ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Hey grills. So I need to know if there's anyway I can ask a girl to talk more. I know that sounds weird, but hear me out.

Ive started talking to her, she brought up going out on a date first, she's admitted she likes me and thinks I'm cute, she's been super open, all that.

It's just she has school and I think works two jobs because she pays for her own tuition and such, and I can't seem to find a time frame when to talk to her! The only times we've talked have been pretty late at night, but sometimes it seems I'm too late before she goes to bed. It's not like she reads the messages and just doesn't answer either, she just doesn't open them. I don't think it's an ignoring thing, she seems interested but she's just busy (I believe her, she does have two jobs and she's in school, her Facebook tells all).

Anyways, is there a way to maybe bring up that I really like her, and maybe find out if there's times that are optimal for talking, without coming off as desperate? It seems if I double text she responds, which I think is just because it gives a notification, and people have a better chance of checking shit like snapchat if they see a notification after clearing all their alerts.

I don't know, I just really like this girl, and I've told her that. Usually it's just sex for me but I get so excited when we talk and just seeing her message me. I'm by no means desperate, I've gotten laid and there's other girls I talk to, but that's honestly sex for the most part. This girl I dont even really think about that with.

Tl;dr want to talk to girl more but she's always busy, don't wanna give up on her because she's a qt. Wat do

Are most women truly enamored with and believe in the third-wave feminism rhetoric of patriarchal oppression? Or do most people just sort of go along with it? (I'm not trying to make any claims as to the validity of the feminist dialogue)

>>18575473
Protip: The only women who believe in that shit have either
1. Never had a good boyfriend/male role model/father/dicking
Or
2. Go to college for some dumb shit/never working a real job

Once a girl has to work a shit job or she never goes to college, chances are she's going to keep her mouth shut about dumb feminist bullshit. Why? Because with those scenarios, they're forced to be adults, and adults don't spout nonsense like that because they know life isn't fair, and never will be.

>>18575473
>Are most women truly enamored with and believe in the third-wave feminism rhetoric of patriarchal oppression?
I know a lot of women who believe in it. I also know a lot of women who think "we're not oppressed now, I don't hate men lol XD". Truly balanced or well thought out opinions are rare.

MALES
i can't seem to get my point across to my boyfriend.
Him and his ex broke up almost 2 years ago. I never was down for them to be friends and hang out cause shed talk so much shit about me all the time and would want him to choose her over me. Him and i have a child now and he still wants to be friends with her and likes her selfies on instagram and stuff. Pisses me off. Makes me cry. I feel like he just isn't over her (he cries about her sometimes). I wish he'd just focus on our family now or at least stop pretending like he loves me.
Is it ok for me to stick to my ground or am i being stupid??????

>>18575501
I'm a guy and I'd be pretty pissed if my girl was pulling that. As much as I hate it, try to use the kid as leverage, that you don't want her in the kids life because the kid shouldn't have someone trash talking their mom all the time.

>>18575473
>Are most women truly enamored with and believe in the third-wave feminism rhetoric of patriarchal oppression?
You're going to see more women with those beliefs on college campus, especially in liberal arts. They're very loud and seem much more common than they really are. When they do shit like shut down lectures its because they're organizing every retard in the city because they have nothing better to do.

But most women follow a harmless version of feminism. Mostly useless and achieves near nothing, but harmless.

Side note, my friend used to have a best friend who was basically a tumblr stereotype. Freaked out on a mutual friend because he said faggot once even though it had nothing to do with actual homosexuality, believes most men are sexual predators and all other sorts of nonsense. The ironic part is this woman was batshit insane and was basically a predator herself. Turned out she was stalking my friend, stealing her underwear (roommates) and was always trying to pressure her into sexual stuff. I really want to emphasize how delusional those kinds of people are.

>>18575501
>shed talk so much shit about me all the time and would want him to choose her over me
>he cries about her sometimes
These are valid reasons to draw a line in the sand. Drop the instagram issue, it's minor and will detract from your argument.

I cant deal with it

So there was this girl living next door from me,we work together,in the winter we started having sex,she said she didnt want a relationship but we kept having sex,sleep together,talk all night,long story short I fell for her. Hard. One day she told me this cant continue and that I should find someone else and that she met someone and they are going out.I was pissed and told her that she isnt ready for a relationship with ME and she just used me to get her confidence up after her last breakup.I told her that if we cant be together I dont want to have anything to do with her. I blocked her from all social media and deleted her phone and we both went on our leaves in peace.

I thought I was doing fine and forgot about her but today as I was going in my house I heard a male voice in her hiuse,she had a guy over.now he could be anyone but even if they werent fucking one day she will have someone.I cant deal with this.I cant hear her screaming like she used to with me with someone else.she opened the door and said hi and I said,hi and went in. Later I went to the bike shop and she was there and my mind betad the fuck up and told her if she wanted to go for a ride with me.she was happybecause I learned to ride a bike well in just a few days,we didnt talk a lot and went our seperate ways.

Why did I do that? I should have just gone home.I cant get over her but she couldnt give 2 shits about me.all the blocking and shit gone to waste. Why cant I get over her?im 1.80 and shredded and funny,people think I get laid all the time but I pnly had 2 girls have sex with me in my 30 years of age,and one was my ex of 3 years.

>>18575501
Perhaps you should articulate your concerns to him (like how you did here). Even if you're afraid it'll lead to fight. If you don't do it now it may lead to a fight down the line that's bigger than it needs to be.
Tell him how you feel about her past behavior, tell him that their friendship pisses you off, show him that it does make you cry, tell him how you think that he isn't over her, and that you feel like he doesn't love you.
Make sure he really listens when you speak and the same goes for you: really listen when he speaks.

Girls, do you find assholes attractive? Given that he is reasonably attractive, physically speaking.

>>18575525
>When they do shit like shut down lectures its because they're organizing every retard in the city because they have nothing better to do.
My fucking sides.

>>18575528
How can I manage this? Im fine when not around her but every time shes home im eavesdropping on her door and im desperately looking to find someone else but 0 matches on tinder dont help and she is attractive and extremely sexual,everyone wants to bang her. I know in not unnatractive goddamit why do I not get tinder matches or female attention in general? I have tons of meathead friends that im more shredded and much more cultivated and they keep talking about the threesomes they have and say you know for a guy that looks and fights(muay thai) like you I cant believe you act like such a bitch around women or my other coworkers say If I had your body id bang models all day but all I want is a qt chubby girl that loves me.

Maybe she is out of my league.

>>18575471
>>18575471
Pls help

Girls, I'm not seeing someone for a while because she's on vacation with her family. We're close, have been dating for months. I try to ask her how her day was, how she's doing over there, if she's seen anything fun since she got there. Her answers?
>fun
>good
>(After asking what was good) just good
>mostly traffic
I don't get it. You're on vacation, you're seeing all these sights, I see Facebook posts come by with all sorts of activities (from her brothers who I'm also friends with, but still), and you're still just good with the highlight being traffic?

Girls, is it normal to just not want to talk about this sort of thing? I'd love to hear how she's doing, what's on her mind, the amazing things she's seeing. Is it too much to ask? How can I get her to open up?

>>18575565
Also, I try to think of something to talk about every day. Something funny that came up, something cool I did. That kind of thing, so I'd tell her that if she asked how my day was. That too much?

>>18575534
Relatively.
I like assertiveness and men who are able to stand for themselves. I don't like people who harm me or mistreat me, obviously.

Anyone answer me this:

Went on a 3rd date with a girl yesterday, on our date at a nice restaurant some guy facetimes her, and she answers and says to him she's on a date with her boyfriend and points the phone at me so the guy can see me, anyway I do a little salute kind of gesture and she knocks off the phone (I am a million times better looking then him) but also I haven't asked her out yet so not sure if the boyfriend but was just a joke.

But that was weird? Making me jealous?anyway fast forward an hour later eating dessert she says that she was talking to another guy from the app that we met off and he offered her 2 grand a month if she would give him a hand job twice a week...

I didn't want to come off clingy so I was like 'hmmm that sounds like a good deal's

An hour after that she says to me another guy she met off the app wants to pay her to do arm wrestling in a personal studio..

I laughed it off and said you know a guy that will pay you to do everything right.

But I just don't get it, I kind of felt like a cuck, why is she telling me all these other guys and shit?

Oh my way home I was confused, and I messaged her exactly this:

Wtf man, I like you

She said I like you too and sent a kiss emoji and then messaged good night x

I said I don't think you understand, night

Then she sent me a picture she took of us without me knowing.

I'm so confused!!!!!

>>18575651
Leave her alone, she's crazy.

>>18575565
maybe she is bussy don't know how close are you

When/should you start the talk about why she is dating you and the relationship talk.

Obviously the lol why are you dating me is a bad question but i truly want to know if this girl is dating me for a relationship or just for fun.

Why are women so narcissistic when it comes to appearance and status? Why do they need to be reassured of their beauty? Why do women only use their feelings to think rather than use logic? Why do they try to be cute but slutty at the same time?

>>18575661
Dating for months, sat on the beach watching the sunset for hours as we talked about making us official. I'm serious, she's kind of serious but unexperienced so not very sure.

I'd say pretty well close.

>>18575675
> talked about making us official
well how did that work out

>>18575657

I'm thinking the same thing, that or she's playing some weird game but duuude I like her...

I'm thinking since she said she likes me, I'm just gonna back off and chill see what happens.

everyone:

How do you feel about doing 69?

State if you're a girl or a guy

>>18575690
She likes you but kept trying to make you jealous and/or show you she's desirable.

She has insecurity issues. If you wanna date her play it cool and confident and you'll be fine.

But don't expect much. She has issues and they won't go away anytime soon.

>>18575684
She loves me but doesn't know if she's in love with me. Chalks it up to inexperience, and we're trying it for a few weeks. Though she's on vacation now.

>>18575697
Guy
awkward

>>18575704
Why? Have you tried it?

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>>18575669
As a boy? Never. Keep dating her and fucking her hard. Buy her flowers if you wish to. Or engagement ring. Just dont talk about relationship. Sooner or later she will either break up or try to have "accidental pregnancy" with you.

>>18575672
Because for girl her social status is EVERYTHING for her. They are made like this. Pic kinda related. Learn how to deal with it or die alone.

>>18575697
Boy. It is pretty advanced sex move and the logistic can be hard to deal with when she is much shorter than you. And it can be awkward. Even more when she is fat. Or when you are so good at it the other partner forget to suck you.

How do I know if the guy I have a crush on is turned on by me? What kind of body language do you guys show when you're aroused other than a boner?

>>18575722
He looks at you a lot

Is it socially acceptable for a guy to ask a random stranger girl who has headphones or earbuds on, what she's listenning to?

>>18575697
Girl. I dislike it, but I'll do it if it's my boyfriend's fetish.
I love sucking dick, I like being eaten out, but I can't properly focus on giving head when all my blood is rushing to my lady parts.

Girls

When a guy playfully bullies you is does it make you think better/worst about them and is it acceptable for them to do it as a means to become closer to you or should they already know you better firstly? Obviously i'm talking about when it's obvious they're just doing it in good fun not to actually hurt you.

I'm having a hard time determining if this girl is into me, because she's pretty open about her sexuality.

Things that have happened-
>Mentioned that I was one out of the three guys she wouldn't mind having a crush on her in our group
>Talked to me about how she wishes her tits were bigger, sent me a picture of a pornstar with the size she wants

Plus we've had a couple nice long talks, laughs at my jokes.

However, she only rarely hits me up first, and barely responds to snaps.

>>18575699

Thanks will take your advice on board

Me and gf have veen together for a year now and are planning to move in together. We both make roughly 35k a year; however in two years I have the opportunity to take a job in a different province that will pay 50k, with a 10k raise every year until it caps at 80k. After 3 or 4 years i will be able to transfer to my home province without issue. My girlfriend dreams of being a housewife and not having to work but vehemetly opposes this idea of moving away. Says she cant be away from her family like that. This could change our loves greatly how do i explain that to her?

>>18575761
It seems extremely selfish. It's just for 3-4 years.
Tell her she needs to make a little sacrifice, if she wants to be a housewife. Otherwise, she can keep working and stay close to her family, but you go for the job.
Do not miss a chance like that for a year long relationship.

>>18575761
No easy way to do it. My dad had a similar thing with my mom when he wanted to move to Canada (from Bulgaria) and she didn't want to. He basically kind of forced her to but she is grateful for it now.

Fact is that moving in your situation is the mature and logical thing to do. If she can't bring herself to do it you gotta convince her. If she refuses then you gotta do the mature thing and leave on your own. She's putting her immediate comfort zone ahead of you guys' future. That's childish.

>>18575744
>35

Make a move. Seriously dude, come on.

>>18575722
He looks at you. Sits close to you. His personality changes a bit when he's around you. Etc.

