ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

For females:
Do you look down on boys because they don't have periods and don't feel your pain? I've felt insecure about not having periods for many years.

>>18605355
How to I find a innocent girl to have a cute relationship when I'm 20? I don't want sex, I want to be take things slow and share a lot of first experiences with a girl. I'm guessing she will probably have to be a college freshman since they're probably the only ones who haven't done much. Church is a last resort but I have no issues at all waiting for marriage.

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What are qualities that women look for a man? I'm shy with ppl but will often engage in conversations with girls I like. Also, does a girl who plays with her hair while she is talking to you imply anything.

>>18605428
You talk as if literally every single girl fucks around from 18 to a certain age and then suddenly wants to settle down (>inb4 they do). Do you know how moronic you sound?

>>18605439
I never said that, but most girls my age aren't virgins.

>>18605288
Last bump.

I've never learned how to interact with people and now I'm a 20 year old sperg who can't talk to a woman without doing some awkward autistic shit.
Is there a step by step guide I can follow to stop being a huge loser?
I know it comes naturally to most people but I am absolutely clueless and get anxious very easily.
I don't know where to start and it pisses me off that something as natural as social interaction, especially with girls, seems so scary and alien to me.

>>18605446
could you do a fast resume? will try my best to help

>>18605439
How do you find girls who don't fuck around though?

>>18605450
do as monkeys do to learn tricks, imitate someone more skilled than you. if you have a close friend that isnt autistic, look at him and try similar stuff when you talk.
if you dont, look at groups of people talking and start from there. you can practice on workers at markets and such, they are forced to be at least reasonably talkable

>>18605432
>What are qualities that women look for a man?
Depends on the girl. In general - be genuine, have self respect and be a good person.

> does a girl who plays with her hair while she is talking to you imply anything?
No.

>>18605462
Yeah I do that already. I see how people interact. But it's not the same when I do it. I don't know why but I just come off as a weird sperg all the time, people can tell even though I try to act naturally.

>>18605454
I don't know what a "fast resume" is, but I assume you want a summary of what's happened.
>friend comes over to my house
>brings cute girl who i've never met before
>cute girl leaves my house, friend leaves a few hours later
>cute girl didn't talk much, never got her phone number
>ask /adv/ wat to do
>/adv/ says to text friend
>i text friend: "i'd love to talk to <cute girl> again"
>friend responds: "hahaha do you like her? i could invite her again later"

what the FUCK do i say now

>>18605471
it's all about training, training
you cant avoid for 20 years something that people learn all over their life and pretend to be immediatly proficent at it
start with the small talk at mall, even "hi, thanks, have a nice day" kind of talk
while you build up the confidence progress over more important talks. if you have troubles with everything of course people will notice if you jump into a complex conversation from the start
remember that your body language can dramatically increase the autism you are transmitting to others

>>18605485
wups not english speaker, i guess i invented some words
well i would say "yeah lets pass some time together" if you arent the usual poster here that has conversation autism

>>18605485
How the fuck is it even a question?
Tell your friend you like her and you'd like if he invites her over.

>>18605496
Isn't that too forward?

>>18605499
what kind of option could you ask for that is more slow paced than having some more time together with multiple other people?

>>18605499
No. Don't be autistic and start playing subtle games. Forwardness is good.

>>18605490
How do I become aware of my body language and improve it?

Alright girls, simple question.
What does a period feel like? Is it like a painful expirence when blood comes out of your gooch or is it more of a "oh whoops looks like i'm bleeding lol" kinda thing where you couldn't care less?

>>18605443
Neither are most guys, what's your point? You're an anomaly, and your female equivalent exists.

>>18605457
The same way you meet anyone else. Inexperienced or conservative girls don't walk around carrying signs or wearing badges, why don't you just get to know people like a normal person?

>>18605515
that is a very wide and complex thing to explain, can suggest only to research it on the net and possibly join some course, seen a couple around here about how to improve posture etc
you could also join a small acting company, they would surely teach you the best way to transmit any kind of emotion or message with your body and talk
since even normies suck there you might be able to hide your autism and lower your anxiety
but a little courage on the start will be needed, cant find an easy solution for that

>>18605516
Experience differs from period to period and girl to girl.
Since I got on the IUD, it has been like "oops, I'm bleeding again". Before that, I had cramps and life sucked for a couple of days. Never excruciating pain.
I always get low blood pressure and I get a little moody.
It feels dirty. It is annoying. When you're on your period and you sneeze, it feels disgusting. It is mildly painful.

>>18605523
I'm very aware I'm an anomaly but trial and error is really depressing. I was really hoping there was a better place to search. Is my University library a good option? I usually download books, but if I could meet a nice girl I'd go out of my way to read there. Idk, I'm pretty clueless when it comes to this stuff.

>>18605538
>It feels dirty
morally you mean? or just gross like taking a shit?

>>18605543
Libraries aren't a virgin-only zone, why would that be a good place to meet virgins.

Why are you so hung up on wanting a virgin girl anyway? And the longer you obsess over this, the less likely you are to meet girls who are virgins, and the more like you're either going to be very lonely, or you're going to have to get over it.

>>18605545
Just gross. I don't want to get into details, but having a period is mildly disgusting.

>>18605555
not him but since you are here...is there a realistical way of approaching an alone girl during daily situations without looking a creepy mofo or a rapist if you are a 6/10 at best (with a nerdy non intimidating look)?
i have plenty of friends who let me know many girls, but all those are the "party" kind, which is not wrong but i just dont get along with them
the quiet girls hide themselves so i dunno what to do to nail them

>>18605555
>Why are you so hung up on wanting a virgin girl anyway?
This.

I was a virgin till relatively old and dumped every guy who was happy about the state of my hymen. Makes you feel devalued as a person when a guy only thinks you're worthy because you kept your legs close.

>>18605555
I can't, I don't really feel like explaining but I can tell you that there's no way I'll get over it. I'll do whatever I need to, I won't be satisfied otherwise.

>>18605561
If it's any consolation I wouldn't like you for your virginity. I just want someone with the same amount of experience.

>>18605564
Not really, otherwise you would date someone who isn't virgin.
You don't value me for me, you would only see me as worthy of love because I was virgin. I'm not interested in dating someone who fetishises my hymen and can't see me as a person.

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>>18605572
were the guys making this kind of face?
why people even give a shit about virginity or losing virginity
you can be a useless piece of shit either virgin or not

>>18605572
Ever consider that I just don't like thinking about her with another guy? I get intrusive thoughts and I can assure you they aren't pleasant.

>>18605562
So you'll never have sex yourself or you'll settle for someone who's incredibly unattractive because you refuse to have sex with someone who's not a virgin? It's your life and you can do what you want, but that's probably one of the stupidest things I've ever heard.

>>18605560
How about you just meet people organically and base your opinion of them on your interactions with them, rather than preconceived notions about what they're like?

>>18605590
what about kissing virginity

>>18605590
Your mental issues are for you to deal with. There's no need to get a girl caught up in your insecurities.

And just because a girl hasn't had sex, doesn't mean she hasn't engaged in sexual activity.

>>18605591
but i do meet them, we dont get along
i got to knew by chance a handful of girls i really like to pass time with, but none of them ever go at those conventional socialization places, considering their lifestyle it would be almost impossible to meet them beside being coworkers or sharing strange hobbies

>>18605591
I don't want to "fuck a virgin". I want a relationship where I don't have to think about her past. I don't mind if I don't have sex.
>>18605592
It bothers me, but not as much.
>>18605597
Obviously I meant any sexual activity, and why am I not allowed to persue happiness, it's not like I'm hurting anyone. I just want a similar girl.

>>18605581
Kind of. Made comments about how they couldn't wait to "teach me everything about sex", or how nice it was to be my first, that it was so sexy to take my virginity, etc.

I didn't especially care about the virginity itself, but I see sex as something that is reserved for someone I truly love. I didn't want to lose my virginity to a random dude. I was a fat, shy kid in high school and no one gave a shit about me. I got very pretty in college when I lost the weight, and got a lot of guys asking me out.
I met my boyfriend when I was 19, lost my virginity to him a year later. When I told him I was virgin, all he had to say was "It is okay, we will wait till you're ready".

>>18605600
What do you mean, you don't get along? If you're a normal human being then you must at least be able to hold a conversation with them. If you can hold a conversation, then you'll soon find that people are more than they appear on the surface.

>>18605609
>it's not like I'm hurting anyone
It's hurting you, because your chances of finding someone who wants the same as you, AND has no sexual experience are incredibly slim.

Unless you're prepared to live a very lonely life, go and get some professional help for your insecurities

>>18605590
Maybe see a therapist, instead of worrying so much about other people's partners.

>>18605616
>>18605617
I have seen a therapist, I'm dead serious I'll only be fine when I find what I want. Even my therapist agreed it was probably my best option.

>>18605616
sure, i can easily do conversation, but when i go a little deeper i rarely see anything intriguing. i dont wanna sound like some fedora edgelord, but mostly they will talk about the amount of guys they going out with and their good and bad points and how drunk they were at the last party (usually girls around 25yo).
i also like to get wasted sometimes, nothing wrong with it, but if your life is only that i find it hard to make an interesting conversation, tried a few different topics but they didnt really care about much more

>>18605623
Welp, I wouldn't be interested in being the crutch of a man with crippling insecurities.

>>18605629
That's fair, but I can assure you that I'm otherwise completely fine. If I never told her she'd never know it bothers me.

