ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>>18723134

This is ridiculously untrue. Having a steady job won't/doesn't help you get laid at all.

I had better luck when I was a college student who drank all the time and couldn't even decide a major, and my only luck was with older townie women who lived and worked in the area and one guy I had a gay fling with until he started trying to deal hard drugs to me.

>>18723196
Yeah, I've never been interested in a dude because of the job he had, or the prospect of him having money or a job

>>18723202

That's the more the case in long term relationships where you have to deal with the question "what will the parents think"? Or if you're planning on a two-breadwinner marriage.

>>18723196
>>18723202
Thirding this, my boyfriend was working at Burger King when we started dating. He was studying, but he had no idea what he wanted to do and didn't really have any career plans.

>>18723196
It's not the job itself, but it's what you can do with the income. With a steady job, you can afford to go on more dates, try new things which will let you meet new people, etc

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Girls please answer this:

Why do you like looking at yourself in the mirror while you're fucking your man?

Be honest.

>>18723222

Sometimes because it makes me feel powerful to see how much pleasure I can give to another persons. Sometimes, because I get horny just by looking at myself.

>>18723234

Person*.

>>18723222
Yeah idk who actually enjoys looking at themselves in the mirror. I hate it. I've only ever looked at my guy in the mirror, I'm gross and don't need to be looked at. If I had it my way we'd only ever have sex with the lights off, but he wants them on and I want to make him happy

>>18723210
I've been with my guy for over 6 years now. He has no clue what he wants to do for a living, currently working at a fast food joint. He's likely never gonna make as much money as me, and I have zero issue with that. I've never experienced being turned on because somebody had a job at all, or a certain job. I have, however, determined that I don't think I could date anyone who's a lawyer or in the process of becoming a lawyer

I'm a horny, sex-deprived virgin who is obsessed with the idea of having a threesome in every combination possible for me (MMF, FFM, MMM) and jacking off directly to the one that isn't (FFF) or joining it as a foursome.

I know I'm playing on hard mode as a socially awkward virgin and this is like a jackpot lottery but how do I achieve this dream? Ideally it would be with good friends I already have a bond with. Any advice?

>>18723247

>I have, however, determined that I don't think I could date anyone who's a lawyer or in the process of becoming a lawyer

You and I are opposites, then! I've got into the habit of swiping right on tinder based on education/level prestige and vocation as well as appearance. On holiday I visited a town with a high concentration of lawyers and thought of how many young professional female lawyer types I'd want to bang in the area if I ever got to know them.

I'm the guy from the last thread who has been invited to girl's house tomorrow as our "date". She just came out and said that I can just come to her house. So, I need some quick pointers along with the ones youtube gave me. I'm going to bed but any help will be welcomed!

>how do i kiss properly?
>how will i know to transition from regular kiss to french kiss?
>heavy petting?
>transitioning to oral then other sex?

basically i don't mind looking nervous, but i don't need her knowing im a goddamn kissless virgin if something happens

>also, how will i know that it's going to happen? what cues do i look for? just because im invited to house doesn't mean im getting free pussy, so what is the green light to step in and kiss the girl and then proceed to fuck her brains out for 30 seconds until i cum?

>>18723248
I was gonna say that sometimes fetishes change after you actually have sex, but then I remembered I watched bestiality porn both before and after getting a bf. Weirdly enough, that stuck but I no longer have any actual interest in pursuing a threesome, something I used to wildly masturbate to

Why's it so easy to hate women?

>>18723255

Because humans have free will and it's always a challenge to do the right thing.

>>18723255
It's easy for women to hate men too, have you noticed?

>>18723251
No judgement there. My sister's gotten into law, and she was with a guy for a while who also got into law. Idk, law school changed both of them, but it's more obvious how it changed her because I saw her more regularly. When she came to visit, she'd start treating every argument like she was back in law school. It got to the point of where my mother said something, and my sister laughed. Mind you, my sister had laughed because she recognized my mother had made some fallacy that she could address and demolish. It was like she'd lost the ability to speak normally with people. Her relationship with her boyfriend crumbled because they both started acting that way. My relationship with her has also become strained because she focuses more on the process of arguing than connecting, one human being to another. And then her boyfriend's parents are both in law and they took a significant break because of how law school changed them

>>18723255
>>18723262
>itt we learn that people hate people

>>18723265

I had that experience in and shortly after grad school. Higher education and professional school can shift and transform you in weird ways that don't feel quite human, and maybe even make you seem twisted and out of touch. There's a mental and emotional darkness and surrealism to it that no one ever tells you about before.

>>18723222
Huh, thought's never crossed my mind. I'm super insecure about my body so I'd prefer to fuck strictly in pitch blackness, and don't turn on the lights until I'm dressed.

But I've never gotten that far, night usually ends at oral because I'm too chicken shit and insecure

I was mad at my boyfriend a couple days ago and had a really shitty day at work. When he came home from work he was just really way too clingy; huggy and kissing me. Normally it wouldn't bug me but I kind of lashed out and said "you don't always have to kiss me".

Since then, he's been really quiet and only kisses me good night now. Sometimes when we leave for work but it's not the same.

How do I fix this

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If you make date plans with a girl on tinder and she gives you her number- do you text her right away (or minutes later) cause she wants to keep talking or do you text her days later on the night before the date?

Men or women can answer this, I just didn't want to start a new thread to ask.

>>18723270
honestly just suck his dick real good and hard. The awkwardness will be gone after and all will be normal again.

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>>18723270
>How do I fix this
How do you fix a TV

>>18723270
perhaps open your mouth and apologize, letting him know you lashed out at him because you were having a bad day and you shouldn't have done that because it had nothing to do with him.
Say you're sorry.

>>18723267
It's so bizarre to me. I couldn't imagine trying to have a conversation with my boyfriend only to find he was more concerned about how I structured my arguments than really connecting with me.

>>18723270
Talk to him! Tell him you were having a shitty day and just feeling really fried and overwhelmed, and you needed some time to chill. Everybody has their times when they're a monster. My boyfriend knows to speak to me in very short sentences when I first wake up. I'm not gonna bite his head off if he doesn't do that, but he just knows it makes it easier for me when I can slowly wake up and have conversation when I'm ready. If you're currently feeling distant from him and want to get closer, tell him. And apologize to him for snapping, like yeah you were feeling frazzled, but he didn't know that and didn't really deserve you projecting your bad feelings from work onto him

>>18723222
I only tried that once and it was weird. I'd rather not see myself during sex

>>18723222
does any woman do this? i dont want to even see myself fapping in a mirror let alone with someone

I've got a situation I'd like a girls opinion on.

I asked a girl for her number, got it in a heart beat, she doesn't have a boyfriend (this is a frequent problem I had in the past, I kept getting numbers of girls with boyfriends abd I ain't into cuck shit) cool.

Now, when I text her, she doesn't respond. I still see her in person on a regular basis, and her demenour is just as positive and engaging as when I would flirt with her before getting the number. We still talk for an hour+ or so every time I see her. But she never answers a text, which perplexes me. If I see her in person, she'll engage me first if I get caught up in something.

I'm not gonna be hurt if this fizzles, as I can understand why she might let it in this position. I would like some insight on why she might not respond though, I would still like to hope this can pan out.

>is it because she sees me in person so regularly that she is deciding to just wait to talk until then?
>is it her way of quietly rejecting me?
>am I over thinking this? It's been a week and a half.

>>18723309
She might not like texting.
Like me, I hate phone calls. Something about them literally creep me out, think it has to do with the fact you only get some context clues. You can hear their tone of voice, but you're lost on body language. Talking face to face is fine for me because you get all of the nonverbal cues, and talking via text is fine for me because you get none of them (and therefore in my mind it's accepted that there might be misunderstandings so nothing is gonna be taken too seriously). I'm an all or nothing person, so phone calls bother me.
Maybe she's similar. Either way, none of us can really get in this girls head any more than you can. You can try asking her you know?

Does anyone else have a particular fetish they are afraid to tell their girl
I have an impregnation fetish
I'm not going to actually do it in real life because I'm not crazy
but at the very least I want to role play it
I want to bring it up to her, but I'm afraid what she might think

>>18723326
Well I can certainly confirm she doesn't have an aversion to texting in of itself. She texts her roommate from time to time while she's working.

You're right, I should probably just ask her. When I consider it, the only person she talks to is her roommate (a friend she's had for years) regularly, so maybe she's uncomfortable texting/talking to newer people on the phone. Heck, I used to be too.

Thanks for the advice anon!

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Ladies:

Out of curiosity, how many sexual partners would you say you have a hear? Obviously I'm not talking about if you're in a committed relationship.

I ask because I remember on my first or second date with my gf she started trying to bring the subject up and I saw it as a red flag at the time, but continued dating her anyway. I don't ask girls I'm dating how many partners they have because unless I have reasonable cause to think it's going to be an issue, I don't really care. This has continued to bother me as long as I've been dating her because it's she seemed to steer the conversation in that direction. I know that she doesn't have a crazy number of partners but I'm under the impression that she may have had a promiscuous phase or something.

>>18723332
I'm afraid to tell my boyfriend that when he goes down on me, I often imagine I have a dick and he's sucking it. Or when we're fucking doggystyle, I like to imagine I'm getting fucked by an actual dog. However, I recently told him about how I've fantasized about pretending him and I are brother and sister, and he was pretty open to it. Probably wouldn't be open to the fantasizing I've got a dick stuff

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>>18723356
That's some hot shit anon.

>>18723360
Trust me dude, I'm well aware of how degenerate I am. That's where I make sure to do everything in my power to keep him around. I'm pretty sure nobody else would tolerate just the fetishes I've already told him about. I thank my lucky stars every day

>>18723368
What? Like the bro and sis stuff? That's pretty tame, it's not that rare. BDSM and all that also isn't very rare. 5 of the 6 women I've been with were into some pretty harsh stuff like choking. Not my kind of thing though desu, anything that hurts someone physically is too off for me personally.

What have you already told him about?

>>18723353
If she brought it up that early, that can be honorable honesty, or her trying to seduce you by letting you know how much experience she has. Either way isn't really bad.

While I share your view for the most part, I wouldn't let it concern you unless she's got a ton of AIDS. Many girls go through experimental phases, it's not really anything to worry about. There is only one exception to this though, and that's if she kept a kink that can potentially hurt the relationship like swinging or something.

>>18723332
I'm quite cautious about my rape kink, because I know that's especially a scary one for guys to act out in this day and age. I don't tell anyone unless we've been dating for quite some time though. Only been able to work up the nerve to talk about it with one bf before. When I told him he was hesitant but agreed to try something that was a little more bdsm-y than really a rape fetish, but was close. He ended up stopping halfway and said it just bothered him too much, because he was really conflicted with the idea he could be hurting me even if it was all fake. Loved me too much he said. He was a good dude, that's all I really expected though. I was happy he even gave it a shot.

He'd still tie me up from time to time, but just told me if I ever said anything even remotely like "no" or "stop" he'd take me seriously.

Anyway, kinks like that are probably just best to be saved for a very close relationship. If you're close enough, I'd say even if it's not her thing she'll still accept you for it.

>>18723377
Rape, BDSM, sibling incest, pet play, role playing, I've told him I like bestiality porn but he doesn't know I fantasize about it during sex. I've told him about my mind breaking fetish, my thing for pain, my intense desire for him to be the dominant one even outside of the bedroom but that makes him uncomfortable. I've also told him I've fantasized about him fucking other dudes and I've told him I'm into furry shit and fucking in/under the water. I'm sure there's more, my sex drive has actually calmed down from how it used to be so I don't even remember all the shit I used to be into. Thank god it's calmer than it was even a few years ago

>>18723353
I'm not sure I can decipher the question because it looks like you had a typo or deleted word or something, but idk to me it's a red flag if he's asking. Like he's gonna be one of those virgin purists.

I'd probably decline to answer if asked by a potential date/bf. I just know 9 times out of 10 guys who are concerned about that stuff are bad news.

Now if the question was "I just want to know, you know for my own safety, you've been tested and are clean right?" I'd take that much better. Thats a valid concern, how many dicks have been in me isn't.

And before anyone asks or REEEs at me, I am a virgin.

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>>18723379
>had gf with that kink
>long term gf too, took her over 2 years to tell me about it
>she'd also had it happen for real years ago so thats probably why too
>already a little weird about it but then previous real experience made it worse
>try and shes being way too real about it
>not even midway through and im so freaked out i go flaccid
>cant even attempt to continue
>ended up feeling really weird and messed up for the next few weeks
>she was happy i tried but sad that it screwed me up a little
>never want to do it or anything close ever again
>still do the tie up stuff but thats as far as i go

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Me: 31 year old lawyer

GF: 35 year old lawyer divorced two boys, 4 and 6

GF's boss shuts down his law firm and gives her everything, including existing clients.

