ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

How soon is too soon to ask someone out? I started a summer class a week ago and the girl next to me is beautiful and seems like someone I would get along pretty well with, from the brief conversations we've had.
I figure I'll try it late this next week, is that too early?

Finally deleted all my dating profiles and social media. I'd ask where to meet women now but I know better.
>>18494833
There is no such thing as too soon

>>18494926
depends on the subject

>>18494926

50/50. Theres no telling what differences the editions have, unless your professor knows. Generally they are the same exact shit just rearranged differently; itll be all the same info more or less but if your professor says "read chapter 9 and answer the questions at the end" your chapter 9 might be different.

Its such fucking bullshit and should be illegal for public schools to allow books from publishers that pull this shit.

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Guys, what's a Chad to you?

>>18495039
Attractive, confident, arrogant, pretty dumb, ultimately an unpleasant person to know in the long term.

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>>18495039
Saint Chad is the ultimate Chad that we should all aspire to be

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chad_of_Mercia

femanons, Im horny all the time, even during my fucking period, and when Im ovulating it gets too frustrating and painful, Im afraid to leave the house
how do I deal with this?
Im seeing a doctor next month, but its driving me crazy and Im embarrassed to talk about it irl
I've always been like this, but it's getting to be too much
>inb4 stop being a prude
>inb4 get yourself a toy
no and no
and it wont stop me from having wet undies all the time

>>18494926
>Ask the opposite gender
Make your own thread dude.

>>18495058
You on BC?
>No
get on it.
>Yes
you may need to tweak your dosage/kind.

No matter how embarrassing you need to talk to your doc if it's an actual problem.

>>18495058
>>18495066
This. Also just flick the bean till you get tired of it.

>>18495058
get a boyfriend who can dick you right

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>>18495058
>help me solve this problem without using the most productive or helpful solutions

>>18495076
Idk, if I'm giving the benefit of the doubt, when she writes
>It wont stop me from having wet undies all the time
I'm assuming that means she's tried the obvious solutions and no matter how much she jerks off she's still horny and unsatisfied.

How do I differentiate between thinking a girl is simply cute and actually liking her? I'm genuinely ignorant when it comes to trying to discern my own feelings when it comes to girls I know. I mean there are quite a few girls I know that I'm interested in, but is that enough to constitute liking them?

>>18495117
talk to them and find out if they have anything interesting to say
Be honest with yourself, don't just be interested in what she has to say because she's cute. Ask yourself, could you have that same conversation and still be as interested if she wasn't attractive?

>>18495117
I have the opposite problem. I'm 100% unattracted to these 2 guys talking to me, at least physically, yet I'm so desperate for affection I cannot tell if I genuinely like them or if I'll settle for anything I can get.

I'm questioning how important sexual attraction is in a relationship. The thought of fucking either of them makes me wanna vomit but I suppose I can always just keep my eyes closed and pretend theyre someone else. Everything else about them is great, personality wise it's fine. I just for the life of me can't think of them sexually.

>>18495151
Don't do it. From one femanon to another. I've had friends in exact situations before (they weren't exactly a catch themselves) and they regretted it.

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>>18495158
But I'm so fucking lonely and I am also an ugly sack of shit who doesn't deserve any better no matter how much I work on myself so I'm gonna have to settle eventually anyway right?
A fucking 3/10 will never get anything better than a 4.

To girls, why do you think people place 90% of their life decision on mating rituals? Just primal force pushing the evolution? What do you think of people who escapes this force and watches from a distance without envy or desire? Freak? Sad?

>>18495166
I've seen it happen though. Reddit and 4chan love circlejerking about how there is not a single good looking guy with an average girl but I've seen quite some in my time. You should be somewhat attracted to them though. How do you not know that zero attraction is a recipe for failure. I'm not saying you should get wet just by looking at him but you still need to be somewhat enthusiastic about initiating sex etc

>>18495168
>mating rituals
>Just primal force pushing the evolution? What do you think of people who escapes this force and watches from a distance without envy or desire?
I'd consider anyone who phrases it like this to be a sad freak, yes.

>>18495166
>oy vey how dare attractive men not want to commit to somehow much less attractive than them

i'm average to above average and your way of thinking makes me very sad

>>18495168
autism or someone who's never actually been in a relationship. im going with autism though because of your unironic usage of "mating rituals" to describe it.

Women with small boobs:

How does it feel to be a breastlet?

>>18495168
Yeah, thats a large part of it.
But there's also our whole social structure. We're social creatures, and we all know friends come and go, but your spouse will usually be the one you have the most contact with. They're your ultimate friend, and your spouse/family will always come first. So even if you are a single fuck, if you have friends who are not also single fucks, they will always blow you off to spend time with their spouse or kids. Basically, once you get old enough, your spouse is the only thing you have for reliable companionship and friendship. You will never be nearly as important to anyone.

>>18495183
Where in that did you think I was saying that was wrong or not 100% expected. No 3/10 will ever get any better than a 4 at best, because thats how life works. I'm not saying I deserve any better, thats why I'm saying I should settle for what I can get even if I'm not happy with it.

Just because you know you deserve and accept the shit end of the stick due to forces beyond your control doesn't mean you have to be happy about it.
>>18495174
I'm not average though, I'm seriously below. No good looking guy gets with a seriously below average girl.

>>18495190
>reliable companionship
That sorta makes sense.

Good thing in the coming future, robots will fill that role for people who do not need the relationship (autists) but still wouldn't mind the extra helping help around.

>>18495201
I don't think so. Because I think there will be no real substitute for a real human body.

We tried to substitute real conversation with just texting, and that has been going terribly. It's been well documented that face to face interaction with a real human being beats out text, phone calls, and even video chat in terms of meaningfulness and satisfaction

I suspect even when they do make sentient real dolls it will only ever be at best a cheap placebo for the real thing, and will never actually compare. The autists will still be sexually, romantically, and socially frustrated.

>>18495197


See this
>>18494382

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>>18494808
>going out for coffee with girl I met online
For girls, assuming it goes well and I get her number what's a good follow up date? Not what do guys think is a good follow up date, but where would you like to be taken on a first real date that doesn't see too cheesy or boring?

>>18495230
>6/10
Ok? An above average girl got an above average guy. Nothing about that is very shocking.
3/10 is not above average. 5/10 is plain average.

>>18495215
>It's been well documented that face to face interaction with a real human being beats out text, phone calls, and even video chat in terms of meaningfulness and satisfaction
Actually that only applies to extroverts, not introverts. Tests have shown that introverts do not over value human face to face interaction over interactions with objects. Where as extroverts (these are all self identified people) over value human interactions over object interactions.

>>18495245
Where are these studies lol.
And how are they defining "introvert" because introverts generally refer to people who just require more down time between social interactions, not people who necessarily hate it altogether.

Hell I'm an introvert and even I say there is no online interaction, no robot clever enough, to ever replace the feeling of real human interaction and touch.

I'm a worthless cumdumpster and I keep getting pump and dumped.

How can I become worthy of love?

>>18495286
You can't.
You just have to accept that love isn't real and casual sex is the new relationship.

>>18495254
The studies was done on subjects who understood the difference and meaning behind the words introvert and extrovert. It was also done on self-reported extroverts and self-reported introverts.

There have been many studies in the past regarding the difference between the two. Whether it be brain patterns, stimuli responses, etc. There's a whole bank of research on introversion/extroversion differences in brain on the site.

In fact, the with too much human exposure, introverts show negative emotions where as neutral is the normal. Extroverts are quite the opposite as they show much more positive emotion the more human interaction is involved.


>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3129862/
>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3475359/
>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3475359/
>https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3075017/

etc

>>18495308
Hmm, interesting. Idk though, I still don't see how a robot can ever actually replace real human interaction, even for the most autistic of autismos. You can only go against biology for so long.

>>18495319
Its all a matter of principle. That principle is the crossing over of the uncanny valley. Everyone's level of threshold is different, and its dependent on how strong a person's extroversion is.

Note, being an introvert and extrovert isn't black and white, its a slider. Where extreme introverts would hardly miss a thing and extreme extroverts would never accept robots as companions. You can also be in middle and let there be some threshold.

>>18494833
So does anyone else have some more input for this question, or does the "no such thing as too soon" hold true?

>>18495286
It might be too late for you. You're a cock addict.

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Ladies:

Its your second date with a guy. He hasn't kissed you yet.

Do you hope he kisses you?
Do you -expect- he at least tries?
Do you care (a lot, a little, not at all) if there are other people around?
If he makes a move in a car, is that lame or acceptable?
Should he absolutely wait to the very end?

(anything else I should know?)

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>>18495443

>asking a question that will get a lot of varied responses that have nothing to do with OP's hypothetical girl in question
>good luck

>>18495443
Honestly mate, it totally depends if I'm feeling it. Sometimes I feel it so hard on the very first date I want his dick in me right away. Sometimes it takes me to the 5th before I feel comfortable enough to even cuddle.

So if you're asking for some specific person's opinion

>Do you hope he kisses you?
100% varies, we cannot guess for you
>Do you expect it
100% varies, we cannot guess for you
>Do you care if there are other people around
Your safest option will to be in private. No girl will mind being kissed in private (Even if they have a kink for that shit, they won't be mad when they don't know you well enough to tell you that). Girls are far more likely to reject you even if they wanted it or liked you in public.
>Car
100% depends, we cannot guess for you
>Wait till the end
This one is also still subjective, but
Probably if you wanna play it off. Though the "end" might not continue to be the end, so don't wait till the end if it's like you gotta go to work in 20 minutes. Give yourself time to extent the outing if needbe.

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>>18495467
>>18495452
I guess I'm just trying to figure out whether or not the average girl would feel insulted if a date went well but the guy didn't make a move.

Do girls consider that there might not have been a good place to do it, or is it just "he didn't" end of story?

The worst thing to happen would be for her to interpret my not making a move as disinterest, when really I just don't want to put her in a situation where she'd be embarrassed (like in public).

>>18495487
>interpret my not making a move as disinterest
or being a beta pussy...

