I thought sex was supposed to feel good? I got fucked and had

Sleep with an attractive guy next time.

>>18348973
They are usually attractive, the guys I sleep with I mean.

>>18348964
Maybe you don't really have a sex drive. Asexual people exists. Do you ever masturbate? Because if you can't make you feel good sexually, no one can.

>>18348995
I used to masturbate when I was a teenager, but after a while it stopped feeling as good, I guess I numbed my clit

I only masturbate when I'm really stressed and need to relax so that I can get to sleep. It's not for pleasure, there's very little pleasure in it

>>18349000
When you masturbated as a teenager, do you recall it being enjoyable? Moreso than it is now anyway? Do you know if you've ever had an orgasm before?

I'm really just trying to wrap my head around sexual activities not being physically pleasurable. Though, it's just as likely that you don't feel pleasure for mental reasons as physical ones.

no, just sleeping with dudes who doesnt know how to handle a woman

>>18348964
Are you on the pill? Those hormones can fuck with your libido.

>>18348964
Sex just doesn't always make people feel good. I'm a male in my 20's and I don't really have any sex drive. I've tried finding other ways of feeling good besides sex and so far I've found that exercise make sure me feel way better. Not saying that's for you but maybe try focusing on something else other than trying to force yourself to enjoy having sex all the time and invest more time in that. Who knows, you may enjoy sex more after you've abstained from it for a little bit.

>>18348964
I'm having sex with a 40 yo man, my problem was solved. He makes me crazy with desire before he even touches me and when he does I tingle all over.

Young guys sense of foreplay is a dick pic and begging for tits, no thank you

>>18349005
>When you masturbated as a teenager, do you recall it being enjoyable? Moreso than it is now anyway? Do you know if you've ever had an orgasm before?

Yes, like I said it was enjoyable and I orgasmed but now it doesn't feel that good

>>18349008
They made other girls feel pleasure, I know from their ex girlfriends that he made them feel pleasure and orgasm

>>18349010
I'm not on the pill or any medication

>>18349016
:(

I wish I could tingle all over

>>18348964

>having sex NSA

typical, you have no emotional attachment to the guy and wonder why you don't get aroused

>>18348964
You probably just need stimulation over a longer period of time.

>>18349022
Is 2 hours not enough time?

To make an example.

I can fap to porn in 2 minutes and come, but it won't feel especially good or anything.

If i edge for 2 hours and then allow myself to cum, the orgasm feels better and i generally cum more.

It's just the way it is for me, but i assume most humans work the same way-

>>18349017
girls wouldnt want to ruin the rep of their exes unless they parted on bad terms, since that would mean they made the wrong choice

they are lieing, simple as

>>18349023
I should be. Maybe you're not getting aroused because you're stressed by having sex. Learn to relax.

>>18349029
I really don't think they were lying, I can usually tell when someone lies. And I don't know how they would keep a girlfriend for that long without being able to satisfy her

The guys were doing all the foreplay things you're meant to do

>>18349018
I used to just want it over quick as possible. I tried everything, believing it was only me. From fucking back hard to forcing myself to concentrate on them to public fucking to long romantic set ups and nothing worked. Got totally frustrated and hooked up with an older guy (fit, smart, well put together) during a business trip but my god. No guy under 40 for me now

You're a frigid cunt and a shitty lay congrats. I bet you think you look good and it doesn't matter but it does. Better sort that shit out or welcome to cat lady status. It's not the guys it's you. You probably have a double digit iq as well asking this question.

pathetic

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Sleep with a black guy.

>>18348964
Many girls have the same issue. Having an orgasm for girls during sex istn easy. its gotta be learned.

>>18349045
Daddy issues.

This is like reverse pedophilia.

OP, the fact that you used to enjoy sexual physicality and no longer do so speaks to a mental block or possibly a hormonal imbalance. I'd talk to your doctor. Regardless of your ability to orgasm, sexual stimulation SHOULD feel good. Do you use heavy duty toys to play with yourself? Really easy to desensitize yourself with the sort of stuff.

>>18348964
>>18349051

>>18349068
no daddy issues at all and never looked seriously at an older man till that hook up. I found some attractive but that was it. All I can say for OP is there is a HUGE difference between a 20 something guy and a man.

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>>18349075
hehe memes

>>18349075
Serious question, is it just the level of skill that younger guys probably haven't mastered or is it something about a guy that's actually old enough to be your father that does it for you? Genuinely curious.

>>18349000
Why didnt you start your post with this information? What a waste of time you are why are you so desilusional?

