own under his own power (probably when he's ot a job again).

Just try to have an earnest talk with him, let him know "you don't want to lose him over something as ridiculous as money/job" and finish on a bright note with a smile and a "common, lets go sign up at X job agency" or whatever.

>Also, how do I know if someone else is crushing on me?

You either have this awareness or you don't. It's not something anyone can explain to you, only something you can gain through experience--but that's not something you can experiment with given that you're in a committed relationship.

>>16931069
>>16931118

But these guys said "how have you been" is boring to answer.
>>16930842
>>16930809
>>16930807

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>>16930949
Didn't manage to muster up the courage to tell her.
We did spend the evening watching a movie from the tv yet again.

I dunno how to even go about telling her how I feel about her.
Just asking her out to go to a movie etc is easy, but actually mentioning my feelings for her is so god damn hard.

>>16931180
Yeah, ditto.

>>16931502
You DON'T have to confess. Do something. Hug her. Kiss her. Do not confess dear God.

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>>16931529
>Hug her. Kiss her.
But that's even harder!
I don't know when it is appropriate to even just touch her (like hold hands or something), let alone even more drastic stuff like hugging or kissing. I don't even know how to kiss. The last time I tried to do something like that I ended up acting like a weird awkward creep. I tried to wrap my arm around her, but for some stupid fucking reason I just patted her head, which obviously confused the fuck out of her (and probably also creeped her out, as she didn't even come near me during the next few days.)

>Do not confess dear God.
Why not?
Wouldn't just making what I feel clear to her be far more easy, and far less creepy, than me being an awkward creep around her? I don't know how to be with girls. This shit is whole new ground for me.

How strange is it for a guy that you do not know at all to approach you for a date? There is a girl I find very attractive but I see her only at Petco and have no other way of initiating contact. Thinking about asking her for dinner after she gets off based on your responses.

I've been out of the date game for about 1.5 years if that's any help.

>>16931555
You must answer since I got trips.

>>16931547
Putting your arm around her while watching a movie is a good first step. See how she reacts and move from there. Get more intimate every time.

>Why not?
Because you don't pour your feelings on people you're not intimate with. It will be far more creepy.
SHOW things, don't tell them. Especially at the beginning.

>>16931555
It is unpleasant, to me, especially at work.
If you want to do it, handle her your number and tell her to text you if she wants. Once. Don't be pushy.

>>16931564
But I don't even know when it would be appropriate to do that sort of first step. The last time I tried, the blew up on my face, and she wouldn't even come near me for the next few days.

I don't know how to make my interest in her any more apparent without seeming like some creepy pervert. I try to spend time with her, chat with her, talk with her about her work days, interest etc and have asked her out 3 times now.

Do actions really speak louder than words? What about socially awkward people that might do weird stuff unintentional?

>>16931579
And how do you imagine this moving any further if nobody makes a move?

>>16931555
its strange and annoying but its literally the only thing you can do, having to pester women like that is the price of being a man

do it or die alone

>>16931579
And she accepted three times. Just kiss her, or hug her, or do something! Do not confess.

You fucked up being insecure.
If you're on the couch next to each other put your arm behind her, not over her, and see how she reacts. If I like someone, I usually get closer to them. If she does, wrap her arm around her.

It's really not rocket science.

>>16931586
Yes, they do.
I've never had a doubt about my boyfriend's feelings because he shows what he feels. I've always feel loved even if he never said anything.

>>16931547
>Wouldn't just making what I feel clear to her be far more easy, and far less creepy, than me being an awkward creep around her?

Actuallly that's kind of the definition of awkward, and borderline creepy.

It shows a completely inability to be socially adjusted, normal, and competent.

It's one thing to know the rules and intentional ignore them, but it's another completely to be oblivious to them.

How do you fix that? One small step at a time (not one giant splurge that tries to skip the million small steps that need to be taken).

>>16931599
In my case it is actually the opposite.
My bf can tell me the sweetest things and then do weird stuff. I can't tell if he is so awkward that he doesn't get it or if i should be worried. For example: he can tell me that i'm the one and that he wants to grow old together and then ghost on me with lame excuses. Or he tells me that i make him the happiest man on earth and then never make other plans than stay in and basically have sex. I might overthink this but somehow things just don't add up...

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>>16931588
Well, the thing is that she might not even be interested in the first place. For all I know, she just seem me as a friend.
And again, I would make a move if I knew HOW to make one. I have never done this sort of shit before.

>>16931593
And for all I know, she just thought she was going to hang out with a friend.
And I don't know how to kiss. I have never even held hands with a girl, let alone kissed one.

>It's really not rocket science.
Maybe not for you. Unlike most people, who probably started interacting with the opposite gender back when they were teenagers, I have zero experience with this sort of shit, as this is the first time I am in this sort of situation in my 22 years of existence.

