No porn = no libido

stopped masturbating and watching porn after starting dating with my gf for no reason. we haven't gone sexual yet and the farthest we've gone is kising and touching each other. i never have the urge to watch porn or masturbate and i get sexually aroused while talking to my gf and keep being erected.

as long as have a reason to be sexually active, your libido is not dead.

>>18565608
But you still fuck, so you have a way to unleash your masculinity. OP is talking when you are in no porn and have no girlfriend, which is essay different.

Also, OP, I'm in the same boat and the same has happened to me, but now I'm trying to find a pussy.

My libido once I started skyrocketed and then slowly started to fade away. But it came back eventually so I broke my no fap.

With gf no porn is like eating a pie.

>>18565598
Do you have morning erections? No? Then you are fat fuck with low testosterone and or shit life style.

Cardio like swimming for boosting your cardiovascular system for better boners.

Kegel excercises for stronger and easier boners.

>>>/fit/ sticky for calorie counting until you hit 23 bmi
http://www.calculator.net/bmi-calculator.html

Then gain muscle mass by
http://www.manvsweight.com/calisthenics-exercises/
And
http://www.aworkoutroutine.com/training-each-muscle-group-3-times-per-week/

And fap at least once per week with your eyes closed. Use imagination.

Good luck and dont expect change overnight. Having shit body requires months for any progress to be seen.

>>18565654
As it so happens I'm already getting fit. I cut the porn at the same time I decided to start going gym and eating better.

What confuses me is that my "shit body" had no issue spanking the monkey on a daily basis with stimulus.

>>18565639
no we haven't fucked yet.

Yes. Longest I went without masturbating or looking at porn was 4 months. During that period, I had no desire to look at it. Now, I jack it a few times per week, and I always get boners at night and in the morning.

The whole idea of nofap is that you're meant to put that "sexual energy" into finding a girl. I still think it's bullshit, though. Most sexual people masturbate.

>>18565598
>>>/x/19316802

>>18565663
>going to gym
If you are cutting your food consumption in order to stop being fat, you will naturally produce less T = less horny. Simple as that.

And if you go prolonged times without any sexual stimulus, your body will simply readjust itself. But also it will result in you getting boners just for looking at cardio bunnies at gym. You are just impatient. If you spend years ogling porn, the change wont come in matter of days.

And remember to flush your pipes down there once in a while. I tries nofap for 1 month and after that the first orgasm hurt. Dont go full retarded and keep regular mainteance.

>>18565689
>If you are cutting your food consumption in order to stop being fat, you will naturally produce less T = less horny. Simple as that.

You might be on to something here. I'm on a calorie 300-500 calorie deficit to get down to a sensible BF / BMI first

>>18565693
Also suffering from a broken penis here. Apparently cutting too much on fats is also to blame.

>>18565693
Imho i dont see any added value visiting gym while you are cutting down and slimming down. You simply wont gain ANY muscles if you dont eat more than enough no matter how much you will lift. There will be simply no progress, only suffering.

Try the swimming. God tier cardio gains (you may actually feel what cold is once you hit normal blood pressure) and will help you to speed up the unfattening process. Hit the gym once you start eating up.

Good luck on your quest!

>>18565598
Kinda similar here, regular porn or pics of women does nothing for me anymore. I still look at women on the streets, they still interest me and I have a drive to get them, but mastrubation doesn't do it anymore and I have a hard time wanking it because either I don't get a boner or think to myself what the point is and then stop it. I've got okay cardio train muay thai twice a week and do some weightlifting but I fear my libido is dead

>>18565713
>>>/doctor/ balls check and blood test.

>>18565704
I was under the impression that lifting weights was more efficient for losing weight than cardio

>>18565598
is that a dang sweet potato?

>>18565747
Losing weight is about 90% diet, 9% sport and 1% genetics.

Just google how long you have to do some sport until you burn one cheesburger. Lifting is about gaining / preserving muscles. And if you are typical fat fuck, you have none in the first place.

Sure sport is good too, but you want cardio for the health gains. Muscles will simply not happen if you dont eat big. And no, you cant both lose fat and gain muscles. Not without steroids.

>>18565759
Damn it. My gym doesn't have a pool.

I was enjoying the lifting too.

>>18565759
your whole post is filled with ignorance but
> And no, you cant both lose fat and gain muscles. Not without steroids.
is completely wrong and I laughed at your bro science.