>>18495487
Not insulted, but yes, I might think that he's not as interested. But I'm not gonna full stop after only the second date, at least not if I'm actually that interested.
I'm gonna give it another couple tries, especially if he's still otherwise being flirty and expressing interest everyother way.

>>18495197
the fact you don't find people of similar attractiveness as you attractive is what's fucked

>>18495528
I mean, I don't think anyone does. Nobody finds 3/10s attractive. That's why the scale exists.
You're telling me you don't find 10/10
s hot despite not being a 10/10 yourself? When you go to fap,do you exclusively look at porn stars that are "in your league"?

>>18495541
You're not even making any sense. Just because I find 4-6/10's attractive doesn't mean I won't find a 9/10 attractive.

What is going on in your brain

>>18495546
But you have a line yes, you wouldn't fuck a 1/10 right? Even if you were a 1/10 yourself.
Being objectively unattractive doesn't make you immune from being seen as unattractive by other people of your own tier. Ugly is ugly.

>>18495558
I would probably fuck a 1/10. I am a man after all. But I am average, and I find average women attractive. Sometimes even below average women.

And everyone has something attractive about them.

>>18495546
Like idk what is going on in your brain that makes you think people are obligated to find anyone attractive, despite how they look themselves.
And also, not all traits are equal. Like, the dude I'm talking to is ugly because he's super fat. I'm ugly because I have a shitty body shape, but am otherwise not completely obese. Even though I'd still say objectively I'm less attractive than him, to me fattness is just not desirable in any situation. But the reason he's still better than me is that he could fix himself whereas I cannot.
If he fixed himself though he would likely no longer be attracted to me because he could get much hotter women

>>18495562
>>18495546
oops
>>18495569

Also ok fuck is a bad word, love. Genuinely and truly love a woman, romantically and sexually, a woman who is incredibly unattractive. A quick fuck for laughs while also getting some from really hot chicks too is one thing, choosing to fuck one ugly girl for the rest of your life is another.

>>18495574
Depends on what else she brings to the table besides her looks. And if I fell in love with an ugly girl would she really be just a 2/10 to me?

you keep ragging on your appearance and i have no idea what you look like, are you really so terrible looking? or are you just having a self pity episode

To females,

What are some universal clues that every men should look when to take a hint(i.e if you're interested in the other party and want to move beyond the talking part)?

>>18495590
>Depends on what else she brings to the table besides her looks.
Same exact girl, all else being equal, you can have the 2/10 or a 6. You're gonna choose the 6.
> are you really so terrible looking?
I'd think so, otherwise more attractive men would, well, be attracted to me. If all I ever pull are 4's at best, I'm clearly below that.

>>18495599
No such thing as truly universal,

but if they're not totally insane or a feminist (Who am I kidding those are the same thing), it's basically as universal as it can be if they're getting physically close to you, and touching you playfully, they're good to go for something.

What that something is you'll have to work slowly to the challenge line. Could be she's down for banging, could be all she's down for is making out. Who knows.

>>18495605
I figure the first clue is the main one that men need to understand/seek. Once that's found, the rest is simply give/take part I'd assume. With slow/steady move if its a new thing or right to the finish with those in comfort zone.

>>18495612
Yeah idk, for me personally and from what I've observed from friends and other women in my life, the first step to female flirting is getting in that personal space. They'll touch you arm, playfully swat ya "Oh anon"
Laugh and smile at anything, no matter how stupid. But they always pop that personal space bubble and touch you somehow.

>>18495600
Now you're just changing goal posts on me. And you never know about being approached. For all I know what you think is a 4 is actually a 5 or 6, or the personal hangups of the people you're around are different.

Because just because a man finds you attractive does not mean they are going to let you know, or might even go out of their way to avoid giving you any impression they find you attractive. Or at least that's how it is for me

>>18495616
Ahh I see. Good observation. I've noticed that too.

Talk ->
<- Talk
Tell jokes/get steady flow of conversation ->
<- laugh/joke back
Get in personal space ->
<- reciprocate/hands/touching
reciprocate/hands/touching ->
<- move closer
etc

So the first key is whether or not they're in flow with you in conversation, then whether or not they're receptive. Then personal space, reciprocation, etc

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>least not if I'm actually that interested.
...but what if youre not? are you saying if youre unsure, that could absolutely tip the scales?

>oh god

Men,
Are you opposed to a girl working, and if so, why?

>>18495631
no? we get more cool shit if theres two incomes.

>>18495631
No! Please fucking work your ass off as hard as I do to give us a better life. I love spoiling you girls but its too much nowadays for it to be on one person. Hell my gf makes 10k more a year than i do.

>>18495631
Double the income, double the fun.

>>18495622
Well, put you in my shoes. Theres a chick you get along with completely on an emotional/personality scale, but you're so unattracted to her physically you can't imagine how you'd get through fucking her.
Is her personality enough to make up for that?

and, all I know is there is never a shortage of good looking guys flocking around good looking girls.
If I were really good looking, then good looking guys would flock to me as well, but instead I get scraps of 3's and 4's.

>>18495631
yes
you can't raise our children if your'e not at home

>>18495631
>>18495636
>>18495638
>>18495660
DINK life best life

>>18495663
But why do you not view 50/50 as a potential way of being?

>>18495661
honestly i can't really imagine a situation like that

but at least you get some attention, right? almost all guys get nothing


you've got me questioning my own attractiveness now though, so that's something

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Whats the right/correct/generally acceptable amount of acknowledgement of the other persons attractiveness after the 1st date?

Does this change if the girl is a 6/10 vs a 9?

>>18495669
>On a ideological level yes
Why?

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>>18495669
>tfw you'll never realize your dream of being qt 50's housewife doting 100% on her husbands every need and desire

>>18495670
please rewrite this in english

>>18495681
so many (((people))) refuse to acknowledge this

being a cut rate pseudo-man will never be as fulfilling nor use your potential like being a housewife and mother

>>18495681
>A good hosuewife is a treasure.
But why? You haven't explained the reasoning.
>>18495682
Says the person not using capital letters. As in, sharing everything 50/50 in a relationship. Breadwinning, child rearing etc.

>>18495686
>As in, sharing everything 50/50 in a relationship. Breadwinning, child rearing etc.
Men and women are not equal. Never have been, never will. 50/50 is not ideal, it's not even practical- and it's never existed

>>18495690
>Men and women are not equal. Never have been, never will. 50/50 is not ideal, it's not even practical- and it's never existed
It's not about that, it's about sharing everything 50/50. That's got nothing to do with ability.

>>18495697
why are you so obsessed with your lies

>>18495673
Idk, I suppose yes I should be thankful for the affection, but it's really not that much of a consolation prize whenever he touches you and your skin kinda crawls.
I love hanging out with him, I love playing video games, watching movies, seeing concerts, all that stuff with him. But when he pulls me in for the kiss and wants to cuddle, it just feels wrong and uncomfortable.

>>18495700
>why are you so obsessed with your lies
What are you talking about? division of labor does not necessitate equal strength etc.

>>18495708
Its a pretty obvious troll mate. Quit while you're ahead and stop responding before this thread gets totally derailed.

>>18495711
That's someone else. I was >>18495631
but not any of
>>18495670
>>18495676
>>18495686
>>18495697
>>18495708

>>18495716
It's good friend, I could see the difference. Just saying don't respond to the troll, not you the OP.

>>18495631
Please do.

>tfw you'll never be a house husband/boyfriend

Men, how much does a woman's clothing/ hair/ makeup style impact your opinion of her?
Do you have a preference?

Femanons, my best friend freshman year of college was a girl (B). At the end of the semester, we had a falling out, and not the kind that you come back from. She didn't have many friends except for a very popular girl (S) who I came to think of as a friend also. S and I regularly Snapchatted for the first few months of summer, but one day, I told her that B and I were not friends anymore, and she suddenly cut way back, eventually killing our streak. Is there any chance that I can get out of this without losing S as a friend? I realize that the answer is probably no, but S and I spent a lot of time together, more than I would have expected, even without B. They are also rooming together next semester. B and I are 100% past the point of reconciliation.

Men
Just a little poll, does a lady's pubic hair situation at all affect your lovemaking with her in any way?
IE, does it affect whether or not you'll go down? Whether or not you'll stick it in? Cum on her, whatever.
Do you have a preference even if you wouldn't necessarily say no to anyother "hair style"? Like what's the godtier pussy.

>>18495764
>does it affect whether or not you'll go down?
Absolutely. I don't need a mouth or nose full of hair or it itching my face.
>Whether or not you'll stick it in? Cum on her, whatever.
Nope.
>Do you have a preference even if you wouldn't necessarily say no to anyother "hair style"?
Fairly trim is nice. Not totally shaved but hair that's about between half an inch to an inch in length is ideal.

Ladies

I am finally in a place where I can focus on self improvement, but at 33 on the bottom rung, I'm 100% aware why somebody wouldn't consider me for a date.

Having already been single for 2 years, and with plenty of years ahead of me before I'm in a place that could be considered "decent", how do I cope with the feelings of loneliness that crop up? Or conversely, is it okay to want somebody in my life? How do I go about presenting my situation without annihilating my prospects?

>>18495749
Well, that depends on the kind of person you want to attract really.
Personally, I've been attracted to plenty of girls that are really basic with their clothes, hair, or that even don't wear makeup at all (just don't go sweatshirt and yoga pants basic). As long as it's nothing radical like a pixie cut and massive gauges, but there are lots of people who are into that sort of thing.
I will say, though, that the right clothes, hairstyle, and makeup can make almost any girl a 10/10.

>>18495749
It's not going to make me think less of you unless you're wearing something that actively repels me, which is rare, but if you're wearing a style I really like or you're wearing something especially well-coordinated, it will definitely improve my opinion of you, sometimes to the point of intimidating me. Long, well-kept hair is a good way to do this. I also really love long skirts and all manner of sweaters, which makes my life hell because I live in a hot climate. Makeup doesn't really have much of an impact on my opinion unless it's done very poorly.

What do men think of short hair? Not a pixie cut, but a bob. I know it's in the OP, but I want a general idea of numbers.

