ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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Girls

The semester is wrapping up and there's this classmate I want to ask out. We talk once in a while before and after classes and have each other on facebook. However, I'm kinda outta practice when it comes to dating and I don't have much of a social circle compared to her. I plan on asking just to hang out as friends.

Will she detect my motives right away? Will she smell the desperation?

>>18131632
>Will she detect my motives right away?
Duh. Grow some balls and ask her out properly.

>Will she smell the desperation?
Only if you're desperate

Been on 2 boring dates, barely any contact. Planning for 3rd. How do I ask to hook up?

>>18131648
Why would you go for a third? Do you think it's going to get any better?

>How do I ask to hook up?
You don't, if s/he was willing to do nothing but fuck you, you would have had sex by now

>>18131648

you dont. move on

>>18131654
>>18131660
No harm in trying then? How do I imply my implications? Havent been to her house yet, just be like "hey you want to just hang out at your place this saturday?"

>>18131634
>Only if you're desperate
he's posting in the Ask the opposite gender anything thread on the dating advice section of an anime website

Yes, he's desperate.

>>18131689
Touche

Asking women
Is 7 1/2 inches long by 6 1/2 inches around too small of a dick for a guy thats 6'5 and 230 pounds.
I know its in the faq thing, but i would like personal bias on this.

>>18131707
6'5, 230lbs? Man, if that's 230lbs of muscle you can disappoint a new girl every week!

Looking for first-ish date ideas (male).

A friend introduced me to this girl at a bar, and we ended up dancing and having a good time. I liked what conversation we did have. However, especially without a little liquid courage, I'm not the most interesting conversationalist.

I'm trying to think of a date idea with a situation or scenery that would be inherently interesting, since I doubt being able to rattle off stuff about Asian politics is terribly romantic.

>>18131728
Read the FAQ to her.

>>18131711
About 230 lbs of average. Skinny fat but also muscle

What do girls think of guy friends that are sexually attracted to them? This girl has rejected me but still talks to me, wouldn't she feel a bit weird talking to me?

>>18131864
Well, since every girl is an individual entity, there isn't an overall answer for that. But it could be
a) She still wants to be your friend, and wishes you hadn't ruined it with your dumb crush but is hoping you can still be her friend
b) She is unsure of how she feels about you and is still thinking about it
c)She is not interested in you in that way, but she's enjoying the fact that someone likes her. She rejected you already, so you can't call this "stringing you along" if it's your choice to still orbit.
Or a mixture of all three!

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>>18131880
>She still wants to be your friend, and wishes you hadn't ruined it with your dumb crush
I don't really get what makes his crush so dumb, considering he apparently accepted her rejection well enough.

>>18131707
It's a cock. I don't care how it looks compared to your figure, I care about how it feels while we are fucking.
You have a pretty big dick.

>>18131885
Just speaking from my own personal experience, sometimes it makes me feel a little betrayed or pissed off if a guy friend has make stuff weird between us. I'm happy to move past it, but at the start of it I get feelings of "godammit could you just have not"

>>18131889
>sometimes it makes me feel a little betrayed or pissed off if a guy friend has make stuff weird between us.
I understand being annoyed off because it's basically shaking up the existing dynamic. But it's not like a crush is something you can deliberately turn on and off. Feeling betrayed sounds rather silly. This is all working on the assumption that people accept rejection maturely etc anyways.

>>18131905
I totally get that, but the same can be said for feelings of "GODAMMIT ANON WHY".
It's a collaboration from both sides to get things back to normal.

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rate me/10

How do I get my girlfriend to help me clean up.

I work 40-50 hours a week, and I have college classes. I need some help keeping the apartment livable. My girl, works 40 hours too, but no college.

Now I am not expecting or requiring a spotless apartment. I am not a nazi, I am not Mr Clean. However, it is getting bad in here. Her pile of empty boxes, trash, and dishes is so large that it prevents me from walking to the bathroom. I have to sttep over her pile of crap. Now it is expanding to my computer, I cant hardly do my homework at home.

I bring this up, and she flips out and starts talking trash.

>>18132057
Maybe make some chore list and split it (somewhat) evenly, or have everyone clean up their respective stuff? Explain how you're working and studying a lot and would really appreciate it if she helped out around the apartment, just common courtesy if you live together.

male.
i have a very hairy ass, legs and groin. how much will this affect my sex appeal/ should i shave?

>>18132068
Pure taste. I like hair on chest and legs, but dislike it on crotch/butt.
I think it wouldn't affect your sex appeal much since some people will like it and others won't, it's more important to be clean/well-groomed.
Think of it this way, you probably wouldn't kick a girl out if it turns out she has some pubic hair, but if she's cultivating a stinky jungle you might.

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Girls

Ok so virgin here, and i'm in a relationship with a virgin
We started doing more and more foreplay (we actually almost had our first time but i was too nervous and couldn't get an erection, but that isn't my point kek)

Okay so the thing is, I wanted to finger her, but I was worried about putting my finger inside her, since she's a virgin, I didn't know if that would hurt her, break her hymen or something, so i kinda just rubbed my finger on her clit and her vagina without putting it in

Is there a risk to hurt her if I do that ? Would I break her hymen by just putting my finger in it ? I guess my question pretty much is "Can I do that ?". She was really wet and horny, if that brings anything.

>>18132089
Having a finger in your vagina isn't particularly pleasant for most girls.
Rub the clit.

>>18132089
Talk to her about it, if she's ever put anything inside herself before, if she's comfortable with it and such. Most girls break their hymen before their first time in some way, doing sports or masturbating.
In any case focus on the clit, penetration really isn't all that great.

>>18132092
>>18132094
So I was actually doing the better thing ? kek that's nice, thanks

>>18132102
Definitely. Clit is the fun button. Guys are always very focused on penetration because muh dick but she'll have more fun with clitoral stimulation. At least add it to anything else you're doing together.

>>18131864
>What do girls think of guy friends that are sexually attracted to them?

Since I'm not a chick, I can't exactly say, but as a guy with female friends I can at least speculate and say:

Ultimately whether you are sexually attracted to them or not is irreverent, as long as your actions bear out respectfully.

Some girls thirst for that attention, some girls find it annoying, some just don't even notice, but if you're pushy about it when they don't want it, all of them will not be pleased.

If it's just a thing, and it's obvious neither of you is desperate to act on it, or better yet, treat each other as people first and foremost--and not just as sexual objects of veneration--then that sexual tension is something that becomes secondary to the primary fact that you are friends.

I've got friends who I've got mad mutual sexual tension with, where we flirt, joke, and directly talk about it, but that's all it is. We actively choose to acknowledge it exists, but equally actively choose not to act on it. And our friendships are better for that mutual respect, because we know our friendship transcends that.

As humans we are balls of wild and crazy emotions, but part of what makes us individuals--part of what makes us all unique and whole people--is the that we are sentient, cognizant beings capable of not being ruled by our instincts. The decisions we choose to make are the choices that define who we are.

>>18132089
>Okay so the thing is, I wanted to finger her, but I was worried about putting my finger inside her

Not a chick but:

1.) Trim and file your finger nails.
2.) Every girl has their own different style with different parts they like to stimulate. Ask her.
3.) Do not focus on just one part. Slowly experiment and escalate. Don't just focus on her vagina or clit, play with her hips, thighs, etc.

>>18132141
>trim and file your nails
Oh god, this so much

>>18132141
>Ultimately whether you are sexually attracted to them or not is irreverent, as long as your actions bear out respectfully.


I guess I should make a clear caveat:

Some girls DO in fact like being treated like sexual goddesses.

But at that point you're not really a friend so much as an Orbiter, a low key backup boyfriend they have around to fill any gaps they have in their current relationship, or a supplement they use to try to sate their own insecurities.

In short, you are not a friend, but a tool that they are using.

But that's also within your own control. If that basis of your actions is mutual respect--and not sexual attention--you usually tend to avoid all that shit; or else you have the ability to not get caught up in their crazy, realize what's going on and either stand above it or walk away.

If you respect yourself and respect others, it's hard to be treated as a tool.

Do any girls like the look of a stocky bearded guy? I'm 5'11", 245lbs, been powerlifting for a couple of years. Have a full red beard, blue eyes and brown hair. Have a bit of a belly but big arms and legs.

I know most girls don't like my look and that's cool with me but I'm wondering if any at all do. I'm 22 so preferably girls within my age range.

>>18132187
I'm not sure what you mean by "stocky", but you're a good 5 inches taller than me and could probably deadlift me and viking beards are my fetish so that works, yeah.

