How does it feel to cheat on someone you love? What made you

>>17869538
bumpity bump pls respond

>>17869538
>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
At the time, great, but only as great as it usually feels to get with someone when single. I guess some cheaters get a kick out of it but for me it's more of a self control issue. Regardless, afterwards, shitty

>What made you do it?
Like I said, self control. A girl comes up to me in a club, I'm fucked up, I think fuck it why not, etc., I regret it later

>How did you cope with being found out?
Funny story, she cheated on me with my friend, and he told me. I confronted her about it and she cried and apologised etc., then I felt bad that she was the only one feeling guilty so I confessed to her that I'd done the same. So we both cried and apologised and now we're over it.

>Did you do it again?
I've done it multiple times, but not since owning up to her about it

>>17869538
found out? What kind of idiot gets found out?

noobs

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?

Awful.

>What made you do it?

Money.

>How did you cope with being found out?

He still doesn't know.

>Did you do it again?

I do it anywhere from several times a week to several times per day ;_;

>>17869670
You're an escort and hiding it from your bf? Disgusting desu

>>17869670
How much money are you making?
Is there a reason you need money badly?
If not and it makes you feel awful, why don't you just stop?

>>17869686

Escort? No. But we're living solely off of my income, we couldn't quite come up with rent, and my boss heavily implied that I'd get a raise if I blew him.

I got the raise, but my job description more or less changed from "import/export clerk" to "slutty secretary".

>>17869696
This might sound very Hollywood, but how about something like get a voice recorder, then tell him you won't blow him anymore. Then if he responds with "well you're fired", or something, make a copy of the tape first, then let him know it's getting sent to the authorities/his boss if he fires you. Heck you could probably extort him for more money if you did that, but that's an optional objective

>>17869670
that is just awful in every way

>>17869716

>blackmail
>violate two party consent
>buy expensive super secret spy gear to use one time

A tad outlandish.

>>17869720
>voice recorder
>expensive super spy gear

I literally could do this on my phone, wat

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>>17869696

Interesting. Where do you work? How much do you make? Do you ever refuse a client? How many men do you see in a day?

Yeah, but I did give her fair warning before I stared banging other chicks. She insisted on playing games with sex, so I felt obliged. Anyways, is it cheating if they know, or should reasonably know?

It felt kinda righteous, since I was cheating on her because she wouldn't put out. She never found out. I'm tempted to do it again, but now that we're married she's kinda warmed up a bit. Plus the threat of alimony is keeping me from straying. That's about it. I don't understand why people have such glass egos about what their partner does with their junk.

I felt fine with it because he cheated first

>>17869538
It feels really really good when you're doing it, and then it feels really really bad when you've finished.
It's addictive, even more so if you love the person you're cheating on, as strange as that might sound.
It's not worth it, though. It never is.

>>17869696
You're disgusting. I hope your boyfriend finds out and kills both you and your boss in secret. Then he lives on to live a happy relationship with his dream girl.

>>17871594
>>>/r9k/

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>>17869538
>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
Absolutely fucking horrible, I have become so paranoid and disgusted with myself

>What made you do it?
We were sharing a bed and my girl was asleep and her friend was hugging me, just started playing with each others feet rubbing against each other.
Ended up making out with tongue, rubbing her off through her clothes and she gave me a handjob.

>How did you cope with being found out?
Haven't but we both agreed no one says a thing cos it's not a good idea.

>Did you do it again?
No it was recent and I don't plan on doing it again without the gf being involved.
I assume you ask because you plan on it, just don't ruin things by doing it.

>>17869538
>how does it feel?
Fun. Its pretty exciting when you do something wrong. Risks excite me and I always end up having the best orgasms when I cheat.
>why
Because my SO refuses to perform my favorite sexual acts. So I find others who will. But since I only want sex, its not worth throwing the relationship away.
>found out
Current partner hasn't found out. I even tell stories of my infidelity and laugh them off as a joke saying it never happened. Its really entertaining knowing I'm confessing but they have no idea.
>would do again?
I do it at minimum twice a year, so fuck yes. Any time I get the chance I will.