>>18575722here
>>18575738
I like it when a guy playfully makes fun of me. For example my crush told me "you'd lose your head if it wasn't screwed on" since I'm a forgetful person.

>>18575534
No. It's over the second you disrespect me. I much rather prefer sensitive guys. He can even be a crybaby.

>>18575672
I wanted to write something long about how you're talking about a figment of your imagination, but you will never accept this anyway, so I will just direct you back to /r9k/.

>>18575669
asking again for a serious response

>>18575811
>he's right and I have no arguments against what he said so I will just call him /r9k/

>>18575785
>35
what does this mean?

Idk man I'm pretty sure she's like this with most guys

>>18575812
Serious response is man up and do it already.

It's just like any of the "does x like me" or "does y think z" questions. Just ask them.

There is no right time to have the talk. Sit down. Talk. Get it over with.

>>18575818
The 35 was an accident due to posting on phone.

And even if she's like that with most guys, who gives a shit. She'll date one of em eventually. Why not you? Make a move. Doesn't have to be too extreme, just push the envelope a little. Hang out alone with her. Get coffee. Something. The worst thing to do is nothing.

>>18575672
>Why are women so narcissistic when it comes to appearance and status?
Because men want attractive women much more than women want attractive men. So women worry about their looks a lot, so they have a chance to attract men.

>Why do they need to be reassured of their beauty?
Because when you spend your whole life being told that you're either hot or worthless, you get insecure about it.

>Why do women only use their feelings to think rather than use logic?
Hormones.

>Why do they try to be cute but slutty at the same time?
Because it gets your dick hard.

>>18575820
yeah but we basically just know each other for 3 weeks or something

>>18575814
Dude, he has presented no arguments either. It's a pure emotional rant disguised as a question. It's not asked in good faith and anyone can see that. Why should I bother to answer seriously?

>>18575834
He's not required to present arguments, he's just asking a question.

>>18575837
A question based on false premises he won't reconsider. It's a waste of time to engage him seriously.

>>18575781
>>18575774
Thats what Ive been thinking, its not even for a long time,just a few years 5 max. The RCMP gives heavy relocation assistance and the pay is amazing and I will be able to do a lateral transfer to ontario in the future. She says if she doesnt see her mom and family every week she will cry non stop (hyperbole i hope) and that she doesnt want our kids to be army brats, which they wont as I want the RCMP to be my way into policing.

>>18575840
Half of what he said is true. Just because #notallwomen are like that doesn't mean he's wrong.

>>18575736
No. But then again, it was never socially acceptable to pursue and ask girls on dates. But it is what we have been doing for centuries and it works. So grow some balls and chat ladies up. Or die alone.

>>18575744
Ask her on date. Once she refuses / evades question, you got your answer.

>>18575812
Well, i tried, but you are even rude. Guess good luck then? Dont forget to tell her how much you love her and watch her body language while doing that. It will be very educational experience for you. Just dont return back crying about
>why girls want only bad boys?

>>18575856
Ah yes endlessly dating while staying in some kind of grey zone or purgatory is the best idea.

>>18575842
RCMP is a great career choice. Once you're in they take care of you for life.

That is way too good of an opportunity to pass up. Tell your girl to grow the fuck up or go find an actual adult to date.

Girls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12pGfOXg6X4

are you all seriously like these youtube sluts?

>>18575872
>endlessly
If you picked right girl, she simply wont allow you to do that. She will want you all for herself alone sooner or later. Just have some value as husband tier bf and she will do all the relationship talk for you.

Ask her some dangerous questions like
>what is your opinion on marriage
>how many children do you want
>who should work? Wife? Husband? Both? Who should do laundry? Dishes?
Also you can escallate things yourself without ever talking about relationship nonsence. Simply ask her to move with you somewhere.

Girls are jealous and socially skilled by default. They wont wait long and force the monogamy on you themselves. That is if you managed to find mature girl. If you are dating some 17 years old horny teen, there obviously wont be any of that.

What are your and her age?

>>18575885
hers 20 me 23. Glad you are responding in a more serious way i mean i feel like there are some good parts.

> Girls are jealous and socially skilled by default. They wont wait long and force the monogamy on you themselves. That is if you managed to find mature girl. If you are dating some 17 years old horny teen, there obviously wont be any of that.

like this

>>18575891
>hers 20
No. There wont be any long term relationship. I bet she is still in school. You are dating child in sexy female body. Try to find somebody in the same age category or even older.

Even if you marry her two years later, she will still be 22 and that is the best chance to have divorce later. Just date her casually and expect nothing in the long run. The brain is finished aroung age 23~25. Until then, whatever she tells you, next morning she can turn 180 degrees on the same opinion.

Find mature girl or at least dont expect serious bussiness from dumb teenagers.

>>18575903
I find it odd that you are assumingi'm thinking about marriage already. I just want to be exclusive with this girl that's it basically.

>>18575909
And i am telling you wont be. What is the point of exclusivity for her? She either is honest old school / shy girl which does monogamy by default or not. In either case talking about relationship will either be redundant or it will make her run away from you.

And what for you need exclusivity yourself when marriage is not in the question yet? Just stop thinking so hard about nonsence and ask her on date / fuck her hard already.

Girl wants to leave her bf for me, is this a bad idea? Claims she has never cheated before and i make her feel special.

Both of us are in relationships.

>>18575948
Is she actually cheating on him with you, or she just wants to leave him for you?
Is her current boyfriend really shitty, or is she just bored with him?
How much do you care about your current girlfriend?

>>18575950
We have not had sex but made out and slept with each other naked..

Says she has never loved him and she doesnt want to be with him.

I care about my gf but i dont see any future, and i dont see any reason to be with her now i have cheated.

Would a girl just flat out say that she's sucking a dick tonight when she's going out with a three guys and another girl if she wasn't talking about one of the guys in the group

>>18575974
Is it somewhere private? Or like a club/bar? If it's the latter, no guarantee it's one of the three guys. Just sounds like she's saying that's what she's going out for.

>>18575998
She had mentioned it to me in the back of the cab on the way to the bar we were going to, and once a little bit before that just kind of directed at no one in particular

>>18575473
The radical man haters are about as numerous as the radical MGTOW's. They're small in number but loud as hell and usually only congregate online.

Now, I would say most women would call themselves a feminist, but most are not radical about it. They may have some opinions on things like reproductive rights and health care, and some smaller aspects of social issues. Like, the majority might say there are issues with women being harassed, but aren't screaming about how being told to smile more counts as harassment. You understand?

Me personally, I don't think there's really anything legally or socially holding women back in the US anymore at least, the only real "feminist" issue I give credit to is the ongoing battle in reproductive rights and medical rights. But, I also give nods to the opposition, it's a can of worms and there are no good compromises that can be made that don't heavily favor one side or the other. I get it's a complex issue regardless of which end you're fighting on. And I also understand that it's not just a woman's battle, that men are struggling for rights of their own as well in other aspects of medical care.
But to me the "issue" of dudes saying "Hurrr nice ass!" to me on the street, or how women typically choose to take on jobs with less pay or choose to take on more "traditionally female jobs" despite totally having the physical capability of choosing to do otherwise without anyone stopping them, or the fact I can't legally walk around with my tits out the same way men can in most places, I just do not see them as "injustices" really worth wasting my breath on like the radfems do.

>TL;DR
The majority of women are not radical feminists, however the majority of women will also not just sit by and let you trash their whole gender either.

>>18575971
You kind of answered your own question mate.

>>18575534
Nope.
But "nice guys" typically confuse assholes with confident men who know how to lead.

There's a difference between a guy who knows what he wants and has the drive to get it, and a guy who will use, abuse, and put down a girl all the way through.

>>18575845
>Half of what he said is true
On what basis. The 4 women you've ever made eye contact with?

In that case let me flip the script
>Wah why are all men just wanting to put their dicks in things, they aren't capable of love or affection its all about sex. Why are men so obsessed with image that they won't ever date anyone and only fuck 10/10s??? Why are men so constantly agressive and just want to rape and murder women instead of using their brains they think with their dickss????

I met one dude that was a dick so that means most of them are right? Just because #notallmen are dicks doesn't mean I'm wrong.

You see what you sound like.

Anyway 5/10 got me to respond, troll elsewhere plz. Like r9k.

>>18575697
Girl,
never tried it but it sounds awkward and unappealing, bodies likely wouldn't line up right with how short I am, with the curvature of the dick coming at it from the top seems awkward to me as well. Would rather just take turns.

Wouldn't be opposed to trying though if he really wanted to. I just have no care to initiate it myself.

So what do I do if I ask a girl out to see a movie and the movie I suggested she has already seen. Do I go, "Oh okay, want to see X instead?"

>>18575736
Nope.
Think about the classic airplane scenario. You're sitting on an airplane, just trying to tune out the world and get through your commute, and the guy next to you is constantly interrupting your song trying to talk to you and you do not want to talk.

Headphones are the universal sign of "don't bother me".

>>18575697
Gorro here. Either I focus on the dick and miss the pleasure, or I focus on the pleasure and stop sucking. Don't really see the point.

>>18576045
Gorro, are you kidding me you dumb phone. I meant girl.

>>18575880
I can't relate to this woman at all. However, I am in my mid 20s and have been in a relationship for 6 years.

Why do you think she is like all other women?

>>18576055
Don't respond to the b8 anon, any post that even smells remotely of "All women are the same" comes from r9k and their sole purpose is to derail these threads. It already started above, with I'm sure the same poster, don't feed into it.

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Girls is this fetish to creepy for you wanting to know about even if you have been together for months?

to explain it: grown women dressing up as little girls

my gf has asked me about my fetishes but ive never said this one because im to scared.

Reposting.

For both, I guess -
I'm a major shut-in and I've avoided people for most of my life, but I think I'd like to try actually getting out and dating. There are a few problems with that, mostly that I tend to have really horrible anxiety and I'm sort of afraid of relationships, but I'm more terrified of the thought of dying alone than I am of potential heartbreak or vulnerability. So I have two questions, actually:
>Guys, what would you think of a girl like this?
>How can I be less uncomfortable with putting myself out there?

>>18576063
It borders on loli territory which borders on pedophilia, so yes it's a risky fetish to share and there are probably lots of people who find that creepy.

But, it's not pedophilia because you will only engage with women of age, you just want them to look cutesy and young. So it's not that bad, it's just the implications of it that's bad.

Regardless, if you have a stable relationship you should be able to discuss it. Even if she thinks its off and refuses to participate if she loves you she'll just brush it off.

If you're really concerned, you might just phrase it a different way. Might say your attraction is to "women dressing like cute little dolls" or something. Same kind of concept and clothing choice, but takes the edge off the subtle hinting at "underage girls" aspect.

>>18576063
That's creepy to me, anon.

Anything that has anything to do, even slightly, with children is a complete no.

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Question for everyone; is couples enjoying porn together some what normal/common?
Viewing it has a window into one anothers' sexuality could it even be healthy so long has pornography isn't a problem, addiction, for one of them? That is to say so long as there isn't any sense of being lost in it.

Seems like where I mainly see this is situations were the gals are trying to level with/help the guy, but the idea that it could just be shared and almost a form of communication seems nice.

>>18576078
>>Guys, what would you think of a girl like this?
Its fine, but you'll be dealing with your counterpart if you think that's fine.
>>How can I be less uncomfortable with putting myself out there?
Keep stuff online meet in public areas.

>>18576130
I've never done it but I also do not find anything wrong with porn whatsoever. I don't care if my guy watches porn, I'm not threatened by it at all. I will continue to watch porn myself as well regardless of my relationship status.

I suppose the only reason I've never actually watched porn with someone else is 1 because I haven't been in a formal relationship in over 5 years, and 2 because I guess I never felt the need to. Every relationship I've been in we've been able to discuss kinks and sex pretty openly without having to show one another videos. And I guess to me porn has been so intertwined with masturbation it would be hard for me to like, focus on my partner and the porn at the same time. Feels like it would just end up being more like mutual masturbation than cooperative sex.
But, that's just me. I don't think there's anything wrong with watching porn with your partner and I certainly see how it could be a romantic/unifying experience for a couple.

>>18576078
>Guys, what would you think of a girl like this?

its like a dream come trough, always have wanted to meet a girl that is in a similar situation

>How can I be less uncomfortable with putting myself out there?

no idea, i have terrible confidence

>>18576078
>>Guys, what would you think of a girl like this?
I prefer more shy/reserved girls, and I was a major shut in in the past so I can understand, but if I feel like you can't support me as much as I can support you I'm probably not going to be as interested. I don't want a relationship that fosters too much dependence.
>>How can I be less uncomfortable with putting myself out there?
Practice, even if its just hanging out in public by yourself in the park or something, it helps a lot. Remember that you most likely won't be 100% outgoing and extremely confident, ever, but you can definitely improve more than you can imagine.
Also, get enough sleep.

