/sig/ - self improvement general

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Before you ask a question, read the /sig/ sticky

http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky

bump for self-improvement

All people looking to better themselves should try quitting porn. Nofap is only useful to some people and cold showers are only good at increasing toughness but not watching porn will work wonders to your confidence and you will in fact look back as your porn watching habit as a degenerate stage in your life you are glad you overcame.

>>42025631
How long have you been porn-free? I recently deleted my 220GB of porn after some seriously bad post-fap regret.

>>42025879
10 weeks and counting. Every time i get an urge i just rub one out using my imagination. Quitting porn may be hard, but it is worth it and will make you a better person.

>>42025879
Ill compile the positives i experienced in a list.
>no postfap regret
>more disgust for porn from an objective perspective as your personal bias is gone
>more drive to meet women in real life
>you feel 'cleaner'
>you feel more positive about yourself, less like a beta male who gets off to watching other people fuck (yes, you are basically a cuck when watching porn)
>you appreciate women in real life more, not in a nu-maley way, you just find good looking women more attractive since your standards arent raised extremely high by readily available images of a hot naked actress getting pounded
>makes other changes in your life easier (porn was an addiction for me, if i can overcome that a lot of other things seem minor)
Glad to help a fellow /sig/izen out, try quitting porn cold turkey today, it isnt really that hard.

>>42025631
I haven't watched porn in over 5 months.
I've been back on /fit/ for a couple of days and I already broke my 125 day nofap streak, and catch my self more and more often clicking on threads that have some chick in the OP. I've yet to go through a whole /fit grill/ or /high test/ thread, but I'm close to taking my dick out and jerking it to one of those.
I should probably leave this place again.

>>42026022
And still fap to FB pics?

>>42023432
Boy sure wish I could read this pixelated photograph

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>>42026648

Anyone take nootropics?

Iron never turns its back on men. Men turn their back on the Iron

>>42027905
Alpha brain because I'm a sucker, helps, but not a huge gain

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>>42023412

>>42026480
No, but i cant see how doing that is bad so go ahead.

>>42025631
Does Facebook pictures of girls I know count as porn?

Should i invest in stocks if i live in the third world?

>>42032302
Yeah man wool socks are a solid investment for all seasons

Should i bother with girls if i dont have car and dont know how to drive?

>>42032360
Yes but you should try to get a car and learn to drive because its essential in our times.

>>42026751
>blames self for everything
>knows nothing
>respects everyone
>knows limits, "often wrong"
>one is fucking dead already
That green hill is literally a cuck zone

>>42031585
If you have to ask then yes

>>42034012
think harder and maybe you'll realize how dumb you are

Anyone here quit weed after smoking daily for a long period of time? Been smoking pretty much daily for the last 2 years and have tried and failed to stop multiple times the last few months. I've recently realised its just holding me back.
On day 2 now, trying to change my perspective to see weed as a negative in my life.

Any experience, tips or changes you noticed when you quit?

world-geography-games.com/

do this every day for 5 minutes. Africa is really tough though

>>42026022
Should also note that if you're an anarchyfag porn is a violation of the NAP because of how highly it correlates with the women being abused children, human trafficking, prostitution, drug use, etc.

>>42023412
going to hand in a resume for an electrical apprenticeship tomorrow and shake the boss' hand, my friend works there as an apprentice and is going to put a good word in for me.

how do i nail this and not sperg out??? please fellas help me out i've been a neet for a year and i can't take it anymore

>>42026022
>just relapsed after merely one day
I can't do it brehs

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>>42027905
They're not as great as you'd think. A good sleep and exercise routine help more. I tried noopept before it became illegal and I'm pretty sure it did nothing

>>42031585
Sounds like a bad path to go down. But it's much less harmful than porn.

>>42035962
Sounds like you're just memorising useless information. There's probably something more beneficial you could be doing

>>42036290
Try meditating, realise that this not that big of a deal but that you'll still remain calm. Talk to people before the interview so that you're warmed up and maybe even do some practice runs. At least ask your mate to give you some tips and what would be useful to know.
Remember to give a firm handshake, hold eye contact, and smile :)

>>42036268
Thats a pretty good point, didnt think of that
>>42036292
Its easy, just fap without porn if you really feel an urge. The longer you go without porn, the easier it gets to quit it.

>>42036292
https://www.darkmoon.me/2014/pornography-as-a-secret-weapon-by-lasha-darkmoon/
Reading this should keep you motivated. If you dont believe in /pol/ stuff, mentally replace the word jew with the name of another group you dislike, and if you are a /pol/ browser it should be very effective in your motivation to quit.

>>42036554
>https://www.darkmoon.me/2014/pornography-as-a-secret-weapon-by-lasha-darkmoon/

Holy shit, that shit is almost on a the same level as pizzagate but whatever helps you.

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>>42023412
I'm nowhere near to what I want to be but I'm starting to change my habits.

>Started going to the gym 8 weeks ago and have not missed a single workout. Down 7kg (not that fat but I wasn't that skinny either.) Making gains. Diet is good now. Junk food isn't appealing to me anymore. People that haven't seen me in a while are mirin.

>Reading more.

>Doing Nofap for a while but hopefully Noporn permanently. Currently 12 days but my longest streak was 21 days. I was using porn as a crutch because of social anxiety problems.

>>42037059
Good job friend. What are you currently reading and would you recommend it to /fit/?

>>42023432
The pastebin link and more free book link are broken if you haven't noticed yet.

>>42037102
https://pastebin.com/sZGYamhW

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What's a good way to make male friends in a new city?
I'm 23 and just started an office job far from where I went to college. My coworkers are all much older, my short term roommates are degenerate as fuck party girls (my landlord dropped me in with them while my place is being renovated)
So I've actually gotten to fuck a few sloots via that circle of people, but I really need some bros. Being surrounded by only women is hell. I've met a few people at my gym, and a few rock climbing, but I feel like there's more I can do.

>>42037069
Not him but if you want some really awesome and challenging books, read Cormac Mcarthy. Don't start with blood meridian, instead read All the pretty horses, no country for old men, the road, etc. His books contain some really devastating and thought provoking concepts, and some great meditations on what it means to be a man. Blood meridian is one of the most challenging books I've ever read, but fuck me is it worth the effort.
>Who has not heard such a tale? A turn of the card. The whole universe for such a player has labored clanking to his moment which will tell if he is to die at that man’s hand or that man at his. What more certain validation of a man’s worth could there be? This enhancement of the game to its ultimate state admits no argument concerning the notion of fate. The selection of one man over another is a preference absolute and irrevocable and it is a dull man indeed who could reckon so profound a decision without agency or significance either one. In such games as have for their stake the annihilation of the defeated the decisions are quite clear. This man holding this particular arrangement of cards in his hand is thereby removed from existence. This is the nature of war, whose stake is at once the game and the authority and the justification. Seen so, war is the truest form of divination. It is the testing of one’s will and the will of another within that larger will which because it binds them is therefore forced to select. War is the ultimate game because war is at last a forcing of the unity of existence. War is god.
It's difficult to parse meaning because the author likes to break convention and use run on sentences without much punctuation, but goddamn.

>>42036554
Fuck, this convince me, no porn for me for the rest of my life
Gonna fuck hooker instead when i'm hotny

>>42037069
Couldn't recommend anything /fit/ related, I'm just reading /pol/ related books (reading Evolutionary Psychology Behind Politics by Anonymous Conservative.)

Although I want to read Anabolics 10th Edition.

>>42037288
Try grindr

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>>42023412
How can I stay cool, calm and collected, in a non cringey way, while still being social?

I go between either being desperate, and bouncing around trying to talk to everyone, or chill but being by myself alone.
When I try to mix the two I just get weird looks.

Pic related, James Bond is calm and cool as fuck.

>>42023412
How to regain my compassion for my fellow man? I got a job and I'm starting to become bitter towards people and I don't like it. I'm trying to keep the viscous contentious thoughts out of my head but it gets harder when I constantly hear people slandering each other behind each other's backs and generally being horrible to each other. Also how are the lifts going my dudes? I'm getting close to 3pl8 deadlift myself and started running again.