Girls

Is talking to girls over the phone a good way to practice for in person conversations? I have a few cute female friends who live far overseas, but we call often. I'm curious if talking with them will help me with girls here in person

>>18131611
I'm invited to a St. Patrick's day party tomorrow. Probably lots of people I don't know, the people I do know I haven't seen for years. I'm kinda socially retarded and a fat neckbeard, but I can fake a good normie usually.
Can you give me the basics on how I should act and what I should avoid to not embarrass myself? Especially when it comes to women?

>>18132221
I guess so. I don't like phone conversations honestly but it's as good as talking normally, as practice.

Girls when your at the gym. Do you like being hit on? Theres this girl I wanna talk to. But im afraid ill look like a creep

>>18132227
No, I'm at the gym to work out, I don't want anyone talking to me.
But honestly I rarely want anyone talking to me most times, so I'm probably just antisocial.

>>18132227
Would she recognise you? Have you made any sort of eye contact before? If yes, I think you should but only when you're both not busy. Preferably if you're both leaving at the same time (which will probably never happen but whatever).

But if you're just a stranger walking over to someone mid workout then don't do it.

>>18132248
I mean sort of. I see her alot at my gyk routine, and she has made eye contact, but im not the most handsome fellow. I feel like if I talk to her afterwards , it just makes me look that more deperate

>>18132257
*desperate

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Guys, have any of you ever gotten a girls number with just a bit of talking and then gone out on a date? It seems like girls want to get to know me, before they go out on a date to get to know me? wtf?

>>18132237

Then why the fuck does everyone keep saying you can "meet girls everywhere" and they always mention the gym..

Shit pisses me off. So girls DON'T want to get approached at the gym, or grocery store. But every time I've tried to say that, people call me a pussy.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
>Anywhere outside. Or online.

You make it sound easy, but its bullshit level difficulty meeting new people these days.

>>18132271
I think when you say "people" you mean "jocks or cunts". I only want to be asked out at bars or clubs, but even then if I'm in a group of friends I don't really want to get pulled out of that by some guy.
But again I'm pretty awkward and antisocial. I'm sure there's lots of girls who love being asked out constantly.

>>18131611
Girls do any of you have a porn addiction. I'm 22 and a male virgin and I can't stop masturbating. It's become a daily ritual. Wait till I'm alone and then search for porn for hours and then have like 10 tabs open. Jack it to a few of them before deciding on one. It's become a full on exercise I take ages to cum and when I finally do I'm drenched in sweat. Was just wondering if there are girls that experience this kind of problem. Thanks.

>>18132281
I don't have a porn addiction because I dislike most porn I've seen and I'm too picky about it, but I masturbate a lot too, and read smutty fanfiction, if that counts.

>>18132283
Yeah I also masturbate to erotic literature and to a lot of hentai doujins.

Hell I have masturbated to reading game of thrones and Anne rice works as well.

How do I make myself look like I'm not a weirdo/creep if a girl asks me about my hobbies or interests? Bee yourself sounds like it won't be a good idea.
>I like drawing but haven't drawn in ages for some reason and I'm not that good
>I like making indie games but I'm currently making a super violent one
>I used to make comics but I lost my old stuff and I'm currently working on one that I want to make it pretty offensive, but I just barely started and may drop it soon
>I write Star Wars fan fiction which I'm kind of ashamed of
>I'm into AI and programming (as long as I'm working on something interesting) and I hope to eventually make AI that helps take care of old people (this is the only normal thing I can think of)
>I only just barely started learning how to play bass because my dad bought one for himself but I'm not a huge fan of it yet
>I used to watch a ton of movies and I'm constantly listenning to music but that's not really a hobby/interest I think?

>>18132286
You could say that you enjoy being creative because of your past with drawing so now you're experimenting with comics and indie games.

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>>18132284
I read doujinshi too but there's not a lot I can really get off to either.
Obsessed with fanfics though, embarrassingly enough.

>>18132296
Yeah my fetishes are pretty specific so I'm very critical of the doujins I read. If it doesn't tick all the boxes I find it hard to cum.

>>18132271
>>18132272
>You make it sound easy, but its bullshit level difficulty meeting new people these days.

Mmm.... Yes and no.

It's simple. Simple as fuck.

Simple doesn't mean easy.

It's not at all complicated to go out and talk to someone.

But exactly because of that, it heavily relies on the execution of your social abilities.

If you are someone who can easily talk to and befriend others, you have a much easier time of socializing and meeting people.

And part of this might be personality, but the naturally nice and more affable person in the world has no leg up if they don't have the social experience and skill to be able to relate to and converse with others.

Skill matters more than inherent personality. Tons of people who are complete assholes, complete scumbags, complete cowards, complete saints, complete isolationists, complete misanthropes, complete idiots, etc. (From Hitler, to the Pope, to trump) have the skill to converse and deal with their peers.

This is not a pure inherent quality that is limited to any one type of character. This is something that is learned, honed, and perfected through out a persons years.

Some people may start with an advantage, but--shy of literal physiological disabilities like medical mental retardation/illness--almost everyone has the capacity to improve this skill.

If you are failing at a certain scenario, that's because your social skills are not up to snuff. You need to go out, fail more, learn more, become better.

--Signed a former cripplingly socially phobic guy who actively LEARNED this skill to the point he CAN and HAS made friends literally just walking down the street, seeing a total stranger, and starting a conversation. And has done the same at bars, coffee shops, restaurants, parties, etc. It doesn't matter.

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How do I get rid of crush? Not of the crush as person, but feeling. I have asked her out already and it did lead nowhere. I do remember that it fades away after some time. Previously I managed to freak her out by telling her to begone while I was angry as fuck, yet she still speaks to me occasionally.

>>18132286
It sounds like a good idea. Why do you need people in your life who won't appreciate your hobbies? I once told a girl I used to make Tower Defense map in Warcraft and was keen on cryptography. Everything was better than expected. Allow yourself to be a creep.

>>18132314
>>18132291
I see, thanks for the advice! Yeah you are right though it just feels like finding someone who thinks my interests are alright will be hard.

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>>18132315
It would be much better if you were genuine and enthusiastic. No need to hide yourself. On the opposite, trust people with telling them about your hobbies. Also, hobbies are not the only common ground.

>>18132312
You do have to have some semblance of social skills. But most of the girls I have made a connection with has happened when I wasn't actively seeking a gf. Life for me at least is 90% luck and 10% skill. Everything for me usually falls into place but that might have something to do with my outlook on life.

>>18132320

>But most of the girls I have made a connection with has happened when I wasn't actively seeking a gf.

That doesn't work for everyone. Like me for example. If I don't look. I'll never get one. Because I'm never around girls in my daily life. Not at work, not at the gym, not when I'm studying. So to meet girls, I would have to go out of my way and force myself to a bar ( I hate bars)

>want to be married
>also want to be able to go home and play video games with my headset on whenever I want

how do I get these two things?

my last ex of 3 years would not have that kind of behavior.

>>18132325
Marry a gamer?

>>18132327
Yeah.. I guess I was into online dating when I was like 16..

I could try it again as an adult, I'd actually have the means to meet the girl and get some pussy instead of just webcam shit.

>>18132329
There's probably more girls playing vidya than ever before, you'll be fine.

>>18132323
No one worth meeting goes to bars. Not my generation anyway. I will go to a bar if I want to pick up milfs and gilfs.

>>18132323
>>18132320
>>18132312
I just cant meet people in the first place. I dont know where to place myself at. I could walk 10 miles in any direction and greet everyone I see. I will not meet anyone that is my age.

>>18132320
>But most of the girls I have made a connection with has happened when I wasn't actively seeking a gf. Life for me at least is 90% luck and 10% skill.

I both agree and disagree with this statement.

You are right, actively looking for something will not guarantee you will get it. In fact, there are times where being too focused upon it will get in your way and be detrimental to you. The best policy is to be natural about things and be confident in your own path.

However. Putting this in what will probably sound autistic as fuck (because I'm a nerd):

There are "Skill checks" in life.

If a certain social encounter require you to have a "proficient" rating, and you are still at "spill spaghetti" level, you are going to spill spaghetti and fail, wasting that opportunity.

"passing" that encounter isn't even a guarantee you will succeed with moving forward with that relation, it just gets your foot in the door.

Maybe in 1 out of 10,000,000 cases you'll meet a girl where you can be a complete fuck up, spill spaghetti and they find it adorable, but you also may as well just win the lottery.