>>18495808
I really like bob cuts, to be h

To girls, how do you guys like to be talked to? Whenever I see a cute girl I just can't initiate a conversation because I feel like I'll get annoying. Any advice would be appreciated

>>18495808
Short hair can be pretty attractive imo.

>>18495631
If and only if there are no kids to raise. If you aren't bearing children then you have no reason to not work.

>>18495821
In what context? That's such a broad question you're asking.

>>18495749
It depends on the guy, but for me it doesn't matter too much. I like simple things so I like simple girls. I'm not saying I'm not superficial, but I think that if you are good looking it doesn't matter if you don't wear fancy clothes or make up.

>>18494808
totinos totinos, how did you know?

How do you let go of someone who is really bad for you but they are the one you really want? Sometimes i think i would rather be alone forever than find anyone else.

The guy i really want, is also bipolar and it's kind of bad. He makes me really happy but he also makes me cry, not because he's abusive but his bipolar. I know he cares about me. but when he gets something crazy in his head he will run and hurt himself and ignore me without a second thought. And i can't help him, so i cry and get sad. Its really miserable.

I just feel like i can see the person he could have been if he wasn't mentally ill. When he is good he is great and amazing. But it's not a lot.

he knows he is bad for me because he is sick so we havent talked in 6 months.

>>18495821
I like being talked to like a human being, not as something to chat up. And it's easy to tell the difference.

Going on from that other anon asking about whether you think women should work:
Men, do you think you should be the head of the household, or do you think your wife/partner should have an equal say in your family life?

Guys, have you ever tried to suck your own dick?

>>18495861
what is your criteria for determining whether someone is just chatting you up or talking to you like a human being?

>>18495872
>what is your criteria for determining whether someone is just chatting you up or talking to you like a human being?
If they seem genuinely interested in me, not wanting to take me home etc. If they're not too "flirty" etc.

I guess anyone can answer this, but what is a guy looking to be told when he keeps saying he's never gonna get a girlfriend? If I try to reason with him, he'll deflect it or just insist he's too boring/poor for a girl?

Girls, do you ever check out guy's bodies in public?

Also, how muscular/in shape do you prefer your guys? What's the cut-ff point for not wanting to date someone?

Don't really want to start a new thread and this seems to be the closest one to what I want to ask.

Girls (or guys) who have tried anal sex, how do I take more?

I tried with my boyfriend and it hurt a lot.

I want to try more since I think I'll like it but it hurt too much. I've had him eat my ass and it felt nice. He's had a finger in there all the way and it felt nice.

I've even had enemas for both sexual and non sexual reasons and they were quite nice.

We managed to get just his head in, and it felt really good but when he started going much deeper it hurt way too much and I had to stop it.

We used a lot of lube so I don't think that was the problem.

He's not that big, maybe 6 and a half inches long and an inch in diameter.

>>18495870
yes, but I didn't even come close
it's probably for the best

>>18495876
there's a strong possibility he's hoping you will pity-date him, or at least set him up with someone

>>18495889
I've not actually tried anal, but I can tell you that I'm pretty sure that's what buttplugs are for, you wear them for a few hours before to get loosened up

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>>18495882
>Girls, do you ever check out guy's bodies in public?
No. I check out their style sometimes though. I appreciate a sharply dressed man.
>Also, how muscular/in shape do you prefer your guys? What's the cut-ff point for not wanting to date someone?
Any more muscles than pic related, and I wouldn't be interested. I'd prefer skinnier men than that. That's just the borderline.

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>>18495882
>Girls, do you ever check out guy's bodies in public?
Yes, all the time. Girls too.
>Also, how muscular/in shape do you prefer your guys? What's the cut-ff point for not wanting to date someone?
Preferably as in shape as possible. Not mr. Universe swollen with muscles to the point it's gross though. Zyzz is like the perfect body for me.
This is like the cut off for me. It's just a random picture off of google.
I'm not an idiot though, I know not everyone is going to be Zyzz and am more than happy with something in between.

>>18495876
>or just insist he's too boring/poor for a girl?
The problem is that he might be right.
t. Poor and boring
Seriously, I'm about to buy a singlewide and I'm actually excited about it. I'll never get a gf like this.

>>18495882
It's definitely different for each girl, but yeah I tend to a little if I feel like it or am bored enough to.
I would feel really intimidated if he seems to work out a lot and is in super duper good shape, but I wouldn't not date them if they were into me.

>>18495898
Won't I run into the same problem as with his dick where it hurts too much to put in?

Do I just bite the bullet and push it all the way in and leave it?

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>>18495882
Yes.

Not a fan of Rich Piana-tier guys, but being super flabby isn't attractive either. Pic related would probably be my ideal, getting super lean can be difficult.
>>18495903 is probably my cutoff as well. Either that, or DYELs making fun of people who go to the gym.

I care more about guys being mindful of health-related stuff since I go to the gym often. More to it than just looking good, unless you're explicitly looking for hookups. Be at a real healthy weight/build, not just whatever the depressing national average is.

>>18495910
No, you've just gotta work up to it. It's literally just a matter of conditioning your but to take things.

>>18495808
gross
screams mental damage

Has Anyone Really Been Far Even as Decided to Use Even Go Want to do Look More Like

>>18495808
i like short hair on girls, pixie cut included. i don't think that it screams "mental damage," and anyone who does is projecting their shitty view of the world onto the world.

>>18495921
>screams mental damage
Why do you think that? It was the style for women from the 20s-50s.

>>18495631
DO NOT DUMP YOUR KID IN DAYCARE FOR THE SAKE OF A FULL-TIME JOB
If you don't have kids, working is good. If you have kids, I'd prefer that a woman would want to take care of them instead of chasing fiat currency. To me this applies to any and all careers.

>>18495927
>>>/reddit/

ugh where to get brown women

>>18495917
I don't really want to spend hundreds of dollars on 8 different sizes.

How small do they even make them?

>>18495945
You can always improvise.

>>18495953
Enlighten me, please.

how do you even meet people after you've been out of school for years and have a career?

people who've never worked in an office before always say coworkers, but that is wrong

>>18495945
What are fingers? I swear, how the shit do you people even manage to attract anyone in the first place? You literally went through this with one hole already.

can i get a hug?
i am so fucking lonely ;_;

>>18495966
What's to expand upon? Find something small and stick it in your ass. Then find something bigger. Get creative.

Do braces basically take you off the dating market? Im 24 and male and otherwise decent looking, but I have basically confined myself to celebacy since I got them on (2 years ago)

Would you consider making out with a guy wearing them?

>>18495969
I've had his fingers in there before and it was fine.

The problem comes with his dick which is much thicker than a finger and is too uncomfortable to go past the head.

>>18495945
Start with fingers, then pens and markers and just improvise.

>>18495979
They make you seem way, way younger than you actually are. They are definitely a big turn off for me.

>>18495983
I assure you that you have taken shits far larger than his penis.

They key is to relax as much as you can. If your muscles tighten up it is not going to feel good.

>>18495987
Pretty much this. He just needs to ease in and then you need to just adjust for a bit to him.

are girls super turned off by a guy who wants to be your slave and into femdom stuff?

>>18496011
>do girls like X fetish
some do, some don't

Guys, why would you reject a girl you fornerly said you wanted to spend your life with? And why would you then say you don't love them romantically? What does it mean to include that you need to "up your standards "?

>>18496167
For the last part I meant the guy telling the girl to up her standards.

>>18496167
once you broke up with someone you can't expect them to remain available for you if you change your mind.

Guys: what goes through your head when you hit on and try to flirt with a girl who's happily in a relationship?

>>18495967
no it's not wrong
anyway, the answer is to do things outside of work. sports, clubs related to your interests...

>>18495939
africa

>>18495870
i wanted to see if i could. i couldn't.

>>18495864
i think the woman should be the head of the household.

>>18495967
I work in an office and I've made friends with my coworkers. Sure, not every coworker is going to become your best friend, but an office environment doesn't stop you making friends.

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>>18496167
Guy here. Been there and I had my reasons.

For one thing, her family was pretty terrible. Her moth treated her horribly and her siblings buried their heads in the sand and never helped her. So strike one is bad family that I wouldn't want to be connected to my own kids or family.

Strike two was that she just didn't try hard enough with things. She was lazy, unorganized and didn't know the concept of time.

Strike three was all her own problems such as depression and anxiety. She hated being around people and would cry in malls.

Ultimately I couldn't take it all and initially she was someone I wanted to marry but with all this bad shit piling up, I just couldn't stomach the thought of having to be around that for life. I'd of had to carry her through everything since she was incapable of doing anything herself.

>>18495764
>Just a little poll, does a lady's pubic hair situation at all affect your lovemaking with her in any way?
yes. the full bush puts me off. i haven't yet been with a girl who doesn't trim at least a little though, so it's more in theory than anything.
ideally i like a really short trim, but not fully shaved.

>>18496174
Happily or not I've got vibes to say all is not well in there or that she's interested in fucking around. A few years ago my best friend was with a girl who was also a close friend of mine and despite it all being nice as pie on the surface, I eventually found out she fucked around a lot. She's currently seeing another guy and they're getting married soon but she has a slight interest in me and if I wanted to, I could bed her in a second.

So usually guys will go for a girl in a relationship they suspect is in trouble and is probably going to come apart anyway.

>>18496187
I have anxiety, but it never affected him before. Let me add in that he calls me affectionate names but less recently after his ex started contacting him again.

>>18495631
Not really. The whole housewife thing became kind of silly when appliances freed up 99% of their time. There is this, though: >>18495934
Growing up in institutions all day makes kids weird.

>>18495749
it happened several times: i saw a girl that i previously didn't give much thought about, nicely dressed and made up (for a party or some event), and it changed my perception of her.
i usually prefer a more simple style usually, girls who wear high heels every day and are caked with makeup don't really interest me.

of course it's not the only thing that matters, and of course a very beautiful girl can more easily pull off the "woke up like this" look...