>>42037556
The answer I should have expected on /fit/

>>42037585
Take a genuine interest in other people, and make a conscious effort to slow down and give measured responses. Ask more questions than you answer. People love to talk about themselves. It's very easy to control the flow of a conversation when you're asking all the questions and giving very measured responses.

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What do y'all think about pic related?

I've just hit rock bottom, and now i am going to ascend to godliness by next year.

When i say rock bottom, i mean no money, no university degree and a shitty job. How well can i repair being skinnyfat by July 5th, 2018?

who else /duolingo/ here?
or just learning a language in any way

>>42025631
Day 9 nofap here.

Holy shit it's a tough one.

Woke up hard. Got work in a few but can't keep my hands out of my pants. Pulled up porn and closed it. Opened Facebook to drool over a friend and closed it.

At least my boss won't be in today, she's normally cute little MILF but I'll bet after 9 days of not hitting the stress release valve she's a goddess.

>>42034012
red goat detected

>>42037585
James Bond is a fictional character. All his social interactions are planned out by a screenwriter. DO NOT try and imitate him.

>>42039143
learning spanish and japanese right now senpai

>>42039143
I find it's only really good as a supplement, it doesn't teach conjugation or syntax, just vocab.

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>>42039020
>How to not be a fucking retard and molest people
I'm sure it has valid information, but it's very outdated. Check out that meditation pic I posted above and try to find what works for you through trial and error
Everyone should learn to meditate and gain some perspective. It's of great benefit

I seem to take care of myself when monitored by someone else, but otherwise I don't.

how fix

>>42039493
Turn on your Webcam and give me a link. I'll monitor and judge you for 0.1btc per week.

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>>42040246
fuck this guy, I'll do it for 0.05 btc a week

>>42040265
Screw you buddy, this is my client now. Go poach r9k.

I can feel the improvement brahs

last year
>185 lbs
>ate junk food, and whatever else
>drunk all the time
>party all the time
>neet
>smoke cigs
>parents paid all my bills

this year
>160 lbs
>keto diet
>cook 90% of my food
>meditate 30 mins/ day
>drink sparingly
>quit cigs
>warehouse job making $14/hour
>parents only pay for my insurance

next year's goals
>save up for a telescope and learn the night sky
>stay at my job and hit incentive, make like $16/hour if I git gud
>start microdosing LSD twice a week
>start going to gym consistently even though my job is more than enough exercise
>save up and create a business plan so I don't have to be a wageslave forever
>learn a new language
>buy nice clothes that fit me so I don't look like a hobo anymore

Anything else I should put on my to-do list? Nofap is going to be my final challenge. I want to look as good as possible before I force myself back on the dating market. Yes, I know that's kinda autistic

>>42040377
Do they really pay for that? Cuz holy shit does that sound like something I could do, even if some fucko was giving me only like 0.01 btc/week

>>42039051
A man that has nothing to lose, has everything to gain.
We all gonna make it brah.

>>42039051
You can do really well in a year anon. First step is building a budget. That shitty job needs to cover your rent food and gym costs. Then budget your time. Improving sleep vastly improves quality of life. Spending slightly less time relaxing or browsing the internet because "you earned it" can change a lot. Third, it doesn't matter what workout plan you choose, just stick to it religiously.
You're gonna make it.

>>42039441
so what do you use for the base

>>42037288
Classes at the gym, martial arts, team sports.

>>42040417
Why the fuck is microdosing LSD twice a week a goal for you? Alos, acid aint cheap

>>42040623
Either online classes or a rip of Rosetta stone. I also have a FWB who speaks French and she let's me practice and laughs at me.

>>42023412
I have fixed my sleep schedule by staying up for ~30 hours recently. I've been going to bed between 4 and 6 am, now I sleep between 10 pm and 6 am. The reason I did it this way is that this is the only reliable method of fixing one's sleep schedule, at least in my experience.
I've lost 15 kilos in the last 4 months, 4 more to go.
I've looked up my elbow problem that prevented me from lifting for the last 4 years on YouTube (turns out it's called tricep tendonitis), started doing the recommended workouts, and my pain has improved a lot in the last 5 days. Hopefully I'll be able to start lifting in one or two months, so I can avoid being the eternal skinnyfat.
The only things I have a problem with are studying, I tend to give up when I encounter something that is hard to understand, and my "internet addiction". I'll start studying tomorrow (I'm going to sleep in 20 minutes, no point in starting now).

>>42034012
Hello there red goat

I recently realized that one of the reasons I have shitty posture that holding a correct posture just feels unnatural, so I decided to stand and sit with a straight back every day for 10 minutes each. I also tend to cross my legs when I stand, which is just really fucking unmanly, so I want to get rid of that too. Also, could I get rid of my arachnophobia by touching random spiders? It's not really serious, like I don't run out of the room when I see one, but I'm really afraid of touching them. There are no deadly spiders where I live, fyi.

>>42039143
I already speak English relatively well (passed the C1 exam a couple years ago), but I plan on reading a book on grammar, since I feel like my grammar is bad, and I put new words I see online in anki (flashcard software), to expand my vocabulary. I don't plan on learning an entire new language though, because I don't feel like it would be the best use of my time right now.

>>42040463
I guess of you were a hot woman some poor sap would pay you to shout abuse at them via Skype, but I was just joking.

>>42041230
I started looking at pictures of spiders and it helped a bit. Still freak out if one sneaks up on me or is particularly big, but it's better.

>>42023412
Quitting smoking. Bought myself a block. 10 packs, 20 cigarettes each.

So what I am doing is putting away a cigarette from every new pack I open in the morning, +1 everyday. I literally smoke a pack a day.

Now on day 7, brought it down to 13 a day, gonna be 12 tomorrow.
So far I already cut it in half and I barely feel it.

Everything is working great brehs.

>>42033461
Depends on whether he lives in Europe or not really.

>>42039472

>putting boxing above literally all MMA
>putting Krav Maga in AT ALL, let alone at the very top of the list

too bad, I went in thinking I was going to enjoy this info

>>42040984

>not just googling the benefits yourself

I thought bodybuilders weren't lazy?

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>Been improving slowly for years
>A lot better looking / confident / smarter / better job than before

>Old HS oneitis snapchatting herself
>She looks amazing
>Literally a beautifull woman

What the fuck lads I feel like I'm racing against time and I'm losing no matter the overall gains I'm making on all fields.

>>42040984
>less than $40 for a years supply
>not cheap

>>42042095
post her pic

>>42039143
Came back from a semester abroad there and trying to continue learning German through duolingo.

Great tool but should only really be used a supplementation to your language studies. It helps with vocab and reading, but really falls short of helping you listen and respond to people in person.

>tfw 4 inch dick
>tfw 5ft8
>tfw broke my back squatting
>tfw loterally retarded
>tfw got fired from burger king for being the dumb guy
>tfw kicked out of military for not being able to swim or fold clothes
>tfw 26 and cant swim or drive


Im still trying tho

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>>42042029
Didn't make my dude, but i thought this guy's perspective would be interesting. I agree with the krav maga thing, that's simply bull (apart from perhaps some military taught stuff). And it wasn't as the very top it was second rank.
But apart from that being wrong everything else seems reasonable. Boxing kinda belongs on top because of the reasons he stated. He even states its cons. And mixed martial arts isn't exactly a martial art. It might be a class someone can take but it's a collection of styles, not just one. Anyway I definitely agree with his comments on boxing so i thought I'd post it

>>42042474
We're ALL gonna make it bro. Focus on recovering from your injury and your income first. Once you've got that in order I'd recommend picking up a martial art

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How'd ya deal with relapse brehs?

For a while I thought the whole SI was doing the job, genuinely one of the best months I've had in a long time. However this didn't stop my inner pessimist saying I will probably fuck this up and low and behold I do.