>>16931611
What rules are you talking about? I hate this sort of insane social games one needs to play when dealing with this sort of shit. To me, the only winning move seems to not even play. I sorta wish that I had never developed any feelings for this girl. Shit was far less stressful, and far simpler then.

>>16931612
I can't even remember when my boyfriend told me he loves me for the last time. Like, maybe two months ago?
But every morning he wakes up and brings me coffee to bed, and when he has nightmares the only thing that calms him down is hugging me. And there are a ton of little things that he does and make me feel loved.
So, yeah, I think that actions count more.

After 6 1/2 years together, it feels like my gf doesn't want to have sex with me any more
I don't know what to do because I still love her, we have a deep relationship but I'm getting seriously sexually frustrated. I've told her but she doesn't seem interested in changing our situation. I can't throw this whole relationship away over a dry spell, but I feel like I'm going crazy. It feels like she doesn't even like me anymore

Any girls with long term relationship experience that can offer advice? How can I keep my girl interested in sex? How do you keep things fresh and exciting after this long?

>>16931619
There are some social rules in interactions.
You build relationships one step at time.
You flirt, establish physical contact, hold hands/hug, kiss, then eventually confess.
You can't skip all the little steps without coming off as some awkward fuck who has no clue about what he's doing.
And I know you are, but trust us and take things slowly. Establish physical contact and then move from there, seeing how she reacts.

It's literally the 5927 thread you comment in, we always say the same things, you always come back asking the same question.

>>16931656
reddit.com/r/deadbedrooms

prepare for some unhappy truths

>>16931662
Christ is this the point we're at? Reddit links instead of advice?

Girls and guys

>I'm sick
>Take NyQuil
>Knocks me out
>Gf comes to my house with stuff to make me feel better
>Calls me 23 times
>I miss them because I am knocked out
>Get text paragraphs basically saying she is unnapriciated
It's 12pm the next day how do I defuse this situation?

>>16931658
Nobody had thus far given me as clear answer as you have.
Though, I still don't even know what flirting is, or how to do it.

>>16931619
>>It's really not rocket science.
>Maybe not for you. Unlike most people, who probably started interacting with the opposite gender back when they were teenagers, I have zero experience with this sort of shit, as this is the first time I am in this sort of situation in my 22 years of existence

pfffftt...

hahahahaha....

As this anon >>16931611

Shut up.

I was 24 when I had my first date.

You're just whining and complaining because you want some excuse to blame--other than yourself.

Put in the work you whiny motherfucker. Step by step.

>>16931656
I've been with my boyfriend for around 7 years.
First, talk to her. Do not accuse her, do not seem frustrated, but try to understand why she isn't interested in you anymore. If she doesn't love you or she doesn't want to work on the relationship, move on. You're not responsible for the whole relationship.
Do things together as a couple and make your relationship happier. Usually when you don't have sex you ruin the other aspects of the relationship and it makes things worse.
Keep the pressure away.

About sex - be as hot as you can, make her feel sexy and spice things up.
Me and my boyfriend started exercising and this made us horny as fuck itself. We looked hotter, we were happier, we were more comfortable.
Then he started buying me lingerie. I loved his face when I walked in all sexy. He complimented all the time.
We agreed to have better sex but less often than I wanted it - so we have sex once every 2/3 days, but it is mind blowing.
He goes down on me more, he makes sure I come many times before even starting sex, and then we have the best sex ever.

Nothing "fresh and exciting", but the sex is fucking good and, damn, who doesn't want fucking good sex as often as possible.

>>16931684
How am I blaming anyone other than myself? I am just stating the fact that I got zero experience in regards this shit, and that I got no clue on what to do.

>>16931676
I think we replied in EVERY thread of last week. Go check in the archive.

>>16931690
>How am I blaming anyone other than myself?
> I hate this sort of insane social games one needs to play when dealing with this sort of shit. To me, the only winning move seems to not even play.

Blaming some social pseudo-concept called "the game" (which is non existent btw).

>>It's really not rocket science.
Maybe not for you. Unlike most people, who probably started interacting with the opposite gender back when they were teenagers,

Blaming inexperience/some disadvantage/your lot in life/them for being more experienced

>And again, I would make a move if I knew HOW to make one. I have never done this sort of shit before.

Blame inexperience again.


Stop whining with your mouth. Start acting acting with your body. DO things instead of talking about it.

Threadly reminder that all women on this thread lie about things to make themselves look better.

>>16931688
Thank you, I've tried talking but she usually gets defensive and the discussion goes nowhere
I probably don't a good job of communicating it to her either. I am very non confrontational and asocial and I bottle up my emotions until they explode out sometimes.

>>16931722
What do you think the women are lying about?

>>16931725
You should definitely work on this and try your best to talk to her when you're calm enough to plan something you can do together. If you realize that communication is being a big issue here, you should just try to keep calm and figure out the best way to explain to her how you feel and what you should do to solve the problem.
It is not going to be easy, I'm not going to lie, but it is worth it.

