Hey /gif/, dunno any better way to ask, but how do I last longer?

While you are doing it with someone else, or alone?

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>>8206244
Basically the same deal with both. Doesn't matter if I'm having sex with a girl or beating my meat, it's the same 50/50 rule

i have the same problem except for the lasting for 20 minutes part

that's maybe happened once outside of being on some sort of medication

take long, steady, deep breaths instead of many quick shallow ones. learn to flex the muscle you use to pee.

I've always found that how you practice is how you play in the game.

I've also found that when I last longer it's because I built up to it more. Don't play with your head, just the shaft. Eat the girl out and stroke yourself slowly at the same time. Don't rush into fucking the girl fast and hard. Ease into it.

Practice edging when you're alone. That creates self control and also helps control your muscles better.

>>8206234
Are you uncut? If so, I don't know how to help really. Cut just has the advantage in lasting longer, at the cost of some pleasure.

Do you masturbate often? If not, do so more often. I find myself a bit desensitized due to 17 years of masturbating once a day on average.

Other tricks while in the middle of sex:
-Stay deep, but swap to kissing, touching, nipple play, ear nibbling, neck nibbling, whatever. Do this before you find yourself approaching the point of no return so you can ease back a bit.
-Keep up a steady pace for extended times. Find a pace your partner likes and stick with it a bit. Really focus on it and keep time in your mind. It is hard to accidentally cum when you are thinking "One, two, three, four / Two, two, three four"
-Think of mundane shit. Grocery list. What you watched on YouTube yesterday. Whatever it takes to cool you off.

As for masturbating? Just take your hand off your dick at like 60-70% done. Edge forever. You'll get to know your limits better. Bonus, it feels better and you cum more at the end.

>>8206238
whoa whoa whoa... um can someone sauce this pls

>>8206234
Whatever solution you come to, OP, don't overdo it, whatever you do.
I last easily 45+ minutes and it's absolutely no fun. My girlfriend actually gets bored because I last so long. It's actually putting stress on our relationship. Just be careful, OP.

>>8206410
This. Basically if you want to have sex you have to imagine you're not having sex.

>>8206558
The flipside isn't great either, not OP but I last about 3-4 minutes tops when we actually fuck. It's literally killing me inside and makes me feel like utter shit and because of it I tend to not want to have sex and it's also destroying our relationship.

Picture Kevin Spacey floating above your bed

>>8206234
Jerk off before you have sex, that helps

slow down, pace yourself. pull out and rub and kiss her a bit

food that ends hunger is the most satisfying
make her hungry
that's all i got anon

>>8206234

Just do what they do in porn and stand there jerking off for ten minutes while moaning/screaming

>>8206234
Do kegels while you're not having sex to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. When you're fucking, pay attention to how much you are tightening those same muscles. The longer you tighten them, the closer to cumming you're going to get. Try to keep them loose.

>>8206234
Sex isn't over just because you came one time. Keep going after you cum, don't be a fucking pansy, and don't worry about how long the first round lasts. There should be multiple rounds.

Because after you instabust you'll be able to fuck for hours.

>>8207215
and then imagine he's lecturing you about premature ejaculation

>>8206234
Whenever I'm getting close. I start doing simple pythagorian stuff in my head. Works like a fucking charm.

Like (3^2+7^2)^(1/2)

wish I could help OP. I have the opposite problem. I could a fuck a girl for half an hour and not bust. Never had anyone finish me off other than myself.

>>8206251
The way that worked for me is that I kind of fapped in a way where I could only cum while tensing certain muscles or jacking it a certain way. If you train yourself to cum in a way that's very specific, then sex should last longer. I can go for a couple of hours with my fiance, but I could cum in a couple of minutes too when I do it a certain way.

>>8206234
Jerk off an hour beforehand

>>8206234
name ??

>>8206234
stop thinking about your dad during sex, you will last longer when you are less sexually excited.
Unless you are black of course, but then you have larger problems than not knowing who your father is.

>>8206886
Along with this, position is a big factor for me. Ones where I'm doing the work, ESPECIALLY doggy style, make me reach critical levels real quick. If she's riding me it's easier to focus on something else.

Op, there's nothing wrong with you. I wish we could trade places. I can fuck for an hour and barely enjoy it. It has caused me all kinds of relationship problems.

>>8206410
This sucks
Taking the pleasure away sure works, but why are you having sex then?