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>>42043898
find a hobby, or club and join it, like soccer or learning an instrument. Hiking or shooting is good too, if you want to just be with some bros. After a while you'll probably make some friends, and they'll likely have small parties so you can ease into it. I hate clubs too, and unless you're complete otter mode its a waste of time unless you're with your bros

Any tips on killing social anxiety (probably not the proper term but whatever). Basically, the last (and only) time I went to a club I broke the fuck down in the bathroom because I couldn't handle the crowds. Not sure if a psychiater is in my budget right now, but I really need something to make a couple of friends. Haven't talked to a girl in like 3 years.

>get told i need to flirt more to get girls
>cute girl at work saying how she wants to take off a day in august because she wants to take her 2 year old nephew to disneyland
>ask if she has a kid who she's gonna take with him
>she says "no its just us two, i dont have any kids duh"
>i jokingly reply "would you like some help with that?"
>end up in HR

i hate you /fit/

>>42043934
never flirt with anyone at work man, women will sic those HR crazies on anyone without hesitation. Its playing with fire, not worth

>>42043920
Sorry for deleting the post, posted again because I'm pretty sure it's not social anxiety. I've already got a hobby (MMA/BJJ/Kickboxing gym) with the goal of creating some friendships and I think I'm pretty close to actually having made some friends there. We're gonna go to a tournament together this saturday and I'm actually looking forward to watching them compete. We don't really hang out a lot outside of the gym yet (go out to grab food some time) but I go there like 4 times a week so we do talk quite a lot.

I'm surprisingly non-spergy in regular conversation, but for some reason crowds just get my head all fuzzy. I know this shouldn't be a problem but everyone at my gym is male, and everyone at my work is male, which means I don't ever get in contact with woman. All of my newly made acquaintances

>>42043921
keep doing it over and over until it becomes less shitty.

thats it

>>42043986
I see, you could always join some co-ed sport like softball or soccer, great way to show how athletic you are and meet some qts
Or even a book club or dance class.
Its good you have a hobby and some bros, you just need to find something that girls will be doing too so you can start to meet some.

>>42043934
Bruh that's some r9k tier autism, why tf would you think that was the right thing to say?

>>42044052
it was just jokingly flirting right?

>>42029102
thanks man i needed that

>>42039020
i read it, here is ur redpill

it has very valid, universal information. in order to see any results, you will have to constantly practice what this book says, and refer back to it when confused.

basic message is to take everything else from the other persons point of view.

what i didn't like is his countless anecdotes of when his principles were applied. most of it didn't seem real and there is no real way to fact check. it just gets incredibly repetitive.

What if I'm on nofap but a snapchat girl from tinder is begging to see me cum what do I do

I can't fuck her she's too far away but she sends me amazing videos

mindfulness can help with insomnia , stress

magnet:?xt=urn:btih:46F20E647E59D51A82B781BAF4472578623D1F75&dn=Headspace%20v2%20%28Complete%20-%20December%202015%29&tr=http%3a%2f%2fmgtracker.org%3a6881%2fannounce&tr=http%3a%2f%2fp4p.arenabg.ch%3a1337%2fannounce&tr=udp%3a%2f%2ftracker.coppersurfer.tk%3a6969%2fannounce&tr=udp%3a%2f%2ftracker.leechers-paradise.org%3a6969%2fannounce&tr=udp%3a%2f%2ftracker.zer0day.to%3a1337%2fannounce

ive been seeding this

>>42044234
That's a very unique situation desu
Maybe do it on live cam or something

>>42044234
uh huh sure

>>42039020
>>42044208

this, that book is a fucking meme

i listened to the audiobook and there are basically like 8 main principles that they extend out to 300 pages because of personal anecdotes of people using them

fucking waste of time

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Anyone read this book? I'm 27 years old and i'm looking to return to college to finish a bachelors degree but im lost on what to major in.

Anyone have any experience with this book or my problem in general? Advice is greatly appreciated.

>>42044044
Man I live in Europe and sports are very segregated here. I looked it up and the local team sports are train separate times. There's actually a kettleball class before my training classes I might look into, spotted some qt3.14s in the pictures. But there's also a capoeira class in the other room when I'm in grappling class (when I'm early to class I can see them training, probably 70% fit chicks), should I try to talk to some of them before class? I'm not sure if I won't sperg out and if I do I'll never hear the end of it, be it the banter or my trainer actually getting mad because I'll end up looking like a creep. Thanks for initiative though.

>>42043988
I've been a tard around crowds since forever. Just confronting it over and over again might work, I can probably count the times I tried on two hands, but I'm not sure. I'm kinda afraid someone'll see my breakdown, ashamed to admit in bad ones tears are involved.

>>42041230
Yes, exposure therapy is quite effective at treating phobias. You'll experience less anxiety each time.

>>42044306
why are you getting all upset about the crowd thing? so big loud crowds and venues aren't your thing. a lot of people don't like those environments. it doesnt make you a bad person

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>>42023412
Lost 80lbs in a year. Fixing my hair, clothes/general appearance first. Trying hard at fixing my general outlook on life now, reading, and becoming a calestheticfag seems pretty fun. Trying to fix 21 years of autism can be hard but I feel I'm headed in the right direction.

>>42036348
>>42035962
It's not necessary but it's useful and fun.

>>42044530
Local age range 18 to 24 culture is extremely clubbing/festival centric. Trying to find workarounds this far hasn't really been successful, so I'm just looking at my options here.

>>42044576
>that hairline
>looks like a beta
>dyel

You did improve anon, but you got a ways to go my friend. Get a haircut that doesn't emphasize your receding hairline, and get some muscle.

>>42044645
2 months old but not enough of a difference to make a new pic. I'm aware of my hairline and have now been on fin for 6mos. I gotta give it at least a year to see where to go with it. I wouldn't dare change until I escape dyel and really see how much fin improves things.

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>>42044678
maybe a shorter haircut can help? Also, try to get some clothes that fit better, the shirt is a bit too big in the 2nd pic.
You should still be proud though, you escaped being a fatty, now the easier job is ahead

>>42044712
Thanks anon. My hair is a little better now than then but still mostly the same. It's a little shorter though and I believe it's filling in but still too early to know for sure.

Also fuuck that shirt is already a size small.

>American

But I don't have too many clothes that fit that great due to my weight still constantly changing relatively fast and being kinda poor

>>42044110
There is no such thing as jokingly flirting you retard. All flirting is flirting on some level, and telling someone "Bear my children" is hardly even funny.

>>42044756
>thrift store+kids sections
as a manlet, I sometimes have to use kids sizes for some clothes
it is at least cheaper.

>>42044781
Man that's kinda shitty at 5'8 though, I realize that's kinda the line. Most of my clothes fit pretty okay now though. I'm not sure if I could bring myself to shop in the kids section

>>42040417
>start going to gym consistently even though my job is more than enough exercise
no amount is more than enough get fukken shredded

>>42035889
Yeah man, 5 yrs straight smoking without missing a day. Just get through the first week and you should be good. The hardest thing is gonna be your environment, if your friends smoke around you it will be 100x harder to quit.

>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
What does the sticky mean by this?

>>42045165
Dont hate yourself, basically. Also be more confident

>>42042849
You accept that you failed, then you get up and try again.

Berating yourself will only help you to stay on the ground for longer than what you should be.

I mean, you don't stop lifting if you fail, do you?
You keep going until you reach your goal.

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>>42042095
L E T G O

>>42041230
For fixing your posture I can only recommend this one here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LT_dFRnmdGs

It takes like 3min to do. I've been doing it almost daily and it helps a lot to get a decent posture without having to focus on it all the time.

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>tfw due to heavy social anxiety, being on the autism spectrum, and other such problems I ended up being 29 with no job experience, and no higher studies finished

>if I try to apply for some job now I'll be faced with people judging me by "not doing shit" based on their standards

>>42044234
>I can't fuck her she's too far away but she sends me amazing videos
What is the point of receiving her videos if you're on nofap anyway, and you can't fuck her?

What's a locker room hero?

>>42025940

I have thought of this rule a bunch of times but I never remember it when its porn time.