Girl here, how do I be a wingman? My friend got cheated on recently so I'm taking him out to a club where theres gonna be alcohol and a bunch of babes everywhere. I have never been a wingman in my life but how can I help him meet chicks and maybe score a number or two?

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>>16931707
Yes, and? I didn't claim that I didn't receive replies. I said that I didn't get as clear cut, step by step answer until now.

>>16931720
>Blaming some social pseudo-concept called "the game" (which is non existent btw).
I mentioned social games because the other anon mentioned some rules that one had to follow. I did not bring the topic up, nor did I blame it for anything, I just stated that I hate that sort of shit.

>Blaming inexperience/some disadvantage/your lot in life/them for being more experienced
Again, didn't blame anything, just stated that for me, this shit is basically rocket science.

>Blame inexperience again.
The only place where I sorta blamed something, and even it was just as statement of "I would do that if I know how to".

Finally, I spent the whole evening with her watching a movie, while trying to figure out what to say or do. I would still be there, spending time with her, if she had agreed to play some tabletop games with me when I suggested it to her, but she opted to go to sleep instead.

It is not like all I do is sit here and talk about this shit. I am spending every opportunity I got with her. I am only here when it is impossible for me to be with her instead.

>>16931670
Tell her the truth. the Nyquil knocked you out and you were unable to respond.

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>>16931720
>Stop whining with your mouth. Start acting acting with your body. DO things instead of talking about it.

Top tier advice there senpai.

>>16931881
How old is too old for a girl to be a virgin?
>inb4 its ok 2 be virgin

>>16931292
Welp, if you're here anon. Ty. Wasn't gonna text her.

She apparently just kept her phone off all week to study for school.

Fuckin A I feel dumb.

Why does it take so long for foreplay to work on girls, or am I just bad at it, it always seems like every time I try to get a girl wet she still ends up feeling dryer and tighter than Keanu Reeves anus.

How do I just...enjoy sex?
I always feel this tremendous pressure to satisfy the woman before all else, and even then when I think back to past experiences I feel like I was just kinda...rapey? Too aggressive? Idk.

>>16932051
Really depends on the girl. Some take 5 minutes some take 30. Or longer.
And of course how good your tongue game is.

>>16932051
I fear you're bad at it. My boyfriend gets me dripping wet even before we get naked.

>>16932031
>How old is too old for a girl to be a virgin?

I'm a dude who was a virgin 'tl 24. No one gave a fuck.

Later on I dated girls who were 25+ and virgins, also didn't give a fuck.

Honestly, it's only maybe late 20's, early 30's I'd start to wonder what the heck is going on in your life that you haven't met someone yet, because at that point you really should have everything on lock and can't really point to school/work/life as an excuse.

>>16930121
>Ever try any of the flavored Smirnoff drinks? I've never been big on vodka, but I'm wondering if the flavored shit is actually good. Any recommendations?

Only got a couple responses in the last thread before it died.

My gf.had fight with sister and she is sad should I visit her now it is midnight

>>16932094
They're fucking disgusting unless you're a teenager stealing booze.
Just make tequila sunrises instead.

>>16932094
Whipped cream vodka is good with OJ or pretty much anything. Fruity flavored vodka is good with other fruity mixers but I get tired of it pretty quickly

>>16932103
I like the appeal of something already mixed/flavored though that you can just drink right from the bottle. But I feel like Smirnoff is just your typical shitty vodka

>>16932116
Then get a premixed bottle of something.

>>16932094
>>16932116

Shit tier shit tastes like shit.

Maybe you think a margarita or michelada flavored bud-light is awesome because it comes pre-mixed

but guess what, you're still drinking shit alcohol, that's going to taste like, you guessed it, shit.

Question, what is the appeal of a girl swallowing cum?
I mean you've already orgasmed, why is it important whether she swallows it or spits it out or whatever?
What difference does it make to you, I mean?

>>16932125
Maybe recommend something instead of going on some snob rant fueled by assumptions you're making about some random internet stranger.

Guys-

How many times do I need to tell you I'm sick or busy until you understand that I don't want to spend time with you? Honestly, after the third time, you'd think you'd take the hint and stop inviting me to do things.

>>16932126
No clue. I find the thought of anyone swallowing cum to be disgusting.
Though, I find the idea of oral sex in general to be disgusting, so I probably am in the minority here.

>>16932145
Why not just say it straight?
Honesty is worthy of respect, while your sniveling and cowardly behavior is just pathetic.
If you don't like someone, just fucking say it.

>>16932145
Square root of his age, rounded down to the nearest integer. Now I know some of those words might be confusing to you because girls suck at math. Unfortunately I don't know how to express this in common kitchen measurements like you're used to seeing. Plus you're probably a useless woman who can't cook anyway. Hope this helps.