>>18565598
the issue is that porn addiction is almost exclusively dopamine dependent and not hormonal, so having "high" fap drive is more addiction driven than actual healthy libido

imo no fap is a typical black and white sperg out to the actual problem, which is porn

if you go to those no fap sites or /r/nofap it's like a cult of nerds who think they will magically become attractive by not fapping and literally refer to not being a porn junkie fapping in your basement 24/7 as "superpowers" and keep failing over and over because they try to cut out any and all sexual stimulation because they're losers and can't get laid, and also don't fap, so they spend years and years with no reuslts

excessive fapping is always bad though, altho little studies have been done in humans, but in rats exposure to constant novel females (e.g. porn for us) leads them to fuck themselves into exhaustion at which point their androgen sensitivity takes a nose dive and they become less interest in females and lethargic and weak and beta etc.

but irl the only way that will happen for humans (unless they're incredibly good looking and can fuck a new girl every single day) is with constant porn exposure ramping up fake sex drive with the dopamine spikes

so as for OP, you're just going through withdrawal because your whole sexuality is tied with the dopamine dependence on porn, so just quitting porn/sexual material (incl hot social media pics or whatever) and limiting fapping to imagination to a few times a week should solve the whole thing

>>18565762
don't listen to that bro science bullshit queer, read https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16526835 and http://liamrosen.com/fitness.html and go over to >>>/fit/17018018

>>18565766
Oh please tell me from what will your body build muscles when it doesnt even have enough energy to preserve its fat reserves.

Only noob gains or cases of when somebody is morbidly obese can work, but that is still only at beggining and exception, not a rule.

>>18565762
You can lift if you enjoy it. But as fat fuck you want lung, heart and blood pressure gains more. Lifting can come when you can actually climb stairs without fainting.

>>18565777
Nice study. It says that sport with more protein is good way how to reduce fat. Doesnt mean the lifting is the best option, nor the worst.

>>18565672

>the whole idea of nofap is that you're meant to put that "sexual energy" into finding a girl.

It's not just that, but other things too.

I used to fap twice a day for YEARS. Almost a year ago, I decided to cut that back to once a week. it made a BIG difference in my life. I have a lot more energy and it's easier for me to focus my mind on things. I've gotten /fit/ and I just feel like I want to learn things.

I wonder if that's how it is being a monk

I don't have any morning erections anymore. In fact i have almost 0 erections. I fap once every 3 days and don't fuck.

Before anyone calls me fat i'm fucking shredded at 10% bodyfat , my resting heart rate is 45 bpm, and i swim 3-5 km or run 8 km daily on top of my workout routine.

Why don't i have boners anymore?

>>18565792
could just be erectile dysfunction, are you on any medications? I'd swallow your pride and talk to a doctor about it, it happens to way more people than anyone is willing to see.

The truth of the matter is that fapping has an opportunity cost associated with it.

Sure, maybe fapping itself lasts what, 5-15 minutes or maybe up to an hour if you're edging and/or there are interruptions/distractions - but there's time you spend getting ready to fap. You gotta make sure that no one is around, you spend time browsing porntube or whatever to find the one or two clips that you really like, etc. etc.

Now imagine if you spent that amount of time actually getting a new skill or being productive - over the course of a year or two that's a HUGE difference.

>>18565792

Are you around women a lot?

>>18565794
I was fucking a girl until recently and i had no problem maintaining an erection. I also cannot come during sex, she was the first girl that made me cum with handjob-fu so i fell in love with her but she didn't want a relationship so i cut off all contact with her and have been working out for 5 hours daily to get the endorphine rush i need to not be sad

>>18565799
I see and touch women almost daily, they hug/caress me too because i'm attractive but i know they don't want to fuck me so my dick stays flaccid.

I also don't watch porn anymore because i'm bored from it and also i imagine the girl getting fucked is the girl that rejected me and it makes me extra angry and i start doing 10 minute planks to forget it

I haven't watched porn for a few weeks man. I still jerk off but actually like 2 times a week instead of 5 times a day. So maybe it does I like it though

>>18565792
>10% bodyfat
Did you know body needs fats in order to make various hormones, testosterone included? Any doctor will tell you your bodyfat ratio is unhealthy.

You are like the chicks who eat salad only and wonder where are their boobs, periods and energy to do things.

Also have you used steroids? A lot of them tends to kill your balls in one way or another.

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>>18565809
4-5% is unhealthy and it's what bodybuilders reach through drugs and dehydration and it can only be maintained for a short amount of time. 10% isn't even that low, athletes have 8% maybe less. Pic related is me, i haven't measured my bodyfat but i assume it's around 10% since i can see abdominal veins. Pic related.

Second i take all the healthy fats your body needs through daily fish oil and fish once a week. Bodyfat percentage has nothing to do with dietary fat, in fact most people todays have extremely high carb diets with little fats and are still obese.

Third i have never used PEDs and neither intend to because i'm not a professional athlete. Also if i was taking tren or other related drugs i would have 24/7 boners and uncontrollable sexual urges(tren dick, look it up) and roid rage.

I think it has to do with some depression i still haven't come to terms about because i rarely sit around to be bored, i'm either working, working out or out with friends.

I just want to know if i have something wrong. I know i can ejaculate, i ejaculate everytime i masturbate, and i know (recently) i can ejaculate during sex. I just have severely decreased libido and complete lack of sexual thoughts lately.

>>18565857

>I just want to know if I have something wrong

Well you probably don't. You're fine anon. But let me ask you this, why are you worrying?

>>18565857
>athletes
>healthy
They left the "healthy" area once they decided they will be pro and try to win at any cost.

Go see your doctor, he will tell you to ease up with your routine and gain some more fat.