After so many years I finally managed to last longer through sheer willpower. When I'm close to the BEGINNING of the stronger sensation that leads you to orgasm, my mind just goes "what the fuck, this is enjoyable and I don't have to cum at all, I don't WANT to cum yet!", and focus on controlling the overexcitement for some seconds. Just some seconds and it goes away and I can keep on going, feeling full pleasure from the sex.
This was not easy to achieve at all, took me time and practice, but then something clicked and now I can fuck for quite a while (30 mins and more, which was impossible before).

>>8208302

Nasta Zya

http://foxtube.com/videos/nasta-zya-fucks-group-strangers-after-cruising-7064.shtml

>>8206234

I have the same problem OP. I usually just get to myself and get nervous which causes me to bust. I was with a girl for years and she was cool with the insta-bust, but when we broke up I was banging other chicks and busting quick all the time. Eventually with one girl 2 mins into boning I said "I'm going to cum" and she just got mad at me and said I better not, and I didn't I lasted a long time. Since that day I still bust quick, but I've been doing better.

My trick is I watch a bit of porn to get hard, but then stop watching porn as I jerk off. Just enjoy the act of jerking off, and not thinking about busting. After doing this for about 15-20 mins, I allow myself to cum (either with or without porn).

tl;dr don't think about cumming. Enjoy the act of fucking.

>>8208200
>8208200
THis dude knows what's up. If you want to relax your PC muscle (making your dick bounce when you have a boner or stopping the stream when you pis) you need to push out your ass (as if you're taking a shit). You can't tense both muscles at the same time. Works great for me. If you get close to the point of no return, tense the shit out of your PC muscle. If you become pro you can actually come without ejaculating but I never bother because I tend to last well over an hour on average.

>>8208200
yes yes yes, i second this. I was doing kegel exercises when I peed and after shitting. I was a good rollerskater too, so the muscles there was extremely good. And I was jerking off almost daily. I just simply knew I will last longer than my girl, there are some occasions when she orgasmed twice until I came, I did not had to do lame shitty "unfocus" or "think on your grandma". After I stopped doing skating, forgot to do kegels, and did not have time to jerk off, my performance dropped.

Does anyone know how to deal with the opposite problem? I cam usually go for an hour or two before I just have to jerk off instead so I can finally get it over with. I only mastru aye about once a week or so and I don't really feel like I have death grip or anything that might be causing it.

>>8209865
Let yourself enjoy the session, dont try to cum, dont force it. If you clenche your pc muscles there something happens, what makes it delay. I learned this when I masturbated, and then got angry when cant cum.

>>8206410
Cut or uncut shouldnt matter. I'm uncut and generally last longer than my stamina can hold out. Longest continuous time fucking was 3 hours straight without me cumming. I have gone much longer if we take breaks. It's all about your own self control, not your physical attributes. If you are mentally super excited to be having sex, then you will not last as long. If you can detach yourself a bit from your excitement then you can last much longer.

>> TL;DR it's not about your physical attributes, it's about your mental attributes.

>>8206234
Focus on breathing and nothing else. Stab your fingers into your taint when you feel you're about to nut. The discomfort buys you an extra minute or two

>>8207844
Tac-wank is the only way

>>8206234

Alcohol.

>>8216125
If you really want to try and kill your dick for the evening take some coke or MD

>>8206234
Personally, Insta-bust and keep going, do whatever or look at whatever turns you on and stay hard, if you feel yourself going down, do whatever you like to get back up while playing with their stimulative parts, works best in relationships though

>>8209740
>you need to push out your ass

i dunno if its the lack of sleep but this one lane made me laugh way too fucking hard

>>8206413
mya lane

>>8206234
Same problem here, 50% of the time it turns into an unwanted quickie. When it happens I try to please her with fingers/tongue, I also try to pause and do it before cumming but she is always like "just fuck me".
When it happens I'm super depressed and she says doesn't matter I enjoyed it.
And that's why I fantasize about cuckolding

>>8218595
Why dont u just edge

gonna blow all your minds here, so sit down if you arnt already.

Take a drug called tramadol. Its a synthetic pain killer that is prescribed where harder drugs like oxycodone and morphine are not necessary (so its easy to find). For some reason its incredibly hard to orgasm/cum while under the influence of it. If i take it and then try and jack off, i literally cant come - like 85 mins straight jerkin off to my fav porn and nothing (extremely frustrating). All it take is 1 x 25mg capsule.

I took some when i lost my virginity and lasted a solid 30 mins (with a chick who knew what she was doing) and had to really try hard to cum.

Plus its a painkiller, it really feels good to have sex on.

Thank me later minute men.

>>8209740
Lmao you're an idiot.

>>8206410
>Stay deep
works for me. cuz stimulus on my shaft is less intense than on the tip (think its the same for everyone)

also if she's on top.

theoretically: If you make her really wet. the friction could be less and also the stimulus on your dick. (dont really know cuz i dont like quickies) long story short: foreplay.