>>16931327
Yeah, that's what I'm doing as of now, but dunno... somehow I feel like I should and could do more for him? I know job would be best way to get him on a track (or any sort of obligation), I guess best I can do is to support him until he digs out of the shitty situation

>You either have this awareness or you don't. It's not something anyone can explain to you, only something you can gain through experience--but that's not something you can experiment with given that you're in a committed relationship.

I guess this so too. Both of these situations are something that's kinda out of my power, and well, shit that's out of my power tends to bug me a lot.

Thanks for your input anon.

>>16932131

Did you want the snob rant? That was just me pointing out the obvious.

My recommendation, if you hate an alcohol, don't drink it, or drink a higher tier--not low.

I hate whiskey and bourbon, but even I've got to admit that Johnnie Walker Blue Label is pretty damn good.

>>16932126
>Question, what is the appeal of a girl swallowing cum?

It's not really my thing, but sex is half psychological stimulation on top of the physical. Knowing that, I can deduce that it's something primal about knowing that the other person is so turned on that they'd do it, or the idea that not even a drop of what came out was wasted (semen in particular is the direct culmination of sexual efforts). I imagine it's similar to the thing some guys have with cream pie fetishes.


>>16932145
>How many times do I need to tell you I'm sick or busy until you understand that I don't want to spend time with you

I've got enough female friends who go through this shit (even after they flat out tell a guy to fuck off) that I'm normally on your side, but the tone of that comment being what it is, I'm going to go ahead and either categorize you as a bitch, or as some robot troll trying to foster woman hate.

>>16932145
If you're going to be a cunt you might as well be upfront about it.

>>16931720
>>16931758
Did the cat catch your tongue or something?

Girls

Why do you tell guy friends of your sexual shenanigans? There is a girl I'm really close with, we are good friends and can talk about anything. The thing that sucks is I like her,
But for reasons we can't date. Anyways, she messaged me just a few minutes ago saying "goddd, I just had a really hot night... Ahah :P"

...i highly doubt she's doing this to mess with me. I think she just really trust and likes talking to me. So she shares things that make her happy. Although.. That thing makes me feel like absolute shit

>>16932192
You should tell her it makes you uncomfortable when she talks about that kind of stuff. Don't even have to say it's cuz you like her, you can just say that you see that stuff as private

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>>16930868
>Well honesty if it was me, I would probably tell my friends
why would you do that

>>16932192
I don't tell anyone about my sex life, except anonymously. I don't know why but it makes me uncomfortable. Catholic upbringing I'm sure.

>>16932205
Females are inconsiderate of other people, news at 11.

>>16932198

I have before. she's generally pretty good about it. but I feel really uneasy knowing she just got fucked...

She knows I like her, but she doesn't see sex and feelings as linked. Which I do.. Like I've known this girl for 2 years. And have turned down sex with other girls because i don't want sex with them. Granted, I'll probably never have sex with my friend. But I can't just go out and fuck random girls and be ok with it

>>16932189

No. I just realized it's pointless because in your own head, you're going to roll every interpretation to fit your own viewpoint. It's playing against a stacked deck.

It's not worth the effort or time.

Get the fuck off 4chan and experience life. You will NEVER find a step by step manual on how to do this shit (that isn't full of shit trying to con you out of cash) because first hand experience is the ONLY way you learn.

Now fuck off of 4chan and go live a life.

"every opportunity" while not actually asking her on a/more dates -.-.

>>16932237
M8, it is almost 1 am. I am on 4chan because right now, there really isn't anything else to do.

She is going out of town this morning, so it is not like I could actually do anything with her today until when she comes back at the evening.
I do intend to ask if she would be interested in going to the zoo tomorrow, once she comes back here this evening.

And sure, I will never get a step by step guide on how to do this shit, but what the other anon posted sure as hell was better advice than your "just b urself and go do it!" shite.

So I've been friends with this gal for like two years now. Good friend but she's not my type, we're very different types of people. Apparently however she talks about me and two other friends fairly frequently to him, of which I'm the only guy. He keeps commenting on that to me and seems to be a bit defensive whenever I'm around.

I'm pretty sure the guy is uncomfortable about our friendship, but if I was after her it would stand to reason I'd have asked her out at some point considering he's only been around for about 4 months now. Should I just pull him over and remind him I've never tried to make a move for a reason?

>>16931165
When I was in a situation similar to my boyfriend, I was silently begging inside for my GF to just once ask me:
> How are you doing?

>>16930218

Heaven and Earth shall pass away, but His Words will not pass away

Men will fail you, but Jesus will never fail you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqANd2aw8Mc

>>16930794
After quite some time (it's complicated, but we can call it 6 months, for the sake of simplicity), I told her how I felt (she was my FWB originally), and she reciprocated.

qt responded to my message on okc. Not sure how to send a second message/reply.

She's into kayaking, edm, disney, anime, and the beach.