You derailed the whole thread with people thinking the dudes you are fucking cant pleasure you when you cant even please yourself

>>18349076
obviously a boy and you prove my point

>>18349080
>level of skill that younger guys probably haven't mastered
Nah, its not about age. Its about your level of skill and the level of skill of your partner..
What your parnter has got to learn: Just because it feels good to him doesnt mean you feel likewise. He needs to be less selfish.
What you gotta learn: TELL HIM what you like and what not. Tell him what you wanna try but tell him what it feels like. Additionally: it wont hurt if you touch yourself while having sex. Mind that theres two kind of orgasm for a woman. One by touching only outer areas of your vagina, one that is caused by touching the inner parts of your vagina, like the penis penetrating you. the second one is much harder to do. the first one is one not caused by sex as no penis touches that area. thats practically the point that makes it difficult

>>18348964
I can't enjoy sex unless it's with a guy I really like. He has to hit all of my instincts that say, "This guy should impregnate me- he'll be a good father, he makes me happy, and his genes would pair well with mine to make good kids."
My current boyfriend also gets off on getting me off, so our foreplay is really extensive. He makes the extra effort of building me up to get me in the mood.

>>18349089
So this turns you on? Great. Well, we cant decide what turns us on, can we? Go for wahtever you like and accept the fact youre not having an easy time like any random slut would have.

>>18349088
>One by touching only outer areas of your vagina
I hope you're using colloquial terms to make things clear for others and not that you think stimulating the clitoris is the "outer part of the vagina"

>>18349088
you're an idiot. kills me when you guys tell me how my vagina works

>>18349092
Yeah, tends to be some idiots on the net.

>>18349093
Kills me when girls dont stop talking after they died.

>>18349075
> HUGE difference between a 20 something guy and a man.

And that difference is the 40 something will have, in some cases, erection problems and reduced sex drive.

There is a difference between men, but a man who is 40 and has never had children will still act like a boy.

Yesterday i was out drinking with the DBA at my company. He is 40+ and he started talking about girls during our walk home, like he was 17 or something.

>>18349102
some 20 something guys have erection and cum in 20 seconds

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>>18349083
You're a big boy.

>>18349106
Im 29, and i've failed to get an errection many times. It is of course especially common when you drink alcohol. But i almost failed to lose my virginity (at the age of 25) because i had erection problems and was nervous.

Not sure if it's pron induced.

I've never had a gf so i don't really have much sexual experience.

Im just a typical 4chan neckbeard.

>>18349093
You hoes don't even know what squirting is. Get outta here.

>>18349112
>28
>still get half-chub when the girl I like touches me non-sexually
>can rage fully hard for hours and fuck like a machine after I cum a time or 2

Feels fantastic man.

>>18349121
Good for you.
I've never cummed for having sex.

>>18349117
you guys use porn as a training manual. tip, porn ain't real anon

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>>18349126
What the fuck does that have to do with my post.

>>18349124
>I've never cummed for having sex.
Definitely a porn/overly aggressive masturbating issue.

>>18349140
Maybe.
Right now i use porn and masturbate maybe once or twice a week.

>>18349135
everything. you just dont get it

Well OP, you sound a lot like me, I myself never enjoyed sex with anyone unless I actually loved the person. Do you think you had a connection with those you were sexually intimate with?

>>18349161
Something for sure is wrong with me because I'm exactly the opposite. If I love them I try too hard and cannot relax. I have sex with a guy I'm pretty sure I'll never see again I completely lose my self in the sex and have multiple orgasms

>>18349192
OP here, that's really interesting

Also Im so jealous I wish I could have just one orgasm let alone multiple

>>18349000
>I guess I numbed my clit
I don't think that actually happens unless there's nerve damage. In which case you'd have far bigger problems.
It's likelier that your sex drive has simply decreased, or that it's a matter of mindset. That you go into things with too great hopes and expectations and are too tense to just enjoy things as they are. I think >>18349192 is on to something. You could try putting yourself in the mindset that whether you orgasm or not isn't so important and just try to have a good time.

>>18349013
>male
>20
>no sex drive
Go to doctor, let him check your balls, testosterone levels, stop taking happy pills and tell us who abused you as a child.

I bet it is one of these for you. Asexual male sounds like unicorn. Check your body before you give up.

>>18349028
That is called edging.

>>18348964
Don't masturbate with focus and purpose. Explore your body. If guys weren't able to generate any pleasurable feelings from your boobs, maybe they were doing it wrong.

Everyone is different. Maybe you need a lighter touch or a harder one, the whole breast or just the nipples (or just the aureoles). Faster or slower. Explore without assumptions until you stumble on something that feels better than the other things.

The same with other parts of your body. Try stroking your thighs without touching your pussy. Is any of that nice? Same with the clit and vagina - hard/soft, fast/slow, one finger or two, circular/sideways/up and down.

The point is that there is no one technique that works for everyone, and you yourself are best fitted to explore until you find what works for you. Then you can teach your men how to do it.

