Tfw you score a date with your oneitis >get ghosted by her

just cut all ties with her. I promise you it will make it easier than fawning over her forever

>>38745192

Trying to, been trying to talk to other girls but i just don't like any of them, and they don't even seem interested like she was before i bombed at our date.

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>>38744937
OP you are so pathetic. Just let go

>>38744937
>can only come to oneitis
fuck, I know this feel
my story has a happy end though, we ended up hooking up many times after she first rejected me

>>38746006

How did you pull it off? I doubt there's any hope for me but i believe in persistence, so i might send her snapchat every now and then.

what happened at the date? story time please OP

>>38746425

We went to a restaurant. It was decent. I was incredibly nervous though. We ate, talked a bit. There were a few uncomfortable silences on my part since i was nervous. The only thing there was towards the end of dinner, we sat around and had a beer waiting for the waitress to bring the check but she didn't come. Oneitis said "i think you pay up front where we walked in, i saw someone doing that.' So we got up, i said "hey, do we pay up here", and the lady said no. So we rushed back to our table.

After that she had a worried look on her face and was quiet for a minute. But all seemed alright and we were talking again.

Then i took her to this arcade bar. Maybe that wasn't a good idea, i don't think she likes video games that much. I didn't think it was a problem though, i just thought it was a cool place, guys bring girls there all the time, and i didn't spend the whole time playing games. We played like 3 or 4 games, she would lose and be like "i'll watch you play the rest".

So we sat down at the bar and i started feeling a bit more comfortable. We talked about politics for a minute and i quickly changed the subject. Then we laughed at a couple youtube videos, talked a bit more, and called it a night.

Hugged her goodnight, i probably should have kissed but i didn't want to come on too strong.

Then that was it. We were out 4 hours so i thought it went well. After that night though her texts went from about 100 to me a day to nothing.

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>>38744937
I'm in the middle of a similar thing. Had lunch with my oneitis on friday. Texted her today asking her out with a joke mixed in and she said "I didn't get it at first but that's funny" but dodged the question of whether she wants to go out again or not.

>>38746668
why was she initially interested? she obviously was interested proven by 100 texts a day. What do you think caught her attention? are you more personable and comfortable online than in person? you have to reflect about this and think about why exactly she lost interest (did you give off impression or a personality in text that you couldn't express in person?) once you find out the answer you have your key to redeeming your self or at least learning from the experience

>>38747188

I'm pretty sure i seem more interesting and confident in text. I feel like i made a lousy impression, but i mean nobody's perfect on first dates. All i wanted was a second one so i could feel a little more relaxed and have more fun.

There's also a nagging feeling that maybe i'm uglier irl compared to my online dating pics, but we snapchatted a ton so she saw many honest pictures of myself.

I also have a new girl who's pretty eager to meet me, but i'm still feeling so bent out of shape over that last date a few weeks ago.

>>38747264
if you do get a second chance you might feel much more stressed now knowing that you screwed it up before. you are lightyears ahead of many of us (especially me) so im sure you'll have many more chances. redo your online dating profile into something you are more sure represents the real you (trust me that will make you more confident since they chose the truer you and will remove your doubts) dont take selfies: have friends take your photos in contexts that represent you (one in your fav bar, one with your friend.. etc) and learn how to deal with the silences the more you are worried of them the more they will occur. and remember you are her date not her entertainer so dont push yourself too hard. best of luck anon im rooting for you

>>38747467

I'd donate a nut just for her to think of me again and hit me up, but she won't. I may have more chances with other girls, but she was the cutest one i've ever met. Even stacey doesn't compare.

And i know looks aren't everything, and maybe i'd be happier with a less attractive girl. But it's hard to want to go lower after a girl that fucking gorgeous was sorta into me a for a bit.

>>38744937
Pics??? Care to share?

>>38747892

I posted her in this thread a few days after the date. Someone said she was an 'absolute qt'.

>>38441023

I don't want to keep posting her in multiple threads.

>>38748048

Oh, google 'post your tinder failures' and the thread should be the first result.

>>38747761
I dont want to offend you anon, but imagine she read this, what will she think? im sure she is beautiful but you are obsessing at this point and that never ends well. what do you want in the end?
a girl that gorgeous was into you, keep that as a milestone and move forward, you have loads going for you op so dont wast it with delusions and obsession

>>38748085

Yeah, it's pretty sad i will admit. I have jack shit going for me though. i still live at home and work wagecuck, which might be why she ghosted me. She makes more money than i do, has her own place and her life just seems.. Better. But i am trying to move up, had an interview for a big boy job last week which i'm hoping to get.