>>18496195
>I have anxiety, but it never affected him before
It didn't affect me either but after a few years it just started to wear me down. I started getting sick of it and started noticing things that were also irritating. I get that you can't help it and she couldn't help it but the fact is that it wears people down.

>Let me add in that he calls me affectionate names but less recently after his ex started contacting him again.
Really he shouldn't be in touch with her at all. Either nip this in the bud right now or the relationship is sunk already.

>>18495870
No. wtf

>>18496193
But my relationship isn't like that at all. People often comment about how stable our relationship is and how secure are are together. There is literally zero chance of me dumping my boyfriend for another guy and I'm sure I don't act like there is in any way.

>>18496174
if i know she's in a relationship, i probably wouldn't.
but even then, flirting in itself is fun if the girl responds well to it, even if it doesn't end up in anything.

>>18496209
>People often comment about how stable our relationship is and how secure are are together.
Secure isn't really a compliment, it sounds like people have been nicely saying "he's a little boring but at least he won't cheat on you". I suspect people also think you're too good for him as well.

>>18496174
Most guys don't really think ahead what they're saying so sometimes conversations just veer into flirting. So I guess the answer is "fuck, did I really say that?".

What would make a guy who cheated on and dumped his ex, contact said ex again?
My ex has been trying to reach out to me and i feel really uncomfortable about it, I don't even want to acknowledge him but hes being persistent, i'm getting calls or messages a few times a week.
I don't want to talk to him, even if its to tell him to leave me alone cause im still hurting.

>>18496216
My boyfriend's actually one of those guys who gets along with everyone and people like having around. He's hardly boring. And he and I are pretty equal, I don't think people think I'm too good for him.

Sorry if this comes across as rude, but are you projecting? I know that you obviously don't know me and my relationship, but your assumptions are getting into projection territory.

>>18496223
blacklist his phone number so you don't see the calls or messages

>>18496224
>i'm not giving any details on my situation, why are people assuming things?
you sound stupid girl

>>18496228
im pretty sure you can do that in new zealand unless its domestic abuse

>>18496238
all mobile phones can do that

>>18496235
Well the question wasn't about my relationship, it was about other guys external to my relationship, so why would I post details about it...?

>>18496243
Really?
i feel so stupid right now

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As soon as I get any romantic relationship I tend to pour troubles I encounter onto my friends. I have constant feeling that I simply can't keep my mouth shut. I don't advertise my relationship, but if asked, I am not able to say "everything's alright". I feel that I sabotage myself by doing this all the time.

Yesterday my female friend asked how are we doing, I told that we broke up and while drunk I basically told some sensitive things, like things we argued about, reason we broke up, etc. I was mad as fuck, couldn't hold myself.

How would you react if you knew this? Anybody have similar thoughts? It's so fucking hard to hold these urges to vent.

>>18496247
Kek

>>18496247
i mean maybe not all but i know my android phone can.
google "blacklist a phone number" + your phone and you'll find a way to do it i'm sure...

>>18496251
if it's only to your close friends it's fine, you can talk about your problems with friends

>>18496253
Just about any Android phone made in the last 3 or 4 years can do it and I believe it's the same for iPhones.

>>18495889
If it hurts ever, you're going too fast. Find something tapered and work it in very, very slowly.

>>18495876
He might genuinely believe it and is just bummed about it, in which case he's looking for some sympathy.

I've done this before, though, and it was because I wanted my friend to set me up with someone.

>>18496174
women cheat all the time. they cheat far more than men

to be totally honest, women are far more open* to fucking randos when they are in a relationship than otherwise.

*in a study, 0% of single women agreed to sexual intercourse with a total stranger while 4% of women in relationships agreed

>>18496332
Do you remember where to find that study?

>seeing a chap for a few months
>'anonette, I'm really falling for you. I see a future with you, I just want to spend all my time with you and stay with you'
one week later
>'anonette, I see to divergent paths. One building a life with you, we'd live in X and have children and you'd do blah and I'd do blah. And then one where I break up with you. I am choosing the latter.'

Why does this keep happening to me /adv/? How can I become worthy of love/ find a guy who means it when he says ILY?

>inb4 love yourself
I already do. But no one else will!

>>18496340
Receptivity to sexual invitations from strangers of the opposite gender. / Hald, Gert Martin; Hogh-Olesen, Henrik.
In: Evolution and Human Behavior, Vol. 31, No. 6, 01.11.2010, p. 453-458.

>>18496348
>man this girl is really great
>oh wait i just found out about something really gross
>guess i gotta dump her. this sucks

>>18496368
Guess that's the last time I show a guy my used condom collection

>>18496360
thanks man

>>18496348
Sounds like either he's focused on a new girl or he discovered some ugly trait that is a deal breaker. I stopped pursuing a girl when I found out she believes in some retarded /x/ shit for instance.

>>18496167
>Guys, why would you reject a girl you fornerly said you wanted to spend your life with?
Usually because I found out about some factors that make me no longer wish to do so. Retarded beliefs, lying, ugly personality traits being shown.

>What does it mean to include that you need to "up your standards "?
Similar goals in life. Proper respect. A partner, not a project.

>>18494833
Under 10 minutes. Have chat with her first. If she seems friendly enough, ask for her phone number. If she ask why, reply
>so i can ask you on date later
Date the bitch!

>>18495058
Tried to fuck somebody? Looks like you need some young horny boy as boyfriend.

>>18495117
Thinking about her face, boobs, ass, belly, legs have to give you boner. Easy.

>>18495151
Fucking you will be like fucking corpse. Dont do it. For both their and your sake.
>do you masturbate?
>does any boy (or girl) ever attracted you?
>do you watch porn?
Maybe you are just scared of sexuality.

>>18495189
Pic related.

>>18495599
Girls give you signals like
>i exist
Chat them up and see their reactions. Ask them on date. Or for their phone numbers.

>>18495631
I expect you to not only work, but also do chores and birth at least 2 kids for me milady while sucking my D every night with passion.

>>18495749
Get a tatoo, piercings all over your body, dye your hair to green, dress like a hobo, smell awfully and i will never even look your way.

>>18495758
Find real gf instead.

>>18495764
I am not afraid to push you into shower and shave my way to your delicate bodyparts as part of foreplay.

>>18495791
Just date any girl 25+. They are all baby hungry and want long term relationship. If you say your plans to get better, it wont be issue at all.

>>18495808
Some girls are cute even with short hair. Post pic.

>>18495821
It is simple, you chat them up about any subject. If they find you attractive, no matter what you say, it will work. And vice versa if you are repulsing to them, you will get ignored / one word responces and ghosted later.
Tldr just push your luck and be bold.

>>18495843
>both bipolar
>i cry and get sad
>havent talked in 6 months
You are basically separated now. Keep that way. And keep taking your pills!

>>18495864
Every marriage i know is like this
>wife decides everything
>husband cant even pick the date of his death
And they all works and seems happy enough.

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>>18495876
They are like r9k posters. Given up.
Ask him if he wants your help in acquiring new gf.

>>18495939
London.

>>18495967
>>18495971
Online dating and social events you hate. Ever been in demonstration? Fasion show? Opera? Nigger ghetto pub?

>>18496011
The sooner you give up on that the sooner you will find gf.

>>18496167
>>18496348
Life isnt easy. You could tell something about wanting/not wanting kids, career, different /pol opinion or he simply find better girl. Or he found out you are starfish.

>why
You are picking wrong boys obviously.
>how can I become worthy
You either are or arent. Try new boy or lower your standards.

>>18495189
Alway forget the pic lol.

Girls: If a guy you know (like a friend or some guy you sometimes talk to or whatever) asks you out, is it a sort of big deal to you (as it probably is to him) or do you just think about it like some random meaningless thing? Like "oh look another guy is asking me out".
I'm not saying it should be a big deal, though.

What is the difference between a guy talking to me a lot because he likes me platonically or because he likes me romantically?

>>18496756
It's a big deal because there's usually months of flirting leading up to the asking out. Guys don't ask you out on a proper date unless they're really into you. If he wasn't serious he would try to get in your pants.

Girls: What makes a good first message on dating sites?

I feel like I've a real issue getting my humour across on dating sites. I feel like I come across really robotic.

How long should I hide the fact that I suffer from chronic depression?
I wouldn't want to scare the girl on the first date, but I'd feel terrible if she developed feelings for someone who's mentally ill without knowing about it.

I don't even know why I'm asking this, since I never meet women or go on dates.

>>18496798
I can't really answer because I'm on the same boat as you. But what's the deal with people who say "you have to love yourself (i.e. stop having depression) before loving someone else"? I genuinely think that getting into a couple will have a positive change in life and might even help coping with depression or getting rid of it. In that case it's not really a big deal imo, you can and should only tell her after you've known each other to the point you are comfortable saying it. It's not like she made a huge commitment and you were cheating on her. She will get to know you and realize she likes you (or doesn't) and if she does it will prove depression wasn't a problem in your potential relationship so far, so then you can tell her (or not if you feel like you are in control of your depression).
Again my opinion doesn't count because I have depression too and haven't dated anyone in years now.

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To girls,

My gf has low self esteem. I just told awhile ago that I should accept how she's not pretty and if I didnt, I was only after the idea of love. Of course I love her to bits and find her attractive but at the spur of the moment I said "I accept that youre my type, Of course you're not going be miss universe but that youre the one for me". Then she goes off disappointed.

Did I say soemthing wrong? what can I do?

>>18496469
>do you masturbate?
>does any boy (or girl) ever attracted you?
>do you watch porn?

Yes to all of that. I suppose I'm just only attracted to dudes way out of my league so idk what to do. Settle somewhere seems to be the only option, other than die alone.
My ex from high school was a decent 6, I found him incredibly attractive, idk how on earth someone as ugly as me got him. He ended up dumping me for someone else though, so I know at my status even good looking guys are only around as long as nobody better's out looking.

>>18496819
>I genuinely think that getting into a couple will have a positive change in life and might even help coping with depression or getting rid of it
It only worked for me for a short while, but maybe it'd actually work if I met the right woman.