I need a follow up remark/question.

>>16932145
If you don't like him be straight about it. I and my friends are straight with each other, so I have the gall to assume someone is actually just feeling like shit when they tell me so.

If you don't want his company why are you bothering to keep up pretenses?

>>16932126
It's all mind games. Swallowing=she wants all of you, spitting=only partially. Is it rational? No but that's the brain for you.

>>16931612
There's a difference between socially awkward and being emotionally distant. Your boyfriend is the latter unless you're doing some major cherry picking.

>>16932362
You you into any of those things?

>>16932365
>>16932365
yes. beach, disney, anime and a couple other things she listed that I didn't.

>>16930648
Holy shit all of this. I'm so fucking sick of basically being guilted and pushed in stuff like STEM. I don't want to go into STEM god dammit, and neither do most women.

>>16932371

Are you going to see Zootopia!! It looks hilarious

>>16930218
Do girls like [spoiler]dick[/spoiler]?

Is there anything I should know about fucking fat girls? I've fucked several thin and regular girls but this girl is like 5'10 200 with watermelon tits

>>16932377
I forgot about that movie. I really want to see that but I'd feel a little odd being a single solo male going. Not enough to stop myself but yeah.

>>16932387
>Is there anything I should know about fucking fat girls?
Yeah, "don't do it". Not only is it super unpleasant in practice, but you're letting our whole sex down with this thirsty shit.

>>16932398

BUT I AM... THOISTY

>>16932396
>>16932377
I think he was suggesting asking her that.

>>16932403
kek. I know

Fat girls are great, much more open to experiment. A fat girl let me finally carry out my dream of taking a shit in bed.

>>16932145
Will literally pretend not to get it even after I understand until you cave and say it outright, because this is the bitchiest, most womanish behavior in the world.

>>16932126
>Question, what is the appeal of a girl swallowing cum?
Part of the appeal is that it's sort of dirty and it's hot when your girl does filthy shit, plus what the other anons said about spitting seeming like she's grossed out by you in a way.

Buuuuuut, most of it is that the dick doesn't just turn off after you orgasm, so if she swallows and keeps sucking while and after you're coming it feels fucking amazing. Honestly those first few seconds after the orgasm can almost feel better than the thing itself, it's so fucking good.

>>16932411
>Why won't woman just tell me they're not interested? They're such passive-aggressive bitches!
>Woman always tell me off. What bitches!

>>16932410

people like you belong in insane asylums

>>16932427
>Woman always tell me off. What bitches!
Kek, thinking I'm even remotely the kinda robot who gets asshurt from rejection. Nah brahette, if she just isn't interested in spending time with me that's cool, you're not obliged to like everybody.

I went on dates with a girl 3times, last time she slept over at my place. Next day we had lunch together, then we parted.
Thing is, she had to go away for four weeks abroad.
The first week has now passed, and altough i tried my best, exchangeing messages via viber feels fucking lifeless, especially since nothing really happens on a daily basis to neither of us.
Is it okay, if i write to her that i do care about her, but dont be upset if i wont write everyday from now on, only when i do have something to tell her?
Basically i want for her to know, that i still want to continue the thing that began between us when shes back, but meanwhile dont want to kill the thing with lifeless mandatory chitchat.

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>>16932427
You're trying to boil down social interactions into something binary. Stop being retarded.

>>16932377
plz no

>>16932452
You're complaining that women who aren't interested in you, don't tell you they're not interested, in your specific way, despite you already knowing they're not interested.

>>16932461
Getting together in real life is a good plan

I miss that, it's been the hardest week!

>>16932467
Passive aggressive behavior begets passive aggressive behavior. If she was direct for once he'd stop fucking with her.

>>16932463
>You're trying to boil down social interactions into something binary. Stop being retarded.

errr... that's not binary.. that's more... oxymoronic? he/she is just pointing out the hypocrisy and self-contradiction that happens here all the time.

There's no winning with robots.

That being said, topic poster was kind of a bitch/troll to begin with so w/e.

>>16932467
>in your specific way
You dim bint, "telling him directly" isn't some arcane specification, it's literally JUST TELLING HIM. It's not like he's demanding a Masonic handshake or some shit before he'll listen.

>>16932482
This.

>>16932486
>he/she is just pointing out the hypocrisy and self-contradiction that happens here all the time.
Wow it's almost like there's a lot of people who post on here. Yeah, you're going to see some contradicting beliefs. We also see a lot of people putting our conflicting opinions on feminism and that redpill shit and whatever else, but that's just /adv/ being hypocritical right!

The fact is there's a lot of wiggle room between pretending to be sick and hoping they'll pick up on the fact you're too weak to say no, and giving a bitchy response. Most women react somewhere inbetween the two without any of the vitriol you seem to think there has to be, and most men are hardly raging over their response.

>>16932480
Sorry what?
You mean i should write sthing like this to her?