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>have consistent phenomenon that fucks up my academic performance and self confidence
>start every uni semester with a burst of motivation and discipline
>go to every lecture, wake up early, gym, write everything I need to do in a planner, do all my work
>2-3 weeks in I miss one lecture, beat the fuck out of myself for it and everything collapses until a few months later when it's almost exam times
>I end up rushing most of my work due to zero structure and hating myself for the entire semester as I go from social and outgoing at the start to living in my room and barely interacting (I live on campus)

This shit's seriously fucking me up and I almost considered suicide last semester lads, what do I do? I feel like I can achieve so much more but I've had so many false starts at this point I just don't know.
I've tried meditation and lifting, which have helped but they're also dependent on mood so frequency of those also drops sharply after the first few weeks

>>42047029
Why do you end up missing lectures?

>>42044234
If you know her IRL say something like "don't send me any more pics, I'd rather see you in person"

>>42042095
>>42045783
Keep going my dude. There's no point wasting time and effort on someone who doesn't think you're worthy of their time and effort. Invest the time and effort on someone who is worth it like yourself.

>>42047050
Last semester it was because I had decided the course in question's lectures weren't worth my time (content was not related to the course itself and the lecturer kept shilling for his friend's entry into federal politics by giving us brochures) which objectively isn't that serious an issue to get caught over but it doesn't take much to collapse the house of cards.

Also might be worth mentioning, I'm on noporn/nofap which have improved base levels of energy/reduced depression but haven't made me a more positive person.

>>42047029
are you bipolar or something?

>>42047121
I'm not bipolar as far as I'm aware, I just can't stick to anything despite initial surges in interest/motivation and it really gets me down

>>42047116
Did you at least pass the courses?

>>42047172
Yep, passed them all but it's hard to feel any sense of accomplishment given that I spent much of the semester without any discipline or sense of consistency. I guess I just can't remember the last time I actually felt proud of myself besides getting drivers license which was incredibly easy

>>42046979
https://youtu.be/koLPQRpEAVU

>>42047186
You sound very similar to me desu. I think a lot of people start shit with a lot of motivation slip slightly off the tracks and just fuck it. Think of fatties dieting, one wrong meal and they just binge and go into their old ways.

I think we just need to push through, miss a class, fuck it, think back to how shit it feels when you're cramming or get average results. Make up that class and push on

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>>42047029
Fuck I have this same problem as well. Although mine was because at the beginning of each semester I got really sick (one occurrence of the flu and another because of glandular fever which knocked me around for the entire semester.) I'm repeating the semester for the second fucking time. Dear god I hope I don't get sick again.

>>42039472
>>42036348


do you have a collection of all fit guides like that ?

Regular lurker here, find them very instructive. Thx

>>42044052
It's not autistic, it's just funny flirting like men and women used to do since forever until the last 20 years.
It makes me quite mad that the anon was metaphorically crucified for this shit, fucking castrating society built by feminazis.

>>42047135
>>2-3 weeks in I miss one lecture, beat the fuck out of myself for it and everything collapses until a few months later when it's almost exam times
that just sounds very bipolar behaviour

>>42037069
go for some Hemingway. There simply is no better english author
my personal favorites are "for whom the bell tolls", "a farewell to arms" and of course "the old man and the sea"

If you read through the odyssey that Santiago the fisherman had to go through, the next time you go lifting everything will feel insignificant to the amount of manliness and pain he and the other protagonists had to go through

A farewell to arms and for whom the bell tolls will also learn to cope with your gf problems

/fitlit/ is not dead

Guys, what are great skills to learn?

Programming?

>>42047401
Drawing, something creative. Do it for the grills

>>42047410
Yeah I have a big urge to be creative recently.
Painting seems fun
Will sculpturing impress girls?

>>42047401
Programming is a very good skill to learn. So is cooking, it something else creative

Do any of you guys have any examples of schedules you follow? I have a really hard time structuring my time.

>>42047427
yeah I know programming is great, but to be honest I don't really know why I should learn it. I'll never make a career of it and I don't even know what I should programm for fun or what useful things I could do with it.

It's though to become good at it and I don't see why I should put so much effort in it.

But maybe I don't see it, what benefits do I have if I learn it?

>>42047426
Sculpting, I would say no. Painting is quite nice, but just starting out with pencil and paper is better. In my life drawing classes there are always large majority grills in early 20's. I also do a lot of drawing outside, girls approach me there too.

>>42047452
I imagine, especially if you're /fit/ it must be a chick magnet.

>>42047452
what do you draw?

>>42047465
I'm still working on getting /fit/ myself, still DYEL mode

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>>42047297
Not really a collection i just save things i find useful. Those two were probs the best ones but I'll post whatever else i have

>>42047452
I'd greatly appreciate if you had any guides I could use on where to start on the whole drawing thing. Was considering just going to the art board on here, but idk

>>42047431

>6h30-6h45 wake up +quick exercise (or meditating)
>6h45-7h00 breakfast and podcasts
>7h00-8h40 Block #1
>8h40-9h going to work
>9h00-13h working, with a small coffee pause
>13h00-13h20 eating quickly at work (time spent at work is lost time so i compress it)
>13h20-16h20 work again
>16h20-16h35 heading home
>16h35-16h50 pause
>16h50-18h Block #2
>18h-19h30 Bloc #3
>19h30-20h30 eating + shower
>20h30-23h30 Block #4
>23h30-00h20 Bloc #5
>sleep

>what i do during a block
- learning a language
-reading philosophy
-reading (fictional or essays)
-cardio
- lifting
-seing gf
-vidya from times to times but i limit myself to 1h
-Watching a cool movie that is on my watch-list(one every 2 days or so) to avoid losing precious time to decide which one i watch
- going somewhere to buy sth i need/to have a (soft) drink or any social shit


I'm quite happy with this one, allows me to have the feel of achievement

Feel free to ask more

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>>42047481
Well here's arguably the best beginner routine imo. As soon as you know the compounds I'd recommend starting this. Now pls teach me how to go from autism to artism

>>42047495
Mirin discipline gains

>>42047485
thx senpai
also to start drowing i've been told that one thing that helps a lot is carrying a notebook where you can catch whatever tree/animal, person/vehicle you stumble upon aand get inspired by

It gives you kind of a mental library that allows you to create truely creative settings later on

Other than that, everyday practive > internsive practice

>>42047485
>where to start
>>>/ic/'s sticky is not that bad. Part of how you want to go about it, is what your goal is in art, what do you want to be able to draw. The first steps would be to start to understand how to think. With that I mean, how do you look at something in front of you and translate that to a drawing. For that you need to learn a bit about things like figure drawing, perspective, colour theory, values, abstraction, etc. Those are referenced to ad the fundamentals. I personally think the most important things as a beginner to get 'first' is confident linework and being able to abstract something from a complex shape to a few lines. For example, being able to look at a regular house and being able to draw it with just 9 lines and have it look similar to the real thing. Or being able to draw the impression of a human form in just a couple of straight lines and have it be recognizable as a human.

>>42047473
I mostly draw people, sometimes architecture. I use pen, paper, pencil, watercolour.

>>42047527
not him but
>tfw feel like losing money if i join a gym and spend too many days just learning how to do the compounds
>tfw the instructor tells me things and cues that are very different from what i read in SS or in yt vids

I'm pretty scared of the gym because my back is really bad (have scoliosis, constant bad posture and pain) and when i went for a few weeks I ended up hurting myself more.

Lads I have memory problems
I simply am bad at remembering stuff and it makes me feel stupid and self conscious
What do?

>>42047495
How long have you stuck to this? How do you stick to it

>>42037585
You're going about it the wrong way, the juxtaposition you made yourself was between cool and trying to get people to like you. Trying to be cool to get people to like you won't work. Stop caring what other people think about you, but you won't care about their approval when you do get it. IMO if you're closer to a submissive/masochist type than a dominant/sadistic type, you may actually just be looking for the approval from the cool person, not for becoming that person yourself.