She tries to make it work for a month but frantically applies to jobs because she can't handle the stress of being a solo with kids.

I'm already a solo in the same line of work as her.

Her boss knew we were dating and he didn't like it because he not-so-secretly had a crush on her and held it against me.

I had to find my own office, was never allowed to office with her.

GF is notified that she was accepted to a new job at a government agency, has to close down the firm.
That means she has to get rid of current clients somehow.

I say, "I'm capable, I need the work, send them to me."

Instead she, along with her former boss, decide to refer all the clients to another guy in their office.

She says it was just a business decision. Other guy has a newborn and another 2 year old kid. His wife is a prosecutor.

I say "wtf?!, after your two boys I'm supposed to be the nearest and dearest to your heart." Who gives a shit that I don't have any kids?! You should want me to be successful and you know I can handle these cases just as well as other guy.

Do I have a legitimate reason to be upset?

>>18723392
I was with you up until him fucking other dudes and the furry shit. The water one is a little niche but not totally weird so that's all good.

Seems risky to look at beast shit though anon, where did you even find it? I'm pretty sure that shits not allowed.

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>>18723356
>>18723392
>shes into beast and imagines her bf is a dog

Details such as what it is you find hot about that stuff?

Welp I told my good friend over message that i liked him and said that i just wanted to know where we stood so we could move on in understanding, because we flirt with each other and its confusing. Been 4 hours and no response, i get that it would have been better to ask him on a date but i dont know ifi want to date him and I'm awkward so its fine. Guys please help make me feel better because no response makes me sad :( I just wanted a yes or no dammit

>>18723403
I don't watch it as much anymore, trying to wean myself off. Another chan site has good shit (I think I couldn't post cuz I tried to put an 8 in front of it). I first got into sexual shit cuz of furries. Middle school, I was still freaked out by naked humans and real pictures of dicks, but I liked the pretty colored animals and eventually started appreciating their dicks. Realest animal dick I can tolerate is horse and dog. Don't give me a lion or elephant with a barbed penis, that turns me right off

>>18723411
People can be busy or he's thinking anon. I've had the same thing happen where it took till the next day to hear back. And I got the date, so good things can happen.

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>>18723395
yeah, I also have real life experience. Diddled as a kid, used humor and normailzed it in my head coping. Hence the kink was born.

I totally get its a messed up thing, fucks with the guys head too. Though I usually only like it when it's very cheesily acted as well, my fantasies are usually like "ooOOOooo Nooooooooooo! stawwwppp noooooOOooo D-don't look theeeerrrreee" you know? Which I think helped him a little bit when he was giving it the ole college try (aye lmao), but he kinda succumbed to the same fate. Though he never mentioned at least any real lasting side effects. The way he put it to me was more like "Yeah I just can't do this, not my thing, it's too weird for me".

>>18723416
Thanks I do feel better now and maybe he is busy or thinking . I went off and finished some work maybe he did the same. I do hope he replies before tomorrow considering we are in the same class in the morning

>>18723210
Mine was unemployed lol.

Girls and guys

Is it possible for a late twenties guy with no relationship experience to be confident with a girl?

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>>18723394

I've never asked, nor do I plan to ever ask. That being said, finding out that your gf sucked 5 dicks in a gas station bathroom is definitely unattractive across the board. I think it's great for a girl to have a sexually healthy past; but there is a point where promiscuous behavior becomes a part of a girl, and like it or not, when a guy shes dating finds out he will always think twice about dating her.

>>18723378
Thanks, that makes sense, and is generally how I feel, but her fixation with it is pretty unattractive to me. That being said, our relationship is in a downward spiral for other reasons and I think that she's all but detected that I've just about given up on it.

She's a sweet girl but she will never be able to maintain a respectable bf until she works on herself.

>>18723410
I don't understand humans very well, but I've spent my entire life around animals. It's easier for me to understand them and bond with them. They've always been safe and never judgmental, so whenever I got curious about trying out sexual shit IRL I turned to the family pets, but it was just dry humping or getting the dog to lick me. I still like the idea of getting fucked by a dog, but I also know that would be gross IRL and have no interest in actually trying. God knows what's on a dog's dick, and the whole knotting thing wouldn't be fun to deal with, and I don't want to get scratched up. But idk, people always gave me mixed signals, but animals were always ready to go. And I like the whole giving into your primal instincts and becoming an animal yourself, just letting yourself do all kinds of weird fucked up shit just because it feels good. It's freeing in a very degenerate way

Ladies:
After being in a relationship with an emotionally abusive person, I'm realizing that I do not understand women and dating. I mean, I have no idea what is and isn't appropriate in normal relationships on a fucking fundamental level, so I have a few broad questions.

>Is it normal to try growing a relationship if the girl isn't immediately, intensely interested in you? I'm discouraged by girls saying they'll go on dates without being excited, which I know is weird.

>Is taking it slow once I've established that we're interested in each other the healthiest way to go? I feel INTENSE pressure to impress people and advance the relationship, even though I don't want to.

Like these concepts are completely foreign to me. If she isn't saying, "Yes! I'd love to go on a date, let me make time!" I'm immediately thinking I've failed and the negative self-talk begins. i feel like getting female perspectives might help ground me and temper those ridiculous expectations and reactions i have.

>>18723398
I think you're overreacting a tad. She likely didn't have as much say as the boss did and as you put he clearly didn't like you.

Also I think any employer would rather give work to their own people than an outsider. Think about how that other guy would have felt if they gave the work to you? He'd probably be like "What the fuck, I worked with you guys for how long?"

And also the kids thing, it might have been "This guy needs the work more than you because he has a newborn to feed." You just have to care for yourself. She knows what its like to raise kids and how hard it is and just how much money they suck out of your paychecks.

>>18723427

Oh my god that game

>>18723420
She wasn't quite as playful, she was pretty serious through it which is what messed me up the most. Maybe it would've been different if she had been playful but just the pure seriousness of it was too much. Any tips on smaller ways to play into that kink? I want to do something but obviously not too far, something small.

Hers was a highschool boyfriend in freshman year. I have to admit that I'm surprised she didn't totally go off men and distrust them after that, we have a mutual friend that went full feminazi lesbian after a guy groped her on a train in her final year.

>>18723255
Because women put you through a lot more emotional distress than a guy by being vague rather than trying to express how they feel directly

If you try asking one out more often than not youll get an iffy answer or just no answer at all. Try asking out a guy and he will just flat reject or agree.

>>18723429
Nice. I'm surprised you didn't go all the way though, there's actually quite a few women whose firsts are the family dog. It's weird but there's even actual statistics on it. Women getting licked being the absolute most common one, I knew a lot of girls who had been and didn't think it was weird at all.

>>18723433
Boss was already out of the picture, clients were all hers, but clients didn't know that - she was worried that if she told them they'd all just bail immediately so they concocted a plan to make it seem like boss still was there and all three signed their names to a letter they mailed out to every client.

Other guy in office is a solo who simply pays rent, not affiliated with the firm.

>>18723427
I think if "promiscuous" behavior is "a part of the girl" then she would never agree to date in the first place. She'd just want to suck your dick in a gas station bathroom and be done with you.

I don't give a fuck how many girls my guy has fucked, or the reasons in which he fucked them. Hell, I know my bf is in the double digits because he's offered that info willingly just relating stories. I know he's banged more girls back in his early college years than he'd like to have while blackout drunk, unprotected, and had to pray he didn't catch anything or knock anyone up the morning after. And he didn't thankfully.
I can date him despite knowing all this because I know that's not who he is now. He's grown up and matured, did stupid shit when he was young like we all do and has grown out of it. And proven to have.

>>18723444
I feel like it's weird that the fetish stuck for me, and I still occasionally fall off the wagon so to speak. I was just terrified of sex for a long, long time (thanks parents), so that kept me from crossing that boundary with any of the dogs

>>18723426
H-hey, that's me!

I think so yeah, it depends on your personality. But me personality? It depends on the day. I get depressive episodes about my loneliness from time to time and these dark thoughts still liger when I'm in a good mood.

But with the right girl it is certainly possible to be confident with a girl.

>>18723454
Still not curious to try though? Even with a toy that's shaped like one?

>>18723414
I'm the other way around. I find girls being fucked by dogs and horses really fucking hot but actual fursuit stuff bothers me.

I'm trying to avoid looking for that stuff though. Viewing it isn't illegal as far as I know, but the act and owning any vids and such is. My computer got fried by a bad virus last time I pursued that stuff, so I don't want to go looking again. . .

>>18723459
I've never used any sex toys, well besides a zucchini (tip to anyone, don't do that). I'm not really curious about actually getting fucked by a dog anymore. I'm just still drawn to the whole "Animals are safe, animals are easy to understand, animals don't have pity sex. If they're doing it, it's because they want to without expecting anything in return". There's that part, and then there's the part of me that's always been jealous of animals fucking. They don't give a shit what noises come out, or how they look during it. They just succumb to their instincts and let their pelvis take over, and I've never been able to just let loose like that. I'd like to though!

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Conversations starters over text?
Context, me and my friend havent talked in a while and shes pretty busy, but also feel shes ghosting me a little

>>18723436
Ehhhh I can't really say because I'm not her, we've had completely different experiences.
Like I have to admit, I was raped by another woman, so that might be part of why I'm so ok and turned on by the idea of it being a man, but on the other hand I'm completely turned off by lesbian stuff. But, I digress.

Some of the stuff I talked my bf at the time into that was within both of our comfort zones was as said, rope play, light choking (well, actually almost nonexistent. He basically just rested his hand on my throat, but him having me by the throat was a power move even if he wasn't putting any pressure on it, so it got me off. He'd also kinda toss me around a little, like there was one time we were starting foreplay and shit, just making out and undressing, he had just gotten my panties off, inched towards the end of the bed, and then grabbed me by my hips and yanked me down to the end so he could eat me.
He laughed at me because I came immediately before he even really started. That move alone did it for me lmao.
I also like dirty talk, being degraded. It took him a little time to get comfortable with even this, but he eventually came around to doing things like whispering in my ear what a fucking whore I am, how I enjoy all this while pretending to be innocent, and he'd mock my reactions to him touching me.
Things like that were how he accommodated me a little, we found compromises. There were things that pushed his limits, but were otherwise still within it (like the degrading talk) though after we were all done he always got super cuddly and would tell me how much he loves me and say other sweet things, which was even nice on me. BDSM does advocate after care after all lol.

Is asking a girl out to coffee a good date idea or boring? I already know this girl pretty well and we've been talking for a while and we're friends but I want to become friends with benefits.

>>18723468
>They just succumb to their instincts and let their pelvis take over, and I've never been able to just let loose like that. I'd like to though!
Really? That's the only way I do it. I never think about it and just go for it whatever feels good.

>>18723465
Girls getting fucked by normal sized horses always concerns me. I feel like their vagina has to be tearing or it can't possibly feel good. But ponies or minihorses are gold, I once saw a lady getting fucked by a pony that was just thrusting as hard as it could, and I wasn't concerned for the safety of her intestines.

With furry shit, I'm not interested in wearing a fursuit. I just like the cartoon stuff. But goddamn I can't wait for the Halloween where I get the balls to dress up as an adorable werewolf (with a nsfw tail) so he can fuck the shit out of me. I tested the waters on his thoughts about me howling while I came, and he thought it was kinda silly, but I might do it anyways

>>18723456

This girl I really like just sent me a ton of compliments saying "you're fun! And you're also smart and handsome :)"

It's just hard to be confident because I have no experience with girls, and for some reason this girl likes me.. I feel like she'll just open her eyes and think "wait what was I thinking"

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>>18723436
Also
>we have a mutual friend that went full feminazi
kek I went through a short feminist phase, but they dug their own hole with me and now I hate the group.
The very first time I felt safe enough to open up about my experience was to a feminist support group. But the second it came out that it was a woman who did it to me they all screeched at me, kicked me out, and just said otherwise terrible things to me and about me because "wimin can't rape!!!111 ur just trying to derail us an detract from REAL VICTIMS"
One even told me I deserved it, "if it actually even happened which we all know it didn't"

Been a strong antifeminist ever since.