>>18496822
I never told my ex and she left me during one of my relapses saying I'd been neglecting and taking her for granted for a while.
I guess I want to avoid being in that situation again.

>>18496469
>I am not afraid to push you into shower and shave my way to your delicate bodyparts as part of foreplay.
lol I hope blood is your fetish. Never been able to shave even with the lightest of touches without disastrous results. One swipe of a razor and all that's left behind is a streak of hairless, but also skinless vag.

>>18496823
>Of course you're not going be miss universe
You fucked up.

>>18496819
>But what's the deal with people who say "you have to love yourself (i.e. stop having depression) before loving someone else"? I genuinely think that getting into a couple will have a positive change in life and might even help coping with depression or getting rid of it.
Because fostering dependence in a relationship isn't healthy. You will just be more miserable. Everyone has their own problems and its nice to get help from someone they care about, but having a problem that prevents you from functioning normally in society is too big of a burden on a girlfriend (or boyfriend) for a healthy relationship.

I also subscribe to the "relationships are about sharing happiness, not creating it" narrative.

>>18496830
Was I supposed to flatter her to the heavens? She'd think I was just saying things

>>18496823
She's insecure and therefore an attention whore. Any answer other than "OMG noooo, stop saying that you're the hottest chick in the universe I can't control myself when I'm with you I just wanna dick you so hard"
Is not the correct answer. Even if it's not the truth

It's gonna be an exhausting game anon, no amount of complements you ever feed her will be enough, but you have to keep feeding or else she'll get upset.
She needs to decide to work on her own issues or not, nothing you do can help her

>>18496819
You don't get into a relationship until you have your own shit together because it's not fair to the other person.
Using someone else as your coping device and sending them through hell just so you can feel a little better about yourself is kinda shitty. You just don't drag another human being through your own shit pile so you can come out smelling clean.

>>18496841
I'm quite convinced after all these years that I won't ever overcome depression completely. And I haven't been in a relationship ever since I've been dealing with this. Either way, how is not fair for the other person? They can just break up with me if I'm a pain to them.

>>18496836
Of course not, but like >>18496838 said, you need to keep feeding her with compliments.

I dated a girl like that and every time I told the "truth", she'd get fucking mad and sulk for hours.

>>18496848
You can stabilize yourself. You're allowed to have off days, but you need to be sure of yourself at least most of the time.

Imagine you fall in love with a person, you love them dearly and want to help them through anything. But every other day they're falling off the wagon, talking about suicide, talking about how depressed they are, talking about how terrible every day is.
You see the person you love hurting, and wonder why on earth you aren't good enough for them. Why they aren't happy every day, why you aren't making them happy every day. What can you do to help them, what can you do to save them?
It's fucking exhausting and soul crushing. You're basically just transfering your depression to someone else. All that pain you feel on a daily basis? Thats how you make them feel. And they wont just leave you, because 1, they love you and want to support you even if it hurts them, and/or 2, they'll be worried if they did leave then you would go and off yourself and they'll feel personally responsible for that.

>>18496792
You come across as robotic no matter what you say on a dating site, because it's text based and has zero emotion to it. That's the cost of online dating, you're meeting complete strangers you more than likely have nothing in common with in a very unnatural and forced environment.

>>18496859
Yes I think I understand what you mean. I guess in my case I've just learned to be really good at hiding it when I feel bad most of the time, but yeah my friends sometimes notice there's something wrong and ask me, even though I wouldn't speak out to anyone about wanting to kill myself or feeling terrible, only rarely and if the context asks for it.
But yeah, it would probably lead to a relationship based on hiding stuff.
I still just feel like if I get into a relationship with someone I enjoy being with, things will change but I guess I shouldn't really rely on that and try to work things out on my own.
And yeah you are right about that last part, that's how I felt when some people I used to know texted me very often about wanting to kill themselves and needed someone to talk to, I knew having to deal with them so often could be bad for me but I also couldn't just hang up on them.
In my case I think my personality is always more about hiding my problems and making sure other people don't feel bad because of me.
Thanks for the advice.

>>18496756
I've been asked out a total of 4 times in my 22 years of life, so even if I wasn't interested it would still be a big deal to me.

The only time it would be distressing, is in a situation like this: One of those 4 dudes was a guy I was very close with, and long term friend who I cared about deeply and was always there for me. I wasn't romantically interested though so when he asked me out I was heartbroken because I knew it would affect our friendship. I felt like shit for breaking his heart, and ever since I always feel like I'm walking on egg shells when we're talking because I don't want to put out any sort of false signals or otherwise hurt him any further.

>>18496848
>I'm quite convinced after all these years that I won't ever overcome depression completely
That's what I'm scared of.
I've been feeling good for a few weeks now, but I feel like I could relapse at any time.

>>18496859
>And they wont just leave you
They absolutely will, especially if you're hiding your depression.

>>18496876
Not if they fell for you man. I'm saying this from personal experience. I put a guy through that shit, and we weren't even fully dating. He was just in love with me and wanted to help me. He never left my side even though it was killing him to watch me go through that shit every day, to tell him how much I wanted to die. To watch me throw up every single meal I ate because I was obsessed with being a skeleton.
He said he felt so powerless and hopeless.
And guess what? Ended up becoming depressed himself/
"If I can't even save the girl I love, what good am I to anyone or anything?"
That's what he told me.

>>18496848
>>18496874
Just a word of advice:
With mental illness, you will never COMPLETELY be rid of it. However, you can learn to manage it and be just as functional as anybody else. Don't set your goals too high.

>>18496876
Oh shoot, well I'm glad you've been feeling good for these last weeks, thats great, and I don't see why you necessarily have to fall again. I mean maybe you are on a path to overcoming it. I mean sure, bad times can come but maybe you are more in control of it now.
I know this sounds like shitty wikihow-tier advice but my therapist always tells me that I can think about my life as a chair (or sitting on a chair, idek). Anyway each leg is something that I currently do that interests me, something I have to live for or look forward to.
For example your job can be a leg, your hobby can be a leg, your studies, your friends, each activity you do that you enjoy. You may lose chair legs, some may get old and damaged. But you just have to make sure you have enough legs to keep the chair standing. 1 or 2 only won't do it. You can have 3 or 4 but they might not last forever. Says him.

I quit my yoga studio on Thursday, leaving behind a thank you card for my instructor who I've know for 18 months... and also developed a crush on.

I never felt right asking her out while still attending her class but I left her a note with the card that had my number on it asking her to call if she would like to meet up soon.

We've always got on really well and I genuinely think she'd have been open for at least a friendly coffee together but I realize I've gone about things pretty poorly and should have just asked her out face to face or got her number instead.

Ladies,

How royally did I fuck up and is there anything I can do to salvage this?

When is a realistic time frame to give up any hope of call?

>>18496857
what happened to you two? and in the long run?

>>18496906
I think you did fine actually. Asking someone out at their work place is usually a no no, and the best way to do it is to leave your contact and hope they want to call you.

I'd give up after a week though, but at the end of the day balls in her court. She has your number, if she wants you she'll call at any time. Just don't hold out or otherwise pester her thoug.

Men in relationships: do you save pictures of other women you like?

>>18496887
I guess that's what happens when you go out with an actually good person.
My ex was a selfish slut and monkey-branched me as soon as she was unhappy (after a year together), she didn't even try to help me.

>>18496892
I'm not sure about that, I can go for months without being depressed before relapsing.

>>18496912
She found someone else who gave her more attention than I did.
She'll probably cheat on him eventually once he stops giving her as much attention.

>>18496914
I know. I'm not exactly experienced, but I feel if she hadn't been my yoga teacher and a damned good one at that, it would have made things a lot simpler.

I can't bear the wait though. I reckon if she was keen she'd have at least shot me a text by now. I suppose I have to give it some more time before I even think about any other kind of approach with her now though.

I can't bear the wait though...I already made a POF account last night and arranged a date with a seemingly nice girl in a few hours time. It seems inconsequential though.

>>18496756
>caring about how much pressure you put on girls by asking them out
This is not how you hunt girlfriends anon. You have to be stoic hearthless casanova chad in order to get them. Just do it and think about complicated stuff later after first few dates.

Be all smile, dont push them too much and dont go crazy if they reject / ghost you. It is part of the game.

>>18496767
If you want him as bf, ask him where his gf is. If he is single, you got your answer.

>>18496792
>hello anntonete
>what are you looking for here
>do you think i am good candidate for such position?
Stop overthinking, majority wont reply anyway.

>>18496798
>chronic depression
I hope you have psycholog and long term plan how to beat it. Dont hide it, but dont tell them first either. Simply be "yourself" and see if they will accept you or not.

>>18496819
>getting into couple will have positive change in life
You are in for BIG SURPRISE and possibly even bigger depression after.

>>18496823
When she is bitching like that, dont say a single word, ignore the babbling and hug her tightly. Whispering
>you are mine after all
can work too. Dont try to win by logic. Win by emotions. Cuddle the bitch next time!

>>18496826
Post pic. I bet you are just another insecure (or fat?) femanon. No other way around it. Tried online dating yet?

>>18496829
What do you use to shave with? Knife?
>now i know what i will ask my ex and new gf, needs further research

>>18496906
>not asking for HER NUMBER
You are going to be forever single if you ever let active part on girls.
>>18496939
Dont wait. She will never call. And even if you do, you can date multiple girls at once (until something serious happens).

>>18496945
>You are in for BIG SURPRISE and possibly even bigger depression after.
Indeed, it happened to me and the resulting depression was the worst depression I've ever had.

>>18496945
>I bet you are just another insecure (or fat?) femanon.
Not at my thinnest, I'll give, but plenty more issues than the 10 extra lbs. Bad fat distribution to begin with, even when I was at a super low weight I still looked chubby because all my fat goes to my stomach. Bad face, square jaw, long hanging meaty vag, droopy tits, large nips, short stumpy legs, the list goes on.
I've done the online dating game but there wasn't a single attractive dude interested in me on there, and 90% of them were not only ugly but also just plain mentally ill. Online dating attracts the crazy's for a reason. I'd at least rather settle for the guy I know who's not attractive but mentally stable. At doesn't treat me like some goddess just because I have a pussy and stammers through every online interaction because he's never talked to a woman before.