>>18576020
>But "nice guys" typically confuse assholes with confident men who know how to lead.
This.

>>18576186
>I don't want a relationship that fosters too much dependence.
This is what I was thinking would be the issue, thank you. So it's really as easy as just interacting with people?

>>18576223
>So it's really as easy as just interacting with people?
Yup. You'll feel a lot better once you start to feel like you can handle day to day communication.

>>18576130
It seems awkward as fuck. I don't watch porn and I wouldn't watch it with my bf.

me and the girl im dating were drunk and fucking the other night and I accidentally surprise buttfucked her and it was extremely painful to the point where she was crying/hyperventilating, etc.

calmed her down a bit but it was kind of funny desu

>>18576043
Sux but I guess you are totally right. I personally love it when people ask me what I'm listening to because it means they care about music too. I only hate it if they bother me with something unrelated to music (in that case my headphones do mean "dont bother me"). But I'm a guy so it's probably different.

>talk with girl
>turns out she's genuinely autistic
>she only talks about the past instead of interesting ventures in the present

Guys, I commited a wrong and I'm ready to die.

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Girls:

Whats the best way to be good friends with a girl, like a deep friendship, someone I can.ejoy being with? I'm a sixty minute man when it comes to relationships I'm not passionate about.

However I do want a solid female friend who I can talk to. fWB is a plus, but ideally want to hit the intellectual side of her Frist.

An advice?

What does it mean when you went on a 3rd date with a girl, you both say you like eachother.

The next day she nor have I texted her.

I was at work where as she doesn't work so in my mind im thinking you have all day to message me and you didn't therefore I won't message you either.

Petty? Or good plan?

>>18576363

I don't see a problem. Is there a clause stating that you should text each other often?

Your intent to not text because she didn't text is petty and counter productive

>>18576363

just text her man jesus christ

stop making mind games out of a simple text message

here´s a question for the girls
its often said girls have a need for physical contact or they go crazy, is this true?

>>18575697
Guy, Girlfriend used to not want to do it, now it is pretty convenient if we both want oral.

Though like people say, she'll stop if I go too much

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Guys, would you date a girl with a past drug addiction? One that was prescribed for actual pain relief/prescribed by pain management/legal?

I've been struggling with my doctors for years now to get off pain medicine and have almost tapered down completely; my sex drive was literally god, so much so that I thought I was asexual.

However, now that I'm almost off the medicine and regaining my senses/clarity, I realize just how badly I want to love someone, but don't want my baggage to scare them. I don't have mental cravings, as I was only physically dependent on it for muscle damage due to brain surgery and lupus. I'm on a nerve damage medication/antimalarial (used for autoimmune diseases) to take care of the latter, now.

Would this be too big a risk for you guys?

>>18576527
literally gone*

sorry for typo

>>18576527

My boyfriend had a six year benzo addiction when I met him. He was also heavily into stimulants and regularly spent days snorting everything he could order legally online (prior to the ban).

I've known him a long time and although I worried for his wellbeing (physically and mentally), it didn't stop me falling in love with him. I don't use at all, I have a good job and I'm pretty well organised.

Shortly after we started seeing each other, he decided he wanted to wean himself off everything. It was challenging but now he doesn't take anything at all. We have a lovely life together and I couldn't be more proud of him.

If somebody truly cares for you and you care aboit yourself enough to improve your life, they should stick by you and support you. It's when these addictions become damaging that people have to choose to move on.

You seem to have a good hold on things, so I think it's very likely that you will be able to meet somebody and fall in love. Good luck!

>>18576434
Everyone is different.
Personally, I don't typically want physical contact at all and usually don't make an effort to do any unless I feel that the other person wants/needs it or the situation calls for it.
That being said, if I'm hugging someone goodbye it will still be a genuine hug and not one out of a feeling of responsibility.

>>18576434
not at all, I hate being touched because I'm so socially awkward and I rarely care about the person wanting to say good bye, so it often comes off as insincere.

Do women hide their amount of sexual partners? What do they consider to be a sexual partner? As I have heard sometimes women disregard and don't count a partner if they weren't satisfied by him.

A woman once told me she had a fast fuck at vacation. Why? For what reason?

>>18576662
instinct

>>18576665
I mean, why did they tell me when wasn't asked, not why did they have fuck in the first place. Actually I felt disgust.

What would motivate a girl to shave her head? It's not related to cancer

>>18576380

But why don't she text me instead! I feel like a bitch, I've been telling her that I really like her she says it back but I don't want to keep being the one doing the chasing or wondering, even though I am wondering I don't want her to know

>>18576662

I made a similar comment above where I was on a date with a girl and she was telling me about all these guys have offered her money for hand jobs etc

And I don't really get the point, was she trying to make me jealous? Or does she think it's a turn on and I want to know that shit?

Like you, I have no idea why they come out with that shit

Was definitely a turn off for me, though I still like the girl I went on a date with

>>18576380

Oh also, this is stupid but we message via WhatsApp so you can see when someone is online etc and she has been online and hasn't messaged me.

>>18576662
I wouldn't expect to discuss number of sexual partners with a guy in the first place.

I just split up with my gf of 4 years because i cheated on her.

I feel like a piece of shit, but did i do the right thing my ending it and telling her.

Girls

Would you really walk in front of my cubicle every single day to show that you like me? When you could have an easier and closer path to where you're going.

If you see a guy and lock eyes for a few second, and when you can see the guy in a distance, would you fidget around and try so hard to not look at the guy but still look anyway? If I say hi and try to spark a convo would it freak her out? She knows im looking at her as well.

Might be reading too much on this. Do we men really hardwired to get the signals or its just a meme? Fuck! Answer both question, since its different girls.

Need all of these answered.

>>18576860

>Cheated on his gf

>Claims to have done the right thing by telling her and ending it

Real gentlemen we got here

>>18576701
Liking the look of it, preferring comfort over looks, not caring about the look

I've considered doing it too

>>18576982
what about attention seeking behavior?

>>18576995
Most people seek attention in different ways, like doing something unusual or trying to look attractive in a conventional way, what's the problem

I want to be kinder to my boyfriend. I'm very insecure as a person (trying my hardest to work on this) and stressed as of late. I feel like I'm taking it out on him. For example, today I got a little bitchy with him for teasing, something he does because he knows I usually love it. I know it hurt his feelings since he was just trying to do something to please me. How do I learn how to relay when I'm not feeling great about something better? I want to be open about things, but I have no clue how to do so in a healthy way, and I don't want to have to do it so often that it turns into something emotionally draining for him. He's a very busy guy with a caring heart and I don't want to drag him down into the pits with me. I love him more than anything in the world and want to fix my behavior so he doesn't have to second guess how I feel about him or how he should feel about himself.

>>18576865
If I like someone I'm going to try and create situations where I can interact with them. Can't really speak for the latter. That said, just try and find an excuse to talk to the girls and see what they do when talking regardless of your concerns. You'll get better metrics like how engaged they are or if they do things like playing with their hair while chatting and make better decisions from there. It's easier to tell that the person they're actually interested in is you when it's one on one.

>>18576038
Pretty much yes. Or try ice cream.
>but anon, i have already eaten ice crem
Lol.

>>18576345
Get a male friend instead.

>>18576527
You dont have to tell them such a thing on first date. Date first and tell them this after multiple sex sessions. They will probably tolerate it well enough.

>>18576662
I hope they do. The smaller the number, thr better. Please ladies, deny it all.

>>18576865
Ask her for her phone number amd text her after work. Invite her to dinner?

>>18577188
>kinder
Easy. Before you speak, shut up first and think about what are you going to tell. Or dont tell anything. Ussually works too.

The fact you know what is the problem and trying to fix it is good enough.
>he probably knew you didnt mean any harm and blames it on your period

Everyone, I guess.

When to stop persuing a girl?

>>18577337

As soon as you have to "pursue". When she blows a date off twice and doesn't even try to set one up herself, then you can give up knowing you did your best and she just isn't interested.

>>18577344

Thanks, Anon. Another question:

Is it wierd to start a conversation with a girl you barely know over Facebook? How can I approach this? Do I text her every now and then and after a few weeks I invite her on a date?

Women of /adv/, how many instances of orgasm-less sex would it take for you to end a fuckbuddy scenario with a man?

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I'm just friends with this girl, but everyone is saying she's leading me on.

Why? How?

>>18577188
Be mindful. Prevention is better of course. But It's also better to note it right away and apologize if you realize you're being hurtful.

They key is communication, you should tell him exactly what you told us. I think he will be understand and admire your intentions.

God speed.

>>18577352
>Do I text her every now and then and after a few weeks I invite her on a date?

How do you know she'd even be interested on a date? Don't make a plan before even talking to her.

>Is it wierd to start a conversation with a girl you barely know over Facebook?

I personally don't do it, but it worked for some friends, so I guess it depends on your ability to be interesting over chat. I'm not. Maybe you'll do better. Just remember what I said above. Slow down.

>>18577361
Good sex doesn't require an orgasm. For me, there's things that will get me physically closer to an orgasm, and then there's things I find mentally hot. Mentally, I need a guy to be rough with me, bite me and spank me. But when I'm ready to cum, if he spanks me while going down on me, that hinders my ability to cum.

If I'm attracted to him, if I think the sex is good, it doesn't matter if I have an orgasm or not. It's silly to expect someone to get me to cum in a few or a lot of times.

>>18577364
Why do they think she's leading you on?

What the drive to get pregnant like?
From my end, it feels like something I'd never want to experience, but impregnating others does. It's this itch like you're marking something as yours, like a territory. It's got emotions of power and love mixed up in it, the desire to find a woman to fill up with a baby.

So what's the inverse of that like?

>>18577435
I find the idea of my boyfriend cumming inside me hot, but the idea of being pregnant disgusts me. I will never have a child. My fetish for having cum inside me ends right there and does not extend the slightest into being impregnated. I do like the idea of him marking his territory, but I have him do that by biting me. The thought of him marking his territory by giving me a baby makes me want to vomit.

>>18577364
Because they think you are only pretending to be her friend in order to fuck / date her like majority of boys do. And they all know she will NEVER want to have sex / relationship with you.

But you played them all along by actually giving 0 fucks about her and putting her into friendzone first.

>>18577443
I really wonder if we ever find the failed genome which does this and if we will decide it is another heritable disease we need to cure.

How old are you? Maybe you still have time to get the baby fever.

I'm 23. My older sister wanted children at this point in her life, and my mother already had children by my age. Given how I feel about babies and children, I highly doubt I'm ever going to get the baby fever. My boyfriend doesn't want children either, so it works out nicely!

>>18577506 Lol this was in response to >>18577492

My bad

>>18576701
Mental breakdown. I know one girl that keeps fucking with her hair because of "anxiety" even though she has nothing going on, and has one of those retarded half shaved head things going on because of it by her own admission. Britney Spears would also be a famous example.

>>18577506
I give you 6 years tops. Dont be mean to your bf once you decide it is time for baby and he wont cooperate. Still, "accidental" pregnancies happens all the time.

>>18576527
>Would this be too big a risk for you guys?
50/50, anyone saying it's not something they care about is lying to you or also use substances on a regular basis. However it's not anything you can change and trying to lie about it will just turn that coin toss into a near universal no.

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How can a woman be this perfect?

>>18577535
I am on birth control and am considering an IUD, we also use the pull out method, and he brought up getting a vasectomy. Why do you feel I will inevitably want a baby?

>>18576662
I guess the main reason would be that I don't want to feel shamed about my past that literally has nothing to do with me physically.

I tell everyone it's 3 but it's really 5.

It's not that the ones I don't mention "didn't count", it's more that the scenarios were slutty and I was irrational.

The two I don't mention were:
-a guy I met online, dated, then got into a relationship when I was 18 and he was 21. He ended up cheating on me with a 14 year old scene girl only like 2 months into the relationship. It just has all terrible vibes about it. We have no mutual friends and I would just rather not bring it up.

The other was a hook up with a friend that I just shouldn't have hooked up with. We were friends for like 10 years and hooked up impulsively one night (we'd hung out platonicly for years, never thought he saw me that way). He gave me chlamydia. We both act like this never happened and stopped being friends. I don't want any of our mutual friends to know any of this.

>>18577376
>Why do they think she's leading you on?

That's the thing when I ask the one guy I can ask, he doesn't know.

>>18577492
I mean I'd fuck her sure, but she's genuinely a cool person, that's why I hang out with her.

>>18577542
I am visiting adv for like the 2nd time ever and I'm pretty sure I saw you post that chick before.
Do you honestly have nothing better to do??