>>42047585
force yourself to write things down, the old way

>>42037610
I try to remember that they are somebody's kid, and they feel bad as often as I do they just express it differently. Btw if you are going to try to stop their behavior, it would be good to concede when they are in the right for being rude, and defending the other party (rather than attacking the rude person) only when the rude person is being unfair and you can make a solid case. If they think you are just nitpicking against them it won't help either of you.

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>>42047531
>>42047548
ty very much boyz
I'll add it in daily but i know it's gonna be tough going from shit tier to sikk tier. My goal is to be able to sketch from real life in a highly realistic manner. I'm not even bothered about colours and top end equipment atm. Sculpture also seems really intriguing

>>42047571
Instructors are by and large shit. Talking to advanced lifters or competitive powerlifters will get you much further. Recording your lifts also helps greatly. As does yoga or maintaining a thorough mobility routine. I didn't know anyone when i started either but you make friends after a while.
Scoliosis isn't a death sentence when it comes to lifting. But you must fix your posture and eliminate all pain as a priority. Do some bodyweight like pic related in the mean time and you'll be alright :)

I have severe mood swings and I go from not talking and not feeling anything to being positive about life to being aggressive and pissed off for no reason

Is that a sign of bipolar?

>>42041036
Re: studying
If it's because the topic is broad and the writing is vague, then only read so much as to answer the title of the section (eg "writing a conclusion" becomes "how to write a conclusion?" And then you just skim the text below insofar as it answers that question)

If the topic is dense and technical, then read slowly, understand the purpose of each word and how each sentence supports the paragraph. Also google words you don't recognize and recognize when you are missing a knowledge on something secondary (eg studying calc but you don't understand a problem because of the trig). Also highly academic text is usually more theoretical than technical which gives you no context and makes it harder to remember, googling why/how to use it would help with that.

Didn't proofread sorry for any errors.

>>42041632
good work bro, i quite over a year ago and i wouldnt go back

>>42047820
Thanks for the info, but luckily my high-school level math knowledge is really on point, and I know how to read dense math texts in a way such that I will actually understand the material, it's just that it takes so much effort to do that, so sadly it's really a willpower/discipline issue at this point.

>>42044297
JBP has a program coming out at the end of this month to gauge your big 5 personality traits (with sub-traits) and iq to find the jobs you'd be best suited for. Might wanna hold on until that.

>>42047726
Bipolar isn't about fast mood swings, it happens over a period of months or in extreme cases weeks

>>42035889
I smoked daily throughout my teenage years and early twenties. When I was 23 I was tired of my shitty old job and wanted to find something better. I figured that most places I'd be applying to would have a drug testing policy, so I quit smoking as part of my job search. Having a justification like that made it easy for me to say no to my own temptations and habits, and to say no to the constant peer pressure to smoke, since all my friends were just like me.

>>42047527
I know I'm gonna get shit on for asking this, but what could I substitute squats and deadlifts with in that program, or is there a program without them? I'm asking this because I'm not gonna get a job for a few months, so I won't have the money to get an actual gym membership, and I can't really do squats or deadlifts in my room (I live in a commieblock). I'm gonna practice them with lighter weight to make sure I have the correct form though (been reading SS lately), but I won't be able to progress.

>>42047820
Oh right internet addiction. If it's anything like what I had it's impulse: you're doing school then hit a roadblock and so you instinctively reach for the mouse so you can browse the internet to relieve that stress. I tried a few things that should work in theory but because I was fighting impulse, all those other untried things had too much inertia to complete. What worked for me was planning, reflecting and evaluation for a couple weeks on what has worked the best in the past and working to remember it when I had to. In my case it was the mental cue "no computer for the rest of the day" which makes me feel free from the computer to do stuff that I always put off for an extra 5 minutes or so on the internet. It was tough balancing internet as a reward for completing enough school with the cue no more internet, but through trial and error what worked for that was allowing 30 mins before bed to watch batsu games and if I did anything I would consider actually exception I get another 30 mins.

Since you're smart it's probably more difficult-- you never had to learn the study skills other students did, and you now don't get to learn them in a low impact and structured way that they did.

>>42047617
started this summer, got an internship in my hometown in between my univ semesters and figured out that doing a full time if I wanted to get the most of my summer near the sea i had to be prepared

nothing worse than coming home tired from a day of bullshit work and not be able to seize every minute of leisure time dude

That's what keeps me walking, I don't want my work to suck every ounce of motivation out of me. fuck wagecucking, even more when you get paid 3 bucks an hour coming from a top univ

This is a hard routine, sometimes i have downfalls but still i try to stick to it most of the time

>>42036268
Correlation does not equal causation, and even the correlation is suspect

>>42047726
hopefully not. How's your overall life quality ? (sleep, exercise, social life etc)

>>42047977
Skateboard squats, jump squats and squat holds
Maybe pull-ups for back instead of diddies? Not sure what you can do for your lower back, sorry just off the top of my head

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>27
>been losing weight for half a year
>look like a new man
>have been lifting for years,this is my first "cut'
>seeing definition and gains
>still feel like shit
>alone,chronically not a single friend in real life
>never been on a date, virgin,kissless,and never had a girlfriend
>Lifting is my cope, it's my zen,and it takes my mind off of my real life for a hour or 2
>I tell myself that lifting will bring me happiness but that post workout euphoria only lasts an hour or so
>being alone has rotted my cognitive abilities
>i attempt to make friends but it never works, they already have social circles and distance themselves from me
it's getting tough to find meaning in anything anymore, I just want to pig out on some shit food. I feel like I'm in hell, i have a need for friends that's very strong but I can't obtain them. Every fiber in my body craves love but I have yet to experience it. I'm losing my mind, hobbies don't work anymore, I need a gf and a social circle. I've been isolated for so many years that my sense of humor and thought process has been damaged by isolation.

Is there a way out? I'm genuinely sick of this shit because my stomach and chest hurts just thinking about it.

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>>42047977
There's no one movement that you can't avoid doing. But removing the two most important barbell movements doesn't make much sense. Are there no barbells at any of the gyms in your budget? You can't really do the routine at all if you don't have access to one. I'd recommend doing some bodyweight exercises like in the pic posted earlier
If you're a rank beginner it might not be a terrible thing to just do that for a while

>>42048312
go out and find a hobby/sports club dude, or even a cinema or music club

You'll meet new people

you are gonna make it anon

>>42048245
I can do pull-ups and I could do weighted ones once I'm strong enough, so that's definitely an option. I'll look up some lower back lifts on youtube I guess.

>>42048313
I don't really have a budget at all, because I don't want to ask my parents for gym money. I'm not gonna start lifting for like a month anyway, because I've had an elbow injury I've just found out how to treat (Been to the doc, he sent me to these bullshit treatments that didn't work, but now I feel so much better after a single week. I have the same problem as alpha destiny, fyi.), and I still have 3-4 kilos to lose.

>>42048312
you can do it man

Anyway I've just deleted this shitty ass skype account where I used to cam with teenage girls for a year or so.. (they were all legal, don't worry) I realised it really dragged me down. I've even "cheated" this way on my last gf. I suppose it's been about the thrill of "being watched". Anyway, it's gone now.
I'll try to stop watching porn. Idk, nofap seems like a meme to me, but noporn could work. At least it will be a motivation for me to focus on more important things in my life.

>>42048634
>I'll try to stop watching porn. Idk, nofap seems like a meme to me, but noporn could work. At least it will be a motivation for me to focus on more important things in my life.

Quit 4chan if you want to focus on more important things in your life.

>>42047870
JBP? Can you elaborate more I don't know what that is.

>>42048716
Jordan B. Peterson, Psychologist. Search him on YouTube

>>42025631
>Day 5
I quit overeating, I'm beginning to become more active, and my depression and foggy brain have noticeable dwindled if not disappeared.

tl;dr It helps.

>>42048691
I only browse /fit/ anyway - don't really like all the other boards filled with traps and whatnot. Don't take everything from me now! I enjoy lurking here, and it's not like it saps away my will to live or anything.

>>42039143
Italian and portuguese over here

>>42049739
Do not fuck around at work. HR is right around the corner and at best it's eventually awkward.