>>18723476
I'm always very concerned about making sure I'm not making an unattractive face, or making sure my stomach is always sucked in, or making sure I'm doing things to be as hot looking as possible for my boyfriend. It wasn't until just recently where we tried me being on top while I experimented with grinding my clit against his skin. I've been getting used to it very slowly, but I just feel so self-conscious. I worry about how long it takes for me to cum that way, when he could just flip me over, fuck me doggystyle while I play with myself, and I can cum in less than two minutes. Like if it were up to me, I'd have sex in the dark every time we fucked, but he likes to have the lights on, and I do like making him happy especially in the bedroom

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>tfw talking to this girl
>tfw that she's really friendly and cute
>Even meet up with her one time
>calls me on my birthday
>talk to her a couple times after
>ghosts me

My brother apparently says that she was into me but I didn't pick any of the "signals" and bitched that I do it everytime.

What are "signals"? Whats he talking about?

>>18723446
Well still, she was probably sympathizing with him as a family man. Maybe he came to her with a sob story about how he's having a hard time providing for his family.

Go get your own clients and stop being a big baby. It doesn't look good on you as a professional.

I'm two months into a new job in Nashville. I'm interested in dating but my career goal is to move on from this job and get one in Charlotte within a year, which is where I plan on working/living the rest of my life

Should I worry about finding a girl in Nashville, or wait until I get to Charlotte and have my career settled?

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>>18723482
Pretty much why I hate those things too. I'm all for equality but fuck feminism, that shits all one sided no matter how much they claim to be for everyone.

Shit back when I was in highschool I was being harassed by some girl non-stop. In the end the school tried blaming me and said I was leading her on (I only ever spoke to her, once, at the beginning of my first year there) and her friends wouldn't leave me alone and calling me shit for not going out with her. Everyone ended up hating me just because I didn't want to date her. It was a lonely ass year at that fucking school. Not really feminism related I guess but I feel it's related to the "women can't rape/harass men" thing.

I also didn't date anyone for 3 years after that.

>>18723486
Try for some nights with the lights off. He should at least compromise on that sometimes, it's really not a big deal. Going at it in the dark is awesome since there's just the feelings and the noises. Now THAT is some truly primal feeling.

>>18723477
Oh yeah no, if you're the femanon I responded to, then I agree. Actual horses are too damn big for most girls and I don't like seeing sex where the girl can actually be hurt. It's usually limited to girls fellating the horse or something.

However I find it hot mostly because the girl just lets the animal pleasure her and they can fuck freely to get enveloped in the pleasure.

All this said, I wouldn't let my girl fuck the dog. Even if she wanted to do it as an exhebition for me, I don't share. It's a fantasy I enjoy the concept of in a vacuum. Like, any hentai where the girl gets fucked by an animal while she has a boyfriend irks me.

Ok the fur thing is ok. It doesn't cross into the weird boundry. Especially with the halloween thing. That's more of a normal kink.

Your boyfriend is one lucky bastard.

>>18723429
>little blonde girl spotted!

>>18723487
I have the same problem. Girls give you subtle indications they want to have the relationship move a certain way. You gotta pick up on the ques and decide if you wanna match the movement or not. It's a lot like a dance.

The problem is, you and I have 2 left feet in this situation. There isn't an easy way to know them as everyone is different, but you learn through experience and some research.

>>18723504
We have fucked in the dark a few times (less than ten and we've been together over 6 years lol) and those times have been some of the best. Maybe I'll get the balls to ask for some more times like that. I'm just not sure how to ask without risking him feeling like I want the lights off so that I don't have to look at him, or so that it's easier for me to imagine he's someone else. Which I've been thinking. It might be that I've been fantasizing about dogs here and there because I feel like him or both of us can't be that animalistic during sex. Maybe if he had a time where he just went crazy primal on me, I'd be like "Oh cool, he has the capacity to truly fuck like an animal. I no longer need to think about dogs"

>>18723506
I always get weird when it's Halloween. Horny levels increase by at least 200%. I've got at least five ideas for costumes just because they'd be good to fuck in afterwards

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>>18723511
no bulli pls

>>18723526
Put that idea to him. He might be into that whole primal thing. Something like "when the lights are off, you can do ANYTHING to me" might entice him enough, though I don't know what he's into or what your boundaries for "anything" are exactly.

>I've got at least five ideas for costumes just because they'd be good to fuck in afterwards
Don't tease us like that anon, list costumes and why the fuck would be so good in them.

>>18723534
1. Werewolf. I'll start off with a normal tail, but right before fucking I'll switch to a buttplug tail. I'd like to beg him to tug on it while he fucks me.
2. Goddess where he ties me up and has his way with me while he worships me
3. I'd be a deer and he'd either be an archer or some predatory animal, and I'd have to convince him to let me live
4. Superheroes where he has superstrength and is one of the good guys, and I'm one of the bad guys, so he gets to simultaneously punish be for being evil while convincing me to join the good guys (that's based off a dream so I doubt the story would be easy to convey, but I still fantasize about it lol)
5. He'd be Aquaman and I'd be Mera. I'm down with the water theme and he loves Aquaman

>>18723550
Werewolf and Aquaman sound ultra hot. #1 is the wolf one though, tugging on the plug is a damn good thought.

>want to try some stuff and be adventurous
>gf is vanilla though
>hates anal, wont try anything at all
>hates cum, wont swallow or do facials
>literally my two main things but also some other things
>i cant just get from a new relationship since i'd have to build to them and a ltr is what its for
>feel pretty fucked and constricted sexually

Girls, what the shit do I do? I asked about anal 6 months ago and got a maybe and even now it's still "maybe someday".

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>Just told my gf of a year that i needed to take a break for a week because she constantly fights with me over trivial things and despite that I have tried to talk to her about she will not stop.
>She started crying harder than I've ever seen and ended the conversation by saying that this is it and we're breaking up.
>4 hours later she called me and asked if I'm really doing this and if I already dropped our shared classes.
>Tell her yes I have already dropped and that I never wanted to do this, it was her choice.

I honestly don't want to break up and would like her to just not fight about so many trivial issues and I have tried to explain this but I feel it's a lost cause. What can I expect as far as further contact from her? Her last text was "you're so cold hearted, have a good life."

Alternatively, how do I meet good women that I could potentially start a family with? I met this girl in school, but I am no longer in school and I refuse to date people from work. I don't imagine I will meet women like that in bars or clubs either.

>>18723550
You're correct. The fantasy isn't so much the animals as the pure indulgance. That can be easily gotten across in a healthy way.

>weird
That's subjective. A lot of people dress up for halloween in sexy costumes. People just have different levels for how far they'd take it.

>>18723564
Try and get her perspective. Why doesn't she want to try anal? It might be because she's worried it'll hurt. Like I tried anal once and I've been scared off it because he tore my pooper and then laughed uncomfortably at me when I couldn't hold in a fart afterwards. Maybe she's got her own hangups.

With the cum, I don't like the taste of cum, but certain blowjob positions make it easier to swallow without ever really tasting the cum. I've never once spat it out, I feel like that would make you taste it more than just swallowing it

>>18723571
I know you said you don't want to break up. Does that mean that you want to try and fight for the relationship?

>a woman asked me this
>Why are men so complicated?
Are we really so complex?
What did she mean by this? why would she ask me of all people this?

>>18723611
Idk man, I'm just as confused as you. I've had guys where I wasn't sure what was going on through his head, but honestly, just knowing the kind of person my sister is has me more on the "Women are so complicated" fence. There are crazy, weird, manipulative dudes, or dudes who do the whole "aloof and mysterious" thing.

I guess it's just that members of the opposite sex will always confuse us just because I don't know what life as a man is like, and men don't know what life as a woman is like. Even men can be confused by other men, and same thing goes for women

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>>18723598
At this point, not particularly, I told her I would call her tuesday and she said to not bother because I know her answer. 4 hours later she called me. If she calls me and is apologetic, or at the very least just says she wants to talk, I may consider going back with her, but if she still blames me for these petty fights then I'm done. I'll call once tuesday like I said if i hear nothing from her. If she doesn't answer I'll give her the day to call back, and if she doesn't then I'm definitely moving on.

For an example of what a typical fight with her are: We once went to go play tennis. The courts at the park were occupied and so we asked how long the people playing planned on staying. Each person planned on 30-40 more minutes. I said that there's another park 10 minutes away that we could try, she said that we could hike up a nearby hill (maybe 50 foot elevation.) Told her I would rather play tennis and try the other place. She stormed off and refused to talk to me about anything and demanded I take her home that instant. I had no idea what the fuck happened and a few days later she told me it felt like I didn't want to hike with her and that she felt like I thought her ideas were dumb. I ended up saying sorry I made her feel that way, it wasn't my intention, I just wanted to play tennis, and we made up and everything was good for a few days till the next one.

Every week this shit repeats 2-3x and I have talked and talked and talked to her about this and various other minor things. We honestly never had major problems, it was just like a death by a thousand cuts. And if I ever bring something up to her that made me feel like shit (like telling her friends she has absolutely no support through school despite me sitting next to her.) She says she did nothing wrong and doesn't need to apologize.

Lasses
>Why is it that when I'm in a relationship I get way more female attention than when I'm single?
>Why is it so hard to articulate what it is that you mean instead of thinking I can read your mind?
>Why do you claim "status/money/power/looks doesn't matter :^)" when they clearly do?
>Why do you post or say "you're just so wonderful person and would make a great husband but we can't continue :^)" when it's time for a break up?
>Why does it seem that most of you afe extremely capable of causing mental distress?

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my friend was telling me about how he was having sex with his girlfriend, but she had a case of dirty butt because she had been drinking all day
he said as she started sweating it was really kicking up the smell of shit

is this the kind of stuff I have to look forward to with a relationship? because this is making me reconsider my life goals

>>18723639
It's always fucked up when someone refuses that they were wrong, even just a little bit. Fights are always a mixture of both people messing up, and it shouldn't really be a debate of who's wrong and who's right.

Given the situation you gave me, it sounds like she doesn't feel very secure in the relationship. I'm not saying that as "You did a shit job of ever making her feel secure" though, people often have their pre-existing hangups that keep them from getting too close to people.

Lots of times, when it seems like a fight is about stupid shit, it's not stupid shit to the other person. What's trivial to one person is a big deal to the other person. Another thing is that fights are hardly ever about what you're actually fighting about. She did a good job of going deeper and saying she felt like you thought her ideas were dumb. Deep down, we're all just scared insecure babies longing for our partner to tell us they're there for us, they love us, we can rely on them. For whatever reason, she felt like she couldn't rely on you, at least in that moment. It might've brought back some other time when she felt you didn't like her ideas, like a sore spot. People can get real ornery when you accidentally aggravate their emotional raw spots. They can lash out in anger, cry, or just shut down. It's important to try not to take it personally. If your dog snaps at you, and you realize it snapped because you accidentally aggravated a very painful wound, you don't stay mad at the dog, you just get sad that you unintentionally hurt them and you want to make it right. If both people saw negative reactions in that way, that'd be perfect, but you gotta start somewhere!

I have a crush on a guy in my Pathfinder group (I'm F). I noticed he and I matched on tinder months ago, before we met, but we never messaged there. I have since deleted tinder.
Would it be weird to send a message like "hey! I saw we matched on tinder a while back, and since we seem to have the same favorite pizza place, wanna go there sometime?"
Or should I just not mention tinder at all?

>>18723641
Idk about the first one, I don't think I've really experienced being into a dude that was taken, or being more interested specifically for that reason.

Lots of people have shitty communication skills, but they can be learned. I used to do the whole "If he really understood me, he'd know why I was upset and fix it." But it's possible to learn that's bullshit, and why that's bullshit. As for struggling to actually explain what I'm upset about, it can still be tough for me. I don't want to officially ruin the mood by announcing "I'm upset!" I don't want to be a burden to my boyfriend (though I also realize I'm being more of a burden by not saying anything). And then I'm also looking for my boyfriend to make an effort to try and understand me, to make me feel like I'm not just being a whiny overreacting bitch. You always hear guys complaining about having to deal with their girlfriends whining about everything, and I always have those thoughts flash through my head whenever I'm debating speaking up.

Looks do matter. There's gotta be some physical attraction that makes you walk up to the person in the first place. But I personally don't really give a shit about status, money, or power. I'm more interested in if my boyfriend turns me on, how he treats me, and if we share a few things we can bond over.

The whole "You're a good person" is a way to try and let people down easily. I'm so bad at this. I went through a phase where I was so reluctant to reject people that I just said yes. Ended up in a few relationships that way until I grew some semblance of a spine, but I still struggle to tell people no. Having a boyfriend makes that a lot easier honestly lol.