>>18605614
personally i didnt give any particular value to my virginity (i am a man) but had no obsession on losing it. an interesting girl appeared when i was 22 and lost it with her, she didnt even notice a thing and was sorry because if she knew she would have liked it to be "more special"
anyway seems like you did good choices, good luck on everything!

>>18605623
Enjoy your miserable life.

>>18605627
There is no way that every single girl you meet has nothing to talk about other than partying, you're doing something wrong.

>>18605633
How will you know she's a virgin? Asking her about her past partners and whether she's a virgin is going to set off red flags.

>>18605637
as i told you, most of my male friends only go to social places where those kind of girls gather so that's the only kind of people i can meet there
that's why i asked if approaching someone alone would result in autism diagnosys from the girl

>>18605633
And how will you possibly know without asking me? The second a guy asks me if I had sexual experiences before him, I'm basically ready to fuck off because he's a creep.

>>18605644
I'll have to be creative I suppose, or take my time. I don't think anyone who actually knew me would feel that way. The problem is how long it would take.

Why does it matter anyway, there's no alternative.

>>18605649
> there's no alternative.
Beside getting over your insecurities and date like a normal person.

>>18605698
That's easy for you to say, but in not able to. It's not like I haven't tried.

>>18605704
>It's not like I haven't tried.
You went to one therapist and gave up. If you really wanted to change, you'd try more.

>>18605707
Well I don't want to change. I want what will make me happy which is the type of girl I want. How can you expect me to actually want something that makes me feel nautious. Do you actually understand that it's not so simple?

>>18605713
>I want what will make me happy which is the type of girl I want.

Who knows why you're still alone.

why are all my girl friends wayy above my league?
every time i meet a new girl sheends up being so much prettier than me that it triggers my self hatred and i cant even look at them as members of the opposite sex anymore, just people that i could never have

is there a way to fix this?

>>18605713
Not her, but my philosophy is that you can do whatever you want if you're willing to pay the consequences.
You want a particular girl? Better cowboy up and become the sorta guy she would want. Or don't, and spend your whole life chasing after the wind.

>>18605730
My do you waste your time mocking me? This is hardly advice.

>>18605735
Well this is pretty much what I'm asking for. What do I need to do and where?

>>18605734
Do your best to be as pretty as you can be - diet, work out, take care of your skin and hair, dress well. Bring to the table something beyond your looks - a caring personality, an incredible intelligence, a great sense of humour, a strong drive and passion.

All my friends are hotter than me, yet I'm the only one in a long term relationship with a pretty hot dude (he's 6'4", fit, with a 7/10 face), just by being the best version of myself.

>>18605739
Well, first, I would think about why you want this particular girl. What does she have that you want? Why is this X-factor so important to you?
Then you've got to find out what she wants. Protip, it's probably not a dude who treats her like a prize to be won.
I suggest giving it some deep thought and making sure you're actually in love with a woman and not with a fantasy, which will come back to bite you in the long run.
Sometimes the consequences for your actions are harsher than they first appear, so take your time.

>>18605428

Younger ones, 16-17, that is when things are going slow and after all, boring. Been there as a 19 year old and it sucked, broke up with her 5 days ago.

Also, >>18605439
>>18605439
>>18605439
>>18605439


In my social area, I want to find girls that are slutty, but they aren't looking for that, or they are, but only for out of their league guys, fuck me...

>>18605450

I've seen a documentary few years ago about people with social problems going into brothels or how they are called to just talk to the prostitutes. That shit was interesting, they discussed their problems, future plans everything. Try doing that I guess...

Or just hang around your friends more and do what they do, put yourself in their skin

>>18605759
Perhaps I've been giving off the wrong idea. Virginity isn't a prize at all for me, the lack of it is just a dealbreaker. It's the same with drugs. I don't look for a girl who is clean, but if she isn't it's a clear dealbreaker.
>>18605762
I'm 20, I'm not sure dating that young will pan out too well, not to mention meeting them.

>>18605485

Tell her that she seemed interesting and you want to know her better, meet up the three of you and then get her number, talk directly to her. Shit man, it is easy

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For females.
I'm a 20 y/o man and when I have sex I can't cum. I can cum just fine when I'm jerkin my gherk, and I can finish myself off, but I can't when I'm having actual sex. Is there something wrong with me?

>>18605752
thats the thing i already am the best version of myself, i already improved myself and people that have known me for years can see that too but this self hatred came back this year when i finally managed to get my shit together except for the romantic part

>>18605781
stop grabbing your dick THAT hard anon, you fucked up the sensibility, you are going to have to lay off the porn until your dick gets used to the feeling of a vagina instead of your hand

>>18605559
This is going to sound weird, but why don't you want to get into details? I try to ask my girl about them because she has bad ones, but she always says something along the line of "stuff comes out". I know it's a private thing for girls but I'm curious about the experience. Should I stop asking her about it?

I have been dating a coworker for 7 weeks now. Everything seemed very nice for the first 4 weeks and we both were interested in each other. Then we had sex for the first time and after that i feel she kinda lost interest in me. I had to do all the work with staying in contact and she started to nag about my personality how i am the most dissatisfied (in general) person she ever met. Now she's in latvia to visit her parents and she is not staying in contact with me at all.
Now i wonder if this has to do with me sucking at making love or something. I know nothing about women since she is my second lover ive ever had (im 25). But i do know she has a good heart. Wouldnt she tell me if she lost interest? Maybe she has me on-hold till she finds someone better? I dont know.

>>18605786
I think the only time I ever actually finished was a hookup in my Volvo parked behind a Mormon church. Shit was wild

>>18605363
No, you guys get kicked in the balls. Ill take the period instead.

Battered woman with kid
fun times with mutual weirdness
recently pulled me by scruff of neck to what I guess would be called a date
expensive italian restaurant; she paid
probably wants me
can't turn brain off for long enough to ask anyone out
if could probably would do better
I can't be bothered to formulate this into any better english
do I have to do the whole relationship thing with her?
she would probably fix my virginity if I did

>>18605496
>>18605493
So just to confirm, you guys DON'T think it would be weird if I said something along the lines of "lol yeah she's pretty cute"?

>>18605516
Well I'll tell you how it is for me. I always have cramps for the first two days. From comparing experiences I'm pretty sure my flow is heavier than other women's. I don't really feel the bleeding except that everything's wet, specially on the heavier days. So the blood coming out itself doesn't hurt. It's just constantly dripping. But it's very annoying, because I'm constantly having to change tampons and pads. So I wouldn't say I couldn't care less lol.

Also, you can feel the blood coming out sometimes, like when you sneeze, or when you get up after a while of lying down. But again, doesn't hurt, it's just strange.

>>18605857
Why the fuck do you think your friend brought her to you?

>>18605806
>she started to nag about my personality how i am the most dissatisfied (in general) person she ever met.
Sounds like you guys aren't compatible emotionally.

>Wouldnt she tell me if she lost interest?
That isn't what people are told to do. Losing interest is considered a "bad" reason to break up with someone.

>>18605877
Alright, I'll try it, then.
I swear to fuck I am going to kill you all if this doesn't work.

Girls:

If you had a really close guy friend who was in love with you, how would you want him to tell you?

>>18605899
Just do it you bitch.

>>18605781
Might be because of the death grip thing, less masturbation, or at least, less strong grip.

>>18605792
>Should I stop asking her about it?
Yes, because she's obviously uncomfortable about it. Respect her boundaries. She doesn't want to connect over her period gunk, it won't make you bond. Girls are expected to be clean and pleasant and delicate. Periods make us feel dirty and irritable and torn apart.
Some people don't want to talk about the details of their shits, some people want to tell you about every drop. It's the same concept.

I can ramble about some period experiences if you want.

>>18605899
Have this male friend, I've know him for about 7 years. We were in HS together, a couple years ago, he casually drops that he had a crush on me in HS, I too let him know I did. He could have just said it back then, we used to hang together, we had plenty occasions to do so (I never did because I had/have self-esteem issues yaddi yadda).

I need a crash course in female sexuality, my girlfriend doesn't understand what orgasms or anything are and tried to rip out her clit because she thought it was debris. Can someone give me a good starting guide or quick summary for her to goodfeels?

>>18605900
Should I just ask her out on a date or tell her how I feel? I'm just asking because I can't really do it right now, as she's on the other side of the country atm.

What do you people mean when you say dont come off as too needy/desperate? What type of behaviour does that include. Im a guy of thats relevant.

>>18605906
>>18605516
Oh, you literally did ask for experiences.
I discovered an equivalent of period cramps when I got food poisoning. I actually didn't realize I had food poisoning until I started vomiting because I thought it was just a period cramp. Period cramping is essentially the same as labor. The muscles are contracting to squeeze everything out of the uterus. And that's exactly what it feels like. There's 2-10 seconds of a clenching pain, and it lessens for some random amount of time, and does it again. Sometimes it'll feel like it's over and it'll start again.
Sometimes these cramps are bad enough that all I can do is curl up in the fetal position and hold my breath. The pain even made me pass out once. Sometimes cramps are lighter and I'm able to do my day to day stuff, albeit very distracted.

My cramps weren't something that came every period. Maybe every other or every third. They'd usually show up just before a period and for a couple of the first days. My periods would last for 4-6 days. During the period, I cramped less. Though my thighs tended to ache.

The actual blood comes out like a leaky faucet, dripping. Sometimes a blood clot would slide on down, which if I was using a tampon, I'd need to pull out of me like a wet booger. The blood clots were 0.5-3 inches long, about 0.5 inches thick. Sometimes a spurt will come out when sneezing or pooping or something.