>>16932398
no thirst, she's literally throwing herself at me. as in she comes over with my brothers gf, i ignore them and do my own thing most of the night, she gets tipsy and drools over me. she's only 19 so theres probably minimal sag.

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Guy here.
whats a good size for a engagement ring? Without breaking the bank. Meaning not trying to spend $5000 on it.

>>16932524
She needs to know, take it from there, why aren't you there with her?

>>16932585
cubic zirconium will look better than whatever real diamond you can get for under 5 grand.

>>16932585

If you're getting married, you know your future fiancé.

I got a ring set online at dazzling rock and it was gorgeous, and way less expensive than anywhere else. I spent about 1300. You can spend less and it will still be nice. Of course, you can also spend more.

>>16932596
Girl finds out you got a cz and not a diamond and you can consider the wedding off.

Spend what you can afford, a setting the places the diamond higher will make it look bigger

How do I get vagina smell off my dick

>>16932640
Shower w/ soap.

>>16932648
Gross

>>16932591
Shes a professional athlete and shes there for a training camp.
Also ive got work to do here, cant go away on a whim for 4 weeks. Also, keep in mind weve just met.

>>16932655
Seems like a reasonable solution to me.

>>16932585
I don't want an engagement ring. A simple wedding ring is more than enough.

>>16932540
>she's only 19
In that case it's even more imperative that you not fuck her, or else she'll get the idea that it's totally normal for fat girls to get the D and next thing you know she's starting a Tumblr and saying "all bodies are beautiful".

>>16932585
Do whatever you like
enough for it to last
She'll love you anyway
If it's love
I love my husband-to-be
More than the tag

20 yo girl. Live in boyfriend doesn't have time for me, never takes me on dates because of how busy he is. Sister doesn't want to hang out with me because I don't party. Family doesn't want to hang out. I'm essentially bored and alone every single night and my hobbies aren't doing enough to keep me satisfied and sane. Uber isn't available bc city council, bf has the car. And everything remotely fun is a few miles away from where I live so I can't walk there. Any suggestions as what I should do? I'm trying to make more friends but because of my situation I'm not out a lot to meet people. Not going to school this semester either. I just feel like I'm going crazy, I feel like a ghost in this world. Invisible.

>>16932794
you could give out your skype for strangers to watch you masturbate

girls

This question is a few months late. But, would you think any less of a guy if his absolute favorite Christmas song is Mariah Carrey's "All I Want For Christmas"?

>>16932818
Yes, that is actually a complete dealbreaker, I choose my mates exclusively through their taste in Christmas music.

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This is a question to both genders really.

I'm a man, and ever since i left high-school(4 years ago), i haven't really connected with any other dude, in a best friend way, like i did with two guys in there. But since college happened, and we stopped spending as much time together, i haven't been able to connect with another dude the same way i did back then; yet, somehow, i have 3 female friends that i could consider best friends, because i enjoy being around them and talking about almost whatever, even if they have their flaws, and i don't feel romantically attracted to them.

tl; dr, i'm a dude, and i have 3 female best friends, yet not one male best friend. Is this supposed to be normal?

>>16932826
My inclination would say you are gay?

>>16932831
Nah, up until a week ago, i was kinda still in love with a girl, until i confirmed that i lost all chances i once had.

>>16932825
whats your favorite xmas song? I really like the waitresses - christmas wrapping.

>>16932848
Little Drummer Boy, Bowie&Crosby

>>16932818
Hella yeah, I'd tease the shit out of him. I love singing Mariah Carrey songs.
>>16932585
If ya'll work with your hands then I advise you to get those cheap silicone bands. No need for a gaudy rock on a circle unless you're marrying a model or a buisness woman.

>>16932848
I like Eartha Kitt's Santa Baby. :)

>>16932860

This just makes me want to DANCE!

http://youtu.be/yXQViqx6GMY

>>16932853
>Little Drummer Boy
Get the fuck out of here.

>>16932853

gay

>>16932868
>>16932870
Y-you too.

>>16932860
no surprise, I bet you like baby its cold outside too, all girls love that song.
>>16932853
this is attractive

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Will women hate me for being bitter and cynical?

Now, just to clarify, I'm not the type to whine and complain all the time. I work manual labor, have a few hobbies (going scuba diving tomorrow), and have a degree in mathematics. I'm also decently attractive, as far as that goes. When I'm in a good mood, I have a good sense of humor and love to make people laugh. But I've dealt with a lot of loneliness in my life. I don't get out a lot socially. It's a mixture of anxiety and misanthropy, I guess. Sometimes I just can't help but hate what it means to be a human. Yeah, it's edgy, but sometimes humanity comes off as too cruel and unlikable.

But I don't hate everything. I love animals and nature and the things humans have created. I appreciate music and mathematics... I just don't get along well with other people, and am extremely bitter and jaded as it comes to personal relationships.