>>17872445
kys

>>17872445
I hope you realize how contradictory your post is: first you throw any emotional connection out in the water because of a lack of sexual satisfaction, implying sex is a such a big deal to the point of breaking any sense loyalty with your SO; and then you proceed to say that 'its not worth throwing the relationship away', which is what you do regularly anyway, no one can love a person, and truly care about him and fuck around like this, it only shows a lack of any deep connection and empathy. I must assume you are together with this person only because of some benefits you draw from him/her or her, and you don't give a shit about how he/she feels.

>>17869538
it boils down to this: its just not worth the effort. guilt, remorse, etc etc are irrelevant. for me, its just too much work, too little reward. anymore, if i even get the thought that id want to fuck someone other than my partner, i just break up with them and go back to the whole bachelor thing for a while

>>17872516
That's a pretty good assessment of my mentality. But I'm not with my girlfriend for any underlying reason. I only got into a relationship with her because I wanted a girl on the side of my previous relationship. So I kinda hop from woman to woman and cheat on them and then when we break up, repeat the process with the mistress. So yeah I'm pretty selfish. I mean a relationship for me is just for easy access to sex whenever I want, even if its not my personal favorite kink. The guarantee of some form of pleasure is the "reason" I stay more or less.

>>17872559

You should seek mental help

>>17872573
Plan to once I get done with med school.

>>17872311
Wtf, your girlfriend was in the bed at the time? Why don't you break up with her then?

In the moment, you don't even think about it. It's just good sex.

After the fact, when you're holding him crying, and you know he's going to break up with you within the next week, it's horrible.

>>17872311
You need to make the 3way happen man

>>17869655
>So we both cried
absolutely pathetic. you both should have dumped eachother

>>17872625
How do you not think about your partner when you're engaged in an act you'd only do with your partner?
>Just good sex

Jesus, lady.
Don't step on a man's heart like that.

Anyone who cheats deserves to feel horrible.
Whether they do or not is a whole other barrel of fish, but they fucking should.

Fucking hell

>>17869670

>;_;

You don't feel in the least bit sorry if you don't even consider cleaning up your act.

I can only hope you're one of the few cases that do this.
Have some goddamn self-respect, for fuck's sake.

You're throwing the sincerity of your relationship away over fucking cash.

Sounds to me you don't think blowing your boss is that big of a deal,
since you actually go through with it "several times a day."

Pray to God you find a man who will love you for who you are.

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>>17872609
A party was winding down and I go to my room and her and her best friend are trying to sleep, the GF was sick so she was out cold, the stuff happened in the morning so it was super risky considering she is easily woke.

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>>17872659
My nigga you know I'm all about that life.

Messaged her friend this morning and we are on the same page that it shouldn't of happened and all that but she joked about (next time). So I am hopeful about it, although the Girlfriend will take some convincing.

I am actually much more attracted to her friend, Life is a fucking mess, I mean Strange.

>>17872854
kek

>>17872625
You're a piece of shit.

All of you are.

but to be fair... I'm the only person in the world that has never cheated apparently. It's not like I haven't been tempted or had incredibly beautiful women begging me.

I just don't see the point.

I'm pretty fucking gay I guess. What, with needing some kind of emotional feelings for them.

Weird, right?

I also know that the kind of person that is able to get between two partners isn't a person I want in my life.

>>17869670

hey from a guy who has had relationships with pornstars, call girls, and worse... just because for some dumb reason I am irresistible innocent handsome and cute to them...

I know a lot about the world. I'm not fooled. I don't care. You turn me on, you tell me you like me, we have fun together. I'm pretty, I'm strong, I'm smart, I'm cute.

But I don't have any more reason to be proud and self righteous than the worst whore on earth. So I'm not. I take care of myself. I never cheated.

Everyone wants a better life. but not everyone has one who chooses to smile and be alive. I will never judge because I have been treated worse by better people, and treated better by those who are forced to be garbage in order to survive.

(I don't know who you are but maybe its worth seeing a guy say it outright at least once. hope you feel better.)

>>17874216

I've never cheated, but I am not in a ltr or looking for one. I am open when it comes to saying what I want in a relationship with someone.

sometimes all it is a sext and a dick pic, sometimes it lasts seven freaking months and we only make out a few times but have all the other kinds of chemestry. In all cases no one is left too bitter, and no one is cuffed either we aren't fuckin married yet.

but I am alone and lonely as shit deprived of most physical contact because society does not work that way.