>>18496945
lol idk what it is, my skin is just retardedly sensitive. Never been able to shave completely without destroying my cunt. I've tried a dozen different razors and a dozen different special shave gels. Tried waxing even and the wax tears my skin off too.

I considered shilling out for laser hair removal but I'm terrified I'll just be left with like, 3rd degree blistering burns down there if I did.

>>18496945
>Asking her number
Honestly you should never ask for someone else's number like that. You put her in an awkward spot because socially she's expected to give it to you, and she has no way of declining you without looking like a heartless cunt.
Plus there's also always the concern you'll go full robot on her if she declines and beat the shit out of her while REEEE'ing, so you've basically socially backed her into a corner where she HAS to disclose that very personal information to you.

At best you'll just annoy her and she'll just have to add your number to her block list, or give you a fake one, and you'll get ghosted. It's always better to give your number than to ask for anyone else's.
Lord knows I only have one of those texting apps for situations like these, where some rando socially forces me to give out my number. Get a fake number from the texting app, give them that, delete the app and the number and never have to bother with the pushy forceful dude again.

>>18496260
This is the trouble. Sometimes I can reveal some information, like gossiping, to a person who is not even entirely friend to me. That's such an asshole thing to do.
For example, I called my ex-GF a bitch and slut, while being mad, I was speaking to my friend who is not mutual. But now I can't even look into her eyes, I am full of shame.

How do I help myself?

>>18496930
So my gf will cheat eventually on the slightest lack of attention? Am I doomed to that?

>>18496980
I hope not, but I can't really tell since I don't know her.

Guys

I'm in a ldr for 1, 5 years with a guy a few years older than me. He switched jobs 3 months ago and since then we hardly do anything together anymore. You could say he seems 'married to the job', he spends his free time with his coworkers and his weekends too. I've been in close contact with his parents ever since I've met them and his mother tells me I should be patient with him and that he'll start being affectionate with me again after probation ends. I don't really know what to do anymore, I want to move in with him in the future but the way our relationship is at the moment is making me miserable. What should I do? Stick around supporting him until he hopefully learns to balance things better?

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>>18496964
Pic related. Kinda. Not giving weirdos chance might be what keeps you down.
>even if you are first girl they are talking to, maybe you can train them to be normal

Still waiting for that pic btw.

>>18496968
Sounds like you are the unicorn or all the ads for female shaving lied to me.

>>18496973
And this is fine example to never listen to girls advice about dating girls. Btw i love this mental gymnastic
>socially she's expected to give it to you
Next time you will tell me that girls are socially forced to sleep with boys whenever they show interest.

We dont care you get scared / annoyed in the process. We want YOU. It doesnt matter how it happens. If every boy was so kind like you want them to be, we would go extinct long ago.

And ghosting is ok.

>>18497005
>ldr
The moment you agreed to ldr is the moment you lost. Even if he hasnt found new girl (i bet he did, at his new job), you dont interest him anymore.

I suggest you to break up and find real bf in your location. Sorry for the loss.

>>18497005
I'm not even a guy but I can tell you you need to talk to him about feeling neglected and tell him that while you respect his job is important, ask if he could possibly make just a little more time for your relationship.

>>18497009
>Pic related. Kinda. Not giving weirdos chance might be what keeps you down.
Not her but I think having the standard of dating someone sane isn't being overly picky. I'm a guy btw.

>>18497012
I've had that talk already. Multiple times even. Told him I respect and look up to him for being so commited to the job but that I am a human being that has needs and that he isn't meeting them. He'll try making time for me for a day or two and then he's back to not contacting me till late at night.

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>>18497009
If I feel uncomfortable with someone, I feel uncomfortable with someone. I don't think "fixing" someone is ever a good idea for a relationship. I'm not a personal trainer, I'm not equipped for that job, and if my only options are literally
>Date a total creep who makes me extremely uncomfortable and low key concerned for my safety, that I know nothing about because we met online
>Settle for a less attractive dude that I actually like on a personal level
>Die alone
I can tell you the last 2 options seem far more appealing than the 1st. But I'd likely go with the second.

I'm not gonna post a pic so I can get doxxed on 4chan dude.

>>18497009
When you are one on one, it's ok. In public, when she turns you down she looks like a cunt because "Well, he was just being friendly, what the fuck is her problem I'm sure he's a nice guy? What a fucking bitch"

Sex is different because you usually aren't asking a girl to fuck in front of thousands of people. You're doing that one on one.

I say this from personal experience. Not a single time have I ever turned down a dude who asked me out publicly did I ever come out looking like the good guy. They all called me a vain whore for turning them down and I've heard the snide remarks from people walking by "What's her problem?"

I know you want me, that's the problem. You seem to think you're entitled to my personal information just because you like me. Don't put women in these awkward spots man, just give them your number and if they liked you they WILL contact you.
If they don't why bother having their number unless its because you intend to spam call/text her into oblivion until she agrees to go out with you.

>>18497024
Then you need to have one more talk and seriously lay it down that this is a severe strain on your relationship it's about to become deal breaking if he doesn't do something and stick to it.

Your choices are
>stay quiet and be unhappy, but quit complaining because you chose this
>Talk to him more firmly, and really get it across how grave this shit is. You will leave if he can't work with you to fix this.
If you don't want to be unhappy, then you need to choose yourself over him. If he is not making you happy, its time to move on.

>>18497028
>so I can get doxxed
Do you actually think anyone here cares enough about you to doxx you?
Do you think everyone who posts their picture on /soc/ gets doxxed?

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I say:
>I don't want kids right now, but in the future I think I might

She says:
>I don't want kids right now, and in the future I'm not sure

And that really fucks with me sometimes. It's one of our only disagreements. It terrifies me that this beauty could all be headed to heartbreak.

>>18497045
If they say things that piss off the mentally ill dudes like I have been then yes, they get doxxed.

>>18497048
It sounds like you're basically saying the same thing though.
>Might
>Not sure
both express the fact you can go one way or another.

You should probably change yours to "I definitely want/don't want some in the future" if that's what you're actually feeling. But if you are genuinely on the fence, sounds like she is too. You're saying the same thing just with synonyms.

>>18497028
>uncomfortable
Have you been on date with them? Or were you uncomfortable from text alone? Because it is hard as fuck to show charisma through text. Also why is everybody on adv scared of posting pics when soc is filled with attention whores to the roof? Pic is kinda important to see if you are ugly, plain, low confidence or simply aim at boys out from your league.
>bonus question
How much weird do i sound to you now? I am curious.

>>18497036
>never turned down a dude who asked me out publicly
Sounds like my advice will have 100% success rate then :-)

>entitled
This is how boys work. We want and we take. And that is why you love us. Almost all anons here are stucked around
>how do i score that 1st date to show her my feelings about her and prove my worth?
and evidently agressively pursuing girls like you works if it lands them on that date.

>WILL contact you
Not in this universe. Maybe if you are chad, but majority of us are average and boring.
>why bother
It is called testosterone. It makes you do a lot of inreasonable things. Chasing girls silly is one of them.

>>18496916
like, porn? sure. girls i know? no.
i'm single atm, but that didn't change when i was in a relationship.

>>18497059
I went as far as meeting one guy and he ended up stalking me for a few weeks after I told him I think we were looking for different people.
But I've been uncomfortable through text alone many times. Theres a huge difference between "hard to distinguish because text can be just a tad ambiguous" and just downright redflag.

The camwhores on soc I assume has nothing to lose. Also if you've ever been to a rate thread, you'll see that nobody ever posts anything that could possibly be interpreted as mean. There's never a rating below a 5 on there, even if they deserve it, because you don't wanna piss anyone off who knows your face. I used to frequent rate threads, the drill usually is you only rate people that you think are above a 6 and ignore anyone else, so that way you don't outwardly offend them. (and also, you don't rate low because then they'll turn around and revenge rate you low too)
>Bonus question
You seem kind of hostile, reading your responses to others and myself. Which is another reason I'm hesitant to post a pic for you. I can't really tell what you'd do with it.

>>18497059
At the expense of women, but given your attitude I see you don't actually care about women at all. They're just playthings to you, not people. You sound exactly like the kind of creep I don't want to have my number to harass me with and exactly the kind of guy who will scream at me and call me a whore in public if I rejected you

>>18497057
I guess you might be right. Sometimes it just feels like I'm unsure but lean positive, and she's insure but leans negative. Neither of us look at parents with kids with envy, and honestly I'm barely interested in most of the "raising kids" stuff. Daycare and school and stuff sounds like such an aggravation. But then I imagine being able to build a family to keep me company and give me experiences, she imagines the strain of children ruining her life.

I think I'm scared of ending up as a lonely old man with no connections or affection in my life. But...My parents had me and my siblings for that reason and it puts a lot of pressure on us to make them happy since it's pretty explicit that we're their reason for living. I wouldn't want to put that on a child.

>>18496469
>Find real gf instead
Thank you anon

>>18497079
Its probably one of the toughest subjects, I get ya. It is the most dealbreaking factor there is and its unfortunately something you'll never really establish until you're at that prime baby making age.

Like, I'm one of those people that is about 80% certain I don't want kids. I'm 100% certain I don't ever want to be pregnant and bare children though. It's difficult dating because there aren't a lot of people who are as certain as I am, but I'll even give that my stance on adoption or surrogacy might lighten up once I've gotten my youth out and done the things I really want to do in my young 20's that I wouldn't be able to do dragging a kid around.

I do know that if I meet a guy who wants kids though, he will definitely have to compromise with me on adoption or surrogacy though. I just do not want to put my body through that and would rather end up a lonely old woman than give that up, personally.

>>18497072
>hostile
That is what i have found out works the best. Hostile advices short and to the point.

So far it looks like you will end up as childless cat lady. Tried social events you hate yet? Pick something you have never done before or dislike a lot and go there. If you feel adventurous, chat up boys there. Try asking them if they are single. That speeds up the dating process a lot. You can even give them your number since you are girl, they will call.