I'm the same as the other anon, as the blood dripping doesn't hurt. By the end of my period, I'm usually doing pretty fine. Though the blood loss sometimes gets to me. And I'm anxious about my tampon and/or pantiliner, because I'm goddamn poor and they're expensive. I want to use them to their full extent, but I also don't want to overflow and get blood on my panties. Again.

>>18605927
If you can't see her, what's the point of telling her? Either move, wait like a bitch, or move on.

girls:

How do we pass your tests, and make you feel engaged and attracted to us?

>>18605943
What? She comes back in a week, so I'm gonna wait to make a move until then. Why are you so passive-aggressive?

>>18605911
Thanks for the perspective anon, I'm gonna do it as soon as I can

>>18605925
In my experience, getting to orgasm is all about the build up. If I just start touching my clit right away, I get kind of numb. What's better is to touch around my thighs, sneaking up around my labia, maybe brushing over my clit and circling back around. I tease myself, getting closer until I can't handle it, and then I edge myself further, and then I finally let myself at myself.
When masturbating, I can only orgasm with a vibrator or showerhead, using this technique.

When fingering her, I recommend doing this formula, and when you have settled past the edging, figure out her sweet spot. Touch her at different speeds and different motions and different pressures and try to see what gets her best. I personally take care to exaggerate my reaction when my boyfriend hits my sweet spot, so he knows to keep doing that. Hopefully she understands how important that nonverbal communication is. At that point, just keep doing exactly that, no faster and no harder, consistently- unless she asks "faster" or "harder", of course. When I'm at that moment, change can keep me from tipping over into orgasm.

However, a side note. I know how to guide my body to orgasm once at the edge because I have had an orgasm before. I might suggest a vibrator if she has literally never had one. It's easy to break an orgasm, particularly if you don't realize that's what's about to happen. I have this moment where I'm thinking, "Oh god this is too much, this is too intense, make it stop" but I have to power through that. After I get over that hump it turns into "Oh god this is so GOOD, please may it never end". Before I get there, there's a bit of clenching teeth and digging my nails into my thighs. My legs will tremble and ache, sometimes painfully. If I didn't know what was coming, I would certainly move my hand from that position. She'll likely avoid that too, if she doesn't know what's in store.

Of course, you can't force her to get through that point. She has to be on board.

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>>18605450
Imagine she is he and proceed as usual.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

>>18605734
How do you know? You as hetero male cant rate your own looks. Maybe you are as them.

>>18605781
Stop fapping and just have sex. Or fap GENTLY. You are cut, arent you?

>>18605806
Sounds like it is over. Did you cuddled and licked her clit? Find new girl to date. Online dating?

>>18605850
Post doesnt make sense.

>>18605899
>asking deer about hunting deer
Ask her on date AND NEVET TELL GIRL YOU LOBE HER FIRST! Dont use word love unless you want to her to never see you again. Ask her on dates, fuck her, whatever just dont talk about love. She has to do it first.

Ask her on date. And prepare to be friendzoned.

>>18605925
I know very nice sites in my native language and fast google in english showed nothing useful. So GG?
http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/10-websites-sex-education-teens/

Teach her how to masturbate first.

>>18605936
>needy
When your life turns into cycle: sleep, school / work, gf, sleep. You need other various activities so you dont nag your gf 24/7.
>desparate
You want gf. ANY gf. You are afraid of rejection and will do anything to prevent break up or getting girl. Which is very visible and very pathetic. You have to be cool, chill and never allow any girl to become priority number 1 in your life. YOU are 1st, she comes 2nd.

>>18605951
One way is pic related. Dont be a bitch and just let her tag along, ignoring half of bullshit she will try.

Does it feel better to have sex in the morning for men?

>>18605974
Not physically. Can feel cool to bang in different scenarios, shake things up, but that's mental. Funny enough, the morning wood boner always takes longer to come. Maybe that's just waking up.
What about broads?

I don't even want to bother writing in english what I'm thinking I want to do to her. It might be the easiest way out of being a spineless virgin, but then again I don't want to be a tampon. Why can't I not be a sperg or at least not attract sperg women?

>>18605965
>Ask her on date AND NEVET TELL GIRL YOU LOBE HER FIRST! Dont use word love unless you want to her to never see you again. Ask her on dates, fuck her, whatever just dont talk about love. She has to do it first. Ask her on date. And prepare to be friendzoned.

It seems like you're just really cynical.

>>18605936
>What do you people mean when you say dont come off as too needy/desperate? What type of behaviour does that include. Im a guy of thats relevant.

Basically, if you're treating your first meet/date/wahtever any much more differently than as if you were there to meet a dude, you're probably being desperate.

If you're constantly waiting on calls, constantly being neurotic about what your going to do or say, or wondering why they aren't talking to you, you're being needy.

The Tl;DR of don't be desperate/needy is have a life, and don't make yours revolve around them.


>>18605974
>Does it feel better to have sex in the morning for men?

It's about the same? Sleepy, just waking up sex is pretty awesome though.

It's not necessarily better, just good in a different way.

Is taking a girl to a bakery a shit place for a date? It doesn't JUST have to be a bakery

>>18606002
Ok, text that girl out of blue
>i love you
Do the worst possible move there is. Or better, ask her if she can go somewhere with you, then drop on your knees, take out ring and propose to her within first 5 minutes of date.

If you want to actually have any chance to get some relationship going, hide your emotions and keep them low until she will show some to your first. And once she will tell you
>i see you as friend only
try to not have mental breakdown. It is your own fault for not acting way sooner.

>>18605986
Where do i subscribe?

>>18606021
Try park and ice cream. Pool? I mean it is summer.

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To men:

Do you consider 28% to be fat?

>>18606030
No, probably strays into chubby. By that I mean the way chubby used to be defined and not the way it's used now by morbidly obese women on tumblr.

>>18606030
Lol, 20% is where you should be
28% is definitely fat

Eat less girl

>>18606021
Pretty shit, yeah.

If it was like "I know this great bakery that's up in the mountains and it's a bit of a scenic drive to get there" then it'd be great, but if you're talking about a common neighbourhood bakery then it's lame.

>>18606025
Who the hell are you?

>>18606036
I've lost 35lb! I'm trying, just want to know where I'm at. ;_;

>>18606030
Idk what they were thinking with that pic, but the 27-29% range looks worse than 30-35%

I'd prefer under 27% ideally

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>>18606044
Well you know you could post a progress pic

Rear glute spread to be precise

>>18606030

Yes. 28% is very clearly fat.

>>18606040

I live in the city, so I'd go by train....yeah I always knew it would be a shit idea actually.

Oh well.

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>>18606030
Body fat % is hard to measure. Use BMI instead http://www.calculator.net/bmi-calculator.html
And get on 20~23 bmi.

I would ask your 28% on date and then impregnate her. But that is just me.

>>18606043
Anon, who else?
>your nightmare!

How do I have sex with women and continue resenting and hating them?

>>18606070
Pee on them

>>18606072
So simple yet perfect

A female friends just dumped her bf after he cheated on her, i'm getting mixed vibes from her that's she is into me, but i'm not intrested in being her rebound so i'm hesitating if i should just fuck her and get it over with, or give it more time?

Send help

>>18606046
You probably think that because 30-35% has a full belly with an even distribution of fat, where 27-29 has less belly fat making her shape more lumpy.

>>18606050
I'm not a camwhore.

>>18606056
Okay, damn. I guess I got a little full of myself since I can fit into a women's small, but the probably doesn't mean much when I'm just plain built little.

>>18606062
I'm a 22.1 in bmi, but since I still have a lot of belly fat I was looking for more accurate ways to measure myself. I think the calculator I used wanted waist, hip, thigh, arm and neck measurments. I used that picture because I thought it was a pretty good match to me.

Maybe I've made as much progress as I can dieting and I'll have to start putting effort in.

>>18606078
All women are whores, you'd have an easier time convincing me the earth is a polygon.

>>18606078
>22 bmi
Well, you can still try go to 20. But remember, fat distribution is all about genetics. Some girls store all fat to hips, boobs and ass. And some less fortunate have all the fat in belly while being flat as fridge.

Whatever you do, dont go lower than that. Anorexia is very ew thing. And now post some pics of yourself, for science ofc!

As far as getting sexy body, try getting into swimming. If nothing else, you can show your body to boys and enjoy their stares.
>>>/fit/ sticky in case you ever decide to become cardio bunny or more
Good luck in your /fit quest femanon!

>>18606030
just a little chubby to me

I wonder how many of the "girls" here are actually just trannies.

>>18606025
Okay, but I feel like you don't quite understand how close we are. And I'm pretty sure she feels the same.

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>>18606145
>there are no girls on internet

>>18606159
Please please dont use the love word. Just ask her on date, smile like retard, walk her home while handholding and try steal a kiss. Maybe try netflix and chill but no love words unless she uses them first.

>>18606170
Ok, I'm not even sure I love her. Honestly, though, I don't really know if I can trust your advice. I think I'll just tell her I LiKE her. I'm 15 and a kissless virgin btw.

>>18606078
I'm about 30% and I get plenty of attention from guys. You are absolutely fine, I promise you.

I feel like life and love has passed me by. I really don't much enjoy being alive. I'm a 26 year old virgin male.

Are there potentially any girls who would like a fat ugly guy who hates life and offers nothing?

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>>18606207
Have a job and pic related type of girls will be all over you.