I also date and pay for dates and sex when I am borderline gonna kms right now if I don't get with a woman to remind me why life is worth living.

>>17873095
Your poor fucking girlfriend. Not only is her boyfriend a piece of shit, her friend is even worse. Having to lose a partner and a friend at once? Goddamn that's rough. I legitimately almost cried reading this.
Break up with your gf, how can you even imagine having sex with both of them after you cheated on her with the friend?! End it, before you destroy your gf emotionally for life, because she will find out one day.

>>17874375
kek You're taking what written here too seriously honey
This thread is basically fantasy writing practice for lonely people

>>17869538
>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
It's fine, but she had cheated first so I guess we both lost respect for the relationship

What made you do it?
Horny.

How did you cope with being found out?
I never was, I'm not retarded.

Did you do it again?
I did it twice and never again. I'm actually faithful unless some shit happens.

>>17874616
>I'm actually faithful
God the delusion of some people.

>>17874626
If they cheat first its not being unfaithful dipshit.

>>17872854
Why? The trash should be the the trash. It saves the honest ones from dating them.

>>17869538

>What made you do it?

I need good sex. I love my fiance but he's vanilla, has a bad technique and his dick is really thin. I don't really care much about length but when he fucks me I basically feel nothing but as a person he has a heart of gold and I love him

>How did you cope with being found out?

I never did. We're still together.

>Did you do it again?

I do it once a week with the same guy. Have been for the past year, no plans to stop.

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
During? Indifferent. It's just another state of normalcy. You normalize the behavior to yourself and it just becomes transparent to you, just another part of life.

After? Fucking terrible. Because you either realize how much you really do love your partner and how hard you're willing to fight to keep them, or how much you've hurt your partner and completely shattered their trust and ability to believe or have faith in your actions, and that's the most crushing kind of empathy there is.

That or you were already done with the relationship so you check out and bail.

>What made you do it?
Something was missing from the relationship. The physical and intimate chemistry was there, we fucked like rabbits, but she didn't have a whole lot of substance going on upstairs and was emotionally volatile. That drove me to tinder, where I met someone who was both physically attractive and fulfilled my desires for intellectual stimulation.

>How did you cope with being found out?
Not great, because when you're found out you realize how much you love the person you're with, and that the grass really isn't greener on the other side. And you see first hand how much pain you've caused someone you love so much. It's awful.

>Did you do it again?
Kind of... the emotional and intellectual aspects of the affair carried on as a 'friendship' for a year after we were found out, with her blessing. But after 8 or so months we inevitably caught the feels for one another again and it all blew up again.

To her credit, she stayed with me, and our relationship blossomed into something amazing, but we're going through a tough patch again because of this earlier incident, and I don't know if we're going to make it, even though it happened 2 years ago. I'm just regretful that I've hurt the one I love again, and scared that we won't be able to heal.

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>>17874736
>>17874722
>>17874616
>>17872311
>>17872445
>>17871570
>>17869670
>>17869655

>the fuckin drama people create for themselves
im just amazed every new day

>>17874722
So he's just your beta provider? Fuck this.

>>17874761

We both have jobs and share expenses. I love him.

>>17874868
Doesn't seem like it, for me he is just a nice guy you like to keep around because you want to look respectable, while not being either attracted to him or getting sexually satisfied. It is not about money.

>>17874872
>>17874863
I hate phoneposting.

>>17869720
the consent issue varies from state to state, some places just require one party to be aware of the recording. also I'm pretty sure it could still be used as evidence even if it was against the law to record it, since OP isn't a cop. i might just watch too much tv though.

>>17869538
I hate myself. My boyfriend is still with me but it has damaged this relationship and I am in constant fear that he will leave me. My guilt makes me want to kill myself to think of what I've put him through.