>>18497077
>care about women
That sounds a little mean, but i forgive you. I care about you femanon, but in order to secure date you have to be ruthless as a boy or stay single forever. We simply cant afford to employ females wait and see approach. Sociaty demands that we are the pursuers.
>i wouldnt text you more than two times anyway without positive responce from you

>>18497081
Was that irony? :-)

Men,

If you're in love with a girl, does getting sexual with her change things? I used to get all these sweet messages and he used to gush to me about how his heart was mine. Then things got sexual (he initiated). I enjoy it and my feelings didn't change except for that it's really fun and I like being sexual with him. I have started getting over my shyness and initiating too and he says he likes it but I feel like he doesn't act as loving anymore. Do girls become less attractive after you've scored or after they lose their innocence with you?

>>18496876
>>I'm quite convinced after all these years that I won't ever overcome depression completely
That may be very well true. I have clinical depression and I can go for long periods of time without an issue and then it flares up out of nowhere for no reason. I'm married with children so if you find the right person that really loves you it won't destroy your life.

>>18497124
That's encouraging, thanks.

>>18497110
Not for me. I think what happens is that the relationship becomes comfortable. Guys stop doing it because they feel like you now like them or you wouldn't have sex. So I don't need to try to get you to like me anymore. I've had girls tell me at this point, don't waste your money on flowers. I'd rather (fill in the blank). Other girls like them as a surprise. Tell your bf that you miss getting flowers as a surprise. If they don't ever show up again, that's a red flag.

Honestly, this isn't that important but I've just noticed something that piqued my curiosity.
I've just noticed that my ex, who I had a very rough split from a little under a year ago (we haven't spoken since November) has unblocked me on every social media platform. Her best friend has also started liking all my photos, which is strange because she always disliked me and always wanted my ex to stay away from me when we were friends and when we got together.
She has a boyfriend, so I'm not really thinking anything of it. I just thought it was weird. She said she didn't want anything to do with me again. I live in another country so we no longer have anything to do with each other.
I still doubt we'll ever contact each other again, seeing as we've both moved on from each other, but it just seemed a bit strange.
Has she done something insignificant? Am I overthinking it?

>>18497110
Most boys see the dating game as war. In order to win the war you have several options. One of them is to OVERHELM the enemy aka you.

So at the start he will spin on his head to impress you if necessary. One of the battle is to get you to dates. Another mileston is to hear you love him. Next milestones are sex, marriage, kids. And most boys will treat you as maid at that point (because really, where will you run away when you are married and have babies to take care of?).

To counter that, one femanon here mentioned that she sometimes goes away from home without telling him where. And by being cold towards him she makes him show the feelings once more.

I suggest you to pussy whip him whenever possible. Make him do things for you. He will probably never be as active as he was in the first phase of dating, but with enough practice (or manipulation) he should never treat you as maid.

Make up your mind what do you miss from him and tell him / order him. We dont stop loving you, we simply become super lazy if you allow us to become so. We get fat, uncaring, bald and sex turns from 1 hour cuddling foreplay to 5 minutes humping or we even turn to porn rather to you.

You must to never allow him to see you as sure thing. And never let him be lazy. It is constant fight to keep us in line. Find what works best for him as source of motivation.

Good luck femanon, you gonna need it. Whip him into action.

>>18497154
Yes, you are overthinking a lot. Block her instead so you dont see her posts.
>out of sight, out of mind

>>18497059
Keep fighting the good fight, anon. I personally can't bother arguing with women in the first place.

>>18497169
I don't want to disappear without telling him because I don't want him to feel bad and I don't want to be cold and hurt him. Should I act disinterested in sex for a bit to make him try harder? Would that work?

Women,

How repulsed would you be to find out your boyfriend used to date a trap? A-asking for a friend

>>18497233
I'd laugh, but I wouldn't be repulsed.

For women but dudes are welcome to chime in

If I were to get in touch with a former co-worker (who I always used to get along with) out of the blue after not having spoken since she quit 6 months ago, would she likely assume that I was after a hook-up or dating? If so, how can I avoid this? I don't want anything to do with her romantically, but I'd love to see her and catch up

>>18497183
There is no universal approach. You want to try indirect way (girls love being indirect) and i dont blame you, but simply giving him cold shoulder can send wrong message.

You have to realize that life isnt disney movie. The romantic times cant be constant. You have to figure it out yourself on how to keep him showering you in MODEST levels of attention.

Your best bet is to tell him. Ask him why has he changed compared to the first dates. Relationships are about mutual trust and respect. You have to take him as he is or attemp to find working compromise. Communication is important skill too.

Make up a date and have a conversation about this.
>make him try harder
You also should realize if him trying harder will make you feel happy. Maybe you would be happy with less too? I know the attention feels better than drugs, but you have to think in long term.

Tldr organize a date and have a honest talk about it. Make sure you share long term life goals (work, kids, home etc) and simply tell him how you feel bout his lack of attention.

And i can assure you that every couple go through this. From "love phase" to "ordinary phase". Adopt some love rituals to show each other feelings and keep each other happy. We boys are very simple in this regard. Feed us and suck our dick each day and that is literally it.
>make him send you emoji as good night every day?

>>18497268
Impossible.

>>18497271
>Impossible.

Could you please clarify?

>>18497272
It will sound like a date. Maybe if you tell her you want to see her as a friend, but it will be awkward and result into date again.
>why dont you want to date her?
>why do you want to see her?
What do you even want to tell her? Cant you simply text her on facebook or something?

>>18497283
Oh, I see. That makes sense. I just want to hang out with her cause I miss her and I'm a lonely person.

Honestly though, I would probably have asked her out already if she wasn't a single mother of 3, so maybe this isn't such a good idea

>>18497293
>lonely
>single mother of three
Lol. Try getting real gf who doesnt have kids already. Do you even do okcupid / badoo? Do you even do social events?

Go date this femanon (i hope you are handsome, she has high standards)
>>18496964

Why are you lonely? How many girls have you asked on dates this year yet?

>>18494808
To girls:

A girl I know has been (in my opinion) flirty with me recently - at our prom (we're 18, going to the same uni next year), she was touched my arm once and then grabbed it later on, and in the club after would dance near me.

I sent her a snapchat about our uni accommodation next year and she said she hoped we were in the same accommodation so we could go to flat parties.

I asked her friend if she was looking for anything and she said no, am I misreading all this as interest when it's just friendship?

Is it acceptable ever for a 24 year old dude to wear a hoodie?

Where can I go, RIGHT NOW, to find a gf? (2pm saturday)

>>18497320
Yes of course lol

>>18497307
Social media in general makes me confused and nauseous, to be honest. Too much misguided social pressure. I tried Tinder once, but I get sweaty palms just thinking about it.

>Why are you lonely?
I alienated all of my friends during a messy break-up and buried myself in work for so long that I forgot how to be an actual social creature, pretty standard fare.

>How many girls have you asked on dates this year yet?
Zero. There is this girl I'm interested in but she's a current co-worker and I don't think you can do that.

that femanon seems a bit salty desu

>>18497271
Thank you for the good advice

How do I find a woman who likes to dress boys in girly clothes?

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>>18497322

>>18497318
>girl touching my arm
All you have to do is to buy condoms and ask her on date. Dinner will work fine. Now go and date the bitch!
>her friend lied to you
Why? Girls hate competition. If anything, she doesnt want her friend to have bf faster than herself.

>>18497320
Manly man doesnt give a fuck what others think. Be manly man!

>>18497335
>confused and nauseous
>tinder sweaty palms
Social media are tools. You get results based on how you use them. Go fast in, chat up random ladies and ask them on dates asap right after you extract their phone numbers.

Asking your coworlers out is usually bad idea. Stop waiting for miracles and pursue girls like crazy or you will die alone.

>>18497322
dunno.
have you tried /adv/?

>>18497371
>Why? Girls hate competition. If anything, she doesnt want her friend to have bf faster than herself.

She already has a boyfriend, but I'll probably talk to her still. Thanks mate

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So a girl seems to like me. Problem is that she is 19 and I am 26. This make feel extremely weird about it.

All I think off is that when I was 16 she was just a little 9 year old and that grosses me out.

is it weird to think this way?

>>18497379
>thinking girls arent backstabbing vicious jealous creatures around each other
Girls are super nasty between themselves. They can go and try to seduce you just to break your relationship with their friend. The fact she has bf already means nothing.

One of the most underrated advices for girls is to never trust any other girl (no matter how good friend or family memeber they are) when boys are involved. The competition is real.

Just dont end up as teen and pregnant. It is very easily done.

>>18497391
Dont expect marriage to happen, bit the sex will feel good. She is adult aka legal. Go for it!

>bonus question
Where did you met her and how did you seduce her in the forst place?

>>18497391
>is it weird to think this way?
Yes, her age when you were 16 is completely irrelevant.

>>18497351
Try home depot.

>>18494808
im in russia for 2 months any idea how to start to talking to a girl in foregin country?

How does a shy and introverted guy meet women if online and work aren't options?
All my hobbies are pretty solitary (video games, reading, guitar, hiking) and I don't really have any friends I can hang out with anymore.

>>18497445
I know this feel

>>18497445
>>18497466
Social events you hate.

Ever been to opera? Demonstration? Football? Bar? Disco? Church? Mormon gathering? Nigger ghetto? Concert? Gym?

Or you can always pick the easiest option: die alone.

>>18494808
When men talk with eachother, they bounce points back and forth and try to repond precisely to what the other guy just said, and so on, and "build" the conversation in a (chrono)logical manner.

But when a man talks to a woman, the woman diverts the topic, does not repond exactly to what is said but rather makes up her own ideas, and often turns the conversation into completely different things and misunderstands and so on. This is frustrating to the man unless he's just playing along to get in her pants and doesn't actually care about the topic. But having a serious conversation where A + B leads to the question of whether C and D etc etc is impossible with a woman because she is all over the place after just a couple steps in a logical process.

Are women aware of this?