Emerson once wrote
>Shallow men believe in luck, believe in circumstances: It was somebody's name, or he happened to be there at the time, or, it was so then, and another day it would have been otherwise. Strong men believe in cause and effect.

Sitting on your ass while whining and bitching about how you never get lucky gets you nowhere and is pretty basic. The people who are the strongest, who have the stablest base and can do the most with what's in front of them, are the ones who know that their chances are directly reflective of the things they actually do.

>>18132325
Stop being a cunt? Alone time is fine but you don't need head phones. Woman are social creatures that need intimacy.

>>18132343

Well I agree with you. I hate bars. But going back to the point of this discussion. Where exactly can I meet girls?

I'm generally very busy in my life between work, studying, and getting /fit/. The little free time I have during the week I tend to like being alone. I just wish I had a cute girl to talk to occasionally

>>18132348
How am I supposed to hear my teammates without it echoing?
How am I supposed to hear footsteps?
How am I supposed to play a competitive game?

>>18132345
Sounds like you are trying too hard. Are you like 30 or something? That is usually when people start freaking out if they don't have a steady relationship.

>>18132345

>I could walk 10 miles in any direction and greet everyone I see. But no young people

Yeah I know this feel exactly. Only place I've seen young people is at bars. But I fucking hate that environment

>>18132350
Video games are for children, it's disgraceful that our culture makes it okay for adults to waste time and money with it.

>>18132347
>skill checks

Stopped reading there lmao why do sperglords try to conflate reality with their fucking roleplaying games? Go back to LARPing on >>>/his/ or something.

>>18132347
I'm just saying a lot of things come down to chance which actually plays into cause and effect. I have had to work on honing a lot of skills in my life but chance ultimately decides.

>>18132356
self-hating /bv/irgin spotted

>>18132351
I just woke up today feeling lonely. I'm 26 this month. Its been 3 years since my last relationship and I have 0 friends. My co workers are all married or meet girls through tinder, facebook, etc.

>>18132349
same question. My work is overnight so I am only available during the day, not afternoon or night.

I'm planning day trips to the beach this summer. I can choose any day to go for just that day and see how it goes.

>>18132350
PC lard ass detected. You need to kick that shit it's pathetic and you will only find other lard asses if you try to date PC gamers. PC obessed people are the worst kind personality wise. God I can imagine you spending hours on CSGO spinning the wheel for a knife skin. Get a life.

>>18132364

>I'm planning day trips to the beach this summer. I can choose any day to go for just that day and see how it goes.

I'm going to be moving to a beachside city soon. But won't most of the girls at the beach be tourists? I don't want to meet tourist girls. There is no point

How do I get my bf open up and talk to me? Clearly something is bothering him we had a few arguments about it lately, but he's so proud and meany and we both are pain in the ass kind of people (I guess, that's why we're together lol). Also I haven't much experience in TALKING to people I care about. So how do I talk to him without cringe in what kind of situation? Do I gently ask him what is bothering him after dinner when he's full? You know, people tend to be kind when they're not hungry.. Or maybe when cuddling on coach, I think a serious talk will ruin the moment.

>>18132367
Tall, average, and hard working. I just like to play vidya with the boys when I get home and they're all online.

>>18132362
I don't frequent either of those boards, a person can have a strong opinion without underlying pathological issues you know?

>>18132376
>I use /v/ memes but I'm totally not a /v/irgin guys!!!!

lyl. lurk moar desu

>>18132369
thats why last time I had vacation I decided to just stay home instead of a road trip. I knew I wasnt going to meet anyone and feel like shit.
I'm an hour away from atlantic city which is a piece of shit, but the only reason other people would be there is cause its convenient for them too.

>>18132388
What fucking v meme?

>>18132372
I respect being straightforward. Find a time where you can have a serious discussion. You can always open it by asking "do you have a moment?" and say whats on your mind.

>>18132391

I'm 20minutes (without traffic) from Washington DC. But where I live is all rich people. Young people can't afford where I live. It sucks

>>18132409
This is the same exact thing in my state. NJ sucks. I dont make much money compared to what it costs to live here, but I stay because I want to stay at the same company.
Every town near me is built for kids and older generations. How can I live in the densest populated state and not have anywhere to go?
I guess we are off topic since this is 2 men trying to find out what to do with our social lives.

girls is it easier for a guy to fuck you if he's legitimately only traveling to your city for a couple days then he's gone?

>>18132422

Yeah man. Everything around me is family suburbs. the only places I've seen young people is at George Mason University and bars. But I'm 26, and not a Uni student. So I can't just wander around GMU. And I hate bars

>>18132435
No. I don't want to sleep with someone I won't be in a serious relationship with eventually, nevermind someone I'll never see again.

>>18132435
Girls that browse 4chan don't fit that profile. But the reverse is certainly true, girls are much easier when they are traveling and are certain that they won't have to face any kind backlash, since they will be gone after a few days.

>>18132442

What's the point of having sex with someone who you'll never see again?

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Guys

How do I get my boyfriend to pay attention to me outside of sex? All he does is just play video games and ignores me. Sometimes I will watch a movie and he will just kinda sit next to me and start watching it and not talk to me, but outside of that he doesn't want to do anything with me. Sometimes we go out to eat and he just sits there the whole time on his phone. I've told him to stop doing this a million times and he said he would, but he hasn't. I have Asperger's and I don't want to break up with him because he is the only man I've met who is similar to me, but I'm also a woman and a human being and I want to like, talk to someone I love and spend time with them, you know? What do I do?

>>18132444
>having sex
that

>>18132445
What if you just had more sex?

>>18132448
How would that solve my problem though?

>>18132444
Exactly for the reason you will never see him again.

>>18132444
As a guy I dont have casual sex, but if I knew I could fuck someone different everyday it would probably be awesome.

>>18132447

I don't understand.

For example. I'm going to Europe next month to visit a female friend. If I had sex with her, what would I gain from that? I dunno if I'll ever see her again. Why get lewd with her and open up the potential for catching feelings if dating is impossible?

>>18132449
He would pay attention to you.
Maybe a more serious answer would be to make plans ahead of time to do activities together.

>>18132454
So you can have sex without bother having to date.

>>18132454
this >>18132458
are you retarded or something

>>18132445
Communication is the only option. You have to actually sit him down, get his undivided attention, and explain exactly how you feel. Tell him what you just told us. That you're thinking about leaving because he doesn't value you or your time together. If just saying that bothers him and he threatens to leave, let him, he isn't worth it. My girlfriend is similar to your boyfriend in the phone and lack of interaction. She has become a lot better with it. Change is always tough.

>>18132454
Different than what other people were talking about. They meant a one night stand sort of thing, where the people didn't know each other previously.
Already knowing and planning to visit someone takes away the random/no strings attached feeling.

The point is more adding notches to your bed post. Not seeing some specific girl.

>>18132464

>The point is more adding notches to your bed post.

Why do people want to stack up their slut points?

>>18132466
because
>>18132447

>>18132466
yeah I'd rather build a family.

>be in relationship with really sweet girl on the outside
>lying cheating whore on the inside
>we break up after 3+ years of dating
>her and my mom are still friends
>told mom I didn't like them talking
>mom still tries to convince me to take her back

Like, damn what the fuck?

>>18132467

yeah... but why fuck someone you don't even know? how do you know that person doesn't have some sort of STD or lip herpes?

How do you know that girl or guy wasn't just making out with someone else earlier that day?

>>18132469
Women have no concept of loyalty.

>>18132477
>>>/r9k/

>>18132470
condoms and checking for herpes. saliva gets replaced pretty quick

>>18132478
Whatever makes you sleep at night.

>>18132477

I've honestly been avoiding getting a girlfriend because even tho I feel confident enough to say I'm a pretty good person, and got my life on a great path.. I still worry that if I got attached to a girl that she'd dump me for chad.

Girls,

I see this cute girl every day at work but really freeze when i'm about to approach her.

The problem is, i always see her when we're leaving, but she always has headphones on and that makes me scared to approach her because i've read that headphones are the universal "fuck off don't talk to me sign"

What do i do? I really want to talk to her.

>>18132445
>How do I get my boyfriend to pay attention to me outside of sex?

So,,, what this anon says
>>18132461 is perfectly reasonable and something you should give a shot

But... You can't change who people are. If your needs are not being met and he doesn't want to work to fulfill them, your ONLY option becomes to move on and find someone else who will.