Sometimes it just feels that because of all this, I really shouldn't date anyone, or that women don't like me because I'm not happy.

I hate women for the simple fact that in no time in their life that they have ever haved to force their opinion.

Humans are divided in two. One part has the physical ability to make others accept their opinions. The other half has to accept it.
Testosterone is a hell of drug.

A man always has to balance his opinion on everyone else.
If it angers someone, that person has to reckon his ability against that man.
Can I take him?
Maybe, maybe not.

For a woman, it's always "No, I can't".
How can I trust a woman then?
She's always on the deceptive side.
Since deception is the only way to avoid a physical confrontation.

That is
Any person sees life as series of confrontations.
A man has two options. Fight it or lie.

A woman only has lie.

So why trust her?

>>16932894

not a girl, but go read everything you wrote. And apply common sense.

What do you think?

>>16932896
Sex is good

>>16932904
I hate myself as a sentient being for agreeing.
It's a liability that women control

>>16932899
The only thing I can admit to is my post is obviously validation seeking.

Obviously I wouldn't be here posting this if I knew the answer to that question. I have no idea what to think. I'll come to think something, then five seconds later I'll realize how foolish I was and think something else. The process repeats until no real viewpoint really satisfies.

Anyone have experience dating a girl with an eating disorder? Or any girls here with one?

I absolutely love this girl, but it's tough. Especially when she doesn't understand why people like her or can love her, when she doesn't even like herself.

It's all in her head. I could post more details if there's interest.

>>16932904

it's not good enough to live a life of misery. There's a reason why I haven't had sex in 5 years. and it is by my own choice

Girls, blanket statement or otherwise, why do most girls never act in regards to long term?

Easily 90% of women I meet and regularly interact with (I'm 25) have no concept of planning for anything long term other than maybe getting married. They all solely live in the moment. Is it just my generation or something? Doesn't seem like any of these girls don't have any quantitative short or long term goals, which kinda blows because I want to date someone who has their shit together

Please give me your input ladies

Hey guys, fellow guy here, I need help.

So, I recently got a buddy I hung out with in uni. Long story short, we basically became best buds very shortly.

Since the break began, he basically said "If you want to hang out, hit me up!"

Now, keep in mind, this is like my first actual buddy in god-knows how long. How do I not fuck up if I want to hang out with him? Honestly, he's very cool.

>>16932907

I have the same problem. And girls don't like people like us because we are boring.

>>16932942
First, you aren't best buds.
Let that go now.
You're just college friends.
Take it or leave it.

Just relax and chill
No cares.
Oh he has a class tomorrow so he cuts you off?
No worries, have fun.

Stop being autistic and making things important

>>16932943
Yeah, I guess I am fairly boring. I don't like partying or drinking or any of that stuff except for the occasional getting high. It's anathema to most people, and I'm struggling to find a likeminded female.

At least I get to go scuba diving to a shipwreck tomorrow. That's fun enough for me.

>>16932958

I don't party, smoke, or drink. and I usually just keep to myself. But the only interest I have that stands out is I like traveling. I have noticed this is good for conversations. Adventure is interesting to girls.

You scuba dive. And explore lots of cool things. I would think this would be great for conversations as well

>>16932958
>hurr durr I don't do anything fun, I'm so boring lol

>goes scuba diving into sunken ships

Fuck off. That's a cool hobby, also one that allows you to meet people.

Try working from 9-6 mon-friday 9-2 saturday, with free time being spent on 4chan, old videogames, reading self-help/instructional books and jacking off. No friends and no skills in hobbies other than singing (which isn't acceptable unless you karaoke or some shit) and reading.

The hobbies I want to do I'd only feel comfortable doing with someone, like ballroom dancing, hiking, and even going to the gym. Gym one I can somewhat do, but without someone to compete against and hold me accountable I fizzle out in 2-3 weeks.

>>16930218
Any musicians guys or girls want to chat? Want to share my stuff, get feed back and such

>>16930218

I'm kind of breaking the rules but w/e

Guys ( I'm also a guy) how often do you get flaked out on ? I keep getting girls accepting dates/hangouts with me and then them flaking out on me. Is this just a normal thing that guys have to deal with ? I know its not that I'm repulsive- I do sometimes have women who are into me who I reject. But when I do I make it clear that nothing is happening and that I am not interested right away.

For girls

How often do you flake out on dates/hanging out when the guy is obviously interested in you ? And when you do, what are some usual reasons ?

>>16932948
That wasn't helpful at all.

>>16930218
>>No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
Why is that?

>>16933029
People like OP are just uncomfortable to be touched like that. It makes them feel icky.

Can ladies suggest how I can approach a girl naturally?

I'm socially awkward and the girl I like is always looking at her phone.

>>16933039
>girl I like is always looking at her phone
why would you like her then, thats a pretty clear sign that you should be running from her

Do most girls like shota?