I feel like people in general cause mental distress. Your experiences probably make you feel like it's just women, but I've been mentally fucked up by nothing but men in my life, but I try hard not to let that color my future interactions with guys

>>18723669
I don't know what a pathfinder is but don't mention tinder

>>18723674
I'm pretty sure she's talking about the PnP RPG

>>18723669
I don't see the harm in mentioning tinder. It could be potentially cute, where you could tell him how you were all giddy and happy and shit when you got matched cuz you've had a crush on him for a while. But save that shit until you find out if he still likes you like that

How do girls see guys who hoard lots of porn?
Like, terabytes of it. In all various formats.

>>18723684
On one hand, it feels weird to me and possibly a bit creepy. Then again, I've had plenty of times of trying to find a video and having no luck cuz I never saved it.

I guess what makes it weird is how much you've hoarded. Do you really need that much porn dude?

>>18723697
>Do you really need that much porn dude?
Well, you don't need to save it.
But it is safe to assume you at least watched most of it, right?
So it is safe indication the guy is addicted to porn.

>>18723684
Strangely.

>>18723704
I wouldn't say just watching a bunch of porn makes a guy addicted. It's more of the mindset, as well as the frequency. If porn is taking up most of his free time, that's addiction. If he's depressed and would rather be spending his time in another way, yet keeps finding himself watching video after video, that's probably addiction. If he feels like he literally couldn't go without watching porn, that's probably addiction. And if he ever watches porn when he could be fucking his lady, I feel like that's for sure addiction

>>18723673
>The whole "You're a good person" is a way to try and let people down easily.
What really irks me about it is the blatant dishonesty. You dump the guy and the guy will never know what he did wrong, why or when. He's left with that "you're a great guy, but..." ringing in his mind, not knowing why someone would suddenly dump "a great guy"'

Girls, why does it turn you on watching your boyfriend jerking off?

>>18723730
But it may not be dishonest! When someone breaks up with their partner, it's not because they now see their partner as a shit human being. They just don't see a relationship with them, that's all. They can still be good people, with the potential to make someone else really happy and treat someone else very well, while being incompatible with you. That being said, I feel like it should be their responsibility to say why they're breaking up. But that can be really difficult to do. Sometimes, it feels practically impossible to find a balance between being honest and being cruel. And when you do still care about someone and do still think they're a good person, that makes it that much more difficult to be like "Dude, you refused to wash your dick. What the fuck is up with that?" Nobody likes to hurt feelings, and feelings are guaranteed to be hurt during a breakup, so it just makes everything very awkward. I just wish more people understood that you can't really take the easy way out when it comes to breakups, cuz that just leaves the other person feeling like shit was unresolved, or leaves them longing for closure. It can keep them from moving on, especially if they feel like they'll have a shot of winning their ex back if they try to fix the issues that caused the breakup

>>18723738
I love it. I love watching him jerk off because I love watching him make himself feel good. I love studying the expressions on his face, the small noises of pleasure. It's just hot watching him stroke his own dick until he cums. Like you probably enjoy the image of girls masturbating right? Why do you think girls wouldn't be interested in watching guys jerk off?

>>18723754
>I love studying the expressions on his face, the small noises of pleasure.
I never do such a thing.

>Like you probably enjoy the image of girls masturbating right?
You mean the idealized/fantasized 2D version or the dull, dirty and smelly 3D version?

>>18723747
Okay I should add that people often do break up with their partner because they do see them as a piece of shit. It's not always sunshine and rainbows in Breakup Land lol. But in those cases, it usually doesn't involve the person saying "You're a great guy, but you pushed me down the stairs in a fit of rage. I know you'll be a good partner to someone else, but I just can't see things working out between us"

>>18723766
>I never do such a thing.
What, make expressions or noises? Well even breathing hard is nice. When you get to know someone well enough, you get to know when they're close, even if they're pretty stoic about it.

>2D or 3D
Well I mean if it's an image, you can't really smell it. I'm confused as to what makes the 3D version dirty. Also, I don't think it's healthy to be so attached to a idealized version of sex that's so detached from reality. 3D porn can already fuck with people's attitudes about sex and I feel like preferring 2D shit is more likely to leave you feeling disappointed. Have you had sex that left you feeling hurt, underwhelmed, or just plain bad? When and where did you get this preference of 2D porn, and why?

>>18723781
can you explain this then>>18723649

>>18723781
You're answering to a faggot weeb

>>18723789
Aren't we all here?

>>18723789
I've seen the 2D>3D meme so many times I don't know what's real and what's trolling anymore dude

>>18723788
I feel like that's not a typical experience. Most people practice basic hygiene, so you don't have to worry about shit smell unless you want to stick your wiener up in all that. But I mean, 2D portrayals of sex aren't sex. Sex is great and amazing, but it's not that perfect ideal. Which honestly makes it a lot easier for me to have sex. That allows it to be more about connecting with your partner and having a good time and making each other feel good, instead of treating a queef as the end of the world, or your guy losing his boner because you made a weird, imperfect noise. That's way too much pressure!

>>18723804
>queef
I don't think there's anything more gross. even the word smells bad

>>18723448
Your past is a part of you sweetie; plain and simple. It's the reason people have criminal records.

There's a difference between having an experimental phase and engaging in promiscuous behavior for a matter of years. Also, saying that your bf has partners "in the double digits" is not a lot. Not to mention, this has nothing to do with how women preceive men. Women find different traits attractive in men than men do in women, and a promiscuous past is one of things men generally find unattractive in a partner.

Now let me make this clear, I prefer women who have had a sexual healthy past, but I don't want too date the school bicycle. And I understand that you may not like that, but it's not going to change what men find attractive.

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Hey girls, would you hang out with a super busy 27yo japanese salary man? I don't really care about your skin color nor political views, I give no fuck about that shit. I just want you to make me happy

>>18723822
Have you had sex before? Where did this preference for 2D come from?

>>18723829
in the US? if yes, sure. you'd just have to overcome the cultural barrier

>>18723835
No, I'm living in japan, probably my entire life, and my English isn't very good but I think I can handle small talks.

>>18723831
only once with a whore from the internet

>>18723855
What was that like for you?

>>18723856
was ok
I went raw so I'm almost positive I probably have HPV now, and that makes me nervous because I don't want to give it to anyone

>>18723872
Well no wonder you've got the hangups about 3D sex! I'd be pretty turned off of sex too. I'd say get tested and also get some therapy to help you work to get more used to sex to where you can enjoy it, flaws and all

>>18723829
Maybe, do you watch anime?

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Girls, how do you usually figure out a guy is into you? Just curious, because I'm fucking shit at reading girls. I'm assuming it's easier because guys are usually much more likely to be sexually interested in girls they hang out with versus the other way around.

>>18723886
Nah, I don't even have time to make myself a proper meal, also I'm too old to watch cartoons. But if you're interested in technology, I can discuss that with you all day.

>>18723747
>another shot if they fix the issues that caused the breakup

Never really understood why that can't be the case.
To me, the guy she broke up with is very different from the guy she fell in love with. Why can't a better version of myself get another shot?
"you're still the same person"
Bull fucking shit. People change all the time.

>>18723898
If he ever sits close to me or touches me, even if I think it might just be accidental, that makes me officially consider the possibility that they're interested. If they ask for my number for any reason, even if they give a reason that seems legit or even halfway legit (had a guy ask for my number so we could coordinate playing pokemon together), I will consider him as being interested. And if he ever suggests hanging out, I'll consider him as being interested. Idk, maybe it's cuz I have a boyfriend, but I err on the side of caution. But I also try not to be the bitch that yells "I HAVE BOYFRAN" when a guy asks to borrow a damn pencil.

>>18723911
When people break up, usually there's shit that happened where both people were hurt. Sometimes, the damage we do to each other, even to people we love, is too much to be repaired. Not everybody can shake off the bad memories, the hurtful comments, even if they do still believe in their heart that their partner is a good person. It can be hard to fully leave the past in the past and let yourself believe their ex has really changed.

Lol but I say that as someone who took their boyfriend back after being broken up a month, so take my shit with a grain of salt

>>18723908
You're lame

If a girl mentions going to Victoria's Secret and starts talking about bras she likes, is she trying to flirt by steering the conversation into the sexy territory or is am I so in the friend zone that she treats me like one of the girls?

PS. She has a boyfriend.

>>18723975
She thinks you're a flaming faggot who shops lingerie fir crossdressing purposes. You're her flamboyant pride-visiting gay friend.

I have a twin sister and every serious girlfriend I have has made me choose between them. This is something I can never do. My question is how do I pursue a serious relationship with a girl without her feeling like she's playing second fiddle to my sister?

>>18723998
Date another twin sister abd brother pair.

Guys, what does it mean when a guy doesn't want to seem to "take the next step" with you because "we were too real"?

Was I too easy with him? We had been talking for months before, met up and had an amazing vacation together where we both had a lot of fun going to the theaters, laser tagging and drinking. I told him I liked him a lot and initiated the two times we had sex together. Is this where I fucked up???

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i've been rejected again.

i honestly don't know what to do with myself at this point in my life. love is probably the thing i'm most invested in right now, but it seems like i'm entirely hopeless. i'm coming out of a long-term relationship with a woman who completely backstabbed me emotionally (BPD), and although i don't miss her, i have this incredibly painful longing for intimacy.

although everyone around me says i'm intelligent, likable, funny, and handsome, i just feel like a fucking loser when this is what happens with women i meet. i can't seem to attract any romantic attention from women who are worthwhile - worthwhile in the sense that they're people i sense i can have a mutually enriching relationship with. i just want to be able to give to someone again, and have them give to me. but every time i feel some sort of connection with someone, it turns out it's one-sided and they're only interested in being friends.

i've learned to present myself better, but i'm just losing more and more confidence, and it makes it harder to go out there and try again each time. i miss loving someone so painfully.

women, what the fuck do i do? could it be there's something i'm doing that just repels attraction like water off duck's back? i'll give any details i can.

>>18723620
>aloof and mysterious thing
Lol if you're quiet do other people think that you're just doing a thing?

Oh god red pill me

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>>18724027
Oh, and when I say "coming out of", I mean it's been about 9 months. I decided not to date for a while because
>It felt disrespectful to potential partners when I WAS still missing my fucked-up ex for the first few months
>Intimacy was triggering for months, because I'd immediately re-experience everything terrible about our relationship
>I didn't think I could handle intimacy emotionally, like I'd just given up

I thought I finally felt healthy and confident enough to get out there again, like I could finally be a fucking good boyfriend again, but I've realized fate isn't going to give me a break just because of what I went through.

>>18724027
>>18724044
We have pretty much the same settings, even down to BPD

I don't think I'm that lovable and I've always believed men generally look at most women as simply sexual conquests and will lose interest in them as soon as they bed them. I've always been told that o just have to wait for the right guy so I did. Untill recently at 22 I dated a guy for 4 months that seemed really enthusiastic about dating me and didn't show any signs of being a player so I have it up to him last week..almost immediately I noticed that he's less interested in me in general. He still tries to get sexual but he doesn't want to converse much he doesn't go out of way to visit me like he did before.
I feel like fucked up but I don't know how

>>18723475
If you two are actually friends, then a coffee date is just another casual get together. If you want to spice things up a little - say, with ACTUAL SEX - then you need to spice up your dating routine.

Does she like live music? Hit up a local concert or music hall. Is she a lush? Head to the nearest dive bar or cocktail lounge, your wallet is the limit. Does she enjoy the out-of-doors? Find a hiking trail or a sandy beach nearby. Is she an animal lover? Go to a zoo or find a wildlife spotting location.

Point is, you want to take things to the next level, but your idea of romance is only slightly better than sharing an ice-cream sundae at the local soda parlor. There's a reason that optimism is only left to Norman Rockwell paintings.

Being a good friend is the foundation, and hopefully you've been truthful in that regard. Now, without abandoning that friendship, you need to prove that you can provide more. Offering a coffee date is like offering vanilla ice-cream: no one's gonna get wet over that. Instead, offer her some rocky road, some chunky monkey, some neapolitan, some wacky wasabi-I'm-done-with-this-analogy flavor.

TL;DR - You want to fuck her? Prove you're someone worth the effort to fuck.

