>"you're an attractive guy just be more confident"

>>34234913
>I will refuse to take advice and keep wallowing in my self-pity

>>34235264
>JUST be more confident
>just do it
>it's so easy

"you have a lot going for you, anon"

fuck you reee ReeeReEEeeEeeee

>>34235264
Do you know what board you are on? Cmon guy,you know better.

>>34235264
IT'S YOUR FAULT BECAUSE YOU AREN'T CONFIDENT AND HAVE GOOD SOCIAL SKILLS.
fuck off

>>34235264
Where is the confidence supposed to magically come from, if every single thing I have seriously tried in my life has failed miserably?

>>34235286
>>34235301
>>34235317
>I am too afraid to take responsibility for my own happiness and will continue to lay this responsibility on my environment

>>34235396
t. normafaggot

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>Just go to her and say "Hi"

>>34235396

Even assuming I take responsibility, how do I go about changing a fundamental aspect of my personality? I'm not even being a dick and asking rhetorically; I'm genuinely curious as to how someone goes about doing this.

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>>34235441
h-hi
>look away
>feel sweat starting
>look back at her
>she says hi back
>feel the flood of sweat coming down my forehead
>okay bye
>fast walk away

>>34235396
>You have total control over your behaviour, past experiences, personality and so forth have zero influence on the way you behave

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>>34235468
>she says hi back
>you dont know where to put your hands
>start hearing your heart bumping
>lungs become heavy like lead
>short, shallow breaths start occurring
>she shows mild face of disgust
>you lower your head or excuse yourself

>>34235443
Brain chases dopamine
If you do something, and get dopamine, you'll keep doing it
If you act confidently and people respond positively, you'll get dopamine
Brain links confidence with dopamine, confidence achieved

And if people don't respond positively you are less likely to try it

>>34234913
It's true you fucking idiot of course you don't go for the club going Stacy with 20 past boyfriends, try the virgin Christian girl or the Nerdy one

>>34235264
>just be yourself
>change your entire personality and appearance
>we are tolerant and like diversity
>you must be the very same as us

>>34235476
>You totally cannot man up and stop being a faggot

>>34235538
Nerdy girls and Christian girls have sex too.

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>>34235538

>virgin Christian girl.

Literally my ideal gf.

>tfw too scared to go to church.
>tfw don't want to join just to leave if there isn't a qt there.

>>34235551
>JUST BE A MAN PUSSY HUEHUE

why are you here?

>>34235560
I know a shit tons who don't, in my country there are several Catholic communities where girls are forbidden to have sex before marriage

>>34235551
You can but it takes much more effort as you make it out to be

>>34235476
>the world is black and white, and the fact that environmental factors and past experiences influence your personality means that you cannot make decisions of your own
inb4 nihilist-determinist arguments; don't make me find links to anti-determinist intro-level articles that you won't bother to read anyway
Let me just drop this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compatibilism

>>34235966
Lol you bug you twisted my phrase around so that it says something else
And compatibilism is exactly what I think, I've discussed it on /his/ and /lit/

I just think that some people downplay some other factors, especially if you read biology and something less related: political science

>>34235443
Meditation. Once you observe your thoughts and feelings, you will cease to self-identify with those thoughts and feelings. Instead of believing that "anxious" or "unmotivated" are traits that you are (and cannot separate yourself from), you will view them as emotions that you are currently experiencing. In that moment of realization where you become aware of this fact, you can make a decision on how to react to this emotion. This allows you to speak up despite feeling anxious, or to clean your room despite feeling lazy. It does not immediately remove those emotions, but it helps you see those emotions from an outside perspective where they don't hold the same amount of power over you.

>>34235545
>complain and cry and beg for attention and pity all the time
>everyone who doesn't appreciate my company is cruel and/or vain

>>34235441
what do if she's not real?

>>34234913

>get told i have nice face by several girls
>always find something to lower my self esteem
>also social anxiety

>>34235588
Most of us don't live in a third world shithole. Even so, I can guarantee lots of them are having sex. They are just lying to you.

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>>34234913
>you're an attractive guy just be more confident
>thanks mom

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>>34236387
Get this feeling out of me

>>34234913
>more confident = more handsome, rich, bigger dick

>>34236498
There are confident ugly poorfags out there getting laid.

>>34236527
>faking confidence = faking big dick, faking richness, faking to be handsome (>>>/fa/ + >>>/fit/)

>>34236572
>it's impossible to be confident if you're fat and ugly

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>>34236572
>robot thinks having a big dick and money makes you less of a sperg

>>34236731
>big dick
more confidence in childhood
>more money
better education
more confident through envorinment
better clothes
better equipment
better food
better medical treatment
attention from roasties

>>34236751
>he thinks the world is black and white
You need to stop thinking real life is like some tv show.

>>34236572
You're wrong, am average sized AT BEST, ugly and poor as fuck and had reasonable success with women through the years. I even ruined some of the "pure" bitches from your age bracket. You don't know shit and there are pieces of shit like me out there that take advantage of all the retards like you that look better but just lack confidence. Keep it up, I won't stop you.

>>34234913
Truth be told if you are attractive you don't really have anything to complain about.

>>34236751
Most kids don't realize they have big dicks. And even if they do, if they're socially retarded and autistic, confidence will only make it worse

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>>34236767
There is only true or false. Logic is universal.
>>34236795
Not my fault that there are women that are unreasonably dumb.
>>34236812
Arrogance also turns women on, but I give you that credit.

>>34236843
>I'm keep replying to you when you don't have any facts to back up your claims
Nah son. Keep being foolish.

>>34236811
>make new tinder account
>get 12 matches in first day (deleted one because i'm not into crossdressers)

am i doing ok?

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>>34236978
you should have dated the crossdresser faggot