>>18606215
I do have a job already and that's not true.

>>18606221
You forgot the second step anon. Install some dating apps or leave your basement and visit some social events where girls are.

>>18606207
Not with that attitude

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>>18605894
she has a boyfriend already

>>18605906
>>18605940
Thank you for both sharing your advice about perspective and your experience. Although I think viewing girls as clean and delicate is pretty sexist and my girl has reassured me several times that girls are humans too when talking about poop and stuff, I can see why period stuff is something personal to females. With that said, your experience reminds me of that time I read about a firsthand abortion experience on reddit and it shook me. I'll definitely approach it differently/put myself in her shoes.

My favorite prostitute is beautiful, intelligent, nice, supportive, gives good massages and notices my b'acne improvements.
How can I get a gf like her?

>>18606098
I wish I stored my fat in my T&A. Mine seems to stick to the belly and thighs. My mom was never able to get a flat belly either so I'll blame everything on her. I've only got about 4 lb to go before I hit the goal I set for myself and I still feel nearly as fat as I started. Kind of doubt guys at the pool will be that bothered by my belly pooch and stubby legs.

All I want is a little waist. Mine's still 29". Why do I have to be shaped like a brick?

>>18606036
28% is not fat you fucking nigger. above 30% is fat for a woman, however

>>18606234
Is ur friend her boyfriend?

>>18606303
I thought niggers liked fatties.

>>18606307
>thinking im using nigger outside a generic insult
how new are you

>>18606277
Don't just do cardio if you are, do more intensive exercises like dips, and more free weight training.

Just read the sticky >>>/fit/

Girls

What's the longest you've voluntarily decided to avoid sex/dating in order for you to achieve a set goal?

The next 3 years are going to be very serious for me. I have a lot on the line and I really want to accomplish my goal. So I decided I'm not going to risk any drama and distractions with girls. So no sex or dating for the next 3 years. Some people told me that I'm retarded for this. But I really can't afford any distractions

>>18606318
Do no-fap and reach your zen

>>18606325

I only fap once a week

>>18606330
Then stop

>>18606337

Eh, maybe.

>>18606318
That IS pretty retarded though. The science is in and life is better with a partner, it's also not worth sacrificing happiness because you're trying too hard to steer your life in a certain direction.

>>18606304
No, my friend from the story is a girl.

>>18606361

But, accomplishing my goal is the most important thing to me.

The #1 reason men can get distracted and fail to accomplish their dreams is women. I'm not spewing /r9k/ shit, but that is fact. The main reason men get sidetracked is because they let their emotions fall on a woman, they stop caring about their goal, and go a different way until it's too late. Then, it's possible that relationship goes bad, and then the guy is fucked and regrets not achieving his goal

>>18606312
The way I see it, any exercise is better than the no-exersize routine I've got going right now. If I set expectations for myself to start weight-training and do an extensive full-body routine I'm never going to start. Going for a jog a few times a week is a reasonable goal that can actually accomplish without immediately giving up. Maybe if it works well I can add more to my routine, but overwhelming myself with high expectaions is not my pathway to success.

>>18606226
>dating apps

Worthless if you're average looking or nonwhite

>>18606226

>visit some social event where girls are?

Can you give some examples?

Inb4 clubs, bars, concerts

>>18606385
Sure, but alternatively a man spurns women to focus on his goal and achieves it, only to realise that he has spent the last 3 years allowing the loneliness to pile up until he has become one of those people who comes on /adv/ saying that they don't know how to talk to or attract women or what to do on dates and are just going to give up on love.

All things in balance, friend.

My girlfriend and I make out very frequently and have gotten alone in my bed many times, but we haven't had sex. Yesterday she apologized for when we stopped making out cause she says she has a super low sex drive and just wasn't feeling it anymore. Apparently she did the same to her ex boyfriend. She also likes that I'm not constantly horny like him. And, if it matters, she had sex once before and hated it.

I guess since this is the opposite gender thread I should be asking girls but really any feedback is appreciated, but what does this situation mean? Should I step up my game and try to make her more sexually active, or do I let her guide the way since she's the one who has less of a sex drive? And, as a follow up, does what she's doing mean I'm a bad partner?

>>18606403

Well, I can not afford to get caught in drama. I can't afford to deal with all the emotional shit

>>18606361
>applying (admittedly true) end-of-life projections of satisfaction to a minor period of three years
>you'll be sacrificing happiness if you're not constantly facefirst in every pair of tits you see
>implying whomever I'm dating right now will be who I spend the rest of my life with and that you can find grown up people at the age of 22
>implying women aren't an absolute metric shitton of work and that I have the time for your bullshit right now instead of coming home from work to spend several hours maintaining my immaculate house and studying
>implying i won't be making bank in five years after all this hard work pays off and can spend half the time to make twice the money
>implying women aren't literally half the population and sex isn't as cheap as two drinks at a bar and a taxi ride home and that I can't find a good honest broad to marry in five or six or ten years
>implying you have any argument other than "LOL fucking boring-ass fag" when I spend weekends collecting fossils with my old man, building rockets, and watching meteor showers with my friends
fuck off, other people do just fine without thinking like you.
>>18606385
go to bed early, get up early, don't drink too much on weekends. spend one day a week enjoying a hobby, working on yourself, reading decent shit, and socializing with other people. other platonic people really fucking matter, and that one day a week respite will improve your ability to keep on the grind. be open to occasional one night stands, they wont hurt all that much. have a clear goal, break it up into chunks, set a time limit for each, and revel in each achievement.
and take your vitamins you miserable fuck
>>18606403
>lol you'll become autist if you dont fuck weekly
if you got it you got it, people are easy to please. people don't forget massive chunks of their social skills over the relatively short time of three years.
perhaps when 3 years is more than a fifth of your total lifespan you'll understand, mate.

>>18606416

>don't drink too much on weekends

I don't really like drinking anyways.

>be open to occasional one night stands

No

>>18606030
28% is about chubby and 30-35% is my maximum that I'd go. Somewhere between 20 and 26 seems about perfect imo.

>>18605516
When I was younger my cramps were debilitating and usually made me vomit. Nowadays my period is light and regular. They're annoying sometimes when I'm masturbating in bed and don't realize I'm bleeding and make a fucking mess. Or just not noticing it in general is irritating, it doesn't feel different from wetness unless a big clot passes through. So many cute panties ruined...

>>18606384
Then nothin to worry about as long as your friend doesnt tell her

Anyone had sex with a weird pussy before? Had sex with a girl and her clit was like a big knob and I could get two fingers into her hole as soon as her pants came off and she wasnt that wet. She was about 5'10 and the other tall girl I slept with had a big pussy too.

Idk, shit was just weird. My ex-had a very cute and small bean clitoris and she was super tight and super wet. I always had trouble getting my dick in with her, but with this new girl my dick just flew in.

How common are these vaginas? I'm kind of panicking, because I don't have feelings for this girl, but what if I fall in love with a girl and then find out she has a weird vagina.

>>18606516
She used to be a guy.

What does it take to get an orbiter to back off?

>>18606546
Lmao, that would be a great relief for my future anxiety, but I knew her from high school, so no chance there.

When I was in a sevre depressive state I started texting this girl who I had been seeing casually and fraked her out by being a desperate pathetic fuck. Anyway back, or just move on?

How can I stay focused and erect during sex?

I'm really worried about being completely frank to a girl. When I joked with my last gf about her weight (we weren't together at the time), at first I immediately apologized, but since she kept insisting that it's fine, i got used to being blunt and unfiltered about her body. She never seemed to be insulted by those statements, but years down the line she breaks down and tells me she hates herself because I said these things to her. That whole ordeal is thankfully over, but it left me believing that I should never this blunt towards a woman, no matter how much they insist they can handle a joke or a harsh remark. Is this a good rule of thumb or was she just a special case?

>>18606601
You just have to relax. Do you know the girl well? I can't cum with a girl until we're emotionally close, usually. Just talk to her, get to know each other. Relax. Easier said than done, but just imagine, would you judge a girl if her pussy didnt get wet? No, not unless you're an asshole, the same thing applies to a girl. If you can't get it up every now and again it shouldn't matter. Just relax, you're okay. Sex is supposed to be fun, but it doesn't always go over smooth. Adults are aware of this, because it has happened to them.

All this assume you don't have ED from porn, in which case you just have to quit watching porn forever.

>>18606615
I made the same mistake. My gf asked me to tell her one thing I didnt like about her physically, and I told her she had weird boobs and a dark butthole. After that there was no more buttstuff allowed. After we broke up she told me no one made her feel worse about herself than me. Tell girls they are beautiful forever and always, or they'll fuck the guy who does. It sucks but it's not going to change.

Girls,

Did you ever get caught masturbating? By who? What was their and your reaction

>>18606550
Tell them without a shadow of a doubt that you're not interested and you do not want to be friends.

>>18606615
It's a good rule of thumb. The only kinds of flaws a girl wants you to point out are the ones like "you are too good to me I think you need to be more selfish so I'm going to spoil you with orgasms and jewelry from now on."

>>18606637
I live with my parents and wonder sometimes if they can hear my vibrator.

>>18606550
If you're cool with being blunt about it just tell them to go away and stop talking to you

Alternatively, you could ignore texts and try to go to places they aren't so that way you guys don't talk at all. If they try to make plans or whatever he's doing never agree to them even if it's like a group of people.

>>18605355
Guys, at what age do you personally think it's weird for a girl to never have even kissed a guy?

does it actually hurt that much to be kicked in the weener or are guys exaggerating?