>>8206904
do more oral or fingering or car.

>>8218797
sry: *caressing

2 main things in my opinion is training your PC mucle, the second thing is deep controled breathing (both of them needs a lot of practice though). When u learn to control your breathing whithout thinking about anything else, you can last for as much as you want.

>>8206234
I have a 75/25rule, but mine is arguably worse

About three quarters of the time, I'm somewhere in the vicinity of 15 to 20 minutes (actual fucking), which I consider fairly okay.

The rest of time time, I don't even fucking know why, but I could go til the heat death of the universe and shit just doesn't happen for me. Those tend to be the times where I start feeling like I'll bust real early, so I just kinda go to myself "not yet man, jesus" but once that point has come and gone, it's fucking game over and I have no idea why.

You haven't seen a disappointed girl until you've gone soft inside her (literally in a space of 15 seconds) and can't explain yourself.

>>8208200
similarly, if i feel like i'm about to cum i can start doing kegel exercises for about 30 seconds straight and it'll make me go soft, then lick pussy until i'm hard again

>>8218797
>>8206234
I'm awesome att carring my girl, this way I don't need to last that long either.

>>8206558
You're boring in bed. If you knew how to keep a woman engaged she'll happily continue even for hours.

Pinch your thighs really really hard, the pain stop you from cumming.

pau yuen tong balm, use as directed

>>8206234

OK I used to be in your shoes and while there isn't one magic bullet, all of these things can help a little. So do them all in combination:

1. Act clinically depressed; get prescribed for SSRIs. Makes a big difference.

2. Google "pelvic floor exercises for premature ejaculation". It's hard to believe but the trigger to ejaculate includes a lot of physical / musculature elements that no amount of thinking about baseball can overcome.

3. Stop frequently during intercourse. As often as you want. If it drives her crazy, even better. Get her off with your mouth and fingers. You're in charge here.

4. Booze up beforehand; like 1-2 drinks.

5. Don't fap to porn.

6. Use condoms. They suck. If you can't stay hard in one, go to your urologist and tell him you have trouble keeping an erection. You can get a 30-day free trial of a certain ED drug (the one that starts with C, which IMO is the best one).

7. When you fap, slow the fuck down, don't tense up anything in your pelvic/rectal area, and don't have a "death grip" on your dick.

Good luck, anon. I'm cured and you can be too.

>>8206234
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9p3j294sqM8

>>8219408
Trolling goes here
>>>/b/

>>8206234
Female anon here. Quality bro, not quantity.
15-20 is great if you make it great.

>>8206234
I had the same problem until i got depression and got put on cipralex...its an SSRI. Literally can fuck forever, however it's quite frustrating.

>>8220642
FUCK CIPRALEX.
SMOKE WEED EVERYDAY.

guys i really dont want to admit but have to ask

i have problem of staying hard, especially if im on top. it does have something to do with my stamina and after 5 or 10 minutes of pumping i go soft, flaccid. i stop enjoying the sex and all pleasure goes away.

what do you guys do if you start to go soft?

>>8208470
Doggy style is so hard to maintain for me. I can normally go pretty long with basic missionary or if she is on top, but holy fuck. Doggy style kills me.

>>8206234
Make sure your bladder is completely empty before the act. Works for me

Hi Anon, I hope my advice won't get lost 'cause I wish I had known from the beginning.

What did it for me was very simple: learning to edge and appreciate the feeling BEFORE cumming (you can practice that alone), but most of all - controlled breathing.

If you concentrate while making love, you'll find out you breathe out when you go out, and breathe in when you slide in (she does the same BTW, so try to sync your breaths and you'll always stick to her rhythm).

The trick is to limit your breathing in when you're close to the edge. I've found out that I'm edging waaaaay faster when I breathe deeply in, and I can control it a lot better if I focus on breathing out deliberately slowly and not stroking desperately but just go with pelvian stimulation (rubbing your pelvis against her clit while being fully inside).

Give it a try. This honestly saved me from thinking I was the shittiest guy for never being able to control anything and I wish I hadn't spent years flipping about it.

Good luck Anon!

>>8220681
Shit happens. I can't keep it up if my girl is on top. That gif of the broken dick is too deeply seared into my memory.

>>8220681
stop watching so much porn

Fap more, i have the exact opposite problem of you OP. Been fapping almost 5-6 times a day for the past 6 months, i met a girl recently and i cant cum when we fuck, shell climax 3 4 times and i just cant blow a fucking load. its a problem.