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>>18724055
i wish there was greater awareness about BPD. i was writing about what dating to her did to me and i almost had a panic attack for the first time in months. i have empathy for people with BPD because i loved one, but it's complicated. on one hand, it's wrong to generalize and demonize them; but on the other hand, dating a person with BPD is the relationship equivalent of handing an addict a needle

except the needle doesn't steal from your family, yell at you when you try to get it to stop drinking, call you a narcissistic fuck when you have feelings, act disgusted when you touch it, or emotionally cheat on you with the friend she tells you "not to worry about" when you say it's hurting your relationship.

i just can't do it again. i really can't. all i fucking do is get invested in people who i feel a real connection with, but it turns out want nothing from me. nobody wants me, lmao.

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>why anyone would prefer me considering they have so many options
>i am not "man" enough, women hate boys
>i have even been told by my ex-gf that i act like a boy around women
>i don't believe anyone would be sexually attracted to me, friend with penis -- fine, but never as sexual partner
>sex seems alien and unreachable
>inb4 sex is zionist fraud

How do I address this issue? These are not healthy beliefs but it lead me to be dropped by my ex-GF, affected my behaviour, etc.

>>18723262
Only if they're shitty women

Some guys do bad things to women but far more guys do good things for them and sometimes all they want in return is a form of thanks but the women take it for granted and get bitchy.

>>18723919
Sound a lot like womantalk to me:
>you're such a great and hot guy
>you know just how to touch me
>I'm comparing every potential new partner and they all lose to you
>but I'm totally over you and would never ever give you a second chance even if you changed
>because you'd still be the same person and I don't want to lead you on or put you through another breakup, it hurt me too but I healed and now there is a scar.

I can somewhat understand, I also don't want to hurt her again and I know I haven't changed enough yet. But man it feels like lots of wasted potential.

Guys, are ultra thin condoms any better for you than normal ones?

>>18724146
protip: polyisoprene
youre welcome

>>18724146
I honestly can't feel a difference.

Girls, Have you ever been rejected?

>>18724146
Never felt a difference.
What did make a huge difference and made sex with condoms tolerable was getting the proper width from MySize condoms. Felt a lot more natural.

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>>18724206
Ladies please answer this. I was rejected his morning god damn.
Also ladies what you think of guys with moustaches? I have one like pic related :)

>>18724219
If you do, that's maximum cringe.

>>18724219
Holy fuck you disgusting hipster

>>18724219
Go back to 2009 kek.

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>>18724225
>>18724232
>>18724236
Are you all female? If so I'm reconsidering but damn if not it doesn't matter cos I need female opinions why the hate also?

I'm unsure about the relationship status with my "ex gf". We were never official although we kind of were at the same time (we never fucked nor even kissed)
Lately, we've been "breaking up" a lot and it's making me question if our last fight was the real deal or not. I'd love to think it wasn't because we each thought we were perfect for each other because we clicked so well but she started to have doubts about me all of a sudden. She thinks I'm putting her pussy on a pedestal (I kind of am admittedly haha) but it's making me think she feels that's all she can offer in our relationship (when it isn't) because we haven't fucked.
I've also been making some drastic changes in my lifestyle but it seems she's still hung up I'm stuck in my old ways still. She thinks I haven't changed and that I'm just stringing her along to boost my ego. She overanalyzes everything I say or do whether it be through social media, texts, my interactions with her friends, etc. I can't even make a fucking tweet anymore because she'll think I'm talking about her. It's kind of annoying but also kind of cute t b h. Basically she's thinking the worst of me when we haven't even seen each other face to face (love that song) in over a month because we're far away atm.
I think she's just overreacting because she's acting way out of the ordinary this time.

My question: Should I go see Gorillaz or The Weeknd?

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>>18724249
Obviously you should go see the gorillas because they are far superior. The weekend pic related

>>18724249
kek

no sex = no relationship

Girls, Do you think you're a logical?

>>18724317
I scored in the 97th percentile when I did inductive reasoning psychometric testing. Does that answer your question?

>>18724317
* your

>>18724322
So do you think yourself to be a logical?

>>18724336
A logical what?

>>18724342
For everything

>>18724317
Do you mean illogical or logical? Or is this an attempt at a new meme?

Either way I think of myself as mostly reasonable. You can hit me up with a sound argument any day and I'll consider it seriously. But like all people I definitely have my irrational moments and I do not think of anyone at all as "logical". A mathematic formula or philosophical concept can be logical. People are by definition whimsical and influenced by a shitload of factors, both consciously and subconsciously. It baffles me that anyone can unironically describe themselves as a rational being while it has been shown that people rate a stranger as friendlier when they are holding a hot cup than when they're holding a cold cup. Honestly the only conclusion I draw from it is that they have a blind spot for their own lack of rationality.

Men who like big boobs, do you expect them to be perky?

>>18724317
I'm a TA for a logic class so I'd say I am.

>>18724362
Logical. Thank you for your good post

>>18724377
Not really, as long as they aren't too saggy it's fine.

Women, What do you think of autistic man? Can you date with them?

>>18724386
Mine are pretty saggy. Would it be better if I got a reduction, or is that even more of a turn off?

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>had an argument with gf a few weeks ago
>she kept saying she's always been bothered by my lack of libido and indeed she has complained about it some times in the past
>she asked if I would try an open relationship
>I tell her no because there's no point in a relationship like that and if this is such a dealbreaker for her she should be clear to me so we can have an amicable breakup
>she says she absolutely doesn't want to breakup with me and this is out of the question
>she kept saying we could try it and if it doesn't work out we could just get back to a monogamous relationship
>I didn't agree
>she says ok but is annoyed and decides to go to sleep

Everytime I tell her that maybe we should just breakup on good terms if she's not happy with me she disagrees. I don't want her to grow resentful of me, but she's very clear she doesn't want to breakup, what do I do? Is there anyway I can prevent this ending up on something bad? Maybe some way I can increase my libido?

>>18724398
Don't do it before you get a bf and see what he likes.

>>18724399
Just fuck her more, you faggot.

>>18724406
very constructive

>>18724407
A man with a low libido is a serious problem.

>>18724399
I completely understand where you're coming from, but at the same time I'm not surprised that she gets frustrated hearing you go "welp, maybe we should break up then" when she brings this up. Obviously she cares about you a lot.

There aren't endless options here. Obviously get your testosterone checked, but since you don't mention an alarmingly low sex drive I reckon that's fine. If you are healthy and this is your normal, all that's left is finding the best way to compromise. If you really don't want to have sex, could you deal with going down on or fingering her? If that's too much, how about letting her sit on your lap or holding her in your arms, talking dirty to her while she masturbates?
Are there things you can do outside of sex to convince her how sexually appealing you find her? Compliments, more cheeky touching, more verbal affection and tenderness?

Obviously this needs to come from both sides. She will need to accept that her ideal (penetration x amount of times a week/day) isn't going to happen. She needs to make do with a plan B. Same for you. But if you do love each other and want to see if you can work through it, that's the way to go.

How do you feel about all of this? You don't seem to feel as strongly as her about staying together. Do you generally feel a mismatch in emotional investment in the relationship or do you just feel you have less hope?

Please no memes or arguments. Can someone give me some good advice on how I can get a girl who's a shy virgin, and likes smaller group events. I've been on a few dates but never even kissed a girl. I'm willing to take things slow or even wait for marriage idc. All I fucking want is to be able have a girlfriend I love without going insane thinking about her past. Call me a pussy if you want. I don't live on campus so I have no idea what to do besides approaching girls who walk around quickly with their heads down.

>>18724387
I have never been in the position of even the early stages with someone autistic, so I cannot say with certainty. However I do not think I would be compatible with someone like that. I am a pretty emotive person and heart to hearts, emotional support/intimacy etc are honestly the single biggest thing I look for in a relationship. I want a partner who doesn't just loves me but understands my complicated feelings about my parents, very long term friends and so on, and can weigh in as an equal when it comes to those matters. Similarly I am looking for a partner who will open up in turn and make me complicit in his inner life and his feelings. I know many other people do not care -as- much about it, or do not need these specific things to feel emotionally close to their partner.

Kinda looking for advice, kinda need this off my chest, kinda don't even know how to articulate this feel

>Me and gf have been together nearly 2 years at this point
>Getting along great
>Working on building out of the honeymoon phase and staying strong
>Working on our flaws
>Gf wants to go to Amsterdam with me more than anything, she studied abroad there and loved it
>Wanted to go this year but life just kinda got in the way
>She says she wants to do it next year
>Just says it, super confident about us still being together in another year
>I want that, but for some reason I'm not as confident
It's just like, damn, what could happen in a year? What if something beyond our control splits us up? Maybe I'm just scared of the future in general, and KNOW I'm scared of letting her down and not getting there with her.

How can I make it last? Or at least not have this fear?

>>18724417
The easiest way is to become religious. Not just because statistically speaking the odds are better, but the main issue is that this is a very stigmatized and sensitive question to ask. It's one thing to ask a girl on a date whether she's ever had a boyfriend. It's quite another to ask if she's a virgin. And then I take it that you also don't want a girl who ever gave head - that's still a more impertinent question to ask. Besides, realize that even if she meets your criteria, older female virgins are rare and typically not at all interested in being desired for some experience they never had... so you are likely to offend her one way or another if she has a hunch that this matters a lot to you. (For the record, I have been in this position myself and I would actively lie about not being a virgin just to avoid being selected for it.) In a religious scene I reckon that this is a more acceptable priority to have and that you can much more easily pre-select. Otherwise you are doomed to invest in girls and grow emotionally close to them before realizing that they are no option for you, repeat ad infinitum.

Also realize that if a girl is clever, sweet, cute, and could easily get guys, but has consciously chosen to save herself, she is likely to value herself highly and have a certain idea of the kind of man she is looking for... and is basically not going to fall over her feet to date just any man who shows interest and treats her well.

If you really want this and are not willing to try to tackle your mindset, that means accepting that most women will never be an option for you in any way, and actively investing a lot both in finding these women and becoming the kind of man they want.

>>18724411
I like her but if I'm not feeling horny either the sex will feel like a chore for me or my dick isn't going to help, sometimes I'm tired as fuck and just want to sleep but she keeps teasing me then gets annoyed I'm not reciprocicating...

My testosterone is normal I checked it in a blood test last month.

I actually am very willing to finger her and/or lick her pussy and she likes it a lot, but she always want to end up in PiV sex, even though she says I'm great at oral/fingering.

I don't really want to breakup because I've always wanted to have a gf who really likes me and she's very caring, but this idea of open relationship is ridiculous to me so I tell her if she believes this is the only way I'd rather breakup...

>>18724428
You said that most of the stigma is for older women. If I'm 20 does that change anything. If my only option is to become religious I'll do it, but I'd prefer not.

>>18724423
The feelings you have are normal. You have something that's both very valuable to you and vulnerable. Most relationships don't work out in the long haul. That is reality so you cannot 100% eradicate these feelings as they do make sense.

Having said that, for me the biggest help is realizing that if you were to break up, apparently the situation changed in some way from how it is now. Which means it won't be exactly what you have now what you'll lose, but something you cannot conceive of in the present. Sure something beyond your control can happen but that's always relative. If someone gets a job in a wildly different place that's a sensible reason to break up over, but if you love each other enough it doesn't have to be. There are few honest to god things that could break you up (death, for one, and that danger's a given for anyone you hold dear) even though you still desire each other madly. If she were to cheat on you or you fell in love with someone else or just out of love with her... then more has changed than just the relationship ending, even if only in hindsight. Hope this helps somewhat.

Also try not to overthink it. Chances are that she isn't endlessly confident that you'll be together, she just has no reason to doubt and is excited to see what the future holds. She has faith that it'll be okay.

>>18724398
Are they saggy in an aesthetic way or are they saggy like a glove hanging from a clothes line? Saggy tits have their place in my book though.
t. female body connoisseur who likes anything short of extreme BBW

>>18724428
>Besides, realize that even if she meets your criteria, older female virgins are rare and typically not at all interested in being desired for some experience they never had... so you are likely to offend her one way or another if she has a hunch that this matters a lot to you. (For the record, I have been in this position myself and I would actively lie about not being a virgin just to avoid being selected for it.)

Was just about to mention this. I always felt very uncomfortable about how men fetishize virginity and found it very off-putting.

>>18724433
The stigma isn't for older women, it's a general thing. No girl wants to be liked for her virginity, I assure you. And just because her virginity is a prerequisite doesn't mean it's all you like, I know that. But you're twenty years old, unless you want to start casting your net to include twelve year olds then virgins will be relatively rare and you will simply not have the option to include as many additional demands as men who start out considering all women around their age. Compare it to fetishism. If someone's a chubby chaser, there's loads of chubby girls to choose from, so him dating a chubby girl hardly implies that he solely likes her because of that. If he's only interested in women over 200 pounds, that's another issue entirely because it limits his options so much. And this intensifies because you cannot just tell whether a girl is a virgin and thus can only choose from the women you know to be virgins, not all virgins ever. You see where I'm going?