I need help. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now. Shes an 8/10 gorgeous smart girl. Pretty much everything ive wanted in a significant other. The problem is that when we have sex, i feel absolutely nothing. Blowjobs are fine and i can stay hard but once we start fucking its like her vagina is "too" smooth. I feel like my dick is just sliding in and out of something and theres no real stimulation. Ive never had this problem with any other girl. It starts off great because shes pretty tight but once that inital feeling is gone i start to get soft. There is no feedback. Shes super wet too its not like shes dry. Im not small down there either so I dont understand why its like that. How do i bring this up to her? Also, could I even make my penis more sensitive? If this persists for a few more weeks should I just break it off? I care about her alot but the sex apart from foreplay is terrible.

>>18577636
How often do you masturbate? How often do you watch porn? How close do you feel to her? How safe do you feel around her? Do you feel safe to be vulnerable with her, or does something hold you back and keep a wall or two up? What have your past experiences with sex been like, both with her and with previous partners?

women

Why are most of you liberal? Why do you make such a big deal out of it and act morally superior? Is it a shit test or are you true believers. If the latter, why and how are you unable to critique it and be civil

Conservative women, where do you exist?

>>18577645
men

Why do most of you generalize? Why do you make such a big deal out of political views and act like a person's political opinions define their worth as a human being and romantic partner? Is it a shit test or are you truly unable to be with someone you have any disagreement with? If the latter, how are you unable to recognize that politics are not the most important thing in life and you can have disagreements and not always see eye to eye with the love of your life?

Empathetic and understanding men, where do you exist?

Girls, what do you think about quiet guys?

>>18577639
Don't masturbate often, maybe every two to three days? I'm pretty close to her, she's met my parents and vice versa. I don't really have a problem confiding in her. I had a bad breakup with my ex and was pretty closed off for a year and a half but with her I'm more open. With her every time we had sex I would never finish. It got to the point where she would be kinda frustrated/sad when I wouldn't. With my previous partners sex just "felt" better from a purely physical standpoint. The girl before my gf would be able to make me cum. It wasn't like she fucked me better but just the feeling of her vagina felt better I guess. It felt great. With my current gf it just feels warm and smooth but not massaging me while I fuck her. I don't really know how to explain exactly.

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>>18577651
>Why do you make such a big deal out of political views and act like a person's political opinions define their worth as a human being and romantic partner?
Political views are generally defined by personal values. I'm friends with actual marxists, but I would not be interested in building a life with one.

>>18577658
I started dating a quiet guy because he was kind and gentle. We've been together over 6 years now. Now, I'm the more quiet one in social situations, but I talk more when we're together. My one stipulation about quiet guys is that they open up and let me into their world once they feel safe.

>>18577668
So you'd describe yourself as quiet too?

I've been described as quiet all my life. A lot of people say I'm shy but now that I'm in my early 20s I feel like I creep people out. I'm just not too social around people I don't talk to regularly.

Can people develop psychological disorders from watching too much hentai? I know too much porn can make it hard for a guy to get hard, but will hentai do the same?

>>18577680
I'm an awkward fuck, have been all my life. And one time I ordered pizza on the phone and when they asked if that would be all, I nodded my head yes instead of saying yes on the phone, so I'm decently sure I'm also autistic. I'm 23, and my poor boyfriend can't get me to stop talking unless he shoves his dick down my throat, but when I'm around other people, I'm so paralyzed from overanalyzing my choices of how to respond to people or how to bring a subject up that by the time I've come up with something, I'm getting weird stares from the awkward silence or the subject has been changed to something entirely different

>>18577668
>let me into their world once they feel safe.
Maybe you actually mean what you say but in my experiences people will wax on about this sentiment but dip out if you ever actually do so.

>>18577701
What experiences have taught you that people leave you when/if you ever open up?

>>18577713
>What experiences have taught you that people leave you when/if you ever open up?
This feels like an extremely circular question. I had women in my past that would niggle me because I don't talk about myself very much outside of the present tense, but if I opened up they'd back out or sometimes even ghost me. I've lived a mostly solitary life, with unhealthy relationships and other shit sprinkled about. It's just not a very happy topic for me.

>>18577731
Can you think of specific examples where they backed out or ghosted you?

>>18577699
I'm 23 as well, and I also overanalyze anything with people I don't know too well because I either don't know what to say or don't wanna say the wrong thing. I get nervous as fuck. It feels like making friends and meeting new people is an extremely slow process for me compared to others. I feel like people get bored when they first talk to me.

You and your boyfriend are lucky to have each other. I usually do better socially if I have someone to play off of, or at least I feel a little more comfortable. I wouldn't say I'm completely friendless but it's really me myself and I all the time, might be why I'm so desperate to meet a girl at this point.

>>18577749
You're preaching to the choir dude. I don't really have friends besides my boyfriend because it's so stressful and draining for me to find, and especially maintain, friends.

I would recommend that you find friends or a support system before finding a partner. Despite still being a bit quiet, my boyfriend has some friends, but I don't. It's not fair to my boyfriend, but I rely on him for pretty much all of my social interaction, and it makes me very clingy and needy. He's understanding and okay with it, but I'm hoping I can get some friends so that I don't get sad when he hangs out with his friends and inevitably texts me less often as a result

>>18577684
>Can people develop psychological disorders from watching too much hentai? I know too much porn can make it hard for a guy to get hard, but will hentai do the same?

The reason why it can fuck with guys heads is that it supposedly rewires neural pathways.

How arousal is normally supposed to work is basically:
1.)you get a trigger (I.E. you are with a girl she's starting to take her clothes off),
2.) you process the trigger in your brain and slowly it ramps up through your imagination (I.E. you're now imaging what's about to happen and creating anticipation)
3.) then your are slowly physically stimulated creating further anticipation (foreplay)
4.) You are stimulated and "gratified", flooding your body endorphins

What porn does is make you skip from 1 to 4.

1.) You see an image and it's provocative, and it gets you hard
4.) You get off and your body is flooded with endorphins.

You are watching a preset image/story and NOT using your own imagination or actively thinking, or feeling anticipation, or physical provocation. You are there along just for the ride. (kind of similar to reading a book vs watching a movie.... Or maybe similar to watching a movie about sports and being on a sports team?)

Eventually what happens is that you keep skipping steps 2, and steps 3, and then those parts of your brain just don't get used, and your brain just creates a shortcut from step 1 to step 4. Because it's the quickest way to get the endorphin fix. You basically become hardwired to act like that dog who hears the word whistle and instantly starts thinking of the "treat" he's going to get.

And It doesn't matter if your'e looking at 2d images of women or 2d images of cartoon women. Same shit. It's still a 2d image that you're not interacting with.

Either way it doesn't wreck you, but it does change you.

Or at least that's the theory anyway. up to you if you want to believe or not.

>>18577755
So, would it be a good idea to just filter out guys who watch a lot of hentai out as well then? Because it just seems like A LOT of weebs/nerdy dudes who like anime watch/look at a LOT of anime porn and pics.
If that shit fucks with their mind... Is it even worth trying to get his attention?

>>18577754
>I would recommend that you find friends or a support system before finding a partner
I've thought about this as well for the same reasons you described. Though I feel as if I'd get clingy to my partner anyway since its been so long since I've been in a relationship but I suppose that's another matter. But yes, rebuilding my social circle is something I'm actually working on now. Had a bit of an episode earlier in the year and I alienated myself from everyone I talked to

>>18577769
>If that shit fucks with their mind... Is it even worth trying to get his attention?

That's like probably 80% of the adult male population.

Good luck with finding a guy who DOESN'T watch porn.

But like it said, it doesn't wreck you.
You can be perfectly healthy as a guy even with that, all it does is rewire things slightly to create a shortcut for porn--and that can risk making guys lazy--but that doesn't mean that it breaks things.


As for the weeb shit. No fucking idea. That's up to him and his personal level of degeneracy--just like with anyone else.

>>18575971
>We have not had sex but made out and slept with each other naked..

How does this even happen?

Girls, what would you do if you liked a guy but he seems like he's not into you? How would you act toward him, maybe if you wanted him to make a move?

>>18577862
What? If I liked a guy and I didn't think he liked me back, I wouldn't sit around waiting for him to make a move.

I was going to ask something but then i realized i sounded like a whinny bitch and decided against it.

>>18577896
everyone in this thread sounds like a whiny bitch, might as well post it

>>18577628
> Do you honestly have nothing better to do??

Where do you think you are?

do nerds just always go for hot chicks? My boyfriend is pretty much brilliant annnd I'm the complete opposite. I just keep attracting smart successful men but le ew I think they just want a hot chick for social status. Is this a thing?

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>>18577936
>le ew

>>18577936
all guys want the hot chicks, and smart guys are usually pretty confident. maybe also you open up more to smarter dudes

>start fucking with girl
>she pulls the whole I'm not ready for a relationship right now I need to find myself
>tell her she'll be dating someone within the month and that she needs to cut the shit and tell me if she's in or out
>just want a straight answer
>never get one
>tell her to fuck off
>she's dating another guy within a month
Why do you do this shit? Why can't you just give a straight answer or communicate how you really feel?

There's this girl that often asks how my okc/tinder/dating life is going.

Why?

How do you go about letting go?

>Question for guys

Is it a typical guy thing to not be able to discuss issues in a relationship without getting defensive? If so, how do I work around so my husband won't get defensive?

Problems include:
His past addiction to painkillers and damage it inflicted on me and our marriage. He hid it for over a year until I confronted him about anger issues. It has been 9 months since he has been sober and I'm still having a hard time coping.

I've asked him to build an item for me (not huge) in May and requested it be done by this past weekend. It's still not done. I explained multiple times what I wanted and offered to just buy what I wanted if he was too busy. He showed zero interest until 2 weeks ago and is still not taking my requests into consideration so I will have to modify it myself when he's done (if he finishes).

He's been saying he will sell his car for almost a year now, it's still in the driveway.

He doesn't help with grocery lists, shopping, or meal ideas/cooking, or cleaning despite both of us working full time.

He has a house that he's been "working on" for 5+ years that he's promised would be finished by certain deadlines multiple times and it's not done.

Etc. Etc. I just want to try to help with a plan or something so we can get this shit done.

Opinions on cheating?

anyone can reply

>>18577963
Step One: Stop telling him to do things. I know for me, if there's something I need to do or even want to do, the second someone makes me feel like I have to do it, my motivation dies. And then since his motivation dies but you still want/need that shit done, telling him to do it only makes things worse by portraying you as the nagging wife.

Are you familiar with a book called The Five Love Languages?

>>18577968
Infidelity is always a major blow to a relationship. However, it doesn't guarantee the death of the relationship. Surprisingly, some couples can experience it and come out stronger than before. But it's hard fucking work and requires a lot of communication and empathy--from both sides.

>>18577963

Obviously a guy here;

If I'm defensive about something, it's usually because I have something to hide. I like to think I rarely, if ever pull defensive attitudes in my relationship. I wouldn't want my girlfriend doing it either.

Addiction is a bad thing right away and the rest of your list reeks of someone who never grew out of being a teenager or never actually faced their demons.

Defensive attitudes usually result from not wanting attention drawn to a certain point because they know the truth of it; whether they'll admit it is a very person-to-person basis, but ultimately, they're trying to hide something. It might not be something damning or hugely incriminating-- it might in fact just be a shame that they hide (I have been known to do that myself on occasion).

But realistically, let's squat on this for a moment and huddle: you're asking 4chan /adv/ for advice on why your husband avoids direct discussion about things, stating multiple times that he seems unable to get his adult pants on. I'm a chronic underachiever and a real head-case, but even I stick to deeds I'm doing and I try to help my SO whenever I can. I'm really not a catch, and even I can scratch the non-situational items off your list right away. That's not a good sign to me; I don't give a shit if I impress anyone but writing a grocery list or cooking (even just helping in the kitchen) should not be asked, or even expected. It should be an inherent contribution as an adult.

How old are you two?
What is this 'house' he's been 'working on'? That sounds like a sleazy realtor who shags in his spare home, or a really shitty cover-up for some sort of drug-related dealings (you did mention painkillers).

I understand it seems like kicking them while they're down, but being with a person isn't quite that simple. Committing yourself to their life means you get destroyed when they destroy themselves, and that's not something you can ever be asked to do, or should do.

>>18577968
Guy here

Cheaters that cheat for the thrill of cheating are scum. Cheaters that cheat because they're unhappy and refuse to break it off before they find love with someone else are fine. Fuck societal tabboos, you only have so long to be happy before you're dead

Okay men, here comes a long one.

>So there's a guy I work with, let's call him Rudy.
>I've know him for about a year and a majority of the time whenever we'd talk, it wouldn't be super interesting.
>But most of the time, he would offer me liquor and cigarettes even though he knows I don't do neither.
>He's very flirtatious but I brushed it off as him being friendly.
>two months ago, we get to talking about kinks and fetishes.
>It started off pretty innocent, but then he tells me he's fantasized about me having bondage sex with him.
>told him I was flattered, but he was coming on a little too strong.
>He backed off for a bit.

Cont.