>>42049805
Then just say yeah she is and take it as an ego boost.

>>42042095

>snapchatting herself

So she's an attention whore. Free yourself from this shackle.

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>>42023412
>First time seeing this thread on /fit/
>Think to myself I've been self improving over the past few months
>Read the sticky
>I picked up a hobby - bread baking
>started running with goals in mind
>meditate daily
>dropped old gf who was holding me back
>Been considering investing my savings now that I'm working 9to5
>Sticky even has a finance section

Based thread OP thanks

Gave me some small reflection of the past 5 months and I'm actually feeling pretty good rn

>>42034012
>Blames self for everything
You are the main force of change in your life, if you want to change something it is in your power to
>Knows nothing
The more you know, the more you know you dont know shit
>Respects everyone
You dont know someones background, anon
>Knows limits, often wrong
Think before you act

Soon red goat, you will seek inner peace and enlightenment

Quitting porn has gotten me laid 4 times in the past 2 months. I'm a manlet too but girls like confident guys, 5'8 and I fucked a 5'10 girl. You'll only be affected by the manlet shit if you let it.

>>42051995
Have any advice for first dates and stuff?

I'm 5 months out of a 4 year relationship and theres this cute girl you see... but idk, what is a good first date idea? Ice cream in the park? how long do we even spend together?

I feel like im startng from scratch here

>>42052009
I usually do coffee and a walk downtown or at a nice park with people around. I never do dinners anymore mainly because you end up paying for dinner for a chick that probably only wanted a free meal out of you. Spend as much time as you want together. The key is to be yourself (duh) and be goofy and make her laugh. Don't be afraid to literally be yourself like you would around your best of friends. I've creeped girls out with my hyper-sexual humor and I've gotten girls in bed on the first date because of it. You literally cannot please everyone so just be yourself and the one who you click with will come around.

>>42025631
I think i need a girlfriend to do this, i used to use old memories but it's been so long they just make me sad now

>>42047029
this happens to me all the time
>doing well in class
>get top grades
>4 weeks or more in
>apathy takes over
>don't do shit and want to die, feel worthless
>drop the class
this happens to me when I drive around shopping
>need something at store
>go near store
>powerful urge makes me turn back home

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>>42026022
Just deleted my 3gb fap folder full of naked indian women

I sort of regret it but the positives list sounds too good.

>>42052009
Also to build off my previous post here: >>42052045
Usually after coffee or tea (don't worry I'm American) if you ask to go for a walk after and they say yes, that means you're in. If they say they need to get home then they weren't that interested because a girl that is really interested could give a fuck if they work at 6am the next day if they meet a guy they like.

>>42039314
But its based on the real life adventures of James Blond. A secret agent code name given only to the most handsome and competent agents. One of the tests requires seducing the queen hand maiden with less than 10 words and being called cool by a scottish guy.

>>42052137
>>42052045
Thanks dudes.

The girl is a coworker who just this past week left the place I work at. We would talk frequently and I got her number the day she left, and we've been texting/snapchatting frequently. Nothing sexual but surprisingly carrying long conversations over text.

Hoping to ask her to get up to something over the weekend if shes free.

Theres a few cool ice cream places in my city so that sounds like a good plan

>>42047005
no the anon but heres the trick, slowly dial back what you would fap to, but always support your decision. A lot of what drives the compulsive porn use is the guilt that we associate with it. If you go into a session wiht the mindset "i will not feel guilty or hurt myself emotionally becasue of this natural outlet", then your body will sliwly LEARN its way to noporn, rather than force its way.

Ill be monitoring this thread, lmk if you have any questions, ive gone through this NoFap gauntlet and have learnt alot from it

ps, kinda drunk

I simply cant get myself to read books.
Its just so time intensive and hard to keep going with compared to movies and other media.
Any tips?

>>42052698
if it wont happen dont force it, something has to change within you

>>42052698
check out the war of art.

its a short, three part self help book thats brings up some really good ideas.

Pretty much the idea of resistance and how its the overarching reason why we stop ourselves from doing things.

Highly recommend it.

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>took long hiatus
>lost lots of weight because lmao fuck eating whne you're not lifting
>tfw back in the gym but weak af
>tfw try bulgarianing
>can't even back squat 140kg
>tfw started skipping gym again because unmotivated

Anyway to fix a just tier sleep schedule? I stay awake until 4 am and wake up at 2 pm, under the week I only get 3 hrs of sleep. I get all my energy toward the evening.

>>42023412
>statistically speaking a majority of women say penis size matters
>average size of a penis hard is 5.1-6.0 inches
>tfw 4 inches hard max

How do I fix?

>>42053052
Penis enlargent surgery is a option if youre circumcised.
Its a pretty common place surgery in the porn buisness and those people have big insurances on their dicks so it cant be that risky.

>>42053081
idk it seems like it'll give me ed unless i take viagra

>>42053092
You could go to your nearest plastic surgeon and ask him the stuff in detail, im sure they do atleast the first counseling hour shit for free.
Or if youre in yurop you can get it for free by going to a psychiatrist and overplaying your situation.

almost a week into quitting cigs. Withdrawal isn't an issue; its the being around smokers when drinking. I hadn't smoked all June, and then one night smoked a pack in a half.

I've realized I like taking deep breaths more than having a relaxing puff.

Shit's hard tho

>>42052923
swallow your pride and get back into it bro. It's not about where you were, it's about where you will be if you focus on where you are now.

>>42047426
not sculpting with clay or little things, but if you make big sculptures like large bronze casts, welding, carpentry, etc that is impressive.

cutting down my internet usage by installing the Stay Focusd extension.
Pretty much you put a list of sites that consume the most of your day, and you make a time limit for how long you can use said sites. I started at 120min a day (for Facebook, Youtube, 4Chan), and have brought it down to 70 minutes so far. Hoping to get under an hour soon.

>>42048312
what to you do during the day/night besides lift and 4chan?

>>42053287
reading,making meals, and more 4chan

>>42042474

What city? Maybe I can help.

>>42046260
Can someone give me some ideas to consider, or some advice on what you would do if you were in my situation?
I would like to work online, but I have no idea what to do.

>>42053993
Just bite the bullet and get a job, people wont judge you entirely on past employment, just try to be assertive and present yourself well.

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>>42034012
Try this

>>42053993
whats worse man
people judging you? Or you constantly judging yourself for never achieving the goals you had always wanted to achieve?

Whats the real "resistance" here which is stopping you from achieving? You? Or other people?

The perception that people will put you down is just a projection of your inner monologue.

Read the War of Art.
Start small. Have goals, achieve them, go to college, study something where you're interested and can make a living off of it.

At the end of the day, it really is just you who is putting up the mental barriers to your own success.

The more you compare yourself to others just leads to more self doubt. I took an extra year of high school, made me feel like crap. Then an extra year of university. In the field I'm in there's kids who are 3-4 years younger than me and already where I am or farther, due to things outside of my circumstance like nepotism. It used to get to me, but I learned to move past it.

Meditate
Exercise
Have goals and work towards them in all facets of your life.

You'll make it brah. We all will.

>>42025631
>not just masturbating to female coworkers

>>42039020
Just read it. There are neurological benefits to reading as well as better understanding the principles in it.

Focus on one aspect at a time, and apply it.
If you do 30 pages a day, you'll be done in no time.

>>42039493
Just get someone to report to weekly to keep you accountable. If you don't follow through they can give you shit, and hold you accountable in different ways.

>>42042095
Let me tell you something I learned at the end of my college years; women age like milk and men age like wine.

Now, see, there is something more to that though. Let me give it to you straight. If a guy does not take care of himself, he will hit "the wall" first, and more than likely stay there, as it is pretty hard to bounce back, especially as age takes its toll.

As for women, well, outside of maybe the "freshman 15" they usually do not get BTFO and if there is a "wall" of sorts to hit, they tend to hit it at 25, and even then, it is pretty avoidable, so far as they do not pig the fuck out.