>>18606739
It hurts but not much. I figure it is about as exaggerated as period pains and emotions

>>18606719
Just a kiss? 18 would be 'weird'.

I made a new friend last year and I couldn't quite put my finger on what was odd about her personality because she had this weird strain of naivety, but wasn't a prude and talked occasionally about at least one ex-boyfriend. It wasn't until she told me that she didn't have her first kiss until she was 21 (which was only about 18 months prior to the conversation we were having) that the mystery of her personality clicked into place.

Yeah, 18 is about the age where I'd consider it weird for either gender to never have been kissed.

>>18606719
If you haven't by the time you've finished highschool, very weird.

>>18606739
getting kicked in the nuts hurts at first just like getting kicked anywhere, then you get a delayed aching pain and its slow and dull and prolonged and hurts like a bitch

>>18606739
Objectively speaking, I would say that fracturing a bone is an 8/10 on the pain scale. But unless you've really fucked it up it's probably only that painful for a couple of minutes and then it settles out some. An embolism in your lung, from personal experience, is a 7/10, it's excruciating and you can't breathe and at least in my case it carried on being that painful for a full 25 minutes, before tapering into mild pain over the next two hours.

7/10 on the pain scale is where you call an ambulance because you need immediate medical attention.

Getting kicked in the balls is a solid 6.5-7/10, depending on how hard the kick is. The only reason no one calls an ambulance is because there's nothing they can do. The pain is deep and blunt and it feels like it's concentrated under your stomach. Breathing is hard, walking is hard, thinking is hard, and it probably doesn't let up for 3 or 4 minutes. You can be sore for hours or even days from a hard blow. Even a relatively moderate blow can produce a 5/10 on the pain scale, though softer blows generally don't reduce the pain, only its duration.

>>18606752
>>18606755
fug, I'm almost 20.

I don't see myself getting a bf soon. How do i at least get over the kiss situation? Get drunk and kiss some random dude? I have that weird naivety that you talk about

>>18606774
I was 21 when I had my first kiss. Was it weird that it was so late? Sure. Was I going to go out and kiss a random guy because it was weird? No. That's just me though, I didn't care but you seem to have hangups about it.

>>18606774
>Get drunk and kiss some random dude?
No. Doing it like that is awful.

>>18606767
a lick flick on my exposed balls is a solid 4

>>18606774
If you're a qt it won't stop anyone from dating you. If the dudes in /adv/ are any proper measure it'll be a bonus for some guys that you're so inexperienced.

You can go out and get drunk and kiss someone if you want. Depends on how much stock you place in the importance of a first kiss.

>>18606795
We're talking about actually getting kicked in the balls though. And since it's pretty much never an accident and done with malicious intent, it's rarely as low as a 4. Parked my car in my garage weirdly the other day and could only get the door open a sliver and managed to smack myself in the balls with it gently by accident and even that was enough to take my breath away momentarily.

Girls: When would I seem too eager or desperate? I've seen a girl 3 or 4 times and have her number, snapchat etc but we don't talk that much lately. We talked a little last night and when I asked when she's free next, she never replied. Is it needy to text her and ask again a day later? What should I do?

>>18606781
I guess I'm just feeling the pressure because everyone around me seems to have had their first kiss at 14 and lost their virginity at 16. I'm so behind.

>>18606798
I know it won't, but I'm just embarrassed at this point. I feel like that's why im so nervous around guys.

I just moved around different schools as a kid so didn't have time to form friendship groups to lead to a bf and up till now was busy with getting a job. I have more time now but don't even know where to start.

>>18606838
Start by making friends really. If you've got a solid group of friends but haven't met any guys then take up an activity where you can meet people. Lots of places that host a specific activity will have a group of regulars that is pretty easy to get in with and will give you access to a whole lot of new friends and potential partners.

>>18606838
>I guess I'm just feeling the pressure because everyone around me seems to have had their first kiss at 14 and lost their virginity at 16. I'm so behind.
My best friend had been in a relationship for three years by the time I had my first kiss. It's only a big deal if you make it into one.

>>18606774
From my personal experience (I'm a dude), don't fret about it. I was always told how your first sex was a life hanging experience and you're just a different person afterwards but none of that was the case for me. I didn't even have a "I just had sex" high, and while I didn't lose my virginity to a hooker or a one night stand, Is rather kept it for someone else. I suppose the first kiss was nice, but I don't think i would have enjoyed it had I rushed to make out with a random chick just to get that off my bucket list, and we're supposed to be the emotionless ones.

>>18606877
Also I was a handholdless virgin until 21.
Then again I'm socially awkward and have no luck with the ladies so I might not be the best metric here.

>>18606879
Handholdless virgin here too. Also with social anxiety lol

Alright good to know I'm not completely done for

>been talking to a girl
>we live about 3 hours away from one another
>she wants me to drive and see her this weekend
>I just saw her the other day

Is this some kind of shit test? To see if I'll do anything she asks? Or does she really want to see me that badly?

>>18605597
>wanting a girl who hasn't fucked around means you have mental issues
wew lad

>>18606976
Did you even read the rest of what was going on with that guy...? He clearly has issues.

>>18605637
Asking a girl about her previous partners is a red flag?
So, if she's a slut you should be ok with that and not ask any questions?

>>18605355
I heard one of the main things girls first look for in a guy is his smile, how to I smile to make it look genuine and not forced creepy? Honest question, I had showing my teeth because they're not very white and I think as a result i'm not very good at smiling..

>>18606998
To me, it is a huge red flag, yes.

I'm honestly not ashamed of my sexual history (had one partner at 25) but while I can understand a conversation where we talk about our morals regarding sex, I can't understand one where you ask me with how many people I've slept with or who they are.
I never will be fine with that. It is really not your business.

>>18607016
Get them whitened then. You can find legit home whitening kits on ebay <$30. Takes longer to lighten but you can achieve good results.

Smile broadly. A genuine smile always includes the eyes.

>>18606998
Yes it is. It screams "I'm insecure". I'm in the same position as >>18607019 and it really is none of your business.

girls: about what percentage of you usually see more/bang than one guy at a time (not at once, but are seeing multiple people)

i have a feeling its actually much lower than one would believe

>>18607031
I talk to different people at the same time, but the second things get physical (even just a kiss) I stop seeing everyone else.
Same for most of my friends.

None of my friends fucks different people at the same time.

>>18607039
physical as in sex or physical as in even kissing/making out

i think this place skewed the hell out of my views and i spent WAYY too long figuring out how to get sex too quickly and it cost me the good girl ive been looking for
i havent felt this down in awhile

>>18606982
>He clearly has issues
Wanting a virgin girlfriend isn't having issues.

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do girls care if im a massive douchebag?
im barely even /fit/ yet, just ottermode but I literally cannot stop walking around like i'm the center of the universe, it's only going to get worse.

>>18607074
Okay buddy

>>18607074
>How to I find a innocent girl to have a cute relationship when I'm 20? I don't want sex
nigga is a little creepy. also

>expecting someone to be a virgin in their 20s if they're not some christian weirdo

>>18607077
>it's only going to get worse.

no it wont, youll realize how much of an ass youre being and youll stop being so narcissistic, at least in public

it happens to everyone when they start getting /fit/

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>>18605355
>meet girl in workplace a few months back
>already interested in another girl at the time so we both become friends strictly under the precedent that we're just friends
>doesn't work out with other girl
>she comes on to me when we're hanging out one night, end up running the whole 9
>spend every waking hour together for the next 2-3 weeks
>understandably tapers down, we're still not officially "boyfriend and girlfriend" so we both talk to eachother about boy/girl trouble and the fact her old ex is creeping back into the picture
>it doesn't work out with her old ex, they break off for a bit
>she's head over heels for me, from her own words, her friend's words, and from clearly just observing her i'm; the only dude to make her cum, the only dude that has stuck around longer than a week or so, the only dude that can make her laugh so much, the only dude she's spent this much time with cumulatively, etc, i'm her perfect dude - we even sorta look alike and her parents love me
>we start hanging out less and less, especially after she goes off to new york to visit her quickly withering grandma
>starts saying she loves me, makes the distinction that she means "loves as a friend" once, but from then on ends every conversation with "i love you"
>around 3 months pass of us hanging out on and off, she knows about every gritty bit of my past and STILL isn't scared off, decide to finally try and make her mine
>we discuss it a few times about the fact that i want to be more than friends, but it always comes back to the point that she "doesn't deserve me" and only loves dudes that treat her like shit, still isn't over her crazy ex and is starved for affection from him
>stop hanging out and talking to her for maybe 2 weeks or so
>after plenty of sorrowful texts from her we hang out a bit more
>try again to talk to her about it, she breaks down and spends probably over 2 hours just talking about all the times she's been fucked over
gonna continue in another post

>>18607060
As I said, even just kissing.

>>18607074
He talked about getting "intrusive thoughts" about his wannabe girlfriend past relationship.
That is having mental issues.

>>18607031
>at a time
>not at once
What?

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Is it true that if girl emotionally switched to another guy you're basically nothing but an empty shell to her? I have been dumped, and, I have to move on but seems like I can't.

What do I do?

>>18607019
So if you're fine with it where's the problem?
How is it not my business if we're in a relationship?
>>18607024
>I'm insecure
Having certain standards is being insecure? Really makes me think.

>>18607079
Not an argument.
>>18607082
Being creepy doesn't mean you have mental issues.
>>18607092
So you never get intrusive thoughts about anything?