>>18132372
>How do I get my bf open up and talk to me?
Similar what I told anon above, you can't force people to be something they're not.

This IS going to be awkward, and it IS going to be disruptive and ruin a moment, but if you want to move forward in your relationship you CANNOT be afraid of that, because those moments are the ones where REAL conversations happen and where real growth occurs.

The truth of the matter is, It almost doesn't matter when it gets done, it's still going to be uncomfortable, right now you're just subconsciously trying to stall and equivocate so you don't have to go through it.

The very nature of change and growth is to disrupt the status quo, so there is no such thing as an impact change that is not accompanied by a little pain and discomfort.


>>18132359
>I'm just saying a lot of things come down to chance which actually plays into cause and effect. I have had to work on honing a lot of skills in my life but chance ultimately decides.

Yup. I agree, there is chance involved. But my point has always been, if you don't have the ability to seize those chances, they may as well not exist.

I've had girls LITERALLY drop themselves in my lap, but not known what to do except be incredibly uncomfortable with it because I just didn't have the confidence or social skill to properly respond.

It wasn't until I worked on myself and got both of those up that I was able to act on chances.

>>18132480

You know mouth herpes is a very contagious thing right? it's absolutely possible she may not be having a flare up when you swap saliva. But you'd still contract the virus.

One of my friends got mouth herpes from making out with a 9/10, 21 year old girl at a bar.

>>18132482
You have to be Chad yourself. But even then it's no guarantee.

>>18132484
you leave her alone because she probably has a boyfriend and that's why she wears headphones

>>18132487
The truth of the matter if that being cheated on doesn't depend on how alpha or mature you are, but on the girls ability to keep it in her pants

>>18132487

I don't have the chad personality. I'm too loyal to my friends.

I'm a "nice guy"..

>>18132494
Is that*

>>18132492
Eat shit.

>>18132498
Fuck you, faggot

>>18132500
No, fuck YOU, pal.

>>18132498
He's right though

>>18132445
A lot of it depends on the guy unfortunately. I've had 2 long term girlfriends and I've always been eager to hangout/talk to them even after living together for a long time. My best friend, who is similar to me in many ways, I feel really treats his gf's like shit. He barely talks to them and either ignores or mocks most of their interests. I've seen his gf literally kicking his pc while he's playing it to get him to respond. Don't get it.

Some of this about him might not change. Maybe if you play video games with him it could help. It sounds like that's a big interest for him.

>>18132496
>I don't have the chad personality. I'm too loyal to my friends.

Contrary to what the taiwanese moving image picture board lurkers who's basis of misogynist ideology is unironically tries to epitomize in a moment in a movie created by two trangendered females:

You don't have to be "Chad" to get with girls.

There is also a difference between being a guy that's nice, and a Nice Guy™

To be honest, calling yourself "too loyal" makes you sound like the latter rather than the former.

If you're truly someone who is just nice, that is not what defines you, it is simply another facet of your personality and it is something you do because it just suits you.

You do not disadvantage yourself to do it and never see it as such. Any time you do, you simply don't, because there is a difference between being nice and being a doormat.

Doormats are the ones who get walked over.

Be more confident in yourself and do things not because you want others to perceive you well, but because: fuck what everyone else thinks, you want to be the kind of person that can say they are proud of themselves.

>>18132522

>Be more confident in yourself and do things not because you want others to perceive you well, but because: fuck what everyone else thinks, you want to be the kind of person that can say they are proud of themselves.

Right. I'm doing that now. I'm getting /fit/ and I'm on a great career path. But that doesn't stop me from getting cucked by chad

>>18132466
It's because they are from broken homes who were raised by dysfunctional adults. Who were most likely from broken homes. These people are usually obsessed with sex.

>>18132542

I'm from a broken home. My parents went through a very rough divorce when I was 12 years old. The whole divorce process lasted until I was almost 17 years old. I have never had casual sex. I've only had 1 ONS and I felt really bad about myself from it and it killed my self esteem. So bad in fact that I haven't had sex in 5 years. I've had opportunities the past year, but I turned them down because I'm worried of more disappointment

Preferably Girls but Guys too,

I'm doing online dating and trying to decide if I should take a bit of a risk or not. I looked at a girl's page and she viewed mine immediately, so I sent her a message right away too, while we were both online. She didn't respond, and I though oh well, whatever. So the next day she looks at my page again and responds. Ok cool, I answer with another question. The next day she checks my page twice, now today once, but still no response. Right now we've got a 1 to 5 ratio on page views. She seems very undecided.

Do I continue to wait (which seems like the safe bet) or play it a little cheeky and call her out on the page views (little risky)? My bantz are maybe 6/10

>>18132539
>Right. I'm doing that now. I'm getting /fit/ and I'm on a great career path. But that doesn't stop me from getting cucked by chad

Then if you're trying to be a quality person, stop picking substandard people to be with.

That IS an option. People bitch about not being able to find that, but they themselves also tend to lack in many regards, and it's always hard to find people who match your values to begin with--that's the same for everyone.

>>18132556
>Do I continue to wait (which seems like the safe bet) or play it a little cheeky and call her out on the page views (little risky)?

In my experience this is 50/50, partially dependent on what's on your profile and how good your "bantz" is.

Personally, I wouldn't have given a fuck and would have done it to put them on the spot, purely because it suits my sense of humor. Sometimes I got a funny response, sometimes I got confused ones, sometimes I got ignored, didn't matter to me, I always did online dating for shits and giggles and just meet random people anyway.

That's probably the mentality that lead to meeting my girlfriend on there though for what it's worth.

>>18132572

>Then if you're trying to be a quality person, stop picking substandard people to be with

How am I suppose to do that? Young people where I live can only be found at bars and clubs..

>>18132572
Thanks mate, yeah I met my last gf online dating and we were together 3 yrs. I don't think she would have responded well to a double tap like that, but maybe this girl will. Seems like the online dating scene has changed a lot since then.

Thanks I'll probably try for cheeky

I apparently said something she approved of and this girl in our social circle jokingly loudly proclaimed her love for me and asked if i would marry her. I didn't know how to respond so i just mumbled something and looked away.
What ~should~ i have said?

>>18132552
You are the exception to the rule. I just really dislike sluts and man sluts mainly because they are the home wreckers and don't have any self respect or respect for other people. I'm not religious either I just think we shouldn't act on animalistic impulses and not be aware of the consequences it has on other people's lives.

>>18132599
You should have said yes. As it could have lead somewhere an opportunity is an opportunity.

>>18132580
>How am I suppose to do that? Young people where I live can only be found at bars and clubs..

You keep trying. You talk to people. You get to know people.

Same shit for everyone.

"Woe is me" doesn't get you anywhere when it comes to dating because pretty much everyone's in that same fucking boat (which I already said above in that same post)

P.S.

To all yall bitching about bars, there are DIFFERENT KINDS OF BARS

I know sure as shit that the bar that has "eSports" on its TVs, the "speak easy" bar, and the bar blaring loud as fuck pop/hiphop are all different kinds of bars that have different kinds of people at them.

That's why my favorite places have always been more chill and laid back breweries where everyone is friendly and more close-nit, and bars with pool tables so I can do something and hangout while having a drink--and like minded people tend to go to those.

>>18132599
>What ~should~ i have said?

It was a joke:

Either

1.) respond/refute with a joke: "Pshaw. You only want me for my accolades don't you?"
2.) Sarcastic accept and roll with it: "Sure. I'm free next Tuesday"
3.) Laugh and shake your head

Doesn't really matter in the end tough because, it was a joke. Don't stress.

>>18132605

Yeah I agree.

I felt serious guilt from the 1 ONS I did. It made me pretty depressed and prevented me from even talking to girls for several years. I've never had a relationship before, but I don't even know if I'll ever be able to experience that Tbh. I have clearly have intimacy and attachment issues. I'm scared of love and affection.

>>18132609

>That's why my favorite places have always been more chill and laid back breweries where everyone is friendly and more close-nit, and bars with pool tables so I can do something and hangout while having a drink--and like minded people tend to go to those.

I've been to several of those. When I've been, the number of guys vastly out numbers the girls. There is always a group of guys with a girl or 2 with them. I have never seen random girls just hanging out

When two girls or more girls are hanging out and I want the number of one girl how should I proceed? Should I ask for both their numbers and give equal attention or should I focus on the girl I am interested in?

I'm in a night class and I want to ask a girl out who when I have the chance to talk to, will be with another girl. Please help, this night class is in 6 hours from now.

>>18132620
You only ask for the number of the girl you're actually interested in, of course.