That being said, if a man is willing to learn, and if he truly does hold a discipline to the highest degree, he will break the wall in front of him, in time, and will be a stronger man for it. It is harder, as just exercise or just a diet is not enough if you want to climb the wall, rather, as age persists, it will require you to maintain both if you want to be above the wall and stay there.

All a woman has to do is not pig out or maybe exercise with a bit of cardio or yoga shit a couple times a week and be good to go. The thing is though, once the wall comes around, the women without self control will look better than the men by a fair amount on average, but the men who have enough self-control to be average, or even above it will hold more value.

A man who takes care of himself in all facets of life will have tremendous value to all women and men alike, even in his 50s and later, while a women that does the same will lose value faster, as the clock is always ticking for women and after 25 it gets a quick overclocking.

I am assuming you are between 19 to 21, maybe a year younger or older, and so I can bet you have not seen many of the females you have had eyes on take that drop yet, but be warned, for it will come to them if they do not work on themselves like you have.

Discipline and patience will take you further than her, in time, I assure you.

>>42044847
Look for the teen selection, as it follows junior sizes yer looks more appropriate for a grown man to wear, and is usually the same price.

Remember, nobody will make a big deal about the brand, size, or style of shirt you wear, as long as you "wear" it well.

After all, its not like you are wearing t-shirt that says "JUNIOR SIZE COMING THROUGH" right on the front, anon.

You will be fine, just make sure it fits well and tapers to your body properly enough for a quick stretch.

>>42044761
I can show you infield footage of the opposite. But if that's all the context was then it's creepy as fuck. There's a process to it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDonkj64jhU
Skip to 41:43
and watch until, 43:00

>>42043934
>get told i need to flirt more to get girls
>cute girl at work saying how she wants to take off a day in august because she wants to take her 2 year old nephew to disneyland
>ask if she has a kid who she's gonna take with him
>she says "no its just us two, i dont have any kids duh"
>i jokingly reply "would you like me to stick my dick in your vagina and impregnate your ovaries and for 9 months while the fetus gestates come here and work together until you're unable to then we can move in together and raise the child"
>end up in HR
Shocked

>>42048312
Join the military senpai

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>>42054203
Snigga i already do that

how do I sustain quitting weed? I'm fiending brahs.

>>42039143
Chinese german and french right here fampai

Is there legit free therapy out there? I need some people to talk to for a while to get things figured out.

anyone got tips on how to become more efficient at studying? I'm almost halfway through my EE degree and I'm at a 65% average mark, I want to increase that to 75% plus before the end of my degree so I can get top honours.

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>>42055407
Try reading some stuff from Cal Newport. Specifically deep work and how to become a straight-a student. It won't instantly make you good, but it might give you some ideas to try. Also look up the pomodoro technique. I found it helped with marathon study sessions greatly.
On a different note, I'm taking an introductory brazilian jiu jitzu class in 2 hours. Never done martial arts before and I'm still solidly on my way to becoming fit (5'7 145, ~14-15% bf) after being a fat fucker most of my life. Any advice on what to expect/what mentality to go into it with? I'm not really nervous about anything, more of a generalised blank mild anxiety, but a bit of direction would help.

>>42049664
/fit/, /biz/ and /lit/ are good imo. Also /ck/ if you like food

Other than that its trap-fuled shitholes yeah

>>42053015
Stay up a full day and then sleep at 9 or 10, waking up at a normal time

I've learned to let go of the things I can't control.

It helps with my anger issues.

>>42054365
Great post, I wanna finish off with one of my favorite Bruce Lee quotes, if I may.

>Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one

also

>Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.

>work out, study alot, do chores, read books, don't waste too much time on PC
>still don't feel like I'm accomplishing anything
Worst of the feels

>>42053275
thx anon, have been looking for this for long

>>42056071
consistency is key, you are already maintaining good habits, it'll help you a lot with achieveing greater things anon. You got the mindset

>>42056071
because you're not actually doing anything, you are just setting up the foundation.

Go work on that career you want and fail repeatedly until you start getting things right

>>42053993
explaining your situation on workplace.stackexchange.com might give you some ideas?

>>42052698
Start reading books that make you want to keep reading, so mostly fiction. Once you are in the habit of reading a book for about an hour a day, you will probably find it easier to read books that aren't as interesting. Alternatively, set a goal of only reading for 10 minutes every day. It will be easy to do if you only commit to reading for 10 minutes, and chances are you will want to keep reading by the time you hit the 10 minute mark. You can also select the right time for reading, you may find it easier to read for an hour before going to sleep.

>>42053015
As the other anon said, stay up a whole day (I know this works from personal experience). Be careful though, you are likely to sleep for 10-12 hours after that, so if you want to normally fall asleep at 10 pm, go to sleep at 7 or 8 pm , otherwise you'll sleep till 10 am, and you'll find it hard to fall asleep at 10 pm the next day. Don't give in to your desire to just take a 30 minute nap though; that 30 minute nap can become 4 hours of sleep in the afternoon, and then you won't be able to fall asleep at the correct time, or you may wake up feeling well rested at 1 am.
If you find it hard to stay awake for ~30 hours, you can do it incrementally, so you stay awake till 10 am, then till 3 pm, then till 8pm. This way you're only awake for ~20 hours at a time. One other thing though; you have to stick to waking up at the correct time, let's say 6 am in this example, otherwise you are likely to experience difficulty falling asleep, and may go back to your old schedule.

>>42053993
Look up job listings where you can work from home, or check out shit like Amazon's Mechanical Turk (I don't know how well that one pays, probably not that well, just putting it out there).

>>42032336
3/10 at best

>>42037288

embrace being alone for the rest of your life because it will never change and if it does its going to be passing acquaintances who you will never build a real bond with

its you and you alone in this world from this point forward, just embrace it

>>42039143
Thinking of picking up russian since I got nothing better to do for the summer. The problem is I'm staying at my parents for vacation and their computer is broke. Can I take their courses via phone?

>>42057574
Yeah dude it's just a free app. It won't give you true fluency but it's a great start. Living in a russian speaking country is the best way to achieve that.
You know you can just Google it next time mate

>>42053052
pegym
thunders palace? Ithink the other word was

>be /fit/
>become hardcore stoner for 1-2 years
>lifting less and less
>lost most of my gains by now
>got a little chubby
>decide this is not how i want to live
>turn shit around
>haven't smoked a joint in months
>feeling super shitty all the time even though i force myself through my workouts anyway
>got diagnosed with pretty severe stomach issue couple of weeks back
>yesterday doctor told me i shouldn't lift until it's resolved
>could take months

I just want to lift again guys. I have never been this motivated. All my lifts have been skyrocketing, my confidence is super high but my body just fucked me over. In addition to not liftin i have to be SUPER careful what to eat, can't drink any alcohol or smoke and have to take medication daily.
I want off this ride

>>42040417
Don't bother with the lsd. Did that because Tim ferriss recommended and became depressed. I know it was that because everything else in my life was sorted. Just do a healthy trip every two weeks to a month if you need perspective. Your body needs time to recover.

>>42047870
Where can I look this program up? I have a rough idea of my traits, but would love to have the pro tell me.

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>>42023412
>Went to the urologist to treat my ED
>went to the dentist after putting it off for 6 years to fix my teeth
>stopped making bitch excuses and taking lifting seriously, sometimes getting up at 5:30AM

Remember guys, if you push problems away, they only get bigger but they never go away

>>42053242
That's beautiful. Screencappedm

>>42059635
also I stopped drinking which improved my sleep massively, so I recommend that

>>42054585
>infield
Pua spotted

>>42059321
Why not both you fucking mong being reeferlifter is goat

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Clean your room

>>42059321
How is your stomach issue preventing you from weightlifting?
Doctors tend to be gainz goblins, at least mine is

>>42034012
pro tip: comparing the statement in the corresponding spot on the red platform may help understand what statements on the green platform are getting at.

>>42039472
I'm considering picking up krav maga, any opinions?