>>8206234

Idk man I find it just helps to have experience after a while you will learn how to delay your orgasm. I edge a lot when i jack off so when i first starting having sex i lasted 30 minutes on average if i had a lot of freetime. For the first time having sex in the day its okay to cum after 15 minutes. I try to hold off until I accidentally cum or if i know i have made my partner cum enough times.

>>8221269
thanks man

no offense but ya'll are fuckin nitwits only one or two of you even came close to answering the op's questions. they're called kegels or pelvic floor excercises. get familiar with those and practice them every day. like any other muscle, you have to work out the kegel muscle which means you squeeze the muscle you feel when you make piss shot out faster than you push the same muscle out(when you pissing, make the piss stop) do the squeeze for thrity seconds or as long as you can then do the push for the same amount of time. it will take practice but the more you work them out the stronger those muscles will get making you harder and able to last longer, but its no quick fix, you have to be dedicated

i did the research myself it will most likely help you mopre than anything anyone can say here but if you aint gonna do that i forgot to mention that you must do these exercises laying on your back and for guidance you can wrap your hand around your nuts and with your fingers feel for a muscle contracting during the exercises right beneath your balls

one more thing masturbating doesnt necessarily make you last longer fools its that building up and lasting as long as you possible can which makes you last longer if you jerk off all the time and cum as fast as possible that will only decrease your longevity

>>8206234
I've got the opposite problem. I have trouble comming at all and even struggle to stay hard. Why is sex so boring in reality?

if your having a problom staying hard without coming than you may need a healthier diet, maybe some exercise if its because its too pphysically draining for you. it could also be a mental thing possibly sexual disfunction meaning that maybe you dont feel comfortable with your partner, are too stressed out for some reason, or feel immasculated for example

women also do kegels its what makes them tighter and more sensitive

>>8223382
Typically comes down to one of two things: You're boring, or your partner is boring. Incompatible genitals can also cause problems, there's a huge variety in vagina and penis size and if your penis is too small in relation to their vagina you'll have little sensation, whereas with the opposite you run into problems with being able to maneuver in all the ways you want, which can once again lead to boring sex. If your dick is too small, maybe try a cockring. If your dick is too big, get a partner with a bigger snatch or try to make things interesting with stuff other than penetration.

>>8218730
Nah, what he said is pretty much right. He just explained it weirdly.
The "pushing out the ass" thing he's talking about is the opposite of doing a kegel.
Having control of that muscle really helps when you have to stop yourself from cumming. I found a good guide on reddit about how to identify and control that muscle, since it's hard to understand "just the opposite of a kegel squeeze".
But yeah, learning that thing and remember to take deep breaths while fucking are really good tips

>>8220681
Learn to use your fingers and tongue, then don't sweat it. Resume foreplay; repeat as needed.

Mate trust me that's a good amount of time I last 1 hour min and i have to be lucky to get that I can't have a quicki and I can't bullshit to the misses about I'll last 10 mins I can't have sex on a week day past 11pm because I have work at 5am and usually last 2 h 30 m be thankful for what you have.

>>8206234
It's easy
stop worrying about how long you last
just stop having a refractory period
then it doesn't matter

>>8220639
the bad thing is about being a quick-buster is the frustration that make sex a real time strategy game in your head. i'm a 'sensitive' man too, yet i can last longer with some tricks but your head never gets empty. therefore you can't focus on fucking your woman better. 'ok ok i'm cumming, i need to stop and lick her', 'oh shit it's on, i need to do things with my muscles' etc. instead i want to think about the way i fuck her. the difference between a quick buster 20 min sex and a relax headed 20 min sex is these.

>>8220681
go to a psychiatrist. tell about your childhood. and maybe have sex with woman you like or have sex because just you want to.

>>8206234
15 - 20 minutes = marathon sex. Actual term, just fyi

>>8206234
basically beat it three times a day and eventually when you get inside an actual pussy it'll take a while.

Easy. By going vegan. fat of meat wont let blood run through easily throughout of the body!
#VeganLastLonger

Hey OP, it's all a mental game. I used to struggle with lasting too long, now I struggle with not lasting long enough. Think about it like you would think of exercise, don't focus on worrying about lasting a long time or not, or how good it feels, just get into a rhythm in a position that you feel comfortable in but also doesn't make you want to bust immediately. Also, if you relax your prostate and unclench your asshole it'll actually help you last longer.

1 - think about other stuff
2 - thrust more slowly

To me it's like building a tolerance. The more sex you have the better you'll be and the longer you last.

>>8227196
More like #VegansGetErectileDysfunction

>>8206234
Have more sex jerk off more