Before it happened my boyfriend and I grew distant, he pulled right away and I was clinging on so hard. He asked for a break and in my experiance breaks are just a cowards way out of a break up.
I took up talking to someone else. It wasn't meant to be taken as far as it was, was honestly just looking for a friend because I dont have irl friends that I discuss my relationship problems with. The person I talked to went through something similar, he was pretty damaged.
Boyfriend came back 2 days later, I continued to talk to the new person. We would skype.
New person got feelings for me, it was nice having a friend but we took it too far and one night I had shown him myself in a bar.
Once I realised how terrible I was for doing that to my boyfriend I told the new person that I couldnt talk to him anymore. He didnt take it well. This was all over 12 days.

My boyfriend had my skype password and had read everything between us. There was some sexual stuff, more like asking questions back and forth. I don't remember it being dirty talking type stuff but my memory isnt the best.
My boyfriend read everything, that guy had taken screenshots of when I was in my bra and sent them to me so my boyfriend saw it too. My boyfriend had asked continuously over about 8 days who the name of this person was, because I had apparently said it in my sleep. I lied and said I didnt know who he was talking about.

>>17874903
It was because he read everything. I broke his heart. He isnt the same person he was before this happened and before we went on the break.
I really think this will be something that I will eventually kill myself over becuase I think of how my boyfriend felt reading that and imagining me in his position makes me so disgusting in myself that I can't look in the mirror.

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
I do not know if I can live with myself. It's been 6 months and I have ruined this man I love so much. And I do love him, I'm just a terrible person who doesn't care for anyone besides myself.

>What made you do it?
I don't know how to answer this. Attention is most likely for me. My boyfriend withdrew so I found someone to talk to. It wasn't meant to go as far as it did.

>How did you cope with being found out?
I retreated away socially. I have no friends left. Only my boyfriend and I'm throwing everything I can into being the best person I can for him. I don't think it's enough. I wont blame him when he leaves me.

>Did you do it again?
No. I will never destroy someone like I have already. I cannot express how vile I see myself now.

>>17872445
Murder victim in waiting right there. Soon as he finds out about one, he'll connect the dots. Don't care how chill or laid back he is, no one is going to take that level of humiliation lying down.

I'd chance the electric chair and murder you outright in his position. Not even a benefit of the doubt or conversation first. If I had proof and you'd joked about it before, I'd load my gun and pursue you with the single minded determination of an angry bloodhound.

>>17874872

I don't care what some stranger on the internet wants to say. You assume my emotions and act like you know how I feel for a fact. Fuck off

>>17874927

You're such a retard. No where in the post is gender mentioned. In a later post it is shown to be a guy talking about his girlfriend. Fuck off back to >>>/r9k/ you fucking neckbeard.

>>17869716
Fuckin genius m8

>>17871769
Killin people who harm you isn't r9k tier you weeb faggot

>>17874933
I pretty sure that casually having an affair on the side because your bf isn't the perfect sex toy for you to get off of isn't love.

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>>17874384
No my post is legitimate, but I think he is going overboard.

>>17874375
Obviously I'm fucking trash, don't you think I haven't been paranoid ever since, you think I like that the one thing I was proud of myself for (being a loyal/loving boyfriend) is completely fucked.
I haven't actually even imagined it, I can't even look her friend in the face. (I only see her friend once every few weeks anyway) If she finds out then that's the way it was destined to be.

The most disappointing thing about it was how I didn't even think when I was kissing her I just went for it.

>tfw you realize you've changed into something you hate most

>>17874903
>>17874908
I hope my ex feels this way.

I was truly shook when I was reading the online messages she was sending to guys online.

Including exchanging pics, and dirty talk, using the same pet names she used to call me.

I'm still shook from it, and it was years ago.

We finally broke up a few months ago, and it was the most gut wrenching, heart felt thing I've ever gone through.

I know she made a mistake, she knows she made a mistake, and unfortunately I got tossed around and broken in the middle of it all. :/ I barely looked her in the eyes after it happened.

One night, when she was sleeping, I took the time to study her face, something I realized I hadn't done in over a year or two, that's when I knew I had to break up with her. This wasn't going to last. I couldn't keep doing this.

When we tried to have sex, I couldn't even keep a hard on, it was a pump and dump, she got nothing out of it because I had nothing to give anymore. She completely ruined our relationship, 60 WPM at a time.

I'd like to say, years down the road, we could give it another shot, but I truly don't know. I just need a lot of alone time to work on myself.