>>18577969
Thanks for the response. I honestly do try to keep from outright telling him to do things (cause it doesn't work). The last time I've brought up any of these issues was when I requested the item to be built by this weekend, a week ago. Specifically I need to use the item this weekend. I guess I just want to be able to vent about things without him feeling like I'm pointing my finger at him. I'm proud of him for being sober, things have been so much better now. But I need help dealing with this still.

I've heard of the book before, I'll definitely read it if you think it will help. I love him, despite how this sounds. I want us to have a successful marriage.

>>18577978

>About 11 days later, he texts me again about bondage.
>I (probably naively) talk to him about it, and then it turns into a very personal conversation about why we're into what we're into.
>He tells me he wants me to dominate him, so I do.
>I indulge his little fantasy for about a day and then he tells me he starts feeling guilty and unfaithful.
>He doesn't text me for about a week.

>The next week, (he doesn't know I am pro domme) I tell him about a new client I acquired, he then tells me that he's a little jealous and he falls back into his fantasy.
>He then tells me he feels guilty again.
>I ask if he even likes me as a friend and not just a sexual thing.
>He says he does like me as a friend and he'll make more of an effort to talk to me as a friend.

Cont.

>>18577954
the straight answer is that her best option is to string you along, which should tell you everything you need to know.

>>18577983
>Cut to about a week later, we go hang out with some mutual friends of ours at a bar (I'm not drinking),
>towards the end of the night we start talking about kinks again,
>but it's more tame at this point and on a more curious than indulgent level.
>He asks if he can have a sip of my water, and he goes in to take a sip but I pull the glass away and tell him no in a flirtatious manner.
>He then leans close and whispers in my ear and says "Yes Mistress (Domme name)" and then he kisses my cheek.

>A few days later we talk like normal humans for once.
>But when it's time for me to leave I see him mouth the words "I love you".
>I reciprocate in a more friendly manner.

Cont

>>18577989
>Fast forwards another week and I run into him at the same bar.
>We both came with separate people but we end up talking a majority of the night.
>Not about kinky stuff but it felt more personal.
>We talk about our teenage years, our jobs, people who get on our nerves.
>It felt like we were really getting along.
>He tells me "it feels like we've always been friends, like we clicked".
>This conversation felt more intimate than our kinky ones.

I need to know because I'm a little confused, how does he really feel about me? Am I just a friend or does he see me as something more? I need to know because I feel like I'm being toyed with.

>>18577978
>>18577983
>>18577989
No one's going to read your novel

>>18577969

Be an adult, goddam. Not everything is about your prissy feelings. That's how kitchens end up smelling like inside-out asshole.

You have responsibilities to account for if you expect to be treated like an adult. You wanna be treated like a kid and lay there 'unmotivated' while other people cook and clean? Fine, but you're going to be treated like a kid.

Seriously, if being asked to do the dishes is gonna be a hangup for you, a relationship just isn't ever going to be anything but a huge, cumbersome mess. Like... no, dude, you have to do things just like an equal. If you're being asked, it's because you clearly don't have the standards that say 'this should be cleaned.' Ignoring your partner's standards for cleanliness because you have a petulant motivation complex, much like teenagers.

You're literally justifying being a lazy shit-- in a relationship, no less.

And then you suggest a fucking book. That's what's going to make a man with anger issues feel loved and understood... taking tips from a self-help book.

>>18577963

>>18577969 <-- This guy is absolutely right.
Stop to put him under pressure, instead, try to ask if he needs any help in building this and that.

Is it OK to not answer on messages immediately? My girlfriend broke up with me, and as far as I think one of the reasons was that she felt unwanted. Girls, how would you react if I read the message and didn't answer immediately?

>>18577972
When I've pressed him in the past about his defensiveness he says it's because he feels like a failure because there's so much he hasn't finished. And honestly I would hate to feel that way and I want him to achieve his goals. I want to help him with these things and make plans to accomplish them but I think he's too ashamed to let me help. He has a very demanding job that says up a lot of his time so I get that it takes longer for things to get done. I work full time but not the extra hours he works.

The house is an old house he inherited from family. The plan 5+ years ago was to fix it up so we could live there (it's paid off). It's a lot of work but he wants to do it himself and not hire help (it's a lot of $$).

I'm 24, he's 28. I feel like he puts a lot of pressure on himself and loses his motivation because of that, maybe?

>>18578000

So he suffers from depression, have you suggested a therapist at any points in your relationship?

See, these are the things we need to know first-hand...

Five years' work on a house is not actually that much unless you're contributing full-time.

It sounds maybe like you two have a rift in understanding that you need an intermediary to gap because it might seem foreign to you two. From where I'm standing, your first post painted him a manchild; your second post painted him working more hours and taking on more side-work than you. These are dangerous comparisons.

I still think cooking and cleaning for oneself is a fucking given, though. Seriously, that's just adulthood. You don't have to like it, you just have to do it.

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>>18577978
>>18577983
>>18577989
>>18577995
fuck reading all that shit

>>18577982
I can give you a quick rundown of the book, I recently went through it.

There's five love languages: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation (compliments and kind words), acts of service (doing the laundry, washing the car, building things), and giving gifts. Everyone has their own primary love language, and rarely do you encounter a couple where both people have the same native tongue. As a result, when partners try to connect and express their love for each other the best way they know how, it can feel like one of you is speaking Greek and the other is speaking Korean. It's important to speak to your partner in their primary love language so that they understand you're showing your love. It's equally important for you to learn your partner's primary love language so that you can recognize when they're trying to speak their love to you, even if it might be in language you don't understand.

Another concept in the book is the love tank. When you do something that makes your partner feel loved, it fills up the tank. On a full love tank, your partner feels super loved and happy and secure--and much more likely to respond to requests, though this shouldn't be your primary motivation. On the other hand, running low on fuel means feeling unloved and insecure. They might lash out or feel unmotivated and withdraw. That's a big reason why it's so important to have lots of positive experiences with your spouse to buffer against the inevitable negative ones. If they're running on a full tank, conflicts are easily handled. If they're running on empty, those conflicts can seem like huge hurdles.

>>18578002
I apologize for the widely different paintings of our marriage. It's honestly hard to explain everything without writing a massive novel. I was very very frustrated while writing the first post and honestly needed a little bit of a vent.

I have considered that he could be depressed but he has very strong feelings about therapists and medication for depression. He has helped me through a bit of a depression in the past and really my number 1 goal is to help him so we can continue to support each other. It's misleading to me sometimes because he portrays a strong front but when it's probed he has some problems.

And I know I shouldn't lay all of my issues on him while he's feeling down, which is why I came here. I feel like I'm being very confusing in typing all of this, but I'm trying to work through it at the same time I'm typing. Getting it out just seems to help.

However, he has been accused of being a man child by a co worker in the past. He also doesn't have a stellar role model in his father.

Also, just note that I'm by no means perfect myself. I am a stickler for plans and tend to panic when there's no plan or plans fall apart. I'm still working on that.

>>18577999
>>18577969

I need to know if you guys have partners and I'm curious to know your ages.

I would probably immediately leave a relationship where my partner could not be asked to do the dishes.

I'm your fucking partner, not your god damn father. If you want to exact your parent fetish, do it with someone who actually wants that; when our kitchen needs cleaning, it needs cleaning. That's not some option. Putting it off makes it worse, and chances are it's already at the point of 'bad' which a kitchen should not be.

I am wrestling very hard with the concept that a self-respecting adult would provide resistance to being asked to clean.

>>18578017

Once more, I still strongly support that adults need to stand on their two feet. I suffer my own trauma but I respect that I must keep that as my burden, because everyone carries their own. As our exchange vividly details, there are two sides to every story. Venting is okay, but do be careful when relaying this story where you aren't typing it or where people affiliated to him are concerned.

Depression is a terrifying monster that consumes your life and lets the damage spill outward. Unclean homes are usually kept by the depressed, as an easy cop-out example. (Not that this is a slight to you or him) While I too stand pretty firmly against medication, just talking with a therapist eventually gave me the strength I needed to come out of a rut of depression that had held me for well over ten years, just by as much as a fresh perspective with an educated angle. It might not sound like much, but then, the mind really isn't that objectively concerned about that kind of thing-- sometimes, all they need is to hear it from the outside, laid out, with the facts in front of them.

Suggest that maybe talking to him, or maybe something that involves couples' therapy is good. In your position I would assure him wholeheartedly that you never want to put him on pills; you want his happiness to be something he can have for himself. It's important to you and that's clear now; I know others are going to tell you to give space and stuff, but make it clear that you intend to stand by him through the thick and the thin. Assure him he won't lose you; just that you're afraid of him losing himself.

Above all, never be afraid to just hold the poor thing and let him cry. That's some serious faggot-tier advice but I'm serious.

>>18578020
Clarification on our usual chores,

He washes majority of dishes and some clothes, takes the trash out. He usually expects a home cooked meal almost every night, which is where we have conflict. Especially when I was on 12 hour shifts.

I do dishes, laundry, all cleaning, all meal ideas, all grocery shopping, all cooking, I keep up with spraying for bugs, etc.

Sometimes his expectations of home cooked meals don't match what I churn out (I get tired of cooking all the time, I bring leftovers for lunch while he eats out majority of lunches) and it causes me to feel like what I'm doing isn't good enough for him.

>>18578020
Just because someone tells me to do the dishes doesn't mean I'm going to throw a tantrum and not do it. I'm going to do it because it still needs to be done, but now I'm going to be upset about it. When it feels like I have to do something, it no longer feels like I'm helping out my partner. It just feels like I'm being commanded, which doesn't feel very respectful.

There's a difference between kindly requesting someone to do the dishes and telling someone to do the dishes. You can kindly request someone to put the laundry in the dryer, or you can say "Those clothes are going to get moldy sitting in the washer, you should've put them in the dryer hours ago!" Either way, it'll probably get done, but one way is much more likely to breed resentment.

I'm 23, and I've been in a relationship for over 6 years.

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>>18577960

Please Respond

>>18577995
He might just want to fuck

>>18578040
Who is this girl? Is she your friend?

>>18578028
Thank you for all of your responses, truly. I see so much good in him I just want him to feel that good. I have never and will never speak of any of this to anyone familiar with either of us because frankly, it's not their business.

We both have a lot to work on, but I told him when we got married that I took our vows seriously. I don't consider divorce an option for us when I know we're strong enough to overcome any obstacle together.

>>18578036

>now I'm going to be upset about it
>23

You got a few years in you yet. You'll get over it.

I mean, I was assuming you weren't dating someone who yelled at you. When I say 'tell,' I mean I go to my partner, I say, "Hey sweets, we need to do some dishes." If she has a reason not to, she'll say so.

The complex is still yours. It's not about your motivation, and you said so yourself. Nobody wants to do the dishes, and nobody wants to scrub floors; nobody's passionate about chores. They're chores. That's why we say shit like 'this feels like a chore,' because it's something we don't want to do but have to.

You're not supposed to really feel motivated even, I'd argue. Recognition of, and following through with, the fact that you have to do them is really all that matters.

I'm glad that you and your partner work with it (I assume), but my partner and I haven't ever really split hairs on it. We never feel motivated to clean... we just know it has to be done. Most often, we just independently bit-clean constantly, such as clearing off a side table or rinsing a serving's worth of dishes. That's my lifehack for you, clean as you go. If you form the habit, you forever eradicate those hour-long dish pits in your own home.

I'm probably sounding like an asshole, but that's life. Your motivation would be helpful, but it's most certainly not required-- nor considered, most times. It's a valuable life skill to swallow work with a straight face.

Trade for trade: 26 and 5 years, rounding on 6.

>>18578042

Yes, she's a friend.

>>18577876
Well, let's say this guy is a close friend of yours. So you're kind of still around him anyways. And you don't know if he thinks of you as just a friend or something more.

>>18577968
Pretty disgusting. A friend of mine linked me to this board about people trying to cope on being cheated on, and I'd never want to subject myself to that. I remember one guy talking about how he no longer makes actions to benefit the relationship but to benefit himself because he can't just view his partner in the same way anymore.

I don't hate myself enough to subject myself to that.

>>18577968
basically the worst thing you can do in a relationship
there is never a good reason for cheating, no matter the circumstances, just break it off if you aren't happy anymore
that being said, it's not necessarily a reason to break up, but it's always a huge blow to the relationship and I don't plan on ever doing it and hope I'll never have to experience it either

>>18577968
Scientifically makes women more attracted to you.

>>18578093
So I'd make a move myself and depending on his reaction, act accordingly. Most girls aren't going to do anything though.

So basically I was talking with my gf that I'm going to buy a phone this month, that I wanted since december. Yes, it's cheap ( 250€ ), but still, it's my dream. I do work alot in order to suport me and my gf. Și, my gf replies with : "I would never buy such a cheap Piece of shit!".