With "older" I just meant older than is typical to be a virgin (>16). E.g. I was 21 when I lost it.

I don't think becoming religious is your only option, but I do think it's your best bet. Unless you are willing to accept the chance of not ever having a wife/family, I guess. Either way you have to actively put in effort to find these women and not just hope to run into a virgin girl at your campus. It's not impossible but it is highly unlikely.

If women hear other people to say them to be ugly, How do they respond?

>>18724431
Well if she wants to stay together then the first step is accepting that the mismatch is there and that she cannot just expect you to be all over her whenever she's being sexual. I would definitely tell her that, kindly but firmly. If she can't get over that then it's doomed, period.

And penetrating her with a dildo afterwards? Is it just about penetration or does she just want the package deal? Because if she wants that then tough shit. Then it absolutely is a dealbreaker.

Honestly I can somewhat sympathize, I think it is also common for the higher libido partner to (resentfully) feel like their lower libido partner obviously doesn't value and like sex the way they do, so what do they care if they have it with someone else? But you entered a monogamous relationship, tons of people would not want otherwise, and if she's not okay with that anymore then that's on her not you.

>>18724440
I don't fetishize it. I just can't help but think about their past and along with pure o ocd it will absolutely drive me insane. Once I know I'm fine.

>>18724441
Aren't something like 20% of college girls virgins though? I've met some and they weren't religious, I just didn't like them.

>>18724387
No. If you genuinely have autism and not 4chan autism, it's nothing personal, it's just that I too have my own set of issues and part of that is a painful avoidance for awkwardness and awkward things.
I don't like to be put on the spot, I like to hide in plain sight, and well, even mildly autistic people draw attention. When I feel embarrassed, it's not something I get over within a day like everyone else. It's something I stew on for months, years even. I'm 22 years old and literally slap myself whenever I remember embarrassing shit I did or that happened when I was 13. Hitting myself snaps me out of my own mind at least, otherwise I'd just go down this never ending rabbit hole of self hate until I shut down altogether. And second hand embarrassment kills me just as much.This is why I tend to avoid associating with anyone who isn't just a fly on the wall like myself, blending into the general public to such a degree we're almost invisible.

But there are people who can handle it, one person's opinion doesn't mean its hopeless.

>>18724446
Behind my back? I would just be more cool/reserved towards them within what's still considered polite.

To my face? It never happened after childhood but I would just stare them down or say something like "cool opinion you got there", probably. Sure I wouldn't like hearing it but who does that? I would feel more embarrassed for them that they exhibit that behavior than for potentially not being attractive.

>>18724452
What's 4chan autism?

>>18724450
Again man, it's not that college aged virgin girls are that rare. It's that;

>they do not congregate anywhere (except church) just for being virgins
>you cannot tell beforehand which one is or isn't (also as someone who has known several - you can't, the more conservative looking/acting girls are NOT necessarily the more sexually conservative ones)
>you cannot reasonably go around asking girls you barely know whether or not they ever interacted with a dick

The issue isn't them existing but rather locating them.

>>18724458
Okay I won't pry more, but what about really shy looking girls. The ones that look really uncomfortable around people and don't really talk. They're probably alot more likely right?

>>18724431
Don't let her talk you into the open relationship meme. It'll only put an extremely obvious expiration date on the relationship, whether you're into the open thing or not.

>>18724317
I'd like to think so. However, I'm also still human. Sometimes I'm irrational, sometimes my actions are based on emotion rather than logic, same as anyone else. I try to never be hypocritical whenever possible, I try to base my ideas and philosophy on fact, I try not to take anything at face value and realize there's always multiple view points. Even when I disagree with someone on something, I search to try and understand why they think the way they do even if I don't agree.

I grew up with a lawyer parent, so I have always had a more logical/legal set mind. Whenever social issues come up in the law, even if I see that socially/emotionally what happened was bad or wrong, I also acknowledge the legal side of things, and legality trumps emotion in my book. Things need to be structured to work, and if we allow emotion to run wild we just end up in anarchy. Does that mean the system fails every now and then? Yes. But those failures are just necessary sacrifices.


Anyway, I also don't see myself as a particularly intelligent person, and I hate to argue, despite all that.

>>18724463
More likely than the extroverted girl who dances on tables at parties, sure. But generally very likely? No. Because it's also the uncomfortable shy girls who often have an issue with saying no and being firm about their boundaries. There's a lot of different types of sexual encounters, just because she was with someone doesn't necessarily mean it was a relationship or even a fun hook up. Not to mention she could be depressed and homesick, and have been a radiant bubbly girl only two years earlier, with a lively love life.

As a strategy, focusing on girls like that is better than not doing it. But it's never a guarantee and you can never assume that someone's a virgin. Plus the girls like this are much harder to build rapport with, get to know better, and so on so the investment before ever finding it out is also greater. And how do you expect that to go down if she doesn't offer the information herself? You get to know her for weeks or months until you find out that she did once give a blowjob and then you ghost her?

>>18724434
Thanks anon, like that way of reframing my thinking. I guess I think of a relationship as a plate we're spinning and balancing. We're both getting better at keeping that plate balanced, but what about gusts of wind?

But it's not like that. Just gotta enjoy the moment and hope that that builds toward a resilient future. I get what you mean too. IF we were breaking up, maybe she wouldn't even want to go with me anymore. That's bizarrely comforting. I just hate the idea of ruining her dream

>>18724404
Thanks anon. I hope he doesn't mind. My boobs are just too big, I can't win against gravity.

>>18724435
I didn't know boobs could be saggy in an aesthetic way? They're huge so they're pretty filled out. The sagging bums me out a lot though.

>>18724463
Not necessarily.

Guys. Is it okay to ask my boyfriend about his previous relationships and why they ended?

He's had plenty, I feel like I'm just one of the bunch or a casual thing that will not last more than five months because he has been with so many girls.

I have never had a boyfriend and I don't know is this is okay to ask.

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I go limp when wearing a condom but bust a nut in minutes without. Will more sex help me last longer or should I look for other alternatives?

>>18724473
I'd feel so horrible if that happened. Make me nautious thinking about it, especially if I liked her.

>>18724489
It could but isn't a given. I recommend kegels. Another option if that doesn't work (but try them, first, it's free and doesn't just help with stamina but also with harder erections) is buying a fleshlight and training more with the sensation of a foreign orifice so to speak, so you become more used to it.

>>18724494
It is pretty horrible, she would feel that way about it, too. Do you get any professional help for your OCD? If so have you shared this hang up and heard what they had to say about it? I can imagine very much that you just can't fathom this ever changing, but it would be by far the most fruitful path. The way it is now you are always approaching girls with a secret agenda... that's not really the nicest way to live for either of you.

>>18724206
I'm a guy and I've rejected two girls, so the answer is yes for someone out there at least

>>18724500
Yes, I've gone for months, the topic made me extremely nervous to the point of shaking so she tried to avoid it directly.

>>18724511
If she's a good therapist she will return to it eventually. That it's difficult and causes strong reactions in you makes it harder of course, but it's also a sign that there's a lot to work with there. In general a lot can happen in a (especially a decades long) relationship and some of that might also cause strong reactions. Even if nothing else, a virgin bride can be raped at some point in life, and I bet you wouldn't want to be so disgusted you divorce then.

So girls (or guys too i guess if you have advice to offer), lemme outline things:
>have gf of almost 2 years, had what i thought of as a really strong relationship, sure got upset but never yelled, talked everything out, ect.
>for a while we planned on going to same college together, mainly cause i dgaf which college i go to, and it happened to be relatively close and in state
>not enrolled for fall, but thats cool im just gonna work.
>Get down here two weeks before her, its been about a week since that day
>starting a few days before i moved, gf not texting me nearly as often
>understand hey we're both moving but still a little upset about it, it was a sort of routine for us to text each other regularly
>Started getting warning signs about her wanting to break up: bringing some of my clothes back, going to a sleepover with a friend day i move out when i told her i'd like to see her (both when she brought my stuff over and day i left) but nope
>day or two ago: we talk over phone and we get upset at each other, let her know I would like to see her put effort into contacting me every now and again, not results just effort.
>call ends, over text she tells me she thinks she wants to break up
>This is the only legitimate girlfriend I've had, and we were really close, but she says she wants to focus on studying and relationships with new friends ect
>says im being needy and clingy
>tell her I'll leave her alone for the week, then when we get together on friday for a date (which we had planned before she ever mentioned breaking up) we'll know if she still wants a relationship
I honestly care for her and love her. I mean part of that is probably being naive with relationships (which I'll know if thats true in retrospect, i'm sure) but I thought I saw a future with her. She was the maid of honor at my parent's wedding (which admittedly was small) and we shared so much with each other. I just want to know if this is a good idea, is it worth it/too late?

>>18724477
>I didn't know boobs could be saggy in an aesthetic way? They're huge so they're pretty filled out.
yes and if yours look 'filled' then they probably aren't so bad.

>>18724519
Don't beat yourself up over having dreams about a future with her. The way I see it the relationship isn't really going well if you DON'T enjoy picturing that. What point is there in putting up with all life's hassle if you cannot relish in the idea of a nice future?

Having said that, go to her and hear her out but do not stay with her unless she did a 180 and is full of remorse and apologies. She distanced herself from you, basically said you were too much. Even if you could "convince" her to stay together, the relationship wouldn't be equal anymore, you might resent her for wanting to break up, she might look down on you for wanting to be with her after having gone through all of this... Now is the chance to try to steer for a clean break and grieve. Don't let the hurt drag out.

>>18724477
>I didn't know boobs could be saggy in an aesthetic way? They're huge so they're pretty filled out. The sagging bums me out a lot though.
I'm gonna post some examples to /s/:
>>>/s/17702081
>>>/s/17702079
>>>/s/17702083

>>18724483
I think it's fine to ask after a while. I wouldn't bring it up on like date 2, but after a few months, it seems reasonable to ask, especially given his history. Just be prepared to also talk about your own lack of dating.

>>18724516
She moved so I need a new one. Regardless I'm sick of it. I want to be happy soon, not spend years maybe improving.

>>18723754
>the small noises of pleasure.

What about those of us that mastered silent fapping?

>>18724534
>those are saggy
I'm fucked then. But my boobs are bigger than all of theirs.

>>18724545
Well hold on I have one more example pic of really beautiful low hanging fruits but I can't for the life of me remember her name so I could actually find it.

Little blonde girl, can I see your feets, please? I bet you have the prettiest feets.

>>18724545
Can you post an example of model with tits that look close to yours?

>>18724545
>>18724550
>>>/s/17702100

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>>18723180
>girl i dated didn't want to make it into anything proper
>we end on hostile terms because "we're so different"
>bang her friend, friend is totally down for the whole bf/gf thing
>next thing i hear, a few days later, they've kicked off and are upset with each other because i think friend has told 1st girl
>new girl is upset with me
This almost makes me wish i was gay - fucking women i swear
Thoughts anons?

>>18724377
I'm one of the biggest big tits enthusiast here and I can tell you that no, we don't expect them to be totally perky.
>>18724398
I'd like to see them first.

>>18724534
This guy is right.

>>18724560
This >>18724569 is pretty close actually.

>>18724569
Thanks anon. Now if only you were my boyfriend.

>>18724528
The thing is, we talked about that stuff time and time again, it was all mutual, we basically planned our future together. Half the time she was concerned about coming off as clingy from how often she texted me And then all of a sudden it just... vanished that week. I get that what i was doing while she was preparing to move was stressing her out, but its hard to believe it would make that feeling just up and vanish like that. Is that normal? We had a strong relationship, so its hard to think that this event was all it took for it to end. I'm in a state of disbelief right now (which might just be me overreacting), and as unexperienced with relationships as I am, I just don't know if that is something normal or not. The feelings dissapearing like that. Any opinions?