Women, is a guy wanting to watch you pee an absolute no?

>>18497569
man, my gf wanted to pee on me once. we weren't into watersports, she just did it impulsively.
I almost let her do that, but she fell in the bathtub and wounded herself badly

>>18497548
>When men talk with eachother, they bounce points back and forth and try to repond precisely to what the other guy just said, and so on
guy here.
Never witnessed this behaviour observing 90%+ of the males I talked with
go troll on /b/, kid

>>18497429
>>>/trv/
>read sticky
>ask them if sticky not enough

>>18497093
Damn right it's tough, and I see both sides.

If you're still here, what makes you feel like you're gonna be ok your whole life without kids? What happens when everyone else has them and has living, exciting homes? What happens when you're old with no one to stimulate you or check on you or take you out to dinner and laugh with you?

>>18497603
I'm sorry you have a shit culture.

Women, and I ONLY mean women, not a man.
A coworker is quitting very soon, and tomorrow is her last day.

So, tell me, when should I ask her out, how do I bring her somewhere quiet to ask her out, and what should I do when she says no? Simply put, she plays on fb and shit a lot. So, it could wind up a no, or a no + supreme humilitation.

But then I realize I'm going to die soon and regret not doing it

>one day
>i love you so much anon if you ever dare to love someone else
>next day
>break up sorry i dont feel like this

what THE FUCK!!!!!!

>>18497628
specialists call it being a teenager

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Seriously, where does a 25 year old man go to find a women? I've been single for like 2 years now and Im really autistic and dont know how to talk to strangers in general.

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Women what is you opinion on men with pierced nipples/dick

bonus points if you can share personal experience about it

>>18497391

I dated an 18 year old when I was 23 and she did that shit to me all the time and it weirded me out.

>lol when you were my age I was only 13
>STOP!

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>go out one night
>long story short, get stranded from my friends, in a city i dont know, with a dead phone and no money or any idea where my friends new place is
>just sort of slouch in the corner all sad and tired
>"are you okay?"
>group of girls see me, one said that and then I explained my situation
>"dont worry, you can ride with us"
>explain that I dont have any money to give her, but she says its fine
>the other girls dont want me to ride with them but she tells them to stop being bitches
>shes nice to me the whole ride and says if I cant find my friends place, I can sleep at her place
>"no thanks! I now remember where his house is!"

Im an idiot who could have gotten laid, right? Also, why would she be so sexually attracted to someone in such a pathetic state? Doesnt that turn women off? More trying to figure out why she was so nice and flirty to me when in general I have a hard time getting women.

>>18497676
I kind of get lost at that place where you assumed she wanted to fuck you
[spoiler] she didn't [/spoiler]

>>18497683

idk, I think a strange women buying a taxi for me, sitting in my lap for the ride, and running her fingers through my hair while offering to let me sleep at her place is coming on pretty hard.

>>18497641
She's almost 20. Holy shit, and I thought she was mature and responsible beyond her years.

>>18497662
I find it repulsive and it's a massive red flag

>>18497688
those are pretty important details you forgot to mention
in this case yes, you are an utter moron

>>18497694
i understand that you dont like it but WHY is a red flag?

>>18497657
Right here
>>18497539
Online dating and friends friends coworkers works too.

>>18497622
>asking deer about how to hunt deer
I guess you will never learn, will you?

>>18497662
Target girls who has also their own piercings. Normal people are repulsed by such atrocities.
>>18497732
Because normies drinks alcohol, post normie memes on facebook and generally dont pierce their body parts with metal objects. You are simple anti normie.

>>18497676
All you had to do was to ask for her phone number you dumb frog poster.

>>18497689
>20
>mature
>responsible
What a joke, try 23+. Until they you are all dumb horny teens.

Either gender I guess

There's a cute guy who's been going to the office gym lately and the only time I tries small talking him it went nowhere. Like I asked him what department he worked in and he asked me back but after that basically both of our responses were 'oh neat'. He wore a ghibli shirt a few days ago but I spaghettied and didn't ask him about it and now it's too late to bring it up.
How do you talk to guys that don't talk much?

To girls: Did you ever get back with an ex? Was it ever not a bad idea?

>>18497771
did he seem deceptive to you talking to him? smiling etc?

>>18497105
Well being hostile is not working on me. Just creeps me out and confirms I should not give you any indication as to who i am. Feeling like youre being hunted isnt a really good feeling

>>18497771
>How do you talk to guys that don't talk much?
You don't. There's only so much you can do to carry the conversation.

>>18497771
>>18497777
btw you are a girl yes?

To either: What the fuck does it mean when a "date" ends in a hug and not a kiss.

>>18497771
Give him a piece of paper with your number and additional text finished with heart symbol
>wanna ask me on date?

In the worst case he will take it to the HR department and they will fire you. In the best case you will marry him.

I bet he is just introvert.

>>18497787
It means you have to ask her on another date after 18 hours.

>>18497777
He seemed friendly enough, if a little tired
>>18497781
Yes
>>18497779
;-;
>>18497789
That sounds really cringy but it might work

>>18497809
be my gf pls ;_;
ill talk to you all you want

>>18497809
>cringy
Only unattractive boys can be cringy. You as a girl can do anything and at worst it will be cute if you smile during it.

But hey, you can keep giving him subtle hints (which no boy on earth could ever understand) and stay single.

Another solid option is to talk to him in private again (coffe break?) and ask him where his gf is. But then you have to be mentally prepared to escalate and actualy ask him to drink / date in case he wont get it. And honestly almost all girls lack the balls to be that assertive.

The paper method will give him clear sign and you dont even risk him rejecting you to your face. He will simply not call and you can keep working and pretending that nothing happened.

It is up to you femanon.
>are you attractive?

>>18497787
Don't delete your account just yet.

>>18497539
There's a drum circle thing near me is that a good place to meet grils or will I just meet weird hippy girls with dreadlocks? There's also a game night at some random guys house. The rest of the events are just some band that performs at a bar or too far to bother driving to

>>18497759
I never get responses with online dating. My few friends are too happy with their gfs to help

>>18497884
Any action is better than no action. Girls cant find you when you are hiding in your basement.

>no responses
Maybe you are on wrong apps sending messages to wrong people. Badoo? Lower standards? Is your selfie retarded? Post pic?

And your friends could help easily. Just text their gf and ask them if they have that one weird single female friend to hook you up with.

Try harder. Look to facebook (or use google) and find pages of your city. There is always some sort of list of public happenings. Go to ALL of them. The girls have to be hiding somewhere.

When you locate your prey, chat her up, smile amd see if she gives you positive reaction. Do not leave her or end convo unless you extract her phone. You dont even have to impress them, just see if they are repulsed or not. Some girls just want guy who treats them as humans.

Guys: If your girlfriend or whatever is ignoring you, is the appropriate response to ignore them back? And if so, how have you faired in the past with this tactic?

>>18497919
Yes
Think of it like a game of chicken and DON'T be the first one to flinch

>>18497919
Are you and her 16?

If they care about you, they should eventually bump into you to see whats up. But it is very stupid tactic.

But it is great way how to break up.

You roasties ITT need to get the fuck off my board

>>18497936
You type like a manlet

>>18497936
You must be mistaken, let me help you
>>>/r9k/

>>18497917
My city is Lake Worth. Help

>>18498014
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Worth,_Florida
>home to approximately 5,563,857 people

Are you kidding me? You live in city which has half the total population of my entire country.

Concerts, clubs, swingers parties, fuck i bet even furries have each week meet ups there. You have 0 excuse living there while being single. Whatever your hobby is, i bet you will be able to get some gathering going. Try meetme.

>>18498050
>5,563,857 people
That's the wrong number. That's my county which is pretty spread out and the one next to it which is an hour away. Lake worth is 34,000 people

>>18497919
Il say play the game for some days BUT eventually confront her about why shes not talking to you and i dont mean asking her in a pussy manner

Go to her home and talk to her about why shes not talking to you and express that you dont like to play shitty teenager games like that if theres a problem lets talk about it and fix it (and be ready for a break up if it comes to that)

By goin to her home you not allow her to escape or avoid the situation (imagine that you ask by text she can just ignore it but in person she cant unless she just runs away)

By asking but also mentioning how you feel and how your not okay with her attitude your showing interest on fixing the issue BUT also showing that your not gonna endure her bullshit

The moment you let the women play and win this shitty games the relationship will go to shit in a very shitty way, by confronting her about the issue and telling how you feel about her attitude your forcing her to address the issue or just break up the relationship and if you break up the relationship then is good for you that means you saved yourself lots of drama and time and women love to waste time in shitty relationships you job as the men is to make the women to decide one way or another but not to play the "i dont know" game where they just waste time not knowing what they want

Pro tip: women never know what the want.

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>>18498075
>34 000
>6.27% datable girls
>2131 datable girls
Op is average at best 4/10
>852 girls in his league
Only 10% girls will like him
>85 girls ready to date op

See, you can choose from 85 girls from your location. Chop chop, they wont find themselves.

>>18497608
Sorry, was at work.
None of that really seems like a negative to me. I don't need kids to have an excting home, and the whole "well everyone else is doing it" just doesn't seem like a valid reason anyway.
The only thing that is a tad worrisome is yeah, who's gonna take care of me when I'm old as shit. But idk, I'm not sure I'd want to be a burden like that on anyone I love, even if I did have kids I would feel like a piece of shit if they had to take time away from their own lives just to care for me.

But as for those other things, check on you, take you out for dinner, laugh with you, I'd hope my spouse does that. I put far more value on the role of a spouse than a child, maybe I'm just weird and fucked up but I would probably always have more fun with my spouse than my kids. You can't act fully "real" with your kids like you can your spouse. Your kids don't wanna hear about your sex life, they don't wanna hear about the nitty gritties of life. You can share literally anything with your spouse tho

>>18498200
Thanks anon, that's some good stuff to think about. I guess it's because there's so few "examples" of happy childless lives, of that makes sense? Even just in stories or shows, the hero lives happily ever after with his growing family, and the bad guys or edgy side characters who don't get married fade into obscurity