So ladies, how would you react to this, if the roles were swapped ? Why are you women such douchebags ?

Thanks for your time !

Guys, what do you want me to do with my hands when we're kissing especially if I'm 5'5" and my boyfriend is 6'2?

>Had some chemistry with a friend, but never act on it because I was still a sour ass after a bad relationship
>By the time I got over it, she had moved on
>I try to focus on my own shit and just take it as a lesson learned.

The issue? We've been talking a lot lately but she keeps trying to bring up her casual sex adventures. I'm 90% sure she knows it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Any input on what her motivation might be?

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>>18578042
>>18578075

Well??

>>18578173
Why not sit in his lap while kissing?

Alright, I'm just gonna describe the conundrum I'm in here and accept advice from both males and females. Might end up being like more of a "get it off your chest" thing, but oh well.

So I'm in love with this girl that I'm extremely close friends with. I didn't realize my feelings for her until about a month ago, so I ended up screwing myself over beforehand. I'd tell her that I didn't see her that way or whatever. Now, I'm really confused about her behavior and our relationship, and I think it could possibly be because of all this. See, the girl is away for this family reunion thing at the moment, and she's really terrible at communication over the phone. That or she's just consciously putting no effort into talking to me. She won't initiate any conversations, and she seems kind of aloof when I try to talk to her. It sucks. I feel like we're becoming more and more distant, and I'll end up being not nearly as close of friends as we were many months ago.

She's always seemed to flirt with me a lot, though. Always laughing at my dumb jokes, teasing me, etc. She always tells me how I'm the best person she's ever known. She's also kinda hinted at stuff, like "all our friends are getting together and dating, it's making me kinda sad. _ and _, _ and _, and then there's just you and me. single and sad."

Not sure what I'm trying to say here. I guess I need advice on how I should handle this and if you guys think I screwed up my chances. I plan on telling her my feelings when she gets back, but I don't want to do something like that over the phone. So maybe I could just use some thoughts on whether or not you guys think she sees me that way? I know this sounds autistic, but this is just really stressing/bumming me out. If you want more details just ask.

>>18578173
my girlfriend (we have a similar size difference) strokes my neck, hips or grabs my butt
basically, do what you feel like doing, it feels good to know that she wants my body
if he doesn't like it, he will tell you

She just texted me this after I made a really shitty pickup line

K
Night

I'm assuming she wants me to stop? Lol

Do women enclose themselves in their home and never go out nor interact with other people and just browse internet and avoid people at job, outside?

>>18575501
Dont be a sissy, dominate him like the cuck he is.

>>18575400
A girl constantly teases me, plays hot and cold.

One second she tells me I'm funny, I smell nice etc, the other she calls me pathetic and feels sorry for me.

Wat gibs

>>18578252
Yes

>>18578204
She doesn't find you attractive if she doesn't initiate rapport.

Am I the only person really fucking sick of people pretending to be asexual.

>>18578529
>Am I the only person really fucking sick of people pretending to be asexual.

The real question is: Why do you give a fuck?

You got too much time on your hands if someone else's arbitrary self-definition offends you.

I think all this asexual/cis/gender fluid/agender/bigender/pangender/whatever the fuck shit is retarded. And I even have had discussions with this to my best friend (who is a gay chick), but I also don't think it matters, that it hurts anyone, or that it's any of my business really.

If some random people want to make themselves feel like special snowflakes with arbitrary self-definitions, whatever, their lives.

>>18578548
Because if you don't discourage them they'll find people that encourage them and continue to be retarded around you, and then you lose a friend that you could have saved.

Women:
Why do you use dating apps and like people. And if they open up a conversation you do not respond? Genuine curiousity.

>>18578548
>I also don't think it matters, that it hurts anyone
It hurts people that are genuinely struggling with these issues that are now just being seen as "just a phase" or just a way of being a special snowflake.

>>18577862

I don't waste my time waiting around, especially if they put off disinterested vibes or get weird if I so much as initiate conversation with them. It has happened a lot to me in the past and I'm not good at chasing or waiting. If said guy is a good friend, I'll just continue being friends with him.

>>18578553
>Because if you don't discourage them they'll find people that encourage them and continue to be retarded around you, and then you lose a friend that you could have saved.

Then why you got such fluffball headed friends that are so easily influenced by what anyone else thinks?

That's on them to figure out. If you're trying to fuck with their heads, you got too much time in your life.

If you can't accept them--even if you think their beliefs are retarded--then that makes you a pretty fair-weather-friend

>>18578565
>It hurts people that are genuinely struggling with these issues that are now just being seen as "just a phase" or just a way of being a special snowflake.
> now just being seen as "just a phase"

You say that as if these "issues" existed a decade ago. This terminology is literally unique to this decade.

Adding more definitions doesn't fix anyone, it just forces people to try conform to even smaller definitions--rather than actually live their lives and ACTUALLY figure out who they are.

>>18578558
>Why do you use dating apps and like people. And if they open up a conversation you do not respond? Genuine curiousity.

Not a chick...

But you realize... Half the time people (of both genders) don't even really look at the pictures and just basically treat swipes as a maybe or a "hell no" right?

Literally: You're bored and got a few minutes to kill while waiting for your bus/class/friends/whatever? Bust out your phone and "like"/"hell no" a quick batch of 10 or 15 people.

Not too many people look closely at that shit to begin with, and then only really BEGIN to pay attention when things go further.

So when they actually start to pay attention and if they take another look and don't like your profile pic/text/message, then that just further filters you out.

This goes doubly true on the girls end because they tend to get like 10-100x more attention and subsequently have to filter 10-100x more.

Economy of effort, yo.

>talking with female friend
>shes talking about LARPing (shes a nerd, very into Starwars and LOTR) and about how she'd love to LARP etc
>asks me to go along
>tell her maybe
>tells me she needs someone to go along first time because she doesnt trust the others on a camping thing
>shows me her FB messages
>dudes asking her to sleep in her tent and whatnot
>she acts like shes completely oblivious to it
>keeps trying to convince me to go along
>dont want to so I dont
>doesnt go anyway even though one of her friends wants to go with her
>never mentions it ever again even though she seemed so obsessed by it earlier

the fuck was she thinking here?
I have never had an interest in hanging out with LARPers theyre usually very unpleasant people to be around

>>18577548
>why
Because people change with passing time. And because being girl without having babies and family yourself is kinda waste. And basically your whole purpouse is to have babies (dont be mad, boys on the other hand only purpouse is to kill each other, rape and pillage, luckily we are behind that).

Whatever you do, dont allow him to sterilize himself. The probability of phantom pain is pretty high and it would be awkward to break up once you get the baby fever because you would still end up pregnant and he couldnt be father.

Stay safe!

>>18577636
Kegel excercises. Both for you (to increase quality of your boners) and for her (for various reasons and ability to "grip" your dick better).

Also no fap should help.

>>18577651
>generalize
Because we are stupid.
>political views
Because it is one of few things you can talk about with your drunken friends without getting label gay. (For me politics arent important, by try explaining that to /pol)
>empathetic
We are rare. I would say like 5% and 4% of it are gays.
>understanding
0%, we gave up long ago to understand girls.

>>18577668
Sweet.

>>18577684
It will give you weird fetishes, deathgrip syndrome and in time you will want more and more pervese stimulus. I suggest you to stop that entirely and fap like once per week.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18577769
You also need to consider your dating value. Sure, every boy will probably fuck you, but who will stay with you to the point of mattiage? Becoming cat lady is easy. It all depends on you as well. Do you have hordes of boys fighting for your attention?

>>18577954
Girls can cum and dump as well. You have been used. How do you feel?

>>18577960
Ask her on date idiot.

>>18577962
Out of sight, out of mind.

>>18577963
Sounds like your bf is lazy irresponsible immature boy. I suggest you to not marry him and maybe find better bf. And yes, the defensive thing is common.

>>18577968
They are bad.

>>18577995
>pro domme
Sure. Ask him on date?

>>18578639
How much does she weigh? I'm guessing she isn't in the physical fortitude needed for such as activity

>>18577628
I literally haven't posted it before.

>>18575400
Girls, why use the "sorry, but..." phrase when you're the one at fault? Is it just used to inflict pain or is there something more behind it?

Last time bf's came, his cum was extremely thick and a few parts of it are what I could best describe, of a booger consistency, it glues to skin instead of leaking down

What is this? Is something wrong?

>>18578831
Completely normal. That's the way it should be.

My boyfriend cums within literally twenty seconds of entering me. He's very good at making sure I cum first but I'd really like him to last slightly longer.

Firstly - is there something wrong? Is how turned on you are related to how quickly you orgasm?

Secondly - what can we do to improve his stamina?

He isn't overweight, works out and eats relatively healthily.

>>18578847
Jesus, that sucks for him.

>>18578847
>Is how turned on you are related to how quickly you orgasm?
Yes, of course it's related.
> what can we do to improve his stamina?
Have sex more often.

Girls, how do you feel about a guy going ''wanna fuck'' within the first 5 minutes of the converstaon?

At the bar/club, etc ofc.

>>18578851

Maybe - it's nothing I've ever had a problem with. In the good old days we'd fuck several times so it wasn't an issue. Nowadays time constraints mean it isn't as much of a marathon, So i just wondered if there was anything i could do to help. He's still amazing in bed, I just wish I could experience a bit more thrusting before he cums.

>>18578852

Badly phrased question - I meant, is it likely to be because of me or just a habitual thing?

>>18578831
Fuck more often.

>>18578864
I would personally be really depressing to cum in less than 2 minutes. You don't get to actually enjoy anything.

>>18578859

Ridiculously turned off and I'd look for the easier way to get away from him.

Regardless of how hot somebody was, this isn't a good line.

>>18578868
It has ironically worked...

If the guy wants to fuck, how should he go about it?

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>>18575400
Guys and esp. girls, I need your help.
I want to create an okcupid account to get some new relationships. Not necessarily sexual or romantic but would be nice too.

But here's the thing: I am a degenerate b-tard.
I have no friends, never had any.
I am a 25 years old dateless kissless virgin.
I am overweight.

How or what should I post about myself and what should I leave out to atlest have a chance of replies from some girls?
How many of these quiz questions should I answer, how many would be too much?

Here some more informations about me:
>race: caucasian
>Height: 188 cm
>Weight: 97 kg
>Waist circumference: 108 cm
>Language skills: german, english, polish, latin, spanish
>Education: master student in molecular biology
>Job: part time job as scientific assistent
>Health: bad to medicore: I have an illness that affects my leg which causes sporadically strong pain to an extend I can not walk anymore in worst cases, I chronic and persists for several years now, doctors don't know what's wrong
>Currently practised hobbies: none (no free time)
>Hobbies I liked to do before studdies took over my free time: miniature model building e.g. Wh40k or WW2; pc gaming; fittness training at gym, precision pistol shooting
>What I usually do now when I have some hours of free time: browse 4chan esp. /b/, /adv/, /co/, /mlp/ and /trash/; watch(ed) cartoons like regular show, adventrue time, steven universe, my little pony, star vs., etc.; watch porn esp. furry like on e621 or hentai mangas
>Music: likes: pop, rock, heavy metal, classic, electro, house; Interpret examples: Michael Jackson, Queen, Iron Maiden, >Deep Purple, Daft Punk
>Music: dislikes: schlager, hip hop, rap

Is there even hope?

Also this is not a troll post.

>>18578884
Hmm
Are you from Poland?

>>18578887
almost quads...
No, I am form germany

>>18578887
Why do you think I am polish?

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>>18578831
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Semen
It can have different consistency, smell, taste, color and amount. It all depends on his life style, frequency of ejaculations, diet, age, virility and so on. Generaly it should be a bit chunky, whiteish color with meh salty taste. If it was up this time always very watery like, he probably ejaculated within 12 hours prior. This was probably his first time when he went longer time without cum.

>>18578847
>something wrong?
No. Your are so sexy and your pussy feels so good to him that he has no other choice than to cum. If anything, you should be proud of your sex skills. At least you will never have problems satisfy him.

>improve
Practice makes perfect. If he wants to have better stamina, advise him to fap. A lot with a tight grip and the goal is to edge for 60 minutes. After a while his dick will get used to rough stimulation and your pussy wont feel as good = he will last longer. There are people who are used to masturbation so much they cant cum from pussy stimulation at all.

>>18578874
>asking deer about hunting deer
If you look handsome or if you pick right drunken bar slut, the more direct you will be, the faster ypu end up with her in bed. Just make sure you dont catch anything, ladies like you want target in order for it to work will fuck anything.

>>18578884
Learn how to talk about your negatives in positive light.

>btard
>virgin
Dont mention that.
>no friends
Tell her you are introverted loner and all your friends lost touch with you after school.
>overweight
>>>/fit/ sticky fatass

Dont mention 4chan, learn how to talk about nothing
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
chat up as many ladies as possible, consider lowering your standards and ask them out within first conversation. If they deny, delete them, if they avoid question try again after 24 hours and good luck! You also want to get their phone number before any date happens. If they dont want to give number, they dont want to date.