>>18724569
that body is 10/10 would breed again
almost makes me want to break nofap

>>18724574
>so its hard to think that this event was all it took for it to end.
I know it's hard as fuck and you won't be able to do so now that you are still in the throes of all your emotions about this. But her breaking up and you being blindsided by that means that you did not know everything going on in her heart/head. It is 99% likely that the feeling she had did not just vanish - but there was something else pulling at her (nagging doubts about the relationship, desire to be free and experience herself outside of the comfortable relationship, you name it) and it eventually tipped the scale. It is ideal if people are able to share these nagging thoughts with partners, but it is common for them to keep them to themselves. After all it is very painful and you damage the relationship, and if you are used to sometimes feeling doubt and then it vanishing for stretches of time, what's the point in hurting your partner while you might feel entirely different merely hours later?

>>18723738
probably the exact same reason a guy would watch solo porn of women. i find my bf's body attractive and i love to see him get off.

>>18723766
y'all fuckers have a complex, the dirtiness in real life is part of what's appealing about it. what's sex without wet slapping, desperate grinding, and sweat? i want every inch of my partner, even i don't expect sex to be perfect smooth skin and jazz music and i don't want it to be.

>>18724545
i'm not trying to mom you, but definitely look seriously into the side effects and complications of breast reductions. they're long healing, leave scars, and can fuck up your nipples 4lyfe. if you don't have problems with back/neck pain from your breasts a breast lift might be more up your alley, but i overall recommend against it. also, if your breasts are like >>18724569 you're honestly fine and i think most guys would be all over them other than the flat is justice types.

>>18724580
Ain't it, that woman's body in the pic is probably my ultimate desired body type.
>>18724573
Happy to help, if you honestly have boobs like the woman in the pic, your boyfriend seriously should have no complaints. Praise is what you're gonna get.

>>18724483
You only find pain, insecurity and suffering by digging in past. It is obvious your gut tells you he isnt the "one" and now you are just finding reason to break up. Save yourself some time and simply tell him it wouldnt work and leave his sorry ass.

>>18724489
That is pretty common. Your brain knows whats up and refuses rubber. Nature wants you to spill your seed. Dont fight nature and make a baby already.
>inb4 too young / not married
Why would you have sex with some random slut without being ready to face consequences? Maybe you should just stick to mutual masturbation until you will believe her she is on pills and is aids free.

Girls
Is it possible to get a girlfriend if I'm a typical shoulder to lean on type? I don't think I'm a door mat, but I was raised to be nice and I'm nice to everyone. I've only ever had one girlfriend, and I treated her like shit and hated it. Am I doomed to being a dick?

>>18724582
>i'm not trying to mom you, but definitely look seriously into the side effects and complications of breast reductions.
I already have a shitload of scars everywhere so I'm not that worried about that. But it does concern me that I might not be able to breastfeed. That's enough to put me off of it. They do affect my back, I think I just need to lift more though.

>also, if your breasts are like >>18724569 you're honestly fine and i think most guys would be all over them other than the flat is justice types.
Thanks anon. I just feel super bad about them when I look at other women. I hope guys don't have a negative reaction, it would kill me if they did.

>>18724598
Just lurking your conversation but I wanted to chime in that I have regular sized breasts and they also aren't as "suspended in mid-air" perky/high as by far most of the tits you see online. That and there's a huge difference between just getting out of the shower or being cold and having hard nipples and tightened skin, or flopping them out of your bra after a hot and sweaty day. I can definitely take a picture of my tits where they look great, but they don't look great all the time. I am no expert but from my experience (also having seen ~ten women's tits in real life) the women who have breasts that really look as tight and flawless 24/7 as most of the ones you see online are a small minority.

Basically just wanted to make sure you don't convince yourself that smaller sized breasts are necessarily top notch looking. And in my humble opinion, small breasts that really do sag look worse than any other kind.

>>18724573
Looks good then, no man will find flaw in those boobs.

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>>18724592
How does doormat end up being jerk in relationship? You did some mistakes, use your knowledge to do better in future. You managed to get gf once, you for sure can do that again, didnt you?

>>18724598
>I just feel super bad about them when I look at other women.
Why?
>I hope guys don't have a negative reaction, it would kill me if they did.
They won't have a negative reaction to a body and boob type that's the most breedable one in the world..

I don't know if this would be the right thread but-

Basically this girl I am dating who is 19 y/o occasionally asks me to buy her alcohol. I refuse or ignore her request every time. In my state giving alcohol to someone to minors age 19 and 20 will immediately result in a 5 year jail sentence. Call me a pussy but I'm not willing to risk wasting 5 years in jail to give her a buzz for the night.

I'm making the correct decision, right?

>>18724483
I wouldn't say curiosity about this is bad in itself, but you sound like you're looking for this information as a way to see if you "measure up" to his past relationships. Even if you did (which is an abstract concept) you are entering a race with your insecurity, which are damn hard to win. I'd talk to him about this, but focus on your relationship and where it's going. If he's a good boyfriend, he should want to help you feel secure, but it's up to you to make that final call and be secure

>>18724674
Yes. Whether or not the risk is worth it depends on the person - someone else might feel like the risk of getting caught is so tiny (at least when you buy it then share it with her at home) that it's worth it, but five years jail is way too much to risk when your gut tells you not to. It's one thing to consciously choose to take your chances and another to take a huge risk because you wavered from your position.

>>18724489
Just gotta keep practicing with them, Anon. Dicks are very trainable if you are patient and vigilant. It's how I cured my death grip, and now I'm moving on to coming in condoms too. Be patient, focus on the sensations even though condoms really fucking ruin sensation. You'll get more sensitive

Do most guys find girls into ddlg weird or gross?

My first bf got me into it, and now it's just my norm. I end up dating vanilla guys but they all seem pretty receptive to it when I tell them about it, they've always accommodated and even gotten into it.

Is this normal? Am i just lucky with finding these specific guys?

>>18724708
My penis is already erect.

>>18724708
I don't think most guys will care as long as you don't want to do weird stuff like baby talk, wearing weird stuff etc. If you just want to be cutesy, submissive and call him daddy then it won't be a problem.

>>18724105
Ok for real people need to figure out there is a difference between people with bpd and adult children. For starters the person who actually has bpd isn't going to tell you. Like ever.

>>18724726
I tend to get a lot of the accessories and go into littlespace. Nothing extreme, like I'm not into diapers and i don't want a giant crib, but I'll wear onesies and use a pacifier, and i like "little" things like coloring and stuffed animals.

>>18724760
Sounds pretty cute with the exception of the pacifier, that gets into weird territory for me. Do you have vanilla sex or is it full of ageplay as well?

>>18724750
Yeah, I see a lot of people act like it's the worst but I think it's the individuals they're engaging with.

I have BPD, I've dated people with BPD. If they're mentally and emotionally mature people, there really isn't an issue.

Like, just learn how to handle your disorder and recognize symptoms and communicate and it's really not a big deal. It's never cause a problem for me, anyway.

>>18724765
Sex ranges from vanilla to full bdsm, im pretty flexible. most little stuff is non sexual other than submission and calling him daddy. Pacifier is more of an anxiety reliever when I'm trying to sleep or feeling overwhelmed. I know it's a little weird, but I like having it.

>>18724679
Thanks. My gut has been extremely accurate these last couple months so I'll stick with my decision.

>>18724774
>into weird stuff but isn't super fucked up in bed
shame

>>18724708
>ddlg

I never knew what this meant.

A girl I have been dating for a few weeks messaged me on SC with one of those pictures saying "I LOVE YOU DADDY!" followed by DADDY DADDY DADDY.

Could she be into this?

>>18724808
Probably

>>18724206
Yes, once. After that I learnt not to ask guys out unless I feel they actually like me back.

>>18724804
I mean, my biggest thing is making my partner happy. I'll try almost anything once if he asked me to. I only draw the line at bm-related stuff and throw up.

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Guys/girls

... how do you define "immaturity"? In your partner?

>>18724823
Not knowing how to talk about your problems. Bottling things up, expecting people to know your needs without communicating them.

Getting mad at things that aren't a big deal, staying mad at things you can't control.

>>18723180
>be good friends with girl since 1st grade
>Friends all through shool and help each other through tough times (such as when she was terribly bullied and I had falling out with best friend)
>As we reach the end of 8th grade people take notice of us going around town together
>Just doing dumb kid stuff nothing romantic or flirty
>Get asked if we are dating (we are at different schools at this point)
>Answer yes trying to sound like a bad ass
>She finds out and confronts me
>Argue for a bit as I try to deny it but eventually admit it an apologize
>she responds with "never talk to me again"
>We went to high school together and she ignored me and actively went out of her way to be no where near me
>see her out at local bars once in a while and she usually leaves or will turn her back to me
It's been 10 years and at this point idc about it, I'm more curious why she has this still burning hate for me after so long. Can I get a girls perspective on this?

>>18724839
I don't get why she's mad unless there's something you're not telling us or something she's not telling you.

The people I hated I'm high school for good reason I don't care about anymore. I'm a different person so I can only assume they are too. She sounds immature.

>>18724839
she's born in November, right?
t. astrology pro

>>18724846
Can't recall her bday
>>18724843
Nothing more to the story then that. Her parents still like me a lot and I see them once in a while around town. She always had a very stubborn personality as a kid and had a hard time letting things go looking back at how she acted as a kid

Little blonde girl pls.

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Girls, how come you date obese, obnoxious, cringy-looking lame-ass guys but not me?

What's the deal?

My exgf texted me on monday asking me how I was presumably wanting to "catch up" and or that her relationship now ain't all glitter and green grass

Thought about replying during the week and out of courtesy did so this morning, wished her well and said it was good to hear from her.

I'm glad to see it really didn't affect me like it would've months ago. Am I moving on properly?

>>18724750
What? She was diagnosed by a specialist. Where the fuck did I say she simply told me with no professional opinion? It isn't like the constant drinking, cheating, complete incapacity for empathy, attempts at self-harm, and drug abuse didn't give it away.

I understand that there are functioning people with the disorder, my ex was a bad person first and foremost. But she wouldn't have masqueraded as the perfect partner and preyed on some idiot like me if it weren't for her BPD, either.

Girls: what does it mean when you reject the first kiss and act all shy about it and try to make up for the rejection by kissing the guy on the cheek instead?

>>18724861
That she's not into you

>>18724870
what if she said she's not ready to get that serious yet , Is the final verdict still that she isn't into me or is there still hope

Either gender, does "I'm not interested in dating right now" mean "I'm not interested in dating YOU"?

Asked a woman who recently started at my workplace on a date, and she said she'd like to get together for coffee, but ^^^

>>18724877

Yeah, you're not special enough or whatever for her. Maybe she doesn't want to shit where she eats at work either. Coffee is harmless, don't think too much of it

>>18724591
>>Your brain knows whats up and refuses rubber. Nature wants you to spill your seed.
that's absolutely retarded. lots of guys have issues staying hard in a condom, but it's not because nature's swooping in and killing your boner. you have reduced stimulation in a condom, especially if it's a fairly thick one or one that's improperly fitted.

>>18724592
why did you treat her like shit? everyone wants a shoulder to lean on. a good relationship's foundation is mutual sincere expression.

>>18724598
>>18724606
Expanding on this, I'm a UK 34GG and have a fair amount of sag but no one seems to mine. I don't really like my breasts much since my aereola are quite large and they're more filled out on the bottom rather than the top, but every man I've been with has been pretty enamored with them.

>>18724823
a lot of what >>18724830 says, especially expecting people to understand what you want without you saying anything. i also see being super rigid about things and thinking your opinion will remain the same your whole life as immaturity.

>>18724839
sounds like she just doesn't like you and just doesn't want anything to do with you as a result. especially if she's sort of shy, this might be her best way of handling it.

>>18724852
maybe they don't seek to blame external forces for the problems in their life instead of using introspection as a tool for positive change :^)

>>18724861
>>18724872
she is very likely not interested in you at all and was trying to be polite about rejecting you

>>18724877
if she agreed to get coffee but said she isn't interested in dating right now, then i think you have a chance. it sounds like she genuinely isn't interested in making a commitment at the moment, not that she isn't interested in you. she might be coming off a relationship or dealing with something stressful in her life.

>>18724907
Loser.

>its the "date a girl for a brief period, have her go shady/dark, break up with you, then she wants you back her in life"episode again.

She wanted to meetup to talk last night so i went over to her place. Caught up with each other, asked how life was going, etc. Then we talked, she told me about awful she felt about how she went about everything, will always have regrets, apologized profusely, told me how i was one of the best people shes dated and been with, felt awful, etc. Even told me about all the dates she went on since and how terrible they were, and maybe it was karma or something.

It was a weird relationship, she was torn between wanting to just have "friends" but also wanting a decent relationship and I guess I was just caught in the crossfire between the two and fell victim too it. We loved/love each other and expressed it, There were so many things I was aware of that should have drove me to bail out, but I persisted and tried, she saw that, got scared, and pushed me away and she feels awful for leaving me out in the dark like that.