>>18132619
>I have never seen random girls just hanging out

I definitely have, they're just normally in groups (come to think of it my favorite bar/pool hall probably has like 7 to 3 male to female ratio)

You know why? Because guys tend to be desperate as fuck and get all over their shit, even when they get told no.

My girlfriends told me before she would LOVE to be able to go and hangout at bars solo like I do, except every time she does she feels like she needs to take a shower afterwards from all the sleezey guys that try to get all over her and occasionally she feels like she needs to peace out before it gets dark lest some shady shit happens to her (which... is not bullshitting since she is a victim).

You gotta understand, there will be a disparity, and it sucks, but it's there for a reason. So instead of bitching, adjust and be cognizant.

>>18132608
>You should have said yes.
That WAS my spontaneous reaction.
>As it could have lead somewhere
And this was the reason i didn't. She's nice and all, but i'd really rather not be shipped with this girl.

>>18132609
I would like to have responded to the joke in some amusing way and not left her hanging, but my mind was drawing blanks.

>>18132634

That makes no sense.

If girls don't like when they get swarmed with guys at the bars (which obviously happens) why would she be any more open for another guy (me) coming into the mix? She's already going to be guarded as hell, so why would she even give me a chance? Compared to the 3 chads that right there

My long time friend and boyfriend left me recently. We left on good terms and have kept in contact since - even hung out once but just as friends. He claims it's because he's really stressed with personal things, like work, and doesn't have time for a gf. He also made some comments that indicate very low self-esteem

I hope we can date again someday when he's done with his problems. How do you wager I should go about this? I plan on keeping in touch, but giving him more space to breathe. I also want to be encouraging and positive. Any other ideas? It's hard for me to understand because I wouldn't act like this were I in his shoes, but I want to respect him nonetheless.

>>18132641
>If girls don't like when they get swarmed with guys at the bars (which obviously happens) why would she be any more open for another guy (me) coming into the mix?

If you're trying to compete with chads by using chad tactics to get in their pants, while not being a chad.

You are going to lose.

How about: You don't be a faux-chad trying to compete with chads. Instead you be yourself do your own thing, and if you get along, great, if not fuck off and go about your own business.

90% of the time you will probably fail.

But this is ALWAYS TRUE IN DATING.

This extremely attractive 18 year old girl from work always instantly replies to my snapchats despite getting like 100 a day even when I take hours to respond. She often times snaps me from the shower (is she wanting me to ask for nudes)? She also looked at my schedule to see when we were working together and asked if I was still working that day... I never told her I was working that day. We also went out for lunch once but it wasn't a date.

Is it pretty safe to assume she's into me? I'm inept with women, but pretty good looking from constant lifting and grooming myself like a fucking girl practically. I'm funny and can make people laugh. I'm a virgin at 25 though. I'm inept with women. Help. I don't want to be a virgin at 26.

>>18132658

Believe me, I don't act like Chad.

>Instead you be yourself do your own thing

I do this. But girls always friendzone me FOR chad. One time, I met this really great girl. We hit things off well. I had to leave for a job related trip that lasted several weeks. So I asked her if she'd like to date when I got back. She said yes. We kept good communication while I was good, talked and Skype. Everything SEEMED great. But right before I came back, i asked her if she could see us having an actual relationship... "oh hey anon.. well I just started seeing this guy 2 weeks ago. I think I like him, but I'm not sure yet. I'm sorry anon, I hope you're not disappointed!!"

>>18132676
You have to be more aggressive.

>>18132685

But that's not "me"

>>18132651
Dating low self esteem people is a drag, I think you should find someone else.

>>18132687
There is no "you" faggot, do what you have to do to get what you want, be a man.

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>>18132636
>shipped

What are you talking about? You are in control it's not some overwatch or anime bull shit where you stay as a couple forevermore. This is real life you honky tonk motherfucker.

>>18132689

The fuck. You literally just said "be yourself" >>18132658

I asked her id she'd like to date when I returned. She said yes. How more obvious do I have to make it known I like her?

That was a rare time when a girl has said yes. Most of the time they go for chad from the start

>>18132695
I'm a different guy.

>>18132695
Dude, you have to ACT like you mean it, not just say it. Plus, no girl will keep promises of dating to a guy she barely knows.

>>18132651
>when he's done with his problems

No one is ever 'done' with their problems. You can't just magic away human problems. You should if you love him and want to be with him that you are there for him and he can talk to you about anything. If you really care about him you wouldn't wait for him to be 'done' with his problems. Jesus Christ the some of the people on this board are not that emotionally intelligent.

>>18132695
>The fuck. You literally just said "be yourself"

That wasn't me. But if you remember, somewhere along this chain I also said:

"Don't be a floormat"

Being passive and letting shit walk by you is called being a floormat

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>>18132665
Don't let your dreams be dreams!

JUST DO IT!

What kinds of hobbies and skills commonly make a guy attractive to women?

>>18132693
I'm talking about the thing where everyone else in the social circle, and especially the girls, go all
>ohmygawd you two are so adorable, you should totally be together!
and it becomes a whole in-joke.

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>>18132714
Press ups. It lets her know that you are capable of going up and down on her until you hit the tickly bit.

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>>18132721
What age are you? If you decide a relationship is over then it's over. It doesn't matter if people ship you or whatever the fuck you are on about. Holy shit stop being so retarded.

>>18132714
Grill here, I just look for guys with a few hobbies in common with me. It's nice to have something to talk bout and activities we can do together.

>>18132688
Thanks for the reply. Fair enough, but at the very least he's still my friend, and I should help him get his self-esteem back. I used to have awful self-esteem, so I remember how much I appreciate having good friends and encouragement.

>>18132726
I don't want a relationship with this girl in the first place, more than just being friendly.

>>18132736
He did you a favor in breaking up really, life will kick him in the face a few times before he learns to be more assured in himself.

>>18132736

>Grill here, I just look for guys with a few hobbies in common with me. It's nice to have something to talk bout and activities we can do together

That feel when girls with common hobbies to me are rare. CUTE girls with common hobbies as me are extremely rare

>>18132712
Don't let you dreams be dreams!
CRUSH THEM!

(sorry. i had too.)

Girl I used to wanna marry just kik'd me.

Long story short, I thought it was a good idea, but she had guys on Badoo hitting on her and she seemed receptive to it. So I said fuck that n stopped talking to her. She kik'd me once, I responded nicely. Months go by, she's kiking again... probably just lonely.

Should I or should I not respond? I have a certain degree of respect for her, but I feel keeping her around will hurt, more than help me.

>>18132757
Cut it off. Don't be a beta.

>>18132265
It depends on the girl. Some are more cautious about going out alone with a guy, some just don't have time to throw away on a date with a guy that's not going to work out at all. At the end of the day all you can do is play it by ear.

The least work I ever put into getting a date was a hostess that left her number on the table without me ever saying anything directly to her other than "table for two". After maybe 40 texts and 2 short phone calls she agreed to dinner. We went out twice and then never saw each other again.

>>18132744
Fine! Then don't lead her on a merry chase! You silly boy.

>>18132758
I have essentially. I mean she's a good person and all, 25-26 years old, virgin, Christian. Mostly very nice. But yeah, not worth the headache.

I also have a seriously strong crush on a girl currently, but she lives way far away, same as the girl on kik. But the girl I'm crushing on I ACTUALLY have a deep attraction for, the girl from kik I just respected a lot.

But yeah, I gotta cut it. There's a reason for everything..

>>18132768
I didn't.

>>18132757
Tell her to send a picture of her wind tunnel (stretched out pussy). How many years has it been? She must have taken a thousand dicks in the time you haven't seen her.

>>18132751
What are your Hobbys? Maybe you look at the wrong places

>>18132751
And single cute girls with common hobbies are even rarer still.

>>18132620
You only ask for the number of the girl you're interested in. And while your mind might say that you'd rather ask her when she's alone, your odds of getting the number ate higher when she's with friends. If she says no just roll with it and give them an "well it was worth a shot". This portrays confidence you may not really have, but you fake it till you make it, because confidence is sexy.

>>18132714
Anything you're passionate about will go over well unless it's REALLY out there. Other than that just look for women who share one or two of the hobbies you already have.

>>18132774
Find women irl.

>>18132806
Let me tell you about my lvl 42 Paladin!

>>18132806
>unless it's REALLY out there
Too bad everything I'm interested in is autistic (ex: video games, furries, technology, japan, etc.)