>>17874863

You claim that you love him. What if he has known what you've been doing this whole time but hasn't said anything because he's ashamed of himself and his inability to satisfy? What if simultaneously this has been killing him inside, but he hasn't shown it?

You don't love him. If you do love him, you love yourself more. When you love somebody, you consider how your actions would affect them; when you love somebody, you don't betray their trust.

I pray to God for justice. You have willfully hurt and deceived somebody who loves you and to whom you've made a commitment. Whatever comes to you is your own doing if you continue on this path and with this mentality.

>>17875463
>if you continue on this path

Nigga, like the damage isn't already done?

He'll find out eventually, and whether it stopped after the first time, or the 100th time, it hurts the same.

It feels shitty but after a year it doesn't feel like anything at all, and knowing that they're still together and happy makes it sort of worth it. Maybe I wasn't the right person for him and he wasn't the right person for me. It shouldn't have gone down the way it did but it did for a reason, and that's all there is to it.

>>17869670
you are a bad human being.

>>17875441
>(I only see her friend once every few weeks anyway)

You shouldn't see her ever again

>>17875575
The worst part is that you loved them, I think. The worst part is just knowing that the relationship you created was not the one for them. I don't know. I was truly in love with the man and I'm a little bit more empty and I'm a little bit more worn out. I don't know how it works. I just know that it will be okay eventually.

>>17875575
Oh, snap out of it, you fucking martyr.

I'm not saying you should have cut his dick off or anything, because, you know, the whole jail thing, but Christ.

I hope you at least got in a few good "FUCK YOU, I HOPE YOU DIE"s before you developed your current attitude of annoyingly selfless forgiveness.

>assumed she was cheating on me (she was)
>start cheating on her
>feels good, 'cause I'm bitter as fuck.
>immediately feel guilty afterwards
>have to dig in deeper to confirm she was really cheating on me
>confirmed
>call her, and break up on the spot
>can't help but blurt out I cheated on her too
>dumb bitch
>be extremely bitter
>so fucking bitter
>rage at her a few more times via facebook message
>we end up setting up a FWB thing for awhile so I could hate fuck her
>somehow get dragged back in by that pussy, and we're going steady again
>have constant doubts and fears about our relationship, and her cheating on me again
>life sucks, go into a deep depression, but I've boxed out most of my friends at this point and pretty much only see her
>eventually cheat on her again
>immediate guilt comes back to haunt me
>I dig deep into her social media again, and find out she is indeed cheating on me again
>fucking rage quit relationship
>fucking pissed the fuck off
>fucking hate life
>fucking kill me
>drinking myself stupid
>having one night stands
>fucking anything that moves and wants me because I feel so shitty
>eventually in my drunk, fucking, crying stupor I break down and call her
>confessing my love again, and how if I could just forgive her we could truly start again, and everything would be perfect, and yadda yadda this that the other
>we get back together
>I already feel like a beta cuck shit that regrets the decision
>she means well this time around, never slipped up once except one little irrelevant white lie I caught her in, that really didn't amount to anything worthwhile other than just being a stupid lie for no reason
>some strange incident involving her doing a petty theft, never got details out of that one, would've been completely under the radar if my friend wasn't a bystander that witnessed the ordeal
>anyway
>be riding relationship out, not really in it, like i'm there, but i'm just a depressed shell of a man
>eventually break up with her

Feels badman

>>17875633
Lol, you seem to have no emotional stability whatsoever. How old are you?

>>17875677
Relationship started as soon as I turned 21, and ended right before I turned 24.

How's it feel
> like garbage. In disgusted and ashamed of myself.
What made you do it
> torn between ex and my other ex who's my boyfriend again. They both have very good pros but I'm also worried
How did you cope?
>They don't know.
Did you do it again
I think about it even though I know I shouldn't. I feel I deserve anything bad that happens to me.

If you cheat on somebody then you have the lack of morality equal in severity of a rapist or child molester or serial killer. You can choose to become a better person but at the time of your cheating you are the scum of the earth.

>>17875633
lmao i love coming here for this stuff
what stupid, stupid people exist on this site.