I really don't know how to go about it, don't want to get burned again, but we spent the night together last night and it was like a breath of fresh air.

>>18725015
and yes, we did hook up again which i did not anticipate.

>>18725015
You should meet up with her a few more times, with at least a few days in between, before even thinking about making another commitment.

I had an ex call me up out of the blue one day and tell me all this stuff too, how things were awful for her, and how she regrets how things went, etc etc. We had an hour long conversation, and it felt like it went really well, I thought maybe we were gonna work things out. After that she pretty much ghosted me. I was the safe guy who treated her nice, so she called me when she was at rock bottom. Once she got it all off her chest, I wasn't needed anymore.

Moral being, make sure this is more than her just wanting to feel safe with a dude she knows will give her emotional comfort for a day or two.

>>18724907
>if she agreed to get coffee but said she isn't interested in dating right now...

I forgot to mention, she explicitly said as friends. Not that that really matters. I'm going to try dating other people because Jesus fucking Christ I'm so god damn lonely these days, but I know I'll probably continue to have feelings for this person. It isn't that she's into the things that I am, smart, cute... It's more that I have that gut feeling with her, that I don't have with many people.
Should I really force myself to move on completely, or keep it open as an option in the back of my mind if I can?

>>18724571
pls respond

>>18725056
It's already straightforward what the problem is

>>18724858
Yes

>>18725075
It's me right? Well i worked harder for girl 1 than i ever had before, and still got screwed.
And i gave it a month, and was going to give it another month, before gfing girl no2

I'm just so tired of the drama anon

>>18724852
Gonna need a pic to judge if it's just your personality

>>18724457
>>>/tv/

>>18724009
He wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Not your fault.

>>18725087
ffs, you have a problem with two stupid bitches.
just find another one

>>18724877
>Either gender, does "I'm not interested in dating right now" mean "I'm not interested in dating YOU"?
Maybe. The whole point of a lie is that it has to be plausible, remember?

>>18724708
Most would probably find it a little strange. How strange depends on what degree you take it to though. And obviously, if it's become part of your personality, even subtly, you're going to attract more guys who are into it.

>>18724674
>In my state giving alcohol to someone to minors age 19 and 20 will immediately result in a 5 year jail sentence.
Do not fucking do it then. You're just opening yourself to blackmail.

>>18723497
Wait.

>>18723470
Not a conversation you want to start in the first place.

>>18723430
Someone answer this man.

>>18723271
Text asap, make plans then allow a little room in between before contacting again. You don't want to let things cool down too much or risk saying something bad.

>>18725104
>Do not fucking do it then. You're just opening yourself to blackmail.

Yeah that was my main concern. Say we have a bad break up and she goes and runs to the cops or says she will tell the cops "OH MY EX BOYFRIEND BOUGHT ME ALCOHOL AND MADE ME DRINK IT WHEN I CAME OVER"

How can I get a girl to fall from the sky and ask to be my gf?

>>18723252
>how do i kiss properly?
Practice. A good girl will give you tips on what she likes.
>>how will i know to transition from regular kiss to french kiss?
You'll know.
>>heavy petting?
Same as above, when you've got your hands all over each other
>>transitioning to oral then other sex?
Initiate and see if she's receptive
>also, how will i know that it's going to happen?
She'll take you somewhere private.

>>18725101
Oh

>>18725141
you keep sitting in your basement.
Consider growing a beard, some body fat and buying a fedora.
Bonus points if you develop some strong /pol/itical opinions

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>>18723252
One of my biggest concerns about dating is my lack of experience. Literally never kissed a girl and I'm 26. I'm just hoping that I'll be able to figure it all out (if I ever even get the chance)

>>18724877
Girls dont reject boys they want to date anon. Simple.

>>18725015
>break up with you
She did it once, she will do that again once she will find somebody better than you. Have some self respect anon.

>>18724571
Find new girl to date. There are like 3 billions of them. One has to be normal. Try dating older girls who left puberty.

>>18725174
Stop thinking nonsense, get bettet memes than feels man and remember to look into her eyes, smile and cuddle the bitch!

Question to women: what signs do you give to a guy that you are NOT interested?

I'm asking out my coworker today for coffee and studying (we're in the same course) and I want to be smart about if I get rejected.

If she says something like "no, I'm busy then" but then doesn't suggest a different time, I should take that as she's not interested, right?
Share some other stuff that you do to show disinterest (especially after being asked out) so I don't make her uncomfortable. We're coworkers after all, lol.

>>18725230
Ask for her number ONLY in private aka without witnesses. If you dont want to put her under pressure, this is the way to go. Ignoring your messages or giving you wrong number is super easy.

>>18725239
Great tip. I'd like to avoid stressing a work relationship as much as possible.

Is it bad that I'm dating someone 8 years younger than me I'm 29 M and she 21F

Is apple picking a good activity to take girl on? Or is that for girls to do with their friends

>>18725275
Depends on how you both feel about it, and how others feel about it. A large age gap can cause issues because of differences in life experience, but purely on terms of the numbers I don't think you should necessarily feel bad.

>>18725275
No

You'll most likely run into the maturity aspect, or lack thereof, but maybe she's better than that.

Also watch out for her friends. If they're cool or gonna sabotage because "ugh old guy! really!"

Just have fun with it, no expectations and you won't get hurt

Oh and if things are going good, be aware of your own social circle. When I brought a younger girlfriend around my group, those bitches were a bit uppity, false smiles and whatnot, since I was fucking the young dime and not having any interest in them

>>18725279
Depends on the girl.

>>18725279
depends how much do they pay per hour

>>18725275
yes, it's evil

I have pretty bad facial aesthetics.
The only change I could really think of is trimming my eyelashes, which are outrageously long for a man.
Is there any way this could possibly help? I would basically broadcast to the world that i'm getting desperate, because my eyelashes are very distinctive and everyone I know would notice

>>18725389
changing your looks doesn't need to be considered desperate.
just do it aesthetically, perhaps with help from some friend.

>>18725389
>bad facial aesthetics.
>complains about fucking eyelashes

My face is so asymmetrical I look like two different people viewed from different profiles.

>>18723272
Seconded. Punch the reset button and start over.

>>18725398
kek
you are like reverse twins

>>18724027
I could explain a lot to you about it.
What you are doing wrong?

A lot of things.
But basically your biggest mistake is to be invested in it and think it matters.
I could explain a lot to you about it but take this advice or leave it:

Fuck a very good looking escort and you will forget about eveything.

Question to girls
Have you forgotten about your female friends after getting a boyfriend?

I've noticed men keep the same relations with male friends after getting a girlfriend, but for some reason women don't.
What's with this?

>>18725419
don't give me this shit.
I'm a guy and many of my male friends have almost completely forgotten about their other social contacts after finding gfs

>>18725419
It depends on the person and relationship they lead.
I've seen it happen with men just as much as with girls.

Some people are just content knowing that there is one person they can genuinely depend on.

>>18724027
Ok.
I'll give you a piece of advice, because you probably won't follow what I saif.

Basically you have to mentally and emotionally detach yourself from girls.

Try to not depend on pussy anymore and stop putting every girl above you(don't prioritize pussy).

Women can feel if you are desperate and weak for them.
And that makes them either avoid you or (in the worst case) take advantage of you.

Either way the only solution is to not give any importance whatsoever to girls even when one is attracted to you.

But you gotta do it in a genuine way, not just pretending.

In short, you know understand that women create their own predators.
They rip your heart apart and in consequence you become a machine with a closed heart, devoid of all feelings and ready to abuse or deceive any girl around you to let out the sexual beast in you.

You can either do this, or keep being a loser who lament his lack of seductive power and whine about why girls don't like him.

>>18725425
>>18725428
Seems to be an universal thing then
I was getting a bad headache over someone whom I considered to be my best friend, now won't even pick up the phone. Is this shit even normal? Being so close to someone and forgetting they exist?

>>18723426
It will be hard to develop that kind of ability from the keyboard. I was extremely awkward early in life but I lived a life of violence and the teamwork and brutality needed to survive relegated a lot of my petty insecurities to oblivion. I'm not necessarily stating violence is the answer for everyone, but engaging in some kind of activity that is simultaneously physically and mentally demanding will change your outlook on life. You will appreciate life more and other people will see life through your window and will want to be a part of it. I am still pretty awkward at cold starts but now more girls approach me so I am working the issue from the perspective of "working with what I have at hand" versus "cold start approaching a girl that I don't know". It's not too late. Make yourself interesting. If you cannot do that then go somewhere that your persona is exotic and interesting. You probably already have an edge to exploit - find it.

>>18725447
nah, not normal at all.
maybe they have some harder time right now, don't turn your back to them to quickly.
But if it lasts - you'll know how they valued you. Some people hang out with you simply because they have no other options and once the options show up - they are gone

>>18725447
Yes. I see it among my girl friends friends' as well. A few of them, when they lock down a guy, cease to exist and when they make an appearance, it's to parade the dude around.

I've told this to my girl numerous times as she's rather loyal to them that they will leave you out to dry, especially if they cause/influence problems in our relationship.

I've had a few guy friends do it too, but they pretty much became the bitch in their relationships, so good luck to them

>>18725445
I want to say, "Fuck this guy. He's a total asshole" but I can't because he's right. Instead, I'll just say, "Seconded."

>>18725230
Bumping this. Wanting more feedback

>>18724823
>consistent inability to pick your battles and recognize what's worth your energy and what isn't >when fighting, being more focused on being right, not having to apologize or getting your way than on solving the fight and reaching harmony
>not being able to take personal responsibility, deflecting it onto others
>no introspection, only pausing when other people call you out on stuff, never realizing that you need to work on something yourself
>no self control: getting angry when you need to wait in line, feeling bored without internet/phone, consistently not knowing your limits with alcohol
>extreme short term thinking, not being able to invest in benefits you will only be able to reap down the line, not realizing that human relationships require effort
>caring more about the opinions of others than your own opinion (e.g. not acting on whether or not you mind something your partner does, but wondering whether your friends would think you're a tool for "allowing" that), working harder to impress/convince people who aren't fans of yours than to impress the people who love you
>having rigid, definite ideas about how the world works and becoming upset/militant when those are challenged - not being able to see nuance and cope with having to a more or lesser extent limited insight in the world

>>18725230
>>18725507
>she doesn't seek you out, doesn't initiate conversations (nearly as much as you do), doesn't smile often
>you always take it further with teasing or flirting than she does
>it happens a lot that you talk to her and she doesn't or barely really looks you in the face; always seems to be busy and stressed
>indeed rejecting an offer with a specific excuse but not offering an alternative
>mentioning a boyfriend or guy they're seriously dating, especially when it's not that logical in the conversation
>when you jokingly or just off-handedly mention stuff you could do together, she doesn't really acknowledge it let alone go into it
>when you talk to her, her body is often turned away from you
>her demeanor with you is typically polite/business-like/neutral/serious/tired, rather than playful/bashful/passionate/perky/maternal
>she does not ask personal questions

Is it normal for some women to not experience an orgasm? my gf of 2 month said she NEVER had an orgasm, not from sex nor from masturbation.

>>18725535
Yes. It's not that common but it happens. What usually happens is that they never learn to get off themselves and then they don't know what sensation to "steer" for during sex. I know this sounds weird but bear with me. If you know what an orgasm feels like you instantly recognize the feeling of one building. If you don't, it's like a landscape with different kinds of pleasures and no end goal. The very fact that you recognize physically and mentally that you are getting closer helps getting closer (and not just because you can amp it up or whatever, though that doesn't hurt either). If at all possible it's the easiest if she can give herself one first, but that also depends on the lady. Some women just get nothing out of masturbating and then that's a difficult quest.

For what it's worth, this is from personal experience, used to be similar myself.

>>18724852

I've noticed this too. I'm a high energy, high ambition guy, a career minded leader who works out every day, and women always turn me down for some fat fuck with autism or depression who collects kits for model world war 2 tanks.

>>18725619

maybe he's sensitive

>>18725619
Are you sure that's the guy they are dating instead of you?

>>18725619
Maybe you're just unlikeable.

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>>18725527
The thing I hate is that even if a girl does the complete opposite of all of this, it still might just be nothing more than friendliness

I'm so bad with people, I'm too logical, I want to know for certain, even though I know with my brain it doesn't work like that with human beings, and that no matter what, it'll always be a gamble