>>18132817
As long as you can present in a way that isn't autistic, and depending on the girl, that could work, although it does lean on that line of "too out there" for some girls.

>>18132817
Come on. The level cap doesn't go nearly that high. Unless you're playing homebrew.

>>18132832
Video games aren't always autistic. Tech and Japan could also be great conversations, it's about presentation, not content.

>>18132751
>>18132793
>>18132817
This goes for both genders... it's rare for most people to find single members of the opposite sex, who like them back, are also attractive, who also have niche hobbies in common, who are also nice, who aren't manipulative etc. Turns out life's a bith, but it really does help me keep my head up that everyone else is suffering from this too. The ony people for whom this isn't a problem are those who aren't selective (only want a good looking person, or will take anything that's single etc)

>>18132787

I fly airplanes, sometimes I go shoot guns at the range. And I like traveling internationally several times a year.

>>18132834
Any serious fa/tg/uy who's been playing for a while plays a homebrew.

>>18132847
>And I like traveling internationally several times a year.
This is instant panty moisturiser right there.

>>18132872
If you're playing homebrew, why would you bother playing paladin?

>>18132883
Because you're not a munchkin.

>>18132844
I only want a good looking person. I think this is a problem.

>>18132847
Ever tried some meetups in your City? Lot of travellers and people who are new in the City use them to meet new people

>>18132877

It's really not. Because I'm an American. It's very expensive to travel to Europe. so the odds of a girl being able to actually travel with me is slim. I go twice a year internationally. I'd says it's safe to say that most Americans have only been International once in their lifetime.

>>18132933

>meetups

What is this? I've never heard of it

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Girls

Can you help me with relationship problems ?because I'm clueless as to what I have to do

Okay so I finally managed to get myself a girlfriend and we have been dating for a short while. She's very shy so I usually make all the decisions like where should we go for a date. Also our conversations consist of mostly me talking and her just listening as she doesn't tend to speak much.

What I struggle with is speaking. I see her almost everyday and I'm new to this dating, so it's exhausting to try and figure out new ways to be flirty and how to start deeper conversations

Can you help me?

>>18132941
I would say "don't force it". If you can't think of things to say, then don't say anything. If the two of your can't bear silence together, then maybe that should be a red flag that you're not comfortable together.

Asking questions is also a great way to get someone talking.

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A girl asked me out. I agreed since I am always open up to hanging out, but I don't really like her. What do I do? Am I a bad person for doing this?

Why would a girl that's engaged go out to bars with a guy that likes her, but she doesn't like him back?

>>18132992
She is an attention whore.

>>18132992

Maybe she doesn't have much other opportunities to go out and break the monotony of daily life.

>>18132992
I'm not the guy that likes her, I'm just a casual observer from the sidelines but that just strikes me as odd that she hangs out with dudes she knows likes her while she's engaged and mentions it to me. She also recently texted me and asked to come see me at the bar I work at but was completely silent when I sent her a text telling her when a good time to show up would be.

I have a sociable job and meet literally hundreds of people a day. Inevitably I get hit on a lot by guys because I'm a half decent looking female. Should I tell my boyfriend? On the one hand I feel like it's manipulative to let him know that there's a line up of guys trying to get to me. On the other hand I feel like it's misleading not to tell him, and it might make him proud to think that I have many options and still undoubtedly choose him.

I should approach women i am not attracted to for practice but i have the problem of not wanting to give them false hope because i dont want to be an asshole, would you guys/ladies do it if you were me?

>>18133004
I realize I'm probably just being tagged along here, but she's ALSO given me hints that she's still interested in me. The last time we hung out in person she came onto me hard, asked me to cuddle with her in my bed and asked if I had a gf (we hadn't seen each other in years) but I declined her offer.

I'm probably gonna just walk away but I really do like this girl and I've known her for a long time. She tends to do shit like this when she's distressed so idk.

How do I make a move on a girl once I go back to hers. Girl I like let me sleep at hers last week and I ended up pussying out and not doing anything. She said I could stay over again tomorrow so I need some advice in how one gets the ball rolling.

>>18133007

If anybody ever approaches me in this way, I generally just try and brush it off, or if it gets too severe, find a natural way to mention my boyfriend and that's the end of it. If it's a funny story or I feel it's relevant (for example, if it's somebody I might end up working with a lot) I might tell him, but most of the time I react so awkwardly that it's unlikely to be a problem again.

So yeah, either ignore their advances from the get go, or make it obvious you have a boyfriend. It's a bit of a non-issue, unless you feel you're doing something wrong. You can't really help that you're attractive.

Do you work in a bar or a coffee shop by any chance?

ladies im really into this punk rock chick and i think shes into.me but the signals are hard to read am i wastong my time? should i move on? and start talking tobotger girls

>>18133008
Well, do you think girls feel bad about giving guys false hope?

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I feel like I have this weird superpower for making women uncomfortable. Even just walking down the street I swear I see women giving me uncomfortable glances out of the corner of my eye. I've never had a female friend and every (genuinely purely platonic) attempt to talk to my friends' female friends has resulted in them getting weirded out. I know I'm not being paranoid there because I've received comments in the past, both to my face or indirectly, that I come off as "intense" or "angry." This upsets me because I generally consider myself to be a laid-back, chill person. My guess is that I reek of desperation and every girl avoids it like the plague.

basically my question is how do I get rid of this

>>18132057
Watch an episode of hoarders together and tell her she will end up like that

>>18132225
Its st patricks day every ones going to be drinking anti anxiety juice

>>18132257
If you see her at a grocery store or somewere alone its ok to strike up a convo but most women dont want to talk to guys when their smelly and sweaty. Plus who wants to have to look good and prep up before going to the gym to look good for someone

>>18132938
Ceck out www.meetup.com maybe you find something you're interested in

>>18132941
Let your cock do the talking

>>18133062
Yes.

>>18133114
If they truly had no clue they were doing it yes.

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I posted this in the last thread but it was at it's bump limit and I didnt have many responses, I'd just like more opinions from men.

A couple days ago I was with my guy friend and we were sitting close kinda watching movies together.
There was a second where we messed around a bit just a play fight and 99% sure I felt a full erection on my lower arm.
I always thought he didn't have sexual feelings for me.

QUESTION: Do men easily get erections from the touch of girls they don't even find attractive? Or does he have actual sexual feelings for me?

For context we are in our late 20s and have been friends for years.

>>18133178
Yes and yes.

>>18133062
Actually yeah it's a shitty feeling. Been there when I was younger and clueless about how to subtly discourage someone.

>>18133178
>Do men easily get erections from the touch of girls they don't even find attractive?

Yes.

Fuck, you can sometimes get an erection from other fucking dudes even if you're straight as an arrow (I.E. wrestling).

It's a mechanical response on some level. Something's messing with your junk? Odds of it rising goes up.

>>18132813
If she's willing to move in with me, that's also real life.

>>18133178
>Do men easily get erections from the touch of girls they don't even find attractive?
YES! Unless you're a complete uggo.

Men are not like women, in that we need the mind games and the mental attraction, to get aroused.

Girls,
I know a girl that's in a ldr and apparently it hasn't been going too well. I'm interested in her, but I respect her boundaries and dont try to make any moves since I know she's already in a relationship, however, contact with him has apparently been very slim lately and she's been messaging me often, coming to me with problems like guys that confess to her and feeling lonely since she lost contact with some friends recently. She has explicitly expressed feelings of disgust on the subject of cheating, so i ask you:

what the fuck? is she into me or am i so deep in the friendzone that im on girl-friend level?

>>18133346

Sounds like she's using you as an emotional tampon, rather than any actual interest. If she was interested, she'd be interested in you, now she's just interested in spilling her problems on you.

>>18133346
Women never tell their bf problems to a guy they see as a potential romantic interest, sorry man but you will be friendzoned.

Met this girl, we've been on/off texting.
Question is: Is 'too much texting' a thing? Like is it bad if I text this girl every day?

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Is this true?

>>18133178
i sometimes get an erection when talking to a girl thats not even very attractive...

yes im a virgin

As sad as it sounds to ask, when you put an 'x' on the end of a mesas, what are you trying to insinuate?

>>18133447
Sometimes.

>>18133476
Multiplication

>>18132057
Flips out and starts talking trash?

She wears the pants and has lost respect for you because you. At this point shes useing you for something... Dump her ass right after a good fuck. After a blowjob would be better.

How do I be a douchebag?
Being nice to people obviously doesn't count for anything, so what should I be doing?