>>17875441
>No my post is legitimate
lol I don't doubt similar such event happened, perhaps to you or someone you know, but people here always have to exaggerate them into some kind of porn fantasy as a proof of their loneliness. There's no need to try to convince me though...

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
At the time brilliant, i felt like i had one up'd my girlfriend and i felt good about myself being able to pull still.
>What made you do it?
i was cheated on in my past relationship and in a very sad pathetic way this has caused me to become a bit of a whore.
>How did you cope with being found out?
she still doesnt know about me doing it, but after i done it i felt awful and in a way ashamed. but as time went on i stop caring and see it as she deserves it for being a cunt.
>Did you do it again?
met a polish girl as a music festival, my girlfriend was being an extra cunt that day so i felt obliged to get my own back on her.

>>17869538

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
It sucks big time.

What made you do it?
She was fucking hot. And i gave myself excuses about how it wasnt cheating on my wife.

How did you cope with being found out?
She never found out.

Did you do it again?
No. But 10 years later I find out that my wife was having an affair...yes, iknow, Karma! Broke my heart. Bitter divorce ensued. Things are cool now.

>>17874759
What drama?

Sometimes people cheat. Its no big deal just break up and be done with it

>>17872559
you are my hero

>>17875578
Unavoidable as she's her best friend
And my seeing her is always with my gf
I'm not further facilitating the betrayal if that's what you thought

I legitimately can't comprehend the appeal of cheating. I love my boyfriend so much and the idea just completely puts me off.

>>17878288
The appeal is the other persons face in front of yours and the sweat you both experience, at least for me it was akin to lust.

Though I get the impression for her it wasn't just that, she has always staired straight through me when she looks at me.

Maybe she intended for it to happen like that and is feigning guilt

Kill yourselves

>>17869670
did someone pay you to cheat?
is that financially feasibly job?

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>>17874736
>That drove me to tinder
>and fulfilled my desires for intellectual stimulation.

i have never cheated on someone i love but i was fucking a married women a few years ago. she was into the new age and would justify it though that by saying we where twin flames or we're giving energy to mother earth. yes, it was crazy but so was the sex and that made it worth.

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I'm seriously contemplating cheating on my wife.
Not because I don't love her or we don't have enough sex or the sex isn't good enough, but because I want to have some experience while my dick is still working.

I'm 32 now and I've only fucked two women.

she's fucked loads of guys before we met and this really made me think I missed out on something. Never had these feelings with my previous GF, whom I stayed with for 8 years (she wasn't a virgin before we dated, either).

I feel terrible for having this thought, but knowing how dozens of dudes ploughed my wife makes me want to go out there and fuck as many women as possible. I feel like a cuck and inadequate as a man if I don't go fuck other women. I feel like life's cheated on me. Everyone around me is having an easy time finding someone to have sex with, something I have struggled with my entire life. I want a piece of the promiscuity cake too.

>>17878647
most people only have a handful of sexual partners. one night stands are shitty. guys that have had a lot of sexual partners literally spend most of their time trying to get into women or they are models or rich.

>>17878654
>24 with over 20 women knotched on my belt
>over a year of played time on my WoW main
>play video games with the crew every single evening
>work 9-5 every day
>overweight with bad teeth

Explain

>>17878663
>>24 with over 20 women knotched on my belt

they one night stands or sexual partners though? by sexual partner i mean a gf or fuck buddy, not a girl you have fucked once. its not hard to get one night stands if you're willing to aproach girl at a bar/club.

>>17878647
Here I thought people grew out of that retarded grass is greener mindset by that age.

Hook ups aren't enjoyable. You're not going to find any meaning or discover anything else about yourself just by screwing some random chicks with no substance behind it. But if you're willing to fuck up your marriage to satisfy some dumb curiosity, then by all means I guess. You'll probably do it anyway down the line.

>>17878676
I'd say about a 50/50 split.

Most the one night stands were Tinder, most the FWB/relationships were girls I met out and about.

>>17878683
maybe i wrong. could be because you have a personality girls really like and you dont fuck up when the opportunity strikes. from my experience, often guys get opportunities with girls but mess it up, i know i have quite a few times.