>>18349240
My balls are fine and so was my childhood, believe it or not sex is not a priority for some people albeit a small minority from what I hear

>>18349287
Ok, you are unicorn then.
>>>/lgbt/ have threads for asexuals from time to time.

Anyway asexual is somebody fully capable of having sex, masturbation and orgasms, he/she just have 0 motivation to pursue it. So if you really fall into the category, then good luck i guess with your life.

>>18349257
What's frustrating is that I've explored my body and tried every kind of touch I can think of

But I just don't have sensitive areas, not even my breasts or inner thighs

I'm so sad about it.

>>18349144
What?

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>>18348964
When did you first start taking SSRI's?

>>18349075
Your problem now is that you really think it's about age, and not personality. Not saying that age isn't a factor - 40 has obviously had a whole range of experiences 20 hasn't - but there are plenty of 20-something guys out there who can do EXACTLY what you described, without the ED, ex-wife, mortgage payments, and kids your age.

It's at the point where you start saying *NO* 20-something guys are good at sex that we all start thinking "daddy issues." You need to get out more.

>>18348964

I've had sex twice before. I didn't enjoy it. I'm a guy btw

>>18349410
>SSRIs
>lack of exercise (reduced blood flow)
>history of rape or molestation
>guys that are attractive, but you're not actually attracted TO (real sexual attraction is more biochemical and emotional than visual, esp for girls)
>asexual (sexually broken, reason NOS)

Pick one or several. But eliminate the first four before you pick the last.

>>18349102

>There is a difference between men, but a man who is 40 and has never had children will still act like a boy.

You act like just because a 40 year old man doesn't have children that it automatically makes him immature...

>>18350253
>just because a 40 year old man doesn't have children that it automatically makes him immature
Not the person you're replying to, but it's actually kind of the opposite of that. Having children forces you not to be a little boy anymore. Without that impetus, a lot of emotionally immature people would never grow up. Maybe even most.

>>18350241
I've eliminated the first four but I'm definitely not asexual

>>18350276

I'm 26 years old. I don't chase girls or act like a child. I work, pay my bills, study, and have a lot of me time. I'm never going to have kids. So that automatically makes me immature?

>>18350280
I said "a lot" and "most." Quit taking shit personal.

Definitely ON the "hallmarks of immaturity" list:
>almost 30
>purposely taking a carefully worded comment full of qualifiers as a personal insult

Sorry >>18350280

>>18350306
was meant for
>>18350287

>>18350280
If you've eliminated the first four and feel no sexual pleasure, either
>something else is wrong with you medically >you are asexual

There really aren't any other choices

>>18350319

Asexuality is bullshit. If OP finds men sexually attractive, then she's not asexual.

There is probably nothing wrong with her pussy either. She's probably just got too much on in her mind or she's just not really into the guys she's fucked.

I'm a guy and I don't enjoy sex. I don't think anything is wrong with my penis, and I'm not asexual.

>>18350357
>Asexuality is bullshit. If OP finds men sexually attractive, then she's not asexual.

You can appreciate that people are attractive and even be attracted to them without wanting to fuck them. But if that's literally everyone you meet, something larger is wrong. That's what asexuality is: "People can be attractive, but sex is gross/does nothing for me." An aesthetic or emotional or physical attraction is not the same as a sexual attraction, which you would know if you ever had sex you enjoy.

>There is probably nothing wrong with her pussy either. She's probably just got too much on in her mind or she's just not really into the guys she's fucked.
>I'm a guy and I don't enjoy sex. I don't think anything is wrong with my penis, and I'm not asexual.

This... really doesn't make any sense. It's like you think not enjoying sex is normal. It isn't. Sex is literally designed to feel good. If it doesn't at all, either you are an abnormal specimen, something is wrong with you medically, or both. Denying that because it happens to apply to you doesn't make it any less true.

>>18350392

Well something is mentally messed up with us. But it's not asexuality

>>18350401
>Well something is mentally messed up with us. But it's not asexuality
You're more turned off by the label than actually convinced this is true. The asexual "community" may indeed be an annoying circlejerk of navel-gazing bullshit, but the word itself exists to describe a condition that you know is real. Because you're living it.

Doesn't necessarily mean it can't be fixed, were that to be important enough to you (or anyone) to try. But not liking the word is a stupid reason to deny the condition exists.

I've never felt any urge to have sex or even attempt a relationship, I just don't care. Maybe i'm sick and I should go to the doctor but I don't really care about fixing it, all women say is that guys in their 20s aren't men and not even peoplem so I don't exactly have motivation to spend energy pursuing them.

>>18349144
>you just dont get it
Typical girl argument. You sure sound mature for your age.

>>18348976
By your standards or beauty?

You must not have been attracted.