>>18133530
>multiplication
>at the end
multiplication is an infix operator

>>18133609
Well they could be writing in postfix notation

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>>18133652

ok relationship experts, i'd appreciate it if you let me know what you think

there's a girl in one of my classes, we're in the same year and major. i've known her since last summer, and we've gone out (i've taken her out) three times.

but the last time was over winter break, and i've asked her out a couple times since then- she doesn't give a yes or no, she just says she doesn't know what her schedule is like. that's fair, i get it- between school and my job i'm busy too.

but it's starting to feel like she's not into me at all and just doesn't know how to say she's not interested. most recently she said she'd let me know if we're going out tonight, but she hasn't texted me today. i'm not used to waiting around for someone to text me, i always text first and everything, i don't mind that. but when you act enthusiastic about plans, and then say i'll let you know, and then don't call or text, how am i supposed to take that? am i messing up but not checking in again, over and over, like it feels like i have other times?

obviously it doesn't seem great, but we get along really well and i'm into her. at this point i definitely could use some outside perspective.

How do I ask a girl to let me shit on them then peg me?

I keep gettin called a creep

Both genders:

I'm thinking about writing a letter to my ex gf, who I haven't talked to in 7 months, to say sorry for the horrible ways I acted after she broke up with me and the shitty things I said.

She was very civil, she had her reasons, which I agreed with but then I got angry a week later and basically made her feel like shit until she told me never to speak to her again. So I didn't.

I have a lot of guilt over it. I know it had to end but I made it so much worse than it could have been and I think my guilt is stopping me from moving forward. I spoke to a close female friend recently who assured me that people are quite forgiving and I should just do it, but it seems like the overwhelming advice from men over this is that it's an awful idea. I'm tied. I just want to not feel so fucking bad about it.

>>18132271
I have a second date this evening with a girl from my gym. I just asked for her number. Didn't make friends first or anything. It's a thing that works sometimes I suppose. Saying you can meet girls everywhere is kind of an overstatement though. Me and this girl are both regulars or it wouldn't have happened.

>>18133701
if you're going to do it, a letter is probably the way to go. seems like she wouldn't really owe you a response or even an indication that she saw it, so it might not actually help you move on. it's tough when you hurt someone, because your guilt over it doesn't (and shouldn't) matter to them

Is photography a sexy hobby?

>>18132281
I do this but not always every day and I don't really consider it a problem. Masturbation is more fun if you do it slow.

>>18133736
nah

>>18132454
Bless your beautiful soul anon.

>>18133736
Girls love photography.
Dudes, not so much.

>>18132454
>If I had sex with her, what would I gain from that?
You would gain sex.

>>18133689
This is actually a legit question.
How DO you go about fulfilling those extreme fetishes?

>>18133701
Male here, if you really feel writing the letter will bring you closure then do it but if even a small part of you hopes that just maybe you will get together again dont, you have to really look inside yourself here because if you do it for reason number 2 you are going to pull alot of misery in your life, if it's number 1 remember the good times you had and start dating new girls and move on with your life.

Women, would you date a loner?

>>18132676
You choose to let yourself be friendzoned. If you don't want to be her friend then walk away.

The best relationship I ever had developed from a friendship where neither of us had/expected anything romantic, just saying.

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Girl out of my league super-liked me on Tinder.
What should I say to hold on to her interest?

>>18133840
tell her you love being called 'daddy' during sex, girls love calling guys daddy and they have this delusion that guys are into it too

>>18133850
I'm really into it.

>>18133854
right, exactly, all you have to do is pretend to be into it

>>18133070
You are paranoid and it's all self fulfilling prophecy. Calm the fuck down.

>>18133857
Once I called my boyfriend daddy and it weirded him out.

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So I asked a girl out who was in my psychology class last year, she seemed very interested and gave me her number. However, when I tried to schedule a date she said her athletic program took up most of her time. So i told her to call me when she was free. She never did. This semester i don't have a class with her, but I see her in the hall and she always gives me this big goofy smile.

Spring break is happening at our college and I'm wondering if it would be weird to call her and ask her out again. I get the impression she is still interested, but I don't know if it would be weird just texting her out of the blue and asking her to coffee or lunch.

Would it be weird after not talking for quite a while to ask a girl out after so long?

>>18133871
nope. Give her a call

Should I just kiss a good female friend? What's the worst that could happen?

>>18133895
Rape charges.

>>18133857
No, I'm REALLY into it.

>>18133895
she files rape charges and tells all her friends (and yours) you are a rapist

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>>18133874
Thank you for the reply, just wondering are you a man or a woman?

Women

When walking past a guy in the street, do you always move your hair or look the other way?
I notice this happening in my peripheral vision since I have social anxiety and always look straight ahead no matter what. A normal person would probably make eye contact and smile.

>>18133895 #
The worst thing? Depends how interested she is in u. If she doesnt like u that way then rip friendship.

>>18133871
What's a good opener? I'm thinking of just saying "hey, I can't get your smile out of my head, why don't we go out for some coffee and discuss it?"

I keep missing opportunities with girls because i'm too hung up on the lest one. By the time i get over the last girl the new one has already moved on, and the cycle continues.

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Guys -

I'm going to write my first sext (written sex, right?). If I say things like I am/want to play with his balls, circle my finger here that's what happens, right?

Girls

Do you get annoyed with dudes who pussyfoot around their obvious affections for you?

I've been so close to asking this classmate for a date but my anxiety overrides my confidence and I just end up making lame jokes to cover my obvious intentions.

Also how long does it take for a girl to drop hints that she's already involved?

>>18133996
I don't even know what you're asking, but here's a tip for all the inexperienced girls. When playing with balls, pretend they're tiny sensitive tits.

I'm seeing my gf's parents for the 2nd time ever tomorrow night. i still feel pretty nervous about meeting them, is this normal? they seem to like me and the first time I met them (which was a fair while ago now) everything went well

>>18133996
You really need to rephrase that question. I can't understand what the hell you're trying to ask.

>>18134011
>>18134035
What are sexting phrases? Can I sext "I want to play with your balls" ?

>>18134040
just be blunt and say what you want to do, us guys don't need it written in some suave style like 50 shades

>>18134042
This. A girl saying something sexual will get him hard 99/100 times.

>>18134042
>>18134047
Heh. I just don't want to sound corny. I'm sexually experienced but have never sexted. I feel funny saying that I want to run my tongue around the head of his penis ... do I say dick? cock? glans?

>>18134054
just say whatever, you're over thinking it. times I've sexted with a girl her just saying she wants to suck my cock is enough to get me hard

>>18134057
lol okay, I tend to overthink for sure. I just want it to be a pleasant thing for him to read, not cringey.

>>18134061
Just don't be too formal. Glans? Don't say that.

>>18134065
I'll make sure I tuck my biology book away. Thank you for your help.

So I met a girl from a department at a company social last week, we seemed to hit it off, my dept friends were all like "anon needs to date this girl, she was really into him!" didn't get her number when she had to leave but I wasn't concerned as I could still chat with her on our floor during work and there was another social the week after that I could ask her out if it went well again/be sure she was into me.

So the second social rolls around, and from work and such she still seemed like she had potential, but there she was stuck with her co-worker/friend the whole time, and even though I continued to flirt/chat with them the friend never left and in fact seemed to almost be more enthusiastic with flirting with me, she also didn't play wing-woman and go chat with my co-workers that was in the little friend circle we made.

And then the kicker was that while I was chatting with a friend of mine and sitting beside my "crush" she was talking to her said friend and wasn't quiet enough to completely be drowned out by the music and my own talk, and she was talking about what she was doing after, and it was "I have that birthday dinner at 7, and I'm looking to get laid tonight so I think I'll text (not my name) and just say "do we not talk anymore" because I feel like we might not even though I stayed at his place tuesday night" etc.

Now my best guess (and I do well/am pretty socially/dating competent most of the time) is that maybe she's looking to add me to her fuck count but isn't like INTO me? I mean one of my co-workers is also a very sexually liberal woman but if she was talking to me in that situation it'd be "oh I wanna get laid and want Mike so bad but if he doesn't ask me out at this social I'm going to call up Chad" etc etc

>>18134033
bump

>>18134082
Totally normal. You'll do great Anon.

>>18134076
Maybe that's just me but the girl sound like a slut.

>>18134089

she does but I'm not against fucking one if she at least is careful about STDs and pregnancies, but the way she talked and didn't mention me at all I don't think I'm wrong to assume if I made a move it's going to fail

Guys, I get super nervous when I'm around a guy I like. I'm shy in general but I start babbling nonsense and laughing awkwardly a lot. Am I killing my chances?