Also you arent horny teen anymore. You probably have just too big expectations about your libido. If you can get boner from looking at boobs, you are ok.

I bet it all boils down to the level of stress you put on your body in your case. Or depression.

>>18565881

not him, but 10% is fine.

>>18565869
Because i'm not very sucessful with women and i honesty think that they sense that i have a low libido. Also as i said, i until recently never ejaculated during sex. I only came under extremely specific conditions. It makes me feel inadequate.

>>18565881
I don't visit doctors after both my parents died from cancer in 1 year. I get my blood checked once a year and that's it. I measure blood pressure and heart rate every morning and it's optimal.

But you are probably right, the best explanation is i'm getting old(28). Wish i had fucked more and stopped being a beta.

>>18565897

Do you want to be successful with women?

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>>18565897
>beta
Nah. Pic related. Start with that.
>old at 28
Try being old at 40. You are still in your prime, just now with ability to talk with sexy girls without shuttering.

Good luck and really, if you arent paid for being that /fit/, ease up. I am not telling you to stop movibg and get fat, but maybe use less time in gym only to upkeep and more time at things you actually want to do.

>>18565910
You know , i thought i would answer 'yes' immediately but i can't give such a straight answer. The truth is i remember my previous relationship which lasted 3 years and i remember at some points dreading to see my gf. I was bored. I have an extremely regimented daily schedule and it upsets me when i have to sacrifice it for someone else.

But the last girl i was having sex with , i felt different. We had a great connection, the first girl i could have a conversation with. She didn't want to be with me, but still left me wondering that there could be incredible women like her out there and me not being able to get them. I have my life in order, i need to get married and start a family, there is no one else left to carry the family name. And what worries me is that if i keep being inexperienced i will end up in a destructive marriage that will suck the soul out of me and i'll be a terrible father.

>>18565922
I want to try out for a special forces unit. Kinda like navy seals(i'm not american) I was rejected due to bureaucratic reasons last time and i know i have to try it out. Thing is i was working out like a madman to get in shape for it for a year and after i failed to get in, the workout routine kinda stuck with me. I don't really want to do anything else. Every time i work in the office(officer huraay) i feel like i'm wasting my potential. I joined the military to do military stuff not paper pushing. I thank god everyday i have this job but still, i think i can improve at this.

Also if i get accepted i'm packing at least 3 kg of bodyfat, long distance swimming at low bodyfat is death plus i'm looking at at least 15 kg loss after the school is over.

>>18565926

>I can't give a straight answer

That's why I asked. Because maybe it's not for you right now.

Like me for example, I'm /fit/ and I've had girls call me handsome. But I have virtually no experience with girls. I've never had a girlfriend (by my own doing) and I've only had sex once before. But you know, it's as if I don't even care.

>>18565938
I wonder how will you feel when they make you to "fat up" at army :-D
But i guess it depends on which unit you join.

>>18565941
Dont kid yourself, after certain point only you yourself is what stands between you and getting laid. And you probably never bothered about it much.

Both of you stay safe.

>>18565941
Don't you feel jealousy and anger though? That's my main driving force at wanting to have a girlfriend. I can't stand looking at skinnyfat losers having amazing women that worship them and me being alone. In fact that's what kills me most about the girl i mentioned, i know she will find someone else that probably doesn't appreciate her like i do and she will love him.

I don't lack anything and i have many things other guys don't, i feel wronged by not having a woman love me. And i don't have impossible standards, in fact my favorite type of girl are chubby ones with pretty faces that most guys around me claim 'she could stand losing some weight'.

>>18565950
The point of these schools is you come in strong as fuck to come out as a hungry skelly. Then you roid to get it all back.

>>18565950

I never said it wasn't because of me.
I literally said "by my own doing"

>>18565951

Well I got burned before, so it's really easy for me to keep myself distant. Infact, when I see the thing you mentioned, it almost seems repulsive at this point.

>>18565959
You are repulsed because you are jealous.

How old are you? When you have sex with a girl that you don't have to pay(that's what counts as losing virginity), your train of thought will change. Right now you can't even see yourself fucking a girl. When you know you are able to, you will get angry that women deny that from you.

I had the same thoughts as you when i was younger and more beta.

>>18565971

I'm 27. I did have sex once before (no it wasn't a hooker). I regret having sex with that girl tho. I think it messed me up

I think you have some of this backwards.

>right now you can't see yourself fucking a girl

Ok I agree with this

>when you know you're able to, you get mad at women for denying you.

Yes and no. I consciously recognize when a girl is flirting with me. But I choose to not do anything about it. I don't get mad at her, because it's by my own choice. For example, a few weeks ago I was visiting a French pen pal. We hung out for 2 days. On the last day we made dinner at her apartment and had dessert. It was getting late and she said "well, you can stay here tonight.." and gave me that smile while looking me in the eyes. She KNEW my hotel was literally a 5 minute walk away. So she had no reason to offer. I just thanked her, and left. So, yeah she probably wanted sex or at least something. I recognized that. But, I chose not to