>>18607023
Not him but what if my smile is genuinely ugly?
I have perfect teeth but my smile is just bad and even my parents agree.

>>18607096
i meant hanging out with one person, then hanging out with another a few days later, and not something like 3 somes if that makes it clearer

>>18607090
im an absolute fucking idiot then. I spent all this time trying to become some big player,realizing that not only is that not what i wanted but would actually be detrimental to finding the kind of girl i want to be with

whats worse is that its so obvious now and i didnt see it

Hey /adv/,
Just wanna know where i'd going about finding a nice girl that is still a virgin?
Most of the girls I see are massive roastie sluts hahaha.

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>>18607089
>gives me EVERYTHING; her mom being her worst enemy and her only friend at the same time, dealing with an insane, damaged boyfriend off and on for 9 years and watching him and his family disintegrate from drugs and violence, sexual abuse
>so much she is saying is synonymous with the shit i've dealt with myself
>doesn't want to hurt me because she's not even faithful to the dude she's in love with
>about a week ago i just text her and tell her we shouldn't hang out at all anymore
>she's been nearly radio silent on all of her social media

is there ANY way to salvage this hellish cosmic punishment? why the fuck did this happen? i would go 30 rounds with prime mike tyson with my hands tied behind my back if it meant this shit working out - all the fucking pieces are there, it's just fundamentally broken

it's not like she was even some perfect specimen, she even had a lot of things about her that irritated me, but god she is fucking perfect to me, every little flaw just makes me regret not knowing the perfect combination of words or actions to win her for good

>>18607104
>So if you're fine with it where's the problem?
I said I will *never* be fine with it.

>How is it not my business if we're in a relationship?
Because it didn't happen while we were in a relationship together. It isn't in any way your business.
The names of the guy I've slept with before you, or even just the number of people I've slept with isn't relevant.

>>18607106
>So you never get intrusive thoughts about anything?
I did get them when I went through a depressive episode, 6 years ago. I was mentally ill, back then. Now that I'm healthy - no, never, about anything.

>>18607127
That's not how I expect a relationship to be, but ok.
>no, never, about anything
Having unwanted thoughts is normal though.

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>>18607106
>all these reasons your creepy and have mental issues
>"no i dont have mental issues, not an argument"
The creepiness intensifies.

>>18607137
Still not an argument, faggot. You haven't told me how wanting a virgin gf implied I had issues.
I'm not the guy you were originally talking to either.

>>18607145
>when your only argument is "thats not an argument"
okay then

>>18607150
And your only argument is calling me creepy.
You have the burden of proof since you're the one claiming wanting a virgin girlfriend somehow meant I had mental
issues. I'm still waiting.

>>18607133
Being morbidly curious about your girlfriend's past isn't healthy.
Again, I can understand if you want to ask me about my thoughts about sex. But I don't understand if you specifically ask me about the number of people I've slept with, or who they were. It is absolutely distasteful, and incredibly creepy.
It's not because I'm ashamed of it, I had sex just with one guy and he's the guy I had been with for 8 years. It is the thought that I have to go through background checks and you can't appreciate me for who I am, that my dating history for you is more relevant than my personality.

>Having unwanted thoughts is normal though.
Intrusive thoughts aren't just "unwanted" - they are also impossible to shake off, something you obsess over.
That is definitely a sign of some level of mental illness.

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>>18607120
>>18607089

It genuinely sounds like she doesn't want to pull you into the vortex that is her life, it's painful, I know, but people with hearts like that will cut others away so they don't get dragged down trying to help them. If you're truly as perfect for her as she is for you, I can guarantee she's hurting doubly so, but she doesn't want to destroy something so beautiful by being selfish and crushing it in her hands; I had to do that with my girl, I was just in a bad spot and it wouldn't have been right to have her fall into hell with me and possibly ruin what made her special.

Sorry man.

>>18607120
You dodged a bullet. If you are really interested in understanded what happened read Indignation by Phillip Roth

A rotten tree can only bring forth rotten fruit. You might think you can save her and leaving her would make her worse, but that's not the case - no one can help her, no one but herself. Even if you did something like her her to visit the therapist she'd think she's only doing this for you. This story has panned out a hundred times, and it keeps ending the same way. If she doesn't make an effort to change herself, she's beyond saving; and her refusing to mantain a healthy relationship is a pretty good indicator that she doesn't want to change.
Sorry, but you'll have to learn to let go.

>>18607156
It's not morbid curiosity.
Your dating history isn't more important than your personality, but your choices also say a lot about who you are.
Do you expect people to be ok with your sexual history regardless of how many partners you've had? That's unreasonable.

>>18607156
Not the guy, but while it's rude to immediately ask someone about their sex life wanting to be with a virgin isn't some baseless fetish. Having sex with someone is a big commitment, and if it means you had sex partners it means you trusted someone enough, but parted ways anyways. That either means that you made a bad decision in holding your partner, or that you're bad enough to have driven the other person away. Furthermore, according to stats virgins are more likely to have longer and happier marriages.
Of course, that only matters if you're interested in spending the rest of your life with a virgin, if you're some creep who only wants to crack hymens you can go to hell.

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>>18607156
this is why.
the fact that youve only been with one dude is actually a huge plus

people are just starting to realize this and are starting to weed out girls based on how many guys theyve slept with. a high count is usually associated with many problems that people want to avoid. why it isnt taught in schools is beyond be since this is actually pretty huge

>>18607193
Sounds depressing really. It's like how people living in a shit country oppressed by their government think they're very lucky because they don't know how much better the rest of the world is.

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>>18607193
>being ignorant and having your head in the sand is good

>>18607187
I expect people to not care about my sexual history - as I don't care about theirs, as long as they share the same moral values I have, and they're decent and faithful towards me.

>>18607189
Actually, it is some baseless fetish.
The only reason why people who married virgin stay married longer is religion - they don't get divorced because their religion is against it, and they're devout enough to stay virgin till marriage.
In fact, people who had sex before marriage with their now spouse are just as likely to divorce as people who had a few sexual partners (2 to 4 depending on the study).
Virgins are also less likely to be depressed and more likely to be happy because religious people go to church and people who are into a strong community are less likely to develop mental illness or be unhappy.
It is written in the study where you get those stats from.
Maybe read that.

>>18607193
Because it isn't the high number of sexual partners that causes the divorce.
Women who have a high number of partners have mental issues, are poor, come from broken families. Those people are unlikely to hold a relationship or a marriage.
They don't say "don't fuck around or you'll never be able to love somebody" because it isn't true.

>>18607211
>I expect people to not care
Well that's selfish. If a girl who got gangbanged in a club bathroom seriously said the same thing, it would sound absolutely ridiculous.
Your decisions say a lot about who you are.

What the fuck does she want?
Backstory: She has a boyfriend. Said boyfriend went on a freaking long ass trip. During this time we started to get a little intimate. She's also a colleague that is still in highschool.

Anyway, we exchanged numbers and shit. We texted for awhile, and being the nice guy I am I fucked up a few times. I'm not going to say how, but I fucked up. But here's the thing; she still fucking talks to me. Like maybe not as much anymore, but she still does.

So earlier yesterday, I started to talk and come out of my shell with other coworkers, and she freaking asked me why I don't like her. I asked her why would she think that and she just said 'idk'. I pestered her about it and she said we never talk anymore. Yet I sent her a snap the night before. She made the excuse that she was tired, and then later on during the day acted all tired, contradicting herself. She said she'd text me what's wrong tonight but she never did. I'm so confused and lost.

>>18607243
Text her and ask her what's wrong, say you want to know.

>the fuck does she want
She has a vagina; she wants attention.

>>18607243
attention seeking slut, as the other anon said

Ladies, how important is your (long term) boyfriend's income/job to you?

My girlfriend knew my job sucks when we began dating and she makes more than me and probably will continue to do so. She also knows my job isn't glamorous or impressive in any way (my words, not her's).

Will she dump me eventually? And if not, will it secretly bother her over the years until I get a more lucrative job? Will she start nagging me to move up in the business world?

>>18607291
Whether he's content to stay in his shit job or has the ambition to 'make more of himself' is what matters to me. What do you do?

>>18607291
If she loves you, she'll accept you for the reasons >>18607308 has said. But if she's a cunt and doesn't care that you're content with your job, then who cares what she thinks anyway.

>>18607308
Low paying admin job. She knows how often I apply for work and how much I dislike it here, but she also knows I'm been looking for better work for over half a year with no luck. I told her I'll have to go back to uni if this continues.

It's not just that, but I'm a few years off 30 and neither own my car nor live in my own place. She has her own car because her family's quite well off.

>>18607315
American girls always like more money ..
That's why each new Gf feels like you are throwing a sausage in the middle of hallway during sex

>>18607315
Uh, I meant that I wouldn't be happy if he was content in his shit job, not that I wouldn't care as long as he liked it.

>>18607318
A shit job as a stop gap is fine. My boyfriend was working at Burger King when we started dating, but he was also studying to, you know, start a career so I had no problem with it. It's not the lack of money that's unattractive, I couldn't care less about that (as long as I'm not having to keep you afloat), it's the lack of drive.

>>18607325
Thanks, femanon, you've given me hope.

Female friend mightve gotten dumped. The guy was probably one of the better/best (for her) persons shes dated in recent years and shes helped me with figuring out a lot of my own issues and relationship issues. Im not much to help her figure out her shit but how can I help her cheer up? We usually just blaze and hang out.