>>18134122
Depends on how bad it is. And how good he is at picking up signs.

>>18134122
Yes, you have be more comfortable in your own skin.

>>18134122

I'd say no, as long as it couldn't be interpreted as you definitely not interested in him (which you should be able to tell that) then you're fine. The only way you're "blowing it" is if he's not attracted to you in the first place.

I'm attractive and whatnot, but for some reason I can't translate that into a gf. I also have no desire for meaningless sex, nor do I have the heart to be dishonest. What do?

>>18134122
If the guy already likes, he'll think it's cute. If you're not sure, try to keep your mouth shut until you feel comfortable speaking

>>18134122
I like shy girls. I think it's cute.

I don't think there's a guy who will pass a chance with a girl who clearly acting attracted to him. Unless he's retardedly insensitive or you act thirsty as fuck.

>>18134160
Because you clearly have no personality, since you think that getting a gf just means you have to look good.
Looks get you in the door (or casual fucks) but who you are as a person makes them stay. Thats just logic.

>>18134160

I'm a guy buuut this thread seems dead/too late at night so I'll just try to help out by giving an answer:

I think the issue is that, assuming a person is "normal" aka not extremely religious or anything, pretty much getting a gf in 2017 is hooking up with somebody and if each person likes each other more they'll make it more than just a ONS, then if they continue to like each other they'll hang out at times that doesn't include fucking etc etc until they're a couple.

>>18134178
>you clearly have no personality
But I do. I'm definitely not the most talkative person ever, but it's not like I have nothing to say

Help. I can't get rid of a crush. My hands are literally shaking as I stand in front of her. It becomes fucking unhealthy. Distractions, hobbies, whatever -- I think about her all the time. I may also deep down into a pool of booze. Just to ease.

Any tips?

>>18134205

make a move. obsession isnt going to help you. itll only fester. make a move and you'll either:

a) get rejected and get over it
b) start dating her

it's win-win...

its important to remember that a "crush" is just a picture you have of someone in your head... its not really them. if they turn you down they never existed in the first place. nothing to mourn

>>18134205
Stop meeting and play video games

>>18134186
Then get more talkative. You probably arent approaching enough.

Why do girls expect me to know exactly how they want to be fucked while they just lay there doing and telling me nothing?

>>18134205
Just go be awkward about it. I mean, it's a lot less awkward if you force the awkwardness. Kinda like how it hurts less if you are the one stabbing you.
>H-h-hi, What's your name?

>>18134243
Develop a more trusting relationship. Bond, do things together or talk intimately more. If you're trying to get her to open up, you have to gain her trust.

>>18134243

bruh, why do you care how she wants to be fucked? do you care about how your TV wants to be watched? the fucking is for you. if you have a good time, she should be happy about it.

>>18134250
Maybe, it's the second girl in a row this happens and they all are unable to tell me anything. I should stop dating the 'shy' type of girl I guess.

>>18134263
That's kinda a turn-off for me, I love to see the girls moaning in pleasure, cumming and so on.

>>18134270

buy yourself a gimp suit and tell her to have at it... jfc dude

>>18134275
kek, not sure how that would help.

>>18134270
It might not be the type of girl you like, so I wouldn't go about changing what you like. You could also be "intimidating" to them.
How quick does sex happen in these relationships?
Is it more of a check the block activity or does it "magically" happen?

>>18134270
How quick do you bail after fucking them?
Because I honestly am a shy type, especially sexually since I'm kinda repressed with it, so the first couple times I'm with a new person, I'm just too shy to talk about it. I warm up though.

I'm probably not a normal case though since I still have some shit to work through, and the reason I can never seem to open up the first couple times is because I'm always still fighting back the weird guilt I feel from enjoying sex.

>>18134283

do you like, not understand how sex works? sex is about feeling good. either you do what makes you feel good or the other person does what makes them feel good and you help... if your gf is just going to lay there and take it, at least have fun w/her. she should enjoy the experienced of being fucked exactly the way you want to fuck her and if she doesnt, find a girl who will.

or if your think is being a sub, buy a gimp suit and let girls fuck you with a strapon or w/e... just pick a side, man

>>18134284
>You could also be "intimidating" to them.
That could be true, which is why bonding better could work.

>How quick does sex happen in these relationships?
Fairly quick, but not sorely of my volition though. She was enthusiastic at first but I can see it's not really working for her or she's not fully relaxed or maybe distracted? I don't know.


>>18134291
Bail? Those were 2 ltr relationships, current girl is only my third partner.

>>18134298
Ah gotcha. Just wondering.
Have you tried like, talking about how you find this annoying outside of the bedroom?

My current fuck buddy had to kind of wrestle it out of me, but he did just finally sit down with me before anything started and made me spill what I'm into. That was hard on me, but good for me.

>>18134298
Your second bullet.
NIGGA, THAT'S MY ISSUE!
Lemme assume you're me about two years ago. Which is wrong, but hear me out.
>Get in relationship
>Don't communicate
>Sex
Why did this happen? Because I didn't make my intentions (a relationship, not fun) known, all she thought I wanted was sex. My advice is based solely on the concept of "look for the plank in your own eye before getting the dust out of your brother's":
YOU need to open up a bit more. She is probably not getting clear signals from you, so she is throwing sex at you to get something. The sex didn't give her that answer, hence the apprehension. Most extreme solution, deliberately stop the sex and verbalize, as in sit her ass down and say what you are looking for. If she (looking to the future if your current relationship fails) initiates sex "too soon"(quotes because that's your value judgment), just say so and take her actions as a hint she doesn't know what you want.

>>18134302
What did he do to make you confess, exactly?

>>18134317
Just talked to me and refused to progress or do anything until I told him.
And since I'm a dirty fucking used up whore and wanted it badly enough I told him.

Girls, have you ever left your number for a waiter/host whatever at a restaurant?

Or even came back specifically to talk to a guy there you were interested in?

>>18134315
I see, most of the time I go for sex to pleasure my gf and not really thinking about me (like most men I don't need much to get off), maybe she has the same intentions and there's a conflict there? Anyway, I'm gonna sit down with her tomorrow.

>>18134331
Those are harsh words, what do you like?

>>18134338
Honestly don't really know because I havent tried much.
Shit, haven't even had vaginal sex yet. I say fuck buddy, but it's just oral. All casual though.

But I'm strongly into being dominated and strong, confident, cocky dudes.

Again though, I'm fucked up sexually and feel guilty about being a sexual being in any sense.

>>18134351
>>18134338
2bh though I think what caused him to force me to talk to him about what I like and shit was because he tried to finger me and it fucking hurt like hell. But I was too shy to say anything until he jammed me just wrong enough to make me jump and yelp a little.
Because after that he was like "Wait was this hurting the whole time?" and thats when everything stopped and conversation began.

So, I kind of get it. Don't think most dudes appreciate when chicks are dead silent about you actually hurting them. Keeping quiet about what you like is one thing, but I can understand keeping quiet about what is hurting you might be another.

>>18134351
Maybe I'm too naive in my sexual fantasies, I'm very vanilla and just being close to a girl and gentle sex is enough for me. I could try to bring my inner dom out I guess.

>>18134368
Well I mean, thats just what I like. Everyones different. Your chick might hate being dominated for all I know.

>>18134374
My first gf certainly did hate it, I guess her preferences have been hard pressed in my mind.

Girls

Apparently I've heard that movies are a bad idea for a date choice because there's little to no interaction for the duration of the date. What are your thoughts?

>>18134389
Depends on the girl.
I think movie dates are perfect for me, an introvert.
Conversation is hard for me to keep up ad lib at first. Movies work well because I have a definite topic to talk about after, that can work into other topics organically.

Plus, any faggot that says there's little interaction isn't doing it right. Put your fucking arm around that chick and get on that damn cuddle train.

>>18133823
>>18133728
Thanks.

>but if even a small part of you hopes that just maybe you will get together again dont

Yeah, you got me. I think I understand. I could never write it the way I want to without severing that chance completely. And as utterly remote a chance as it is, I'd rather have it than not.

Girls
How much would you hate it if when your man hugged you, he squeezed you with all of his might?

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Filled out a shitty Okcupid profile. i got tired of filling this shit out so I put this.

Femanons yay or nay?

>>18134263
> if you have a good time, she should be happy about it

Yeah, that's not how it works. The girl would just get turned off by how selfish the guy is.