>>38746668
>she would lose and be like "i'll watch you play the rest".

Ouch.

If this was a tinder date, you fucked up anon. You are suppose to eat cheap pizza and watch shitty shows on streaming platforms then fuck.

You don't take her out for dinner, then to the arcade, then to a bar. 4 hours for a tinder date wtf? She would have smelt the beta a mileaway

>>38745466
>trying to

No you fucking art dude you're looking at her snapchat all the fucking time.

>>38748190

Alright i'll quit then. I just need to go out with more girls and this will all stop. But for me, i always find jack shit and remain alone for a long time after i blow it with a qt, so i tend to dwell on it.
>>38748166

I guess you have a point. I just wanted to go on a real date this summer.

Girl i'm talking to now wants to meet at a chipotle for lunch and then walk around at a forest park. How does that sound?

>>38748286
had she actually met you irl before this date?

If it was the first time she met you she might have just thought you were uglier or more awkward than she imagine and didn't like you (sorry)

>>38748166

And it was an arcade and a bar anon. We sat down, had a drink, got up to play a few games, then sat back down for another drink. Wasn't like i dragged her to a regular arcade because i wanted to play games so bad.

>>38748286
personally speaking I've never had a second date from Tinder or Okcupid, the girls just use it for some free food and a day out

if you wanna have sex from these websites you have to try and get the bang on the first date, it is probably your only chance

>>38748323

Yeah, but we sent each other snaps every day for a week prior. She saw dozens of pics of me, i couldn't have been that much uglier than she thought.

>>38748356

Well, girl i'm talking to now just wants to meet for lunch and a walk, she said maybe another day after that i can come over, but she implied that she might want to bang and mentioned how she's kinky and stuff.

>>38746668
>We talked about politics for a minute and i quickly changed the subject
Lemme guess, you visit /pol/ on a regular basis. Remember to keep memes separate from reality

>>38748434

No, i don't go on poll at all and i hate talking politics.

>>38748357
I'm guessing it's one of (perhaps all three)
1) She built up an idealised impression of you in her mind and was disappointed when she met you
2) You were too clingy/thirsty and she threw you into the beta cuck pile
3) She found another a Chad she likes better than you

>>38748404
Maybe, she could just be trying to get a free meal out of you (I'm very cynical)

>>38748483

It's one of the first three. She drove quite a ways to come see me. Unless she was a real sociopath i doubt she's take that much time for a free meal.

>>38748526
Sure go out with her, have fun

when dating girls just don't go into full white knight mode, remember to fufill your own needs and desires or you won't be happy. As a guy I assume you need sex so don't keep dating a girl who won't put out

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Wheres a good place to take a cutie that you've been friends with for a while? Movie? Restaurant? Mall? I have no clue

>>38746301
I actually got rejected twice.
I started feeling her up and she was unhappy about it and told me over text I was getting too physical with her and we should just be friends. I said ok.

Then we hooked up randomly (we were both horny). Then we did it again the next day. After that she said we should stop hooking up otherwise we would stop being friends. And she said it already changed the relationship and she didn't know if she could still be friends with me. I said ok we could go back to the time where we were just friends.

We agreed to stay apart for a week. She ended up calling me before the week was up.

Fast forward a week, we get drunk and hook up again. And again and again. At this point whenever we're alone we end up making out or cuddling or fucking, usually all three.

She's coming over soon. Neither of us say anything but we both know what will happen.

>>38748526
I think she was just disappointed when she met you.

>>38748588

I don't go full white knight, but i paid for failed date. My friend said i 'cucked myself' for paying, but i just think if you asked for the date, you take her to a sit-down restaurant and you don't pay, you're kind of a piece of shit.

Meeting at chipotle for lunch though is a bit different, i think i should just pay for my own meal there.

>>38744937
I haven't touched a woman that I wasn't related to for 8 years, you're a normie just stop being here LEAVE US ALONE REEEEEEEEEEEE.EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.EEREREEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>38748678
nah it's fine, you gotta take risks and I agree I always pay unless the girl is a complete bitch then I'll just walk off

You've just gotta go case by case, analyse how likely it is if you can bang this girl, how long it will take and if it's worth buying her food. If you think you'll probably never bang her don't go on a date with her, waste of time and money

>>38748048
damn, she is qt.
But it's not like she is "perfect"
Move on!

>>38744937
Literally get over her. Works every time.

>>38744937
>squirt 6 streams of cum
>on my best days can only squirt once
I hate being cut.