>>18578889
Hmmm
Well anon, you sound like a well-educated and moderately interesting person. Being fat is not a problem as long you are willing to put some work and lose weight, or even, in guys' case not a problem because many girls like bigger, cuddlier boyfriends. For me face and personal hygiene are vital, so if your face is cute or handsome and you are clean, grommed and smell nice. Your taste in music is fine too. Furry or hentai porn is in my honest opinion disgusting, but I'm used to people liking weird shit. Do you read often? If you feel like it, leave contact info. I don't mind making new friends.

>>18578893
>ask them out within first conversation
I do not know how to go out/ date. I never have been out really esp. not with a woman. I do not know where to go nor what to do. Any help regarding this, when I already have to jump into the cold water from the first chat on?

Why do so many women wear black leggings, black boots or black shoes and bright pink socks that you can see between the shoe and the legging? It looks tacky as fuck. I hope it's only something women do in my country.

>>18578893
>asking deer about hunting deer
First good advice from you in your whole existence.

>>18578890
From my experience it's rare for foreigners to know Polish language, so I tend to assume that people who speak it are Poles or of Polish descent

>>18578900
You know what btard? I will now teach you something very useful. Open google and type there: date location suggestions and hit enter. It doesnt matter where you will take them. The point is you will see each other in person, get known each other and probably more. Treat them as humans, invent lame jokes or just stare at them awkwardly. Maybe she will be as awkward as you too, so it will work. And SMILE. Smile works wonders. With time and after 10 failed dates you will get hang of it. Oh and try to walk them home, handhold them, ask for netflix and chill, kiss them or generally give them feelings you find them attractive.

>>18578902
You too.

How do I know if a man is flirting with me?

>>18578899
double dubs
>cute or handsome and you are clean
Well, I do not know whether I am handsome, but I have no pimples nor acne on my face (only on back and by now mostly scars). I wear a short trimmed full beard (no neck beard). My hair is usually kept short (going about every 2 months for a cut). I shower myself every or at least every 2nd day depending on how much activity I had. I have no cavities and wash my teeth every day twice, so I guess that covers hygiene. I also always wear clean and ironed clothes when I leave my flat.

I guess I would not be very cute but at least manly, since I have a fully growing beard. I also am more on the hairy side on body hair (but no monkey fur, thankfully). Unfortunately I have strech marks across ass, belly and back.

>do you read often:
Well, depends. Mostly I have to read publications or scientific literature for my studies. Sometimes I read comics e.g. from marvel or some webcomics. Personally when I'd find the time I always wanted to read some of the classics like the "Devine Comedy", something from Dostojewski or Kafka. But before I could do that I'd have to at least read the Bible since there are alot of references (not religious though).

nerdy girls, are you more interested in nerdy guys or do you generally like the more stereotypical chads?

How do I find girls that are into mothering autistic people? I need to know for a friend. [spoiler]I have no friends[/spoiler]

I'm 29 and live on my own, only leaving my house for work, to go for a run every morning and to get stuff from the store. I'm incredibly lonely and just want someone who understands me that I can spend time with.

This role was initially my mother, and later my sister but my mother died and my sister moved cities and now I have no one.

>>18578908
>Open google and type there: date location suggestions and hit enter.
Ty, thats kinnda helpfull.

>And SMILE. Smile works wonders.
That's sort of my weakside. I rarely smile since I sort of developed a depression and have a very misanthropic view of point. My smiles usually appear forced or fake, at least I haver been told so far...
I also have huge problems making eye contact, has been an issue for a long time I haven't been able to take care of.

>Oh and try to walk them home.
That's also a problem, since I can not walk for long distances due to the illness I have affecting my leg and mobility.

>netflix and chill
I usually do not watch TV, just occasionally a show on the internet or something. Any alternatives for netflix to be able to chill?

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>>18578912
>wanna fuck

>>18578914
Sounds like you are clean and decent, that's good. Stretch marks are not an issue for men. Can't go wrong with reading classics. You seem to have your shit together, so you shouldn't have problems with finding people to befriend and eventually romance. Be open and communicative, don't be afraid to initiate conversations or propose meet-ups, don't think too much about your shortcomings and certainly don't mention them to new people. Good luck!

>>18578908
You have the whole book on how to improve conversation skills?

prolly not the right thread but i didnt want to make a new one just to ask a simple quesiton, will gas stations in america pump free air for bike tires?

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>>18575473
No, most women are not feminists and a growing number of women are becoming anti-feminist
>>18575525
>But most women follow a harmless version of feminism. Mostly useless and achieves near nothing, but harmless.
spreading the myth of female oppression and demanding that women be treated better than men is not "harmless." The extremists don't have enough influence to do any harm, the bad shit feminism does is from the moderates.
>>18576004
>The radical man haters are about as numerous as the radical MGTOW's. They're small in number but loud as hell and usually only congregate online.
The radical man haters aren't the problem. Moderate feminists still think that women should be treated better than men and that men's problems should never be talked about.
>Now, I would say most women would call themselves a feminist
you would be wrong, most women have too much sense to join a man-hating cult. The last I saw it was less than 1 in 4 women call themselves feminists, and numbers are especially declining among younger women. Feminism has been exposed for the anti-male movement it is.
> And I also understand that it's not just a woman's battle, that men are struggling for rights of their own as well in other aspects of medical care.
that puts you in the small minority as far as feminists go, even most moderate feminists won't admit that men's issues matter. Have you seen The Red Pill? A feminist made a documentary about men's issues, and stopped calling herself a feminist because of how many feminists (including her own friends) hated her just for talking about men's issues.
You might not hate MRAs and you might agree that men have issues, but that is not a mainstream view at all among feminists.

>>18578940
Ask for nitrogen, it will blow your mind

>>18578912
He asks you on date.

But if you have to ask like this, he probably wants to sex/date/marry you. Question is: do you want it as well?

>>18578920
Gf isnt your mom. First step is to become independent happy adult content with his life and his long term goals. Second step is to approach ladies. Both online or offline works. After that, it is question of luck and endurance.
>I'm incredibly lonely
And what have you done so far in order to change it? You are old enough to know precisely about what to do. Question is: what are you willing to sacrifice in order to improve your situation? Gf wont spawn from thin air in your basement. You have to lure somebody in first.

>>18578925
Forced smile is when you dont show teeth. Imagine something funny and grin. That is which face you want to show the lady.

>illness
Ladies want man who can walk. Wtf is wrong with you? Do you weight 300 kg? Doctor?

>do not watch TV
You havent been outside for a long time right? Maybe try to spend less time on /b and more time reading news, books or finding actual friends. The netflix and chill is secret code for have sex. In the past it was showing her your butterflies collection. Just torrent few movies in different gendres and ask her to chill at your home.

Then run the movie, sit close to her and start the assault cuddling. She wouldnt enter your home if she didnt want to have sex / cuddle with you. Dont be forceful, it is a game. She will pretend she is innocent qtie and your role is to pretend you are horny male.

And now stop thinking nonsence and try your luck already. Also go to social events you have never been to. You dont have to like them, just to chat with ladies there. Ask them for their number before convo ends.

>>18578938
Practice makes perfect. If you can shitpost on 4chan, you can talk to ladies in public as well. Just instead of frog posting, ask about her life life instead and always use full blown sentences as replies.

>>18578937
Thank you for the encouragement.

What about these issues? >>18578925

>>18578946
>The netflix and chill is secret code for have sex.
Dear god I am 25 still that new...

>Netflix.
I do not own a TV. I only have a small screen Laptop. It does not even have proper sound boxes so I use ear buds to listen to music.

>Also go to social events you have never been to.
Good advice, I will look out for the next party or something at the univerity. even though I am almost finished with my studies I have never been to one of these.

>illness Ladies want man who can walk. Wtf is wrong with you?
>>18578884
>Health: bad to medicore: I have an illness that affects my leg which causes sporadically strong pain to an extend I can not walk anymore in worst cases, I chronic and persists for several years now, doctors don't know what's wrong
>Height: 188 cm
>Weight: 97 kg

>>18578912
Flirt back with him. If you end up fucking it's because he was flirting.

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>>18578953
Well, being cripple will hinder your dating game. But i am sure you are still able to move around. Also there is one type of girls, who like to care, protect and pamper anybody who looks weak like cripples. Probably some dad/mum issues, they are rare but they exist.

>university
Being in school is god tier for getting friends and girls. Just walk around campus and find people sitting around. They always wait for something and are bored. Chat them up. With a bit of luck you can invade their personal life and become friends or more with time. Ask them to hang out with you, some contact info or simply ask them what are they doing after school and offer something.

You are probably introvert and if you manage to chat up another introvert, you can become the best buddies easily simply because he/she wont have many friends yet. Just assume they want to keep talking to you, just they are even more shy (or awkward to socialize properly) than you.

How do I convince myself that being rejected by girls doesn't mean I have no value as a person?
The last girl that rejected me instead started dating some massive sperg that stutters and tortures his own cat. I feel like I'm worse than him now.
Alternatively I'd be asking why do women have such shit taste but the answer would be that I'm just a jealous loser.

>>18578983
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201506/when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you?

>>18578947
>smile
Dunno my dude, when I talk to people who look grave and serious I either think that something is wrong with me, and they dislike me or assume that they are worried/sad and in that case I might ask if they are okay. Smile is important but a lot depends on other microexpressions/manifestations of body language. I think you'll caught yourself smiling at some point during a pleasant conversation with someone you like. It's also hard not to smile back when someone smiles at you, at least in my case. Don't force yourself to smile, forced smiles are almost always creepy.

>eye contact
We'll, I'm autistic myself when it comes to that because either I stare into people's eyes too long or keep looking around. You can try looking at their eyebrows or just be autistic like me and look them in the eyes for 5 seconds, then transfer your gaze to something else, rinse and repeat.

>walking someone home
If your leg is not working properly It's logical and understandable that you won't be indulging in long walks. Normal people will understand it. Instead of walking someone home buy them a pint/flowers once in blue moon, or grab some ice creams, or if you drive, drop them off. If they are walking home alone at night, text them asking if they got there without any issues - assuming we're talking about girls, case this could get awkward with guys, kek

>netflix
Dude, just stream films on the laptop. Again, I doubt many girls will mind it much. Ask what they want to watch, if they want you to decide then go for something both of you will enjoy. Possible alternatives: playing board or computer games, cooking together, just sipping a beer and chatting, or getting real drunk (or not) and singing shitty online karaoke...

Is it childish as an adult to stop doing some activity or going to some group just because someone is there that you like but doesn't like you back? Not that I'm terribly interested in this group I go to.
Also is it wrong to not want to be friends with someone after they show that they don't like you back romantically?

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>>18579009
Do whatever you want.

>>18577968
Cheaters are pieces of shit and there's NO excuse to do it. If you're sooo unhappy in your relationship break up and stop wasting the other person's time. Fucking hate this culture where cheating is seen as normal.

>>18578977
I like your meme chart. According to it, I am 2/3 Introvert and 1/3 shy.

>university
Well, I am now in my 11th semester overall. The first 6 semesters I obtained an B.Sc. in classicla biology. There I made some peers in the first semester, but after the 2nd semester all went off, failed at the field of studdies aor got lost somehow else. Basically they ended contact after they ended their biology study and from then on I was alone. I tried up to the 5th semester to get some friends or get in thouch with someone but I failed and stayed alone.
Then I change my field of study for my master of Sc. to molecular biology and changed university and town. I hoped that I could find friends but I failed again. The local molecular biologist are extremely uptight and did not want to have anything to do with outsiders. First I thaught I did somethign wrong but this happened to all newcomers to the field of study for their master studdies. Then I thaught maybe I could get along with the other newcomers (mostly classical biologists like me) and initially it worked. I got along wiht 3 other girls. We went drinking cocktails a few times but then the contact stoped. None of them seemed to have time for any other meetup and so I again alone for over a year.

>>18579002
>>Netflix.
>I do not own a TV. I only have a small screen Laptop. It does not even have proper sound boxes so I use ear buds to listen to music.
I also do not own any board games. Back in my school time I played wh40k, but I do not have an army assembled. Also it is very nerdy and prob, overwhelming to any newcomer.
I do not like drinking alkohol, I am not abstinent though.

As a guy do you have to resign to the idea of looking for a girl that's good looking/attractive and only care about personality if you want a girlfriend? Be honest.

>>18579033
Board games can be bought. Anon, are you coming up with excuses? Nothing I said in the previous post is a must, you can do whatever you like with your date. You don't have to drink if you don't enjoy it. I like when a guy takes time to get to know me, so when we're hanging out at his place I appreciate things being chill, so we can just relax and enjoy each other's company, usually by talking, sometimes by watching movies and cuddling. You know languages so you might offer to tutor your sweetheart. That's what I did for my guy, it was a lot of fun even though it sounds weird and boring at first.