I mean guys like lolis

>>16933044
Well I'd like to get to know her.

And it doesn't hurt to practice on girls

>>16932923
Dude what's her name? I have a thing with a similar girl with similar thoughts. It's fucking brutal because no matter what you say, they don't believe you. It's like a delusion, but you can't really help someone who doesn't want it :/. All o can say is good luck and try to give her as much support as possible, it's really a struggle

>>16933067
you'd like to get to know her? Man, I know this sounds presumptuous, but statistically speaking 90% of the women I met who's faces are always buried in their phone match the archetype perfectly.

They tend to be vapid, and insipid.

>>16933072
She doesn't hang around the main group of girls that cackle and talk over the teacher, that's kinda why I started off being interested in her.

None of us want to be in this course and it sucks ass I don't blame her

>>16933081
I know you want advice on how to approach her, but in reality everyone is totally different, being able to meet girls requires trial and error or a natural nack.

You have to be rejected alot, you have to not be afraid of rejection and you have to adopt the attitude "I can take it or leave it". So go try SOMETHING with this girl, and be prepared to be rejected, if not, awesome! If you are, thats not the end of the world move on to the next.

Question for both genders-

When does the Brad Pitt rule take effect? I've asked a girl to hangout, and once she's accepted but later flaked, and another time she just said she's busy after I invited her to a sports event. I had courtside seats, but I didn't tell her that, and the friend I went with told me that if I had mentioned that, she probably wouldn't have been busy. He told me it's like the Brad Pitt rule--and that I should move on from her.

But another friend - who also knows the story - told me I should just man up and ask her direct whether she likes me. Seems kind of stupid to me because going off of what friend one says, if she liked me, she would make time for me and wouldn't flake on things when she agrees to them originally. What do you guys think? Is their truth behind the Brad Pitt rule?

This boy at my work has been flirting with me. I'm a part of leadership and I figure since I'm higher up than him he may be worried about asking me out/for my number. I really want to get to know him. Would it be weird if i just slipped him my number or added him on facebook?

>>16933055
Most? No. I doubt most guys like loli either. They do exist though. I'm one of them.

>>16933126
>is their truth behind the brad pitt rule
Nothing is black and white, but typically yes, if she wants to hangout with you she will. However, it's kind of silly using brad pitt as an example, of course every girl would drop everything to hangout with a famous person. YOU would do that even as a heterosexual male.

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I desperately need a reality check. I can't tell anymore if i am lost in really paranoid thoughts or if i am blatantly ignoring red flags with my bf.
>ldr. He is away for school and is behaving fishy when there
>he goes out partying with his coke-consuming friends once every weekend (he's the designated driver and i think he doesn't take any drugs)
-has weird female friend that seems to cross the line on a few things
>sometimes ghosts on me with lame excuses
>tells me often that "i am too good for him"
>when we meet we just stay in and t basically fuck till we fall asleep

On the other hand he is the sweetest guy ever
>has planned a get-away for us in a few weeks so we can spend some more time just the two of us
>is very thoughtfull, attentive and lovely
>makes me random small gifts or hides cute notes when he's over
>frequently tells me he loves me to bits and all that shabang

I can't tell anymore if i am in for a pumpy ride or if i am sabotaging this myself by being so suspicious

Girls when will you stop being lying and projecting your own thoughts and actions onto the men around you?

You can't argue with proof, not a single one of you are fit to be giving advice, here's the proof for you.

WOMEN:
>instigate more reciprocal and non-reciprocal violence in hetero relationships
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1854883/
>have an advantage in the legal system
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2144002
>attracted to males if they have a nice car
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19302732
>lie about 41% of rape claims
http://sf-criminaldefense.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/KaninFalseRapeAllegations.pdf
>have more sexual partners than males and LIE about this
https://www.amherst.edu/media/view/239672/original/Alexander+%26+Fisher+%282003%29.pdf
>are attracted to males who are already in a relationship
http://www.synergy-pr.com/files/JESP72009%281%29.pdf
>are attracted to dominance during ovulation
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1617143/
>one-in-four have STDs
http://www.nbcnews.com/id/23574940/ns/health-childrens_health/t/teen-girls-has-sexually-transmitted-disease/#.UPOTfGeLgfx

why is the internet so useless for date ideas?

where the fuck would a 22 year old girl like to go?

>>16933363
Wow. Everything is a lie.

Ladies, would you spend 5 out of 9 days of your spring break from college with an ex boyfriend from out of state? I basically cut it off with my girlfriend because of this. She left him for me but as soon as he was back in town she didn't have any time for me. She says they're just friends but I got a strong impression I was getting played and cut contact with her.

Girls; do you automatically assume a fit guy is a dumb meathead?

>>16933055
I cringe at the thought of lolis. It's all subjective.

If a girl tells you holding hands and a kiss on the third date is "going too fast", she's not really interested, right?