>>42034012
t. red goat

anybody here that takes kinda seriously consuming art? as in reading books, watching movies, actively listening to albums etc

i think im pretty autistic about it and i get kinda depressed when i dont watch a movie a day or so. i feel like im so uncultured and i want to feel like an expert on something i like.

how do i stop being so "autistic"

>>42043934
>telling a coworker you want to fuck her while talking about her wholesome family vacation
>she gets uncomfortable
>woah who could have seen this coming woah
BOOM, YOU'RE THE SUBTLETY MASTER

>>42060240
Buy a couple of textbooks. One on cinema, one on sculpture, one on literature, etc. Then read those for an hour a day. You'll be much more knowledgeable about art with a much smaller time investment. Also, it's probably more boring than watching movies so you'll be motivated to go out and do something with your life.

Anons, any advice how to deal with jealousy of other people's progress in life. I only recently started to do a therapy for social anxiety disorder and my progress is that I went to a cinema alone for the first time meanwhile people around getting married, moving to a different cities and getting new jobs. I mean how do I compete with that?

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>>42060182
I was talking to a guy above how i personally don't rate it that high for men. Krav maga might be okay for chicks, but guys can't actually train it properly and it's almost definitely going to lead to injury if you practice it a class properly. I posted that chart for everything but the krav maga part. That's the only thing i disagree with. Boxing my man.

>>42060381
You have to focus on improving yourself. There'll always be something to be jealous off if you look hard enough

>>42042208
>4 tabs
>year supply

lol

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Hey /sig/,

I'm a red goat, and I want to start making my up to where the green goats chill. My biggest issue is motivation. I've got just barely enough to get up and go to work, but after that I can't be assed to do much more than eat, sleep and shit. How do I get myself out of this? Is there a good way to prevent relapse (do good for a while, then fall back into the pit)? Pic semi related.

>>42063508
i made it all the way to the egg before getting triggered

>>42032302
Do you have enough capital? Of course you should. International stock markets are huge.

>>42025631
seconding this. imo porn is harder to quit than fapping

>>42039472
BJJ > boxing for sure. Boxing may be "cooler" since it's striking, but BJJ wins every fight against most martial arts

any discord for self/improvement? it could be nice to have likeminded guys to talk to

>>42043934
shit that sounds like something I would do. I legit thought that was a clever line.

>>42048312
I'm right there with you brother. 27 next month.

maybe we won't make it, but at least we have each other.

>>42052698
auidobooks are a good start.

>>42025631
Porn is hard to quit when every piece of media is over sexualized and you're lonely.

What are some good career options that don't require a college education? I've always been afraid of going because I'm not even sure what I want to do for a living so I would be going into debt for no reason.

>>42063818
so you're saying you just watch porn but don't fap?

do you enjoy the storylines? what's the point?

>>42064443
Web design.

>>42064443
You should get a job somewhere with a company that does tuition reimbursement. That way, if you can put in the time for it, you have no excuse not to.

>>42047029
Shit this is so me.
>go into start of semester with a burst of motivation and confidence
>couple weeks go by
>motivation and confidence no longer there
>only go to lectures once out of two.
>over sleep and miss my morning classes
>drop or just do nothing about the class affecting my gpa
I have done this for 3 semesters. Never have I compeleted a semester. There was a semester where I thought I was gonna make because I got a good job but then got fired and lost motivation for school. I made some life changes and I'm going back to school, hope I make it anons.

Does anyone have any tips to control bad eating habits. I cant walk drive past mcdonadls and not have a jr chicken. Im cutting and need some help

is it too late for me? I'm 27 and i want to go back to college. I have an associates degree for general studies (transfer degree) but i never continued to university because of indecisiveness

I work at costco and want to improve my life and it feels like going back to college is the only way I can move forward. I'm just afraid of the debt and not getting a decent job out of school.

I'm not very math savy and the only things i'm really interested in/passionate about are fitness and weight loss related. Is there any hope for me? is it too late to make a change?

>>42026022
Nofap was the best thing I ever did, besides lifting

testosterone is objectively higher (i got a blood test), i have much more energy when i wake up and throughout the day, normally i got tired around 3pm but now I am a machine. I literally had women coworkers telling me "something is different about you anon!"

Porn is the cigarette of our generation. Our grandparents smoked cigarettes and had no idea how bad it was for them until everyone got lung cancer and emphysema. One day we will realize how bad high speed internet + video porn on tap is for our reward system

>>42065825
>>42026022
wait so are you nofap or noporn? I still fap but just to my imagination.

>>42023412
Is there many way to stop being a gym autist?

>>42063508
Cultivate discipline.

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>>42039020
its a FUCKING JOKE LOL

"just be friendly XD be urself XD =PPP"

look good. thats how u get ppl to like you

lookism is real and anyone who denies this is bluepilled and coping with denial

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFnJMPQow7A

>>42065562
If you eat badly ill go over to your waifus house and fuck her while i get you to watch.

Any good recommended reading infographics? I have bad focus so preferably nothing too hard to digest. I also enjoy reading about things that are practical, i.e. business books or something that will directly benefit me. Thank you!

>>42066225
The /lit/ sticky is pretty good
http://4chanlit.wikia.com/wiki/Recommended_Reading/Non-fiction

>>42065765
You could try and become a personal trainer, here in aus im pretty sure you only need a cert 3 in fitness which can be obtained within a year.

>>42063508
>not wanting to be the blue goat
Never gonna make it

>>42060381
Just try and be a better person than them, its pretty easy. I have autism and have much better willpower than a lot of other people i know that have nothing wrong with them. Achieve this by adressing each of your flaws. Jelousy is not a bad thing, it is something that can drive you, so use it as a weapon

>>42066033
I know people who look shit but have gotten laid just because they put themselves out there. I also know good looking people who dont talk to any women and complain about their lack of interaction.

Braaaapppp!!

>oxy, benzo and stimulants habbit

brehs i think im not gonna make it

>>42035889
weed made me a paranoid autist

not even joking

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>i looked at her facebook

>>42039143
i speak 4 languages
3 at a native level and one fluently

>mfw 2 out of the 4 are useless
>mfw they are all useless without some kind of degree

>>42067241
Elaborate

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this is where I am now

wish me luck lads

>>42067280
Does this chart include not fapping as well?

>>42067294
nofap + noporn

I don't count occasional photo that pops on 4chan because I can't avoid those because cunts just keep posting semen demons and even thumbnails trigger me

but I haven't opened porn or fapped in 9 days

>>42067302
Nice, i might do the same soon

>>42043921
>go to doctor
>tell him about anxiety
>get prescribed benzos
>do NOT abuse

>>42067312
for me it's easier with charts like that one t b h
I like having charts, spreadsheets, etc. to keep progress of everything

autism I guess

Anyone have any cool people or characters (comics, tv-shows, movies, etc) they try to emulate or get a lot of inspiration from?

>>42067280
Good luck. Noporn day 20 myself. Didn't expect first two weeks to be so difficult but it's getting easier.

>>42067335
For me, i get inspiration from
>travis bickle off taxi driver
>tyler durden off fight club
>rocky
I dont imitate these characters actions accurately but they are pretty good role models for modern men if you overlook their flaws.

>>42067318
Don't take benzos, get a beta blocker. Benzo addiction is literally worse than heroin addiction.

>>42047029
you start too hard, with too many goals and burn yourself out
don't be mad at yourself tho, you system just reacts to being overloaded

take it easy, success comes in slowly

>>42067335
Conan, I mean Arnold's version

Hey /sig/, you know how self improvement guys always say you should do what you want, and how you find what you want is to visualise the one thing you want to do if everything else is taken away and other exercises like that? What the fuck do I do if I've supressed myself for so long that I can't even bring that vision forward?

How do I beat chronic hyperventilation?

>>42065997
How so?

>>42067152
Gotta be a yellow goat before a green one, gotta be a green goat before becoming blue. Baby steps, anon.

>>42068074
Motivation is waiting for the good mood to do what's need to be done, discipline is doing it despite your bad mood. Start small, create habits. Meditate every day for example. Read every day. Go to the gym. Never skip.
Habit trackers help.