>>18607325
>he's fine with his job
>"I meant that I wouldn't be happy if he was content in his shit job"
if he's fine with it, go fuck yourself for not being okay with his job choice.

>honey i want more money, get a new job

>>18607328
Be a good friend and hang out with her , try to cheer her up
Do some new things for fun , just two of you
Best boyfriends in what relationship or money bank and funny personality ?

>>18607327
You're welcome, but I don't think my perspective is that rare or uncommon. Like I said, it's the complacency and lack of drive that's unattractive, not the fact that you're not earning a lot of money, and I think a lot of my peers would agree.

>>18607329
See above and what I said in the post you replied to. Did you bother reading the rest of what I said, or did you just stop once you were triggered? You're not even the guy who asked the question, why are you so offended?

>>18607330
She gravitates towards guys with issues she thinks she can fix or bad boys. The current bf was good because I think he liked her and would be a good stable person who could support her in a mutually benefitial relationship. Idk what happened though but I dont think theyre talking to one another right now.

>>18607333
>lack of drive
what if im content with my earnings and dont want to compete for anything more? im a beta at the core, and the competition for the top is an endless and futile struggle to my eyes
my ego never asked for such confirms

>>18607341
Then you're not what I'm looking for in a guy. Some girls are happy being mediocre and are okay with their partner being mediocre, that's not me. I don't necessarily want a guy who wants to be at the top, just someone who strives to be the best they can be and achieve what they're capable of, because that's how I live my life.

>>18607351
understandable. i always failed to understand such people tho: it's for power? for money? what is it? you can be an excellent professional without always aiming to become the boss of everything
do you always keep struggling for better? a day or another you will reach the highest place your skill allows you to, what after that? take a step longer than legs and start to suck at your job because you cant do it?

honest question, not trolling

>>18607336
>she cannot fix those guys
she is masochistic because she get hurt all the time from those guys
If she tries to look for some cute guy... she needs to grow up and open eyes to who really cares about her

>>18607354
I just don't see the point in not trying to be the best person I can be. It's not like I sit and stress about how I can be better at everything. And you're never going to be perfect, there's always somewhere where you can improve.

What about you? Why are you content with being mediocre or being average? Do you ever worry you're going to look back on your life and feel like you've wasted your life?

>>18607370
dunno about mediocre, im studying to become a doctor and i always try to do good for the patients and whatever. but i dont care about climbing the ladder to become the boss. maybe i misunderstood your "do your best" with "get the highest rank position"
if by that you meant you can do even a sucky job but do it at the best of your possibilities then i agree with you
did wagecuck jobs for many years and always struggled to do best even if i hated everyone so much

>>18607219
yeah but since the high number of partners correlates so well with the mental issues/broken families thing it can be a decent indicator.

high number of partners isnt the be all end all like people here make it out to be, which is a problem

high number of partners + stable mental state and family is still good, but the chances of that happening are pretty low

Is my GF being really insensitive?

My father has been going through a whole lot of difficulties this year. He has a good job but his mental illness has gotten extremely bad to the point where he's about to lose his job which will result in him being homeless. My family cut my father off so I'm basically the only person he speaks to so he unloads all of his problems on me. It has gotten me rather depressed and stressed the whole situation. My college grades have suffered and I've lost a lot of weight because I've been too stressed to eat. Everytime I bring things up with her she keeps saying 'stop playing that card it disappoints me you let this affect you' and stuff like that. Its like she gets angry at me for being upset over it. Is she being insensitive?

>>18607585
She's a bitch, drop her.

>>18606318
This is great way how ro end up in /r9k.

>>18606399
A. Pick any event.
B. Go there.
C. If no girls there, go to A.
D. Chat up ladies.
E. If gf == 0 goto B.

>>18606411
If girl is avaiable for cuddling, but not for sex itself, it can mean few things like
>vaginismus
>raped
>molested as kid
>ssri happy pills killing libido
>birth control pills killing libido
>too much fat
>too much thin
Try to do oral sex on her. Make her give you handjob. Teach your girl how to satisfy you and probably both of you will be happy. Experiment and find compromises. And realize that there are girls which HATE sex for various reasons. Dont be afraid to dump her if you arent sexually compatible.

Find out if she masturbates and if she ever had orgasm. If not, time to buy magic wand and make her cum.

>>18606601
Watch less porn, fap less, do more kegal excercises, dont be fat and use oral sex as back up. Relax and stay cool.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18606615
>joking about things you know will hurt her in the long run
Repeat lie 99 times and for 100th time it will be true. Dont do this!

>>18606815
Wait 36 hours and ask her out again. And remember: lack of response = also response. If she cant be arse to reply, you mean very little to her.

>>18606966
She wants your dick. Decide for yourself if it is worth it.
>how do you plan to date her if you cant be arsed to see her?

>>18607077
>center of the universe
This confidence of yours will pull all girls to you like magnet. Keep it that way. Be asshole to everybody but the girl you want to date. Bitches will be wet.

>>18607097
Csgo. Sport. Fap. Friends. Block her, delete and throw away everything what reminds you her. Out of sight, out of mind. Swimming? Book?

>>18607118
Kindergarden.

>>18607585
No, she just pointed out how big bitch you are. Listening to other people problems doesnt mean you should stop living your own life.

Soother your dad, help him if you can, but DONT STOP EATING AND STUDYING! She wants man, not girl.

>>18607612
>great way how ro end up in /r9k
Yeah because focusing on your goals is wrong right? You should always have pussy as your #1 priority.

>>18607616
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupational_burnout
Focus on 1 thing only in your life and you will burn. You cant "just work". You need to have work+rest+life+socialization+fun balance.

You dont need pussy in order to not go crazy, but thinking work will keep you alive alone is stupid. Do you do friends?

How do I tell my bf he's bad at oral without destroying his ego? Most of the time we've been together I've had to finish myself to orgasm. The last time we were together he tried for 2 hours straight before we had to stop. I appreciate that he went for that long since most guys would give up after 20 minutes. At the same time I'm getting kinda frustrated from not cumming but I don't know how to tell him. I've instructed him to do things during and he listens for a while, and then goes back to what he was doing.

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>Girls
Wet dreams are normal physiological of a healthy human.
How often do you get it and what type of content?

>>18607619
>Do you do friends
I don't like hanging out with people

>>18607291
Even if she doesn't mind, it might harm your relationship unconsciously. Marriages in which the wife outearns the husband have a higher rate of divorce, and even men subconsciously judge themselves if their partner outperforms them at something usually considered for men. It doesn't mean any relationship where the woman isn't subservient to her alpha male is doomed to fail, but it could put more stress on yours than it might appear.
From personal experience, finding other things where you can be the man of the house helps - my mother is far more gifted at repairing and building things than my father, but he also works 50 hours a week while my mother takes care of the house, and their marriage is as well off as it's ever been.

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Boys and girls...
My BF has a thing for my heartbeats, he'd rest his head on my chest while listening to my heartbeats.
He says the sound is soothing and help him relax and unwind from the day's stress.

I'm flattered but I find the whole thing very child like behavior, and making me feel as if I'm with a man child.

Is this normal?

>>18607635
Sounds like some ASMR 2.0 shit. Does he have mommy issues?

>>18607635
I hate hearing my GF heartbeat, it makes uncomfortable. Your bf is just the opposite of me, I don't think it's a problem

If it annoys you, just talk with him

>>18607635
How does that make him a manchild? He just feels relaxed with you and likes being close with you.
Jesus, people these days.

Would you be willing to become religious for your boyfriend? And I don't mean pretending to pray before dinner and getting dragged to church like you drag him to musicals, I mean legitimately learning about and at least trying to adopt the faith, without it being some sect initiation thing.

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>>18607620
>destroying his ego
Thing is you can easily shatter it, but also built it back. Simply tell him. Try doing so when you are comfortable in bed?

Assert your dominance, tie him up if you must, grab his hand and the stronger you squeeze, the better he does. He needs some feedback to learn. Really, muster some courage and teach him. Or instruct his movements, you can do a lot of things in bed, just speak up and stop being starfish. And when he fucks up, grab him by ear and push so it hurts him a little. With a bit of conditioning he should get a hang of it.

Or say fuck it and buy magic wand.

>>18607630
Well, good luck with your work then. And i hope it will go right, because without friends, with whom will you share your pain and troubles? And with whom will you share your achievements?

>>18607635
>my bf likes to cuddle me
>is it bad?
I dont know, maybe dump him and find somebody who will be interested in you only until he bust a nut.

>manchild
Maybe it is you who is immature in your relationship. Does he have job? Long term life goals? Kids? Can he lead? Is the sex good? Are you compatible with each other?

Who cares he craves skin contact? You dont enjoy having your partner so close to you? Found compromise like 10 minutes of cuddling per day max?

>>18607646
Is faith so important for you? Or is it about the knowledge? You can teach people about your religion easily, but the faith thing simply cant be taught.

>>18607646
I'm willing to try to learn about it, but I won't pretend I have faith if I don't. And I most likely won't.

>>18607623
I get them extremely rarely (once every few months). I usually dream of having kinky sex with my boyfriend.

>>18607638
>Does he have mommy issues
Family issues, emotionally absent parents.
Stressful job.
He does listen to ASMR on his clip+.
>>18607639
I just think it's weird.
>>18607644
Because he should be my support not me being his, right?
>>18607650
>cuddle
I doubt it called cuddle the way he does it.
>Does he have job
Yes.
>Long term life goals
None that he told me.
>sex
I don't really know, he's into kinky stuff, And I just want to do it like normal.
>compatible with each other
We get along, though he's a bit neurotic.