>>17875762
Fuck off to tumblr with your stupid histrionic shitwreck

>Cheat on a woman
She's mad for a week, but gets over it

>Cheat on a man
He's broken for life.

>>17874954
Didn't you get the memo? /Adv/ is only frequented by reddit teir newfags now. Being negative towards women is an instant >>>/r9k/ trigger

>>17878758
>>Cheat on a woman
>She's mad for a week, but gets over it
>>Cheat on a man
>He's broken for life.

naturally, men are meant to have lots of partners so they can carry on their blood line, while women are only meant to have one. women are naturally meant to just get fucked and have kids

>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?

only did it once and it was amazing. for the reasons i'll explain next.

>What made you do it?

so back in high school i fell in love with a girl who was my friend since grade school. i don't know what changed or triggered me falling in love with her, but it suddenly happened in 11th grade. just, one day, i looked at her and the thought that "i want to be with her for the rest of my life" popped in my head and from there the way to being crazy in love was short.
i was a fat beta with no confidence, so i didn't confess and hid my love to the best of my ability due to fear of ruining the friendship. we graduated, and since it's mandatory here, we both joined the army.
now, i guess most of you don't know what it's like, but besides being complete shit service also ruins relationships because you just DON'T have the time to talk or meet. and so, over the course of the years the connection was severed (admittedly, i probably subconsciously wanted to sever it because of how hard it was for me to be still in love but so far away. i know, i'm a self concentrated piece of shit).
cont. in next part

>>17878793

over time, my feeling got buried and while i had friends and "brothers in arms", i wanted a relationship. and after some time, i met a girl. really cute, smart etc. etc.
the tough training, life risking and being horny as hell kicked most of the beta out of me (and i was also /fit/ like a fucking captain america now so that's good) and i made a move. it was very innocent but apparently she found it charming and we got together. In the first vacation i got (about 3 months later) we went to a cabin somewhere and fucked liked crazy(my 1st to 3rd times in one night. nice).
fast forward: we are together for 9 years now. live together, very much in love and thinking about marriage.
at some weekend my parents want to go to a wedding far away, so they ask me to come home for the weekend to take care of the dog. my gf couldn't come because of work, so i go back home alone(too bad, wanted to have sex on my childhood bed).
friday evening i go on a walk, and as you can probably guess, i see her. my old love.
i followed her from distance, thinking about what to say, by this point, we didn't talk for couple of years and this was after several years of barely able to keep in contact.
couldn't think of anything so i just thought "fuck it". i walked quickly until i passed her and just turned to her and said with a giant smile on my face: "oh, hi *her name* i thought it was you".
this was followed by her opening her eyes widely, and then her face changed to angry which was followed by her punching me, possibly with all her strength in the chest. needless to say, it was very painful for her. bones and muscle are hard.
she immediately clutched her hand and "fell" to the ground from the pain. she shouted couple of swears at me. that was the point i realized what a piece of shit i am.
i'm sorry i told her, i should have worked harder to stay in contact. it's just-. i didn't know what to say next.
cont. next post

>>17878838
she got up with giant tears. punched my again, this time not as hard with her other hand.
let me guess, it was too painful because you were in love and i was too far away!
"i-", that caught me by surprise.
she continued, how did you think i felt?! i was in love with you for years before you...- how could you be so smart and mature in your head but a fucking child in every other aspect?! i knew immediately when you felt the same for me! i knew! but you didn't do anything! and when we parted you still didn't say anything! and you just- just-

i guess it was because of shame, but i got really angry, "hey! if you felt like this why didn't you say anything?! and especially when you knew how i felt! you knew i was a fat shy kid! there was no way i'd have the courage to tell you how i felt! why didn't you say anything?! huh?!"
she didn't say anything.
i noticed she was still holding her hand she punched me hard with.
i asked if she lived nearby, we should put ice on it.
and well. we got to her home, i took ice from the fridge and the moment i touched her hand...
movie like bullshit.
fireworks inside my head, my heart nearly burst out of my chest and so on.
she was pretty much the same because we "jumped" on each other. it started with a kiss that felt like it was going for hours and after we stopped to take air she asked me if i wanted to "go on". i answered "yes. very".
this followed by quite a bit of sex which i can't even describe physically. it was just, amazing. it felt right. i felt like our souls touched. it was an experience i don't believe i will ever have again.

cont.