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>>18579021
>meme chart
First, it is more like a table. Secondly, people arent robots, there is full spectrum of personalities. It is just to give you a feel about how people can feel about such simple topic as talking to strangers from
>i am uncomfortable
To
>i fucking love it!

Anyway nice blog. But you shouldnt be telling this to anons on 4chan, but to anybody willing to listen offline or online elsewhere.

So good luck with your dating quest. And really as a boy you either pursue girls like crazy or die alone. The choice is your now.

>>18579037
Pic related. If you cant score any girl/date/sex whatsoever, try looking at yourself and your life first. Who would want anything to do with you in the first place?

>>18579067
I look at other guys and also think who would want anything to do with them in the first place. Besides we are our own worst critics. If I look at myself of course I will have a ton of faults. But I also consider myself to be a good and mildly interesting person.
I'm also asking because I realize that many guys I know like to go "hey look at that hot girl" but then settled down with unattractive girls and suddenly act like they don't care about looks.

>>18577645
I am not a liberal. Id consider myself a "centeric." I am an anti-feminist with my own "Make America Great Again" hat. I dislike intendity politics and I don't believe Im a victim simply because I am a woman.

I hate the third-wave feminist movement. They do not speak for me! They are man-hating narrsacist, the feminist are.

I haven't found a lot of woman not totally brainwashed by the media. Fack!

>>18575473
I doubt women that you're gonna fuck are gonna be women that hate men. Women you meet in normal settings are not 10000% man hating. Some are more like 50%, 30% 10%. You'll be fine if you stick to your natural habitat

>>18575501
>he cries about her sometimes
LMAO
I would say leave him but you have a kid with him. Tell him all you said here and that he needs to move on already because he's a father.
IMPORTANT
don't bitch out at him. Don't raise your voice. Calmly approach him about it. If you freak out he'll use it as an excuse to go talk to the ex.

>>18579071
Well, if you want family, you want good compatible personality loyal wife. And looks fade with time. The personality only gets better. So you can have different priorities when you are looking for quick fuck VS wife. Also the better they look, the worse sex is (at least in my experience). The hottest girl i had just lied there like starfish with attitude: do your thing. The average ones wanted to cuddle, moaned and even pretended sucking dick is fun!

Having 10/10 gf sounds good on paper. But real life is about something else. And still, attractivity is subjective. What is 10/10 for you can be 5/10 for others.

>>18575528
That sucks anon. Move if you can afford it. (If you do, realize you lose). Bring girls over. It's just a confidence thing you're dealing with. Bring a new girl every night. Post a pic so everyone can know more about your situation. And you'll get replies. Doesn't have to be of face

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My last relationship was basically destroyed by me being immature. I think I have serious psychological trouble, my girlfriend was always tried to confront me and I always withdraw myself, it feels like a pressure on my chest, I literally freeze. We broke up after several conflicts like that.

How do I address the problem?

>>18575565
I've been that way with my gf for the past week because I'm on vacation. I'm just trying to relax and have a good time. Also she might be thinking about leaving you like I am
>>18575651
She's weird, fuck her then block her

>>18579105
>serious psychological trouble

Go see a shrink.

>>18575722
He'll try to rub on you. Like bump into you from behind, grab onto you, lean on you, hug you tightly, and looking at your breast and ass. Try walking pass him and turn around to see if he's looking. If you've known him for a long time he may not look as often because he is already aware of what goods you got.
>>18575736
Maybe for asking for a favor. Like "hey, you got a light?.... no? Alright thanks anyway. Btw you're really pretty. You from around here?"
(Haven't flirted in a while)

>>18579065
>Anon, are you coming up with excuses?
It pretty much sounds like that by now, I did not even realise.
I'm just insecure about myself and my activites and whether they are suitable to entertain another person, let alone strenghten their interest in me.

>>18579067
>But you shouldnt be telling this to anons on 4chan, but to anybody willing to listen offline or online elsewhere.

Well, I do not have any friends, neither irl nor online. The only source of human interaction, esp. when asking about another perspective, is pretty much 4chan and omegle...

I know how pathetic this is btw.

Anyways, thank you all about your advice. I guess I should stop worrying about my insecurities for once and just start again in making contact with other people. I guess I should focus more on them at this point and whether I find them attractive or not.

>>18579037
not this guy but I want this question answered.

>>18575545
stop being a faggot and move on. actually try to meet people in the real world instead of being a tinder fag

>>18578388
Really? But she usually does, it's just that she's not at the moment. She could be just busy and distracted with all the stuff going on at her event.

Everything is so fucking hard as a guy. I'm constantly swaying back-and-forth between improving myself and just killing myself due to the pressure I feel.

How do I get my girlfriend to understand that's it's not okay to threaten suicide every time we get into a fight? It's really fucking my head up.

An example is

>*Random argument*
>Her: Don't worry, I won't be annoying you anymore soon
>Me: What do you mean?
>Her: I'll be gone, and you'll be better off.
>Me: Gone?
>Her: I'm going to make the pain stop, and end my life. Sometime in the future it will happen
>*Talking to her for hours to calm her down and getting her to change her mind*

This keeps happening, especially when she's done something to hurt me and is afraid I'm going to leave (I'm not. I love her) Having a loved one do this constantly is incredibly draining, and since it's such a sensitive subject, I don't know how to approach this to let her know that this is really messing my head up. I don't know how to deal with this.

>>18578940
>will gas stations in america pump free air for bike tires?
Gas stations in America usually either have a coin operated air pump ($0.25 for 1 minute or whatever) or they have a coin operated air pump with no coin slot, marked as free.

I doubt you will get a random attendant to make you an exception for your bike tire since they have no control over the automated machine.

Either pay the 25 cents or find a free one.

>>18579009
>Is it childish as an adult to stop doing some activity or going to some group just because someone is there that you like but doesn't like you back? Not that I'm terribly interested in this group I go to.
>Also is it wrong to not want to be friends with someone after they show that they don't like you back romantically

Yes, it's childish. And yes, it's kind of shitty of you to bounce once you realize you can't get what you want from a friend--because it shows they were never ACTUALLY a friend to you, and you went in with ulterior motives...

But whatever. Do what you think you're capable of. There's no shame in stepping away if you think you're being too overwhelmed.

Just be mindful of the fact that: at some point, you need to start handling things like an adult and actually deal instead of running away.

Because CONSTANTLY running away creates bad habits and cripples your ability to deal with bigger, more important things moving forward.

>>18579037
>As a guy do you have to resign to the idea of looking for a girl that's good looking/attractive and only care about personality if you want a girlfriend? Be honest.

What? Reword that please... I honestly have no idea what you're trying to ask. Use commas and periods to separate thoughts.

Commas and periods help. Right now that's kind of a jumbled run on and I can't tell if you're asking if you have to resign yourself to being superficial, if you're asking if you have to resign yourself to being in a relationship, or if it's something else.

Guys, I'm curious. If your gf/fwb/whatever got pregnant and you both were in a life situation in which having kids is simply not an option due to financial/emotional/whatever reasons, would you even want to know or would you prefer she "took care of it" without bringing it up. And no, I'm not preggers and about to fuck my bf over, it's just something I wonder about.

Can some femanon please explain lactation to me?
Is it just for pregnant women?
Or is there an involvement with sex?
Can a non-pregnant girl ever lactate under any condition?

>>18579298
>Everything is so fucking hard as a guy. I'm constantly swaying back-and-forth between improving myself and just killing myself due to the pressure I feel.

That's everyone bro.
Pretty much every single person on the planet.

Hell, even if you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth, with gazillionaire parents and a trust fund with more zeroes than 4chan, that shit don't make you happy.

Look at how many people strike it rich through the lottery, and then go bankrupt and wallowing in a pit of depression (for real, it's supposedly something like 70% that go broke within 5 years).

Look at how many fucked up child movie stars there are.

Look at kids like Elliot Rogers.

Being rich doesn't make being happy easier
Being affluent doesn't make being happy easier.
Being born a woman certainly doesn't make it easier either. Hell dude, based on real world statistics, women are twice as likely to be depressed as men. So you can't legitimately say that they've got it easy either.

Everyone's got their own struggles.
But struggles are also how you grow and find your own happiness.

>>18579312
>How do I get my girlfriend to understand that's it's not okay to threaten suicide every time we get into a fight? It's really fucking my head up.

Your girlfriend needs help bro.
And you need to not get sucked in to her pace.
She's being manipulative and selfish. And she's probably so lost in her problems, that she doesn't even realize that's what she's doing.

She needs to get out of her own head, stop feeling sorry for herself, and to get some help.

But none of that is anything you have any power over.

Her life is hers, you can't control that. You can give her some advice, and hope she see's the logic, but that's about it.

What you CAN do however, is to not enable her by buckling every time. Life your own life, don't be manipulated by hers. Lead by example and have more respect for your own autonomy and self worth.

Be a rock to lean on, not a sofa to be sat on.

>>18579355
>Guys, I'm curious. If your gf/fwb/whatever got pregnant and you both were in a life situation in which having kids is simply not an option due to financial/emotional/whatever reasons, would you even want to know or would you prefer she "took care of it" without bringing it up. And no, I'm not preggers and about to fuck my bf over, it's just something I wonder about.

I'd want to know.

I'd be wrecked, and would have no idea what to do or say, but i'd want to know.

The thing about a partnership is: you should be able to be there for one another.

>>18579355
Yes, definitely. I would 1000000% want the baby aborted if it was early enough, but even if I tell you that in hypothetical scenarios you have no way of fully knowing I really mean that when faced with the actual situation. Both sides need to talk about what to do, and both sides have a right to know even if it will just cause conflict.

Also the woman shouldn't have to bare that burden on her own for the man's sake.

>>18579105
Tell us more or go see psycholog. It is impossible to give good advice when you have to guess what is wrong.

>>18579298
Well, at least people take you seriously. As a girl, nothing you do really matters. You will always be just a pussy for boys who tolerate you until they realize you arent interested in them.

>>18579312
She is immature or crazy. Either way break up. She isnt the type of person you want to marry and make family with. And you cant fix her. Only she herself can.

>>18579355
Well, it is obvious whose choice it is. He was stupid enough to make you pregnant, now it is your turn to deal with it. And why to spread stress and misery to others when they dont need to know?

Maybe try to not be that irresponsible girl and use condoms properly?

>>18579406
Any girl can lactate. Even boys with right hormones can lactate.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breastfeeding
http://www.breastfeeding-magazine.com/lactation-without-pregnancy.html

>>18579424
This is some really good advice, thank you.

I know she needs help, but she won't get any. Sometimes she'll flirt with the idea, talk about possibly seeing a therapist, but she never does. And when I directly say to her
>you need help
She takes offense.

When you say to not enable her, what do you mean by that? Whenever she starts talking about suicide, it eclipses everything in my life. I have to drop everything I'm doing and focus on helping her, and if I don't, she starts to say I don't care–even though I'm constantly helping her and have always been there for her through everything. As soon as it happens, I just can't stop worrying about her and have to help, but in turn I feel like I'm losing part of myself, I never have anytime for myself

Guys?
>>18579646

>>18579462
>When you say to not enable her, what do you mean by that? Whenever she starts talking about suicide, it eclipses everything in my life

I mean exactly what I said. Don't do that. Don't get sucked in to her pace. Don't freak out and validate her dramaticism.

She's throwing tantrums and hissy fits because, partially because she can get away with it and you've showed her it's a viable way to drop a conversation when it gets uncomfortable.

She's stuck on running away from her problems.

Only she can get herself unstuck from that, but it sure doesn't help when the people around are helping her believe that being that way is a viable way to live.

>send girl messages
>responds 2 hours later
>respond within 10 seconds (I fucking did these just to test it)
>doesn't open or respond for 2 hours

Am I being fucking meme'd. She says hey every single time and I message back and then hours and hours later, sometimes more than 2, she fucking messages me again with hey

What the fuck kind of games is this

Girls.

Would you be more atracted to a man who invites you over sushi and pays for all? I mean it shows financial independence, right?

>>18579831
I agree with you. I feel like I can follow this all the way up to when she starts talking about suicide. What's the best way to handle it? Do I just ignore her? What if she ended up doing something stupid?

>>18579902
Ask her on date. And then realize she will never date you and move on.

>>18579903
You need to spent less time shitposting and more time inviting girls on dates.

>>18579903
>Would you be more atracted to a man who invites you over sushi and pays for all?
I'd be most attracted to someone who agreed to split the bill. Sure, it shows financial independance, but it also displaces a certain unattractive condescension.

>>18580305
I know it is rude to ask like this femanon, but still
>would you ever go on date with somebody you dont find worthy of dating?