Girls and boys, think of your crush/partner and list three things you find attractive about them. Say your gender, too

>>18607623
Once or twice each month, mostly about passionate kissing, there was this one with al pacino.

>>18607670
>f,27
Dependant personality.
Wide shoulders.
Warm hands.

>>18607669
>Because he should be my support not me being his, right?
It's mutual, usually.

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>>18607669
Look at pic related. And ask him about his future life goals. Ask him about optimal children number and about household works. Learn how to communicate properly?

>sex
>I don't really know
You dont know if you enjoy sex with him? Wtf?

>>18607670
Female.

Wit.
Kindness.
Cutest smile I've ever seen.

To people of both genders: Why, when you're out drinking, do you hook up with people who you're not attracted to, and find repulsive the morning after when you've sobered up?

>>18607697
Alcohol is not good choice of drink when making decisions.

>>18607702
But surely even when you're drunk you should be able to tell who's good looking and who isn't?

At least I can.

>>18607697
It happened to me once, nearly 10 years ago. We made out.

Probably because alcohol makes it very easy to connect emotionally. And it makes you hornier. And it makes decision process blurry.

So you end up picking your partner when you're vulnerable, horny and dumb.

>>18607670
male


fiercely independent
insightful in a way that showcases her intelligence
cute bum

What is anger like for a women even if she loves me? Is it just a waiting game till she calms down and will talk about it? Or am i fucked and she'll hold onto it forever and never forgive?

>>18607915
depends on what you did. if you fucked up hard she might not forgive you but if its just a mood distract her from it. kiss her, joke around, do anything to take her mind off it

>>18607670
female
funny as hell
knows how to just hang out and have fun
is smart

i feel like i carry conversations, but i cant tell if its because they are disninterested or i just talk too much. I talk more than i intend out of habit/nerves, is there a way to fix this so i know if im wasting my time?

is it worth it to buy a 3 in 1 hepa filter air purifier for my bedroom?

>>18608135
Where do you live? Big china city? Worth it.
Middle of nowhere? Placebo tier.

>>18608148
metro city in the southwest us. my nose is always stuffed when i wake up

>>18606966
>>18607612

So an update. I hadn't texted her back about her being off Sat. because I was tired, but she called this morning and asked if I'd be able to come and talking about other things.

This is good, yes?

>sorry, I'm somewhat of an aspie

To introvert femanons who want an extrovert bf,
Why? Wouldn't it be annoying when he wants to do all kinds of socializing stuff, forcing you to be around multiple people a lot?

>>18608167
>girl went her way and asked me to come over and "talk"
Bring condoms and some food. It wont get any better than this.
>pro tip
If she wants to move togethet, dont think and simply agree. Good luck!

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How do i interpret this girl interests with me? She is the ex of one of my best friends, which is a major redflag on its own, but besides that point. We were never close in the sightless, even more so after their break up. Yet after years of not talking, she started adding me in social media, giving likes to my pictures and random stuff. It was especially weird that yesterday she added me on steam which i dont have a clue on how she found and texted me to play games together whenever i had time.

I dont really am looking for anything, i mean she is a hottie (9/10) gamurl gurl with tons of orbitors and friendzoned guys, so even though i would not mind to tap that, there are too many redflags on her personality to look for anything serious.

I am just curious on why would she go that far to get back in touch with me even though we were never friends or anything. What do you guys think? Is she looking for something or would a girl like that would really just be looking for a friend?

>>18608492

Really? This would be only the second time we've met up (lately) but we've known each other for many years but haven't seen one another in a long time. But yea, she wants me to come see her Saturday because she's off. First "date" was us riding around in my car for an hour and I felt she was interested. Several close hugs, no kiss, but she seemed reflective at my aspie-tier advances.

>>18607623
All my sex dreams are usually weird and gross. I get them very rarely, like maybe one a year, but when I do it's because I've been really horny.

Last one I was sucking off Matt from Two Best Friends Play, but I didn't really want to and he had a really small dick. He came after like 20 seconds without warning and it tasted horrible.

Sorry Matt, I don't know why you had to be at the butt-end of my insecurities about an online relationship I'm in. I'm sure you have a fine dick with very normal-tasting semen.

>girls
what's the weirdest fetish you've refused and the weirdest fetish you've agreed to play along with?

>>18608558
Girls never look for male friends. Only boyfriends anon. Dont be stupid and and either ask her on date or simply keep ignoring her.

>>18608570
Do you know what is first step in defeating autism / aspie? Stop using it as an excuse to behave like idiot. Study and learn how to behave in social interactions. And now go and date that bitch. Dont forget to cuddle and smile!

>>18608596
thanks. i just tried getting with her in high school many years ago and she'd never do it so i didn't want to strike out my last at bat.

Wishing an ex girlfriend a happy birthday?

Broke up about a year ago. She's in the social circle but since then I've kept a low profile

Bad idea?

I'm talking to this girl right now and im struggling to come up with topics, I know her political views differ from mine and I feel like music is too intimate right now to talk about, I think we're both getting tired of yes and no questions and answers. What is something I can use to have a conversation with emotion and meaning rather than factual things?

Girls how do you act when you start getting turned on while making out?

Does online dating suck for everyone?

Honestly as a guy every girl I see on there is either crazy, a single mom, ugly or you find the odd cute one but she never responds because you know she's probably getting 9000000 messages a day from dudes throwing their cocks at them.

My friend told me that even in real life your average girl gets dick thrown at her on a daily basis so the only girls that resort to online are either crazy or just seeking the attention. Because no normal girl actually needs to search hard to find a date if she wants one. Sounds reasonable to me.

Guys, girls, whats your experience with online dating? As a 26 year old guy its been pretty depressing for me so far. And I'm fairly average looking, in good shape. I'm not looking for a super model, just a cool seeming cute girl.

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>>18608596

>Girls never look for male friends. Only boyfriends anon.

Still its odd, she never showed any interest before, why now? Considering how many alternatives she has and i am not exactly Brad Pitt to keep a crush on me for so long.

Girls are weird.

>>18608726

That's my situation. I wanted to date her years ago in high school, but now she actively sought me out and started talking to me out of the blue. And I ain't got nothing really great going on in my life.

>>18608644
Even knowing that your ex is still alive is bad.

>>18608664
Ask her on date noob. ASK HER ON DATE!

>>18608723
Try social events you hate. But yes, finding your future wife is slow painful process full of misery.

>>18608726
Girls value decrease with time but boys value goes up. Date the bitch!

>>18608723
Guy here, overwhelming silence.
If I lived in a bigger city I'd get more hits but generally speaking no one wants to associate with me. In all my time spent on tinder I got one hit. We started off things well and while she said she was interested in a date she always had an excuse for it - studying, family, friends or straight up too exhausted. This went on for half a year and while she always said she did want to see me, after she had to pass after finally being done with school, I told her as tactfully as I could that if she doesn't want to see me she should just say so, and she never replied. I figured she felt too guilty to answer but she didn't even bother deleting me from WhatsApp and Skype.
Lesson learned, if a girl keeps postponing your date for more than a month, don't bother.

>>18608726
Considering the way you described her in previous post I don't think she's really worth dating but that's just me. If you could somehow tap it and are okay with that then go for it I guess.

>>18608766
Been looking out for social events. Only thing I hate about that is its such a crap shoot. Just praying you go to an event and there happens to be a reasonably attractive, not crazy, girl in your age range that is single.

And I work a lot. So my free time is precious. I hate working up the motivation to go to a social event and it ends up being a complete wash and I feel like I've wasted what little free time I have.

It was so much easier to meet girls back in school.

>>18608785

Oh definitely not worth dating, sweet girl, lot of issues. But she is also very a worthy fuck if there aint going to be strings attached.

>>18608791
Survival of the fittest. Quality girls are nonstop in relationships, only the crazy fat ugly arent. Be wary and keep trying
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=snl-WsFm-kc

>>18605899
Just tell her anon. If you're that close, there's a good chance she feels the same.

>>18608664
>>18608766
Not exactly the answer to the question, I'd like to start something before I set up a date because this isn't my first attempt with her but she's been acting a lot friendlier to me lately so I figured I'd talk to her again and see where things go

>>18609341
When you run out of topics to talk about, it is high time to talk about where will you two go on date.

This is how you hunt girls. By asking them on dates. Also try walking around and holding her hand.

>>18609401
See, I'm worried about trying anything, I tried once only to find she was starting something with another guy and we have remained friends since, however, when she was with this other guy I backed off and stopped talking to her. She's been broken up with him for about a month now and im still trying to read if she is even willing to give me a shot again or if I'll just ruin a friendship and make our entire friend group that much more awkward. To be honest I'm hoping she does something obvious enough to show she likes me that I can move forward confidently.

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>>18609457
>remained friends since
Pic related. I hope she is worth the waiting and struggle. Upgrading from back up man to actual bf is no easy feat.

Be bold and ask her on date. Friends are overrated anyway.

>>18609473
We were mutual friends within the same group for years, we never hung out alone, only with groups of like 4 or more. She is really quite the girl, she's unbelievably nice and about as innocent as they come. I'm just worried about asking her on a date because I'm not quite sure what our terms with each other are yet. I may be annoying the hell out of her with my texts and she's just too nice to reply negatively. There's too much uncertainty for me to try again especially with so many close friends intertwined in this whole thing. Are there any subtle hints that she's annoyed that I'm texting her again?