>>17878875
the we fell asleep hugging. and the surge of emotion i felt when i realized this could only be described as "bliss".

i just looked at her until she woke up. i'm still angry at you, she said. i just smiled.

after showering and eating breakfast we went to the living room and talked. she asked me what i was doing these days.
i answered that i work a lot and learning programming when i can. i told her that i have a girlfriend i'm thinking of marring.
she told me she is also working hard. studying architecture.
she asked what i thought about what happened. will i tell my gf.
i told her i felt whole. i started tearing up. i told her that i never stopped loving her. not really. i just buried my feeling to "make room" but i wanted to talk to her again i wanted to tell her how i feel so many times over the years and just... couldn't. i was too afraid.
she sat there smiling for a while. i thought she was building anger. but after a bit she said that this is more or less what she expected would happen if we meet again, no matter when it would happen. she did thought she would punch my face.
we laughed. and after that talked about irrelevant shit for a while and somehow, we got to the point we were standing near the door.
we just smiled at each other. hugged very tightly. and i just went back to my parents house. later that day i talked to my gf about... something. and after that got to my usual life but now with a feeling of... "wholeness". i felt i was ready for life.

>How did you cope with being found out?

i wasn't and will never tell my, now, wife, what happened.
i will mention she did notice i changed around that time and i felt like she was suspecting something but i covered it up by proposing her.

>Did you do it again?

no. there was no need and i don't want or feel like doing it.
now i believe that if i ever feel like i want to cheat i'd tell my wife and work with her to "solve" those feelings.

Since it sounds like 99% of the world cheat, what's even the point of relationships?
Why not just start greeting everyone with oral and make public sex accepted and common? I mean really there's no fucking point to being with someone the way things are going

>>17878990
It may seem that way, but you're not getting an accurate sample of relationships her on 4chan.

>>17878990

>ask people about the times they cheated
>act surprised that you get answers from people who cheated

Wew

>>17869538
Not really understanding how women who cheat are somehow worse than men who cheat, unless the people responding in that way are insecure men.

Shocking.

>>17878918
You are a piece of dogshit and I hope you end up with a stillborn child you murderer. Hope your wife finds out and slicee your penis off.

>>17869538
Felt good. Did it out of revenge. Really loved her so it destroyed me when she cheated. I thought I could get over it, but after a while I realised I never would so I started drinking and fucking young sluts. Destroyed her just like she destroyed me. She found out eventually and we broke up, but kept fucking for years after. She even went through a les stage until I fucked her and her new gf on the same night then told her about it. And even after that she couldn't stop herself from fucking me. My dick ain't even above average size, so I dunno what kept her around.

>>17869720
And this is why you're a whore

>>17878918
That was fanfic levels of cringe. What faggy romance novel did you get it from?

>>17870921
>I'm tempted to do it again
You may as well since she's probably cheating on you too.

>>17875762
You're retarded.

>>17875459
I was in your same position not 8 months ago. I know you've been dealing with it longer than I have, but it does start to get better. You aren't alone anon.

>>17869538
>How does it feel to cheat on someone you love?
In the moment, good. Afterwards, you tend to feel good or bad related to how that one person is treating you. You will lend into "yeah, s/he did that so it is okay" if you think that person did something bad to you, and otherwise if that person is super nice like >>17869655 when she confessed.

>What made you do it?
In my case, I'm not a hunter guy. You know, going out, fucking anon females. But I always had a very special female friend who with I'm very close. We didn't cheat our pairs a lot, but sometimes, it just come up. Not always sex, but if finish up in that kind of behavior which you know it isn't right.

>How did you cope with being found out?
She never knew.

>Did you do it again?
As I told you, it sometimes came up by itself. So, maybe. Is not something I actively search for.

>>17874312
If it serves to you, the the few times I "cheated" it didn't feel that way because I have some kind of very special of confidentiality with this very old friend of mine. Is more a risky thing to do with her more like lieing to my partner. Although I didn't do it with every partner I had, it just feels "not bad because I do with her".

I'm previous post anon.

>>17872580
how the FUCK did someone like you get into medical school?